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waywardsalt · 4 days

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so. i've had an idea for a warrior cats fanfiction story, and have spent the last few years hammering out characters, the clans, how they work, the story... a whole lot of stuff. i've tried writing it before, and right now i don't have a current draft of early chapters, but I did recently write out a scene from much later in the story, and i'm pretty happy with it, soooo... here! a warrior cats fic scene i wrote in like an hour a week ago

By the time she led ShadeClan to the Gathering site, Emberstar felt her anxieties lessen. Her foreleg ached from the effort of the journey, but she kept her head high. Beside her, Acornfall glanced back at their clan, then nodded over to Emberstar. He led the clan down into the Gathering hollow, and Emberstar padded over to the slope up to the leader’s perch. PineClan and CliffClan cats were already quietly milling about in the hollow, and up on the overhang she could see Lakestar and Wolfstar waiting. There was no MoorClan scent among the gathered cats.

Emberstar made her way up the slope she’d seen Gorsestar and Froststar before her traverse. It was a thin path, slowly becoming steeper and steeper as she slunk closer to the overhang, finally reaching the steep, gravelly slope that led up to the leaders’ perch. Down at the base of the cliff, she could see Acornfall joining the other deputies with a polite nod of his head, and Troutfoot was carefully weaving her way through the crowd to meet with the other healers. Emberstar twitched her whiskers when Lakestar and Wolfstar noticed her. She crouched and tensed her back legs and leapt up the slope.

It wasn’t enough to reach the top, but she reached out with her forepaw and sunk her claws into the loose gravel and dug her back paws into the ground to keep from slithering back down. She slowly inched forward, moving a kittenstep at a time, but she kept her eyes fixed on the other leaders, more determined than ashamed of herself. Emberstar forced herself up the slope, but her heart skipped a beat when the gravel under her paw proved too loose to get a good enough grip- so close to the top, too. What a shame she had no other forepaw to lash out and find a grip with.

Emberstar felt herself begin to slide back down the slope, but a pair of jaws grasped her by the scruff and hoisted her up onto the overhang. She clawed at the grass and stumbled a step when let go and turned to meet Wolfstar’s amused gaze. “Careful there, three-paw,” the CliffClan leader gruffly purred. “It’s bad luck to fall at your first Gathering as leader.” She brushed past Emberstar to sit back down next to Lakestar.

With a huff, Emberstar followed her with a shake of her pelt. “I appreciate your help, but I would have been fine on my own. I suppose I owe you now?”

Wolfstar’s whiskers twitched. “Are you saying ShadeClan is now in CliffClan’s debt?”

The young leaders stared at each other, then broke out into amused purrs. Lakestar rolled her eyes and wrapped her tail around her paws. “So, you are ShadeClan’s leader now, Emberstar? Or is it still Emberblaze?”

“It is Emberstar now. I visited the Moon Cavern for my lives only a few sunrises ago.”

“May StarClan light your path as leader, then.” Lakestar stiffly dipped her head. Despite the brusque words, there was genuine respect in her pale eyes.

Wolfstar’s own eyes were still bright with humor. “You��ll be great, I know it. What happened to Froststar, then?”

Emberstar narrowed her eyes and turned her gaze to the gathered cats. “I’ll explain that once the Gathering begins. MoorClan is late tonight.” She surveyed the crowd of cats, peering straight down at the huddled healers. Sitting with her back to her PineClan clanmates, Flarelight was sitting close to Troutfrost. After a moment, she gazed up at the overhang, and her eyes met Emberstar’s. Her eyes grew wide and she stared at her littermate for a long moment until another healer got her attention. Then, as if she’d seen nothing, Flarelight flicked her tail and joined the conversation. Her twitching tail-tip was the only hint that she was distracted. Emberstar blinked. She’d become leader so recently that not even the other healers knew, much less the other clans’ warriors. In the crowd of CliffClan cats, she spotted Sunscorch, sitting with his fur brushing Moonwhisper’s, his eyes wide and his body stiff while he stared at his sister up on the overhang.

Poor Sunscorch, so softhearted under those honed claws and strong limbs- he was likely to take the news of Froststar’s death the hardest. Emberstar held his gaze, blinked slowly, and turned her head to the sky. The moon was nearly overhead, and still MoorClan was absent.

“You ought to start the Gathering now,” Wolfstar growled to Lakestar. “It’s newleaf, after all, and if MoorClan’s late then they’re late.”

“We should wait,” Emberstar sharply mewed. “This is my first Gathering as leader, so it would be disrespectful to me as well as MoorClan if we begin without them. It may anger StarClan as well,” she finished in a murmur, flicking her tail-tip up at the sky. Wolfstar just bushed out her stormy gray fur and huffed.

Lakestar gazed up at the sky. Emberstar looked over at her. For so long, as an apprentice, as a warrior, as the deputy, she’d never dared to be so close to the cold PineClan leader. But now, she was barely a tail-length from the sleek silver tabby, and they sat as equals in standing. Lakestar was likely at less than nine lives and Emberstar was without a right foreleg, but they were equals nonetheless.

She was knocked from her thoughts by Wolfstar headbutting her. The larger cat nearly shoved her off-balance. “Glad to see that we’re both finally up here. I was waiting to see when you’d catch up, three-paw.”

Emberstar licked Wolfstar’s ear. “You know I must take things slower than you.”

“Who’d you pick as deputy?” Wolfstar leaned over the edge to inspect the group of deputies. “Hm- Acornfall?”

“He’s a good warrior. Older than me by four seasons, so I trust his advice and his skill.”

“I thought you would have picked Lavenderflash. Or maybe Darknose, you two always seemed close.”

Emberstar gazed down at Lavenderflash, spotting the pure-black molly quickly- she was almost certain there was obvious fondness in her eyes as she looked at her former apprentice. “Lavenderflash is… young and still training her first apprentice. She is a good, loyal warrior, but not fit to be deputy or eventual leader in my mind. And Darknose…” The tom was sitting at the edge of the crowd, alone. “He is a possibility, but he still mourns his brother even all these moons later, so I don’t know if he would be the best choice.”

Wolfstar made a sniff of approval, then her gaze snapped to the far hill. A yowl rang out, and the three leaders pricked their ears and the cats in the hollow turned to see MoorClan finally arrive, led by Applestar. Emberstar sat stiffly until she spotted Glowflame in the crowd, side-by-side with Orangeclaw. He joined the cats in the hollow with his clan while Applestar broke off to climb up to the overhang, and he seemed to murmur something to Orangeclaw before she angled her ears up at Emberstar. Glowflame looked up and spotted her, and his jaw dropped open. Emberstar couldn’t help but let out a purr of affection for her brother as he gaped in amazement at her.

Applestar greeted the other leaders when he finally joined them, nodding briefly at Emberstar, and hurriedly sat down next to Lakestar, his mottled fur standing up along his spine. The leaders gave the cats in the hollow a few moments to settle down. In that time, Emberstar saw her littermates make their ways through the crowd towards each other. By the time Lakestar threw back her head and yowled to signify the beginning of the Gathering, Flarelight, Sunscorch, and Glowflame sat huddled together with their eyes trained on their sister. Emberstar met their gazes for just a heartbeat and felt the final icicles of her anxiety melt away.

She then turned her head to watch Lakestar as she began to announce her clan’s news for the moon, and reminded herself of what she had to announce when it was her turn. She was ShadeClan’s leader, now. StarClan had approved of her. Emberstar lifted her chin and, with a deep breath, finally settled into her place at the head of her clan.

#woe warrior cats fanfiction be upon ye #my writing #fanfiction #warrior cats #hmmm...#waywardsalt's warrior cats #yeahhhh #anyways a few things abt this related specifically to whats in here #emberstar and wolfstar are not in any kind of relationship theyre just longtime friends n rivals tho at some point wolfstar had a crush #emberstar is meant to be aro/ace and otherwise has no interest in taking a mate at all but she loves her clanmates #glowflame and orangeclaw are mates and sunscorch and moonwhisper are mates idk if flarelight will be in a relationship #the map for this fic (clan territories and camp layouts and moon cavern/gathering spot) is based on a minecraft world i have its v helpful #i have a full alliances list for the living cats at the very beginning of the story but it lacks cats outside the clan bc uhhhh i dont #think there are too many that are present that early and also loners arent usually a big thing its mostly cats passing through #emberstar is mostly dark ginger and black flarelight is mostly just dark ginger sunscorch is gold/yellow and glowflame is yellow and white #all four of them have ice blue eyes and black ear tips i am getting funky with cat designs i do not care. they have teh most unique designs #calling med cats healers bc of. reasons you may know why. and she cats are mollies bc like. why not #emberstar is a tripod cat she is missing a foreleg and she is the primary primary protag she is the most frequent pov #so i have thought a lot abt how she would need to be trained and assessed differently and what she cannot do and how she does warrior dutie #ember flare sun and glow all grew up together but separated into the different clans for Reasons ember stayed in shadeclan bc she was deput #it was also for those Reasons but dw abt it. sunscorch is gay glowflame is bi flarelight is a lesbian #gorsestar and froststar (the previous shadeclan leaders emberstar thinks of) were both mollies and were mates. frost mentored emberstar #its a little bit of nepotism but ember was frost's like. third deputy so its whatever. i picked acornfall as deputy as a placeholder #and bc i couldnt fucking remember anyone else except nobodies in shadeclan but now that i think about it he's actually a good choice #aaaand emberstar is my oldest warrior cats rp character shes been with me a long time- second oldest is sunscorch #emberstar began as emberheart and sunscorch was an edgy murder rogue named sun i roleplayed them in a specific mc server

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aroaceconfessions · 2 years

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im aroace and i've only been in one relationship before, which was shitty and toxic but not the point.

i've heard quite a lot aro/ace people say that they cant tell they "love someone" because it's weird and uncomfy to say. and i might have just realised something.

so, up until like two years ago it was very difficult for me to accept any type of affection or intimacy or care even from my closest friends because of trauma (now i've overcome that dw). and i remember being physically unable to say something like "i love you" even to friends, and if i managed to say it they words seemed empty, meaningless and uncomfortable. now i've overcome that too and i think that was also due to trauma. BUT i remember that when i was in that one relationship i couldnt physically bring myself to say "i love you" out loud (the trauma I mentioned before was probably part of the reason why but it just seemed? fake? like i have a hundred different ways to tell you i care about you why would i use that shitty sentence from romanric movies), and it made me and my partner feel guilty.

now, in my native language there's not the universal "i love you" that has 30 different meanings, we have an expression used for affection (generally used by friends and family) and another for stronger love (doesnt mean it has to be romantic and me and my friends say it and mean it platonically because we're close to each other, but people usually use that for romantic partners/interests). so i just realised that *maybe* my discomfort in saying "i love you" romantically to my partner was due to the fact that it just? didn't make sense to me? like i (unfortunately) truly cared for my partner at the time (not romantically probably but i didnt know better) but i always thought that saying the overly used "i love you" was just meaningless and useless.

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose #dating #relationships #language

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moss-selfship · 8 months

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Aint like, izu a minor? And the only open aroace character in dungeon meshi?

ok so few things here with this 1) i started shipping with izu basically like, a couple pages after she appeared XD this was when i had just gotten into dungeon meshi and so had spoilers blocked and didnt want to look at any extra stuff cause i didnt want spoilers. anyway cut to me realizing basically i went "ah shit, anyway aging her up now" i know some people are chill with stuff like that, i mean i follow proship tag so i see it often but it aint for me so i just age her up to same age. 2) she was never actually confirmed aro ace, that was the fandom going wild with the pages of her saying she "didnt have a type" and then the succubus stuff. people have taken that as confirmation for it which is perfectly fine, people are allowed to have that response and think that. But i personally say she is Demisexual, her not having a type because with the life she grew up with she had never really had a super close emotional connection to and so never had feelings for them. Same for why the succubus tried to show her mom instead of any romantic partner, cause the succubus couldnt really replicate close emotional attachments. Which is why with laios it just made marcille appear to say everyone was monsters now. Also i am asexual myself, have been for years and have been extremely open about it. Asexuality is a wide spectrum and can be everything from the thought of sex disgusting them all the way to like me where the thought of sex is nice, but actually doing it id rather go chill and watch movies and stuff. TLDR, i age her up after i found out how old she was, and even though i am asexual i headcanon her as demisexual.

#love in the dungeon #also none of this is said in like #anger or anything #im chill with the question #just wanted to give explenation

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plague-of-insomnia · 1 year

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hm idk how ur gonna feel abt an ask like this but i do want to get smth off my chest & u seem p safe. feel free to delete if u want

i saw a post recently talking abt how "gay" got used as a slur a lot more than people acknowledge. and it got me thinking of my school years & how often it got thrown around.

thing is. and heres where my train of thought goes off the rails. i actually experienced the word "incest" as an attack more than the word "gay"... which. ill explain. but it really got me thinking on this whole purity culture & demonising of incest depicted in literature & yknow taking things too far with whats considered incest.

bc at the end of the day. the reason incest is illegal (mostly) is to prevent inbreeding & the health issues that come along with that. if ur not blood related then theres no problem.

and like. the reason i got called incestuous and generally ostracised was bc i was close with a boy in my year. like we dated for a week as 14 yros do. and at some point i discovered that hey. his last name is the same as my aunts and lo and behold hes my 2nd cousin thru marriage or smth. so. not incest at all.

anyway that p much ruined our friendship (& it was a friendship. i broke things off before i even knew we were related bc i just didnt feel the same way and we stayed friends for a little bit) all bc some kids couldnt let it go that we had the vaguest relation to each other. he got bullied for the rest of our school year & ive felt horribly guilty for leaving him bc i wanted to be "cool" & ended up without any close friends like we were.

sorry if thats a weird thing to put in ur inbox.

Hey, anon. I don't mind this ask. I hope you don't mind me replying publicly. (In future if you don't just say so.)

This post will be a bit long, so I'll go ahead and put it under a readmore.

TW for discussions of "gay" used in a negative way, and discussions of the use of the word "incest," and its association with child sexual abuse, though there's really nothing terribly bad here as I'm not going into detail on any of thse topics. (If you need something tagged, though, let me know.)

Now, I'm old as dirt by tumblr standards, and I remember VIVIDLY the word "gay" being used in a negative light. As a kid, I didn't really see it used as a "slur" per se, but it was used to mean something was bad.

Like, if you saw a movie that sucked, you'd say "Man, that movie was so gay." It meant something like "lame."

So obviously, it wasn't a good thing, and when I got a bit older and was explained why using the word was bad, I stopped, and fortunately most other kids did too and it mostly faded from use (in that sense) at least as far as I noticed.

(I'm not saying gay hasn't been used as a more nasty slur/word ofc, this is just my personal experience with it.)

Granted, keep in mind when I was in high school, our LGBTQ+ club was just the "Gay/Straight Alliance." Back then, it was basically, you were gay/lesbian, or you were an ally. We never talked about trans people or nonbinary people or ace/aro people. Ofc every one of those identities/kinds of people existed, but as far as my world went, they didn't. Most of my circle of friends was queer in some way, but many were closeted or semi-closeted for various reasons.

Anyway, sorry for that detour. Now, as to your incest situation. I'm sorry that happened to you. It definitely wasn't fair. You didn't have any way to know if you were related, and if/when you did it was "easy" to end the relationship. But kids are kids, and they always love to find a way to single people out, and they probably didn't really care what the actual truth was.

Even if you'd discovered having a similar name was total coincidence, I'm sure they'd still have bullied you for "incest."

I wasn't bullied for it, thankfully, but I did have a classmate in high school with the same last name as mine. My name is very common in some places, but where I lived at that time it was not, so everyone assumed we were fraternal twins. He was a nice enough guy, but I really didn't want people to think we were siblings. But no matter how many times we both explained we weren't related, no one believed us.

Sometimes, once someone makes their mind up about something, there's no changing it.

As for "abandoning" your friend because you didn't want to be left out and regretting it, I get that too. There was a guy I dated when I was around 16, and we were very passionate, but I think honestly I entered a major depressive episode and lost all interest in everything, including him, and... anyway, I regret how things ended between us even today, many, many years later. I wish I could shake my 16-year-old self and tell them not to be so cruel, but we can't change the past, only learn from it and move forward.

With regards to antis/purity culture taking incest so far, I do agree it has gotten ridiculous. As you said, the reason incest is taboo is because of inbreeding, because if your (general you) DNA is too closely related, you increase the chance of having major/significant diseases due to a lack of genetic diversity. But antis tend not to understand the WHY's behind things (since they also believe pedophilia is bad bc it's disgusting, and not because it hurts children, who become real grown adults).

But I have seen some really wild takes called incest. Like a ship from one fandom where the male and female characters are friends. A lot of people consider it "problematic" apparently, because they have a "sibling-like" relationship. They did not grow up together, they aren't related, and yet that's "incest" according to antis.

I do want to mention another reason that incest can/is considered so bad, and it's because, despite what antis may think, most sexual abuse of children comes from someone close to them in their lives, often a family member or close friend. So for a lot of people, when they think of "incest," they closely associate it with sexual abuse of a child. It's possible that's why antis get so upset about it. I don't know. But that is another aspect to it. (Ofc for you, in your past situation, you were both around the same age, so that's not the case, but that association is there.)

But, in the end, in fiction, it doesn't matter, because there are not actual children who can be conceived or harmed, and so the whole purpose behind why incest isn't allowed in many places in modern times doesn't exist.

I hope you're doing OK now, anon. Don't be to hard on yourself. A lot of people have done things when they were young teens they regret and wish they could "undo," but as long as you learned from that experience so you could become a better person than that 14-year-old version of you, I think you're doing OK.

Sending you some hugs. <3

#poi answers #not kuro #anon

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wearequeer-andwearehere · 2 years

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hey, hey. at the end-ish of december last year, i sent you an ask, super long and quite incoherent, while i was questioning my sexuality. you replied with quite a long post, some links, and advice to look into the mirror and try on the label 'aromantic'. it's been months. i've been thinking it a while, asked lots of friends what crushes feel like, read lots of stories about people on the aro spectrum, and... i'm aro. i'm aroace. i'm not sure what my feelings are on it - i mean, i'm so glad (1)

that i have a label that i feel like FITS, and memes and tiktoks and tumblr posts that i see and actually feel like i relate to, but i still feel so, so isolated and awful whenever people continually bring up 'love' and it's not a love i can feel - but i just wanted to say... thanks, thank you, thank you SO much. i don't think i would've ever figured it out on my own - and that picture, of me without having sent through that ask, saddens me. i called myself pan, but i never really related to those experiences - and that took me a long time to realise. meanwhile, i was sad, worried, confused, always critical of romance in media, and i told my parents i never wanted to get married/date. they told me they didn't want to at my age and it would come would time. i just- thanks, aryan. i'm just another teen but you've really helped me somuch. thanks for doing what you do - you're so selfless and caring, like the types in the hist 📚

Hi there my friend!!

Ahhh yeah I remember your ask!!

Holy shit, I’m so happy for you my friend!! Aromanticism and asexuality are awesome and the aspec community is awesome. I spent a brief time there when I used to identify as ace and it was so warm and welcoming and friendly and cheery and fighting for acceptance. You’ve got an awesome community full of others like you and allies like me who’ll support you all the way.

Ahh I know what you mean!! I felt the same way when I realised I was trans, like finally, a community, finally, somewhere where I’m not alone, somewhere where I relate to stuff.

I’m sorry, anon, I’ve heard a lot of aros talk about how isolating being aro can be. I just want you to know that you are wonderful and whole just as you are, and not being able to feel romantic love doesn’t matter. You’re an awesome person and you have worth. Remember that. No matter what, you have worth.

I’m so so glad I could help you—that’s why I do what I do. Being openly queer is shitty sometimes and having a queer blog online makes me the target of harassment, but I love y’all. So so much.

It was the queer community that saved me, that showed me I wasn’t broken and I wasn’t alone and there was a name for what I was feeling, the queer community took me in and I made some of the best friends of my life and I felt safe and heard and understood.

So I pay it forward. No kid should grow up feeling broken or not understood. No one should feel ashamed of who they are. And if I can help just a few people understand that there’s a name for who they are, if I can help just one person figure out who they are, that’s what it’s all about. Paying it forward.

We all ponder on those images of alternate selves who were never as fortunate as we were—but remember, my friend, you are here. You are who you are and you figured it out and you *know* you are aroace. So while it’s natural to grieve for the other you who never figured it out, be happy you know who you are, and this is the life you’re living.

Again, I’m so so glad I could help you, and this message warmed my heart. I’m so glad I could help someone figure out who they are.

Afsfafsfd as I said earlier, I’m paying it forward. Y’all deserve to know who you are and be accepted and understood and I’m doing my part. I want queer kids to grow up safe and heard and accepted, because I couldnt.

Im guessing you got cut off at the end here, but again, I’m so so happy for you and Im so glad I could help you. I hope the sun is shining where you are, my friend! Have a wonderful day!!

#ask #anon #📚 anon

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littlx-songbxrd · 3 years

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Chain of Iron:Death theory

As the awaited release date for Chain of Iron approaches and the fandom decends into pure madness, I want to put in my last two cents of overthinking before I stop having coherent thoughts

So we all know this is a second book, and second books bring the absolute pain in the shadowhunter chronicles. There is likely going to be a death from the mains considering the theme of this book, and I am here to throw my theory and reasons as to who I think it might be. Im here to sadly theorize about why I think Christopher Lightwood might not make it past the last hours

1. Tatianas revenge

Right now, Tatiana wants revenge after all our main families: the carstairs, herondales, fairchilds and both branches of the lightwoods. For the lightwood-collins theres barbaras death. For the herondales her daughter has been manipulating their son for over 6 years. Theres a theory that the fairy poison Mathew bought that caused Charlottes misscarriage could be traced back to her. And there are other theories that Elias dissaperance between chog and choi could have something to do with Belial. As of right now the only family who is yet to recieve any permanent damage or tragedy are the lightwood-herondales. Which is really ironic considering its the only family that has two bloodlines Tatiana wants to harm. Not only that, but theyre also the children of who Tatiana blames directly for her fathers death, Gabriel. It seems fishy to me there hasn't been any permanent damage in their family, and I dont think that is gonna last for long

2. The family tree

The family tree states that Grace Cartwright (Aka Grace Blackthorn) marries Christopher Lightwood and theyre the ones who continue the line that leads to Alec and Isabelle. Now Cassandra has said varius times the family tree can be misleading, and I am a firm believer this is one of the misleading ends. Why this lie was created, I'm not sure, but lets analize some things. As of right now there are 5 lightwood children. At least 3 of them can pass down the lightwood name. Of those three, if we take into account that Thomas may not have kids due to being gay, that still leaves two branches of lightwood kids that may continue on. As of present time we only have word of one line, Alec and Isabelles. And Robert isnt said to have any cousins, theres no mention in the future of another lightwood line. So the idea that both Alexander and Christopher have kids is pretty unbelivable considering theres only one lightwood line in the future. Unless Alexander goes on to have only girls and Christopher has only one boy, it seems more likely the family tree is wrong. Isabelle and Alec are confirmed as of the bane chronicles to be decendants of Gabriel lightwood (Isabelle makes a reference to looking up her great great grandfather Gabriel Lightwood and telling magnus he was hot in the last story of the book)

So its already confirmed they're a) the last decendants of the lightwood line and b) that line stems from Gabriel. If we based ourselves solely on the family tree and Christopher being the one carrying the line, that would have been believable enough not to raise any red flags. Christopher IS the son of Grabriel Lightwood, able bodied and seems to have a general attraction to women (I mean, we all know hes aro/ace but lets stick with canon). There isnt anything pointing to him not being able to marry and have kids. Where the red flags raise for me is with Alexander

Alexander wasnt in the original plans for the family tree, he was added when Cassie started writting the last hours. If you take into account his role in chog, there really was no reason to add Alexander Lightwood. He doesnt seem to do anything, hes a 3 year old kid, you can very well delete him from the narrative and nothing would change. So why did Cassandra add him?? Why did she decide to make Cecily and Gabriel have another kid ?

To me, it seems a lot like the baby carstairs situation . The family tree says Alastair carries the carstairs line, Alastair is a gay man so he cant have biological kids, theres another unplaned baby to carry the line. It seems to me Christopher carrying the lightwood line is a lie, and Alexanders role is to carry it in his place. I even found a little info from an ask wayy before chain of gold came out where it said Alexander had green eyes, but in the book she changed it to blue eyes. The exact same shade the modern day lightwoods seem to have. A trait hes more likely to pass down than his lavender eyed brother who supposedly "marries" grey eyed grace

3. Character Arc

Characters in literature need goals, things to work for or work towards through the story in order for them to develop. We call those things character arcs, and it seems we have all ignored how christophers may have indirectly ended. If you read his short story, or just overall analize his character, his main goal is simple. He wants to create something that will help the nephlim through science. His personal character arc is that he wants to prove himself and his skill to the clave using his passion to be a hero.

An arc that could have been expanded all through the series, and ended with him using his skills in the end to defeat belial in some way, proving his passions worth. Through the story we could have had a glimpse at his struggles, how he was put down, the failed attempts, fustrations etc. This all could have rounded christopher as a character, and brought more satisfaction to the end goal of his arc which is proving the value of his science. But instead, his arc in book seemingly already ended? Because he did it, he figured out a way to combine science with his duty and saved the entire enclave from the demon poison. He is now acclaimed a hero for his skills. All the other characters have things to finish going into chain of iron, Christopher doesnt. Why would she end an arc that could have taken through the entire series in just one book? Christopher is the only secondary character with a defined personality and a lack of arc to look foward too in following books. This could all point that his arc was rushed because it was being cut short

4. Lightwood blood

There has been a lot of theories going around about Thomas being the one who gets killed in this book, which is resonable considering the unerving amount of forehsadowing we've had to him getting himself caught up in something. But I raise you this, why would CC be giving us so much assurance that Thomas was going to get hurt if she was going to kill him? Not only would she be reaveling one of her most devastating murders, she would basically be spoiling a very big part of her own book. Thomas death would affect everyone, if she WERE to kill him she wouldnt be indulging us in our Thomas death theory as much as she has. Itd be too expectable, I actually believe that by giving us all the info she has she has more or less confirmed he wont die.

I believe this is all a decoy. Shes giving us foreshadowing towards something bad happening to Thomas, to cover up the very big reality shes planning to kill someone else. Theres a very big chance that for the resurection, theyre gonna need Jesses families blood. Same way Malcom needed blackthorn blood to raise Annabel. As of rightnow there arent any blackthorns (by blood) left alive, the only blood relatives Jesse still had are the lightwoods. So we already know Thomas gets captured by the murderer (referenece to the art), but it is most likely he gets rescued. People speculate he most likely got captured for the resurection Tatianas trying to do, because of his lightwood blood. But if Thomas escapes, Tatiana still needs her families blood. And I'd like to point out this is also where the fact she hasnt taken permanent revenge on the lightwood-herondales would come in. Theres a good chance that if the murders are releated to her, and she cant have Thomas, she wont stop at just Thomas.

5. Story relevance

In all sense of story, Christopher is the perfect candidate to kill. As hard as that is to say: he's a secondary character, who has a well defined personality, loved enough by the fans that there would certainly be a shock factor following his death, important enough to the story that there would be a big impact to the narrative, and interwined enough with the main characters to cause emotional distress in the story. His arc is indirectly done, this author has a history of killing lightwoods, there isnt much to discourage the possibility he might be killed besides the faulty family tree. And as I said, that tree has been stated multiple times to be misleading

Bonus prove

6. Christophers cut-out

Same way were analizing the hell out of a broken spear, why are we not talking about the skull on christophers?

(Sorry couldnt get better quality pics)

The truth is, I hate this theory as much as everyone, Im genuinly hoping chain of iron proves me wrong. But there are 5 deaths comming, and not all of them can be side characters. Cordelia Lucie and James all have main character protection. I already explained why Thomas dying is unlikely. Anna, Ariadne and Alastair have gay protection (and I think some asks about Alastair dying were pretty much answered with a discreet no)

If there are mains dying, Christophers the most likely to go

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sohin-ace · 4 years

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Jojo Drabble - Jotaro (Pride Month Special)

It's the end of Pride Month, and I haven't seen a single, not a single post about Aro/Aces...

I'm not really surprised. At all.

I'm linking some interesting videos and websites to help you understand this sexual orientation.

Asexuality: The invisible Orientation by Hippie Calico

I spent a day with Asexuals by Anthony Padilla

Asexuality by David Jay

Asexuality.org (available in 16 languages)

R/aaaacccccce on Reddit

R/asexuality on Reddit

(Both subreddits are very cute and full of funny memes and good positivity 💜🖤)

In regards to the visibility of this marginal and forgotten sexuality, I'll be making a drabble about it. With the only openly Aro/Ace character of Jojo that I know of.

※ Jojo Scenario • Jotaro - Ace to Ace

You opened the heavy metallic door leading to the rooftop, the loud clank and dry screech making you cringe. Hopefully the sound wouldn't alert the teachers or the class reps. After all, nobody was allowed on the roof. Especially during class hours.

You walked around, searching for a certain someone and, surely enough, the boy in question was there, just where you expected him to be.

"Man, you sure love to ditch, don't you?"

You chuckled and the male didn't even spare you a glance, his hat effectively shielding his face from the Spring sun as he laid leisurely on the floor, his arms pillowing his head.

"I could say the same to you."

Well, he wasn't wrong, you thought to yourself, but you would never admit it out loud and possibly give this smug man reason.

You slowly and carefully sat down next to him, groaning slightly at the painful difficulty of the usually simple task.

Jotaro perked up slightly at your discomfort, making sure you were alright. Thankfully you seemed alright and he relaxed.

"Yare yare daze, you shouldn't have come. You're still recovering, why are you walking flights of stairs now?"

That's right. You were still under medication and strict medical supervision for your quite severe stomach wounds. And you still weren't used to your prosthetic leg just yet.

It was purely a miracle that you managed to survive that fight against Dio, and you never ever took a second of your life for granted after that, thinking of the friends who didn't have the same chance as you, lost forever during that battle.

You looked down at your uniform skirt. You couldn't think about that now. You had to lift up the mood for Jotaro, and for them.

"Hey, I'm fine." You dismissed with a smile, "It doesn't even hurt that much anymore, it's been a while now." You reassured and he only mumbled his catchphrase again, laying back down.

You two kept each other company in comfortable silence. Despite everything, Jotaro was still taciturn and you were much calmer after all that happened the past few months.

It was already the end of the school year and your thoughts drifted to the future that awaited you, and what it had to possibly offer.

"Say, Jotaro..." You softly grasped his attention and he only hummed in response. "What do you think will happen next? After we graduate, I mean..."

"Hmm?" He opened a curious blue eye at you." ...Go to college or get a job. Or both. What else do you want to do?"

"Ah well..." You paused and thought of your next words. "I don't want to but... Guess I'll have to get married and stuff eventually... Have kids, cook for my husband, things like that you know..."

Jotaro clicked his tongue and scoffed at the disgusting idea. "...Bullshit."

"I know..." You sighed and looked back down at the male, only to see him stare at the now more covered sky, his usual glare softer on his face. You knew what he was thinking.

"Jotaro..." You called and he looked at you. "You're the same as me... Right?"

He didn't say anything, but his eyes spoke answers for him. You may not have known him for very long, but the adventures and experiences you lived with him were worth much more than years of friendship.

He huffed and closed his eyes. "Yare yare daze... Why are you talking about depressing things, now?"

"I mean... Can you blame me for being worried? I know you feel the exact same, Jotaro." You brought your knees up to your chest and stared ahead. "You'll have to get through the same thing at one point too... That's... What we're expected to do, after all... Whether we like it or not."

He hated to admit it, but you were right. What was the place in society for two outsiders with not interests in romantic or sexual relationships?

What were Aromantics and Asexuals besides loners, straight people craving attention and finding poor excuses for their lack of charisma?

Especially when everybody well knew that the only way to succeed in life, was to share it with a significant other and keep the bloodline going forever.

...Or was it really?

All these thoughts, your obligations as members of the patriarchal modern society, the implications behind all of it, the consequences, the fate you two would be doomed in. All of these were so painful. A lifelong struggle.

He was aware that he'd have to complete his other half of his life, achieve the ultimate life goals of getting married to a beautiful little wife and have cute little children running around the house and all that jazz.

But that's not how Jotaro Kujo had ever imagined his life would be like.

He had his own dreams, his own comforts. Being alone was good. So good. But he had no choice, he'd have to satisfy society's expectations. He'd have to make his mother proud and granting her the little grandchildren she always wished to have.

Jotaro looked back at your metallic leg. After all you've been through, after all he's lost to save his mother, pleasing her and making her happy was the least he could do to honor your sacrifices and the deaths of his loved ones.

But what could he do? Force himself? A man couldnt force himself to develop feelings, he could only pretend. But what good would that do him?

He'd have to, eventually. He couldn't help but think back at you. You were all the same. And you two would be judged for life for not following suit and do like everyone else, like little sheeps.

Was it so wrong to not want to be with a special someone? To not get attached or attracted? Why was it so weird? Why was it unacceptable? Who deemed it necessary, to get stuck into marriage just for the sake of being married?

And man, his thoughts rathered to drift to sex either, that's really the last straw and if possible, he'd love to shut everybody up about it. Shut up everybody who only validated a man's worth by his primal urge to knock a woman up.

You seemed to be the only one he could actually talk about this with, since people would just tell you the usual 'You're gay!' or 'You haven't found the one yet!'.

Just like telling a depressed person to 'cheer up'. Bullshit excuses of people who couldn't accept that mindsets and sexualities differ with each human being.

What were the two of you supposed to do? You were stuck, cornered.

He was a stone that knew nothing about affection, and he already pitied the unlucky woman who'd get to him.

And you were just as bad of a stone. He felt bad for you, for having to have to lay down and take it without batting an eye just to satisfy the needs of the greedy bastard that'd snatch you away.

"... We'll figure it out, Y/N. We've dealt with much worse to worry about things like that."

"That's true but... I don't know. It's hard to imagine a family life. I like chilling on my own. And I'm still too sad about them to be lovey-dovey."

He scoffed, hitting your back playfully. "So what? Let two hopeless rocks with crippling depression be themselves. Sounds like a plan."

"Now, hear yourself talking about depressing things!" You chuckled and pointed out accusingly at him, stealing his precious hat and putting it on your own head.

He sat up with an exhausted sigh and roughly pulled his hat down your eyes, as his own little revenge, gratified by a small 'Ow!' of response from your end.

He let out a ghost of a smile as you were blinded by his hat, thankful that you couldn't see him even though he knew you'd never tease him for being more expressive.

"Ow, that actually hurt, Jojo, you bastard!"

"Let's go." He stood up before stretching his huge hand out to you, making sure to be careful with your injuries as he pulled you up to your feet with surprising gentleness.

Before you could reach your classroom, you grabbed your friend's arm, prompting him to stop walking in the empty hallways.

"But really, Jojo... Wherever you are, and if you have been pushed into a life that unsatisfies you in the future... think about me, okay? You know that somewhere, I'll be the exact same... You're not alone."

He couldn't help but soften his gaze just slightly. You were a thoughtful person, that wasn't a secret. You already had proven yourself to be compassionate multiple times during your crusade, and you kept on.

You made him realise that he was normal and it was okay to not feel anything. You two could only rely on each other now, and it sure didn't matter to him what people say.

Oh of course he'd heard his classmates gush about how cute you two were and how uncharacteristically sweet he was towards you ever since you came back from your trip.

Because the infamous Jotaro Kujo wouldn't just have a soft spot for just anyone, right? Nobody would believe that he became so gentle just because you were injured, there must be something more, right?

No. Absolutely not. And screw society for fogging people' small brains into thinking that there's an afterthought or innuendo behind every male-female, or even same sex platonic relationships.

He knew well that it made you as uncomfortable as him, but you always brushed it off and let the people talk. Let them believe whatever they wanted.

He never wanted to think too much about it, but he couldn't help but worry as well sometimes. That was the kind of things that pissed him off.

It pissed him off so bad. If it wasn't for you he would have crushed so many skulls already. That would teach some people to shut the fuck up.

"What are you thinking about, Jotaro?"

He blinked, humming questioningly at you as you had taken him out of his transe.

"You just called Star Platinum." You said as you grabbed the Stand's big hand, shaking it around as if to greet him, to which he responded with a whispery 'Ora'.

He sighed heavily, calling his Stand back. "Nothing... Nothing at all."

You chuckled a bit. You've learned to read him quite well overtime. A skill only his mother and Kakyoin had mastered. "I'm worried too, Jojo. Hopefully it will be okay... For us."

You patted his back reassuringly and he smiled.

Wasn't that kind of love enough? Love without obligation, without commitment. Without the consequences. Without gender norms, without standards. Just people caring for each other. Wasn't friendship, camaraderie, sisterhood and brotherhood beautiful enough?

Platonic, unromantic love was much stronger than any other type of relationship. He was satisfied with this form of social contact. He didn't need anything more.

Jotaro Kujo was never a greedy man, after all.

The male was suddenly brought back to his sense when he felt a tiny hand tug insistently at his sleeve, hoping to wake him up from his rêverie.

"Papa, you fell asleep on your desk again..."

Jotaro inhaled tiredly, scratching his head and taking in his surroundings, his study back in his home in Florida. He patted his daughter's head, making her scrunch her face a little.

Was it that late already? He was so used to dozing off after working on his thesis, reflecting on his life and his choices. He had been overworking himself lately. He knew he shouldn't overthink, but he couldn't help it.

"Thank you Jolyne. Go back to sleep now, alright?"

The little girl nodded and trutted out, leaving her father alone to his thoughts.

Jotaro let out another breath, eyeing a certain picture frame, taken in the desert. Hopefully you were living a fulfilling life of your own.

And hopefully you two would get to meet again, and maybe talk again.

Ace to ace.

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idk if any of my followers know this, but im aroace and also bi.

tw for aphobia, talking about sex (third paragraph), sexual assault/abusive relationships (last three paragraphs)

i think that like, defining my sexuality in terms that is not aroace as a catchall is difficult and i dont really want to, but if you WANT to know the specifics of me being aspec its:

i dont feel sexual attraction or romantic attraction in large amounts, and if i do its on a very very rare occasion. but i dont consider myself demisexual and demiromantic, or greyromantic and greysexual. neither resonate with me as much as aro/ace does. so i identify as aroace. i am aroace

but, theres a big impact on me being aroace versus a lot of my friends being some form of allosexual/alloromantic. whenever they talk about how hot and “sexy” they find someone, or how much they want to date someone, and i SEE them, i can get why but also i dont get why, from my own, personal standpoint. or something like that. and whenever i dont get something, or get confused, i get UPSET. i hate not knowing things, so i try and make myself feel attracted to the person. i dont get it.

and ive VERY rarely felt fully attracted to things other than fictional characters- dont consider this “fictosexual” or whatever people call it- i do have the full capability of being attracted to a person, i just very rarely do. i want to be happy with someone i have a deep connection with, is all.

but even then ive only been fully attracted to like, one character? two? one of them is dave strider (who was a big part of my identity, actually, and still is if it isnt obvious)

being aroace really like... hit. during middle school. i didnt get why people wanted to show off- i had anxiety, yes, and i wanted to seem presentable (though never really doing it)- but i never got why people wanted to look ATTRACTIVE. i know people make jokes about “haha i was always more focused on my grades but i didnt really care for looking nice” but thats what happened to ME (that is until i developed severe issues with my appearance from continuously being TOLD that i wanted to look nice for people, and that i just didnt know it yet)

and then a big amount of aphobia hit me when i started dating (i just WANTED to be in a relationship and it got me into some tricky stuff, i hated most of my relationships)

when i was about eleven, i already went through about four partners. a fucking eleven year old, going through four partners. ive had more because i was stupid, but think about that. an eleven year old dating 4 people.

and most of those were SEVERELY toxic relationships. one manipulated me, and i didnt realize because i feigned some form of infatuation that i believed was real. the other one sexually assaulted me. and the other one? got mad at me for saying i was asexual so i couldnt feel sexual attraction towards him. i dont even REMEMBER the other relationship, but it was a.. bit better than that, probably

but this was all because i didnt realize i wasnt attracted to them and didnt realize it was bad and couldnt cut them off. because i was experiencing a severe case of compallo and i thought it was NORMAL. and i thought it was NORMAL for all this to happen when it wasnt.

like, fuck. being aroace can cause some severely traumatizing situations for you. saying “aphobia doesnt exist” is fucking stupid

#strider speaks #aroace #aromantic #asexual #ace #aro

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tayblr28 · 5 years

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My take on Reyna Avila Ramirez Arellano in the Tyrants Tomb (SPOILERS)

Let me just say this, I don’t care who feel offended by what I am about to say. YA’LL ARE BUTT HURT FOR NO DANM REASON AND TRYING TO USE REYNA AS A WAY TO PUSH YOU OWN PERSONAL FEELINGS ONTO THE FANDOM.

Now that I siad that lets discuss....

I love Reyna, I think she was amzing when she was intorduced. I loved her develoment in HOO and i defintly love the big sister roll she took on with Nico. She became one of if not my favorite roman characters. Also by seeing her in the present and hearing about her past reyna had one of the most well written backstories of the romans. yes their are plot holes but thats with any universe, especially one this big, with this many characters and books. Its not easy keeping everything stragight espcially with timelines.

Reyna as a person was shown as strong willed, responsible, and serious. But ya’ll seem to forget that she was all these things because she was FIGHTING A WAR. we have never really seen reyna in a not stressful situation. Traveling cross country with a statue, figing off dead ex hunters, stratagy planning, fighting in wars and min battles, Reyna has never had any time to show us her personality outside a war setting. Ya’ll just assumed she was serious all the time and it couldnt be fathomed that she was actulaal a 16 year old, whos mutil-facitied.

Now let me be clear I was a very much an advid THEYNA shipper and i wanted her to be gay. I read her as gay because that what I WANTED. In no way shape or form was Reyna canonically lesbian.

She had 2 romance arcs with Percy and Jason and then nothing. That is what was written everything else was made up because the fanom wanted everyone to be paired up. Percy and Annabeth are the only ship whos premise made sense and wasn’t rushed. It makes sense why they lasted so long because they had time to like each other. Piper and Jason was rushed and built on lies, Calypso and Leo out of left field, Will and Nico, it was like boom ya’ll together now after coming out/forced out mind you i’m from a time where being gay was would have gotten you killd and nobdy would care, Frank and Hazel was just who was left and not together. Thalia can’t be in a relationship because she a hunter and so reyna was left.

Akso, Thalia made the choice to be a hunter to keep the great prophcay from happing but she stayed a hunter because she liked it. Why would she give it up if she never felt like she belonged at camp. The hunters are her home so i doubt she would just drop that for Reyna.

Also GIRLS CAN BE GAY AND BE JUST FIRENDS. Whether or not Reyna and Thalia are gay canonically doesnt matter because you need to accept their friendship as just that a friendship. STOP SAYING SHE ACE/ARO it would be great if she was but being a hunter doesn’t mean shes now a completly different orentation. She just wants a break from beig in charge.

Did it ever occur that her and Thalia being pen-pals ment that shes talked to her alot about joining. Did you just skip over that line, maybe reyna had been wanting to leave since the last war but couldn’t due to all this stuff with the roman empors starting. She felt needed and now that New Rome is safe she feels she can let of and be Reyna, not the Preator.

Ya’ll saying its OOC for her to laugh as something so utterly ridiculous is plain dumb. Ya’ll just not use to seeing reyna happy, genually happy and not so serious. Characters can be happy and use slang and be relaxed and still be them. This is who Reyna is without someone trying to kill her. Its how Percy is quite, Annabeth reads alot, Frank is Shy, Hazel is Akward, Thalia makes jokes, Leo is anxious, Piper is uncomfortable, Nico is sarcastic, thease are traits shown when they arent figting for their lives or the lives of others. Reyna seems to be an actually chill relax, goofy person. She seems to know when to play and when not to and with Thalia she’s comfotable to be herself.

I say all this to say Stop using you own perosnal feelings to ruin a charter becaue she not waht you would have wanted. As a black lesbian women I would love for a book to have a young person of color be a main character in my faviortie series. But i will not force my wanst on who she is.

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hi i hope you don’t mind me being nosey but i was wondering if i could ask a few things about u being aro? i kinda just wanted to know how u figured it out? and also do u still get feelings for people but choose not to pursue it? sorry if i’m kinda intruding i don’t mean to, just curious

i dont mind at all darl! (actually...lowkey i love when people are curious about it lmao so feel free to ask more questions) also this is going under a cut cause it got longer than i meant it to lmao

figuring it out wasnt easy and it took a lot of self reflection and like months of questioning and doing research and then worrying i was getting it wrong. Basically i first considered the idea that i could be aro when i was approaching my 25th birthday. A friend of mine (the only guy i’ve had any sort of a fling with) had announced he was engaged and i was completely down on myself wondering why i couldnt get a single date when he was off getting engaged (not that i even Wanted to get married i just would have liked some attention). I figured there had to be something wrong with me or something about me that was broken. And then i saw someone i followed at the time reblog a post about being aro. I’d seen the phrase a little before but never really considered it as fitting me but i’d also never really paid attention to what it actually meant.

I don’t remember what the post was exactly, it’s probably somewhere in the thousands and thousands of posts i’ve liked over the years but there’s no easy way to check so . Whatever it said it felt relatable enough that I went and googled aromanticism to try and figure out what it was and if it fit me. Because I was already in a headspace where I’d been thinking about my lack of a romantic history already, a lot of the stuff that i read had been stuff i’d been thinking about anyway. Like Reader said in Platonic when she was talking about how she figured it out, I’ve never had a proper crush. I spent months thinking about it after my friend told me he’d proposed. I have very vivid memories of literally deciding to have a crush on a boy in primary school because it seemed like i should (again, i included that directly in Platonic lmao down to the boys name and everything). And every guy I’ve had an interest in since has been either a brief physical attraction that i forgot about as soon as I wasn’t seeing him regularly or something that I deliberately manufactured either in an attempt to fit in with the people around me or because i was kind of bored. Even the cute music teacher at work last year like he was hot and i wouldnt have said no to a kiss or whatever but i just didn’t have any feelings about him beyond that.

While I was trying to figure out if I was aro I read a lot of websites. The AVENwiki has a page on aromanticism and I think also has pages on some of the aro-spec identities like greyromantic and demiromantic so that was a good starting point for definitions. Google also gave me a few different forums and stuff where aro people were talking about being aro. A lot of aromantic resources are tied up in the asexual community though because that’s where the language and everything was first suggested and what it evolved from. I don’t think that necessarily helped me feel comfortable using the term aro to describe myself because i’m pretty confident i’m not ace but the more I looked into it the more stuff I found from people who were allosexual but aromantic. Anyway, I spent weeks just googling “aromantic” and seeing what came up and rereading what i’d already read and resisting the fact that a lot of it fit me. Then I spent a while trying to find like a quiz or something that would just give me an answer. I found a few quizzes but all of them assumed at least one previous relationship so none of them were any use to me. But gradually I started feeling okay with calling myself aro. I think part of my hesitation was probably also because knowing I was aro didn’t feel like a solution it just felt my damage had a name. The other part is that romantic attraction is not easy to define which makes it hard to identify if you feel it or not so the part of me that wanted to be Normal kept being like ‘well if you dont know you cant call yourself aro’. But I thought about it a lot and I read any aro related post that crossed by dash and then ventured into the tumblr tag and found some helpful discussion stuff in there and then I started calling myself aro just quietly, only in my own head. It took a long time before I felt okay admitting that I was aro on my own blog but obviously i got there in the end lmao. That friend, the one who got engaged, he’s the only person i’ve told irl though.

as to your second question....

I don’t think I feel romantic attraction. Truthfully, as i said before, it’s hard to know for certain and there is a possibility that i could form a romantic attraction to someone one day but i think it’s very unlikely. Other forms of attraction are different though. I can be attracted to people physically and sexually. And I think I could possibly be attracted to people in a platonic “man i’d really like to be their friend” kind of way though it doesnt come up very much because im not really one to like meet people. I like my own company.

But i’ve never really acted on any sort of attraction or feelings for others. I was definitely attracted to CMT but I never acted on it because it seemed like too much work. The was a guy who worked at a pop culture collectables shop a few years ago who i thought was very cute and I did contemplate asking him out but it just never felt like a real option and I sort of just ignored it until he left the job. So yeah I guess I do get some sorts of feelings and then choose not to do anything with them, but they aren’t romantic feelings. But like right now I’ve got no interest in anyone (apart from ben and roger but i guess they dont really count lmao). None of the teachers at work interest me and i havent met anyone else recently and it really isnt bothering me. Theres a guy in IT who i could possibly see myself fawning over a bit cause he’s handsome and has an unusual accent but he’s got the same name as my brother so i’ve already ruled him out as a no go lmao.

Anyway, hopefully that answered your questions! If there’s anything else you want to know or you’d like me to try and explain something more fully my inbox is always open!

#Anonymous #about me

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Oh my god wait the picking a crush thing is something bi people might do as well? Do you mind elaborating if its not too personal? I know i picked or pushed least one crush on a boy and its been making me question my sexuality, but others felt real. Or in some cases i feel like i pushed myself to have a crush initially but then later my feelings were so strong that i couldnt get over them and its hard to discount them as false

Okay so... yes, some bi people do that, too. The reasons behind that might be different from one individual to another and they might also not be the exact same as they are for gays and lesbians. But the point I was trying to make is that it’s just false to claim that “compulsory heterosexuality” is somehow a phenomenon that only lesbians experience and that it must thus be “proof” of someone being a lesbian. It’s just not accurate when ace and aro people are out there going through that as well. And m-spec people have also made that experience. So to ask “is this compulsory heterosexuality or am I bi?” is a misleading question, you know? [Not to mention all the other reasons why I dislike that term and wish people would finalyl stop using it altogether!]

It’s not hard to imagine that someone who is a closeted bisexual with internalised biphobia might be trying to “hypercorrect” their queerness by pretending to be extra super duper straight. Even if a bi women is genuinely attracted to men she might still feel the need to prove how ~heterosexual~ she is by overperforming her attraction to men and that might include picking crushes just for the sake of that performance. It might also include picking guys that fulfill some kind of “ideal” that the cisheteronormative society pushes as ~what a Real Man should be like~.

My personal experience with this “picking a crush” thing had a bit less to do with my bisexuality but rather with the fact that the kind of men that I was into were old and not conventionally attractive. Ever since I started being interested in men (I was an early bloomer, so I’d say the first signs started when I was ~10/11) I liked MEN, I was never genuinely interested in boys my age or even close to my age. As a child maybe but as soon as puberty hit I never looked back. But of course I quickly learned that my taste in men wasn’t socially acceptable and my peers started making fun of me (”oh, so you like rotten meat, eh?”) and my parents were big Worried. So what I did was trying reaaaaaally hard to be attracted to guys in my class or a year above me. Until my early 20s I also kept trying to date guys that were a maximum of 5 years older than me. But there was never more than ~yeah I guess he’s not ugly~ and whenever one of those boys turned out to actually be interested in me I was like “shit, hell no, fuck, what do I do now? I don’t want this! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!”

That has never made me doubt that I was attracted to men though. It just reinforced the fact that young guys ain’t doin it for me. And even if it wasn’t directly tied to my bisexuality (which was mostly closeted at the time) there was still an element of “okay so these boys are what I ~should be~ attracted to but I’m not. people think I’m weird for liking old men so I guess something must be wrong with me”. And I kind of blame this whole situation a little for why it took me so long to figure out that I’m bi because like... how could I have dealt with being a queer teenage girl if I couldn’t even manage to be the right kind of straight teenage girl???

Maddie

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soldierofjoy · 4 years

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I couldnt think of a clever title for 2020 lgbtq+ like 20gayteen and 20biteen did, and the best I could think of for the number 2020 was like 20-20 vision for seeing well, and that made me think of vision and visibility.

So what if for 2020 we just do weeks of lgbtq+ visibility instead of a day? Just have the individual day in the middle, like a Wednesday, and have one big positivity party for a week.

Like, I realize I was only trying to make some kind of pun here but then I got to thinking that we've come a long way since 2010, and even further since every decade before that. People can see us! We're in the mainstream media, and not just the gays. Lesbians! Bisexuals! Trans people! Nonbinary! Aro, ace, pan, poly, everyone else! Every other one not mentioned and combinations of all of them, people can see us! We're visible, and we've come a long way.

Still a long way to go, and it certainly still isn't safe for everyone everywhere. To everyone that isnt safe, I send you hugs and love. But I still think there's a lot of good that's been done worldwide recently, and I know I'm a different person now. I didn't ever consider myself as anything other than just a regular dude, albeit one with adhd, but now! I can proudly say I'm bisexual and nonbinary (he/him and they/them- it's just... comfortable), and I have a ton of absoultely heartwarming friends all over the spectrum who understand me and the complicated emotions I feel. And it's all because of the change that everyone has pushed for, and all the wonderful colors and spectrums that people have fought -hard!- to let me see. Why not celebrate these triumphs for just a little longer this year? I think we definitely deserve it.

So Happy New Year, and here's hoping for an even better decade.

#lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+#happy new year #gay #lesbian #bisexual #asexual #aromantic #transgender #nonbinary #intersex #polyamory #2020 visibility #2020 #new years

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fuckblizzardbearlover · 5 years

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Honestly im sick and tired of fans trying to make will byers gay.

Not only do most signs point to him being Ace/aro now that hes a preteen and would otherwise be having those feelings.

Furthermore hes SURROUNDED by boys that are close to his age and there isnt ANYTHING to suggest hes uncomfortably dealing with feelings to their gender.

If you actually pay attention to his arc his breakdown was from his trauma. How he wanted to go back to a world where he was never a monsters plaything. Where his body wasnt violated, where/when he didnt have memories of being hunted and slowly suffocating to death.

He finally started to heal but the world had moved on. He couldnt go back to when he was happy. He lost it forever. The incident took his innocence, took his friends, took him. The one thing he thought he could keep he lost too and thats what his breakdown was about.

As far as i know id never been made fun of for being gay. I didnt come to terms with it till i was maybe 20. I was however ostracized and bullied for being WEIRD. Same as Will. They arent calling him a fag cus hes gay they are doing it cus hes weird. Mike didnt say that cus will likes boys he said that cus he didnt like girls.

I still dont know what was wrong with me. Why i didnt get any real friends after i lost my first, till 7th grade. I know that what i was never called gay that a comment my sister made made me fear that cus i was weird ppl thought i was.

But yea im pissed at ppl taking the fact will is bullied for being neodivergent and the fact he doesnt seem to be attracted to girls as "hes our little gay boy uwu"

#stranger things #stranger things spoilers #will byres #neodivergent #lgbtq #bullying #aro #ace #gay

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lollytea · 5 years

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can you tell us more about the snufmin kids, if thats okay?

Oh of course, of course!! i love those children so much dude!!!

[Original OC post]

Beginnings

-Torben’s origins are kinda a downer but basically his mom was a witch on the outskirts of a little village (real far away from moominvalley) who was killed after a lot of fearmongering. they raided her cottage afterwards and found baby torben and assumed him to be a child she stole.

- They couldnt find the “real mother” and he ended up in the care of a childrens’ home. He actually bounced around a few of them until he ended up in the home where he met with his future siblings. according to those working there, he had a rather unnerving stare and a lot of them felt there was something not quite right about him. (the rumor going around was it was something the witch had “done to him” and that “the poor child might never be the same”) he was a lot more sullen as a baby who didnt have much of an interest in toys and had a hard time connecting with the other children. He brightened up considerably when he found Birch and Essi

- Birch was an oddity from the start. (Species headcanon from here) Its natural for woodies grow in groups, usually from trees and bushes, so theyre biologically social creatures who are hardly ever seen alone. But Birch may have been a spectacle of his species, as he was formed in a moss patch and born all on his own.

- Another thing that was considered strange about him was his lack of imprinting. Woodies tend to latch on to the first “safe” person they meet, who then forcibly becomes their “parent”. (Woodies are produced asexually and have no “real parents” so finding a person of protection is often done as a survival tactic. It’s recommended that one stay away from woodies if one is not ready for children.) Baby Birch was discovered by a farmer and surprisingly did not take to him right away, like any woodie does. Actually he was rather standoffish and even bit if the old man touched him. He was sent to the home not long after.

- Space was tight and there werent a lot of cribs/beds to go around, so Birch didn’t have one to himself. Instead they just squeezed him into 2 year old torben’s crib for the two children to share. Here they became inseparable, with Birch, maybe not imprinting but forming a close bond with somebody and finally finding a source of comfort. He bit a little less after this. Likewise with Torben, who gained a caring gleam in his eye once he had a little one to care for. Even when Torben was old enough for a proper bed, he insisted Birch sleep with him and would not budge on the matter. The home gave in and allowed it.

- Essi’s origin was a simple one, of just being born at the wrong time. In a house packed with mumrik children, one more simply could not be accommodated. I dont want to say her birth parents were terrible people but with the amount of kids they had, they were rather jaded to a fresh baby face and werent too emotional in deciding they need to be rid of her.

- She was never an angry or intentionally misbehaved baby when under the care of the home. She just needed a lot of stimulation that she wasnt getting and tended to tear up her clothes, curtains and bedsheets. It was also concerning that she never cried, or babbled or made any sound at all. It had falsely interpreted as some fort of defect child. They didnt know if it was right to mix her with the other babies, seeing as with the damage her claws had already done, they felt she could be dangerous. She was left on her own a lot.

- The other two met Essi when they were caught stealing food from the kitchen and locked away on their own to think about how sorry they were. But being tight on space, the only isolated room was the one where Essi was kept. They had heard about her being “the baby who didnt cry” and were very intrigued. but upon further inspection of the wriggling little girl in the cot, Torben observed that she looked lonely. They wondered if she simply wasnt capable of crying, which would be awful if one wanted to express their sadness. After entertaining her throughout their isolation period, the two decided that she was now their baby. And they would be her siblings. They would all belong to each other. As a family.

Miscellaneous HCs:

-Torben sleeps like he’s fucking comatose. There is no waking him. Even when living with Moomintroll and Snufkin, he and Birch still share a bed and Torben kicks and Birch (a light sleeper) hates it. But no matter how much arguments and late night brawls this causes, they still refuse to get separate beds.

- Essi has a crib in Moomintroll’s room and sleeps there until she’s like 4. (She always magically ends up from her crib to her papa’s stomach by morning.) They tried to get her a “big girl room” when she was bigger but she didnt adapt very well as she couldnt sleep when she was alone. They had to move her into her siblings’ room. She slept soundly after that.

- Moomintroll and Snufkin often tell the kids stories from their youth, sometimes using anonymous names to work as “fictional stories” lest they frighten them (or for the sake of their own dignity). Essi is very disturbed by the story of the the hobgoblin’s hat, while Birch can only scoff and wonder aloud what sort of idiot was that moomin who went and put the thing on his head. Moomintroll stares dead ahead and refuses to meet eyes with a highly amused Snufkin.

- Early on in his training, Alicia gifts Torben with his own witch hat. With much excitement, he immediately plops the thing on only for his whole head to disappear under it. Alicia laughs, informing him only a fully trained witch can wear it properly and the hat will adjust accordingly once he’s ready. (The hat freaks Moomin the fuck out. He does not care for magical hats anymore.)

- Essi has a little stuffed yellow bird that Mymble got her, which she carries around (often in her mouth) everywhere. She named him Comet, based on the story of when her papas first met.

- Speaking of Mymble (the younger), she loves doing Essi’s hair, although it took her a while to get accustomed to the little mumrik’s big mop of curls and couldnt understand why brushing it was so hard at first. She’s familiar with it now and often weaves in little flowers and ribbons.

- Birch is very close with Snorkmaiden who thinks his flowering skin is very pretty and encourages his writing and curiosity. (Being a huge fan of the written word herself, mostly fairytales.)

- Moominpapa is also supportive of his eloquent grandchild (Splendid! Another writer in the family, eh?) but he’s a little more pushy and it takes a bit of chiding from moominmama to get him to stop saying “have you considered writing about Me??”

- Torben loves Snork. Snork.....hates Torben really. Well, its not that they hate him, its just that Snork has spent their entire life on this flying machine project and torben+flying broomstick= a mockery of it all. Not to mention Torben is annoying as fuck and spends way too much time pestering Snork about god knows what.

- Essi and Little My hunt bugs together. Lov the cronch

- Birch is afraid of thunderstorms. The whole family usually piles into his bed on thundery nights to make him feel safe.

- Once Torben is at an adequate stage of witching training, he’s allowed a familiar. Of all creatures, he chooses Essi, the closest thing to a black cat he has. She happily obliges and spends most of her late childhood, mid teens operating under this duty.

- Snufkin has composed a tune for each of his children that he plays when alone and thinking about them, or by their bedside and playing them to sleep. Torben’s tune is called ‘Bonfire in the Rain’ Birch’s is ‘Baring Shards of One’s Looking Glass’ and Essi’s is ‘She Who Stirs the Stars’

- To help with Birch’s collecting hobby, Torben enchants a little velveteen pouch an gifts it to him. It never overflows and Birch can fit the whole forest in there if he wishes. It’s very handy to carry around when Birch is vagabond. Extremely light luggage.

- Torben also gifts Essi with a locket encapsulated with the essence of a star. Just enough heat and light to illuminate her way and keep her warm at night. It’s her prized possession.

- Birch is ace and a he/him nonbinary. He’s not entirely sure if he’s aro as he feels pretty picky about close friends too. but romance has never appealed to him much.

- Essi is bi. She’s only briefly been involved with like 3 people before meeting the love of her life, Sislaf.

- Torben is as fluid as can be. He doesnt really have a way to describe his sexuality, he just knows that he loves and loves and loves a lot. He’s a bit like Mymble in the sense that he dates a lot and is always very naive and devoted right away, only to get himself hurt later. He’s quite sensitive about all that.

Futures

- Once the kids are grown, they do end up going their separate ways in life but remain close and visit eachother frequently. They keep in contact by letters. Birch is eternally pissed about his messy handwriting compared to Essi’s beautiful scrawl and Torben’s neat yet flashy one.

- Torben becomes the Moominvalley Witch, now that Alicia’s family have moved on to other places. He builds himself a small cottage on the outskirts so he can have time alone to think and brew. He’s still a walking distance from his parents home though. Flying distance if he’s feeling lazy.

- Birch’s travels become longer and in time and through word of mouth, the tale he tells become quite well known. He’s a famous storyteller now, whether he wants to be or not. Luckily, he’s begrudgingly embraced it (better than Snufkin did with his fame) and spends a lot of time in taverns, entertaining the regulars.

- Essi was the one who found it the hardest to grow up. Shes a family oriented person so she didnt want to be alone but she also dreamed of adventure and couldnt just drag her whole family along with her (especially her papas who were at the point where they just wanted to rest and settle down) But she found her calling. Criminal. Leader of a pack of criminals actually. Some were old friends from moominvalley, some she met along the way but Essi was lucky enough to find herself a group that became like a family to her. They traveled land and sea, doing all the righteous work and righting the injustices that Snufkin used to do. Only this time, its not just one little man. Its one little woman and her gang.

- The siblings meet up a lot, usually around a campfire where they share a pipe and laugh about nostalgia. Torben’s particularly good at animating the smoke into moving images, while Birch tells a story to accompany it and Essi claps along. And even when shes grown and tough, during moments like this Essi still feels the comforting warmth of being a baby sister

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a-romantic--aromantic · 5 years

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Without Flowery Happy Words for Being Aro

Prompt 1 | February 17-18 | Discovery

How did you learn you were aromantic or arospec? How long did it take to find the label and to accept it? Did it click immediately, or was it a journey of denial and/or mislabeling? How has learning you were aromantic or arospec changed you? Your perception of yourself? How you act around others? Your personal relationships?

i.... discovered i was aro the hard way. the long way. months of debating and questioning. identifying with arospec identities and refusing to call myself aro. i just. i wanted to not be dating anymore. my arospec (demi) bf at the time and i talked about a QPR. i was only vaguely aware of it. i only googled it because he brought up things like “zucchini” and i was confused. the aro wikia came up. i read through it. i came out with an understanding of quoi, which became about 80% of my identity. i still wasnt aro-spec. i couldnt be. my bf told me that wasnt possible. wasnt allowed. i wasnt aro-spec.

i believed him.

i believed him for a long long time. we had dated for 3 years, with constant cheating and betrayal and abandonment and pain. so so so much pain. we eventually broke up because i found a new demiro bf to have? i was dependent. id been in and out of abusive relationships my whole life. i was only 18 and i was broken. so incredibly broken. the trauma in my life had seeped into the cracks of who i was as a person. i was practically a pre-teen’s angst fic OC at this point. just a broken collection of traumas and fears and dependence.

i had been in and out of relationships throught all of high school and my 8th grade year. i was in college and only left my abuser because i found someone else to date. ...i got assaulted. again. it was nothing new. i left this boy upon finding a new aro-spec datemate i wanted.

i.... finally realised i wasnt happy. realised i didnt want to be dating him. because this was my first ever time experiencing “independent feelings” or romantic attraction. I had felt ‘romantic crushes’ before... but where people told me i should. or at the suggestion of others. or because someone confessed to me and i didnt believe in the friend zone.

i didnt believe in the friend zone. why would you have a friend you wouldnt be willing to date. that shouldve been my first clue. i didnt know where romantic attraction and platonic attraction were different.

i had discovered quoiromantic and detailed QPR in..... may? i came to terms with identifying as a-spec in like september (but im grey-ace!) and i only accepted... parts of the aro community into my life at november ish. i didnt call myself aro until late december. and even then, i never felt like i belonged. the aro community stereotypes/ reputation preceded my introduction to the aro community as a member. i was made aware that the aro community is built for having 0 romantic attraction. for not wanting romantic attraction. for being romance repulsed.

i am not romance repulsed. i want romantic partnership.

i talked more and more with my arospec datemate. i told them i felt like i wasnt even good enough when i was playing a good aro. i was invited to aro servers. they were full of ableism and nbphobia and god everyone hated romantic aros. i never know whether or not i feel romantic attraction. i’m only sure on one- them. i call them my first romantic attraction but really i dont know. i think everything else has just fallen under quoi for me.

i realised that i hated kissing. i mean i didnt really. it was okay behind locked doors, with people i wanted. but the number of people i wanted was incredibly small compared to the number of people who had tried. I remembered i used to hate holding hands. it felt horrible and i hated it. it was only okay when it started being only used with friends. i remembered my feelings of self hatred and “self-objectification”

i dont get along well with my aro identity. i WANT my aro identity. but we’re on bad terms, constantly fighting and never sure if i belong. defending myself has ended badly. i dont think its important for every arospec to love the aro part of them. its okay to hate it. i hate being romantic and wanting romance and sometimes feeling romantic attraction. it means i dont feel like i count as aro OR allo.

....i want romance. i want my one great love. i want love. realizing im aro just means it’ll be harder for me. that i can get it if i work for it, but more importantly if i respect myself. i can get love if i respect my boundaries and dont force myself into anything. realizing im aro means that i belong no where, in no community, and in the community all at once. realizing im aro meant realizing it was just another thing to face gatekeeping for- but this time on both sides.

i dont have flowery happy words about being aro, because for me it wasnt a flowery happy thing. its just a true thing. a hard thing. something that fits into the story of my disjointed life. and its something i face everyday.

my hope is just to belong. and to force others to see me so that they can feel as though they belong too.

#in the life of me #they speak #.txt #txt #20th #February #2019 #February 20th 2019 #mod tonks #sorry its not happy babes #discourse #asaw 2019 #asaw #aro week #personal #my aro journey #so far

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