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havockingboo · 1 year

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Oh man this au already got me in a death grip noooooo I know y’all are looking at me like “king……bro 💀 what are you doing with these poor skeletons” I’m literally so sorry I made another au to cope with DJDFKDVM IT WASNT MY INTENTION

so yeah if you haven’t guessed, this au will heavily focus on papyrus being the older brother in the family, high expectations that were pushed onto him since he was a kid. Was proud of himself at first for being the oldest and being the most mature one and being the responsible then!! Doesn’t realize that will have long lasting effects on him as he grows up being a perfectionist, horribly controlled emotions and some pent up anger and temper. Oh yeah, it’s one hell of an au.

Has a dad that practically feels like he’s absent, emotional neglect, family issues that are buried or completely ignored and thrown out but then bite you in the ass at the worst times!! Oh what an au this will be..

Sans doesn’t smile very much in this au, he’s uh. hella tired himself with all the bullshit his family has to deal with in itself. As the youngest, you’d figure you’d be given more attention and care but no, with a dad like his and a brother that can barely take care of himself mentally and emotionally, he wasn’t getting any of that. He even has a bit of a temper himself but he actually controls it better than his older brother does. That doesn’t stop him from being sarcastic(which a lot of people still mistake him being serious, it’s the never changing expression on his face and tone) He goes through a lot in this au too, on the surface he appears done with everything, anti social, forever resting bitch face but bro!! He still is a very fun guy to chat with, he still got a lot of jokes to tell he just uh…wishes people would notice when he talked or well..even paid attention to him anyway. again being the youngest ain’t easy.

And Gaster…………………………………we don’t talk about him SDJSDKDFLMF ah yes the typical “father who thinks his love for his children will be enough, giving the basic necessities and every now and then ‘praise’ before he disappears for 3 days or a whole week to do work.” He figured, I raised these boys myself!! they know how to take care of themselves without me! which is true but little did he know he should’ve given them more hugs when they were younger lmao. Now they’re messed up!! He loves Sans and Papyrus. He really does he just, failed to show the proper love and attention he was meant to give but woo. Gaster himself also has a temper EVERYONE IN THIS FAMILY HAS A TEMPER but his?? Oh it’s bad. Those long shifts then coming home late at night can be like walking on eggshells. That’s why Papyrus is always on his best behavior when he’s around!! Before he runs to his room and never comes out until he’s asked for something. Sans is always cooped up in his room, wanting to avoid any interaction with his dad. Gaster wishes his sons talked to him more, but he messed that up a long time ago…

Whew okay uhhhh…… that was a lot!! But yeah this family has a loooot of issues that will never get fixed cause they can’t handle emotional problems for shit. Besides Papyrus but well I that’s another thing ha

#doodles #projection au #papyrus #sans #implied emotional abuse #unintentionally fyi #tw emotional neglect #this au quickly became personal ouch #I’m sorry I keep making these characters uuuhh real SJDDKCFV

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loveyourlovelysoul · 5 months

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Maybe we are even more anxious and prone to spiralling because we were never allowed to speak about our fears and process them through communication with an outside source, someone we considered knowledgeable, trustworthy, and that would have kept us safe in any way (caregiver).

Maybe is this type of emotional neglect, of abandonment and gaslighting, of telling us "Ah, it's nothing/You're imagining stuff/You're being overdramatic/You're exaggerating things/You're too sensitive" (prolly used also to avoid thinking themselves about things they weren't sure about but felt responsible for) that only made us shut down our fears, have to deal with them alone without having the ability to, and let them rot inside in the dark instead of confronting, welcoming and understanding them so to let them free and feel free... Maybe all this is what is still blocking us. Keeping us in this anxious cycle.

This sensation of not feeling heard, seen or valued in our emotional and physical experience, of having our worries deemed as nothing and our ability of judgement, and our worth, been diminished. Of having our emotions and needs left unmet somewhere inside of us. They are probably what is crying and shouting from within us now. Through our fears and insecurities. Through our doubts and triggers. Let's talk more with oursleves and also let things out freely by confronting them when we feel okay to. Let's be more vulnerable, and even more let's talk with someone who has the right knowledge and can help us too in processing what is going on with us.

Even if we were taught so, we don't have to deal with everything alone cause others cannot be trusted or aren't able or willing to listen to us for whatever reason. There are people who can actually help us. Even just by listening to us. We're not too much, even when we're overthinking something that usually could be seen as nothing but in that moment feels like a humonguos weight. It's what happens when we're anxious, it's nothing we can easily control when overwhelmed. Let's be more compassionate with us too. We deserve love, respect, understanding and support whatever we're going through.

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mintflavouredwhump · 11 days

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An eldest child whumpee who is always forced to be the 'role model' of their younger siblings while bearing the brunt of their parents' anger and expectations.

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gaybae1021 · 9 months

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Hey, heads up this is a heavy comic. I think I’ve tagged everything I need to but if you think I missed a tag let me know. The darker themes are implied, but if you’re uncomfortable with anything in the tags feel free to scroll on.

Uh oh, heat wave in Phoenix Drop. You know what that means? Summer outfits! And you know what that means? New scar reveals! And you know what that means? Unpacking childhood trauma!

Panels fused version:

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anti-endo-haven · 13 days

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emotional neglect warning! i'm sorry we vent here so often,, i hope this reads less as a vent and more as a thoughtdump aodiwjfj

i wish we and others like us could actually consider emotional neglect survival-worthy to form a system - but man it is so hard when you had presents for your birthdays, and your parents showed up at your recitals, and they taught you how to ride a bike, and they taught you to sing and dance. but they also taught you that violence cures anger, and you should get rid of things before you're ready, and you're nothing if not your accomplishments.

this goes out to anyone wondering like i am: your trauma is enough no matter how much the people that traumatized you tried to make up for it. you were a child.

if you think your parents telling you your drawings will never amount to anything and you need to get better grades wasn't enough, it was. it was enough.

-🪻 from 🪽🪻

Emotional neglect is severely traumatizing for children. It stays with you for years. Anything that a child can find traumatizing can play a major toll on what forms a CDD. This goes for everything.

Even if you had good things, being made to be a golden child and only worth things (such as accomplishments or something worse), it takes a long term toll on that person.

So, yeah, it is enough. To me anyways. It’s traumatizing for a child to be crushed by their parents like that.

And it’s okay for you to vent here :) it’s a safe place here ❤️

I’m not marking this as a vent because this has positivity to it (letting others know that what they’re doing is enough).

#🪽🪻#anti endo #did system #system #osddid #endos dni #traumagenic system #actually did #endos not for you #actually traumagenic #did plural #did plurality #osdd plural #osdd plurality #tw emotional neglect #tw emotional neglect mention

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fruityfinch · 9 months

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PRECIOUS MEMORIES: part 3

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On a lighter note, when one of my friends was training as a teacher, he told his fellow students he knew a child who wouldn’t look at the moon because it was too scary, for existential reasons. Intrigued by this piece of child psychology, they asked how old the child was. “Oh, she’s twenty-four!” he said. I hope he did then clarify I can and do look at the moon as an adult lmao

#comic #comics #autobio comics #furry art #animal art #fruityart #fruitycomics #precious memories #TW emotional neglect #TW emotional abuse #TW anxiety

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writingquestionsanswered · 1 year

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Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I’m perfectly fine mentally, I just wanted to know how to write emotional neglect, because the main character of the fanfic I’m making quite literally lives in a beautiful lie. Luxurious toys, clothing, and has fruit with breakfast (fruit in Japan is hella expensive). But she doesn’t get any kind of love, physically or emotionally, and isn’t allowed to be around her mother, even though she isn’t abusive to her. I’m not sure how to write it clearly though.

Character Experiencing Emotional Neglect

People aren't robots all programmed to feel, think, say, and do the same exact thing in every situation. Instead, our feelings, thoughts, and behavior in any situation is the result of our personality, our past experiences, and the specific circumstances we're dealing with. So, for that reason, there's not a "one size fits all" answer to this kind of question.

How to portray this character's experience of emotional neglect depends on who they are and the specific situation. If they grew up being emotionally neglected in this way and aren't aware that of what they're missing, it might only affect them in terms of how the engage with the rest of the world. This is someone who probably wouldn't be very emotional themselves and would probably be uncomfortable with displays of emotion or expressions of affection. But if they see that their situation is not the norm--maybe through reading fiction, watching TV and movies, or interacting with people who receive and express affection and emotional investment from others--then they might be well aware of what they're missing and they might be sad for what they're missing out on and crave that kind of attention. You could even have a hybrid situation where emotion/affection makes them uncomfortable on the surface, but on some level they're bitter about missing out on it and crave it for themselves. It just really depends on the character. There's no generally right or wrong way to portray it. All that matters is what you do makes sense for the character and situation you've created. :)

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worst-mother-throwdown · 4 months

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BRACKET 1

Round 1

Propaganda under the cut, but feel free to add yours in the reblogs

TW: emotional, physical, psychological, child abuse, gaslighting, torture, emotional neglect, manipulation

Shadow Weaver propaganda

Odalia Blight propaganda

#worst fictional mother throwdown #worst mother throwdown #she ra #shadow weaver #the owl house #odalia blight #tw child abuse #tw emotional neglect #tw emotional abuse #tw gaslighting #tw torture #tw abuse #tw physical abuse

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riahlynn101 · 6 months

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Whumptober Day Thirty-One: "Setbacks."

Takes place in the FNAF movie universe.

((obligatory, this story may contain spoilers for the FNAF movie warning!!))

Trigger warnings: Implied/referenced kidnapping and murder, children in distress, mentioned night terrors, and emotional neglect.

We made it to the end of October :D!! Thank you, guys, for reading and supporting these stories. I couldn't have done it without any of you!

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Mike has heard it many times before. “Recovery isn’t a linear process.” But it never gets any easier. If anything, it only gets worse. The first few months were understandable, the nightmares and waking up screaming in the middle of the night, but after that, he should be over it. Or at least act like he was. By month four of his brother being gone, Mike could tell his parents were done with his night terrors, if them not coming to check on him and their annoyed looks at the breakfast table were anything to go by.

He tamped down his hurt feelings, choosing not to bother them any more than he absolutely had to. He had already messed things up enough, without also affecting their sleep.

He took his nightmares and turned them into something productive. If he was going to be forced to watch his brother be taken, over and over again, then Mike would use it to his advantage. And maybe somewhere along the way, he got addicted to trying to find the answers to his questions. So what? It’s not like he’s hurting anyone.

As long as he doesn’t wake up screaming, right?

Years pass until both his parents are gone, and he’s raising his sister all by himself. His need to find his brother’s kidnapper reaches new heights. Any time he can catch a few minutes of sleep, he does. Which often means he isn’t always available for his sister. He finds himself apologizing to her more than once.

He gets a new job, and while there, his dreams are vivid. So vivid, that if Mike didn’t know any better, he’d say that he was actually there. The sights, sounds, and smells feel so real. Watching his brother be taken for the millionth time, feels real. But it’s not, and he has to remind himself of that.

And then, he’s tricked by one of the missing children. A little blond boy with a terrifying smirk. He should have been smarter. Everything comes with a price, and the fact that the dream never changed before should have been a red flag.

But he wanted so badly to be with his family again. Not the broken one that his sister grew up with. Not the one shattered by the loss of a child. But the one he remembers fondly. The one with his parents and brother, smiling, happy, and whole. He wanted it so bad his body physically aches when he thinks about it.

He wants them back, but not if it comes at the cost of his sister. Nothing is more important than Abby. She’s still here. She still needs him.

Mike wakes up just in time to stop the mask from decimating his face. The whirling saw blades dig into the chair, short circuiting.

The next few hours are a blur of waking up (again) to Vanessa’s worried expression, racing back to the pizzeria, and officially meeting the man who killed his little brother. By the time they get Vanessa to a hospital, get medical attention for their wounds, and go home, Mike still hasn’t fully processed what has happened.

He gets Abby to bed, even though it’s daylight now. She mutters something about not being tired, but the minute her head hits her pillow, she’s gone.

Mike sits for a while, watching her. After everything they’ve been through, he worries that when he wakes up, she’ll be gone. He checks the locks on the windows and doors four times before he finally closes her bedroom door and heads to bed.

He sits in his bed, exhausted but wide awake. It’s the first time since he started using his nightmares to his advantage that he’s scared of falling asleep. It’s silly, he knows. But he can't shake the feeling that something terrible is waiting for him.

And after having verbal confirmation that his little brother was, in fact, murdered, Mike can’t bring himself to look Garrett in the eyes. He failed him, and no amount of solving his disappearance will ever bring him back.

He allows himself to cry.

He cries for all the pain his little brother went through.

He cries for all the pain their family went through following Garrett's kidnapping.

And he cries for the twelve-year-old boy that had to suffer in silence.

That night, Mike dreams not of a forest, but of a flower field. An unfamiliar melody plays in the background. His parents aren’t there, but Garrett is. His brother takes him by the hand, walking with him in between rows of bluish flowers. He says only three words.

“Come find me.”

#whumptober2023 #no.31 #setbacks #tw implied kidnapping #tw implied child death #tw murder #tw night terrors #tw emotional neglect #fnaf mike schmidt #garrett schmidt #mike and garrett #fnaf movie spoilers

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artsysurvivor · 5 months

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(This whole rant is mostly inspired by "I'll Be Good" by James Young. Might be helpful to listen to if you want more context).

I want to see fucked up Prince!Halt tbh. Like, he allegedly grew up in a distant/emotionally neglectful household (not too mention the added fucked up™️ things some of the fandom headcanons... *coughs and looks away shamefully*).

Now, previously I made a post on how this sort of thing was kind of normal back then, at least from the parent's side because there were servants to take care of things. But the RA universe is pretty different than what actually happened back then; one example is how Duncan is pretty close to Cassandra, and how later on in the first book of TRR (I haven't read past that one) she and Horace are pretty involved in Maddie's life. It could be that their values on how to take care of a child evolved since Oswald couldn't of been that close to his son seeing that he thought he was a pillager and a murderer—but that could also be explained by Morgarath's emotional manipulation, and, as a side note, he did see a change in "Duncan's" behavior.

For the reasons stated above, we can assume that Halt's parents neglect was not seen as normal and therefore they might've not had as many precautions in place as to take care of a child in a completely healthy way.

So one: he doesn't know how to regulate his emotions well (which is part of the reason why he just... holds it in).

Two: he might've looked for attention/love elsewhere, even if he would tell himself he didn't need it—like when Will's apprenticeship is coming to an end, he marries Pauline and how, during TEY, he almost immediately went with Crowley even though months before his brother had tried to kill him for the third time. (I also kind if relate these events to Halt being with someone similar to his own age literally since birth but that’s a different subject).

Three: he still witnesses the leadership habits of his mother, father, and other nobles; him being a young child doesn't know that's wrong and internalizes it.

Four: He's shown to be very loyal to the people he sees as family in the series, and will break the law to continue his loyalty. (Coughs in how he got banished to save Will—though he did "betray" Crowley/Duncan in that sense, he did it because there was an even greater cause that out weighed the betrayal). So obviously, he'd remain loyal to the people he knew all his life.

Five: he would have at least part of the stress of having to parent his sister. (Which considering the age gap between the two would be especially detrimental—and let’s not forget the affect it would have on Caitlyn).

Six: Not to mention the self-esteem issues that would come up with Ferris very obviously being the favorite child.

Going back to leadership habits, I get the feeling that most royals don't view their citizens as people and more of a means to an end. (This is shown through Ferris when he sides with Tennyson, despite the destruction going on in the towns, just to keep his throne. And, you know, the whole killing-his-brother thing). So, how would that affect Halt's view of the townspeople, especially if he wasn't allowed to interact with them?

And, probably more likely, would he have self-destructive behavior(s)? (Not talking about physical self harm, per say, but more so self sabotaging with relationships and stuff like that. If that makes sense).

Anyway sorry if this is disjointed and hard to understand fjfb like I said this kind of just a rant.

#tw abuse mention #abuse mention tw #tw emotional neglect #halt o'carrick #rangers apprentice #TL;DR i want to see toxic younger/prince halt #and here’s some examples and reasons why #i also want to see pritchard helping him realize the harm he’s doing and help him oit

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loveyourlovelysoul · 6 months

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You're not too old, not enough, not worthy or not lovable enough to be touched. You're not. No matter what you happened to learn in your life, you can always be hugged and loved and appreciated also physically.

Humans historically live in societies/groups and these are based on communication and communication is also physical not just verbal. Love, support, help, joy, romance and any other feeling can be shared and expressed through an hug or another physical display. You can be shown all this, you can be hugged too. You're more than enough to be hugged and loved and supported and cared for just cause you're alive.

And if you don't want to, it's fine ofc. But maybe there's a reason for this, for you avoiding human touch or being scared of it. And it may be some inner avoidance caused by a past trauma, as for example not being touched anymore by your caregivers after you have reached a certain age (possibly with the only exception of you getting important school's results, which reinforced the idea of you having to gain that hug) or after what you have done or how you acted (which may be even an unrelated event but not for your mind and emotional self -and it's normal, it's not supid: if we get a certain unspoken feedback after we have/haven't done something we are unsure about or we didn't succeed at, we may read it through our fears/insecurities too: eg. we aren't hugged/supported so we're not good enough anymore, we are a failure...).

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loaflovesdoodling · 6 months

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2 and 22 for Pleiades :))

2. Describe your character's voice. do they have a voice claim?

AHSHDHSHSH OKOKOK SO I'VE ACTUALLY BEEN ANIMATING HIS VOICE FOR A COUPLE MONTHS NOW BUT I STILL HAVE TO FINISH IT HELPP

TO COMPENSATE, A LITTLE HINT TO WHO HIS VA IS:

I'LL JUST SAY HE WAS THE FIRST VOICE OF A VERY POPULAR CHARACTER WHO FIRST APPEARED IN THE LAST EVER GAME FOR THE SEGA DREAMCAST OF AN INFAMOUS VIDEOGAME SERIES ;)

22. What is holding your OC back to achieve their goals?

Pleiades' fear for the lives of those around him. He wants to be freed from everything he's been building up over the years, but he's quite literally afraid of himself. He doesn't want to hurt the others, and so, he just keeps on bottling up far beyond his limits... what could go wrong anyway?

#yes this is foreshadowing be scared #kirby ocs #sir pleiades #oc asks #tw fear #tw emotional neglect

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knight-engale · 30 days

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Why did it take me so long to realize I've been emotionally neglected/abused for probably years at this point. Why did it take having that realization for me to accept that it's okay for me to do things for myself. Why did it take me having that realization to finally be able to love my younger self, or at least try. Why did it take having that realization for me to accept that everything I feel is valid and I'm not dramatic for being depressed.

#delete later #tw emotional abuse #tw emotional neglect #all this because of my birthday in a few weeks...#...terrified that ill go to therapy one day and be told im wrong. that i wasnt neglected and im just a drama queen #anyway if anyone is in the market to adopt a young adult daughter hi hmu

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samijami · 10 months

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Remake of that thing from my last post:

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fruityfinch · 9 months

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PRECIOUS MEMORIES: part 2

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#comic #comics #autobio comics #fruityart #fruitycomics #precious memories #tw arguing #tw emotional neglect #TW conflict

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ajxrn · 2 months

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last talking post before i shut up about the situation (<-lying) a bit. words are difficult anyways.

It's interesting how my mom loves to put titles on us.

My brother is now taking the place of the smart child. and thats a heavy burden to place on him.

and me? The family fuck up. a bad example. a narcissist. an abuser. the reason everyone is stressed.

..except me? everyone is stressed except me? I'm pretty goddamn sure i experience the MOST stress in this fucking house but i cant mention that because its "attention seeking" or "because of my phone". I'm constantly being told I'm the worst person to be alive ever when I'm not even 16 yet fucks with my head. You place titles on someone and they start to fucking grow into 'em. I genuinely am starting to think i am not capable of changing at all. My personality is just horrible and I'm a disgusting human being. I have been pinned as the bully/abuser of our family ever since i was like fucking 10.

10.

That really fucking says something about moms maturity levels. You traumatized me at a young age and pinned all these stupid fucking titles on me so that YOU would feel better for screaming at and berating me. There has not been one day of my goddamn life since i was 10, EVER, where i am free of stress. Am I that fucking selfish?

You know what? Who cares if I'm a narcissist, mom. Maybe I am so self absorbed because you never taught me how to care for other people. Sorry I don't feel empathy for you, someone who fucked with my head and traumatized me MULTIPLE TIMES. Clearly me wanting to be mentally stable and okay is the reason our family is so fucked up. It's definitely not you and dad being emotionally (or, in dads case, physically) absent to your kids. Definitely not you expecting the oldest child to have so much on their hands. To be the second parent.

When you screamed at sister and made her cry because she said to not hit me, who went and told her she didn't do anything wrong and it was gonna be okay? Me.

Who confronted dad about his asshole personality and stood up for my siblings every single time? Me.

Who actually listens to sister and brother when they talk about their interests and talks to them about it? Me.

Who practically raised those kids just to have them turned on me and make me out to be the abuser? Me

Me. Its all fucking me. You are the most emotionally neglectful parents in the fucking world and I hope you both rot in fucking hell.

#rant #fuck my parents.#tw emotional neglect #tw abuse #tw emotional abuse #<- incase

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