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malusokay · 2 days
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Learning to love yourself 𝜗𝜚˚⋆
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Celebrate yourself. Every accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged, no matter how big or small. Stop putting yourself down by thinking that you don't deserve to celebrate your achievements just because others have accomplished "greater things." Also, there is so much fun in hyping small wins; call your girlfriend, bake a cake, and enjoy yourself!!
Invest time in things that you love. Doing what makes you happy is essential for your mental health. It's so important to pursue one's small and simple pleasures without the intention of turning them into profit!!
Boundaries and relationships. Learn to say no, define and set boundaries, question your current relationships and friendships, and distance yourself from people who make you feel unloved or worthless.
Allow yourself to grow. Let go of the notion that you are undeserving of growth. Acknowledge the past for what it is, learn from it, and grow from it.
Refelct. Getting to know yourself deeply is key to self-love; journaling is a great way to reflect. Ask yourself questions, question your habits, observe how you respond in certain situations, etc...
Trust yourself and your intuition. Listen to yourself, and don't dismiss the small cues that your inner voice gives you!!
Care for yourself. It is not selfish to look after yourself. Start exercising, eat balanced and healthy, stay hydrated, educate yourself, read complex literature, consume media mindfully, prioritise your sleep and routines, care for your skin and hair...
Be patient. Self-love takes time; you must slowly unpack and unlearn past habits, confront uncomfortable thoughts and memories, and gain a deep understanding of yourself. Give yourself time and approach this as a journey to enjoy. <3
You guys ALWAYS ask about self-love and confidence, sooo I hope this can be a little helpful to some of you and as always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡
love ya ・:*₊‧౨ৎ
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honeytonedhottie · 3 days
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how to feel enough⋆.ೃ࿔*:・🍦
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STOP COMPARING URSELF TO OTHERS ;
comparison is the thief of joy. why should you compare yourself to other people? thats like comparing an apple to an orange, or a lily to a rose. everyone is uniquely different and no one person is the same.
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to have a fair comparison, both things that ur comparing must be the same and since no one person is the same as another, comparing urself to others is illogical and incorrect. its unfair.
CHECK ON HOW YOU'VE GROWN ;
check on how you've blossomed and grown as a person by keeping track of achievements, big or small, or milestones to remind yourself that YOUR LITERALLY AMAZING. when you are consistent and persistent, when u look back and see how far that you've come its like a major confidence boost.
doing this regularly reminds yourself that you are not inadequate and that you are competent and capable of amazing things. dont be afraid to remind urself of who you are.
FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS ;
just because you might feel like ur not enough sometimes, doesn't mean that its true. remind urself of ur core facts through affirmations, journalling, whatever u like. remember that
you are who you say you are
you are more than enough
and you are an incredible human being
identify the lies that you've believed about urself/the lies that people told u about urself. once you've identified these lies, work on changing them to truth. (im not enough -> im more than enough)
and remember that your talented, beautiful, kind, hot, WHATEVER U WANNA BE. the choice is yours, mwah ✨
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thatsbelievable · 2 days
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caringcoffeechats · 3 days
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what if the goal is not to survive but to thrive? what if the reality is that you have so much good in your future that it was worth staying around? I will never say the bad was necessary or worth it because I have never and will never believe that. but what if the point of it all is to end at a spot much greater than where you started? what if your future is so bright it blurs out the darkness of the past? happiness exists and it’s so beautiful and it does not just come in small ounces it comes in big waves and those of us who were deprived of it feel it tenfold. i used to think things don’t get better, you just get better at handling things. turns out things get better AND you get better. it’s a win-win. you don’t have to stick around for anyone else. stick around for yourself.
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onehundredwishesss · 3 days
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Daily affirmations before sleeping:
• I am safe and protected
• I let go of fears and worries
• I let go of anger and resentment
• I am grateful for everything
• I am doing enough
• I am proud of myself
• I am beautiful and smart
• I deserve a good night sleep
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seven-involve · 10 hours
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lipikkawrites · 2 days
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Nobody is your friend until they defend your name in your absence.
-@lipikkawrites
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cheesemenace · 3 days
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Does anyone have any advice for finding/getting into a queer-platonic relationship? Or just any advice related to the subject?
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aught FUCK im midas but with RADIATION POSIONING everything i touch turns to FRANCIUM HELP
Hoo boy, someone got a “blessing” from the First National Church of the Radiant Heart.
The FNCotRH is a cult that worships (and is mostly immune to the ravages of) radiation. They mostly went underground in the 90’s, but we have reason to believe they’re still around and still active in various parts of the world, particularly the PNW, the Pripyat region, rural Mexico, and Fukushima. I should really do a big article about them, but you can find more information by checking on the Radiant Heart “tag” I’m told appear under posts about them, thanks to social media expert Jenny.
For you specifically, stay very, very still. We can ameliorate the worst effects of your, uh. Effect, but be prepared to basically live in a hazmat suit for a few weeks while we unwind the radiomancy. We’ll send some people by - look for the big grey radiation suits, can’t miss them.
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flowerflowerflo · 19 hours
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⋆° 𐙚 criticism ₊°⋆
𝟅𝟈 criticism
• the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes
𝟅𝟈 constructive criticism
• actionable, honest, clear, and beneficial feedback & advice
🩰𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICISM
simple answer? you don't.
you do not take criticism from anybody. nobody has the right to comment on you, your life and your actions because they aren't you, and nobody ever will be. they don't get a say.
say for example somebody has a problem with the way you dress or an interest you have. you think about it and get insecure or upset about it, and then you try to act differently. this is letting someone get to you all based on their opinions, their views, their life, their experience. not yours.
ml do not listen to a word anybody says about you. the way to deal with people if theyre trying to judge you, hurt you, mock you, ridicule you or anything else? you don't.
this is YOUR life, not theirs; everything we do is based off of what we've learnt, what we've been through, and so on. nothing gives them the right to judge you because they know nothing about you and they never will. you are the only one who really knows you and who will ever really know you, so the only one who has the right to judge you and comment on you is you.
🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO DEAL WITH CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM
despite the fact criticism & constructive criticism are two sides of the same coin, the two are very very different. unlike criticism, constructive criticism is something you should accept, acknowledge and actively encourage at every opportunity.
constructive criticism is very important to grow and learn as a person. even if external opinions are irrelevant, they can sometimes be helpful for personal growth and correcting mistakes and learning from them.
if you are somebody who gets offended very easily and find yourself in a position where you are being criticised, take a moment to puzzle out whether what they are saying is constructive or if its just them being shitty. if you can learn from it, its constructive. if it just hurts you, its not.
🐰𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE
constructive criticism is often kinder and more of a suggestion than a judgement. it is often something you can change like fairly quick, like cleaning off your clothes or changing an answer in a test.
criticism is often phrased more harshly and isnt something you can change quickly, like your weight or personality etc.
all in all, dont take shit from anybody. listen and learn but an ounce of disrespect and you're gone. you're worth more than that babe 💓💖💞
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bubblegum-gloss · 23 hours
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Friendly reminder: The 3D is so dumb. if it doesn't show your desires, who cares? You know what you are and what your circumstances are! You know your worth! Don't depend on the 3D for that ♡
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honeytonedhottie · 13 hours
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how to deal with self doubt in manifesting⋆.ೃ࿔*:・🌸
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the stem of most people’s self doubt in manifestation is the plaguing thought of “am i doing something wrong?” i know bcuz i fell victim to this reoccurring thought and it made everything harder then it had to be. 
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manifestation is EASY. the easiest thing in the world even, it’s so simple but bcuz it’s illogical most ppl have a hard time believing that it can be so easy. manifestation is SUPPOSED to be easy, so if it feels easy for you that doesn’t mean that ur doing something wrong. 
when u experience self doubt what you SHOULDNT do is browse tumblr or scroll on social media looking to consume more loa content, the opinions of others etc. you already know how to manifest. you are in control. what u need to remember is ; 
the thoughts that u persist in will manifest
all u need to do is persist in only the thoughts that u want 
meaning that u need to be conscious of ur thoughts a majority of the time 
your doing everything right and everything that u desire is already guaranteed and YOURS ALREADY. so stop looking for reasons ur doing something wrong. if ur persisting in ur new thoughts then ur doing everything right. all u need to do is keep going. 
i feel like 90% of loa “failure” can be explained by people who wavered (aka they didn’t keep going) so this post is ur reminder to NOT LET THAT BE YOU. if u want ur manifestations then keep going, it’s all up to you and you know what you’re doing, own it. 
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thatsbelievable · 2 days
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ash-says · 3 days
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Saviour Complex Fever:
Let's address the saviour Complex today and no I am not talking here only in the romantic sense but also in platonic, familial,etc ways.
Ohh my traumatized girlies you better get your attention piqued up here cause this can be a call out or triggering post.
Speaking in my corporate babe language I am going to adopt both top to bottom and bottom to top approach to make sure you understand the problem. So without circumventing much I am going in for the goal.
1) Top to bottom Approach:
Starting with the OG," I can fix them" attitude.
Calm down babe, you can't. How about first fixing your sleep schedule for the starters?
We usually see this attitude being discussed a lot in the romantic hemisphere but I profoundly believe it plays a pivotal role in other bonds we have with people and tend to bleed into our romantic life so on and so forth.
Example: Take a child who is five years old and the parents are irresponsible. The child learns early on not only to look after itself but also acts as a therapist to his parents if one of them has zero sense of emotional boundaries and tends to trauma dump on the child. The child will look for ways in which he/she can make things easier and happier for the parent. In a way try to fix the parent and take on the role of being an adult.
How does it affect the bonds you create as an adult?
You become the mom friend.
The mama duck of the group who is always making sure everyone is taken care of properly.
You go above and beyond your comfort to help your friends out.
Take responsibility for your immediate surroundings.
Always trying to be the best and act like a saviour.
Last but not the least, people violate your boundaries time and time again but you forgive them and treat them like a child despite them being functioning adults.
So your homework is to assess your friendships, familial relationships, romantic relationships and check whether you are babysitting a adult?
If yes, are you getting paid for it enough?
No, drop the role.
2) Bottom to Top Approach:
Even the saviour dreams of being saved at times.
One of the potent reasons we tend to pick on the saviour role is because deep down we want to be saved. Salvation is what we desire.
Someone to lean on. A rock solid support. To lower our guards and be present without a worry.
Then we are faced with the harsh realities and realise it's not as simple as we think it is.
Therefore, whenever we see someone in need our instinct activates and we automatically start babysitting. We fill the void by embodying the persona that we deeply crave in our life.
It's the Chiron in us. We take on the role of the wounded healer.
That's where you need to remind yourself you don't need an external person or support to protect you. Many times we are sold this idea that we are fixed by someone else.
It's your job to fix your own house. Not your neighbours.
Your body, your mental health is where your spirit lives. Others can aid you but at the end of the day you won't be trusting your house to a total stranger. It's you who takes control and dictates the course of it.
So kill this idea that someone out there is going to walk into your life and then everything will be rainbows and roses.
Fine, if you believe life is a Disney movie you can go ahead and kiss a couple of frogs to find your prince charming. Your life, your rules.
But don't be surprised if you catch a disease or two while kissing the frogs .
After all, I always say:
There are no fucking saviours in real life. You are your own saviour, darling.
And if you do want to be a mother badly there are plenty of orphaned kids out there you can spend some time with them rather than those ungrateful, therapy inducing, namesake adults.
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kittiecode · 3 days
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Are you even ready for your manifestations to come?
Let me explain..
We all have a version of ourselves in our heads that we assume we'd automatically become as soon as our manifestations come to fruition for us in our reality, but what we fail to remember is that we are the only ones in control of our personal actions and behaviors. Your manifestation arriving for you isn't going to forcefully wake you up at a good time in the morning, force you to get up and do your skincare routine, to take care of your oral hygiene, get you to do your workout routine etc
One of the worst things is being caught off guard.. Your manifestation is finally here, maybe it was an SP. He asked you out on a date.. for tomorrow morning.
Oh but your nails aren't done! Your hair is the most brittle and dry it's ever been! Your entire body is in need of an exfoliation! You always imagined yourself being fitter, more toned, with healthier hair, clearer skin, being perfectly groomed at all times whenever you imagined being in a relationship, especially with your SP.
Your manifestation has presented itself for you to experience, and you're a second away from damn near rejecting it because you're not who you wanted to be when you imagined receiving it.
You've sat in your room with oily hair, chipped nails, grown out pedicures, the same pajamas from 2 days ago and all the effort and energy has gone to getting a guy to want you. Now he does, and you're not ready for it.
Take your mind off of your manifestation and give it time to solidify in your reality while you start moulding yourself into who you know you want to be. It'll take the pressure off of you and remove a ton of the anxiety you're probably experiencing as you impatiently wait for your manifestations.
In the meantime, get yourself to where you know you want to be. Get used to regular maintenance routines. You're not forgetting about your manifestation by taking your focus off of it, you're actually welcoming it in even more by reducing the amount of resistance you may feel towards it because you subconsciously know you would be too insecure to accept it if it came.
You're prepping yourself which is helping you to prep your entire being for what you want to experience.
Don't let the experiences of your dreams pass you by. Dream girls get their dream worlds. You're just as important as your manifestations
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