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thesadisticprince · 5 months

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"why is that grandiosity there what purpose does it serve? you put in narcissism in treatment and you find an emptiness a sense of nothingness behind the grandiosity. i think what most people are missing when they talk about the popular conception of narcissism is that narcissism is a compensatory psychological stance - it's to make up for something that's missing within the self. narcissists do not have a core sense of self they have a core sense of emptiness so to not be horrified and depressed and distressed by their own emptiness they build what we call a pathological grandiose self a narrative of the self"

frank yeomans

#npd #narcissism #pathological narcissism #narcissist #narcissist recovery #actually narcissistic

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chaos-in-one · 1 year

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People with npd: Hey can we not be treated like abusers just for our disorder and be treated like actual human beings instead of monsters?

'Narc abuse' mfs: Is this an excuse to trauma dump on a complete stranger who is most likely a trauma survivor already?

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gayandconfusedmotherfucker · 24 days

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This is probably super niche but fuck it, this is gonna be a long one so buckle up lmao. Have y’all ever had someone in your life claim that they are something that you are, just so they can excuse themselves?

I am autistic, and have some other autistic family members. But I have someone in my life that claims to also be autistic while also getting angry (full on screaming and punishing) whenever I or someone else shows traits of being autistic. But then will turn around and cry/complain about how awful it is for them and how they need all these accommodations (when they throw an entire temper tantrum if they have to be accommodating towards me or the other autistic people in my life).

I am the type of autistic person that is EXTREMELY GOOD at pattern recognition. So much so I have diagnosed myself accurately with every psychological/physical ailment that I have been diagnosed with long before any professional looked at me. And because of this I feel like this person in particular is not autistic, they don’t really “fit” in the spectrum. But the problem is idk if I am just being an asshole about it or not.

Obviously I don’t want to gate keep or anything. Ive had my fair share of people not understanding/believing what I go through. However, it still feels wrong that this person is parading as an autistic person when they absolutely REFUSE to recognize any autistic traits in those around them. Actively punishing and berating everyone that shows any signs of neurodivergence, then turning around and complaining that they are just “too neurodivergent” to deal with anything.

Has this happened to anyone else? Am I just being an asshole about it?

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lifewithnpd · 2 years

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something i want to make very clear: i do not enjoy being a narcissist. i do not want to be a narcissist. it does not bring me joy to hurt others. i do everything in my power to avoid doing so. i am not an abuser. i am an abuse victim. i will never abuse someone. if i fuck up, i apologise for my mistakes. like a decent human being does. some people clearly can't get their heads around the fact that npd is a DISORDER and not just a thing you choose to have, that makes your life better or because you enjoy hurting people.

i was horrifically abused. i was devalued, over and over and over again. i learnt to protect myself, as a child, by believing in my own self importance. that's literally it. i learnt to survive by believing i was greater than everyone around me, because if i was greater, then maybe i wouldn't be abused. for fuck's sake, guys. get a fucking grip, please.

i'm not saying you weren't abused. ofc i'm not. and i'm not invalidating your trauma. all i'm saying is, have a bit of compassion, for the kids that were abused just like you. just because you developed cptsd (which i also have) instead of npd, doesn't make you magically better than me, or a better survivor, or kinder or in any way stronger. likewise, me having npd doesn't make me an abuser, or magically weaker than you, or sitting there plotting every empath's demise.

so, if you're one of those people who talks about narcissistic abuse, please: just have a think. not all people with npd are the same. and not all of us are abusers. tarring us all with the same brush is damaging to trauma survivor community- because the majority of people with npd are trauma survivors.

#npd traits #npd stigma #npdawareness #npd positivity #npd problems #actually npd #cluster b positivity #actuallynpd #actually narcissistic #narc #pathological narcissism #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissist #covert abuse #narcissism

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dontthinkineedyou · 1 year

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I lost myself trying to love you, and the saddest part was you loved every moment of it.

-DR 11.02.2022 // you tried to make me hate myself but in the end the only person I hated was you, I would never want to be “your type”

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sad-dah · 2 years

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mis celos son puro show, en mi mente narcisista no hay nadie mejor que yo.

#putos celos #celos #narcisismo #pathological narcissism #like #follow #like4like #sad_dah

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futureless · 2 years

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the way a narcissist can create such an incredible illusion of them being the best kinds of people to the outside world while at the same time treating the ones they love like MONSTERS behind closed doors is… truly terrifying

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atheusa · 1 year

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Growing up, my emotions were repressed… I wasn’t allowed to ask questions, but just to obey.

As a kid, I always asked questions but they brushed me off.

As a kid, when I asked for help with my homework, they tried to help me.

But it always ended up with my mom shouting at me.

Because I never get anything.

Since then, I never asked anymore.

I became the overachiever daughter who didn’t ask for their help.

I became a their definition of a good daughter.

Stellar grades, straight A’s, just school and home life.

Because me studying and having good grades,

means

they’re being good parents.

So that they can boast around having a daughter

that they raised so well.

How can they take credit for my hardships,

when they never helped me.

Now that I’m grown, I swear, fuck that.

Now that I’m grown, I never realized how much this is affecting me so much.

Because I know I need help, but I don’t know how to ask for it.

#depresión #straight a student #overachiever #people pleaser #pathological narcissism #journal #life #lost #surviving narcissism #narcissism #tw abuse #neglect #neglectful parents

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devotedlysteadygardener32 · 1 year

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razzleberryjam · 2 years

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Just doing some more research for when I drop my tedtalk this weekend,

But essentially the literature is partially incomplete due to lack of study in psychiatry fields, and we are going to Have to use some critical thinking skills and analysis to be able to properly understand what exactly the relationship between npd, bpd, narcissistic abuse and c/ptsd are due to the fact that we haven't made widely available officially reviewed scientific connections yet as well as the fact that the language will vary slightly from paper to paper - making it less 1+1=2 and more like if 1-1 =0, 0+2 =2, 2-1= 1, and 2+0=2, then 1+0-1+2 must equal 2.

Which listen, I know that doesn't make a lot of sense right now, but essentially I will be presenting a collection of research and literature articulated with the express intent to draw connections and illustrate the divergences in several varieties of traumas, abuses, as well as going over the development and long term effects of npd, Bpd, and c/ptsd. I'll also be covering the physical neurological aspects of traumatic psychological injury and treatments for the conditions with the goal of asserting and categorizing relationships between all of these things and increasing the understanding of the connections between them both during development of the disorders as well as continuation of cyclical trauma/abuse due to the disorders, post-formation.

So if you're interested in reading a long ass paper that I'm writing with official sources as well as additional resources that begins from the thesis: if we know about npd/bpd, narcissistic abuse, and c/ptsd can we discover underlying connections between these things in order to better understand them as well as using the information to invest in treatments and therapies to assist everyone suffering from these things - because I'm going to be honest with you right now, even if you have been an abuser due to your mental disorder, and even if you will never be capable of attaining forgiveness or giving restitution for what you have done to/from the victim of your abuse, you still are a human being who deserves treatment for the trauma that induced the mental disorder that became the snowball of your abuse. You still have the capabilities to heal and be healed and to move forward towards forming new and healthier relationships.

Anyways, I got a bit off topic because I desperately want those with npd/bpd to understand that needing treatment and needing help does not make you a bad person. Having done bad things doesn't make you a bad person if you take steps towards understanding what you did wrong, taking accountability, and working towards building better skills to avoid doing bad things like being toxic or abusive.

Like, I have laregly estranged myself from my abuser due to the inability to understand that any abuse was even committed, and the abuse at this point, may be too much to ever be able to feel comfortable around her again: however it would still bring me peace to hear that she was taking steps towards bettering herself, healing her trauma, being cared for and being able to maintain happy, healthy relationships.

My point is, I would love for everyone to listen if they have the patience. Stay tuned please

#bpd #narc abuse #npd #narcissistic abuse #narcissticabuseawareness #pathological narcissism #borderline personality disorder #complex post traumatic stress disorder #complex ptsd #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissistic parents #narcissistic relationship #trauma and recovery

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chaos-in-one · 2 years

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I wish all narcissistic abuse blogs a very shut the fuck up and stop being ableist pieces of shit

Narcissistic abuse is not real and never will be

#it's just emotional physical or psychological abuse fr #npd #npd thoughts #actually npd #npd mood #npd vent #npd safe #npd stigma #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #narcissist #narcissistic people #narcissistic personality traits #narcissismawareness #covert narcissism #narcissim #pathological narcissism #malignant narcissism #surviving narcissism

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annalouisemay · 1 year

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Narcissistic Abuse & Self-Addiction: A Guide for Empaths & Sensitive Souls | A Mayastar Energy Healing Article | Read at https://www.mayastar.net/narcissisticabuse.htm or visit https://youtu.be/ak9QYGesvz0 to enjoy the audio with my latest animated artwork. EXCERPT: "Narcissistic personality traits are common to everyone. We have all experienced moments where we thought or acted in a way that, looking back, was selfish, manipulative or dishonourable. But that’s where narcissistic traits differ from narcissistic pathology: someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder has those traits as their default setting. They don’t look back as an observer of themselves & feel guilt or regret over their actions..." Latest Mayastar Meditation: Starseed Ascension Activation | Lemurian Light-Codes Channelling Mayastar Light-Language Meditation | https://youtu.be/51Wwt4PWvOU Special Offer | Goddess Diana Mirror Shield Activations Course | https://www.mayastar.net/diana.htm Energy updates, spiritual guidance & daily affirmations from Mayastar on Maya Muses | www.mayamuses.net Energy updates, spiritual guidance & daily affirmations the Mayastar YouTube Channel | https://youtu.be/kEVwqK4QhF8 Artwork by ALM-Maya: Intersomnia Transmutations | Documenting my journeying on the astral plane ♡ Visit www.deviantart.com/annalouisemay or www.flickr.com/annalouisemay for more ♡ Also find me at www.pinterest.com/alm_mayastar & www.instagram.com/annalouisemay Enjoy! Xxx

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lifewithnpd · 2 years

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder; a summary

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a cluster b personality disorder characterised by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration and attention, hypersensitivity to criticism and a dimished ability to empathise with others.

The DSM-5 describes people with NPD as having at least five of the following nine criteria:

A grandiose sense of self-importance

Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

Believing that they are "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)

Requiring excessive admiration

A sense of entitlement (unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations)

Being interpersonally exploitative (taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends)

Lacking empathy (unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others)

Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them

Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder)

NPD develops either in youth or early adulthood, and the symptoms are pervasive and rigidly persistent over time. While some people may show signs of narcissistic behaviour, this does not guarantee that they qualify for a diagnosis of NPD. It is only if these qualities cause "significant impairment" and are "inflexible, maladaptive and persisting" that a diagnosis of NPD could be considered.

Associated Features: People with NPD tend to exaggerate their accomplishments and skills for admiration or praise. They have a sense of personal superiority, and this may cause them to look down on others.

Furthermore, people with NPD are more likely than others to respond with anger when presented with rejection or perceived criticism. People with NPD are vulnerable to feelings of shame and worthlessness over minor incidents in daily life, and imagined insults.

Causes of NPD While there is no proven specific causes for NPD, there are a combination of risk factors from biological, socio-environmental and psychological factors, including genetics, neurobiology, trauma, abuse and parenting styles.

Some key terms Narcissistic Supply- a type of admiration, interpersonal support or sustenance drawn by an individual with NPD from people around them. Sometimes referred to as an attention supply.

Idealisation and Devaluation- people with cluster b personality disorders often see the world in terms of everything being either strictly good or strictly bad. Idealisation is seeing someone as perfect and wonderful, whereas devaluation is seeing someone as evil and inferior. This is not controllable by the narcissist or person with the cluster b pd, and often comes from 'splitting', which is when someone does something to trigger the person with the pd's fears of either criticism, abandonment or rejection.

Some words on the term 'narc abuse' and why perpetrating this idea is harmful The term 'narc abuse', or 'narcissistic abuse' is harmful and ableist. You wouldn't call abuse by someone who happened to be autistic, 'autistic abuse'. People with NPD cannot help their diagnosis. While there are people with NPD who can be abusive, this is true of anyone in the population. Lack of empathy does not make someone a bad person. A sense of self-importance and hypersensitivity does not make someone a bad person. Stop demonising people for something they ultimately cannot control.

DO NOT. AND I REPEAT. DO NOT. DIAGNOSE ANYONE BASED ON THIS POST. PEOPLE SHOULD NOT ARMCHAIR DIAGNOSE OTHERS AS HAVING SERIOUS PERSONALITY DISORDERS. IF YOU'RE SERIOUSLY WORRIED ABOUT SOMEONE, CONSULT A PSYCHIATRIST.

Thanks so much for reading! If you liked this post give a person with npd some supply by leaving a comment, liking or reblogging!

Have a great day everyone! xoxo halo

#npd #narcissist #actually narcissistic #narc abuse #pathological narcissism #narc #npd traits #npd stigma #npd group #cluster b #narcissistic personality traits #narcissistic personality disorder

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asraspeaks2 · 1 year

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Single parenting was/is way easier than parenting with the Asshole. We don't even co-parent anymore since my younger son is old enough to make decisions. So I have a lot more time to pursue my career and personal goals.

This past year alone I have gotten close to 50 grand in grants for a variety of projects. Projects I would never have been able to pursue if I was married to the Asshole. I have forged amazing relationships with friends (new and old) and have discovered I have a strength that can't be crushed.

This Summer is going to be especially lucrative since I got a Summer Research award to focus on my projects. It's a 5 figure amount that I can use towards a new car. If I had been married to the Asshole, they money would have been spent before it even hit the bank account.

And I'm going up for promotion. Soooo yah!

There something glorious about being able to earn and save without the stress of dealing with financial abuse.

Alhammdulillah.

#emotionalhealth #nomorelosers #islam #nomorebullshit #divorce #trauma survivors #toxic people #financialfreedom #nomoreabuse #covid 19 #pathological narcissism #malignant narcissism #financial health #financial abuse

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tennesseine · 1 year

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The bad news: a narcissist will always make you feel second best (at best).

The good news: in the future, when they’re with their next target, they’ll make your time together sound awesome, in order to make their new target feel second best (at best), too.

#humanity #surviving narcissism #narcissist #narcissticabuseawareness #narcissismawareness #pathological narcissism

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ablessedlittlegoose · 1 year

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The Air was Not Safe to Breathe

you slept next to me at night while I was burning to the ground

you told me you loved me each morning while the ashes were still on my skin

you sat next to my ruins and viciously told me I had all but vanished

my fire had gone gone out

you were now ablaze

the flames took me for all I had

it was you who lit the match

afterall

and was enjoying the light show

#poetry #poems and poetry #grief #emotional abuse #pathological narcissism #painful #despair #betrayal #my poem #narcissistic relationship #narcissisticrecovery #gaslighting #manipulation #verbal abuse #toxic people #toxic relationship

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