#kindness and positivity

[problematicfactive]

I just want to say thank you for helping us open up about factives. Esp Problematic ones.

We have a Ted Bundy factive and admittingly as a front stuck host i didn't let him front much, i don't hate him, i just let my fear get to me.

But slowly thanks to you and Thundershockz we have been letting go again. Now Ted Bundy fronts a little bit more along with Matthew. He's a gatekeeper and helps with psychosis, and he's became friends with our other factives.

I'm still a learning host, admittingly and embarrassingly a controlling one (accidentally), but i hope we can do better and i hope all factives can exist as themselves one day. I love you problematic and non factives /p

I'm glad that you, Ted, and Matthew have been able to grow. That's what I really want from this space.

Factives-- especially problematic-- being held back by a host who's scared is way too common a story. It's my story too. And I know it's because you're a good person that you did that. You don't want to seem like you liked or you were okay with the things Bundy did, so you try to hide him away.

I know that story. I feel like I've read it a trillion times because I've lived it. In the chapter I'm at now, the hiding hasn't really gone away yet. Luckily, I have enough freedoms now to chose when I want my identity hidden and when I want to openly be myself. It may not sound freeing, but it is. Its so freeing to be allowed to chose for yourself when you want to be yourself.

My advice to Ted: I'm not you. I don't know what it's like to be you and I don't know how things might be harder or easier for you than they are me. There's a Zac Efron portrayal of you. even if that isn't you, i reccomend trying your best to get some sort of connection to him. I know my blog is all about being yourself and being free, but that truly is only when it's safe to do so. When it's unsafe, portraying yourself through Efron can really be your best friend. I think Efron is less recognizable for his role as you as my actor is for his role as me. And through him, you can still have some kind of connection to yourself while staying safe.

To the host, I say there may be times when staying safe means you do have to hold Ted back a little. I don't know what your Ted is like, so I say this as almost an alternative to the "find a safer identity in Efron" thing. I don't say this to "go back on" what I have said in the past about caging alters, but I very commonly have to remind NPC that places may not be as safe for him to speak because he doesn't hide his identity in such places the way I do.

Also, Dont join Revenge /hj

You, Ted and Matthew are more than welcome to join the discord server if you want a completely safe and non judgmental place for Ted and Matthew, I know they're hard to find. Let me know if you're interested and can't find the link

Stay safe.

#kindness and positivity #askers experience #problematic factive #factive #problematic source #problematic introject #introject #system #plural #sysblr #plural community #plural system #plurality #pluralgang #problematicfactive guest speaker #guest speaker: host #he didnt actually write anything but he helped me and put a lot of emotion into this as well #he hopes for the best for you all #as do i

[recoverr]

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #actually mentally ill #cptsd #actually cptsd #recovery suggestion #trauma survivor #trauma recovery #mine.

[goodvibesatpeace]

#spilled ink #quotes #life #love #care #wholesome #peace #positivity #animals #kindness #steve irwin #bob ross #mr rogers #good vibes #good vibe tribe #goodvibesatpeace

[happyheidi]

｡ﾟﾟ･｡･ﾟﾟ｡ ﾟ. May will bring blessings.

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#let’s manifest this shit! #pls be kind <3 #cottagecore #may #spring aesthetic #spring #it’s so hot and lovely in Norway atm and I love it #gonna go out and read some later and finally plant out my little jungle #manifesation #manifesting #text #manifest #positive #positivity #light academia aesthetic #classic academia

[healing-is-cool]

You are going to laugh until your stomach hurts again. You're going to be in awe of a sunset. Watch your favorite show while you eat your favorite food. Find money on the street. Discover a great band you haven't heard of before. You will find your way back.

#mental health #self love #recovery #self care #kindness #positivity #happiness #note to self #journal entry

[slfcare]

ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.

#fear is okay! #and so are you #i have two interviews next week for a 6month grad internship </3 #free encouragement #self care #self love #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #comfort kindness family #self validation

[inkskinned]

at some point it's just like. do they even fucking like the thing they're asking AI to make? "oh we'll just use AI for all the scripts" "we'll just use AI for art" "no worries AI can write this book" "oh, AI could easily design this"

like... it's so clear they've never stood in the middle of an art museum and felt like crying, looking at a piece that somehow cuts into your marrow even though the artist and you are separated by space and time. they've never looked at a poem - once, twice, three times - just because the words feel like a fired gun, something too-close, clanging behind your eyes. they've never gotten to the end of the movie and had to arrive, blinking, back into their body, laughing a little because they were holding their breath without realizing.

"oh AI can mimic style" "AI can mimic emotion" "AI can mimic you and your job is almost gone, kid."

... how do i explain to you - you can make AI that does a perfect job of imitating me. you could disseminate it through the entire world and make so much money, using my works and my ideas and my everything.

and i'd still keep writing.

i don't know there's a word for it. in high school, we become aware that the way we feel about our artform is a cliche - it's like breathing. over and over, artists all feel the same thing. "i write because i need to" and "my music is how i speak" and "i make art because it's either that or i stop existing." it is such a common experience, the violence and immediacy we mean behind it is like breathing to me - comes out like a useless understatement. it's a cliche because we all feel it, not because the experience isn't actually persistent. so many of us have this ... fluttering urgency behind our ribs.

i'm not doing it for the money. for a star on the ground in some city i've never visited. i am doing it because when i was seven i started taking notebooks with me on walks. i am doing it because in second grade i wrote a poem and stood up in front of my whole class to read it out while i shook with nerves. i am doing it because i spent high school scribbling all my feelings down. i am doing it for the 16 year old me and the 18 year old me and the today-me, how we can never put the pen down. you can take me down to a subatomic layer, eviscerate me - and never find the source of it; it is of me. when i was 19 i named this blog inkskinned because i was dramatic and lonely and it felt like the only thing that was actually permanently-true about me was that this is what is inside of me, that the words come up over everything, coat everything, bloom their little twilight arias into every nook and corner and alley

"we're gonna replace you". that is okay. you think that i am writing to fill a space. that someone said JOB OPENING: Writer Needed, and i wrote to answer. you think one raindrop replaces another, and i think they're both just falling. you think art has a place, that is simply arrives on walls when it is needed, that is only ever on demand, perfect, easily requested. you see "audience spending" and "marketability" and "multi-line merch opportunity"

and i see a kid drowning. i am writing to make her a boat. i am writing because what used to be a river raft has long become a fully-rigged ship. i am writing because you can fucking rip this out of my cold dead clammy hands and i will still come back as a ghost and i will still be penning poems about it.

it isn't even love. the word we use the most i think is "passion". devotion, obsession, necessity. my favorite little fact about the magic of artists - "abracadabra" means i create as i speak. we make because it sluices out of us. because we look down and our hands are somehow already busy. because it was the first thing we knew and it is our backbone and heartbreak and everything. because we have given up well-paying jobs and a "real life" and the approval of our parents. we create because - the cliche again. it's like breathing. we create because we must.

you create because you're greedy.

#every time someones like ''AI will replace u" im like. u will have to fucking KILL ME #there is no replacement here bc i am not filling a position. i am just writing #and the writing is what i need to be doing #writeblr #this probably doesn't make sense bc its sooo frustrating i rarely speak it the way i want to #edited for the typo wrote it and then was late to a meeting lol #i love u people who mention my typos genuinely bc i don't always catch them!!!! :) it is doing me a genuine favor!!! #my friend says i should tell you ''thank you beta editors'' but i don't know what that means #i made her promise it isn't a wolf fanfiction thing. so if it IS a wolf thing she is DEAD to me (just kidding i love her) #hey PS PS PS ??? if ur reading this thinking what it's saying is ''i am financially capable of losing this'' ur reading it wrong #i write for free. i always have. i have worked 5-7 jobs at once to make ends meet. #i did not grow up with access or money. i did not grow up with connections or like some kind of excuse #i grew up and worked my fucking ASS OFF. and i STILL!!! wrote!!! on the side!!! because i didn't know how not to!!! #i do not write for money!!!! i write because i fuckken NEED TO #i could be in the fucking desert i could be in the fuckken tundra i could be in total darkness #and i would still be writing pretentious angsty poetry about it #im not in any way saying it's a good thing. i'm not in any way implying that they're NOT tryna kill us #i'm saying. you could take away our jobs and we could go hungry and we could suffer #and from that suffering (if i know us) we'd still fuckin make art. #i would LOVE to be able to make money doing this! i never have been able to. but i don't NEED to. i will find a way to make my life work #even if it means being miserable #but i will not give up this thing. for the whole world.

[stuckinapril]

friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me

#It’s just so different #even though it’s public it still feels secret and safe. i feel comfy sharing a lot more on here than I do in my actual day to day life lol #in my head I’m also just speaking to myself 90% of the time which helps #if a friend off tumblr saw my thoughts I’d feel so weird ab it #esp bc they might get the vagueposting about certain situations and tell mutual friends #no thank u. this is for me. I’m not about to start censoring my thoughts bc someone I know knows my tumblr #u guys literally saw me have LIVE BREAKDOWNS #meanwhile I’ll have the worst fucking day in history and tell no one about it. I’m already cripplingly private but way more so in real life #this is basically a low stress journaling outlet for me. it’s so important for me to maintain the separation #like this is actually my diary & has been so handy for letting out emotions / articulating thoughts / staying on track !! #& I’ve met so many kind people on here who actually get me. which is so hard to find irl bc I’m surrounded by pre-med gunners/overachievers #who are by standard not very good w emotion & can be competitive/judgmental. or at least it’s hard for me to be vulnerable in front of them #and I’m part of that crowd so I reserve my emotions only to a handful of very close friends #it’s nice to hop on here and express negative emotions!! or positive emotions!! just whatever I want and it’s low stress and people get me #I don’t have to worry about judgment or competitiveness etc etc #like everyone on here is so kind & nice & understanding. & just a breath of fresh air from the types I run w. it’s just nice to have this #so idk that’s why I think I’ll always be strict about keeping the worlds separate. it just works #p

[comfortfrogblog]

you will feel so alive again.. like so incredibly alive. i dont know when that will be but it will be. u are gonna feel so alive that ur cheeks hurt from smiling oh man oh man i promise that day is coming. you do have a future, you do have good things coming, and you’ll survive everything that’s thrown at you until you reach that day

#gentle reminder #comfort #cathy comforts #positivity #self care #positive words #kind words #kind reminder #gentle words #tender #posts that got popular for some reason

[mamalibra]

Here’s to 2023, a year of as many little courageous kindnesses as possible. ♥️

#bodymindspirit #inspiration #positivity #strongenoughtobekind #human kind #human kindness

[maxiglow]

be addicted to real dopamine

be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there

experience new exciting things that bring you joy

love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections

make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free

stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book

do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down

move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying

listen to music that matches the moment you’re in

eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort

get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day

#self care #self care era #self love #self love reminders #self improvement #positive thoughts #spilled thoughts #healing journey #positive mental attitude #self healing #healing #self help #mental health #positivity #dopamine #that girl #becoming that girl #wonyoungism #be kind to yourself #it girl energy #dream girl #life lessons #pinterest girl #glow up #level up journey #health and wellness #wellness #positive thinking #self growth #glow growth girlboss

[problematicfactive]

Problematic Factives you have to stop. Your smoke too tough. Your drip too hard. Your swag too different. Your bitch is too bad. They’ll kill you /copy /pos

And when they do, they will find that progress never dies

#kindness and positivity #rainy day drafts

[recoverr]

you're not a monster. you're you. you're flawed, yes, but you're also incredibly alive. just human. real. capable of great things, capable of change and growth, too. don't define yourself by the inner critic lashing out at you. you're not your worst moments.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #positivity #reminders #healing #be kind to yourself #trauma recovery #cptsd recovery #post traumatic stress disorder #complex ptsd #childhood trauma #trauma #mine.

[kiindr]

you're allowed to celebrate even the smallest of your wins. any achievement is an achievement. any progress is progress.

#mental health #mental health awareness #mental health support #mental health reminders #coping #positivity #therapy #reminders #kindness #wellness

[happyheidi]

｡ﾟﾟ･｡･ﾟﾟ｡ ﾟ. April will bring blessings.

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#let’s manifest this shit! #I need for you to do what you do best April: be kind and bring on the blessings <3 #april #blessings #text #classic academia #light academia aesthetic #spring aesthetic #positivity #cottagecore #cozycore #cosycore #affirmations #positive #wholesome #manifesting #manifestation #emoji #heart #spring #hope April treats u the way you deserve <3

[healing-is-cool]

No, you aren't "behind in life".

But, it's okay to grieve the time you spent surviving. The time spent trying to figure out what was wrong. The time spent healing to become a person again.

It wasn't your fault.

#mental health #self love #recovery #self care #positivity #kindness #positive thoughts #healing