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cooki3face · 1 year

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People wonder all the time where they went wrong with their children, they think how do i teach my children to be kind people, to be pure-hearted, and to be able to make decisions about who they want to be or what they want to do within their lifetime. And I believe a whole lot of that comes down to letting your child express themselves in ways in which they please while continuing to remind them to be kind. People teach their children to be “kind” with the expectation of receiving something from someone else, with punishment, etc.

Something someone said that stuck out to me was that children and people should never be forced to share because they’ll get in trouble if they don’t or because someone else will react to them harshly for not sharing. What’s theirs is theirs. Sharing should be out of the kindness of one’s heart, because you care for someone, because you respect someone, because you love someone, because you respect yourself and so you carry yourself as someone who does. And I think that really matters and makes a difference. You’re not teaching your children to be “nice” in a performative manner to meet other people’s expectations or for superficial rewards or reactions because then they’ll probably grow up to not be so nice or they’ll grow up to put themselves on the back burner in the name of others and bring themselves harm. You’re teaching your children to be KIND because they are genuine…good and honest people, and they respect others, they respect themselves and they act accordingly.

It is the same as your child is not obedient because he/she respects and loves you your child is obedient because they fear you and are afraid of what you will do if they make mistakes or aren’t obedient all of the time.

Raise your children genuinely, teach them to do things the right way, so they may grow up to be good people. Not for temporary fixes or to appease others in superficial ways.

#healingjourney #self healing #inner child #childhood healing #childhood trauma #parenting #gentle parenting #bad parenting #parenting problems

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severussnapemylove · 4 months

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Some people in real life may find it strange, but little things like using my Hedwig bag or my Hogwarts house coffee mug and making Harry Potter memes brings me a lot of happiness.

#harry potter universe #childhood healing #healing your inner child

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moonlit-positivity · 4 months

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Here is something really hard to hear: you're so attached to your FP (favorite person) because the adults in your life as a child failed to give you a safe, stable, and secure attachment while you were growing up, and maybe there was even a lot of abuse, neglect, or dysfunction present or maybe you spent your entire childhood having to prioritize your parent's emotional needs while your needs as the child went neglected, so now as an adult you are constantly seeking that missed connection, that missed safety, in those around you to fulfill that. And the harsh reality is that inevitably your FP will let you down because other people cannot fulfill what our parents should have been there to give us. You're closeness to your FP, your thoughts and feelings of just wanting to be utterly consumed by their presence? Thats your childhood speaking. You're fears of being alone and abandoned again? Your child self is cowering in fear constantly reliving the heartaches of your parent's instabilities and neglect. Take a lot of that guilt and pressure off of yourself, but inevitably we will have to confront the fact that our parents have failed us and that other people cannot fill that void in the way we are needing that void to be filled. That void can only be filled by replacing this dysfunctional definition of enmeshed love with the healthier definition of you finding your own strength and autonomy and reclaiming your individuality from that of your parents. This is what the emotional work of codependency & attachment theory healing looks like.

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conscious-love · 2 years

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priscilla.abji.therapy ~ Instagram

#priscilla.abji.therapy #love #relationships #parenting #conditioning #attachment style #attachment theory #healthy love #unhealthy love #healthy relationships #unhealthy relationships #toxic love #healing #childhood healing #personal growth #relationship advice

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lonelypoetandiknowit · 1 year

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I will be kind because I know what hatred does to a child.

I will show love because I know what it is to not feel loved.

I will include because I know what is it to be left out.

I will have warmth and happiness in my house because I know what it is to be tolerated instead of welcomed.

I will have tea, coffee, fresh homemade pastries in my kitchen, always.

I will have blankets in the living room for chilly nights.

I will have guest rooms always prepared.

I will be a listening ear and offer advice if asked, no tricks, just love.

I will have ample music and books at my disposal, available for lending if someone were to ask.

I will be a teacher of what to do, not of what to avoid becoming.

I will heal and grow and be a support when others need me to be.

No, i won’t become vengeful, because I know what it is to have your family be fueled by vengeance.

But do not think for a moment I have forgotten what it feels like.

To be abandoned.

Left for the vultures to pick apart at their leisure.

My fury still roils in my veins, ready to strike if need be.

But I have been struck when I did not evoke such fury.

So I shall keep my rage in check, save for those who actually deserve it.

The woman that knows only anger, wrath, and vulgar lawlessness still lives inside me.

But unlike my predecessors, I shall not exhibit these things and call them love.

My love will not seek to harm or hurt.

My love will not be revoked for punishment.

My love will not be given as an exchange for obedience.

It will be judgment free, contingency free, guiltless love.

I will give that love not as a bargain but as a reflex.

I will become all of this and more.

I will become the person I needed.

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pwecie · 4 months

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I GOT ONE! I FUCKING GOT ONE!

IT TOOK 12 YEARS OF ME ASKING BUT I FINALLY GOT ONE!

For context, every YEAR I would ask my father for one of these but he and my paternal grandmother would manipulate me into wanting a Barbie doll as if this year it was gonna be better. It never was. Yeah, I liked the silky hair and the pretty dress but it was all the same. In the end, it was my brother who always ended up getting the Hess truck and I was stuck with cheap Barbie dolls. NOT ANYMORE FUCK YOU DAD I GOT A GODDAMN HESS TRUCK OF MY OWN! FIGHT THE POWER! LITTLE GIRLS DESERVE HESS TRUCKS, TOO!

Thanks for the truck, Grammy! (๑>◡<๑)

#hess truck #no seriously #I’ve been asking since I was little #childhood healing #christmas

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fiore244 · 6 months

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My type of childhood healing is going all in on whatever interest I have at the moment.

Into vogue magazines?

Buy the whole collection.

Vintage watches?

Go to every thrift and antique store nearby to find them.

#it works fr #childhood healing #thoughts #and prayers for my bank account

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judas-redeemed · 1 year

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sometimes i wish i could grab my childhood self and shake them by the shoulders and say YOU'RE GOOD. YOU'RE WORTH LOVING. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHOSE LIVES ARE MADE BETTER BECAUSE OF YOU. YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. YOU ARE NOT DAMNED. SOMEDAY YOU WILL CRY OVER SUNSETS AND POETRY MORE THAN YOUR OWN PAIN. I NEED YOU TO REMEMBER THAT YOU'RE GOOD. YOU'RE WORTH LOVING. but i can't go back in time, so i say it to myself now. because i believe there's a future version of me looking back on this moment feeling the exact same way.

#judas talks #on childhood #on healing #poetry #kind of?

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cooki3face · 1 year

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Ignore any typos I was typing very fast.

#limerence #childhood #childhood healing #childhood trauma #inner child healing #inner child #cptsd #self improvement #self discovery #healingjourney #self healing

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recoverr · 5 months

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you're not a monster. you're you. you're flawed, yes, but you're also incredibly alive. just human. real. capable of great things, capable of change and growth, too. don't define yourself by the inner critic lashing out at you. you're not your worst moments.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #trauma recovery #cptsd recovery #post traumatic stress disorder #complex ptsd #childhood trauma #trauma #mine.

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shyranno · 2 months

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Here, have more Dad Maul--i hope it helps the dopamine because it for sure helped mine ;u;;

#star wars #fan art #darth maul #maul #jedi au maul #happy au #dad maul #ive been drawing an inordinate amount of him #i just dont post all of my junk #he makes me happy #not me healing my childhood wounds through fiction

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conscious-love · 2 years

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bryancounselinginc ~ Instagram

#bryancounselinginc #Sara Bryan #shame #unmet needs #healing #recovery #childhood healing #inner child #worthy #self worth #broken #reassurance #validation #personal growth #self awareness #self love

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harmoonix · 4 days

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🧚🏼‍♀️Fαιɾყƈσɾҽ🧚🏼‍♀️

*Unlock your inner fairy*

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Come away with me now to the sky

Up all the hills and the sea

Far beyond where memories lie

To a place where Im free to be me

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🧚🏼‍♀️ - Earth Risings (Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo) have that amazing personality thanks to their strong aura and energy. They're that chill yet wholesome person

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Midheaven in Fire Signs will mostly wanna have a job based on their desires and on what they truly want/desire from life

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Having your 4H in an earth sign it can indicate your home can be your biggest comfort, out of all the places

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Moon aspecting the Ascendant brings that type "serene" energy to the native, calm, peaceful, I love how they resemble those things

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Saturn aspecting Venus want a high standard relationship because for them loyalty and teamwork matters a lot in the relationship

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Pluto aspecting Sun/Moon/Ascendant can be judged for who their are, or heavy criticized, it's important to be you even if you have haters

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Moon in Gemini/Gemini Degrees 3°, 15°, 27° moon loves this energy of self - expressing, I always think about this placement as "life in colors"

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Neptune aspecting Mars will always have a fiery energy, is electrifying and yet charismatic, full of boosts of energy

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Juno aspecting the IC (4th house) will have that familiy oriented spouse, possibly someone who wants also to live a traditional marriage life

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Let the stars fill your soul, when the moon cradles all

So, to yourself be true

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🧚🏼‍♀️ - When you have your North Node in your 9H you gonna decide which faith you wanna follow, which religion, education, schools, you have free will in that area

🧚🏼‍♀️ - North Node in the 3rd/5th house gives you the chance to express yourself how you want, you achieve things in your life by being yourself

🧚🏼‍♀️ - When you have your Mars in your 3rd/6th or 8th house Mars will react either very energetic either very tired. It's important to keep a balance between how lazy you are and how productive you are

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Water Suns can easily attach emotionally by others, crying in the same time?? Girl yes! Telling your secrets to each other? Girl no! There always should be a boundary between you and your emotional side

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Neptune in the 2H/4H/9H/12H can come from a background with a spiritual family, like your family members can be into spirituality

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Mars/Pluto or Venus in the 5H get tempted easily, like their lust is overdosed here, take care at your temptations especially if you're in relationship

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Suns in the 12H can have a various impacts, on the good side this placement can help at growing spirituality and the bad side it is that it will make you to self - doubt a lot (You're worth it🫶🏼)

🧚🏼‍♀️ - I already said in numerous posts that Venus in Earth Signs men are gentlemen, like their aura is screaming that (GENTLEMAN/MY MAN) I'm looking at Taurus Venus while saying this ofc

🧚🏼‍♀️ - My Juno is in fucking Aquarius okay..so there was once an Aquarius Sun guy who saw me as his "relationship material" and I was like "Um nope" his Juno was in Capricorn while my Sun is in Capricorn and I had no like for him 😅🫶🏼

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Can we appreciate Capricorns for wanting to date older people so they don't have to suffocate themselves with the ones who have not matured at a certain time

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Cancer Moons will basically attach to your heart like a spider cloth, and it maybe devour it at some point. If you love them they gonna "devour" your love

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Moon in the 1st/3rd/5th/9th houses love to party and enjoy life, the soul of the party placement literally

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Juno in 2H/Juno in Taurus is giving spoiling spouse,girl "you wake up with 24k gold earrings beside your bed from your spouse"energy

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Aries/Scorpio and Sagittarius Mars are those bad bitches who nobody plays with like, they don't accept it

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Mars in the 11H or Mars in Aquarius can become quite obsessive/possesive around their friends but in the same time can have lots of conflicts with them because after all Mars is the planet of war

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Stellium or lots of placements in the 9th house can show love for traveling/exploring/ even learning new things

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Stellium in the 5th house or in Leo can indicate a lot creativity, a very talented person, can indicate you love being yourself as well

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Juno in the 11H or in Aquarius can indicate your husband will for sure be one of your closest friends

🧚🏼‍♀️ - If someone has Pluto - Sun aspects you can tell they can be misunderstood a lot, is hard to fit in the norm if you're just trying to make a difference

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Aquarius Suns and Risings are different from their family members or relatives, like when you go for example and visit their family, these natives will always stand out of them

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Sun in your 6H/12H can make you just tired or drained easily, try to not force yourself to do certain things if you don't really want that

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Mars in the 1H/Aries Mars is an icon placement, it shows a lot of motivation and energy towards the things you wanna do in your life

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Jupiter conjunct/trine/sextile Mars makes you extremely ambitious, very desirable, and you can actually manifest things so fast with these placements

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Venus aspecting the Midheaven (in good aspects) can be appreciated at their work for their personality/aura/vibe

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Having more Cardinal Signs in your chart than others (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) shows you're not afraid of change, sudden changes, you're ready for everything that comes in your life

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Chiron aspecting Ascendant (all aspects) can indicate a very big journey when it comes to self - discovering and healing yourself!! Your healing era is precious

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Having your 8H in a fire sign shows a person who is very sensual/passionate/has lot of desires and lots of naughty thoughts

🧚🏼‍♀️ - When you and a person share the same Lilith sign, you can both understand eachother on a psychic level, you can also tell which bad traits you have to eachother

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Pisces Saturn has a lesson about becoming more spiritual and finding your inner faith in a way, being more connected with yourself

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Sun/Lilith or Saturn in the 10H can have really big issues with their dads, the dad can be controlling/strict or just mean with some of these placements

🧚🏼‍♀️ - Chiron in the 2H can also be about being more healthy in your diet, like eating more healthy food and keep a balance in your body