hi there! my partner just explained to me their experience with cotards and I wanted to know what I could do to possibly do to help them/support them. Sorry if this is a random ask I've just been trying to do research on it ^^
im not sure if our book or materpost have anything yet but from expirience, depending what the episodes are like, reasurance and (with explicit permision from your partner) reality checking can help at least when the episodes become really bad (like "im dead why bother with x" kind of bad)
if your partner isnt sure what might help them then just understandng everything theyre dealing with for now should be fine
just read through your understanding narcissism book, so many things suddenly make sense. both sides of my family are abusive, one has a history of creating npd people and one doesn't, but the root cause of dysfunction in family systems is always abuse, not npd. thank you for being brave and honest about the truth of npd, and especially at a time where stigmatization runs this deep <3
thank you for having an open mind and learning more! glad the book helped!
1. With compassion
2. Like they are a fucking person
3. Don’t fucking abuse them what the fuck
4. Don’t treat them like a problem to be fucking dealt with
5. Don’t assume they are abusive or evil just because they are a narcissist
Feel free to add more
our book, understanding cotard's(link), contains plain text of these link's content and more, / and we run clusterrune in instagram where we try to write our posts in plain text in the captions.
please let me know if any links fail to work or are douplicates.
It's intrusive thoughts and phrases like that can be extremely dangerous to someone with something like ocd
Your thoughts are not bad, no one controls your thoughts and you can't 'police' your own thoughts either
Thoughts and feelings are not wrong, there is no right or wrong just a human experience.
You're safe, you're fine, you're okay.
Imposter syndrome and intrusive thoughts are an ass to handle, I know, but using phrases like "the cop inside your head" is horrible.
Unless you're a system and one of your parts or alters is a police officer, introject or otherwise, don't say shit like this.
You don't have to try and monitor your thoughts like that, you'll just keep tearing yourself up over the smallest intrusive thought through a never ending spiral.
Thoughts are not crimes. There's no law anywhere about *thinking*, let your brain process things, you're not guilty of anything. You. Are. Okay.
Hey, I saw your visual snow syndrome post and I thought I'd share a cool website where you can simulate what it looks like! You can adjust the size of the grain, the density, and the speed. And there are different images to choose from (great for night vs day comparison)
Stop pulling out the "also known as psycho/sociopathy" when talking about aspd. It's 1. inaccurate, the cultural idea of a psycho/sociopath is very different from actual people with aspd. And 2. Unnecessarily stigmatizing. The label of psycho/sociopath is most known in association with murderers
imagine if people started every conversation about mental illness with "also known as crazy people"
feel free to reblog! here are some resources related to ASPD that i've collected since i've being diagnosed (roughly 5 years).
Sympathetic Articles
An Autistic Sociopath's Story, Cassy, through Special Books by Special Kids (video. an autistic pwASPD talks about her life and experiences with both.)
An Interview with a Sociopath, Dyshae, through Special Books by Special Kids (video. a pwASPD and bipolar disorder talks about his life and experiences with both.)
Life With Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), Andrew, through mind.org.uk (a pwASPD's account of their life and experiences with it.)
The Hidden Suffering of the Psychopath, William H. J. Martens, MD, PhD (a sympathetic view of pwASPD, and some information on the neurobiology of ASPD.)
Factors for Development
Antisocial personality disorder in abused and neglected children grown up., B. K. Luntz, C. S. Widom (from 1994. provides evidence supporting the fact that child abuse/neglect is a predictor of antisocial behavior.)
Antisocial Personality Disorder with Childhood- vs Adolescence-Onset Conduct Disorder, Risë B. Goldstein et al. (from 2006. discusses how symptoms vary in pwASPD whose conduct disorder began in childhood vs in adolescence.)
Predictors of antisocial personality: Continuities from childhood to adult life, Emily Simonoff et al. (from 2018. draws connections between childhood behaviors, diagnoses, etc., and antisocial behavior in adulthood.)
Risk Factors in Childhood That Lead to the Development of Conduct Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder, Stacey E. Holmes, James R. Slaughter, Javad Kashani (from 2001. covers multiple categories that may lead to development of CD and/or ASPD, including environment, genetics, and individual differences.)
Miscellaneous Articles
Antisocial Personality Disorder: Neurophysiological Mechanisms and Distinct Subtypes, Sean J. McKinley (from 2018. proposes three diagnostic subtypes for ASPD: primarily detached, primarily disinhibited, and combined.)
Executive function, attention, and memory deficits in antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy, Michael Baliousis et al. (from 2019. discusses some neurobiology of ASPD, and how it effects executive function, attention, and memory.)
Self-mutilation in antisocial personality disorder, M. Virkkunen (from 1976. reports on self-injury behaviors in pwASPD, and details their motivations.)
seeing my comment on your little quotev thingy about narc supply ended up being a small bit of supply for me because it meant my words were actually important enough to appear there XD
dude all input is important to be added we're happy to add people more we're just worried about adding someone's posts without their permission and upsetting them or making them uncomfortable because of it
the amount of people ignoring my words in the quiz and cheering when they get a "likely not a narcissist" answer is really starting to rub me the wrong way
heres the quiz
luka because my theme was previously luka and i might go back to that
(Edit: just to be clear I don't mean to emphasize this girl with the tattoo as the primary perpetrator if this stuff. Idk her story, it's in kind of bad taste but there's more to this than a tattoo)
I saw this great video discussing a critique of "lobotomycore"/"lobotomy chic" and the erasure of the racist history of lobotomies.
I can't add further on the subject of race, but as a person with schizotypal I did connect it with this image
(Source, though I have not verified it by sifting through the archive)
"Lobotomy chic" and the humor surrounding it is used so often by people who I've seen have zero empathy for schizophrenic people. For disables people generally.
Even just looking at how they treat an actual lobotomy victim, Rosemary Kennedy, even when she's that archetypical 40s white woman. Her disability is erased.
Here's a popular tiktok about her. No context, just images of her younger self and her older self. Simply "she was normal, glamorous, and then she became strange, disabled." Oftentimes, her intellectual disability is treated more as a conspiracy theory than a fact of her not receiving enough oxygen at birth. People are happy to relate to her as a ~poorly behaved woman~, but not as an intellectually disabled one.
It just reminds me how this has become a sort of coquetteish phrase and a universal joke that erases everything except the low support needs disabled white woman's experience. The idea that for your eccentricities, you'd be at risk. That you might be the only one at risk, so there's no need for solidarity with the intellectually disabled, the schizophrenic and psychotic, anyone with profound or uncomfortable disabilities. Times ten thousand if those disabled people are black. And god forbid they are disabled, black, AND homeless.
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