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nikasholistic · 3 days

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Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between the imagined reality and the actual reality. Use this principle to your advantage. Visualize your desired outcome. Visualize your desired reality. Feel like you’re already living your dream life. Assume it. Affirm it. Embody the qualities of the person who’s already living your dream life.

That’s how you convince your subconscious mind that your desired reality is already here. Your subconscious mind is connected to the infinite mind and the universal mind. Your subconscious mind allows you to create, to manifest the things you want. So brainwash yourself for the reality you want to experience. Brainwash yourself for success, love, joy, and abundance. Brainwash yourself for a wonderful reality.

#manifesting #manifestation #self development #spirituality #abundance #energy #mindfulness #spilled ink #spilled words #prose

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honeytonedhottie · 2 days

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how to successfully rebrand⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

this post is a collaboration with my FAVORITE @prettieinpink. in this post we'll elaborate on rebranding urself and implementing change in a way that is not only efficient but not that difficult to do ✨

FLIP THE SCRIPT ;

write down who u wanna become. what ur goals are, what ur style is like, ur schedule, achievements, relationships etc. however instead of writing it like "it'll happen one day" write it as though it happened already.

on the flip side i want u to write down what u think hinders you or blocks u from making the rebrand that u want so desperately. ur weakness. then flip them and find solutions on how to deal with it entirely, or diminish it significantly.

EXPAND ON UR BEAUTY ;

learn how to do makeup that is suited for ur own features. learn which clothes and colors compliment and flatter you the best. when u try and use a cookie-cutter approach to beauty as a way to fit a standard, you won't feel/look ur best.

thats why its important to know your own self the very best. no one knows ur beauty and body like you do so only you know best how to make ur beauty bloom.

DEVELOP UR OWN STYLE ;

u dont have to follow along with every single trend that u see in the fashion industry. although its fun at times or the particular trend can inspire u to create more outfits, its important to have a sense of individuality when u dress.

i recommend creating a pinterest board and filling it up with clothes that u love and clothes that align with ur style. find a fashion inspiration or multiple if u dont know where to start. when u go shopping, reference this board and look for clothes that r similar to the clothes in ur pinterest board.

REFRESH BUTTON ;

block the numbers of people that keep u trapped in a version of urself that u no longer associate with. get comfy with the block button girlies!! you can control who sticks around you and you're directly responsible for protecting ur peace.

delete photos of people who are no longer in ur life (like, they hurt u or walked out of ur life/vice versa) change up ur environment and what ur staring at every single day. unfollow people on social media who dont inspire you/who make u feel bad about urself and where u are on ur rebranding journey.

ADAPT ;

remember that list that we made earlier? lets learn to adapt habits can cultivate that and make this rebrand thrive. identify nonsense in ur life and learn how to get comfortable with cutting it off.

EXECUTE ;

now its time to put everything that we've covered into a action with a few easy and simple steps.

do ur SWOT analysis (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats)

create solutions to what u classify as ur weakness

commit to yourself and your rebrand

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agirlwithglam · 2 days

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Collection of shadow work prompts:

(All from Pinterest)

#agirlwithglam🎀✨#vanilla self improvement⭐️#journalling #journal #shadow work #shadow journalling #journal prompts #journalling prompts #it girl #dream girl #self improvement #it girl energy #becoming that girl #self development #that girl #it girl journal #self love

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ros3ybabe · 9 hours

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Daily Check-in: April 18, 2024 🎀

Thursday was a good day. I did not do even half of what I had planned, but that's okay. I just need to get back on track with life again, now that things are balancing back out for me. I'm also really looking into seriously taking better care of myself, so that's fun! I really want to feel my best again.

🩷 What I Accomplished:

went to my psyc appointment + therapy appointment in person

made chicken tostadas for dinner

ordered groceries

cleaned my bathroom

swept my bedroom

put away clean laundry

took some well needed rest for myself

did my morning journaling

did my night time skincare

🩷 Good Things That Happened:

my therapy session went really good

the food I ate was super yummy

I tricked myself into drinking more water so I didn't end up all dehydrated

it was overall a very good, restful day

have an interview for a 2nd job on Monday!!!

💗 Stuff For Friday:

morning routine

night routine

work a ~5.5 hour shift

do my 6.5 hour class

go to bed at a good time

I don't ever plan much on Fridays because I have such a long day that I know I won't realistically get much done. Doesn't mean I'm not going to try tho!

til next time lovelies 🩷

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nodalstudies · 3 days

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⋆˚࿔ glow up challenge day 16/60 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

🥼 academics: attended class. i learned a lot doing this simulation with my class partner. he was really good at displaying aspects of therapeutic communication—i took mental notes for when i have to do patient interviews.

🥼 fitness: 10 min dumbbell workout, 10 min abs/thighs pilates, and took a walk 🌿

🥼 spiritual growth: journaled about life and priorities. i noticed that i naturally gravitate toward things that serve my peace—like finishing a task ahead of time or staying home to unwind. that’s my intuition. it’s not something i need to find outside of me. it’s always within and in the present.

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im-thea · 2 days

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Gentle glow up

Focusing on peace, experiencing life, nurturing yourself, doing what you love and caring for people you love. It’s quality over quantity, and happiness over achievement.

I want to improve myself, but I deeply value peace, calmness and slow life. I have tried, but I’m burning out on any kind of grind. That is why I have been creating this system of gentle glow up to have both improvements and relaxation.

Some people may believe you can only improve with hard, enduring work, but I believe you need to find what works for you personally. That is what works for me.

I want to share some of the principles of how to gently glow up:

Self-care is a priority (both physical and mental self-care)

Living regardless of external expectations and standards

Slow life, no rushing

Spending time on things that matter to you

No grind, but gentle progress (it may not be as fast, but you get to live a little, you know)

I’m personally against nonchalant attitude towards others (you need people you care about, really)

For most of the points, you’ll need a lot of self-reflection and reflection in general

A happy heart makes a pretty and successful person, I believe.

I will be making posts on the things I found important for this kind of glow up. Examples:

Slow life and how it helps with happiness and being true to yourself

Detaching from other’s expectations, FOMO, the need to rush and do more

Following your interests, not trends

Working smart, not hard

Harsh boundaries so you can keep being soft

Reasons to not be that person who “only cares about themselves” and “puts themselves first” to an unhealthy degree

Stop being unconsciously tense or agitated

Relaxing practices

Planning in a way that doesn’t feel restrictive

So follow, if you are interested or feel like your heart longs for something like this!

#glow up #it girl #self development #growth #self improvement #dream self #dream life #that girl #self helf #level up #gentle glow up #self healing #healing #self love #self care

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zzzzzestforlife · 3 days

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🌸 17 Sanity Challenge // Day 3 of 13 🩰

난 천천히 꾸준히 개선해요 (i am slowly, steadily improving) 🐢😌

🍚 i didn't let work stress me out, didn't overcommit, and helped a couple of colleagues ☺️

😼 Japanese lesson + Chinese lessons (2x)

⚔️ caught up with a friend ❤️

🍒 leg dayyy (mix of ballet exercises review, pilates, yoga)

🦦 세븐틴의 어느 멋진 날 끝~

🦊 comparative cognition review

🐶 cleaning fairy moment (but no music this time because i have a headache 🥲)

💌: 오늘 내 다 식사 먹었어 🐯 나도 선잠 있어 그리고 지금 아주 일찍 잠 😇

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spicesweet · 1 day

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rise & shine! ❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

take a deep breath. relax your jaw, your shoulders, your wrists, your neck. point your feet forward, then back, stretch your calves. take another deep breath. if you're reading this, you're fine, you're safe, you're on the right direction.

I'll give you a vision. you wake up early, no alarm clock, just your natural instinct. the love of your life, your best friend and lover, is sleeping soundly next to you, and as you leave the bed, they stretch comfortably to take up your warm space. the sun is just about to rise, the weather is cool. you wash your face and it feels smooth and velvety, your eyes are bright, your hair is glossy. you turn the heat on your hot beverage of choice, open up the windows and put on a fluffy sweater. your pet twirls around your legs, excited to see you. you drink a tall glass of water as the sun starts to paint the sky purple. you close your eyes and thank whoever it is you think has brought you to another daylight. then you stretch your limbs, crack your joints, and take the hot mug in your hands. you stand in the kitchen for a moment, taking in the scent, the warmth, the blessing of having another shot, another day of opportunity. the sun comes up and bathes the sky, your home and your kitchen in soft golden light.

we got another chance at life today! let's enjoy it ♡

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glowupwithamy · 10 hours

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Finish what you started and transform your productivity

Recently i picked up a book i hadn't read in a long time for the past week i hadn't been able to work properly my tasks were going unfinished so i opened my cupboard and saw that book right in front of me. Then i read the whole book in just a one night and it sparked inspiration in me ..So i thought why not share everything i learned with all of you?

So I'm giving you guys a structured summary of Finish The Art of Following Through - Taking Action, Executing & Self Discipline by Peter Hollins -

1. The Importance of Execution

The ability to follow through allows you to create the life you desire rather than settling for the one you currently have. The process consists of focus, self-discipline, action, and persistence

2. Barriers to Follow Through

- Inhibiting Tactics: These include setting bad goals, procrastination, succumbing to distractions, and poor time management.

- Psychological Roadblocks: These encompass laziness, fear of judgment or failure, perfectionism driven by insecurity, and lack of self-awareness.

3. Staying Motivated

To remain motivated holds both external and internal motivators -

- External Motivators: These involve utilizing other people or resources to encourage action, such as accountability partners upfront investments and self bribery

- Internal Motivators: These focus on understanding personal benefits and improvements. Ask yourself questions such as How will this benefit me? and How will my life improve?

4. Developing a Manifesto

A manifesto is a set of daily rules that guide your actions so her are the some key rules -

- Rule 1: Identify if you’re acting out of laziness and avoid it.

- Rule 2: Limit yourself to three major tasks per day.

- Rule 3: Establish daily limitations and requirements

- Rule 4: Reaffirm your intentions through statements like I want I , will and I won't

- Rule 5: Reflect on the future consequences of not following through

- Rule 6: Utilize the concept of "just 10 minutes" to push through discomfort.

5. Follow Through Mindsets

- Mindset 1: Recognize the worthiness of your efforts.

⭐ Mindset 2: Become comfortable with discomfort.

- Mindset 3: Understand that learning comes from completing tasks.

- Mindset 4: Manage stress and anxiety effectively

6. Overcoming Procrastination

Procrastination can be managed through strategies such as:

- Temptation Bundling: Combine unpleasant tasks with enjoyable activities.

- Creating Momentum: Make starting tasks as easy as possible to gain momentum.

- Leveraging Fear: Use productive paranoia to spur action but cautiously

7. Minimizing Distractions

Create a work environment free from distractions and focus on

⭐ Single Tasking: Avoid multitasking to eliminate attention residue ( I will also create a separate blog on this topic i used to face this problem earlier and i have used many methods to reduce my habit of multitasking so i will write a blog about it. Don't worry )

- Batching Tasks: Group similar tasks to improve efficiency.

- Creating a Don't-Do List : Identify tasks to ignore and avoid ( This method is literally too much helpful )

8. The 40–70 Rule

This rule suggests acting when you have 70% of the necessary information as waiting for 100% is unrealistic

9. The Importance of Rest

Recognize the value of rest and relaxation as essential for mental recovery

10. Common Pitfalls

- False Hope Syndrome: Avoid unrealistic expectations and set achievable goals.

- Overthinking: Avoid excessive rumination and focus on taking action.

- Worrying: Concentrate on the present and control what you can.

11. Developing Daily Systems

Establish daily behaviors that promote consistency and long term success

⭐ Keep a Scoreboard: Track progress for motivation ( Ive been using this method for the past four days it literally shows me where I am making mistakes and what I need to do to complete my unfinished tasks )

By following these structured advice you can improve your ability to finish what you start and achieve your goals

If you have any questions or tips to share feel free to drop them in the comments in here to chat , Stay connected for more tips and insights thanks :)

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crystalsenergy · 1 day

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We are all mirrors of each other...

literally 🪞

Don't cling to others' opinions.

They don't even represent the truth of things.

✨

Many times the people we deal with are dealing with THEIR OWN PROJECTIONS, they are not even looking at us for who we are. And we do the same with others. And reading about this, recognizing this, is so important, because then we stop projecting our own disorganized things onto others, as well as stop receiving so openly the projections of people as absolute truths of life.

How much of your opinions about others doesn't exactly reflect your view of them, but rather what you feel about yourself when looking at them? Some examples.

Examples:

The person who is already in their adulthood and who specifically has the frustration of not having lived their dreams, not having pursued something that fulfilled them, for various personal reasons of theirs.

It is something that calls for healing and harmonization of this, so that the person does not live with this unhappiness within themselves. However, many of us do not have the habit of reflecting on how much our past impacts our present, and neither on how much we have our baggage disorganized that we reflect onto others the who-o-le time.

So, the person in the example, older, and who has this specific issue of frustration, sees a young adult being independent, chasing their dreams.

Whenever dealing with a young person who reminds them of this, their ego immediately confronts with the information of "I wished I was living this", and this being's energy shifts to a position of envy, and sometimes it can even seek to harm the other person by inventing stories, distorting the other's independence into arrogance, gossiping, and so on.

And the "crazy" thing is that, believe it or not, this being tells themselves that they are doing this for reasons they invent for themselves ("this person is arrogant, look at them, all independent!") when, in reality, it is they who are constantly feeling uncomfortable with the strong and independent presence of the other. Low self-esteem and comparison, which unfortunately lead to envy.

The young person, in the example's case, doesn't need to say anything to the person for this to be triggered, because the ego, which is the primary channel through which we tend to have contacts with others, captures this information.

The ego will capture, will know that it is something that needs to be compensated internally but that the person, out of pride, out of ignorance, out of disinterest, out of stagnation, or whatever, did not run after correcting.

Knowing this, the ego, which has important functions for our psychic structure, but will always depend on how its "owner" conducts it, will deal with envy, as this is the way the person deals with things they receive from their surroundings and that "hit" them in the mirror effect, since, in reality, we all serve as mirrors to each other. All the time (and it was supposed to be a good thing, but the way we deal with it makes it bad).

The human ego is important,

but not the end of everything.

It is only a part of the mind's structure. It is limited, but it exists so that the human being, with their current limitations, deals little by little with what they can from the exchanges they make.

The conscious mind is limited. The unconscious, infinite (and we are more than 80% made of unconscious mind!).

The ego is the most active part in us, but it is not the only one that exists.

And so there is an axis to be activated, which is the Ego-Self axis, so that every human being knows that the place of the Ego is the place of support to live the moment, to deal with the moment.

The Ego is like a filter for consciousness to support and live. But it's not the end.

Therefore, not everything your conscious mind says is real.

The "conscious" mind needs to be refuted and reviewed by yourself, because it PROJECTS itself all the time, it is always in contact with others and taking to others what is uniquely its own (especially unresolved things, but also good things), as well as always bringing in what others say.

And if so, and if the Ego is in the part of consciousness but it is limited, does not reflect everything, it needs to be refuted. So that our mental life is healthier and truly conscious, in the pure and true sense of the word.

In the example, the person who is envying lacks independence and confidence to follow their own path internally, they are absent from it, it is something they know they do not have within them but that for their own well-being and dream, it would be important to have (after all, the more we live our lives in integrity, seeking to be and live more sides of ourselves, less restricted, limited, we will be, and your consciousness, deep down, knows this 🙌🌟).

Another important point to mention is: On the other side, if it is a person with traits of fear of judgment, fear of exclusion, this situation will negatively fit, making the being who is envying seem so right and the one who is afraid of judgment, feels down. It is important to take care of this to avoid further internal issues.

If you identify that someone is projecting onto you in a very negative way, step back, take care of it in yourself and let the other's internal work be their own. But, although difficult, avoid the issue of anger and revenge. This will keep you in this process longer than necessary.

Both people need help,

in the first case, for having a deep low self-esteem to the point of letting this splash onto others;

in the second case, for having a root of fear of judgment and fear of not pleasing others, which leads them to believe that the harshest and most negative criticisms that arise from people reflect reality.

Another example:

A woman who denies the experience of her feminine side in integrity (the issue of sexual self-awareness, for example) by conditioning herself to some kind of intense restriction, and who also experiences the difficulty of, when looking at any woman who does not do the same as her, judges, but it is not just any judgment, but rather a categorization and labeling, because for her the wound with the experience of other sides of her femininity is so limited, and, because she keeps denying this to herself, the anger at those who live in freedom arises and increases whenever she encounters such a person.

It is important for both sides to take care of this, the first, who is emanating and projecting, the second, so that their internal difficulties with fear of judgment or something similar, do not increase.

Everything can be reversed into an opportunity for healing! Heal, heal, heal, still and especially if the person has come, in malice, because of their projection, to hurt me.

These are just some of the various examples we could give to illustrate how our opinions about others and the opinions they give are not always what things really are.

Don't cling to others' opinions.

They don't even represent the truth of things.

Many times the people we deal with are dealing with THEIR OWN PROJECTIONS, they are not even looking at us for who we are. And we do the same with others.

And reading about this, recognizing this, is so important, because then we stop projecting our own disorganized things onto others, as well as stop receiving so openly the projections of people as absolute truths of life.

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nikasholistic · 23 hours

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Allow yourself to daydream and fantasize. Feel like the person you want to be. Feel like the person who already has this manifestation. Emphasize these emotions. Allow them to permeate your being. Allow them to work magic in your life. Emotion is energy in motion. When you feel it, you create it.

#law of attraction #manifestation #manifesting #spirituality #self development #spilled ink #spilled words #prose

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sugarsprinklesoul · 2 months

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Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

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agirlwithglam · 2 days

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Motivation: things to like about these subjects

Math:

Isn’t math kinda magical in a way? See, the thing about math is that it’s the same in every country! Every equation, no matter how hard or complex or long, can easily be broken down into much easier ones, (like simple adding, multiplying, dividing, or subtracting) Once you know what’s going on, it’s not really that hard. (+ take cute notes!!)

Science:

Ookay, honestly? Science is genuinely so interesting! How your body works, how plants create their own food, how the whole solar system was made/ operates, whether there’s other life out there, chemical reactions & experiments? If you actually tried to be fascinated by it, you’ll be surprised how incredible it all is! (+ take cute notes!!)

English:

Me personally, I loveee English. You can too by trying to romanticise it!

If you’re doing poetry, like what’s there not to like? Poetry is such a beautiful language, it’s a way of expression through gentleness.

Writing short stories? This is my favourite. You can write it about anything, the possibilities are endless! Doesn’t it excite you?

History

Don’t try to remember facts and dates of events, try to learn the story behind it. You’ll find that it actually becomes so much more interesting if you remember the story, the emotions, the plots of the event.

Romanticising: hot chocolate or some hot coffee, studying at home, hair in a messy bun, playing some classical music in the background.

(+ also in class when you’re taking notes, you can doodle pictures of the people (stick figures for me lol), how they’d feel like or events on the side to add a bit of fun to it)

And honestly, history is such ‘romance subject’ (like arts, music, literature, languages)

Geography

Become good at it. If you don’t already have an interest in geography, then what helped me was becoming good at it. Paying attention during lessons, taking cute notes, etc. becoming good at it made it so much easier and less scary

Languages

This is also what I’d call a “Romance language”. Also dont you want to learn new languages? So many people decide to learn languages later in their lives because they find out it helps you in one way or another, but in school they’re already teaching it to you in the BEST WAY! Also knowing and being able to speak more than 1 languages fluently makes you SO powerful bc then you can speak in more countries. And also imagine how impressed people would be?!

Music

Have fun with it! It mostly depends on what you are doing in your music lessons, but what you would normally be doing is learning/ practicing an instrument. Don’t be immature and play it at random times when the teacher is talking, but just have fun with it! Again, like i said earlier, so many people start to learn music so much later in their lives and here it is being handed to you on a silver platter. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT!

Art / art&design

Personally, I LOVE art!! It’s another “romance subject”. It’s a beautiful form of expression. Even though you may not be doing what you want to be doing, still have fun with it!! Be creative! And importantly: loosen up! Art, like beauty, is very very subjective. One person’s scribble can be another’s MASTERPIECE! So stop bring so worried with it being “correct”. Just have appreciation.

P.E (physical education/ sport)

I just don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t like PE. Like you don’t even have to learn anything, you just run around playing fun games. And as a bonus u get fit!

xoxo, vanilla

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ros3ybabe · 2 days

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Daily Check-in: April 16, 2024 🎀

Tuesday did indeed get better! I got so much done despite not getting out of bed until 630am (I'm usually up by 530am), and I was so tired, but I'm proud of myself.

🩷 What I Accomplished:

completed the 11 minute wake up yoga by Yoga with Adriene

did the 16 minute yoga for flexibility by Yoga with Adriene

did my morning and night time skincare + showered after work before going to bed

worked a ~7.5 hour shift

completed my Spanish study tasks

took a quiz in my supplemental chem class and got 3rd place

took notes on acids and bases in chemistry

🩷 Good Things That Happened:

got an email from the Colorado work manager confirming some details about working this summer!! super excited!!!

me and my boyfriend talked some things out and things are looking up

got to work a couple hours with my favorite supervisor

had a really good day at work

got out of work by 10pm

🩷 What Could've Been Better:

did not eat very well (the dining hall was celebrating national mushroom day, and I'm allergic to mushrooms, so I bought chick fil a. and my breakfast was a quickly eaten bowl of pasta)

did not drink enough water, but I am working on that!

didn't study as much as I could've

didn't check in with my accountability buddies before the end of day

still haven't video called woth my boyfriend since Thursday of last week

💗 Stuff For Wednesday:

email psyc doc to move appointment to zoom

print papers before meeting with the director of my 1st degree major program

eat a good breakfast

study chemistry for a bit longer

complete lab report, pre lab quiz, and pre lab prep

study Spanish + complete my study tasks

wash my laundry

Here's to hopefully having a happy Wednesday! I wish you all the same 💞

til next time lovelies 🩷

p.s Check Out My Depop shop if you can! will be adding more listings soon!

💕 Song of The Day

BTS - House of Cards

This song was hitting all the right spots when I was closing at work. I forget how amazing it is until I hear it and ughhh how beautiful

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the-joy-of-knowledge · 3 months

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25 Laws of power for women

Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.

Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon

Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.

Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say “I forget my keys all the time,” “I don’t know how to perfectly park a car “. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.

Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.

Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other women’s style

Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.

You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.

Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!

Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.

Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.

We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, don’t expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.

Don’t attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.

Choose yourself all the time; never put any one’s feelings above yours.

Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go

Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.

Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them

Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then don’t ask them for their opinions or please them.

Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.

Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.

Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.

Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.

Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isn’t subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.

Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Don’t push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.

Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.

Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.

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4theitgirls · 11 days

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the it girl’s spring cleaning

phone reset

delete old contacts and messages

go through social media following

delete unused apps

go through photos

set a new wallpaper

add widgets for reminders, weather, battery, etc.

delete old songs and add new ones

environmental reset

clean your bedroom (vacuum, dust, put clothes away, etc.)

sort through and donate old clothes

organize your makeup, skincare, etc.

wash or change your bedsheets

rearrange your bedroom

open your windows and curtains to let fresh air in

get outdoors

clean your home with fresh scented products (lemon, lavender, etc.)

physical reset

try a new workout routine

get some new outfits

do a face mask

exfoliate and shave

oil your hair or do a hair mask

try a new hair color, cut, or style

do your nails or get your nails done

get some fresh makeup and try a new makeup routine

do a lip mask and scrub

mental reset

start journaling or try some new prompts

do a refreshing meditation

try a new yoga practice or workout

read instead of scrolling

put a time limit on your phone usage

reset your sleep schedule

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