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support · a year ago
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Everything ok?
If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.  Trained advocates are available 24/7 to take your call.
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slushyishere · an hour ago
You think age-gaps when both people are 18+ are pro ship? Ew. No wonder that callout is getting so little attention.
☝️abuse still counts, if we're talking about jack x henry. also the fact that henry is old enough to be dave's dad grosses me the fuck out. not saying anyone has to agree with that part specifically it just makes me hella uncomfortable.
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ao3feed-bnha-rarepair · an hour ago
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Can I Help You?
Can I Help You? by joejackie2002
When he looked up from staring at the patterned carpet under his shoes, he looked at the door plate and let out a sigh of relief. He gave a weak knock on the hard wooden door of apartment two-twenty-one and waited.
He was so grateful to finally be there that he was already moving to enter when the door opened. But when the man that opened the door had black hair instead of the shorter spiked-up white he was expecting, he paused.
“Can I help you?” The man asked, a worried expression on his face. His voice is nice, Shouto thinks, something he could listen to for hours.
“...You're not Natsuo."
Words: 6071, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English
Fandoms: 僕のヒーローアカデミア | Boku no Hero Academia | My Hero Academia
Rating: Not Rated
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Categories: M/M
Characters: Sero Hanta, Todoroki Shouto, Todoroki Enji | Endeavor, Todoroki Natsuo
Relationships: Sero Hanta/Todoroki Shouto
Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - No Quirks, Todoroki Enji | Endeavor's Bad Parenting, Hurt/Comfort, Blood and Injury, Todoroki Shouto Needs a Hug, Sero Hanta is a Good Friend, Implied/Referenced Child Abuse
Read Here: https://archiveofourown.org/works/30647459
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Trauma Therapy
I had therapy today. I started off talking about anxious thoughts I was having and then I talked about how I respond in tense situations. I clam up, I start to cry, and I apologize profusely. I talked about my childhood and how my brothers treated me growing up. Apparently it’s not normal for your brother to pin you down and spit in your mouth, or constantly criticize and make comments about your weight. It’s also still considered abuse to witness your siblings be abused. And here I was thinking for 23 years that that was just totally normal. I’m totally more fucked up than my therapist had thought.
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ao3feed-todoroki · 3 hours ago
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Can I Help You?
Can I Help You? by joejackie2002
When he looked up from staring at the patterned carpet under his shoes, he looked at the door plate and let out a sigh of relief. He gave a weak knock on the hard wooden door of apartment two-twenty-one and waited.
He was so grateful to finally be there that he was already moving to enter when the door opened. But when the man that opened the door had black hair instead of the shorter spiked-up white he was expecting, he paused.
“Can I help you?” The man asked, a worried expression on his face. His voice is nice, Shouto thinks, something he could listen to for hours.
“...You're not Natsuo."
Words: 6071, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English
Fandoms: 僕のヒーローアカデミア | Boku no Hero Academia | My Hero Academia
Rating: Not Rated
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Categories: M/M
Characters: Sero Hanta, Todoroki Shouto, Todoroki Enji | Endeavor, Todoroki Natsuo
Relationships: Sero Hanta/Todoroki Shouto
Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - No Quirks, Todoroki Enji | Endeavor's Bad Parenting, Hurt/Comfort, Blood and Injury, Todoroki Shouto Needs a Hug, Sero Hanta is a Good Friend, Implied/Referenced Child Abuse
Read Here: https://archiveofourown.org/works/30647459
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saitri10 · 3 hours ago
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Your anger is so deeply rooted. It's as if it controls you life... You, are a slave to your mind, a vessel... A willing one...
Galadïlynn Feathersong
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glammaaqilah · 3 hours ago
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Help put her murder away for life. Pass along please.
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Hi all, I'm hoping I could get a hand from yall. I have a friend who is going through a very difficult time-- they recently were in an abusive relationship and have escaped and now are struggling financially. I have helped them where I could, but our cards are overdrawn and the gofundme we set up to fund their escape/food/shelter has not quite met its goal. If yall could take the time to donate/reblog this, this would help us a great deal.
I'll also mention for those facing racial guilt (i.e. White people who want to be allies) because of the killing of Daunte Wright, directly funding struggling Black people is one of the most helpful things you can do right now. So if you're looking to find ways to do that, please consider helping my friend.
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rosallorona1 · 3 hours ago
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Shit I wish I could tell my dad.
1. 70% of my mental health problems are caused by you.
2. You abused me both physically and mentally.
3. Hitting a child every other day is not normal.
4. Hitting a 22 year old woman is not normal.
5. Calling me names, degrading me, calling me stupid is not normal.
6. My mental health issues are not going to disappear because you buy me things.
7. Buying me things is not apologizing.
8. You can’t decide what I do with my life.
9. You being my father does not mean I own you anything.
10. I wish I wasn’t your daughter.
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justskulkingaround · 3 hours ago
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Cuz i grew up with love being an exchange of sorts and it's wrong.
that's not right its like wtf 'mother' like exchange what??????
but sometimes feelings of not being wanted can come out of that when the back of mind is like "no exchange NO exchange. you are resented and they only put up with you because they have to" and it's like love is NOT an exchange it never was supposed to be. My 'mother' was just a bitch and a dick and an asshole and so manipulative.
Like no immediate response or no recognition just means that friends are busy or doing their own things, not purposefully ignoring you because you did something wrong. Like???? Why the fuck was that instilled into me for years??
Why the fuck was silence always used as rejection in my house like??????? its so fucked up tbh
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Draco Malfoy was abused.
There was that bit in the books, chamber of secrets, in Borgin and Burkes. Lucius hits/reprimands Draco with his cane. Even Harry comments that Draco seems fearful of his father. And, does his father actually ever say anything nice about Draco? They hold him to expectations, yet his father seems to be disappointed by Draco. Everything Harry witnesses Lucius say about/to Draco is said in disappointment, guilt, anger or reprimand.
People often forget, that abuse comes in many different forms, beatings; food being withheld; constant insults; even manipulating someone's self-esteem or holding them to impossible expectations are forms of abuse. Therefore, even the Malfoy’s expectations of Draco, and constant reminder of those expectations would be emotionally scarring. It is not that far fetched to assume he was physically abused as well.
I’m not saying Draco is a perfect character. But it is unrealistic of anyone to hold him to the same emotional/phycological expectations, as say, the Weasleys. Because even with there money they had a healthy happy family life. It is even unfair to compare him to Harry, because the Dursley’s may have been abusive, but no one ever claimed they weren’t, he also would not normalize their behavior because of how they acted with Dudley. Draco was constantly told how lucky he was, therefore would assume this was how parents acted was normal, because he had no other standard to compare it to. 
I feel this was also why, when insulting Ron he usually targeted Ron’s family, because he was shocked at how close and happy the Weasley’s were.
Also, I’ve read comments saying about how if Draco was “good” he would have spied for the Order. Again, unrealistic. As a victim of abuse Draco would have been EXTREMELY vulnerable, also if he was abused it is realistic that he would still care for his parents. As a sort of stockholm syndrome, or at last because they represent what is familiar. Also, no one with an ounce of self-preservation would have spied for the Order. Especially not a vulnerable, possibly abused teenager. Snape doing so just shows that he’s broken and no longer values his life, or his safety, because of Lily’s death.
Conclusively, Draco is not a good, nor a bad character. I believe he is an interesting one though. There is also a lot of evidence in the books, to show Draco Malfoy was abused.
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pattyg1992 · 5 hours ago
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Growing Up in a Toxic Household
I’ve lived in a bad living situation, one way or another for the past twenty years. First there was the issues with an abusive step-father, then dealing with the toxicity of two family friends, and finally my own dad. Growing up it I always placed the blame on the abusers themselves, which is fair. Most of the abuse wasn’t physical violence, it was mostly verbal, mental, emotional, and other more subtle forms of it, but it’s real enough to affect who I am today, and how I deal with relationships I have with other people. 
More recently I’ve been dealing with issues with my dad. He’s not abusive in the literal sense, it’s more to do with having to live with someone who has their own demons and issues, that end up affecting those around them, intentionally or otherwise. While the toxic people I’ve had to deal with during my life have their share of blame, I’m also placing some of it on my own mom for putting me and even my younger sister in these situations in the first place. She’s as much a victim of the abuse as I’ve been (even more so in other cases) but it was her decisions that got us involved with these people.
My mom has wanted what anybody else wants, security. In her case financial and and emotional security. The people we’ve shared homes with were based on one or both of those decisions. While I understand it, my mom has made plenty of unwise decisions based on these insecurities. My parents haven’t been together in almost thirty years, since around the time I was born. My dad has been in and out of my life over the years. Almost a year ago he started coming around to visit me and both of them started getting close again. 
To be honest though, I had suspicions that my dad’s visits were more motivated about seeing my mom, than actually seeing me. He was always trying to pursue her for years and she was never interested. In the past he dealt with a lot of drug use and jail time but he’d finally cleaned up, got a car, and a decent paying job.
Those were factors in my mom’s decision in changing her mind about my dad. He was finally able to provide her that security she’d always needed. It only took a few months for my dad to move in, and they’d already talked about getting married. That was something I’d wanted to some extent as a kid. Having my parents together like a “typical” family. By this point though, I’ve moved beyond it. I’m old enough now, that I don’t need my parents the same way that I did as a kid.
I felt awkward around the whole idea of them getting married. It happened so fast, and I felt they both needed time to figure things out and to see if it would even work out. They were married last October, a small wedding, and simple honeymoon. My dad was officially a part of the family and moved in. 
Unfortunately, having groups of people with different ways of living can easily clash when they’re not use to living a certain way. My dad complained about certain habits, my mom and I had, and while some of them were valid, it started getting tiresome after a while. He didn’t try to compromise or try to integrate his way of living with ours, but just complained more. Even more complicated, he has trust issues, and was constantly questioning things my mom does, wondering if she’s cheating or even hiding something from him. 
She’s known throughout our family for being terrible at answering the phone, often having it in another room when people call or text. My dad got in the habit of calling me, when she didn’t answer to see where she was it I started to get annoyed with him for using me as an intermediary, being impatient, and suspicious, while also annoyed at my mom for not being consistent answering her phone.
Twice in the past six months and literally two days ago my dad, frustrated with either her or both of us, would disappear to Atlanta. Drinking? Drugs? Who really knows. He would leave Saturday night, while she’s working the night shift, and then Sunday morning, he’s not home. In both cases he ended up calling me, my mom, or my aunt or uncle, asking for money claiming to need a locksmith to unlock his car door, or gas money to get back. This more recent event, he was frustrated by my mom, and hurt by me for not wanting to hang out with him. 
The issue wasn’t that I didn’t want to hang out but strip clubs, and prostitutes aren’t my thing. Add on to the fact that I’m gay and he’s not aware of it makes it even more complicated, because I’m not interested in women. The two times he’s disappears he comes back Monday morning. This time he basically blames my mom and I for his own behavior, saying that he needed space to deal with his feelings. 
At this point I’m over the toxic people that my mom has brought in my life. I’ve been ready to move on and get my own place for years now. I’m trying to wait until I finish up with college. It’s been dragging on seven years now, but I’ll finally finish this summer. My reason being that I can’t handle a full time job and school right now. Once I graduate I’ll find something full time and start saving up. Hopefully within a year I can finally move out, either get my own place, or roommate with someone non-toxic for once. 
If it wasn’t for my dog, I have a friend or two that would let me stay with them until I can figure things out, but a pet makes that complicated. I’ll be patient for Rallo, until I can find something ideal, but I can’t be affected by my mom’s poor choices and the people she brings into our live. I need to start living for myself and making my own choices, my own mistakes, and learn from them.
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one-abuse-survivor · 5 hours ago
how can i deal with family fighting all the time? it’s constant, morning, day, night. they don’t stop, it’s really draining and hard. it’s hard in the mornings when i have school but i leave home feeling so drained and tired already because it’s constant screaming, shouting, swearing etc. it’s rare to have a morning quiet and calm, over one full of violence and anger. idk what to do anymore, it’s really impacting me badly and i have no idea what to do.
I’m so sorry you have to live in such a violent and draining environment, nonnie. I really wish I had some advice for you, but all I can really tell you is to do whatever you can to stay away from it and to be patient with yourself when you feel tired or on edge. Try to remind yourself that living like that would have a huge impact on anyone, and that no one deserves to have to deal with that or to just be able to turn it off and be unaffected by it. 
If anyone has other advice, please feel free to share it.
Sending a virtual hug, nonnie ❤
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getoutofyourmynd · 5 hours ago
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Does anyone else who has gone through a lifetime of abuse in various kinda of relationships throughout their life find that at some point they've just lost almost all ability to have intellectual thoughts or hold even the slightest intellectual conversation? Like your brain is so fucking broken and fucked and it's had to make so much room to process and deal with so much shit that it had to throw out just about anything that's wasn't absolutely crucial to your survival through the abuse? And now it feels like you can't have any meaningful conversations with people anymore.
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