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sin-esthezia · 7 months

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the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

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autopsyfreak · 10 days

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tired of people on tiktok acting like BPD and HPD are the ‘good cluster b disorders’ or the ‘victim cluster b’s’ meanwhile NPD and ASPD are the ‘evil mean abusive cluster b’s’

stfu.

we’re in the same cluster for a reason, you can’t support some whilst demonising the others.

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communitygardensystem · 1 year

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where is the love for people who are manipulative by nature and are trying their best to fight it? we tell cluster Bs all the time that they're not inherently manipulative or toxic but what about those of us who are? some of us are inclined towards being toxic or manipulative by nature. some of us lack essential social functions like empathy and compassion, and it's not because we're evil, it's because repeated trauma degraded our brain's ability to perform those functions. it can be a constant, exhausting battle to not want to be cruel, but to have to fight your very nature to avoid cruelty. i think that those of us who have to carry that burden deserve love.

#npd #aspd #bpd #narcisstic personality disorder #antisocial personality disorder #borderline personality disorder #cluster b #npd safe #aspd safe #npd positivity #aspd positivity #low empathy

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stalekisses · 17 days

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barely surviving this week <3

#i have aspd but i relate to a lot of the traits of npd #aspd culture is #aspd safe #aspd thoughts #actually aspd #aspd traits #aspd feels #aspd positivity #aspd awareness #npd safe #cluster b #cluster b safe

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tombfreak · 17 days

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Needs to be said, probably controversial, but "bad" people deserve support for their mental health issues as well. "Bad" people should not be dehumanized and berated for their mental health issues. I dont care what they've done

#mental health #mental illness #actually mentally ill #mental health awareness #npd #aspd #cluster b #psychology #actually aspd #antisocial personality disorder #cluster b pds #personality disorder #aspd positivity

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a-sip-of-milo · 8 months

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I think I've seen maybe one post on this in the three years I've been on tumblr, so here's a shoutout to all the people with personality disorders - yes, including npd, aspd and szpd - who have been abusive or hurt others in the past but are trying to do better. I've been there and I see you. You're doing the best you can and I'm so proud of you for working to change that behaviour.

#aspd safe #aspd #aspd positivity #npd safe #npd #npd positivity #szpd #szpd positivity #szpd safe #personality disorder

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syko-raccoon · 3 months

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HEY CLUSTER B PEOPLE I HAVE SOMETHING FOR U

#npd #npd safe #npd positivity #npd things #aspd safe #aspd #aspd tag #aspd positivity #bpd stuff #bpd #dpd #cluster b #hpd #hpd safe #hpd positivity

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dollystuffs-chiori · 13 days

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low empathy people, I love you

no empathy people, I love you

amoral people, I love you

morally grey people, I love you

people who are demonized by others for not caring, I love you

people who unknowingly harm others, I love you

people who accidentally harm others, I love you

people who are deemed problematic for any reason, I love you

irredeemable people, I love you

evil people, I love you

[this user has no dni]

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thirdcoming · 24 days

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just a reminder..

people with NPD are valid.

people with ASPD are valid.

people with HPD are valid.

people with BPD are valid.

people with cluster b personality disorders are valid.

your feelings matter.

and yes, this post applies to both transid and cisid people. <3

#npd positivity #pro transid #radqueer #transid #transx #queer #lgbt #aspd positivity #bpd positivity #hpd positivity #cluster b positivity #pro transx #transx safe #transid safe

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epick-cluster-b-blog · 5 months

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so i’ve been thinking again, and i wanna make an important reminder for my fellow cluster b folks and trauma survivors.

healing involves evaluating your current behaviors, how they may be harmful to yourself and others, and then replacing those behaviors with more constructive coping skills.

in order to do that, it’s important to approach the healing process without judgment. especially when you have a cluster b disorder or any personality disorder, it can be hard not to judge yourself as a bad person because of your maladaptive behaviors. you may see yourself as selfish, for example, because of possessive or dismissive actions.

but remember that being selfish is a survival instinct—your body and mind wants to look out for itself first, that’s totally normal. even though the results of that desire may be harmful, it’s best to acknowledge and accept that those maladaptive behaviors are a trauma response, and there is no reason to judge yourself for that.

self-love can feel nigh impossible for cluster b’s but it’s so important to our healing to at least try! i love yall and i believe in you!

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neuroticboyfriend · 2 years

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there is more to you than your struggles, your wrongdoings, your past, and your present. there always will be. please don't judge yourself too hard, and advocate for yourself when others judge you.

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sin-esthezia · 8 months

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hey this is a little reminder i need for myself but other people definitely need it too.

accepting and acknowledging your cluster b traits does NOT make you an asshole or a bad person. even when your thought processes sound EVIL and TERRIBLE and BAD, they are not evil and terrible and bad. it's all about managing your symptoms and you being here reading this post means that you are trying your best. you are not evil because of your disorder. you are you, and you are beautiful. <3

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autopsyfreak · 4 days

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another mental illness meme i made out of boredom

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boy-gender · 1 year

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@ trans narcissists, histrionics, borderlines, and antisocial people: i love youuuuuuuuu 💗🧡💛💚💙💜💖💘💝💟💌

#npd #npd safe #aspd #aspd positivity #npd positivity #hpd positivity #hpd #bpd positivity #bpd #trans positivity #transgender #trans #trans rights #queer #queer pride

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stalekisses · 9 days

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I don’t have ASPD in the “crazy obsessive killer, looking to hurt everyone and anyone around him, abusive horrible person who should be in prison” way I actually have it in the “I will never been able to properly love anyone & it destroys me from the inside out, I am broken and undesirable, if anyone gets near me I’ll hurt them before they hurt me” way

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tombfreak · 1 month

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ASPD and being a "bad person"

the backhanded support for aspd

There's a very backhanded type of support for people with ASPD. In attempts to get moral highground and fight against the demonization/stigmatization of the disorder, it's almost entirely watered down to "Oh you just lack empathy and have mean thoughts :)". It's entirely infantilized to the point where people who actually exhibit their real symptoms are just "bad people", or "using their disorder as an excuse for their bad behaviour" because "that's not what ASPD is actually like!!"

Moralizing disorders does nothing but cause harm to people suffering from mental health issues. You cannot cherry pick which presentations of ASPD are deemed acceptable when the whole disorder revolves around being and doing socially unacceptable things.

"It's ok if you lack empathy!" Is the only support I really see for ASPD, which is true, but only if we don't have empathy in ways that they think is acceptable.

I don't have empathy for people of colour, or people with disabilities, or trans folk. My empathy can't just turn on for people who I know deserve it. I can't relate to their struggles, I can't feel for them, I can't even really care. And lacking the empathy required for me to feel these things towards others is exactly what causes me issues in my life. It's socially unacceptable. It's dysfunctionally anti-social.

But thats very much the tip of the iceberg. Lacking empathy isn't even in the DSM-5 criteria for ASPD, and a lot of people with ASPD do experience empathy in their own way.

There's also the issue of "it's ok to be angry, it's ok to have mean thoughts, as long as you don't act on them" or "it's ok to not care, as long as you pretend you do" or "it's ok if you lack empathy as long as you're compassionate"

The issue is that people with ASPD are only supported and accepted if they're in a place where they can conform to prosocial behaviour, which is incredibly difficult to do and does require a degree of recovery. And not a lot of people are willing, or able to, get to that point in recovery.

If you say you support people with mental health issues, then you need to accept the part that actively causes problems as well, even if it makes you uncomfortable. You can't just love the "antisocial personality" and hate the "disorder".

People with ASPD will act in ways that makes them a morally "bad person". That's the entire premise of the disorder. If you water it down to the point where the person suffering has to be good and follow your social standards, then that's not an anti-social disorder anymore.

And I know it's hard to stomach people with ASPD sometimes, especially if they're not in recovery at all. We can be mean, insensitive, aggressive, insulting, morally skewed, or just a complete asshole in general. We can say unacceptable things, we can do wrong, and we're prone to it. You don't have to like someone to support them.

Supporting someone with mental health issues doesn't mean you have to like what they do, or who they are, or be friends with them. You're allowed to remove someone from your life if they're causing issues in yours. Supporting someone with mental health issues means you are able to leave them alone, and not go out of your way to shame them for things currently out of their control.

Yes, recovery is very important, but trust me as a recovering addict and someone with ASPD, you cannot force someone to be better. All they need is to know that they have room to breathe and grow. Support is giving people the space to do that. Backhanded 'support' is saying that you'll let them have that space but only if they currently fit in to your personal standards.

#opinion #aspd #cluster b #psychology #actually aspd #antisocial personality disorder #aspd things #cluster b pds #personality disorder #aspd awareness #aspd positivity

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