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clusterrune · 11 months

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Narc Supply

a list of things that could be a narc supply! things pw npd find give them a narc high.

explaining a narc supply - masterpost - compliment generator

Personalized Praise

compliments that are personal to the person theyre directed towards

compliments that include facts or interests

compliments that are more than just the generic "i like (your appearance)"

praises about a persons skillset, created content, something they put even the slightest effort into

praises for help of any kind

complimenting something theyre good at and/or passionate about

praises for being knowledgeable about a topic

these can be very different depending on the person, some like the usual "good job im proud of you" and some prefer very high title praises like "youre a god/royal!"

Attachment / Emotional Feedback

some gain a high when they get certain reactions out of people

hate asks, love confessions

when someone has some sort of feelings towards them it helps them feel wanted and/or at the center of someones focus/attention

some prefer positive over negative feedback, some see negative feedback like hate mail as a sign they've reached popularity of some sort, some are neutral.

some narcs find people gaining an attachment to them as a supply

Break The Record

some narcs see reaching a goal as a supply

this can be reaching a new high score on a came

beating their own records

or beating other people's scores

getting ahead in a competition, even if it wasnt a competition to begin with, beating that goal they set can give them a high

Comforted

some might look for comfort media

listening to music or watching something they find comfort in

art or fanart they find comforting

comfort characters

all can help recover from a crash in a soothing way.

Perceive Me

people telling them how theyre perceived as an individual

especially if its in detail and can contain praise

knowing how one is perceived either by strangers or those theyre close with, can be someones supply

a narc supply can be anything, ranging from anonymous hate to being told someone's proud of you, to being given a little affection and even something akin to being worshiped or feared and it can be more than one of these at a time.

feel free to share any resources, tips or anything that works for you that i have not yet listed!

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valcaira · 1 year

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Every person with NPD deserves respect, comfort and accommodation. Yes, even "malignant narcissists". Yes, even those who are abusive. NPD stems from childhood trauma and even *those* narcissists you don't like deserve their trauma to be recognized and talked about. Narcissists with ASPD deserve to be loved and comforted. Narcissists with HPD deserve to be loved and comforted. Narcissists with BPD deserve to be loved and comforted. Narcissist with multiple cluster disorders deserve to be loved and comforted. Narcissists who are not self-aware about their narcissism deserve to be loved and comforted. You deserve kindness.

I hear you. I see you. Your trauma and pain are valid and your brain developed a way to deal with that. All I wanted is to be loved. You cannot call yourself a "mental health advocate" and not advocate for people with stigmatized disorders such as NPD. You cannot call yourself a mental health advocate and in the same breath demonize those with "evil disorders". You cannot call yourself a mental health advocate if you only support a specific set of cluster disorders. You cannot call yourself a mental health advocate if you actully believe in "narcissistic abuse" and armchair diagnose your abuser.

Narcissists are not inherently evil. We are hurt people, carrying old scars, pain and trauma just like everybody else. We deserve kindness.

To the narcissist reading this: I love you. You deserve every bit of comfort and kindness in the world. I see you and I appreciate you.

#npd #cluster b #cluster b positivity #npd positivity #actually narcissistic #mental health #narcissism #narcissistic abuse #narc abuse #actually npd #actually cluster b #mental illness #npd recovery #npd awareness

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jackolemon · 2 years

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not everything i say will necessarily be a super unique and insightful and inspiring gem of wisdom but actually that’s ok. i don’t need to hate myself for sometimes being annoying or repetitive or less-than-perfectly articulate. i’m a person, i don’t have to be constantly amazing

#jack talks #npd #npd recovery #made a comment on reddit -> realized it didn't necessarily add much -> started to feel rly bad -> remembered it's not a big deal :)#that's progress baybee

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warpaint-sys · 2 years

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Having NPD and writing characters who have NPD and show different sides of it is very fun and helps me understand my disorder more by breaking it down into easier to see categories, if that makes sense.

I have one OC who went undiagnosed and uneducated for a while, and was very much struggling and not in any form of recovery until the end of the story. This character is meant to have the experiences shown in exaggerated ways and to the extremes, so I could vent out what it felt like.

I can project the more difficult parts onto him, I project my highs and my lack of empathy onto him. I project my own unhealthy and even my past/old abusive tendencies onto him, he gets my old habits of manipulation and withholding affection to get what I wanted, because while I was awfully unhealthy I felt like I required the praise and attention of whoever was in my life in order to get by. That OC gets the constant highs and untreated self focus, and the awful crashes that had always followed the highs. The highs that lasted weeks, quickly followed by crashes that lasted just as long or at least until I forced myself into another high to escape feeling bad.

That character gets everything that was unhealthy about me amplified and turned up by ten, so I can vent it all out and show how it felt to me.

That OC also gets my violent intrusive thoughts, he is my projection gremlin basically. That OC got to kill his father like I used to get intrusive thoughts about, he's hit people and even hit his own partners before just like I got very unwanted thoughts about.

This character is my personal vent OC and I love him, its a way to get all of my feelings and my thoughts out. And my therapist said it's a very good way for him to understand whats going on in my brain, what I'm feeling and what I'm thinking or what I used to think about and feel. It's a good coping tool.

Taking my old bad habits and making them overly exaggerated and giving it to this character has helped me heal more than anything else, I think.

And I show myself now, in recovery and doing so much better, through the other character I made. Though I did make that character a little farther into recovery than me, and definitely not having as many set-backs as me, so that character is more of a goal and slight projection than anything.

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Note: I'm diagnosed.

{Note: I'm diagnosed}

#diagnosed npd #diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder #npd #npd traits #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissim #npd coping #npd recovery #coping #recovery

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moonlit-positivity · 5 months

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Here is my controversial mental health take of the day: your negative emotions are not the problem, its the way you handle them that becomes the problem. You being jealous that your friend hung out with someone else and didn't tell you, is actually not the problem. It's when you choose to get angry with them, yell & lash out, or passive aggressively do something they hate to get revenge, or when you ignore them and isolate and self harm, those are all harmful ways to cope with your feelings. Rather than react, take the time to validate yourself, because it's normal to feel jealous or left out and chances are that there are deeper abandonment wounds that are triggered here, probably from your childhood. Take a moment to pause before you react. Then try a direct and open communication to your friend instead. Because I guarantee you they'll respond so much better to you opening up a conversation with, "hey, I felt left out when you hung out with so-and-so without me, can we talk about that? And maybe hang out soon?" Rather than the now laborious and torturous emotional work of having to feel guilty for your rage when you lash out or get revenge. Splitting is normal, because who doesn't get pissed off at someone you're close with? Your switching emotions from highly affectionate to devaluation are not the problem. Everyone gets disgusted & hurt by someone they love at some point in our lives, especially small offenses, I guarantee you chances are that person isn't doing it on purpose and would gladly like to know how you feel, these emotions and conversations are normal and necessary for humans to have. But the inability to clearly and directly communicate your feelings and needs to that person when you are hurt is what makes it toxic. You can absolutely learn how to handle your reactions in a safer manner, how to identify when you're feeling hurt, and how to communicate and ask for clarity and resolution rather than react and escalate. Communication is the backbone of every relationship you will ever have. This is what the emotional work of most personality disorders looks like.

#recovery #trauma #boundaries #mental health #bpd #healing #borderline personality disorder #splitting #emotions #emotional work #shadow work #cluster b #cluster b pds #npd #toxic traits #toxicity #communication #relationships

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love-me-love-my-weirdness · 4 months

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Shout out to the people who never had a safe place. Who didn’t have a before trauma. Who were loved but not protected. Who were collateral damage in someone else’s breakdown. Who got fucked up so young that they’ll never know who they could have been.

Shout out to people who’ve never felt safe. I hope you do someday.

#npd #cluster b #did #actually dissociative #trauma #trauma recovery #cptsd #complex ptsd #ptsd #actually traumagenic #actually traumatized #actually narcissistic #child abuse #abuse

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a-sip-of-milo · 7 months

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Abuse isn't only physical. Sometimes it is...

Shouting at them until they cry/retaliate.

Humiliating them in front of friends and family.

Refusing to let them see friends and family.

Isolating them from what's outside.

Refusing to let them have control over their own finances / keeping it all for yourself.

Belittling their looks, their personality, their thoughts, etc.

Bullying them in any way.

Purposely pushing boundaries.

Threatening them, either physically, verbally or emotionally.

Controlling what and when they eat.

Locking them in rooms so they can't escape.

Refusing to let them use the toilet/eat/sleep/etc. after or before a certain time.

Gaslighting them into questioning their own reality.

Lying to or manipulating the people around them so they look like the abuser.

Purposely breaking their belongings, especially in front of them.

Ignoring safewords/"stop"/anything that indicates they're not okay with what's happening (in general, not just in the bedroom)

Giving them zero privacy. That means going through their diaries, tracking them, attending their therapy/doctors appointments when they don't want you to.

Setting them up to fail for the sole purpose of getting to punish them.

Obvious favoritism of one child over another/the others.

All of these are things that I have personally been through. They contributed heavily to my eating disorder, my BPD, my anxiety and my depression.

#cluster b safe #cluster b #bpd #borderline #borderline personality disorder #actually bpd #actually borderline #npd safe #aspd safe #hpd safe #tw.abuse #bpd safe #emotional abuse #childhood trauma #ptsd #actually ptsd #ptsd recovery

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 4 months

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Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.

You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.

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livingzomboy · 3 months

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some of yall forgot, so im gonna remind you:

- Moral Purity is unattainable. This is recognized in philosophy too.

-Moral purity culture today is HEAVILY ableist

- Immoral actions can be justified

- Your personality disorder doesnt make you a "bad person" even if it makes you do "bad" things

- Moral Purists are NOT welcome in real leftist spaces

-Moral Purity is pushed even more in christianity, which should tell you all you need to know.

- You deserve love , even if moral purists label you a "bad person"

- You deserve love. Period. Full Stop.

#schizotypal #schizospec #cluster b #moral purity #morality #npd safe #aspd safe #avpd safe #personality disorder #mental health #healing #trauma disorders #truama recovery

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epick-cluster-b-blog · 5 months

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so i’ve been thinking again, and i wanna make an important reminder for my fellow cluster b folks and trauma survivors.

healing involves evaluating your current behaviors, how they may be harmful to yourself and others, and then replacing those behaviors with more constructive coping skills.

in order to do that, it’s important to approach the healing process without judgment. especially when you have a cluster b disorder or any personality disorder, it can be hard not to judge yourself as a bad person because of your maladaptive behaviors. you may see yourself as selfish, for example, because of possessive or dismissive actions.

but remember that being selfish is a survival instinct—your body and mind wants to look out for itself first, that’s totally normal. even though the results of that desire may be harmful, it’s best to acknowledge and accept that those maladaptive behaviors are a trauma response, and there is no reason to judge yourself for that.

self-love can feel nigh impossible for cluster b’s but it’s so important to our healing to at least try! i love yall and i believe in you!

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clusterrune · 5 months

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npd centered/safe blogs

[npd scentered/safe blogs]

active

@ndcultureis

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@npdemu

@npd--bakugou

@selfdxculture (last posted sept.)

@yourlocalnpd (last posted sept.)

@fixingantinpdableism (last posted aug.)

@narcissist-hoarding (our term hoard blog)

@npdfavs

@prideisforeveryonebutcops

@a-sip-of-milo

@narc0path

@nicepersondisorder

@edrecovery-space (we have not posted in a while but are still active)

@fantasy-store

@cpunkwitch

@your-fave-is-crippled

@vineyard-edits

@archival-arrival

@ego-est-ignis

@objectumluv

@butchcoining

@narcissism-awareness (last posted may)

@mischiefmanifold

@npders (last posted aug.)

@queersrus

@apparentlysubhuman

@sapphic-horror

@your-npd-meme-plug (last posted july)

@puffl3m0n / @acetrappolaswife

@pyrocultureis

@hauntedselves

@empath-abuse-awareness

@citrine-rabbit

@narcissists-true-crime (last posted nov)

@kodiescove

@foolishnpd

@nahmanidontwantto

@alphabet-mafia-collective

@duckduckgoose-exe

@npd-haver

@zombie-dyke

@indifferentvincent

archives

@npdarchive

@npddoll

[inactive blogs moved to new list] here(link)

if any blogs would like to be added or removed please let us know! same goes for any blogs you may have/know that arent on the list and you think should be added.

does not have to be a blog specifically for npd content but at least safe for those with npd.

i would also prefer to include blogs that are screen reader and dyslexic friendly. ie no non-sans serif fonts or coloured text and/or at least includes plane text. as well as blogs that are pro-(researched) selfdx.

[aspd, bpd and hpd bloglists coming soon]

id's in alt text.

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frogsforthefrogwar · 2 years

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If your advocacy for truama/abuse survivors isn't inclusive of

Survivors who are not women

Survivors who developed hypersexuality

Survivors with personality disorders

Survivors with anger issues

Survivors with did/osdd

Survivors with substance abuse issues

Then maybe you should start making an effort to make it. I'm not asking anyone to shift focus to a topic they don't understand, but you dont have to become an expert in hypersexuality or personality disorders to not actively exclude or demonize them

#Truama recovery #ptsd recovery #did osdd #hypersexual #personality disorder #cluster b #npd #bpd #low empathy

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truthful-apologiesxoxo · 2 months

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Edgy 14 year olds trying not to self diagnose themselves with ASPD because they relate to the Joker

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neuroticboyfriend · 2 years

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there is more to you than your struggles, your wrongdoings, your past, and your present. there always will be. please don't judge yourself too hard, and advocate for yourself when others judge you.

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violentviolette · 9 months

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a sentiment i see a lot from anti recovery crowds that i really deeply disagree with is the notion that recovery for cluster b personality disorders is solely for the benifit of others and doesnt actually help us at all so its useless and this is just completely untrue

recovery and healing is first and foremost, always about us. it is *for* us. it is for OUR benifit, to make US feel better and make OUR lives more bearable and enjoyable. and while yea, a lot of that will also benifit the people around us, that is and should always be an afterthought and natural byproduct of the process and not that main goal. because u cant make real meaningful change solely for someone else, u have to want it and it has to benifit u because recovery is a long and difficult process that hurts and is uncomfortable and so there HAS to be actual benifits to us as payoff for that hard work to be worth it and to keep us going. thats just how human beings work. so it's okay and good for recovery to be selfish. ur allowed to want ur life to be better and easier for u! thats a good thing!

because acknowleging and confronting our trauma, being heard and seen and validated in what happened to us, being able to finally claim and have taken seriously the very real pain and suffering we went through, finding new ways to understand and cope with our feelings, finding healthier paths to better decisions that actively benifit us and lead to positive outcomes, is and should be entirely for our benifit. it is a perfectly good and healthy motivation to say "im doing this because im sick of being miserable" "im doing this because it will benifit me in the long run" "im doing this because it will make me happy" "im doing this to feel better" "im doing this for me"

recover selfishly, recover spitefully even! do it solely to make ur life easier and better and for no one else. that is genuinely always the goal and the best way to make meaningful change

#jack.speaks #cluster b #cluster b pd #aspd #npd #hpd #bpd #recovery #actually aspd #npd safe

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moonlit-positivity · 2 months

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Please stop pathologizing yourself. You're a human being at the end of the day. Getting so hung up over how you handle your symptoms & whether or not you're "right" or "wrong" to act that way? This only induces more shame, guilt, humiliation, and fosters more resentment for your inner self talk.

There is so much talk in recovery spaces about how to be this perfect idealistic vision of health at every possible stage. But that is not realistic at all. People have trauma. People have mental breakdowns. People have anger and rage and people have to live and go through things before you ever really know what to do with some of this stuff, how to handle it, etc.

At the end of the day, finding solace in your diagnosis can be cathartic, of course. But if you're dragging yourself through the mud because of what you've been handed in life and not knowing how to carry that like the Mona Lisa? Thats causing you more harm & distress than you'd think. Your diagnosis can be helpful for clarifying what's going on up there in the spicy brain noodle shop, but to be completely honest that's about it.

Why?

Well, because you're still you. You're still a human through and through. No matter what you've done on this earth, no matter what you were born with, no matter what you've been through- you deserve to rest easy knowing you're doing the best with what life has given you to work with.

So long as you're not trying to hurt anyone? Or if you're trying to be a little bit better than you were yesterday?

There is no need to further drag yourself down because the spicy brain demons don't dance the way society wants them to.

You don't deserve to suffer for the way society frames this shit. That is one of the best things you can learn how to do, is break free from the constant need to pathologize yourself at every nick and turn. Sometimes you just do stuff because you want to, because you like it, because it's helpful and beneficial to how you live. You don't need to put yourself in a straight jacket for that.

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