#Letting Go

[thepeacefulgarden]

Promises you must make to yourself (and keep) when it's time to detach with love

I will stop trying to control anyone but myself.

I will set boundaries with this person, and I will not rescind those boundaries.

I will make those boundaries clear.

I will not give in to temper tantrums, threats, tears, bargaining, guilt trips, or other manipulative tactics. Instead, I will walk away.

I will stop doing things for them that they are capable of doing for themselves, and should be doing for themselves.

I will stop "loaning" them money I know I'm never going to get back.

I will let them be responsible for their own lives, and their own choices, and I will take responsibility for mine.

If it's necessary, I will remove myself and any children and/or pets from the household, and I will get us to safety.

I will prioritize my safety and well-being, and the safety and well-being of any children or pets.

I will not cover and lie for this person anymore.

I will no longer defend or make excuses for their unacceptable behavior.

I will prioritize my needs over their wants.

I will know that I am doing this because I love them and care about them, and I will absolve myself of guilt.

I will cultivate a support system of my own.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their happiness, their life choices, their behavior, their words, and their responsibilities.

I will regulate my emotions when they try to dysregulate me. I will not lose my cool, no matter how much they agitate me.

If I cannot deescalate them, I will walk away.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their feelings. I will let them be mad. Or sad. Or whatever else.

I will not bail them out of legal trouble.

I will not bail them out of any other kind of trouble or crisis.

I will no longer give this person second, third, fourth, fifth, hundredth chances they don't deserve.

I will accept that the situation is what it is, and I will stop trying to minimize or deny how bad it is.

I will accept that I cannot change or control them, and I will stop trying to do so.

I will find a sense of meaning, identity, and purpose outside of my relationship with them, or feeling "needed" or "wanted" by them, or anyone else.

I will let them face the consequences of their behavior, and I will absolve myself of responsibility for those consequences.

I will know and understand that I have done my best, and I cannot help someone who won't help themselves.

I will know that, no matter how much they may protest otherwise, I am not being selfish.

#stop enabling #boundaries #codependency #unhealthy relationships #toxic people #difficult people #detaching with love #detachment #letting go #self care #self care is not selfish #people pleasing #fawning #self respect #mental health #coping #addiction #healing #recovery #trauma bonding

[vielesundnichts]

- r.h. Sin

#fall in love #love poem #lovers #poetry #poets on tumblr #deep feelings #emotions #feelings #literature #positive quotes #poem #words words words #poetic #spilled ink #lost love #love quotes #love #self love #feeling #life #letting go #letting my thoughts out #move on #heartbreak #thoughts #inner thoughts #healingjourney #healing #self awareness #healing journey

[socialbutterfly19]

Go for it!!! Make it possible!! I will be fine!! Stronger and wiser!!

#smile #workout #letting go #be your best self #the right one #stay focused #just because #keep smiling #move quietly #the signs are there

[dearth-in-serendipity]

Feelings are denied, emotions are unseen, and thoughts are considered useless, yet I felt my heart dropping, my stomach turning, and my hands freezing. How much of it is just in my head?

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#mental health #feelings #emotions #relationship #toxic relationship #quotes #literature #quoteoftheday #poetry #prose #words #words words words #heartbreak #heartstopper #i hate it here #anger #self respect #love #letting go #life #poems on tumblr #original poem

[herhurthoneyheart]

Sometimes, I still have to take a deep breath and remind myself that not everyone will break me like you did..

#herbestkeptsecret #hurtquotes #my heart is aching #set her free #missing her #heartbreak #heartbroken #heartache #things i think about #things that keep me up at night #things that can’t be #brokenhearted #letting go #i miss you #spilled ink #lettersyouwillneverread #love quotes #unsent messages #missing you #relatable quotes #quotes #rambles #sad thoughts #spilled thoughts #thingsyouwillneverhear #unspoken thoughts #unspoken #wordsyouwillneverknow #writing #relationship

[selfhealingmoments]

#mental health #self reflection #be yourself #self improvement #self help #new life #letting go #inspirational quotes #new beginnings #positivity #therapy #self therapy #survival #emotional support #life lessons

[missinyouiskillingme]

#love quotes #heartbreak quotes #heartbreak #moving on #depressing quotes #love poem #bitter quotes #letting go #zitat #tell me why #life quotes #book quotations #love poetry #book quotes #relatable quotes #spilled quotes #spilled ink #aesthetic #relationship quotes #you broke my heart #missing you quotes #prose #prose poetry #falling apart #gif #love gif #quote gif #gif quotes

[poetic--elixir]

#december #quotes #new poets society #new poets corner #poetry #poetic #aesthetic #book quotes #dark academia #dark aesthetic #chaotic academia #affirmations #letting go #literature quotes #classic literature #life quote #quote #bookblr #books and libraries #books #booklr #rennaisance art #artblr #light acadamia aesthetic #golden aesthetic #library aesthetic #darkacademism #literature #spring aesthetic #light academia

[unsentluvletters]

#love #love quotes #heartbreak #heartbroken #loss #a blog for the heartbroken #remanence of love #moving on #depressing quotes #letting go #missing you #breakup #sad thoughts #sad quotes

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

#forgiveness #self-compassion #self-love #self-acceptance #personal growth #healing #moving on #letting go #new beginnings #fresh starts #personal development #self-improvement

[feral-ballad]

Trista Mateer, from Aphrodite Made Me Do It

[Text ID: “You have to let something / go. You carry too much in your heart. / There’s no room for anything else.”]

#trista mateer #healing #letting go #excerpts #writings #literature #poetry #fragments #selections #quotes #typography #poetry collection

[thepeacefulgarden]

#no shame #no guilt #self improvement #perfectionism #self compassion #self compassion and accountability can and must coexist #healing #recovery #fuck diet culture #mindfulness #mental health #self care #self care is not selfish #rest #give yourself permission to rest #letting go #detachment #give yourself permission #self forgiveness #making mistakes #self respect #self love #you are enough #you are worthy #religious trauma

[bassalien4444]

i wish i wasn’t so disposable

#bpd mood #letting go #4444 #222 #mental health #bpd rage #bpd vent #bpd #borderline thoughts #unlovable

[remanence-of-love]

#love #love quotes #relatable quotes #heartbreak #heartbroken #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #loss #life quotes #life #quotes #relatable #a blog for the heartbroken #remanence-of-love #letting go

[leonardospoetry]

The art of letting go.

#poets #poetry #poem #writer #words #quote #thoughts #literature #original #writing #letting go

[herhurthoneyheart]

The heart knows how to cope. Don’t worry about it. The challenge is how to silence the mind.

#herbestkeptsecret #hurtquotes #my heart is aching #set her free #missing her #heartbreak #heartbroken #heartache #relatable quotes #things i think about #things that keep me up at night #things that can’t be #brokenhearted #letting go #i miss you #spilled ink #lettersyouwillneverread #love quotes #missing you #unsent messages #quotes #rambles #relationship #sad thoughts #spilled thoughts #thingsyouwillneverhear #unspoken thoughts #unspoken #wordsyouwillneverknow #writing