#childhood emotional abandonment

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

If you were emotionally neglected as a child you might think having a person obsessed with you will help fill that void for attention you never got. But what kind of attention is it? Is it nourishing attention? Usually it's about control, and they end up criticizing your every move. Remember, control reduces you to an object.

Respect > attention

#inner child healing #reparenting #healing from abuse #self love #healing from narcissistic abuse #psychological abuse #emotional abuse #childhood emotional abandonment #childhood emotional neglect

[brokenfrombirth]

🎶 Where were you when everything was falling apart? 🎶

#mental health #mentally unstable #bpd #borderline personality disorder #mentally exhausted #emotionally drained #mental battle #emotionally damaged #childhood trauma #emotional abandonment #mentally drained #mentally ill #mental illness #emotionallyunstablepersonalitydisorder #emotionally destroyed #i feel alone #alone #suicidal #selfharm

[whumpypepsigal]

The Witcher s03e03: “[Your mother] loved you the best she could. To save you, she had to let you go.”—“This can’t have been the only choice.”

#thewitcheredit #whumpedit #the witcher #whump #geralt of rivia #henry cavill #grief #tears #angst #childhood trauma #emotional whump #my gifs #the witcher spoilers #💔 #geralt in tears recalling how his mother abandoned him got to me 😫 #when he said he won’t abandon ciri- a true father #i get feral-whumperflies when a stoic character starts to breakdown in tears and vulnerability

[epileptifox]

#im going insane does anyone want anything?? #childhood trauma #neglect #childhood neglect #ptsd #actually ptsd #actually autism #actually traumatized #emotional neglect #abandonment trauma #abandonment issues

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Childhood neglect and abandonment may show up in different ways in us. We may realize we find it hard to watch movies in which caregivers show up for their child in ways we couldn't experience; we try to overwork for others and show how good and worthy and helpful we are so that they won't leave us (we feel unlovable or unworthy in first place); we have troubles setting boundaries, even s3xual ones, cause we fear disappointing the other (we second guess our own feelings and voice); we overshare very soon in our relationships about our tough experiences (and rarely exaggerate them too) in order to have the other feel sorry about what happened to us and care for us; we label ourselves as too needy, too much, too damaged cause we believe nobody will ever love us, and what many people experience in their romantic life will never happen to us; to cope with our pain, we may start fantasizing about being saved from danger or just be surrounded by people that care for us the way we want them to.

We may end up believing these past painful experiences are the only possible life for us and become disconnected and emotionally unstable, even if the truth is that we're worthy of healthy relationships and love, and what we had to go through wasn't our fault. We're so much more than what we were made to believe, we're deserving of people staying and showing up for us (and we should allow ourselves to experience that too, without trying to -unwillingly- manipulate others into doing that).

(source - morganptherapy on instagram)

#Instagram #words #psychology #healing #neglect #childhood trauma #family issues #tw trauma #tw #tw child trauma #tw childhood trauma #family trauma #tw child abuse #emotional abuse #emotions #emotional growth #emotional health #life #tw abandonment #abandonment issues #mental health #healingjourney #recovery #self healing #healing process #positivity #positive thinking #life lessons #spilled thoughts #spilled words

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#childhood trauma #complex post traumatic stress disorder #cptsd #cptsd coping #cptsd recovery #hypervigilance #inner critic #trust issues #dysfunctional household #shame #toxic shame #perfectionism #self abandonment #emotional flashbacks #disassociation

[thismightbeacryforhelpwhoknows]

i have a talent for loneliness, i would be alone in a crowd. but it is entirely my fault.

i run from embrace and hide from people's warmth because everytime i've had it before it has been stolen from me and i will be left on the floor, broken and bloody. again.

i shut down and keep them out but still silently demand that they see me. i want them to push back when i tell them no and fight me to stay because how else can i be sure that with me is where they want to remain.

all the while, there is a little girl sat alone on the floor, cold and alone, in need of hand to guide her back to a home she has never known.

#depression poems #depressing shit #mentally unhinged #its getting bad again #childhood trauma #bpd vent #abandoment issues #tw abandonment #fear of abandonment #emotional abandonment #abandoned

[pain-is-my-game]

I know that other people have it worse. I could've had a mother who's physically abusive. I could've had a mother who didn't provide me with food and clothing. But it still hurts knowing that I will never be good enough for her to love me unconditionally.

#i will never care if you reblog #vent #tw vent #cw vent #eldest daughter syndrome #eldest daughter #unhealthy thoughts #toxic mothers #toxic mother #toxic parents #toxic mom #emotional abandonment #childhood emotional neglect #childhood neglect #psychological neglect #emotional neglect #mother issues #mommy issues #toxic thoughts #thoughts to throw into the void

[noballoonsinspace]

Misbehavior is not a reflection of merit Misbehavior is not a reflection of character Misbehavior is not a reflection of intelligence Misbehavior is not a reflection of work ethic Misbehavior is not a reflection of morals or values

Misbehavior is a reflection of well-being Misbehavior is a reflection of environment Misbehavior is a reflection of power dynamics Misbehavior is a reflection of support systems Misbehavior is a reflection of how someone is treated

“Bad” kids don’t misbehave hurting kids misbehave traumatized kids misbehave abused kids misbehave neglected kids misbehave scared kids misbehave lonely kids misbehave grieving kids misbehave stressed kids misbehave overwhelmed kids misbehave burnt-out kids misbehave

Its not a “tantrum” or a “fit” or a “bad kid” with “unacceptable behavior,” it’s a cry for help

When kids misbehave, stop “punishing” and “disciplining” and “reprimanding” them

When kids misbehave for the love of god just help them

And P.S. this basically applies to adults as well

#trauma recovery #childhood trauma #parental neglect #abandonment trauma #adhd autistic #late diagnosed autistic #adverse childhood experiences #cptsd recovery #complex trauma #autistic meltdown #childhood #childrens rights #kids health #child advocacy #children are people #kids are people too #child abuse #actually autistic #emotional abuse #child behavior #behavioral health #neurodiversity #autistic kids #neurodivergent #mental health matters #childrens health #domestic discipline #raising children #gentle parenting #positive parenting

[invalid-request]

I'm realizing now that what you really wanted was to be able to call yourself a good parent. Which is different than wanting to *be* one.

It didn't matter if I struggled, as long as you found a way to argue it was my own fault.

It didn't matter if I was hurting, as long as you could persuade yourself it was best to do nothing.

It didn't matter if I was in need, as long as you had everyone convinced that you gave plenty.

You were too busy crafting your own story to put any care into the way you crafted mine

#childhood neglect #emotional neglect #parental neglect #raised by narcissists #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic mother #narcissistic parents #narcissistic father #cptsd #actually cptsd #bpd #abandonment #ruined childhood #fucked up childhood #child abuse #childhood trauma #traumatic childhood

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

As children one of the ways we coped with the emotional abandonment of a caretaker was to create a fantasy that if we were good enough they would have a wake up call and love us... we play this out in our adult relationships until we heal this

#childhood emotional neglect #childhood emotional abandonment

[brokenfrombirth]

🎵 Maybe if I hurt myself you could be the bandage. I don’t wanna ask for help, you’d call it baggage 🎵

#mental health #mentally unstable #bpd #borderline personality disorder #mentally exhausted #emotionally drained #mental battle #childhood trauma #emotional abandonment #ptsd problems #ptsd #selfharm #suicidal #hate myself #worthless #emotionally damaged #røry #trauma

[hayatheauthor]

A child who is unloved treats the world one of two ways.

There are the ones who project their situation onto others, and treat the people around them as they were treated.

Then there are the ones who make it their responsibility to heal the hearts of those around them. The ones who love the unloveable, for they would never doom another to a fate like theirs.

But the thing is, neither of them are wrong.

For our hearts are so different from each other's. Just like our minds and bodies.

And a child cannot be blamed for how they make their heart heal. 

#tbh just mha rambles #but it's also about the characters from my wip #if only i could be this eloquent while saying the same thing to agents and explaining my character dynamics #how the protag and antagonist are so similar and come from same situations but their mindset and outlook of the world changes everything #haya sameer #hayatheauthor #haya: writes #childhood trauma #childhood depression #childhood poetry #emotional trauma #emotional abandonment

[the-healing-mindset]

Source: Dr. Glenn Doyle

#relationships #CPTSD #PTSD #trauma #childhood trauma #childhood emotional neglect #abandonment #abandonment wound #life #living #relationship #stability #trauma response

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Maybe we are even more anxious and prone to spiralling because we were never allowed to speak about our fears and process them through communication with an outside source, someone we considered knowledgeable, trustworthy, and that would have kept us safe in any way (caregiver).

Maybe is this type of emotional neglect, of abandonment and gaslighting, of telling us "Ah, it's nothing/You're imagining stuff/You're being overdramatic/You're exaggerating things/You're too sensitive" (prolly used also to avoid thinking themselves about things they weren't sure about but felt responsible for) that only made us shut down our fears, have to deal with them alone without having the ability to, and let them rot inside in the dark instead of confronting, welcoming and understanding them so to let them free and feel free... Maybe all this is what is still blocking us. Keeping us in this anxious cycle.

This sensation of not feeling heard, seen or valued in our emotional and physical experience, of having our worries deemed as nothing and our ability of judgement, and our worth, been diminished. Of having our emotions and needs left unmet somewhere inside of us. They are probably what is crying and shouting from within us now. Through our fears and insecurities. Through our doubts and triggers. Let's talk more with oursleves and also let things out freely by confronting them when we feel okay to. Let's be more vulnerable, and even more let's talk with someone who has the right knowledge and can help us too in processing what is going on with us.

Even if we were taught so, we don't have to deal with everything alone cause others cannot be trusted or aren't able or willing to listen to us for whatever reason. There are people who can actually help us. Even just by listening to us. We're not too much, even when we're overthinking something that usually could be seen as nothing but in that moment feels like a humonguos weight. It's what happens when we're anxious, it's nothing we can easily control when overwhelmed. Let's be more compassionate with us too. We deserve love, respect, understanding and support whatever we're going through.

#words #healing #important #positivity #thoughts #self love #positive thinking #self healing #healingjourney #self care #anxiety #anxious #overwhelming #tw emotional neglect #emotional abandonment #tw abandonment #tw abuse #tw trauma #tw triggers #tw childhood trauma #tw gaslighting #emotions #emotional support #self help #self worth

[safe-haven-safe-place]

#emotional pain #emotional neglect #emotional dysregulation #childhood trauma #trauma recovery #cptsdhealing #rage #trauma response #recovery #self care #healing #mental health #abandonment wound