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thief-of-eggs · 22 days

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I love the way you write Alastor and the way you write Luci. I know so many writers who maintain a very specific stereotype about aroace people, e.g. “Ew don’t touch me, you’re gross and I want to kill you because i would rather DIE then be touched” or “haha this character hates every single type of affection and is snarky because of it” and it’s just so icky to me… like yes some aroace people hate touch but they don’t hate other people, arocas people can have friends

yes alastor is snarky, it’s not because he’s aroace. he’s just a bitch (said with love) and his sexuality shouldn’t be used as his only personality trait,

idk if any of that rant made sense but I js wna say how much I appreciate the way you write and characterize Radioapple :3

Firstly- thank you so so much, this is so amazing to hear!!! It means a lot to me to have a canon aroace character, which is why I love diving into/embracing it in the fics I write!!

100% as you said, Alastor is a bitch because Alastor is a bitch, nothing to do with his sexuality. He’s a bit self centered, a bit harsh, a bit inconsiderate- but that’s just him and his sparkle. Not his sexuality.

And as for the hating touch- I wish more people understood how asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum! It’s not a one size fits all! It’s huge!!!

Personally, I like to think that Alastor doesn’t particularly like touch due to past trauma, as well as sensory issues. I don’t think it’s all to do with his aromanticism (I think he’s more the type to be indifferent to romantic things, not repulsed by them) But I do think his touch aversion is real, just not stemming from his aroace identity.

And of course, I’m not in Alastor’s head (or Vivzie’s) but I like to think that touch is OK with Alastor, so long as it is on his terms- and I think “on his terms” includes those people whom he’s given either silent or spoken permission to in regards to touching him. Which is a huge difference from “I hate all forms of touch and I’ll kill you if you touch me”

We see with Mimzie and Rosie and Niffty that Alastor is OK with touch- he lets them initiate touch and he doesn’t bat an eye. Which is why I think so long as he’s comfortable with them, then touch is somewhat permitted. He may not feel the same sort of butterflies or attraction etc through touch- but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t enjoy it for what it brings to him!

I think it’s a big trust thing, and I also like to think it changes day to day. What’s alright on one day may be too much on the next. But I also like to think that Luci would be 100% understanding of that.

As you said- it’s not just all or nothing with aroace people, and it sucks that that streotype exists. At its core, asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction- but that says nothing against physical touch in general. And aromanticism at its core is a lack of romantic attraction- which again, says nothing on physical touch!

Not to mention, love is such a complicated, multi faceted thing. Aroace people are not incapable of love. Aroace people are not stony beings who do not crave reassurance and human connection. We just crave it differently than others.

#thank you anon this ask made my night #these characters are just so special to me !!! so this means a lot to hear #egg answers #hazbin hotel #radioapple #appleradio #hazbin alastor #lucifer morningstar #alastor #asexual alastor #aromantic alastor #aroace alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #alastor and rosie #alastor and mimzy

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freerealestateon · 2 years

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The Divine Feminine Legacy Challenge

Welcome to the Divine Feminine Legacy Challenge!

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Overview / Rules:

13 Generations : 12 Zodiacs / Ends in Divine Feminine

Must complete indicated career, aspiration, skills, and any other goals listed

Each generation has an associated color palette to integrate into their look and home

No money cheats allowed

Use any mods / cc as you wish to customize your gameplay

How to determine the next generation:

Strict Matriarchy: The Founder must be a woman. Only women are eligible to be named heir. Men cannot, under any circumstance, ever be the heir to the next generation. Matriarchy is key!

Bloodline: To be eligible to be named heir, a child must be able to trace an unbroken ancestry back to the founder

Heir Law: I will personally be using Democracy (aka asking followers/friends to chose the next heir); however, if this is not possible you are welcome to chose another method like first-born or the child with the highest relationship to the prior founder

**Any similarities between other TS4 challenges are purely coincidental – as of June 2022, this has not been fully played through so if you find any issues please let me know! I do have quite a few packs so apologies if this does not fully fit your game play; adjust as need be**

Enjoy your journey to the Divine Feminine!

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Generation: Aries (Red)

Plot: Typical Aries – doing what you want, when you want, and how you want it. Even as a kid, you were always taking risks and moving to the beat of your own drum, much to the turmoil of your household. While this has given your life a lot of…adventure, you often have a hard time making friends because of your fiery personality and sharp tongue. Your family has cut ties because their hearts couldn’t take one more screaming match. But a new “family” came along in time who knows exactly where you can fit in (specifically small bank vaults).

Traits: Hot-Headed, Kleptomaniac, Self-Assured

Aspiration: Public Enemy

Career: Criminal Career

Skills: Mischief, Fitness, Handiness

Other: Have 3 friends only and 3+ enemies / Marry a coworker as no one else understands your line of work

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Generation: Taurus (Pink)

Plot: While you definitely inherited your stubbornness from your Aries mother, there’s not much else that relates you two. Growing up in such a tumultuous, loud environment, you become increasingly risk-averse and prefer the company of your quiet garden over mom’s crime ring buddies. Being so set in your ways, you like routine and have worked hard at creating an oasis of calm and beauty.

Traits: Green Fiend, Loves Outdoors, Vegetarian

Aspiration: Freelance Botanist

Career: Gardener

Skills: Gardening, Wellness, Herbalism

Other: Maintain a thriving garden of 10+ plants including a cowplant / Take a yoga class every Sunday with your mom to try to instill calm into her life

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Generation: Gemini (Yellow)

Plot: You spent a lot of time on the internet researching for her mother – ‘how to create hybrid plants’ or ‘what to do if your cowplant eats you’. What was once a chore for mom, became an outlet for you. A world beyond the garden where people had thoughts, opinions, and could joke or argue behind the anonymity of a screen. Oh, you are GOOD at this! Finally real people to talk to aside from the queen of routine. Hopefully you won’t word-vomit all over your laptop.

Traits: Insider, Cheerful, Goofball

Aspiration: Friend of the World

Career: Social Media > Internet Personality

Skills: Charisma, Comedy, Research and Debate

Other: Maintain a blog or social media profile / Create your own club and regularly hold club meetings every week / Marry a club member

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Generation: Cancer (Silver/Gray)

Plot: Your first memory is when you set up a “free hugs” booth at your elementary school and was promptly teased for being too sensitive. Mom says you're an empath, but that memory was the first lesson in hiding her pain in the hopes of not burdening anyone else. You found art as a teen and slowly healed from the bullying you experienced as a child with art therapy. You finally realized that being an empath is a gift and should be spread to all.

Traits: Gloomy, Good, Art-Lover

Aspiration: Painter

Career: Doctor

Skills: Painting, Parenting, Logic

Other: Have two failed relationships due to your wanting to ‘fix’ this person / Adopt at least two children

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Generation: Leo (Orange)

Plot: While your mom’s life ambitions were incredibly altruistic, yours are a bit more glam. You want to be heard and seen. Spending your childhood watching Mom try to fix everyone was exhausting and you fully believe in self-care over anyone.

Traits: Ambitious, Self-Absorbed, Jealous

Aspiration: Master Actress

Career: Actress

Skills: Acting, Dancing, Singing

Other: Be nominated for the Starlight Accolades / Lose your acting career after a public breakdown

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Generation: Virgo (Green)

Plot: After your mom’s incredibly public breakdown, you were left to pick up the pieces as a teen – a task you are of course completely ready to handle. The first item to check off your never-ending list was to get them out of the media frenzy. The next, to start over in a new town. And once the list was done, it was time for another – 1) go to law school, 2) pass the bar, 3) clean up everyone else’s messes. A perfect task for a perfectionist, including your side hobbies of baking and bowling– more tasks that need perfect precision.

Traits: Perfectionist, Neat, Genius

Aspiration: Successful Lineage

Career: Law

Skills: Bowling, Writing, Baking

Other: Move neighborhoods as a teen and support parents until their death / Help your children with homework every night to ensure they grow up perfect like you

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Generation: Libra (Lavender)

Plot: You were perfectly happy following your mom’s expectations. It was actually nice for a while as making your own decisions is incredibly difficult. Like what to eat, what to say, where to live, what to study, who to date…it gets to a point where you are juggling multiple relationships because you don’t want to deal with a breakup. You throw yourself into a career as a food critic to avoid all that stress, but get fired as you give everyone five stars to not hurt their feelings.

Traits: Romantic, Foodie, Childish

Aspiration: Serial Romantic

Career: Critic > Food Critic > Restaurant Owner

Skills: Cooking, Gourmet Cooking, Mixology

Other: At level 6 of Food Critic career, leave job and purchase a restaurant / Once married, maintain two secret relationships

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Generation: Scorpio (Black)

Plot: You've always had a knack for getting to know what truly lies under someone’s skin. You figured it out from a pretty young age when waiting tables at your mom’s restaurant and being able to convince someone that they actually adore their meal, rather than send it back. When you interview at the bureau, the interviewer actually wept as you managed to uncover their traumas that they kept hidden deep in their subconscious. In short, you are the top dog for your uncanny ability to uncover the truth. Your only outlets are video gaming and fishing as they don’t require too much thought.

Traits: Loner, Bookworm, Paranoid

Aspiration: Neighborhood Confidante

Career: Teen > Barista / Detective

Skills: Video gaming, Charisma, Fishing

Other: Gain the workaholic lifestyle / Get divorced due to your one true love – work

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Generation: Sagittarius (Navy)

Plot: While you feel your detective mom is too attached to her job, you hop around like no one’s business. You want to see the world, try new things, and always be a better version of you. It started with a love of space but you got lonely without a library of books and how-to manuals around, so you switched over to the engineering field. Now there’s where the research is – but perhaps too dull? Maybe being a scientist would work out well, or an archaeologist would be pretty cool. Your mind moves so fast it’s hard to keep you up with even yourself sometimes!

Traits: Non-Committal, Adventurous, Bro

Aspiration: Renaissance Sim

Career: Astronaut > Engineer > Scientist

Skills: Robotics, Rocket Science, Archaeology

Other: Elope at a young age, separate, then find your way back together / Go on a jungle expedition

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Generation: Capricorn (Brown)

Plot: Your mom’s energy has always been way too much for you. You thrive on stability and cater to your own agenda. You’ve been a full fledged adult since the age of 3, and you don’t understand why everyone isn’t this way. Watching your mom go from career to career is genuinely painful to you. You’d much rather pour your energy into getting high marks on everything you set out to do and thrive on that little ‘good job’ you get from your boss every so often.

Traits: High Maintenance, Unflirty, Snob

Aspiration: Mansion Baron

Career: Business

Skills: Logic, Violin, Knitting

Other: Complete a collection / Marry someone in Military career as you appreciate their structure and regime

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Generation: Aquarius (Light Blue)

Plot: To you, intelligence is sexy. So why not go to the hottest place on Earth – university! You are obviously accepted into a distinguished degree and join the ranks in a secret society. Not so much for the community aspect – more so for the sake of arguing and convincing everyone of your incredibly niche views on the existence of vampires. Sometimes you wonder why no one wants to hang out, but at least you have your companion to rattle on to.

Traits: Geek, Mean, Cat Lover

Aspiration: Academic

Career: Education

Skills: Programming, Vampiric Lore, Guitar

Other: Own a cat and become companions / join University secret society / marry an academic rival

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Generation: Pisces (Green, Gray)

Plot: You’ve always felt intimidated by your very smart family. For them, hosting lively dinner debates on alien sightings was FUN. You’d rather melt away and be boundless on the Earth’s planes, being one with all realities. As soon as you can, you leave that suffocating family home and live simply on the land to further your dreamscape.

Traits: Animal Enthusiast, Child of the Ocean, Good

Aspiration: Outdoor Enthusiast

Career: Writer

Skills: Photography, Wellness, Piano

Other: Live on a simple living lot for all adulthood / Compete in Finchwick Fair competitions weekly

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Generation: Divine Feminine (White)

Plot: You are wise beyond your years – people describe you as intuitive, compassionate, creative, kind, and sensual. You live life to the fullest and are constantly present. You care deeply for your family, friends, animals and Mother Earth.

Traits: Family-Oriented, Music Lover, Creative

Aspiration: Friend of the Animals

Career: Conservationist

Skills: Pet training, Flower-Arranging, Cross-stitch

Other: Be a friend to bees - maintain a beekeeping box / Every week go to Sulani to clean up the beaches

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“She is so bright and glorious that you cannot look at her face or her garments for the splendor with which she shines. For she is terrible with the terror of the avenging lightning, and gentle with the goodness of the bright sun; and both her terror and her gentleness are incomprehensible to humans.... But she is with everyone and in everyone, and so beautiful is her secret that no person can know the sweetness with which she sustains people, and spares them in inscrutable mercy.” ― Hildegard von Bingen

#the sims 4 #legacy challenge #zodiac #divine feminine #divinefemininechallenge #ts4

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mecachrome · 4 months

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for an incredibly new f1 follower, what would you recommend for getting up to date with teams and racers and performances and history? apart from dts lol

oh that is a good question!!! i don't think i'm even the best person to answer this but honestly i think it all comes naturally if you pick a specific thing/team/person you're interested in and set out to learn more about that topic, because everything is so connected and with time you can fill in those knowledge gaps pretty quickly :') more under the cut:

dts is imo perfectly acceptable for learning names and faces for the first time and basically creating a vague outline of a given subject (i've said it's like using duolingo for learning a new language lol), so if you watch it and are like oh—i'm interested in charles or mercedes or learning more about technical regulations or whatever, then you can just dive deeper into that via wiki / youtube / podcasts + published media + old race archives and build up from there!

otherwise i think the main thing is just to start watching the actual races when the season gets underway, and in order to properly appreciate them then also read up on + watch videos about the technical/strategy side of the sport as well. back in the day i used to really like chain bear and i still always recommend it to anyone who asks! after that i would just seek out like... a community/server/place where other people are discussing news real-time; this could be meeting people on tumblr and twitter, but personally i'm subscribed to r/formula1 because it's the most active composite source of f1 news and Discourse. if you're reddit-averse i also just keep a big list on twitter with a bunch of random data accounts, official driver/team accounts, journalists, etc. that helps me keep up with the season in a tidy fashion—though honestly f1 journalism is so unserious that you don't really need to do that because most journos regurgitate the same three quotes in slightly different formats, so if you want to follow One Guy who won't disseminate bs info i'd recommend chris medland. or just general sport publications like autosport, motosport.com, the athletic if you're already subscribed to it (pretty lacking for f1 though since it's american lol), etc... some sites like the-race are very contentious though so i'd say just tread with caution!!! on the data side i personally enjoy fdatanalysis and f1telemetrydata (i've also used f1-tempo to do my own telemetry analysis but idk if that's useful). but again i'd highly recommend the subreddit since it keeps everything i just mentioned in one place anyway 😭

other media recs:

f1tv, if it's available in your area, has pretty much everything you need to follow f1 in its entirety. i hate to shill for paid media but i genuinely think it's good; you can watch every f1, f2, f3 session real-time, as well as go to the archives and revisit old races for each series from most seasons. it also has technical shows and a whole host of minidocs with bite-sized info that are probably less sensationalized than dts. if you don't have f1tv though then a lot of decent content is cross-posted to the f1 youtube so honestly the official channels are all pretty good for keeping up with the sport.

podcasts: if you're an auditory person then podcasts are a great way to deepdive into f1 history. personally i believe that 80% of men running f1 podcasts should be legally barred from ever having an opinion on motorsport, so i don't listen to that many, but i do enjoy the official f1 podcast beyond the grid (i listen to it on spotify but you can also find full transcripts on the f1 site) since, you know, they get official personnel on and i appreciate the wide range of personalities interviewed—from drivers to tps to various types of engineers. i've also heard good things about shift+f1, the race, and engine braking, but i haven't checked them out so i'd recommend just looking podcasts up yourself and seeing what vibes with you! though some podcasts are just like... I'll eat this because you're interviewing my guy but i would never watch/listen to you otherwise. (cough pit stop...)

books & autobiographies: again if you want to dive more into old f1, then you can always read a book!! i read jenson's autobiography life to the limit earlier and was very endeared, it's a super breezy but charming read ❤️ adrian newey's memoir is also a decent overview of a clearly brilliant and accomplished mind, i enjoyed the technical details and found his early career path especially interesting.

docus, movies, tv: there's also plenty of f1 media outside of f1tv, so you can always check those out; f1 movies aren't necessarily that accurate or frankly good but sometimes it's fun just for the Vibes and the love of the sport. for ex rush (2013) covers james hunt & niki lauda's rivalry, netflix has a schumacher (2021) doc, the brawn gp miniseries ft. jense came out last november, just things like that... some current individual drivers also have their own random miniseries so you can always seek those out, for ex i watched maxv's anatomy of a champion the other day just for the fun of it LOL.

i don't know whether any of this is helpful... but maybe other people can reply with their own recommendations!!!

also if you're interested in f2, f3, etc. then honestly just follow feeder series on whatever platform since they cover everything pretty well; feeder_series on twitter, r/f1feederseries, plus they do interview podcasts on youtube/spotify so i like watching those to keep up with young drivers. you can also watch chasing the dream for succinct f2 narratives; it used to only be on f1tv but it gets uploaded on youtube now so it's fairly accessible. lmk if you have any other questions or something specific you'd like more info about!!!

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gay-disabled-characters-showdown · 19 days

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LGBTQ+ Disabled Characters Showdown Round 1, Wave 3, Poll 6

A character being totally canon LGBTQ+ and disabled was not required to be in this competition. Please check qualifications and propaganda before asking why a character is included.

Check out the other polls in this wave and prior here.

Data Soong-Star Trek: The Next Generation

Qualifications:

Many fans interpret him as autistic, including me, and he is gay. Also canonically asexual! He has only ever had one onscreen romance (Tasha Yar does not count, that was a one night stand/FWB thing), with a woman, in which the entire moral was that he was forcing himself to be someone he wasn't while in a relationship with her. His closest relationship is with Geordi LaForge, a relationship commonly interpreted as romantic or queerplatonic.

Propaganda:

Data as a character is so important to me, as an autistic queer kid. His whole storyline of wanting to be human, but never being able to be human, because there's something fundamentally different about him that causes some people to treat him as lesser and nonsentient.... very autistic. He often infodumps to people, is very blunt, experiences emotions in an unconventional way, is socially awkward, and has specific interests in things like poetry and painting. He is a very kind person, and is averse to harming even people who are direct threats to him (such as Kivas Fajo). He has a cat and writes poems about her!! He breaks the prime directive to save a little alien girl!! I cannot adequately explain how awesome this character is in words.

Submitted by @convenient-plot-device

Sir Alistair Hammerlock-Borderlands

Qualifications:

Canonically an amputee, also has a missing eye

Propaganda:

Silly victorian gentleman hunter guy in a scifi setting. His glasses are broken in a way that makes you see his robo eye AND resembles a fancy monocle. Bri'ish for some reason. Goofy lil man who gives you sidequests and is probably the nicest person in the setting. Refined vocabulary which he occasionally peppers in swears. Fabulous facial hair. Makes jokes abt his missing limbs ("[...] my more artificial limbs may begin to rust. Hard to sneak up on prey with a squeaky prosthetic!"). Huge ADHD and tism vibes imo. Also he's gay and has an equally silly + classy husband who is also disabled so epic diversity win (old man yaoi)

Anything Else?:

IM SO NORMAL ABT HIM

Submitted by @wainwrightjakobshammerlock

#polls #poll #disabled characters #lgbtq characters #disability #lgbtq #lgbtq dcs round 1 #lgbtq dcs wave 3 #data soong #tng data #star trek next gen #star trek the next generation #star trek #alistair hammerlock #borderlands

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ssaalexblake · 1 year

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honestly? considering 13′s general level of touchy feely (as in, touch averse in that she wants her personal space respected at all times even if she doesn’t necessarily appear to hate touching itself. She’s fine touching other people.) and how only the people she is very close to are allowed to casually grab or touch her, then the level of touching her and Yaz are at by the end is actually incredible compared to where we started?

(she does -in emergency situations- sometimes not really pay attention if people grab her, but I mean Casually.)

I mean, sure, she’d stand shoulder to shoulder and huddle with people, and She’ll reach out to people, but instances like in Rosa where she brushes Graham’s hand off her shoulder are larger in number than just that one most notable moment. She shoos away graham and ryan’s hands in ITYA when they’re trying to stop her falling on her ass. She stops Yaz grabbing at her in the tsuranga conundrum when the Pting is approaching (and then immediately huddles yaz against a wall with her own body. That’s fine but the pawing at her is Not). By S12 these moments have stopped for the most part if only because the fam pretty much entirely stopped touching her (i presume they noticed her dislike of it). They still casually interact physically between the three of them, so it Is them reacting specifically to 13.

A couple of times Yaz reaches for 13 only to be pushed away in a moment of emotion. 13 can’t deal with Yaz reaching for her to stop her going to set off the bomb in the timeless children. She’s panicking and inconsolable in Once, Upon Time when Yaz tries to get through to her and comfort her both with words and a gentle hand and rebuffs both these things in her emotion.

But then, literally the Next proper moment they get together (non holo related) 13 runs at Yaz and launches herself into a hug, and when Yaz relaxes and hugs her back. That’s their Moment. When 13 actively reaches for Yaz and when Yaz reaches back. 13 melts to it instead of backing away like a twitchy touch averse cat.

And I guess this is a long winded way of getting here but, while I don’t disagree there wasn’t a lot of physical intimacy between the two of them in the last few episodes, I actually Do disagree with people saying that was anything new and was a response to the ship being (more) textually canon.

Because?? They never really touched before then, either. Not in any way that really actually mattered positively beyond that hug.

Outside the hug, imo the only really Notable physical contact they’ve had was in a negative way with 13 blatantly yanking herself out of Yaz’s grasp (TTC, O,UT). Sure, 13 grabbed her hand in It Takes You Away, but It wasn’t intimate. It was actually portrayed as something that shocked Yaz, imo, which says things by itself.

In lotsd the close but not touching is blatantly being used to stoke the sexual tension. They still do huddle, though, and are physically close.

And then in tpotd we get what I personally consider an embarrassment of riches, tbh? A handhold to save a life with a line that i’m reasonably sure was supposed to juxtapose a line from the master in spyfall pt2 but in a positive way instead of negative like it was with him, an inverse repeat of the glass cage scene in spyfall part one with them reaching to each other through the glass barrier but with awe instead of fear. The Bridal carry across the threshold. They are basically embracing in the scene where 13′s hand starts to glow, Yaz grabs her arm (which is, ngl, the most notable touch to me in the sequence) and 13 does not pull away, she leans in and cups her cheek. They casually touch each other, it’s in no way one sided, 13 doesn’t have to have the power here.

So I guess, No, they didn’t touch a lot by any conventional standard, but by 13′s general standard of physical intimacy and casual touching, I think she pretty much let Yaz be all over her.

#dw shit #yaz x 13 #i am bound to have forgotten at least One moment of relevance here don't @ me i don't have #encyclopaedic knowledge even if i do have a good memory for the details #but like. 13 is not touchy. to make her overtly so would make it ooc imo #and to make yaz suddenly disrespect her boundaries would Also have been ooc #i mean dislike it but in my opinion it was consistent from a-z even if it's Not what somebody may have wanted #yaz tends to reach for 13 in moments of panic and 13 rebuffs it and suddenly 13 stopped rebuffing it.#(also. notable. ryan Asked 13 if there would be hugging in rotd. she said yes. a request is not a grab)#he gave her the power in the whole scene #i apparently have feelings here #dw meta

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the-bjd-community-confess · 7 months

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Hello, Anon, this is your Oldie Chinese Diaspora Anon™️. I agree that these are legitimate questions and I would like to thank you for posting them. But I can’t quite shake the feeling that there was something suspicious with the background preamble. Please do not consider this as me doubting your goodwill. Please consider this my attempt to repeat the information that I have come to understand.

I collect Nendöröids. My understanding is that they are made-to-order and they require the handiwork of actual human workers. There are prototyped (and some of them are made) in Tottori, Japan. And the rest are outsourced to qualified factories in China. (More details here:

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). Any figure not made in these two factories are considered counterfeits, and there have been multiple PSAs from Good Smile asking people not to buy counterfeits. As far as I know, when it comes to customising Nendös, most artists either use pre-existing, legitimate parts or sculpt their own parts. I have personally seen legit parts for sale on the aftermarket in different countries and I do not see modders who publicly announce that they use bootleg parts. One thing that I do see, however, is that there are legions of collectors – across the world – who advocate against buying bootlegs.

In fact, the most common admonition for Nendö customizers is to not buy the Chinese YMY body because they were bootlegs of the Japanese Piccadö body. (This is a lawsuit that was recently concluded. The company that produced YMY was fined over the V1 body, which was proven to be a counterfeit.)

I don’t doubt that there are unscrupulous customizers who will buy counterfeit parts as a basis for their modded pieces. After all, if these pieces are going to be modded to an inch of their lives, few care (or will be able to know) where the original base came from. But if I was a consumer and commission a modder, I think I -would- want to know where the bases came from. I would feel extremely cheated if the modder charged me for parts and quoted legit prices and sold me bootleg parts. Similarly, since we do not know the composition of the bootleg material, I would also like to remind everyone that the plastics are not the same between the original and the bootleg (which is why the bootlegs tend to be shinier than the more matte finish than the originals). If even the original will bleed plasticizer over the years, I personally do not want know what kind of things the bootlegs will leak into the air around me.

Finally, since you’ve asked in good faith, I think it’s only fair that your questions are answered. Once again, this is just to the best of my ability. Your actual mileage may vary.

One: The “ban hammer” at DoA tend to be rather arbitrary; but they are – on paper at least – very recast-aversive. I do not personally know if you are at risk under the very specific scenario that you’ve set up, but the risk is never zero. You also run the potential risk of people not wanting to sell you their second-hand dolls if you are, at any time, been suspected of owning a recast. It’s a very small hobby, after all; words travel.

Two: This is a very person-specific question – some folks weigh their personal friendships heavier than general morality; others the exact opposite. We have had this kind of conversations in this blog multiple times over the years and there’s no real answer. Perhaps the better question is to ask yourself “why am I asking this question in the first place?” “Why am I afraid of this?”

Three: Yes! Bootlegs of any figure/model/doll/jointed doll seriously hurt the original creator. Honestly, nobody tells it quite like Mr. Savage:

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Four: If you buy a full set but only use one part, please consider selling the rest to a legitimate-only after-market business so they can pay you a fair price for it and the rest of the pieces that you do not use can also be sold to folks who need them. What you don’t need might be something very useful to someone else!

~Anonymous

#BJD #ABJD #BJD Confessions #Community Counterfeits #Other Dolls #Figurines #Youtube

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monstersandmaw · 2 years

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Hey so genuine question (which I'm doing not on anon Incase you'd rather answer privately) and please pardon my ignorance but how does an aro/ace person like romance/smut let along create it? Like I know being aro/ace is lacking the respective attraction towards someone else specifically but wouldn't that still bleed over into media? Like I don't understand how you write romance but also don't like it yourself and I wanna understand haha

Hey, I don’t mind you asking, but thanks for understanding that not everyone would be happy to discuss it. I don’t pretend to be able to speak for everyone, obviously, and asexuality is a beautifully broad spectrum and people fit at different points along it, sometimes more than one at a time.

Asexual is not the same as aromantic (I know you’re talking about the ‘romance genre’ in general, but I figured I’d drop this in too). I’m not aromantic - I’m happily married and very soppily in love - but I am asexual so I’m not really interested in sex happening to me. Im not sex-averse, the way many aces are, but Im just not super bothered or interested in it happening to me. It’s akin to autochorisexuality, I suppose, which is a subset of the wider umbrella of asexuality. I’m not too fussed about labels for myself, so I just go with ace usually and leave it at that.

I enjoy reading stories which happen to have smut in because it is something the characters in the story want. They’re involved and enjoying it (at least in the stories I read) and I enjoy reading how they react to each other and to various sensations. AO3 is an absolute blessing because of its tagging and filtering system, because I have a lot of squicks when it comes to smut, and I also don’t tend to seek out stories that are just pwp one-shots. I need the characters to have some kind of connection before I’m interested in reading a smutty bit of their story. Again, this is similar to demisexuality.

I enjoy reading about how people feel when they’re being touched sexually, how they explore one another physically, how that brings them closer together, what it means to them etc. I like to equate it with reading about someone doing something like bungee jumping or flying a plane. I have no real desire to do it myself, but it’s fun and enjoyable for me to read about how they experienced it and what it felt like and how they felt about it. If that makes sense?

Tldr: I don’t enjoy all kinds of smut. There’s an awful lot of smut and erotica that I really super duper do not enjoy, and if you know my writing, you’ll know the kind of thing I am drawn to - tender, loving, with an underlying emotional connection between the characters, and all pretty vanilla really, I suppose.

I hope that helps explain a little about why I’m happy to write and read some smut, even though it’s not something I am interested in experiencing myself in my own life.

#asexuality #ace #asexual

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Hi! I just found your blog and I am obsessed with your headcanons! I think you really capture their personalities so well (and I may or may not have indulged and read almost everything in only a few days 😅 it’s just so good!) anyways, if you are still looking for ideas, how do you think the guys would respond to Y/N proposing a threesome, either MMF or FFM (I’ll let you decide)?

Aloha! Glad you found me, and very happy to read that you like my stuff! 😊

Okay, I think that's a tricky one, because I'm sure a lot of people out there have their own, "thirsty" image of this. But then again, my HCs are usually what I honestly think of the guys, unless smut is specifically requested. So at the risk of being a killjoy, I'll take the honest approach. If you had something thirstier and not necessarily 'authentic' in mind, let me know. I put 'authentic' in quotation marks because, after all, these are fictional characters whose preferences I'm only guessing at.😅 So this is not a Smut-fest, it's just their reactions/answers to the threesome proposal.

The Bad Batch x Fem!Reader HCs - The Threesome Proposal

Warnings: Suggestive/Sexual Themes/Mention Of Sexual Themes/18+

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Just a little side note: Neither of them would be willing to have a threesome with another brother. I know I've written something like this before, you know thirst thoughts, but my honest guess is that neither of them would really feel comfortable doing that.

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Hunter

He's surprised, to say the least. Depending on how long and deep this relationship is, he might consider your proposal.

He is not necessarily directly averse to the idea, in fact it has a certain appeal for him, but he is also realistic. Hunter doesn't like to share your attention, and your body even less. He's afraid he might get jealous, even if you assure him that your real feelings are only for him.

Even if Hunter were not jealous, he fears you might regret it afterward and perhaps be jealous yourself. On the whole, he doesn't want to jeopardize your relationship, and he doesn't want to bring any unrest into your relationship, which has been going really well up to now. Therefore, he will think about this for a long time and discuss all his concerns with you in detail.

Only if both of you can honestly rule out all fears regarding jealousy and the like, he will be willing to give it a try.

Echo

Echo is a bit shy, but also quite honest and open with you.

"I don't think that's such a good idea, Mesh'la."

"Why not?"

He shrugs and says, "Well, in a fantasy it might be quite stimulating, but the implementation probably feels very different. Besides, I don't quite know if I want to share you with anyone at such an intimate moment"

"So you don't want to try it?"

He sighs softly and says, "Rather not, if I'm honest. Look, I don't want to be a killjoy, but I don't want to jeopardize our relationship either. Honestly, as much as it looks interesting in the holomovies and in fantasy, putting our happiness at risk isn't worth it to me to try."

He looks at you gently and asks, "Can you be understanding about this, Cyare?"

Well? Can you?

Wrecker

So, in general, he is not averse. Wrecker has a healthy self-confidence, he does not get jealous easily, and he is quite open-minded in general.

Your suggestion will fall on open ears as long as everything has a certain respectful structure. He will not allow the other participant of your threesome to dominate you, this is something he is reluctant to do. He just can't get over his protective instinct. Other than that, however, he is open to almost anything.

Whether another man or woman participates in your tryst doesn't really matter to him, his focus is you anyway.

"Whatever makes you happy, Cyare".

Tech

If you really want to make this proposal to Tech, then you better wait with it until your relationship is really solidified, and he has opened up to you completely, physically, intimately.

He takes a long time to warm up, physical affection is a very shy subject for him at first, even if he eventually turns out to be a passionate lover once you bring him out of his shell.

However, since you have been in a solid relationship for quite a while now, your proposal tickles his curiosity and eagerness to experiment. Tech likes to try things out, and basically he wants to see you satisfied and happy.

"If we both agree that our real love is only between you and me, we don't have sex with other people separately, and this remains the exception rather than the rule, then I don't see a problem."

He doesn't really mind the gender of the third party, either.

Crosshair

This is more complicated. Actually, he is anything but uptight, but he is also very jealous and, contrary to the impression you probably have of him, quick to unsettle.

More than anything else, he'll wonder why you're suggesting it.

One brow shoots up critically.

"Am I not enough for you?"

"What? No, that's not the point at a-"

"Then why do you want to do this?"

A helpless shrug and the words, "curiosity," aren't really explanation enough for him. But being curious himself, sooner or later he gives in. However, he has a huge pile of conditions.

You may not touch the other person, but you may be touched. The other person is not allowed to kiss you, at least not on the mouth. Should the other person be male, he is not allowed to cum inside you, and your pussy belongs to Crosshair alone. If it is a woman, he has no problem watching you get eaten out, though. Fingering is not allowed without his explicit permission (and your consent, of course). Apart from him, no one is allowed to dominate you, neither male nor female. All three have to agree on a safe word (This last one is actually very reasonable and probably for the best).

If you agree to all his conditions, he will give it a try. As long as you both stick to agreed-upon rules, this could work out quite well and may not even remain a one-time thing, depending on your preference.

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moonlit-positivity · 2 months

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Things I wish I knew before healing, part 2

• nobody is coming to save you. Except that's not entirely true either. Not in the way youd think. If you're looking for someone to hold you, coddle you, change your dirty diapers, and do the work for you? Nah these mfs can't baby sit a grown ass adult. But that is a very valid feeling. I can't tell you how much I bitched and moaned in the beginning. I literally told my therapist one time, "I want someone to change my fuckin diapers!" Lol 😭 the hard thing about being abused as a child is that there is never anyone there to care for you on that deeper level. And the hardest part about growing up this way, is that there never will be. Not in the way of this fantasy of wanting someone to be fully enmeshed with your brain enough to know what it is you want and need without you ever needing to open your mouth and say it out loud. No. That's not how people are gonna save you. But they will save you in an entirely different way. They will let you know when youre making a mistake. My therapist has helped me in ways I would have never even fuckin imagined humanity would be able to help someone. And she's not the only one. I'm lucky and blessed and privileged to have had a few good case managers and help from people who work for the city I live in. These people have helped me in ways that others couldn't. They gave me a backbone to stand up and get the work done for myself. They helped me understand this during the hardest fucking rude awakening I have ever had about life in general. And that is, that no one on this earth is entitled to taking care of you. Nah. In my case tho they still wouldn't even if I wanted em to, bc I already kinda knew that from growing up with my mother. I would have never been able to outright ask someone to love me. Not with the awareness of what my mother put me through and the constant fear of becoming just like she was to me. But there comes a time when you gotta stop bitching and whining about how unfair it is and learn how to get up and move anyway. And tbh, I'm still not entirely there yet. It's not an easy thing to learn. But I know a helluva lot more now than I have ever known in my entire life, and that means a whole fuckin lot to me right now. I literally started out from under ground zero, like -65 if you wanna be specific. I had to crawl through the gutters just to get where the fuck I am today. I fuckin carved that shit out all by myself. I fuckin did that. And I'm proud as fuck of where I stand today.

• there is going to be times when you literally cannot talk about it anymore. I can't tell you this without explaining that I am the type of person who would want to immediately snap my fingers and expect the immediate response, to have that quick fix solution. Nah. Patience is an acquired skill. Not to toot my own horn here, but God fuck if I had ever known that before starting therapy I swear to God I don't think I woulda made it through. I have such an aversion to pain and suffering bc of what I went through as a kid, but the pain of healing is unlike anything you will ever experience. Because unlike being abused, healing feels good. Healing feels like someone is purifying your soul in a pure light. And your soul is filled with anger and bitterness and pain. So trusting that light is fucking nuts to say the least. There are times when someone telling you it's not your fault will absolutely break you down into a million fuckin pieces. Not because it hurts, though yeah it does hurt a lot because that's not something anyone has ever told you before and there's the pain around why these mfs have never fuckin told you that. But it also hurts because it feels good to be finally listened to, heard, seen, and validated by another fucking human being on the face of the earth. And you won't want to believe it at first either. But eventually they'll keep saying it to you. Over and over. And eventually there will come a point when you finally lose your shit behind it and deal with the brainwashing coming undone to understand exactly what it is you've had to go through. And then there comes a time when you just can't talk about it the same way anymore. It changes you. It makes you see things about yourself and about the people around you and about this world in general that you've never even thought about before. And that's a whole lotta fuckton to sit with in itself.

• things gonna get better. And it's gonna scare the absolute piss and shit out of you when it does. The silence of peace and serenity is first filled with panic and survival on a whole different level than anyone will ever tell you about. The peace and silence of serenity feels like madness. It feels like youve been living underground your whole life and now you're above ground and everything is new and fuckin terrifying and you don't actually wanna live here, you wanna crawl back underground because it's more familiar and "safer" to you that living above ground is. And this is actually a normal feeling a lot of us go through I've noticed. Talking with other survivors can definitely help give you a sense of normalcy to what you're going through. But my god that urge to go back to the abuse and pain and suffering is so fuckin real. It's all you ever know. Trusting peace to not be a fuckin trap? That takes a lot of pain in itself.

• which brings me to this point. Every single thing about this process is a fucking pain in the ass. You've been beat, abused, gaslit into believing you are the devil incarnate by your parents. Your first ever caregivers, your first ever human experiences, have you believing you are the dog shit underneath their feet. They spend your entire childhood abusing you. Then you finally leave them behind and now you gotta find out they fuckin abused you???? My God. There is nothing about this shit that is gonna give you happy happy fun time play time vibes at all. That's fucked up beyond belief.

• youre gonna be pissed the fuck off all the time. My God if you're reading this and can relate, LOOK INTO SOMATIC HEALING. Give your body an outlet. And it doesn't have to be like exercise or yoga or any of that bullshit. Just shake your shoulders. Shake your arms. Shake your body. Let it move those big fuckin emotions and get it out. Somatics is all you ever fuckin need to get through this shit. Just find ways that it works for you. But yes. The anger and rage and betrayal is REAL. Don't fuckin beat yourself up for this shit. It's valid and it makes sense you'd be angry. LOOK AT WHAT THEY FUCKIN DID TO YOU.

• you're not faking your trauma, your symptoms, or your illnesses. There are real legitimate things happening in your brain and your body that affect the way you function day to day. The fact that there will be people in your life who will never fuckin understand that is a fucking war crime against yourself. Do yourself a favor and remove these people fuckin immediately. Anyone who dares question your life & illnesses & your right to fuckin exist???? Is a fuckin threat and you need to get them out NOW. You are not faking. You never fuckin were. Don't let anyone fill your head with doubt. Family, friends, therapists, doctors. NOBODY. find a second opinion. Find the doctor who's gonna listen and take you seriously when you ask about it and help get you the proper testing to find out. Do NOT settle for the doctors who tell you you're lying. Do NOT settle for the family that says youre lazy and selfish and entitled. Fuck those assholes. You know yourself better than they do. The fact that they even accuse you of lying to begin with is such a mindfuck in itself.

• there are gonna be times when the pain and regret of not knowing what the fuck you've already said and done is gonna suck the living energy from you. It's because well whaddya know. You've grown up a little bit. You might feel like it's a great thing to have the awareness and understanding now, and tbh yes it is! Don't detract from that point! But the people who have already been hurt from you aren't really gonna give a rats fuckin ass one way or another. And that's gonna hurt on so many levels, because yeah that's fair and valid. But holy fuck if i had known that before hand I swear to God things would have been so fuckin different. The thing about it is, people are listening to you, even when you don't think they are. I might go further into this sometime bc there are so many reasons as to why we don't think we matter as much to the people around us as they do actually care and listen. The words and actions you take (or don't take) will have a direct effect on those around you.

• life is not a fuckin game. God I wish someone had told me that a lot fuckin sooner. Take yourself seriously. Take your life seriously. This isn't the pregame show, this is the actual fuckin super bowl. Life is gonna hand you the epitome of fuck around and find out, and its gonna hit you hard if you're not prepared for that.

I will probably add more later. Thanks for reading 😊

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #boundaries #healing #healing thoughts #trauma recovery #trauma awareness #child abuse #childhood trauma #bpd #actually traumatized #life advice #advice #life lessons #self awareness #self actualization

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atypi-cals · 2 years

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found out that people are trigger warning my sources name lol

#like generally not because of like. one persons specific aversion to me #far as i can tell theres just a chunk of the fandom to which my presence needs warning #its really funny to me #ianthe.exe

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acourtofserpents · 1 year

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.....oh i think im in love with Ryzan already and i havent even actually MET HIM YET

you managed to make me feel things for a character before i even interacted with them. f u c k.

that aside, idk if its been asked before but how would each RO react to physical affection? not strictly sexual or even romantic, just physical affection in general. PDA or private, either or both. definitely not asking because im touch averse AND touch starved nope...

Ryzan - he doesn't mind physical touch, but only when it comes from people he's close to or when he initiates it. he doesn't like people he doesn't know or trust even bumping into him, let alone actually touch him. i think he'd be more more touchy with an MC he's in a relationship with, but that's because he would just want to be as close as possible to them.

Nailea - genuinely hates PDA with all her heart and cannot stand being touched in public. even the lightest touch makes her skin crawl, and that wouldn't change with MC around. in private, however, she enjoys soft touches and gentle hugs and caressing. and to her it's all the more special as it's done with only one person, and for no one else to see.

Zale - PDA KING!!!! he's the kind of person that can't stand for more than 5 minutes without touching anyone, like a slap on the shoulder or a little friendly bump. if they're like that with anyone and everyone, imagine how much more touchy-feely he'd be with an MC he's in love with😭 and that gets 10x more intense when in private.

Silos - not much of a touchy person i think. not in public and not in private. they enjoy their space and in specific moments when they're already upset touching would just overwhelm them even more. i do believe that a loving and gentle touch here and there would happen, especially in private. also hand holding in public. they might not be the biggest fan of PDA but they can't say no to that.

#cute question hehe #and tysm for all the sweet words 🥹🥹#thank you for the ask <3 #asks #a court of serpents #ryzan #zale #nailea #silos #acos

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I have posted about this multiple times before but since tumblr's search won't cough any of it up, I'm just going to say it again so I can add my new thing to my thought process about trigger warnings:

Years ago a popular true crime blogger posted an ask from someone requesting that she tag for needles. I think she had posted that notorious x-ray of masochistic serial murderer Albert Fish's colon, which is admittedly disturbing, but she very politely declined on the basis that everything she posts tends to be violent and disturbing--you actually SHOULD find her blog upsetting--and users should manage their expectations around that general premise. Additionally, needles do not carry the specific traumatic weight of something like, say, racial violence or child abuse, for which a warning could be in order; needles are everyday objects that one might reasonably encounter in a store or a person's home, or practically anywhere. If you have such an aversion that it really affects your life to see a needle, you might want to pursue treatment and stop using a part of the internet that is essentially a giant random image generator.

My personal take on content/trigger warnings (are those different? If not then why do we have varying tags instead of one universal one to keep the system reliable?) is similar, that they're only important for material that could seriously upend someone's day. Is Thing X something you truly could not have expected where you encountered it? Would you need to leave work or school if you saw Thing X? Would you need to seek assistance or take a medication? Does Thing X cause significant social problems or affect your sense of safety? If not, you don't need a warning. I mean everyone can tag whatever they choose and of course some folks are happy to tag stuff just because someone might find it annoying or unpleasant, but you're not entitled to protection from strangers just to spare you casual discomfort.

One day I got this extremely angry anonymous message in all caps yelling at me for not tagging spiders. I had no idea what the person was talking about, but after a while I realized it had to be about a popular post I'd made years ago showing tarantulas in a Kids In the Hall sketch. This was especially funny to me because at the time I was posting a lot of explicit violence and sexual imagery that someone could reasonably object to, but this person felt that it was my job to help create the illusion of a spiderless world for their benefit. I know arachnaphobia is a real thing but I still think that if you suffer from it then it's your job to look after yourself and not everybody else's job to protect you from remembering that there are spiders.

This is kind of a tangent but I often think about how trypophobia is not technically a phobia because it isn't affecting anybody's ability to lead a normal daily existence. It's just a grossout thing, basically a matter of taste, but people love to try to elevate it to the level of a serious psychological vulnerability for some reason.

I'm thinking about this stuff (again) today because I just saw a post on one of the autism subreddits where someone linked to a scientific paper to answer a specific question, but they said it needed warnings for incidental use of the term "high-functioning" and advised that some people may not wish to read the paper at all so they wouldn't be triggered by it. That term is sometimes used to invalidate or deny care to people who give the outward appearance of less urgent needs, so it is indeed pretty tricky and needs work. But change is only going to come from attention; if you are concerned about the effects of that language then I think it behooves you to know how it is being used so you are able to argue about it and lobby for change. It's hard for me (a "high-functioning" person) to imagine a scenario in which I'm interested in reading about a condition I have, and then I refuse to do so because the phrase "high-functioning" is going to trigger a psychiatric episode so bad that it's better for me to just ignore information about my own health. I think an adult who is usually inclined to educate themselves should be able to handle occasionally seeing troublesome or outdated language.

Put more concisely than above, my criteria for warnings is just: when the questionable item relates to a real, reasonably common traumatic experience that would be unfair to spring on someone who could relate to it, and/or when the content would be legitimately surprising in its context. Like if you're in my corner of tumblr you should expect that you're going to see horror movie stuff, I'm not tagging anything like that unless it's miles over the line I typically draw. But on the other hand I was out at a restaurant one night and this spoiled egomaniac was practically shouting for a long time in graphic detail about episiotomies within earshot of everyone who was trying to eat. Honestly one of the staff should have told her to shut the fuck up. That's not a thing that people should be normally expected to put up with in a public dining situation, even though it regards a medical procedure that is not morally offensive.

It's probably obvious by now that I think that being uncomfortable and even offended, at least to some degree, has an important psychological and social function. It enables you to recognize and react to problems around you. Understanding what makes you uncomfortable is critical; dealing with discomfort builds character; and continuously avoiding everything you don't like keeps you infantile. It's actually not good to live in a world of only your favorite things.

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f0xgl0v3 · 4 months

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Powers in Camp Jupiter

Wow I’ve posted a lot today lol-

Finally! Another long, ‘Camp Jupiter general Hc’ post. I’ve just been thinking a lot on powers the more I’ve been dipping my toes into learning about Rome and its culture and how I want to incorporate that into New Rome and Camp (literally I mention it once so don’t get any hopes up for like in depth Ancient Rome stuff and it just affected my thought process for how the Romans might think similarly to powers as they did other things). Also this is another post going, ‘this is a weird thing in camp that is never explained but doesn’t make sense to me so this is how I’d go about explaining it’ post, enjoy :]

But first things first; I think Camp puts a heavy importance on physical skill, that powers are somewhat frowned upon. That Camp Jupiter would put a higher importance on someone’s capabilities without the powers, and that power usage is something that generally the Camp doesn’t like acknowledging- I’ll go more in depth on what I mean but first I wanna talk about how I got to this conclusion making sense in my mind,

This did make sense in my brain because it fills the little gap where we don’t see a lot of Camp Jupiter power embracing or whatever. We get Hazel being worried over her powers because of the like cursed aspect? Which is a whole other can of worms that I don’t like the plot point on- but whatever. Hazel’s thing feels weird that she wouldn’t explain it, now I am obviously not a Hazel analyzer- but I do have a pretty solid characterization of Camp in my head and I feel that is something that they would 100% want to and need to know. Along with the apparent lack of notable power usage in Camp Jupiter- we don’t see it in the same way that we see over at Half-Blood, now this could be because Camp has like 0 important characters. But I feel like during the war games there would be more people taking advantage of powers, where it’s specifically called out when Percy is doing it because it’s odd in the setting- it stands out (yes it probably was called out for Rick to be like “Look at how cool and powerful Percy is guys!” But whatever-) but that bleeds into the first gorgon chase scene, where it’s notable that again; it’s only Percy using his powers openly, it’s the legionnaires that are looking on in bewilderment, confusion.

Of course there are the 4 main outliers I think of about this power thing; Reyna, Jason, Octavian, and Bryce Lawrence. But I’ll talk about what I think their situations are.

Anyway, I believe this seeming power-aversion in camp Jupiter (was probably not planned and Rick just kind of forgot about Demigods and how probable it would be that they’d display them more often for the general quality of life improvements they’d give-) could be caused by a couple factors,

The abundance of Legacy’s at camp and at New Rome; we aren’t sure how legacies work (because they are all over the place and we never get set power levels on them) but it would make logical sense that powers became more niche or less potent through generations (this obviously has outliers, and its own holes but I’ll justify this take in another post probably just about legacies-) and this would lead to less and less importance on powers- because why would a community see them as important when the majority of them don’t have very potent ones, or very general ones and it’s more simple to just not use them than hone either a very weak skill or a very niche skill.

The importance of Strength in New Rome and Camp Jupiter’s community; based partially on Ancient Romes importance on Masculinity (which I will not be mentioning much because I am just a silly black cat on the internet and I don’t have the knowledge about Romes masculinity thing) and just what we see from the very concept of Camp Jupiter’s go through Lupa’s training and survive or die, Camp Jupiter’s no magic barrier of protection, the military camp. Conquer or Die. It all places a very big importance on one’s personal strength- their strategic mind, physical prowess, ability to work together as a unit in the army. That the powers could possibly be seen almost as a cheat- that why would you use your powers when you have your training, are you weak? Do you not trust in what you’ve been taught? The Societal idea were given for the Romans is strength- and why use your powers if you are physically capable enough. And everyone is physically capable enough to be a Roman, to Conquer or Die.

Okay on a probably lighter note (idk I was reading the upper passage and that sounded pretty intense-) but also the fact that powers just feel like they wouldn’t be a good thing in Camp’s military settings. Camp Jupiter puts its importance on their military and fighting prowess, their form, the discipline. It’s much harder to fight in coordination if everyone is doing anything that isn’t related to other skills. The fact that the Cohorts aren’t godly ancestor-specific adds to that. So it just doesn’t seem reasonable knowing Camps whole thing.

Okay those three all are my ideas on the surrounding factors that make powers less used and more taboo in Camp/New Rome. This could explain why camp doesn’t display their powers. While it gives more reason for the reactions to Percy other than everyone being suprised at how cool and powerful he is or something idk, it gives Hazel more reason to hide her precious riches power thing.

Now the Outliers, people in camp that comfortably and openly use and display their powers (not including Percy, maybe idk- we’ll see)

First Reyna; we know that Reyna openly used her Bellona strength, warrior spirit and bravery sharing powers that also take away pain? Idk how they explain it but we get that in BoO the knowledge that when leading the Romans into battle Reyna would use her powers. I think this can be explained away by 1st off it’s not that noticeable so might be likely that the legion doesn’t even know she did that, secondly it could be considered that they considered her ability a outlier to the notion- it directly helps them win so I guess they don’t mind, sure they’ll be upset about it but they won’t openly object to it.

Secondly Jason and his wild skill set; he’s Jupiter’s son, pretty much Lupa’s adopted kid and Camp’s prince. They’d let him do whatever, he’s Jupite’rs son! I think they’d be super hypocritical and think him and the powers make him stronger and cooler and whatever because he’s Jupiter’s son and canonically we know they put him on a pedestal and thought he pretty much could do no wrong when he was younger so I think it’s reasonable to assume legionnaires would go along with Jason pulling lightning bolts from thin air and just going, “That’s so cool Jason!!! Yeaaah you go man!” And then turning around and ostracizing someone that used like their water-bending because like- why not just use your actual skill, no need to be a show off, y’know Dave from the 3rd cohort could’ve done that just with his Pugio and a bendy straw.

Octavian; it’s his job. I think Augur’s generally get a pass because it’s their job to be all mysterious and otherworldly and do all the cool retelling prophecies and omens. And he needs the powers to do that so of course he gets a pass.

Bryce Lawerence; he’s a freak (nicely, I love him) but he gives 0 crap if people don’t like it. They can just go to the fields of punishment for all he cares. He literally murdered someone and lit a cat on fire. There is no way in Hades that this man cares about some power taboo. If he wants to do it he’ll do it and if anyone wants to say anything they can suck his spear handle.

Overall; Camp Jupiter are Hypocrites when it comes to powers (obviously, I feel like for many reasons they are hypocrites in many other fields-) and this gives better reason that Octavian and Micheal didn’t immediately drag Percy into the 1st cohort. Because like- you know they would’ve and I think that would’ve been more interesting than the 5th cohort underdog story (like, Hazel and Frank could’ve been the main pushers of that plot and I feel that would’ve been cooler-)

But if we want to stay with Percy being put in the 5th (which if anyone wants to know for my re-imagining he is totally put in the 1st because that gives us an opening to actually characterize notable characters a lot more-) this powers thing gives a reason. All the legion knows about this kid is that he’s got a mouth on him, attracts monsters like a neon billboard with a giant arrow on it, and relies on his powers constantly. And in Camp Jupiter where obedience and discipline are cherished, they don’t need to deal with any more monsters their hands are already full, and that everyone like collectively hates their powers from societal norms. It makes more sense that none of the more notable cohorts would want to tarnish their names or reputation by bringing him on board- so of course the 5th is forced to take him.

Okay that’s my rant on how the community of Romans don’t like their powers unless they can serve a purpose of aiding the army, your the child of Jupiter, or it’s your job.

I am sleepy and therefore I bid you all a good night.

#idk how to tag this #pjo hoo toa #camp jupiter #hoo #hoo headcanon #camp jupiter headcanons #hehe :3 #I do feel like the Romans are very hypocritical #okay bye

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TW:SA Gwynriel

This topic gets brought up every few months and while I don't expect it to stop anytime soon, even after the next book is released, I want to talk about it for a minute, specifically in relation to the most recent post that's circulating.

If you haven't seen it, the poster claims to be a 'licensed professional' and is giving their 'professional' opinion on SA trauma recovery in regards to ACOTAR ships. This person makes it very clear they are an e/riel, and as evidenced by their own comments on the post, found Gwyn to be 'sus' even after reading ACOSF multiple times....

For a moment, let's set aside a few points:

The fact that labeling an SA survivor (real or not) as evil or manipulative is very harmful to readers that are actual SA survivors

The fact that this never seems to get brought up in regards to Rhys, Lucien, or Nesta who were all canonically SA'd - only Gwyn

The fact that a 'professional' opinion given by a clearly biased party isn't very reliable

I find it galling that a supposed professional who claims to work 'extensively' with trauma survivors, couldn't comprehend why Gwyn would feel responsible for her sister's death, as if survivor's guilt is not a majorly common response to that sort of event

Let's focus on the main point, which is that this person seems to be insinuating that trauma responses and recovery are universal, even after specifically stating they don't think this is the case...

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No one asked, or is owed it, but I'm going to talk about my own experience a little here, for context. You don't need the details, other than I'm a walking statistic. SA'd twice before the age of 25. The experiences were not particularly violent. One involved heavy doses of alcohol. Once was by a stranger, the other by someone I knew.

Now, I know the common belief is that people who experience sexual trauma usually develop an aversion to touch, specifically sexual touch, and by specific genders. This may be true for a lot of people, I certainly know women (and men) who this is true for. Some people, however, like me, are the opposite. I dissociated heavily from my experiences and had no aversion to touch or sex (one reason I related to Nesta so much).

I'm not saying this is a healthy coping mechanism- it absolutely is not. I was so desperate to prove I wasn't a victim, I actively harmed myself by putting myself in dangerous situations in seeking out intimacy because I (mistakenly) thought I was in control. It wasn't until I finally began seeing a therapist that I realized how harmful this was.

Even still, I never developed an aversion to touch or sex, I just became more mindful of my choices. Like many SA survivors, I turned to BDSM. When done properly (I'm looking at you 50 shades... 🙄) with people who actually know what they're doing, it can be very therapeutic for survivors of SA because it puts the control in your hands.

Again, I will spare you the details because you don't need them. That's not the point of sharing this. It's to point out- once again- that not everyone handles trauma the same.

The truth of the matter is, we don't actually know how Gwyn feels about any of this. Other than the little bit she tells Nesta and Emerie during the Blood Rite- which mostly amounted to 'my choice was taken from me in a violent way and I'm angry about it- she never speaks about her thoughts or feelings regarding that night, or men/sex in general, and we have not seen her POV.

The only men we know she's interacted with since that night are the bat boys. Other than her initial encounter with the Illyrians during the Blood Rite, she mostly keeps her distance from them and actually remains mostly level headed throughout the whole ordeal, even trying to sacrifice herself (knowing what will likely happen to her) to allow Nesta and Emerie to get away after she's shot at the bridge.

She's never really uncomfortable around Cassian or Azriel, maybe a little wary at first, but she warms to both in no time and is in fact a big reason why other priestesses eventual join. By the end she is quite comfortable with them both. Even with Rhys she just blushes (I know I've seen people try to use this as a 'gotcha' like she can't be into Az when she's attracted to his brother *groan* Rhys is hot, we know this, and personally, I think it's more celebrity shock like 'holy shit that's the High Lord of the Night Court' than a crush lol) And she wasn't all that bothered by having the men watch them while they did the Blood Rite qualifier, even after being warned. She literally shrugs it off.

She shows no discomfort when Emerie and Nesta discuss sex and even participates in the conversation which doesn't exactly scream to me that she'd uninterested in sex.

They like to point out that Gwyn went back to the library at the end of the book. This was her home for the last two years after her's had been desecrated (remember it wasn't just about what happened to her. Her sister and many of the people she knew in the temple were killed in front of her. There are several bad memories associated with it now, beyond her SA), and it's where she's been healing. It's perfectly reasonable she'd be wary about leaving, it's all she knows and she has no other home currently. Not to mention that she's said herself she doesn't want to stay in the library her whole life and she's already left it once. Granted, immediately after she left, she was thrown into yet another traumatic event so again, it's perfectly reasonable she'd be wary. It's unreasonable to think she'll never leave or that it will take a very long time before she's ready, she's already close to it, just needs a little more time to process what literally just happened to her.

Gwyn has also shown an interest in sex so it's not unreasonable to think she might try again in the near future. This is the sort of narrative we should be encouraging, that SA survivors are capable, and deserve to be able to move on and have normal, healthy lives. Not every SA survivor may want that but the vast majority do.

To say, as a professional, that an trauma survivor should be on any sort of timeline in terms of their recovery is irresponsible. It puts undue pressure on the survivor. They may take longer and feel something it wrong with them, or they may not feel they need as long and again, feel something is wrong with them.

It is irresponsible, as a professional to insinuate that trauma survivors should display specific traits or symptoms (such as anxiety or touch aversion) when everyone responds to trauma differently. Some develop severe disorders like anxiety and some function mostly normal aside from maybe the occasional episode. They may dissociate completely like I did.

Trying to put all survivors into the same box is a disservice to them all. Period. And we should not be using these sorts of opinions as basis for proving or disproving ships... let's be serious please and remember we're talking to real people about fictional people...

#fandom fuckery #gwynriel #gwyneth berdara #TW: SA

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