#shame

[fromdarzaitoleeza]

{Words by Anaïs Nin, from The Diary Of Anais Nin, Vol. 4 (1944-1947) / Cynthia Cruz from diagnosis,The glimmering room}

#anais nin #Web weaving #shame #words #quote #literature #typography #dark academia quotes #dark acadamia aesthetic #dark academia #light academia #chaotic academia #academia #aesthetic #books #bookworm #books and libraries #poem #poetry #prose #lit #english literature #classic literature #writing #spilled thoughts #spilled ink #fall #dead poets society #book quotes #life

[toomanyrats]

on shame and yearning (pt.2)

#web weaving #shame #yearning

[grickle14]

Feel its power.

#grickledoodle #duck #shame #business #cartoon #art #drawing #funny

[desultory-suggestions]

People who love you shouldn't make you feel ashamed of your interests and hobbies. What you enjoy is wonderful, even if it's uncommon, complicated, stereotypical, etc. Please keep sharing your lovely energy with the world.

#des posts #hobbies #interests #special interests #hyperfixation #shame #shame reduction #suggestions #suggestion blog #desultory suggestions #mental health #mental wellness #self care #healing #wellness #trauma recovery #trauma #past trauma #recovery #traumatic experiences

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

#guilt #shame #rant #soapbox

[lucidloving]

Janet Fitch, White Oleander // Charles Bukowski, Ham on Rye // Gail Carson Levine, "Fairest" // Anne Sexton, A Self-Portrait in Letters // Hieu Minh Nguyen, "Pig" // Valentina-Remenar on DeviantArt // Ashe Vernon, Not A Girl

#theme: ugliness #theme: beauty #theme: shame #web weaving #webs #aesthetic #art #poetry #prose #prose poetry #song lyrics #collage #literature #novels #novel quotes #book quotes #beauty #ugliness #aestheticism #shame

[zegalba]

Ryuko Tsushin: 'Shame' (1993)

scans 

#Ryuko Tsushin #Shame #art #body #bra #performance art #japan #1993

[opheliasam]

sam winchester + shame (pt. II)

#sam winchester #spn #personal #supernatural #poetry #comparative #web weaving #sammy <3 #just to be a tree </3 all he ever wanted was to be good #shame

[nohomie]

Oh heyya wally

Im drawing that Hunt vs. Hunted AU I have bit by bit bc im getting Visions in my Sleep lol

#jumpscares you with details boo! #its a candlelight not sunlight dw #bro is not immune to the sun #shame #welcome home #welcome home wally #wally darling #welcome home au #welcome home hvh au #yeah if shortening it bc no way am i gonna keep repeatedly typing hunt vs hunted when i make so many typos on a daily basis #nobody has time to type so many letters #nomi arts #digital art #my art

[diurnalvl]

seven years ago, they used to be friends. almost.

1 / 2 / ?

#diurna draws #vox #alastor #staticradio #radiostatic #radiosilence #onewaybroadcast #hazbin hotel vox #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #gosh i love doing more complex shading to make fake screencaps it's so satisfying. #sorry for using my personal vox design this is purely self indulgent. hey maybe vox only starts wearing bowties after this #anyways part two is going to be uploaded in a bit my doves <3 #vox made his way through the trapdoor that's why he's initially on his knees #...not any other reason... #he's so danger unaware to alastor going haywire #thing is i feel that during their friendship vox was long used to alastor hurting other people in front of him that it just... #doesn't occur to him that alastor would've ever hurt him in that way. #shame #because it never occured to alastor that vox would cross that line and ruin their friendship. #alastor is somehow desperately angry and desperately sad #and angrier still that vox gets to make him feel that way. #suddenly #alastor feels a pearl of absolute hatred form inside of him #he's never felt so strongly about something in his entire afterlife #if only my shitty little aces could communicate and stop being insane for one second. sigh.

[mournfulroses]

Guillaume Apollinaire, tr. by Anne Hyde Greet, from Calligrammes: "Zone,"

#lit #guillaume apollinaire #poetry #quotes #words #love #shame #fragments #excerpt #french poetry #poetry in translation #p

[toomanyrats]

on shame and yearning (pt.1)

#web weaving #shame #yearning #this is deeply personal for me #tumblr has a 10 pictures limit so i will be making this into three parts

[grickle14]

The duck of shame.

#grickledoodle #meeting #duck #shame #drawing #cartoon #art #humor

[desultory-suggestions]

I know that when you’re struggling with your disability it’s easy to tell yourself that you’re acting entitled, that you’re lazy, that none of your peers or friends or coworkers need to rest so much or need so many adjustments to get through the week. Truthfully, no they don’t need to! Because they are not you, they are not experiencing what you are. Try to quiet the comparison in your head telling you to live up to standards set for the abled. You know what you need, and a good first step in dismantling shame is reminding ourselves that we cannot be measured by anyone else.

#disability #chronic pain #chronic illness #health issues #self worth #shame #chronic illness shame #disability guilt #suggestions #positivity #self love #mental health #self care

[creature-wizard]

Friendly reminder that shaming is not only ineffective, it tends to backfire in a big way.

#shaming #social skills #politics #shame

[fanfrelon]

Michael Fassbender in Shame

#michael fassbender #shame #movie #hot #nudity #michaelfassbenderedit #shameedit #movieedit #hotstuffedit #my edits #2401