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I’m a quadruple A battery. Autistic, adhd, aromantic, asexual.
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siriusly-remu · 1 day
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and with the aromantic agenda... comes the aromantic rage
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@ballsalsda @donutsalami @that-one-zombie-crow @acingthecounts @helinedmightbehere @unstable-and-gay @wormsonstringssupremacy @forbiddenpondrocks @in-pride-i-dont-believe-the-hype @plainoats @miraculousbohemian
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jupiter-nwn · 11 hours
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lifesizecorpsekit · 3 days
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i am a canonical aroace character in a fanfiction written by an aphobe.
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tinywafflerat · 3 days
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pov when you see your favorite aro/ace character in a ship
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you read through all the tags…
AND YOU REALIZE ITS NOT PLATONIC 😱😱😱😱😱😵😵😵😵😵😵😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😫😫😫😫
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btw reaction images created by me (I’m that cool)
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Whether or not you're capable of love (whether romantic, platonic, sexual, all of the above, etc.) says nothing about your morality. Lovelessness, like a lack of empathy, doesn't stop you from having a moral compass or from being compassionate.
Love is a morally neutral human experience. Some people experience it in some ways and don't experience it in others, and some don't experience it at all.
I say all of this as someone who can generously be described as a hopeless romantic, and less generously as a hyperromantic. It's not something that always leads you to something good, and most people who experience love know this. However, many others who experience love will forget this magically when someone says they're loveless.
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unboyfriendable · 2 days
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there is something so purely queer about being demi-bi/pan oriented aroace because. what do you mean i have no preference because i'm attracted to all genders equally but also because i'm not attracted to any genders but also i am but only if i know the individual very well,
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being in a relationship STRESSED ME OUT and MADE ME SICK and i felt like PUKING each time i lied "I love you"
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madliberatiion · 3 days
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This report is based on community listening sessions with members of the aromantic community, completed in partnership with the Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy (AUREA).
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softandwigglybones · 2 days
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Aspec? Sure am
I'm a spectrum for sure, don't know of what though
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innitmarvellous · 2 days
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So I read some books about aro & ace identities recently, because while I am quite sure that I'm ace and probably even aroace, I'm still struggling a lot with the ramifications of this discovery about myself, even though I first noticed this about myself a few years ago.
That's why I tried to make myself feel better by reading these books in the hope that it might be helpful in any way...and that's also why I took some notes about things that always bugged me in some way, both while reading the books and before that. (I'm not done with the books, but I already noticed enough recurring issues for a whole post.)
First, I really would like to feel at least sort of good about it. It doesn't have to be pride, just some sense of it being alright. I know that's not a prerequisite, but I don't want to feel unhappy and uneasy all the time just because of my identity :/
And there are some things I like about it. For example, having found a name and explanation for whatever is going on with me was undoubtedly nice, and I like the fact that the community seems to be very open to people identifying as ace or aro no matter where they exactly are on the spectrum. Well, there are always the exclusionists, but that's technically the consensus and I like that.
Still, there is this unpleasant feeling that doesn't seem to go away. The fact that there is something I will never understand and never experience - despite desperately wanting to. I guess that is the problem if something just isn't there, and that's just so hard to accept. Like, other people also might struggle with their orientation, but at least they do have the option to find someone who feels the same and will enter a relationship with them - while this is entirely impossible for me. And I think that's where I struggle the most, honestly. Knowing that there is no way to get the thing I want with my logical mind, because my feelings won't allow me to - and thus people on the outside won't consider me as 'relationship material' in any form since I'm lacking something crucial. And yes, I entirely understand that this would make people avoid me when it comes to relationships. After all I could never give them the thing they would expect from a relationship and it would be unfair towards them if I entered a relationship while being unable to do so. But it really doesn't make it hurt any less, and it definitely doesn't make me feel good about myself. There is something missing about me, that's just an undeniable fact and it reduces my worth in the eyes of others. Is that fair? Maybe not - I can't say, as I can't see things from their perspective - but it just is how things are. But it is very, very hard to accept.
Oh, and there is another thing that keeps being mentioned: namely that relationships without sex or of course also even fully platonic relationships are possible. But honestly? That doesn't really comfort me at all :') Because...I wasn't even nice and attractive (in both a physical and personality sense) - and whatever else - enough for a "normal" relationship, so it feels downright illusory to tell myself that someone will accept me despite my "defects" (if that's what I'll call them in this context, since that would be an allo person's view in most cases, I assume) and agree to have whatever kind of deeper relationship with me. That sounds like such a nice dream, and yet that's all it is and will remain: a dream. It's simply impossible, and that just feels bad. Because I would want to have closer connections to people, but I can't. Idk, but that is a bit cruel, especially as it isn't exactly my fault because of a choice I made.
I also feel kind of uncomfortable identifying myself as queer or part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I'd like to, but idk, I fear I wouldn't really be welcome in most queer spaces since I used to think I was heterosexual before I came across the terms ace and aro. Also, I was never oppressed due to my identity and had technically no trouble to pass as more or less some kind of straight allo late bloomer, so idk... And well, I see why my constant talking about some fictional/celeb mancrush I've got might make people think that I'm a liar and just pretend to be aro or ace for attention or other reasons. In fact, the exact same thing happened to me when a guy fell in love with me and I was forced to tell him about probably being ace. He didn't believe it because "I was always crushing on anime guys" and basically accused me of deliberately leading him on and it wasn't pleasant :/ (But I can't help it...I mean, a celeb crush doesn't require me to act on anything! I just find a guy attractive in whatever shape or form and it makes me happy to have my silly little daydreams about him and whatever. But it doesn't necessarily mean I graphically dream of fucking him, despite what I might jokingly say.) Anyway, I think it would be useful if I could confidently use the term queer for myself because idk, it would make things easier. As in, I'm definitely not "normal" aka not the standard straight cis person I once believed to be, but yeah...I still doubt that I would be allowed to call myself queer. I'm too different to be considered normal and too normal to be considered queer, I guess. So I'm sure people wouldn't be too happy about me pushing into their communities. Falling between the chairs again :')
Maybe all of my doubts and all that stuff...it's not so surprising, though. I mean, I kind of assume that most people wouldn't be too happy at the prospect of lifelong solitude and loneliness, without any chance to form deeper bonds with other people. Or maybe it's just me, who knows. It definitely scares the hell out of me and I hate it so, so much. And well, that makes it so difficult to make peace with this annoying sexual/romantic orientation of mine. (I would change it if I could...but alas we all know that's impossible.) I don't know what I exactly expected, but I surely didn't sign up to a rather sad lonely life of unhappiness and yet that is exactly what I will get :/ Another thing that is very hard to accept, and I genuinely wonder how other people managed to deal with that... I know accepting it and facing that truth is the only possible way, but yeah...I still can't bring myself to feel good about this. I mean, I've been lonely for my entire life, so I don't know...maybe I just hoped this would change at some point in the future and finding out that this will never happen now is kind of soul-crushing, honestly.
Lastly, I know that this is mostly a lengthy and overly personal rant post, so maybe no one has even read until here. But if someone did and feels like commenting, then I would really appreciate that, because...I still don't really feel fully enlightened on how I'm supposed to feel now. Maybe talking to actual people would help, but who knows. Again, I'd appreciate it if anyone wants to share their thoughts (my DMs are also open btw), although I'm aware that a random Tumblr post probably isn't the best way to solve my problem. ^^
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lemonadecuredme · 3 days
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More to life
"yeah so I don't really want a relationship, just isn't something I dream for yk"
"you just haven't found the right one"
"maybe im the right one. Maybe I just want to go do everything with myself and yearn for things and be passionate about the stuff I love without ever having to worry about a partner. I don't want to waste my life dreaming about finding a lover, I want to dream about the things that would genuinely make me happy and make me feel complete so that I'll grow up comfortably"
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"Friends dont look at friends that way" COWARD. I look at my friends with awe in my eyes, my chest is filled with love, im glowing because i get to be near my friends. I look at my friends and i would give them my everything. SO SKILL ISSUE, look at your friends with all the love that you have
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deep-sigh-comics · 5 months
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hello-im-queer · 3 months
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I want to find out how many people are aromantic and/or asexual on Tumblr so i made this
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knifearo · 2 months
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here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit
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