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clusterrune · 1 year

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fellow narcs i have a question

what is your narc supply? what things give you a narc high?

it would be great if i could compile a list to better help people understand what a narc supply is and what a narc high is like.

i know people tend to misinterpret it as an emotional high, sometimes i myself even tend to misread my emotional highs as narc highs sometimes because of overlapping factors.

i mostly see compliments given as a narc supply, but generic compliments like "youre so cool", "i like your hair", "you did a good job" and so on dont exactly do it for me because my bpd automatically reads them as disingenuous at times. instead things like "youre so good at x i need advice from you", "i know you like x so i wanted to ask you", "you know/did xyz and thats so cool of you!" and so on seem to be more of a "narc supply" for me.

i'd love to hear from others what its like from them so i could make a list/post to help people supporting narcs understand what we need. /np /g

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kitten-forward · 6 months

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moonlit-positivity · 5 months

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Here is my controversial mental health take of the day: your negative emotions are not the problem, its the way you handle them that becomes the problem. You being jealous that your friend hung out with someone else and didn't tell you, is actually not the problem. It's when you choose to get angry with them, yell & lash out, or passive aggressively do something they hate to get revenge, or when you ignore them and isolate and self harm, those are all harmful ways to cope with your feelings. Rather than react, take the time to validate yourself, because it's normal to feel jealous or left out and chances are that there are deeper abandonment wounds that are triggered here, probably from your childhood. Take a moment to pause before you react. Then try a direct and open communication to your friend instead. Because I guarantee you they'll respond so much better to you opening up a conversation with, "hey, I felt left out when you hung out with so-and-so without me, can we talk about that? And maybe hang out soon?" Rather than the now laborious and torturous emotional work of having to feel guilty for your rage when you lash out or get revenge. Splitting is normal, because who doesn't get pissed off at someone you're close with? Your switching emotions from highly affectionate to devaluation are not the problem. Everyone gets disgusted & hurt by someone they love at some point in our lives, especially small offenses, I guarantee you chances are that person isn't doing it on purpose and would gladly like to know how you feel, these emotions and conversations are normal and necessary for humans to have. But the inability to clearly and directly communicate your feelings and needs to that person when you are hurt is what makes it toxic. You can absolutely learn how to handle your reactions in a safer manner, how to identify when you're feeling hurt, and how to communicate and ask for clarity and resolution rather than react and escalate. Communication is the backbone of every relationship you will ever have. This is what the emotional work of most personality disorders looks like.

#recovery #trauma #boundaries #mental health #bpd #healing #borderline personality disorder #splitting #emotions #emotional work #shadow work #cluster b #cluster b pds #npd #toxic traits #toxicity #communication #relationships

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communitygardensystem · 2 years

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i love sociopaths i love narcissists i love low/no empathy havers i love people so mentally scarred it makes them generally mean people who push everyone away i love chronically angry people i love people with horrible intrusive thoughts (yes even yours) i love people who want horrible things to happen to the people who hurt them i love people with pervasive feelings of hate i love people who are uncontrollably agitated and irritable i see you i care about you i want you to get better i think you deserve as many chances as it takes for you to pull through i mean it i really really mean it

#cluster b #npd #aspd #bpd #low empathy #intrusive thoughts #you cant forfeit your humanity no matter how bad you get you still deserve a chance at healing #am #<- for you <3

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 4 months

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Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.

You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.

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cringefailroboguy · 14 days

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"I only support the narcissists who go to therapy and take accountability for their actions and try not to hurt other people, others deserve no empathy and should be eradicated"

FOOL! SKELETON DEATH BLAST 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

#nothing wrong with wanting mentally ill people to heal and get better #but this sentence kinda implies that we need to heal do we wouldn't be an inconvenience to neurotypicals #rather than us... you know - getting better #npd #actually npd #npd safe #actually narcissistic

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livingzomboy · 3 months

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some of yall forgot, so im gonna remind you:

- Moral Purity is unattainable. This is recognized in philosophy too.

-Moral purity culture today is HEAVILY ableist

- Immoral actions can be justified

- Your personality disorder doesnt make you a "bad person" even if it makes you do "bad" things

- Moral Purists are NOT welcome in real leftist spaces

-Moral Purity is pushed even more in christianity, which should tell you all you need to know.

- You deserve love , even if moral purists label you a "bad person"

- You deserve love. Period. Full Stop.

#schizotypal #schizospec #cluster b #moral purity #morality #npd safe #aspd safe #avpd safe #personality disorder #mental health #healing #trauma disorders #truama recovery

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epick-cluster-b-blog · 5 months

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so i’ve been thinking again, and i wanna make an important reminder for my fellow cluster b folks and trauma survivors.

healing involves evaluating your current behaviors, how they may be harmful to yourself and others, and then replacing those behaviors with more constructive coping skills.

in order to do that, it’s important to approach the healing process without judgment. especially when you have a cluster b disorder or any personality disorder, it can be hard not to judge yourself as a bad person because of your maladaptive behaviors. you may see yourself as selfish, for example, because of possessive or dismissive actions.

but remember that being selfish is a survival instinct—your body and mind wants to look out for itself first, that’s totally normal. even though the results of that desire may be harmful, it’s best to acknowledge and accept that those maladaptive behaviors are a trauma response, and there is no reason to judge yourself for that.

self-love can feel nigh impossible for cluster b’s but it’s so important to our healing to at least try! i love yall and i believe in you!

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narcissisticpdcultureis · 1 month

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Healing NPD culture is learning that asking for positive attention is way more successful, likely to happen, and feels better.

No more crashes from fighting for me!

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#npd culture is #healing npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

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the-courage-to-heal · 8 months

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#emotional abuse #narcissistic abuse #healing #self help #psychopathic abuse #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #ptsd #post traumatic stress disorder #quotes

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midnightmothnest · 2 years

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it’s okay to not know things.

it’s okay if you struggle with things that are “obvious”

it’s okay if you struggle with reading and writing. with counting and numbers, with bathing and hygiene, with your emotions and others. with social cues, with running, with anything at all.

it doesn’t matter if you naturally struggle with these things; if it’s due to neurodivergancy or you were never taught, or if you are injured or sick. no matter the cause, no matter the skill, it is okay. you are trying, you are learning, and you are doing wonderful. and i am so, so proud of any progress you have made, no matter how small it is.

#it's okay #self love #self care #reminders #healing #abuse survivor #csa survivor #sa survivor #you're safe #autism #adhd #bpd #did #system #osdd #ocd #npd #personality disorder #mental health

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clusterrune · 1 year

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NPD Resource Masterpost

a whole bunch of list of this npd related for those looking to lear and/or cope.

Coping (Centered) Resources:

(1), supply list(2)

Treatment/Recovery (Centered) Resources:

(1), Strategies(1),

Actually Decent Articles:

Can a narc change(1), (2),

Misc./Unsorted:

Resource list(1)

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pencrows · 1 year

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Actually, no, be mad, be angry, be as upset as you want at the people that hurt you. They aren't entitled to you bottling it up and putting on a brave face so you can be seen as the "bigger person."

You're allowed to feel, and you're allowed to cry.

#mental health #npd #hpd #this is something i go through way too much #youll never heal if you dont let yourself feel

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moonlit-positivity · 2 months

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Please stop pathologizing yourself. You're a human being at the end of the day. Getting so hung up over how you handle your symptoms & whether or not you're "right" or "wrong" to act that way? This only induces more shame, guilt, humiliation, and fosters more resentment for your inner self talk.

There is so much talk in recovery spaces about how to be this perfect idealistic vision of health at every possible stage. But that is not realistic at all. People have trauma. People have mental breakdowns. People have anger and rage and people have to live and go through things before you ever really know what to do with some of this stuff, how to handle it, etc.

At the end of the day, finding solace in your diagnosis can be cathartic, of course. But if you're dragging yourself through the mud because of what you've been handed in life and not knowing how to carry that like the Mona Lisa? Thats causing you more harm & distress than you'd think. Your diagnosis can be helpful for clarifying what's going on up there in the spicy brain noodle shop, but to be completely honest that's about it.

Why?

Well, because you're still you. You're still a human through and through. No matter what you've done on this earth, no matter what you were born with, no matter what you've been through- you deserve to rest easy knowing you're doing the best with what life has given you to work with.

So long as you're not trying to hurt anyone? Or if you're trying to be a little bit better than you were yesterday?

There is no need to further drag yourself down because the spicy brain demons don't dance the way society wants them to.

You don't deserve to suffer for the way society frames this shit. That is one of the best things you can learn how to do, is break free from the constant need to pathologize yourself at every nick and turn. Sometimes you just do stuff because you want to, because you like it, because it's helpful and beneficial to how you live. You don't need to put yourself in a straight jacket for that.

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smokee78 · 7 months

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I think there's some merit to "weaponised incompetence", executive function disorders, and "learned helplessness" overlapping, to be honest.

For a long time *this was the only way I knew how to get "help"*. until I was finally able to get out of that cycle and learn for myself

#actually adhd #adhd #actually NPD #npd #actually cluster b #cluster b #narcissist #executive function #executive dysfunction #healing #growth

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 27 days

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Getting really tired of seeing “mental health advocates” vilifying mental health conditions, especially narcissistic personality disorder. Please fucking stop

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