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4theitgirls · 2 months

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building my rebrand

getting my money right

one of my main goals right now is to get my money right and save as much as i can. here are some things i am focusing on:

getting a job with lots of opportunity for growth

picking up as many shifts as i can

trying savings challenges on pay days

spread out spending on wants; want something for at least 2 weeks before considering buying

meal plan and buy groceries for those meals rather than buying random things

fill gas tank full when possible rather than filling a little at a time

sleep schedule

my sleep schedule has been off for a little while now due to stress and sickness, so i am focusing on going to sleep at a reasonable hour and around the same time every night and waking up at a reasonable hour and around the same time every morning.

healthy body, healthy mind

taking care of the physical body helps not only your physical health and wellness, but the mental as well. here are some ways i am working to take better care of my body:

some form of exercise per day, even if it’s just stretching

stay mindful of the nutrients in your food, including vitamins, protein, sugar, and fat

stay mindful of water intake and try to drink as much as possible

when sitting or lying down, do not stay in one position for too long. shift and move around regularly.

taking care of your looks

while this may be a bit controversial, it’s important to take care of your appearance, even if it’s in your own way. not only will you make a good impression on others, but you will feel more positive and confident about yourself. some ways i am doing this are:

researching good skincare products and staying consistent with a skincare routine

hair oiling at least once a week

avoid super oily or sugary foods

again, stay hydrated!

strength training and cardio

if you wear makeup, make an effort to find the best style for your face shape

know your body shape and undertones and how to dress accordingly

mindset

arguably the most important part! your mindset is everything, as having a negative mindset can ruin even the best experiences for you. constantly reminding yourself of your power and worth among other things is crucial for everything else to fall into place.

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prettieinpink · 6 months

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MAKING FRIENDS ♡

Friends add so much value to your life. Especially ones that you like, and there is a positive healthy exchange of support and love in between. However, some of us do struggle to create meaningful friendships that last. To start this post, I will start by talking about how friendships are essential to becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Friends help us in many ways, even if they don’t even do it directly. We discover new things about ourselves just by talking to them, we have a sense of belonging and build our self-esteem. It’s not impossible to have these things and be alone, though being alone for extended periods can fester feelings of social isolation & loneliness.

As someone who’s experienced both, usually, these feelings can make us spiral deeper as it is just the tip of the iceberg. Humans need daily communication to feel sane, which has been proven again and again.

If you decide to invest a lot more time, effort, and energy in friends, there’s bound to be an overflowing amount of rewards. Hanging around the right people can open up new opportunities for yourself drive you closer to achieving your goals and help advance your skills.

This being said, if you invest in the wrong people or neglect your friends, the opposite will more than likely happen. Remember that the people you allow in your life can influence you, whether for better or worse.

REDEFINING YOUR MINDSET TOWARDS MAKING FRIENDS

Your mindset is so crucial to making friends. It can either help you or not. Another thing is that your mindset towards life, in general, can either repel or attract people to be around you.

Firstly and importantly, do not get attached to people you barely know. Don’t overthink about them, change yourself for them or get anxious waiting for a reply. Seriously, detach. Little things like replies or if they’ll like you, should not bother you. The concept of it bothering you should not even exist in your mind.

Secondly, do not think of humans as assets to support your growth. This is just so icky and once you get that materialistic perspective on friendships, it just becomes harder to create meaningful ones. While friends can help you grow and achieve your goals, they will drop you once they realise they’re being taken advantage of.

Thirdly, stay true to yourself. A bit of common advice, yet not widely followed. Never, ever, make the effort to change yourself for someone to like you a bit better. If someone doesn’t like you for just who you are, they’re not meant to be in your life, forcing it causes unnecessary & avoidable circumstances.

Fourthly, quality over quantity always. When you get older especially, it shouldn’t be your priority to gain masses of friends. Most likely, not all of your friends like you because it’s harder to invest in all of them and causes you to neglect them.

However, having quality friends who help you grow and succeed will never stop serving you in life even if that friendship falls out. Plus, you are too busy achieving your goals every day to entertain everyone you know.

Lastly, do not allow disrespect just because you’re friends. They will test the waters to see how much you can tolerate, then you allow them to, they’re just going to get more extreme with it. Identify disrespect in ‘jokes’ or casual conservation and call it out. These people are praying for your downfall.

That being said, just because it is not happening to you, don’t allow it. Once you establish yourself as only wanting respect, you’re going to get treated like it.

DEFINING YOUR INNER AND OUTER CIRCLE

Your inner circle consists of people whom you are close to, and have healthy and positive relations with them. These are the kind of people who you’d go to for emotional support or to celebrate great successes in your life.

Then, you have your outer circle. These can be people who you’re close to, but they’re not the closest. It consists of people who you talk to regularly, but there’s still that distance. Distance is not a bad thing at all in friendships, not everyone is meant to be your closest friend.

Now those two terms are established, I want you to visualise how you want those two circles to look. These can be people who you want to be friends with, wanting to cut anyone off or just people who you hope to meet one day.

Then define how you want to feel with those two circles, like a loving or caring circle, or a growth and learning circle. This is completely up to you, about how those circles feel and look like as it is for you.

I recommend writing your visualisations down and putting them somewhere you can see regularly. This is just to help us get into the energy of making meaningful friendships every day.

STANDARDS + CRITERIA IN FRIENDS

The heading is a little bit off-putting, I understand. However, it is essential to establish a set of standards once you start making friends. This is to make sure you’re making quality friendships, and not attaching to just anyone.

This is a bit of individual advice, you have to curate your standards by yourself. A personal example is that I’m Christian myself, I believe in God and I’m devoted to him.

So, in that case, I won’t allow other religions or non-religious people into my inner circle. While they can be in my outer circle, I would prefer having most of my friends believe in God and uphold his values.

Standards and criteria in friends can either be a must quality (they must have this quality) or a preferred quality (I prefer if they did, don’t mind if they don’t). You decide which qualities are which, and if they apply to your inner or outer circle.

Can’t say much, but to help you, I advise looking into yourself internally and once again, visualising what those friendships look like daily. To help, I’ve gathered a few journaling prompts!

What do you think are the responsibilities of friendship?

What is the nicest thing a friend could ever do for you?

What do you think friendship is?

How do you expect the aftermath to be after an argument with a friend?

How can someone become a part of your inner circle?

What behaviour makes you want to cut someone off?

Who were your favourite friends in the past? What did they do to become your favourite?

How would you like to be shown appreciation daily?

Do you like banter or prefer showering each other with compliments?

Then, extract from your responses to these prompts, some characteristics or traits that you look for in friendships.

BECOMING SOCIALLY ELOQUENT The first tip i’m going to give to you is to read. Not just in your head, but out loud reading. Read, and see if you’re going too fast or too slow, you’re pronouncing words clearly and know when to pause. Bonus points if you record yourself reading, then rewatch it to see your progress.

Search up any words you don’t know and how to pronounce them, and to test yourself, think of a way to use those words in an everyday sentence.

While this helps to expand your vocabulary as well, really keep in mind the setting of the conservation. If you’re at a science and math invention fair, more advanced language is suited. However, you wouldn’t use that same way of speaking casually at a party.

The second tip is to get rid of all filler words in your vocabulary.

Unnecessary when speaking and it can make you an unengaging conservationist. Just take a pause when thinking, and if you forget what you were talking about, tell your listener or just change the topic. Sometimes, these words are needed when speaking, but not all the time.

The third tip is just to do everything slower, while speaking. Move your hands slower, don’t dart your eyes around and take deep breaths before speaking. If not, you seem anxious and jittery, in which your words will not be clear.

The fourth tip is to pay attention to the listener. Make eye contact with them and ask questions about them too. This makes it a lot more engaging and therefore, easier for the listener to listen.

My fifth tip, and the most important, is to practice speaking. Whether it is in front of a mirror or with a partner. Use notes as reminders while practising to help you remember what to do. There are even videos on YouTube where you can pretend you’re having a conversation with someone, or you could just make your own.

However, practice yourself to speak without preparation. Like for example, you strike up a conservation with your classmate and apply the things you’ve learnt.

Bear in mind, that the whole point of becoming socially eloquent isn’t to make people listen to you, but to make it easier for people to listen to you.

MAKING FRIENDS + KEEPING THEM

Now everything else is out of the way, let’s talk about what you probably came here for. How to make friends and keep them. Better said than done.

The settings where you meet someone are important. It allows you to easily connect with people who are similar to you in any way, without actually having to state it. Here are a few places to meet people.

Church/any religious site (same beliefs)

Sports club (like that sport/exercise)

Any classes (people who like learning/that hobby)

School or university (you’ve got something to connect over)

These are just a few examples of where to meet people, however, you do not have to go somewhere else just to meet someone. Sometimes, I go to my nearest shopping mall or supermarket either after school or on the weekend and talk to any girls who look around my age, with whom I’ve gained so many friends.

While going to a particular setting helps to find people with similarities, it’s not the essential piece to meet people.

If you struggle to make friends just by striking up a conversation, just make yourself known to others first. Help them when needed, compliment them or greet them daily. They will most likely approach you first and talk to you first as you’ve deemed yourself approachable. Do not rely on this method though, not everyone is willing to approach you.

Once you find a potential friend and you’re talking to them, make sure it’s an engaging conversation. First, ask open-ended questions. Open-ended questions are ones that someone can expand on, basically not yes or no answers.

Do you own any cats? -> What’s your favourite cat breed?

Do you enjoy *activity*? -> What’s your favourite thing to do after school?

When can we hang out? -> Where’s your favourite place to hang out?

These are the kinds of questions that you get to know someone and are engaging. Remember, do not be overbearing with questions, it can come off as kinda odd.

Secondly, find any similarities and talk about them. For example, a sport, a favourite book, a hobby, religion. It is so easy for people to connect over their favourite things.

Thirdly, have open and friendly body language. Smile when they’re talking, maintain eye contact, avoid crossing your arms and legs, and lean in to show you’re listening. People love love, good listeners.

My fourth point which refers back to being good listeners, is remembering what they say. If they said, oh I love going to the beach, maybe suggest going to the beach together. Or, they said, I hate studying, then the next time they have a test, help them study.

Lastly, avoid small talk. It becomes awkward and the answers are always the same. If you must, ask them about things that happened in their life. Like, how’s that boy you’re talking to or did you do well on that test?

Most people also hate small talk. So, if every single conservation is just small talk, they would not want to talk to you.

These little things that you remember can make people like you and therefore, want to be your friend. I remember stuff about people by just writing it down and occasionally referring back to it.

Now, let’s say you’ve got your friend now. However, you don’t have a way of talking to them every day. They don’t live close by nor do they attend your school/uni/any place. So, how do we keep them?

Easy, invest in those friendships. Talk to them via messages or phone, schedule days to hang out, check up on them to make sure they’re doing well, be honest with them, remember important dates of their lives etc.

Keeping friends is just about being a good friend to them. Just think about how you would like to get treated by your friends and treat them like that. Even if they don’t reciprocate, putting out those positive actions, will come back to you one day.

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allaboutthemoonlight · 6 days

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How to Build Self Discipline

Cultivating self-discipline is the way towards personal growth and achieving long-term goals. To me, it’s really all about making choices that honor your well-being and identity.

Understand that self-discipline is about self love and respect

It’s not about punishment or deprivation, but rather caring for yourself enough to make choices that align with your long-term well-being and goals.

You’re showing yourself the respect you deserve by honoring and committing to changes you want to make.

It’s all about recognizing your worth and having the motivation and courage to pursue what’s really best for you, even when it requires a lot of effort and decision-making.

Frame your identity in a way that includes discipline

How we act directly ties to our identities and how we believe we are. If you believe you’re a successful individual, you’ll live a life framed by confidence and determination. If you believe you’re someone who is lazy and unmotivated, you’ll struggle to find the drive to pursue your goals and aspirations.

Gaining discipline is all about acting as the person you believe you are and moving through life in a way that’s consistent with your determined identity. The key here is to try to imagine who you are at your highest self in a disciplined state of mind.

To start this, ask yourself these questions and slowly arrange your life in a way so there’s no distance between who you are now and your highest self:

What does your day look like

What do you eat

What do you wear

What does your week look like

What does your work day look like

What hobbies do you have

What’s your morning and night routine

Who are you surrounded by

What do you say yes and no to

Have systems in your life

I recently wrote a post about habits and mentioned the idea of systems versus goals. Here, I want to delve a bit deeper into that concept within the context of self-discipline.

To me, another way to truly live a disciplined life is to establish starting systems, something that will propel you past hurdles and reduce the friction that accompanies change.

Let’s say you want to improve your eating habits and cultivate discipline in consuming less sugar while incorporating more whole foods into your diet. You could begin by implementing a system of prepping healthy snacks or meals in advance at the start of each week, or however you see fit. By having these snacks readily available, you eliminate the need for decision-making, making it easier to adhere to your goal.

Anything that serves as a reminder or facilitates consistent action toward your desired outcome is a valuable system in your life.

Be okay with not doing something and embrace the mindset of small wins

This may seem paradoxical in the context of developing self-discipline, but being okay with not doing something is crucial. There are times in life when we need tough love and motivation, but there are also moments when compassion is the driving force that propels us forward.

When you don’t follow through with something, whether it’s going for a run or preparing a healthy dinner, it’s important to be okay with it. You don’t need to shame yourself or feel guilty for not taking action because that will only reinforce negative thought patterns, making it harder to create the change you desire.

Consider this: if you miss a planned run and spiral into self-criticism, you’re more likely to avoid running altogether. However, if you approach the situation with understanding and compassion, you’ll be more inclined to try again next time.

This is where small daily victories come into play. Sometimes, all we need is one small step forward to develop a new habit and maintain consistency. Whatever you're striving to improve or change, if it feels daunting, tell yourself, "Just for today, I'll do a 15-minute workout instead of the full hour," or "Just for today, I'll read 5 pages instead of the entire chapter," and celebrate these as small victories. Doing so not only helps you establish new habits but also allows you to acknowledge the progress you've made and the trust you've built within yourself.

—Luna

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chichiscloset · 2 months

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How I Earned a 769 Credit Score at 23

I believe that understanding the ins and outs of managing our finances is essential in our quest for leveling up in life. After all, what good is achieving our dreams if we're not equipped with the knowledge and tools to sustain and grow our success? So how did I do it?

1. Living with parents while in school

While I had the advantage of fewer bills to pay, I still encountered challenges in managing my finances effectively. In the past, I used to blow money like it was nothing, with little to no savings to show for it. However, recognizing the opportunity to change my habits, I embarked on a journey of financial education, starting with reading "Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki. Over the course of 6-12 months, I diligently saved and invested most of my income, laying the groundwork for my financial future. This disciplined approach not only helped me build a healthy relationship with money but also demonstrated to the bank that I was responsible and capable of handling a credit card. It was only after this period of financial growth and learning that I felt confident enough to apply for my first credit card. After being rejected 3 times prior!

2. Become Delusional as F**k

The biggest change in my relationship with money came when I realized that it's not inherently bad; I have a good relationship with money, and money works for me—this is my reality i lived in even during the times I was broke. I remained delusional in my belief that financialsuccess for me was attainable, and remarkably, it worked. This perspective empowered me to view money as a tool for creating wealth rather than something to fear. I learned to use a credit card to work for me, not as a slave to debt, and discovered how to leverage debt to make more money. This shift in mindset helped me overcome financial fears and embrace opportunities for growth.

For more financial literacy context read these posts

Escape Your 9-5 Job If You Don’t Want to Work

“Make Money When your Young, Pretty & Ambitious.”

How to make a credit card work for you

Keep Low Credit Utilization:

Aim to keep your credit card balances low relative to your credit limits. This utilization ratio should ideally be below 30%, with lower percentages being even better. High credit utilization can negatively impact your credit score.

Pay On Time, DONT MISS PAYMENTS

Consistently paying your credit card bills on time is crucial for maintaining a high credit score. Late payments can significantly damage your credit score and stay on your credit report for years.

Keep Old Accounts Open:

The length of your credit history is an essential factor in determining your credit score. Keeping old credit card accounts open, even if you're not actively using them, can help lengthen your credit history and improve your score.

Monitor Your Credit Report:

Reviewing your credit report allows you to identify any errors or inaccuracies that could be negatively impacting your score. You're entitled to a free credit report from each of the major credit bureaus—Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion—once every 12 months.

Avoid Closing Old Accounts

Closing old credit card accounts can shorten your credit history and reduce your overall available credit, both of which can lower your credit score. Unless the account carries high fees or you're unable to manage it responsibly, consider keeping it open.

Conclusion:

Through disciplined financial habits and strategic planning, I achieved and maintained a high credit score. This journey is only the beginning of my commitment to financial responsibility. For more insights on financial literacy, be sure to check out my other posts. Remember, with dedication and planning, anyone can achieve their financial goals

Until we talk again !

Chichi

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femmefatalevibe · 1 year

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Femme Fatale Guide: How To Build Unshakeable Self-Confidence

Here are some practical, no-frills mindset reframes to help you begin cultivating higher, healthy self-esteem. Consider these tips the building blocks of enduring, self-confidence. Save & share to engage in some self-love and help yourself (& others) feel your best xx

Remember Your Self-Perception is Magnetic

Discover What You Love About Yourself

Invest In Your Appearance & Social Skills

Remember You're Irreplaceable

Remember Your Self-Perception is Magnetic: Others will perceive you similarly to the way you perceive yourself. In other words, you need to tell yourself that you're a confident woman and the hottest, the most well-spoken woman in the room at all times. While it will still take some practice to maintain good posture and conversation, changing your mindset is the first (and most important) step to overcoming this confidence roadblock. Discover What You Love About Yourself: Consider your talents, skill sets, unique personality traits, appearance, sense of style, etc. Write out a list of the qualities you love about yourself. These characteristics can range from a great sense of humor and understanding subtext to a knack for mental math, cooking, or styling an outfit. Remember the valuable qualities that you bring to the table. While we're all of inherent worth, a regular reminder of our special talents can boost our confidence and make us feel more competent in different life areas/situations. Keep this list visible and read it over at least once a day until you internalize this unbreakable sense of confidence in your capabilities. Invest In Your Appearance & Social Skills: Life is about growth, progress, and personal development. So, one of the most practical ways to level up is to be more mindful of how you put yourself together daily and present yourself to others. Always ensure you look clean and polished with freshly-washed hair, manicured nails, and wrinkle-free outfits. Refine your personal aesthetic, beauty routine, and signature scent. Learn how to hold your head up high, your shoulders back, and maintain direct eye contact. Control your emotions, embrace a sense of humor, tact, and smile when appropriate. You will gain respect and instantly become magnetic. Remember You're Irreplaceable: Uniqueness makes the world go round, so always remember that you offer certain qualities and talents that add value and make others feel special. Internalize this truth and allow these gifts to be shown. You're worth it.

Build upon these mindset shifts & fully embrace your self-confidence journey with my guide: How To Cultivate Self-Love & Boost Self-Esteem. Hope this helps xx

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bitchy-craft · 1 year

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How June Will Go For You | Pick A Pile

Hello and welcome to this Pick A Pile! In here you'll find out how June will go for you. I hope you guys enjoy and find this useful. Do make sure to leave comments down below on your experience! I do want to remind you all that this is a General Pick A Pile which means this is for a lot of people; therefore keep what resonates and leave what doesn't.

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Pile 1:

This pile represents a transformative journey for you in June. It signifies a period of growth, self-discovery, and personal evolution. The cards indicate that you may have been feeling stagnant or stuck in certain areas of your life, but June brings an opportunity for significant change. It's time to break free from old patterns and embrace a new way of being. This month, you will have the chance to delve deep within yourself, uncover hidden truths, and release what no longer serves you.

The path of transformation in June may not always be easy, as it requires courage and a willingness to step outside of your comfort zone. However, the rewards will be worth it. You will experience a renewed sense of purpose and a greater understanding of your true desires. Embrace change and trust the process. Allow yourself to let go of the old and make room for the new. This is a time of personal growth and empowerment, where you have the opportunity to shape your life in alignment with your authentic self.

Pile 2:

This pile represents a month filled with abundance and prosperity. June will bring opportunities for financial growth, career advancements, and material well-being. The cards suggest that you have been working hard and laying the groundwork for success, and now is the time to reap the rewards. Your efforts will start to pay off, and you may see an increase in income, new business opportunities, or a positive shift in your career.

To fully embrace the path of abundance in June, it is important to maintain a positive mindset and cultivate gratitude. Be open to receiving blessings from unexpected sources and trust that the universe is supporting your endeavors. This is a month to focus on abundance in all areas of your life, not just financial. Look for opportunities to expand your knowledge, enrich your relationships, and deepen your sense of fulfillment. Share your abundance with others and give back to the community in meaningful ways.

Pile 3:

This pile highlights the importance of relationships and connections in June. The cards suggest that your focus this month will be on nurturing and strengthening your bonds with loved ones, friends, and even new acquaintances. June presents an opportunity for deeper emotional connections, resolving conflicts, and creating harmonious relationships.

It is crucial to invest time and energy in building meaningful connections and fostering open communication. Take the initiative to reach out to loved ones, plan social gatherings, or engage in activities that promote connection. This is a month to prioritize quality time with those who matter most to you. The cards also indicate the potential for new relationships to enter your life. Stay open to meeting new people and be willing to explore new social circles or communities.

Remember to prioritize self-care and maintain a healthy balance between your personal and social life. June is a time to cultivate empathy, compassion, and understanding in your relationships. By investing in your connections, you will experience greater joy, support, and fulfillment.

Overall, June holds the potential for significant growth, abundance, and positive relationship experiences. Embrace transformation, seize opportunities, and nurture your connections. Trust your intuition and stay open to the possibilities that come your way. Remember, your actions and decisions will shape your experiences, so make the most of this transformative and abundant month.

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jgoddesstarot · 9 months

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Pick-A-Pile: Love Is A Battlefield | How You & Your Future Spouse Handle Conflicts In Your Relationship

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🔮Disclaimer: This reading is for entertainment purposes only. Tarot readings are based upon my intuitive interpretation of the cards and about possibilities based on your current energy. Energy is forever changing and nothing is set in stone. Always remember, you have your own free will to make whatever decision you feel is best.

🔮How I read: I use a mix of tarot cards, oracle cards, along with my intuitive abilities of claircognizance, clairaudience, and clairsentience.

🔮How this works: Close your eyes and take deep breaths, pick the pile you are most drawn to. If you aren’t drawn to any pile then that’s okay, these messages aren’t for you.

Pile 1

Tarot Cards: 4 of Swords, Ace of Wands, 7 of Pentacles, 7 of Wands, Knight of Pentacles

Certainly! I'll interpret this 5-card layout for "my Pile 1's," focusing on "How You & Your Future Spouse Handle Conflicts In Your Relationship." Let's dive into each card and their archetypal meanings, connecting them to your situation.

The first card, the 4 of Swords, indicates a time of contemplation and rest. In terms of your relationship, this card may represent that you and your future spouse value taking a step back during conflicts. Instead of letting emotions control the situation, you both seek a quiet moment to reflect and think things through. This can be a strong foundation for resolving conflicts, as it encourages thoughtful consideration rather than impulsive reactions.

The Ace of Wands brings an energetic spark into the reading. It symbolizes creativity, enthusiasm, and a fresh start. It suggests that both you and your partner approach conflicts with an innovative mindset, looking for new solutions rather than falling into old patterns. Coupled with the contemplative nature of the 4 of Swords, this means you both are not afraid to explore unique ways to resolve your differences, which keeps the relationship lively and growing.

The 7 of Pentacles talks about patience and evaluation. This card in your reading can symbolize the need to assess the situation carefully, understanding that some conflicts take time to resolve fully. It's not always about quick fixes but building a solid relationship through hard work and perseverance. You both are willing to invest in the relationship, understanding that growth takes time.

Next, the 7 of Wands represents the courage to stand your ground. There might be moments when conflicts become intense, and this card suggests that neither of you shy away from defending your perspectives. This isn't necessarily a negative thing, as long as it's done with respect. Balancing this card with the patient approach of the 7 of Pentacles and the reflective pause of the 4 of Swords can create a harmonious way to express yourselves without causing harm.

The Knight of Pentacles anchors this reading with its symbolization of reliability, dedication, and steady progress. This card might represent an archetypal figure in your life that embodies these qualities. It indicates that the relationship's foundation is built on trust and a shared commitment to work through conflicts methodically and sincerely.

My Pile 1's, your reading reflects a relationship that handles conflicts with mindfulness, creativity, patience, courage, and steadfast dedication. These cards weave a picture of two individuals willing to explore, understand, and invest in each other. It's a healthy blend of emotional intelligence and pragmatic approach. Your willingness to stand up for what you believe in while also giving the needed space for reflection and growth is a testament to a mature and nurturing relationship. Keep fostering these qualities, and your connection will thrive.

Pile 2

Tarot Cards: Queen of Cups, 10 of Cups, 6 of Swords, 3 of Swords, Knight of Pentacles

Alright, my Pile 2s! Let's take a closer look at the energy between you and your future spouse as depicted by these cards, and see how you both might navigate conflicts within your relationship.

Kicking things off, we have the Queen of Cups - a nurturing, intuitive, and deeply emotional figure. She signifies empathy and understanding. In the realm of conflicts, this suggests that at least one of you (or perhaps both) has a naturally intuitive grasp of the other's feelings. This Queen symbolizes an individual in your life who exemplifies emotional maturity. When disagreements arise, this energy calls for a compassionate and understanding approach, emphasizing listening and feeling deeply before reacting.

Ah, the 10 of Cups, a card of emotional fulfillment, unity, and family bliss. This card entering the reading is incredibly positive and indicates that despite conflicts, there's an overarching sense of harmony and love in your relationship. You and your future spouse have a shared goal of creating a loving, happy environment, and this mutual aspiration will play a significant role in resolving any discord.

The 6 of Swords speaks of transition, moving from turbulent waters to calmer shores. When conflicts do arise, both of you are inclined to seek resolutions that allow you both to move forward. Instead of dwelling on issues, there's a focus on growth and progression. This card might also hint that sometimes, it's necessary to leave certain issues behind in order to focus on the bigger picture of the relationship.

Now, the 3 of Swords is a card that doesn’t sugarcoat – it's about heartbreak, sadness, and sometimes miscommunication. In the context of this reading, it reminds us that no relationship is without its pain points. There will be times of misunderstandings or hurt, but it's important to remember the love and unity depicted in the 10 of Cups. The presence of this card might indicate a need for improved communication or healing from past wounds.

Lastly, the Knight of Pentacles rides in with a diligent, methodical energy. He’s a knight that doesn't rush; instead, he evaluates and plans his course of action carefully. This card suggests that when conflicts arise, a practical and steady approach is taken. One of you might be the kind to methodically work through issues, ensuring that every aspect is considered and addressed. This knight can be an anchor in stormy times, bringing stability and reliability.

My Pile 2s, your journey with your future spouse is filled with deep emotional understanding, a shared vision of happiness, the wisdom to move beyond strife, the acknowledgment of occasional heartaches, and a grounded, practical approach to handling conflict. Remember the love and unity that bonds you and approach challenges with both heart and mind. Your relationship, with its blend of intuition and pragmatism, is well-equipped to weather any storm.

Pile 3

Tarot Cards: 2 of Wands, 4 of Wands, The Star, The Sun, Knight of Wands

Alright, my Pile 3s! Dive in with me as we explore the dynamics between you and your future spouse, especially when it comes to navigating the tricky waters of conflict.

Beginning our journey, we have the 2 of Wands. This card is all about looking ahead, planning, and decisions. It indicates that when conflicts arise, there's an emphasis on future-focused thinking. Instead of getting bogged down by the present issue, you both likely weigh how decisions made now will impact your shared future. This means there's a balance of passion and pragmatism. Someone in your life, an archetype perhaps, has taught you the importance of vision and forward-thinking, and this lesson plays a pivotal role in how you address disputes.

Moving on, we come across the 4 of Wands, a card of celebration, harmony, and home. It seems that regardless of disagreements, the foundation of your relationship is solid and joyful. The home you create (both literally and metaphorically) is one of peace, and this sanctuary becomes a haven where issues can be addressed calmly. No matter how heated things get, there's always a return to this sense of unity and shared joy.

With the appearance of The Star, there's a beautiful aura of hope and healing in this relationship. The Star is a beacon, illuminating the darkest nights and guiding the way. Even in the midst of conflicts, there's an innate belief in better days and the possibility of resolutions. This card suggests that both of you lean on faith and optimism to guide you through difficulties. There's a sense that the universe or a higher power watches over your relationship, blessing it with healing energy.

Radiating positivity, The Sun shines brightly in this spread, emphasizing clarity, success, and joy. The energy of The Sun combined with The Star in this reading suggests that your relationship is not only blessed with hope but also with moments of clear understanding and illumination. Misunderstandings are often short-lived, as there's a strong presence of clarity and openness between you two. There’s also a youthful exuberance; you both might have a knack for finding fun and laughter even amidst disagreements.

Wrapping up our exploration, we meet the Knight of Wands, a fiery, passionate, and sometimes impulsive figure. This Knight is quick to act and full of enthusiasm. When conflicts arise, there might be a tendency for one or both of you to react quickly, driven by passion. However, channeled positively, this energy can be used to rapidly address and move past issues. The Knight’s presence might also hint at an archetypal figure who is fearless and eager, teaching you about the importance of zeal and courage.

My Pile 3s, your relationship with your future spouse shines with optimism, clear vision, joy, and fiery passion. While disagreements are a natural part of any partnership, your approach is both forward-thinking and anchored in a strong foundation of hope and happiness. Embrace the lessons from the archetypes in your life, maintain that balance of enthusiasm and vision, and continue to bask in the radiant love that the two of you share. Remember, with The Star and The Sun by your side, even the darkest nights will lead to brighter days.

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sugarsprinklesoul · 6 months

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HOW TO BECOME BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF

Becoming a better version of yourself is a continuous journey. Here are some steps to guide you:

Self-Reflection: Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and values. This self-awareness forms the foundation for personal growth.

Set Clear Goals: Define specific and achievable short-term and long-term goals. This gives you direction and motivation.

Continuous Learning: Embrace a mindset of lifelong learning. Stay curious, acquire new skills, and expand your knowledge.

Step out of Your Comfort Zone: Growth often happens outside of comfort. Challenge yourself by taking on new experiences and facing fears.

Build Resilience: Learn from setbacks and failures. Develop the ability to bounce back stronger from challenges.

Healthy Habits: Prioritize physical and mental well-being through regular exercise, proper nutrition, and sufficient sleep.

Effective Time Management: Prioritize tasks, set deadlines, and manage your time efficiently to achieve your goals.

Cultivate Positive Relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and positive individuals who encourage your growth.

Practice Gratitude: Focus on what you have rather than what you lack. Regularly express gratitude for the positive aspects of your life.

Contribute to Others: Make a positive impact by helping others. Acts of kindness can enhance your sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Remember, personal growth is a unique journey, and progress takes time. Celebrate small victories along the way, and be patient with yourself as you strive to become the best version of yourself.

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pastel-charm-14 · 3 months

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`*:;,．★ exploring resilience ☆・:.,;*

the powerful concept of resilience—the ability to bounce back from challenges, setbacks, and adversity stronger than before. life is full of ups and downs, but with the right mindset and skills, we can navigate even the toughest times with grace and courage.

cultivate a growth mindset: embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. instead of viewing setbacks as failures, see them as valuable lessons that can help you become stronger and more resilient.

practice self-care: prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. engage in activities that nourish your soul, whether it's meditation, exercise, journaling, or spending time with loved ones. remember that self-care is not selfish—it's essential for building resilience.

build a strong support network: surround yourself with positive, supportive people who uplift and encourage you. lean on friends, family, mentors, or support groups during tough times, and don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it.

develop coping mechanisms: find healthy ways to cope with stress and adversity. this could include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, creative outlets like art or music, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor.

practice gratitude: focus on the blessings in your life, no matter how small. cultivating an attitude of gratitude can help shift your perspective and build resilience in the face of challenges.

stay flexible and adaptable: life is unpredictable, and things don't always go according to plan. practice flexibility and adaptability, and be willing to adjust your goals and expectations as needed.

embrace failures as stepping stones: reframing failure as a natural part of the learning process can help build resilience. instead of dwelling on past mistakes, use them as stepping stones toward future success.

remember, resilience is not about never experiencing adversity—it's about how we respond to it.

-with love, pastel

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magicaldragons · 6 months

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not yet on the ryu shi-oh train?

to everyone unable to see the nam-soon x shi-oh, because of the:

red flags

"he tried to kill her mom!"

honestly, i get it. the main leads are vv sweet and they're building up to an ideal, healthy relationship. BUT, having said that, other than nam-soon going through personal growth and learning about the way the world works + capitalism (completely by herself, let me add), I don't see them undergoing any growth, or development together.

even do bong-soon, grew into her feelings and had a lot of development alongside min-hyuk, rather than just as her own person, and it added to the dynamic of the whole relationship.

the reason why ryu shi-oh would be such a good fit for nam-soon is because of the potential they have to help each other become better versions of themselves. [her naivity & his belief that only having strength can fullfill him]

+ about the murder attempt, it was terrible obviously, but from nam-soon's point of view, very few situations would truly make her feel uneasy, because of the faith she has in her strength (& her mother's strength), so even though she was worried – as a child who'd just found her mother – she was probably operating from a very different mindset.

in addition, when the mother, hwang geum-joo has completely forgiven the girl, hwa-ja for trying to stab nam-soon, (attempted murder basically, which is again downplayed because of the strength they have) i find it perfectly reasonable that nam-soon could find it within herself to forgive him and look past his misguided actions, if she so chooses.

speaking of, from nam-soon's point of view:

obviously, it is a terrible idea to believe that you can fix someone, or that if you stick around, they will somehow change – BUT there's a pretty clear distinction to make here – she has not chosen him yet, and she is not waiting for him, but he has already begun to want to be better for her, and changed an immense amount when it comes to how he acts around her, which (not that makes him a green flag), makes for a pretty healthy relationship, if they both come to be on the same page at some point, especially with how honest he is with her.

this series takes place in a fantasy universe, and because she has her superpowers, the power balance is tipped in nam-soon's favor, both physically, and when it comes to the power she holds over him.

so, technically, if she's able to forgive his...extracurricular activities, it really is her business who she ends up liking 👀 (dw, ik it's hee-sik endgame)

at this point, everything relies on the personal choices each character makes. Ryu shi-oh has already shown signs of looking within himself and being willing to open up to nam-soon about his past & be vulnerable, so the ball is in her court now, especially with the scene we've ended on in episode 10.

#all aboard #in this essay I will #she can fix him! no REALLY #disclaimer: in real life - please walk away from red flags #strong girl nam soon #gang nam soon #ryu shi oh #byeon woo seok #lee yoo mi #strong girl bong soon

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theambitiouswoman · 11 months

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hi i hope you’re having an amazing day and i appreciate all the advice you give out…

i’m in my early 20s but i still feel like a teenager mentally and i was wondering if you had any advice on how to mentally grow up/glow up. thank you.

Thank you for being here beautiful girl! 💗

First I want to say, that you are on no one’s timeline but your own. Having a youthful mentality is so valuable!! You really never want fully lose touch with it.

In your early 20s a lot of people go through periods where they’re adjusting to the responsibilities and expectations of adulthood. Those who have no responsibilities take longer to mature. Having responsibilities not only gives you a new outlook on life but also teaches you what you are capable of. It holds you accountable. Makes you more responsible, and brings out a lot of personal attributes that we consider mature.

Take time to self reflect on your current state of mind and identify areas where you feel you need to grow and mature. Are there specific behaviors that you want to change or develop?

Start living a life of purpose. Have something to live for. Establish clear goals for yourself. These can be short-term or long-term goals related to personal, professional, or education. Having goals will provide you with a sense of direction and purpose, and help you make decisions that align with your desired growth.

Always seek new knowledge and skills. Read books, explore different subjects, take courses, or engage in meaningful conversations with knowledgeable individuals. We are constantly developing and learning through our experiences. The more you experience, the faster your brain spits out new ideas and perspectives. Expanding your knowledge base will broaden your perspective and help you develop a more mature outlook on life.

Start taking responsibility for your actions and decisions. Take accountability for your mistakes, learning from them, and actively working towards personal improvement. By doing this. you'll gain confidence and develop a more mature mindset.

Growth often comes from facing challenges and stepping outside your comfort zone. Embrace opportunities that push you to grow, whether it's taking on new responsibilities at work, volunteering for a challenging project, or pursuing personal goals that stretch your abilities. Overcoming challenges builds resilience and maturity.

Surround yourself with positive and supportive individuals who inspire you to grow. Nurturing healthy relationships will help you develop strong interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence.

Learn to be more self-discipline by establishing routines, setting boundaries, and managing your time effectively. Practice delayed gratification and learn to prioritize your responsibilities.

Take care of your well-being. Pay attention to your physical and mental health. Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise regularly, and engage in activities that help you relax and recharge.

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azura-tsukikage · 6 months

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The Pragmatic Witch's tips on Self-Care Self-care is an essential practice that contributes to overall well-being, and it's crucial that we approach it with a pragmatic mindset. Here's an analysis and elaboration on the types of Self-care, and what the witchcraft books won't tell you!

Physical Self-care: Witchcraft books may emphasize rituals and energy work, but they often neglect the importance of listing skills physical self-care. This aspect includes regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and proper hydration. Physical health forms the foundation for mental and emotional well-being.

Mental Self-care: While witchcraft often promotes mindfulness and meditation, it's essential to understand that mental self-care also involves challenging and expanding your knowledge beyond anecdotal evidence and what you were made to believe from thoughts, feelings and experiences. Critical thinking, logical reasoning, and open-mindedness are valuable skills that can enhance your mental health.

Emotional Self-care: Witchcraft can help with emotional healing and processing, but it's not a substitute for professional therapy when needed. It's essential to acknowledge your emotions, express them in a healthy way, and seek support from mental health experts if necessary. Also, always test your own beliefs to see if they align with a true, healthy mindset and/or practicing better thought processes.

Social Self-care: Witchcraft books might not focus on building and maintaining healthy relationships as much as they do on solitary practices. Engaging in positive social interactions, fostering connections, and setting healthy boundaries are vital components of social self-care.

Environmental Self-care: Witchcraft typically emphasizes connecting with nature, but environmental self-care extends beyond that. It includes creating a safe and comfortable living space, decluttering, and organizing, which can positively impact your mental and emotional well-being.

Financial Self-care: Witchcraft books might not address skills for financial well-being directly, but it's an essential aspect of self-care. Managing your finances responsibly, setting financial goals, and creating a budget can significantly reduce stress and contribute to your overall health.

Time Management: Effective time management is crucial for self-care. Witchcraft books often encourage investing time in practices, but it's essential to allocate time for personal growth, work, relationships, and relaxation to achieve a well-rounded life.

Empowerment through Pragmatism: Emphasize that while witchcraft and spirituality can provide valuable guidance and support, they shouldn't replace pragmatic solutions. A truly empowered individual understands how to merge their spiritual beliefs with practical, evidence-based strategies for self-care.

By incorporating these types of self-care into your daily life, you'll be better equipped to address various aspects of your well-being and maintain a balanced and fulfilled existence. This pragmatic approach aligns with the core values of personal growth, self-awareness, and self-empowerment that many people seek, whether they're involved in witchcraft or not. In addition, here are some pragmatic and elaborating questions related to improving your self-care:

Physical Self-Care:

How do you ensure you get regular physical activity that suits your lifestyle?

What kind of diet do you follow, and does it support your physical well-being?

How do you manage your sleep and ensure you wake up feeling refreshed?

How do you stay adequately hydrated throughout the day?

Mental Self-Care:

What strategies do you use to continually challenge and expand your mental capabilities?

How do you incorporate critical thinking and logical reasoning into your daily life?

Do you actively seek out opportunities for learning and personal growth?

Emotional Self-Care:

How do you acknowledge and process your emotions in a healthy manner?

When you're facing emotional challenges, who do you turn to for support or guidance?

Are you open to seeking professional help when dealing with emotional difficulties?

Social Self-Care:

What practices do you follow to build and maintain healthy relationships in your life?

How do you set boundaries to protect your emotional well-being in social interactions?

Do you actively engage in fostering meaningful connections with others?

Environmental Self-Care:

How do you create an environment that promotes a sense of safety and comfort?

What strategies do you use to declutter and organize your living space for optimal well-being?

How do you stay connected with nature and create an eco-friendly living environment?

Financial Self-Care:

What steps have you taken to manage your finances responsibly and reduce financial stress?

Do you set financial goals and create a budget to achieve them?

How do you balance financial well-being with your other self-care practices?

Time Management:

What methods do you use to effectively manage your time and allocate it for various life areas?

How do you maintain a balance between your work, personal life, and self-care activities?

Are you consistent in your time management strategies for optimal self-care?

Empowerment through Pragmatism:

How do you merge your spiritual beliefs and practices with pragmatic, evidence-based self-care strategies?

Are you open to combining the wisdom of your spirituality with practical solutions to life's challenges?

How do you feel about balancing your spiritual and pragmatic approaches to self-care?

These questions can serve as a starting point for yourselves to reflect on your self-care practices and consider how they align with different aspects of your well-being. Self-awareness and action, along with intentionality in self-care, can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

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thecaringcounsellor · 6 months

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Crafting Joy: Simple Strategies to Elevate Happiness in Ourselves and Others

There's something uniquely compelling about the quest for happiness. It's a universal pursuit, a thread that connects us across continents and cultures. But as we wade through the tumultuous waters of everyday life, we often find ourselves, and those around us, in need of a happiness boost. So, how do we motivate not just ourselves but others to embrace a happier state of being? Here are some strategies to light that spark of joy:

Understand the Happiness Baseline

First, it's essential to recognise that happiness isn't a one-size-fits-all. Each person's happiness baseline is influenced by a mix of genetic, environmental, and psychological factors. Embracing this diversity means tailoring our approach to happiness in a way that resonates individually.

The Power of Small Acts

Small, consistent acts of kindness can have a ripple effect on happiness. Encourage others to engage in simple gestures like sharing a smile, giving a sincere compliment, or helping someone with a small task. These acts can brighten days and gradually shift the happiness metre.

Cultivate Gratitude

Gratitude is the cornerstone of happiness. Start a movement of appreciation by sharing what you're grateful for and inviting others to do the same. This could be as simple as a daily post highlighting something positive or a weekly gratitude meet-up, virtual or in-person.

Create Connection Opportunities

Human connection is a vital component of happiness. Foster environments where people can connect authentically - whether it's through interest-based clubs, community events, or online forums. Encourage open dialogues, storytelling, and shared experiences to deepen these connections.

Promote Physical Well-being

Physical health and happiness are intertwined. Champion the cause by organizing group activities that focus on well-being - think community yoga, group hikes, or dance classes. When we move our bodies, endorphins flow, and spirits lift.

Encourage Personal Growth

Inspire people to take up new hobbies or learn new skills. The satisfaction derived from personal achievement is a potent happiness enhancer. Offer resources, workshops, or simply share your own journey of learning and growth to motivate others.

The Reflection Effect

Encourage self-reflection as a habit. When people reflect on their experiences and feelings, they can cultivate a mindset of growth and positivity. Share prompts or create a safe space for people to express their thoughts and feelings.

Spread the Music

Music has the incredible power to elevate moods. Create and share playlists with upbeat and inspiring tunes. Better yet, collaborate on a community playlist where everyone can contribute the tracks that make them feel good.

Foster Volunteering and Altruism

Altruistic behavior is linked to increased happiness. Organize group volunteer days or support a community project. The shared goal of improving the lives of others can significantly boost collective happiness.

Laugh Together

Laughter truly can be the best medicine. Host a fun night, movie screening, or game evening that encourages laughter. Remember, it's about the joy of the moment and making happy memories.

Celebrate the Small Wins

Create a culture where every small victory is celebrated. Did someone complete a daily goal? Make a healthy choice? Overcome a fear? Celebrating these moments can build a positive and supportive community spirit.

By intertwining these strategies into the fabric of our daily interactions, we can create waves of positivity that extend beyond our immediate circle. Remember, the pursuit of happiness isn't a solitary journey; it's a communal expedition where the joy of one can lift the hearts of many. Keep spreading the happiness, and watch as it grows around you.

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healthy-liiviing · 1 month

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What is the best way to improve life?

Identify Areas for Growth: Reflect on what truly matters to you and assess areas you'd like to improve. This could be health, career, relationships, personal development, or a combination.

Set SMART Goals: Define specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound goals for each area you want to improve. Having clear goals provides direction and a roadmap for progress.

Action Plan & Prioritize: Create a plan for achieving your goals. Break down big goals into smaller, manageable steps. Prioritize tasks to ensure you're focusing on what truly matters.

Continuous Learning: Never stop learning and expanding your knowledge and skills. Read books, listen to podcasts, take courses, or explore new hobbies to continuously improve yourself.

Build Healthy Habits: Focus on incorporating healthy habits like regular exercise, nutritious eating, quality sleep, and stress management. These habits provide a foundation for physical and mental well-being, essential for living a fulfilling life.

Positive Mindset: Cultivate a positive attitude and focus on solutions. Believe in your ability to learn and grow. View challenges as opportunities and setbacks as temporary bumps on the road.

Take Calculated Risks: Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone occasionally. Take calculated risks, explore new opportunities, and push your boundaries for personal growth.

Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how big or small. This reinforces positive behavior and keeps you motivated on your improvement journey.

Track Progress: Monitor your progress towards your goals. There are apps and trackers available, or simply keep a journal. Seeing your progress is a great motivator to stay on track.

Seek Support: Having a support system can be invaluable. Tell friends or family about your goals, or join online communities focused on self-improvement.

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femmefatalevibe · 2 years

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Hi hon, could you talk more about finding my own ‘dream girl archetype’ & creating ‘my personal manifesto’ as you mentioned in this post? 💌🌹

Gladly! Some notes on creating your own dream girl archetype and personal manifesto are below. Lmk if you need anything else x

How To Build Your Own Dream Girl Archetype:

Reflect on your role models: These can be TV characters, celebrities, public figures, or, even better, those you look up to in real life. What qualities and characteristics about them do you admire and want to emulate? Is it their poise, work ethic, their personal strength, confidence, style, general aesthetic, lifestyle, cultural affiliations, career, and hobbies? Make a list of these people or characters with bullet points under each one. If you find a lot of commonalities and find certain qualities on multiple lists, place them on a separate list – this list will become the framework for your dream girl archetype.

Get introspective: After gaining some inspiration from those you admire, it’s essential to look inside yourself to acknowledge the characteristics and personality traits you like about yourself, your natural talents, skillset, and your motivation for wanting to become your dream girl – this desire for self-growth and perseverance should make it onto the list if you’re still reading this! Think about the compliments you receive, especially those that you regularly get from different people who don’t know each other. I find that these types of comments help us learn the most about how we’re perceived in the world. Add all of these characteristics, personality traits, talents, skillsets, etc. to your list.

Acknowledge your dark side: Get comfortable with your shadow self. If you have certain traits or habits holding you back from being your ideal self (i.e. people pleasing, self-sabotage, procrastinating, etc.), become curious and reflect on why you engage in these behaviors or uphold this mindset. Strategize ways to unlearn these characteristics and ways you move through the world that no longer serves you. Create a plan to dig yourself out of these self-destructive thought patterns and actions. Read books, speak with a therapist (if you can), and start journaling to come up with creative solutions to make changes in your daily life to prioritize yourself. Set up your environment in ways to help you win. Own your indulgent side - it makes you human. The sooner you align with your guilty pleasures, the better you get at indulging in them strategically. Have a small sweet treat every day if needed. Keep emotional distance from toxic loved ones. Make your feelings about your current hot hookup self-referential. Block out time to watch your favorite show.

Assert an active role in your life: Create healthy habits to make you feel good. Stop craving others’ approval – no one can be as happy for you as you are for yourself when you succeed. It’s okay to remind yourself we’re all a bit narcissistic – it’s human nature.

Construct your higher self: Once you’ve acknowledged the qualities you need to internalize to become your ideal self, discover the external qualities and habits you need to cultivate to build your dream girl. What does she wear, what’s her career, how does she speak, work through issues, engage in conversation? What are her habits like? Her morning and night routine? What does she read, watch, and listen to? What’s her social life like? How does she spend her leisure time? What does her space look like, her beauty, diet, and self-care routine? What quotes does she live by? Does she know other languages or about certain topics? How do others speak about her? Create as many inspiration boards and lists, journal entries, etc. as you need until you unlock all of these answers. You will know when some new characteristic, routine, or aesthetic resonates.

How To Write Your Personal Manifesto:

Essentially, this document (can be a journal entry, notes app entry, Google doc, etc.) is an amalgamation of your values, principles, habits, and boundaries. It’s a written reminder to yourself of who you truly are, decide to be, and promise to yourself to stick by your values no matter who tries to tear you down.

Create a mission statement of your ideal self and the qualities that validate this narrative. Essentially, practice the law of assumption by creating a series of personally-tailored affirmations that describe your self-concept and the woman you choose to be.

Write out all of the qualities listed above that you admire about yourself and emulate in your daily life. Affirm this self-concept. Feel free to use specific personal affirmations and attach related behaviors to your self-affirming characteristics (i.e. I make it my mission to show up with class and confidence in every area of my life. I’m mindful of how I speak to others, choose my words carefully – in person or in writing – and consider the feelings of the other person when engaging in conversation. I take my appearance seriously and aim to embody a seductive and alluring presence. I maintain a healthy diet, make almost all of my meals from fresh ingredients, go on long walks daily to take care of my body, tailor my closet with streamlined clothes made of high-quality fabrics that fit my body well, indulge in my makeup and beauty routines daily alongside wearing my signature scent. I’m an intellectual whose dedicated to learning more about the world every day – I read at least 10 pages of psychology, personal development, or a business-related book daily, etc.).

List out your boundaries and non-negotiables with yourself. Feel free to get specific with your boundaries to include all aspects of your life – with your work, family, friends, intimate relationships, dating, food, style, self-care habits, etc. Validate your needs. Add your ‘why’ to each of these boundaries and priorities to help you internalize them and to motivate yourself to uphold these standards despite any self-doubt or external criticisms.

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