#actually narcissistic

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

Npd culture is misspelling "npd" as "nod". We all are nodding at each other in here.

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#nods #npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

[nyanfever]

i hate having npd and getting ignored in social situations like hello hi everyone please pay attention to me or else i'll explode

#cluster b #npd #actually npd #actually narcissistic #npd safe #★ mine

[bathroomflooder]

hot take: there is no way that empathy is actually a real thing. you're telling me that when you see someone crying, your immediate reaction is to... feel the pain they're experiencing??? what kind of made up concept is this??? you don't only do 'good' things so people see you as a good person? you just. want to help??? this isn't a persona you put on?? you're just like this??? I am being 100% honest when I say that I thought empathy was a made up concept, and people just used it as a term for some made up mystical ability where you can feel others emotions and genuinely want to help, because it just sounds so fake to me

#also ik empathy is real that was a joke #actually npd #npd #actually narcissistic #npd safe #npd memes #narcissistic personality disorder #npd traits #narcissism #narc posting #low empathy #no empathy #also update- idk if the people in the replies are being condescending or if I'm just overthinking uhmm

[evilsystemm]

NPD culture is compliment me but if it sounds even slightly infantalising I'll never let you see anything I do ever again

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[autopsyfreak]

i don’t see the point in apologising, it seems pointless and hypocritical.

the only thing that would warrant an apology is an action that hurt/negatively affected someone, which i either didn’t mean to do or i did mean to do.

if i meant to do it then an apology would just be lying. if i was intending on hurting you and then apologised for the pain i caused, i wouldn’t actually be sorry because i got the outcome i wanted.

but at the same time if i didn’t mean to do it then why should i apologise? accidents happen so really there’s no reason to apologise, even if i have caused you accidental hurt.

apologies just have no value.

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[alostlittleriverlotus]

Oh yeah make sure neglected people get love until that neglected person is a fucking narcissist. Cause all narcissists are bad. Everything I do is intentionally manipulative or maybe they'll say I'm not actually a narcissist and are just confused or supporting them cause I've been made to feel guilty. I've been on both sides. People will believe I'm a narcissist and so therefore I'm abusive or people will not believe I'm a narcissist cause I'm too nice and just getting caught up in narcissists manipulating me to support them.

I hate the idea that my self image is not by my choice. I will always be what OTHERS perceive me as. I have always been that and it will continue to be that. People will either see someone that can't do any wrong or someone that can only do wrong. Like stfu I am a person! I can do good and bad! I have a past of being toxic and harmful esp as a teenager cause I was a fucking mentally fucked teen still in an abusive situation.

I just. I dunno. Im waiting on food so I'm very like just ranty about everything and anything. But like. Stfu. Stfu stfu stfu stfu stfu. If anyone else is needy and needs attention or reassurance then it's fine. But I have had it demonized since my fucking childhood and had my fucking meltdowns demonized as being intentionally manipulative!!! I WAS A FIVE YEAR OLD AUTISTIC CHILD STFU!!!!!

And people praising empathy as being good piss me off. Cause you know what else can also have hypoempathy? AUTISM. Low empathy is not just an "evil" personality disorder thing. Anyone can be anywhere on the scale of empathy. And it doesn't fucking matter. And anyone can be capable of good or bad. It has literally nothing to do with narcissism or any disorder.

Like wtf are anti narcissists gonna fucking do when they realize theyve done harm??? Cause you know what being someone believing in narc abuse did to me?! It made me believe that i was justified as a victim of narcissists so therefore I couldn't be wrong in my trauma responses.

Yeah. Accepting im a narcissist did way more for helping my relationships by allowing me to understand and communicate my needs than believing in narc abuse and calling my parents narcissists ever fucking did. Wtf are they gonna do when they're told about the harm they've done??? Not even related to narc abuse. I would have horrible episodes and defended myself cause I wasn't like my abusive "narcissistic" parents. And all it did was lead to more fights and more episodes and my friend couldn't help cause they were dealing with trauma responses too (people pleasing, believing it was okay what I did or that she deserved it even when I told her not to say or believe that, it's a very lengthy explanation required thing.)

Anyone and everyone is capable of good and bad and is capable of harming others. Whether it's full on abuse, even worse things, or just being insensitive and thoughtless. Focusing so much on the big bad narcissists will only continue to focus on this "us vs them" mentality that completely negates any sort of nuance and ignores the fact that harmful people, abusers, and even the worst of humanity is ALLOWED by society. It isn't a prevalence of narcissists, it is fucking bigotry. And it is everywhere. And it allows abuse to be normalized.

Big list of things I been thinking on. Fuck fuck fuck. I'm already fucking stressed and my parents won't stfu so I can think and type. Disorganized speech, semiverbal, can't thinky think.

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[voxxy1950]

I might say comforting, logical-ish, helpful stuff to the people that vent to me, but honestly, unless you're actually, y'know, someone important, I'd probably be thinking shit like "Jesus fuck, you're pathetic", "What a loser", or "I'm literally years younger than you and you need me to feel better? Pathetic", and such. Jesus fuck people can be pathetic sometimes.

#cluster b #cluster b safe #npd #actually npd #actually narcissistic #npd safe

[dodgeryy]

Any other narcs like hate anything that makes them feel coddled. Even though rationally it's probably from a place of love.

Ex: it's your birthday and something goes slightly wrong and everyone rushes to comfort you and ask what you want even tho you're not upset

Or like "can I make it up to you? We can go to xyz" no.

DONT SPEND TIME W MY ON CHARITY AND PITY IM GONNA KILL MYSELF WHAT.

#life of ery #npd #npd safe #narc abuse #reclaiming that tag and flooding it w my kwn relatable stories. fuck yall. #actually npd #actually narcissistic #cluster b

[solitaryschizoid]

neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist

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[unbearable-swagger]

I will be like "I'm fine" and then another fucking event will occur

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[narcissisticpdcultureis]

NPD culture is being so frustrated that egotypical people don’t seem to understand that motivation does not matter.

I did a good thing! I do lots of morally good things! Stop getting pissy with me just because I did them to make myself feel good. That’s why most people do ‘altruistic’ things anyways.

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#npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

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[bathroomflooder]

people with low/no empathy don't need to "make up" for it by having sympathy. It's completely okay to have neither :)

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[evilsystemm]

uhh???

#npd #cluster b #npd safe #actually narcissistic #actually npd #npd culture is #npd traits #npd positivity #npd posting

[doomsdayradio]

HELP THE TIKTOK ABLEISTS ARE SAYING NARCS EYES CAN STRAIGHT UP GO BLACK⁉️⁉️⁉️

bro they think we're mythical fucking demons im done😭😭😭

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[thecatspasta]

Inspired by @arrgh-whatever's post on helping ppl with BPD

Edit bc I forgot to add this: Being vulnerable means smth different for different ppl, something that could read as being vulnerable to you can read as just another Tuesday for someone else

[ID: a simply-drawn comic, narrated by a person coloured-in in pink.

Panel 1: The pink person narrates: "So there's a lot of "signs your ex is a narcissist and how to deal with them" and it's not very accurate. So here's how to actually "deal" with a narcissist from someone with narcissistic personality disorder."

Panel 2: This panel has the heading: "1. Supply." The pink person narrates: "People with NPD have very fragile self-esteem, and supply is what keeps us from having a mental breakdown. Supply can be many things, but often attention and praise are effective. Stuff like "Wow! That's super cool!!" can go a long way." A person is shown saying this to another person, who smiles.

Panel 3: This panel has the heading: "2. Criticism." The pink person narrates: "Oh boy. So narcissists take things as personal very easily. It's because if anyone contradicts our delusions that we have built our entire self-image on, it feels like you are attacking us as a person." There is an example shown, where one person says "hey, you were a bit too rude back there," but the other person hears "You're an awful dick no-one likes." The alternative manner of phrasing is suggested as "Hey, you were a bit too rude. You're cool, but some people took it poorly." The second person in this example thinks "I'm still a cool person. It's not my fault, but I can do things to be better." The narrator continues, "We don't really understand the concept of a harmless mistake."

Panel 4: This panel has the heading: "3. Boundaries." The pink person narrates: "With narcissists, setting down strict boundaries is very important. 1. Knowing we have hurt you because you didn't set down boundaries can really upset and annoy us because the delusions that we can do no wrong and know you best get broken. 2. If you let us break boundaries, it can lead us to see you as "weak" and devalue you. Communication is key."

Panel 5: This panel has the heading: "4. Anger." The pink person narrates: "So people with NPD tend to be prone to anger. This is a defense mechanism, because to us, it's either facing the inaccuracies of our delusions and having a mental breakdown, or blaming something else. We do not mean to lash out; we just don't have the skills to cope properly. You can help by: 1. Letting us express out emotions without judgement; 2. giving us praise or attention; and 3. Distracting us from what angered us." Each example of how to help is accompanied by a small cartoon.

Panel 6: This panel has the heading: "5. Other NPD things!" The pink person narrates: "'Love bomb, devalue, discard' is actually: we are genuinely obsessed with you and want you to recognize us as cool, we lose that obsession and move on, we feel threatened in some way and lash out. We can't really handle being seen as vulnerable. We take sympathy and empathy as pity and pity as you telling us we're weak. Not acknowledging we're being vulnerable and acting as if nothing is wrong can be helpful in these situations. People with NPD have a very warped view of reality. We do not mean to hurt you and often do not realise we have. Remember, this won't work for everyone, and talking is very important."

/end ID]

Ty to @aromanticsky for the id

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