#crushes

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[prototypesteve]

Asexual Crush: A Short Film

Transcript:

So, thinking about it, in retrospect. I’ve experienced lots of crushes.

[Air piston crushes an aluminum Coke Zero can, and then pushes the flattened can into a recycling bin.]

What I don’t get is how that’s supposed to “lead to a relationship”.

#asexual #aromantic #aspec #aroace #aromantic asexual #asexuality #crushes

[seasonal-brotp-prompts]

A friend of mine asked me once how I could tell the difference between experiencing romantic and platonic attraction. I'd like to restate my thoughts here, since I think they could be useful for some people!

First of all, Intensity =/= Romance. Platonic feelings can be just as strong as romantic ones, although the amatonormativity we live in pretends otherwise. Because of that, I used to often wonder if my squishes are actually crushes. Nowadays, I just go through a series of questions and feel much more at peace afterwards!

"Do I have a crush on this person?"

Ask yourself:

Do I want to kiss them?

On the mouth? With tongue?

Do I want them to kiss me?

Do I want to go on dates with them?

Alone? Would I like it more or less in a group setting with other friends?

Do I like the idea of being seen as a "pair?"

Do I want to live with them?

Forever?

Do I want to marry them?

What does an ideal wedding look like, in my head?

Do I like the idea of them confessing to me?

If I have any interest in children, am I interested in raising children alongside them?

Do I want to exchange gifts with them annually on dates like Valentine's and/or an anniversary?

Do I (in general) enjoy traditional romantic gifts like flowers or jewelry?

Would I enjoy receiving those gifts from the person in question?

If they told me they just got a new partner, would I feel negatively about that?

Do I feel that same negativity when other people I'd never be interested in romantically (family members, etc.) announce they have new partners? Or is it just the person in question?

If sex is a romantic thing for me, do I want to have sex with them?

Answering "yes" to a single one of these questions doesn't mean I have a crush. But answering "yes" to many of them would indicate romantic feelings.

For me, this is a relief, because when I apply these questions to my friends and squishes, I typically react with disgust and RESOUNDING "no"s. Kissing, dating, annual gift obligations, marriage, and co-parenting all squick me out and make me recoil.

A lot of aros (especially baby or questioning ones) might also answer "yes" to a hypothetical they haven't experienced themselves, but then change their answer to "no" later. I know I used to think being confessed to would be flattering (even by someone I didn't reciprocate), but now that it's happened to me a few times, I know how awkward and awful it is. Same with kissing; I thought I'd like it because everyone in media likes it, but actually trying it (with girls and boys) has firmly cemented me in the reality that I just hate mouth kissing.

But, I still thought it might be useful for some aros who struggle with their identity due to all the arophobia and amatonormativity trying to make them question their feelings!

(It might also be helpful for someone trying to figure out if they're gay/bi and have a crush on someone, idk)

#aromantic #lgbt+ #queer #queerplatonic #crushes

[bored-boring-and-tired]

me currently:

“i want people to have crushes on me so badly because i thrive on external validation and im super insecure so i really really want people to have crushes on me”

also me, being aroace and sex/romance-repulsed (if someone has a crush on me):

“pleasepleasepleaseplease nobody have a crush on me and ESPECIALLY DONT TELL ME because then i have to reject you and i hate rejecting people and then i’ll probably have to come out to avoid hurting anyone because i overthink everything ahahahha”

#i hope someone finds this relatable (aka hopefully it isnt just me but i also hope other people don’t have to go through internal conflict) #because this is me all the time #aroace #asexual #aromantic #aro #ace #aromantic asexual #asexual aromantic #aromanticism #asexuality #crushes #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqplus #lgbtqia+ #rare times when astra actually tags things?? whaaaaat?? 😦

[sevensummersago]

just a little life update: unlovable!

#unlovable #lol #girlblogging #i’m crazy #help #crushes #crush #one sided love #relatable #hell is a teenage girl #viviblog

[cinemabuffoon]

If I'm not supposed to have crushes on middle aged men then why are they so hot? Explain that political party of your choosing

#this counts for fictional middle aged men too btw #crushes #actors #tom cruise #gerard butler #mads mikkelsen #idris elba #jon bernthal #etc #benicio del toro #pedro pascal #matthew lillard #patrick dempsey #jeffery dean morgan #antonio banderas #hugh jackman #rick grimes #jason statham #dolph lundgren #bill paxton #kurt russell #henry cavill #jason isaacs

[onioneyez]

Oh hey! Now that I have more followers I can get a better sample size!

Please fulfill this Aro’s whimsical yet endearing curiosity ✨👀

(And even I’ve had 2, but all before age 10. Wonder how common that is?)

#poll #crushes #romance #alloromantic #Aromantic #onion’s nighttime thoughts #is Aromantic capitalized? #it autocorrects to that so I guess I’ll assume it is

[crimsonncloverhoney]

#girlblogging #aesthetic #pinterest #yearning hours #girl blogger #pinterest girl #coquette #crushes #thoughts #mecore #girlhood #this is a girlblog #this is what makes us girls #my posts #fave posts

[basiatlu]

Thanks for the suggestion!! I think they’re super cute. Can see Harry having a pretty big bi boy crush on Charlie, honestly

#harry james potter #charlie weasley #harry potter #harry potter art #hp art #art #drawing #sketch #artists on tumblr #doodle #digital art #characterdesign #the burrow #crushes #Charlie is somehow more oblivious emotionally than Harry #just loves his dragons #you set him off Harry #the weasleys

[scaramoochie33]

(EDIT 4: AA SHE KISSED ME ON THE CHEEK HELPPP AHHHH IM IN HAEVEN)

(EDIT 3: WERE TOGETHER TYSM EVERYONE IM AT A LOSS FOR WORDSSSS)

(EDIT 2: PLESAE WISH ME LUCK TMR ITS CURRENTLY 11/7 IM ASKING THEM OUT TOMROW AHHHHHH)

get this to like 500 notes and i will ask my crush out

(EDIT: I GOT MORE THAN 500 NOTES ILY EVERYONE!!! ILL ASK THEM OUT IN SCHOOL DW <33) (I WAS VACAY SORRY FOR THE WAIT)

#help a girl out #crush #i have a crush #crushes #<3333

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[1unpunishable1]

So gay for her

#natasha lyonne #but im a cheerleader #gay #lesbian #queer pride #russian doll #orange is the new black #oitnb #crush #hopelessly in love #celebrity crush #love #crushes

[keiri-klee]

someone has a crush…

i love thinking about kokomi’s crush on saiki sm, this isn’t particularly a ship post? I don’t ship them, but you are free to and interpret this as you like terusai shippers!

one of the few teenage girl experiences she has, being genuinely interested in someone when you’re the prettiest girl in the world isn’t easy i can imagine

so i think its adorable she gets to have this one experience, a crush!!!! she’s so nervous, shy, when she think about him alone!

and she’s so confused!! she’s the prettiest girl ever why doesn’t he like her? why must she get so flustered over some guy! so confusing so genuine

Very cute, turning into her fanboys that sends her love letters, she must be an expert in writing them herself by now

and no she is definitely not sending them!!! and a few have gone missing.. I wonder who took them.. (HINT HINT M*K*T*)

anyway here’s some extras!

og doodle:

without bg:

#tdlosk #teruhashi kokomi #kokomi teruhashi #teruhashi #kokomi #the disastrous life of saiki k. #saiki k #saiki #love #crushes #love letters #terusai question mark question mark? #my art #fanart #happy valentine's day #keiri-art

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#stingray #love #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery #unrequited love #crushes #you are someone’s first choice #emotionally unavailable #toxic relationships #it’s ok to leave

[creativepromptsforwriting]

Hi. I'm writing about a character who has a crush on another character, unbeknowest to them, their crush has a crush on them. But i'm trying to figure why does this person have a crush on the other person. Please help?

Hi :)

So, both have a crush on each other? And you want to figure out why they would have a crush on that other person?

To be honest: you can have a crush on someone for basically any reason. The sun just needs to hit them right, the radio plays the right song and boom - crush on the person who you made eye contact with in the cereal aisle.

Reasons for having a crush on someone:

they are a genuinely nice person

they are good-looking

they have an interesting weirdness about them

they let you go in front of them in the check-out line

they are a skilled handyman

they wait for you when you are slower than the rest of the group

they have a really cool style

they held a door open for you

they explained a joke to you that you didn't get

they scrunch up their nose when they think about something and it's really cute

they are the only other person your age around

they help you cheat in an exam

they like the same music

they stood up to a teacher or authority figure

they don't care about what anyone says

they send you funny memes

they look hot in the gym

they are really good with children

they are really good with animals

they smiled at you once

they are very attentive

they always make you the perfect cup of coffee

they ran across a field and looked like they are in a commercial

they wore your favourite colour today

they seem like a really cool person

they read a book to you

they love about your jokes

they care about the same injustices

they totally match your energy

they held eye contact with you across a room once

they are clumsy and simply adorable

they have the best comebacks

they played a song on their guitar

they always make sure to include you in stuff

And the list goes on and on...

Hope you have a crush on someone today :)

- Jana

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[bloodhonnie]

I literally contort, froth at the mouth, climb up the wall and hang from the ceiling, speak in tongues-

#personal #bpd #borderline personality disorder #actuallyborderline #actually bpd #actually borderline #actuallybpd #vent #borderline #text #bpd problems #tiktok sceeenshot #crush #crushes