#Dependency

[star-girlfriend]

I confuse instinct with desire - isn’t bite also touch?

(Wolf OR-7 Natalie Diaz)

i’m your man mitski // cop car mitski // unknown // canisalbus tumblr // unknown (tiktok) // pinterest // sarah alex g // unknown // let dead dogs lie silas denver melvin

#webweaving #poetry #words #art #canine poetry #canine #dog #dogs #parallels #text #tiktok #web weaving #dependency #mitski #mitski and the canine metaphors #wolf #mitski when you ask her to write a song without a dog metaphor #☹️

[alpaca-clouds]

Something about the Astarion romance

There is one thing about the Astarion romance, that I kinda feel like should be talked about a bit more.

Now, I am very much a lover of the Astarion romance. I just wanna hug that horriblem man. He definitely needs all the hugs you can give him. But...

We are all aware that the relationship - at least for now - is not a healthy one, right?

Like, no matter whether you let him ascend or not, the relationship is one of emotional dependency. Astarion is going to be emotionally dependent on the player character, no matter whether it is Tav, Durge or one of the other Origins.

Which is completely natural, mind you. Of course someone with his trauma will just latch onto the one person who makes him feel good emotionally and not let go. Duh. For someone that traumatized that is completely natural behavior.

It is this fact that drives him so much, when it comes to the Ascension Ritual. If you have played the game not romancing him, you might have noticed, that at least dialogue wise he is much easier convinced that maybe the ritual is a bad idea. Like, sure, the persuasion checks are still the same, but in the dialogue choices, when he goes: "Oh, all the power I could have." And you go: "I don't think that's a good idea." When you are a friend he is just going to go: "Hmm, I don't know. Maybe you are right." But if you are romancing him? Then he is going to be all: "I am doing it for us, my sweet!"

And I think the main reason behind this is, that this is the first time in a long while that he allows himself to really care about someone else and he is so fucking afraid that he is going to loose you. Thinking that Ascension would allow him to protect you. (Which of course does go south fairly quickly, if you let him ascend, because in that case he mistakes control for protection.)

But even if he does not ascend, he is still very emotionally dependent. And post-game it is going to take work for him to overcome this dependency. Because while his dependency as a vampire spawn is much less toxic compared to Ascended Astarion, it is not good. Especially not for him.

I see a lot of "How sad is it, that if you have a short-lived Tav (like a human, halfling or orc) Astarion will see him die rather soon, even if he gets healed?"

And I am like... Alright, here is my death positivity coming through. Sure, it is sad, but... if Astarion is not completely dependent on Tav/Durge/whoever... It is going to be alright. It is not going to be soul crushing. Like, even a short life well lived is worth more celebrating than mourning, right?

Just, you know... something to think about. Something to consider.

#baldurs gate 3 #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #astarion #astarion ancunin #ascended astarion #vampire spawn astarion #immortality #dependency #astarion x tav #tavstarion #astarion x durge

[pratchettquotes]

That was the problem with witchcraft: It was as if everybody needed the witches but hated the fact that they did, and somehow the hatred of the fact could become the hatred of the person. People then started thinking: Who are you to have these skills? Who are you to know these things? Who are you to think you're better than us? But Tiffany didn't think she was better than them. She was better than them at witchcraft, that was true; but she couldn't knit a sock, she didn't know how to shoe a horse, and while she was pretty good at making cheese, she had to have three tries to bake a loaf that you could actually bite into with your teeth. Everybody was good at something. The only wicked thing was not finding out what it was in time.

Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

#tiffany aching #i shall wear midnight #discworld #terry pratchett #witches #witchcraft #facts #people #psychology #small towns #education #specialization #prejudice #necessity #power #fear #expertise #dependency #community #superiority #the only wicked thing #everybody is good at something

[whump-place]

When Whumpee needs Whumper. Not because they want to, but because they need to.

Maybe they are sick, and Whumper has the power of healing them. Or maybe they just have been so conditioned to be near Whumper and to accept their abuses that it has become normal for them.

They know it's toxic. They know that's not right. But that's the only thing they know.

Anger, and violence, and cruelty, because Whumper has the control over them. After a long time surrounded by nothing but toxicity taking a breath of fresh air feels like burning inside.

And when they are with Caretaker they start to question small things of their new life.

Whumper wouldn't like that curtains color. That's not the way Whumper would have reacted. Whumper hates coffee, tea is much better.

Whumpee doesn't need Whumper anymore, Caretaker is much better and kinder and doesn't manipulate them or hurt them as a price for their help.

And even then, for some reason, Whumpee just... misses Whumper.

#whump prompt #whump tropes #whump writing #whumpee #caretaker #whumper #manipulation #stockholm syndrome #conditionated whumpee #dependency

[vladdyissues]

At the root of it all, Vlad just wants someone to love him.

He couldn't get love when he was young and shy and awkward. He can't get love now that he's rich and powerful and confident. He thinks if he can just win Maddie and Danny's affection—keyword: win, as if love were a prize, a trophy, something to be earned and possessed instead of grown and nurtured, like a seedling—then he'd finally be complete. He'd have everything.

But he's wrong. Eventually, I think, he would realize it. Even if Maddie left Jack and Danny loved Vlad like a father, it wouldn't fix the brokenness deep inside him. It would be a temporary, inadequate fix. A bandage on a compound fracture. Vlad requires more serious care. The broken bone needs to be set so it can heal properly and grow straight again. It's a process that's going to hurt very badly at first, but once everything begins to align and the scar tissue heals over, it will get better.

But as long as Vlad continues to put the key to his happiness in other people's pockets—Maddie, Danny, his wealth and power—he'll never be able to heal.

#danny phantom #vlad masters #meta #just dp thoughts #healing #dependency #he's so empty #he tries to fill the bottomless pit inside him with people and material things #but it's never going to be enough #it can't ever be filled #fic: familiar

[conscious-love]

Don’t turn people into your home, or you’ll end up homeless.

Unknown

#unknown author #relationship #self love #love #dependency #independent #independence #self sufficiency #breakup #heartbreak #moving on #recovery #healing #quotes

[sacredsilencesblog]

- I’ll love you forever sid

- you will?

- yes that’s the problem

#emotional dependency #emotional #dependency #cassie ainsworth #skins aesthetic #cassie skins #tcw #i’ll love you forever

[dk-thrive]

'I sometimes think the world is divided into people who survive from their own inner strength and those who have to latch on to others to survive.'

— Elizabeth Jolley, interview in Good Weekend, in Helen Garner's "One Day I'll Remember This: Diaries 1987–1995" (Text Publishing Company, October 12, 2021)

#leader #follow #lead #dependence #dependency #Elizabeth Jolley #Helen Garner

[sillysayaka]

for my psychology class, we are supposed to conduct a survey on dependencies and i focused on video game dependencies. feel free to answer!

#survey #psychology #video games #dependency #video game dependency

[wanderingmind867]

I do have dependency issues. I should probably discuss this with my therapist at some point, but for now I'll make a vent post on here (and hope not to get judged too strongly):

I'm 19, and I'm very dependent on my dad. One could argue this is both our faults. I'm very lazy and dependent, while he doesn't really give significant pushback. I know I probably need to learn to do more things for myself, but then I have to acknowledge I'm growing up and that sooner than later I could end up alone. And I don't want to think about that. There's a reason my ideal life would be having a personal nurse or housekeeper or maid/butler to do all this stuff for me. And just so you know what I can't do:

• I can't cook. I've never tried, and I'm too scared to try.

• I can't run my own baths or showers. I can wash myself on my own and turn the water off on my own (I'm not that bad), but I can't start it on my own.

• I can't get my own water. Or maybe I can, but I'm too lazy to and never really learned to. But I probably could do it if I really had to.

• I can't shave on my own. I need help with that one too, especially with my ridiculously low pain tolerance.

This is just some of it. I could try and keep going, but this post is getting too long (and it's also getting kind of rough to keep thinking about it).

#dependent #dependency #dependence #autism #asd #neurodivergent #autistic #adhd #actually autistic #audhd #vent #venting #rant #rambles #I do often wish I could have a housekeeper #it'd fix most of these problems #i think #my problems #my issues #personal vent

[magicjudge]

Hello! I anticipate you will get a lot of this: how do blood moon/sun interact with Rootpath Purifier?

Rootpath Purifier will always win in this interaction.

Normally multiple effects that apply to the same thing just rely on timestamps, i.e. which one is newer, but timestamps can be overridden if one of the effects changes what the other effect would apply to. In this case, Rootpath Purifier would make all your lands basic which would mean that Blood Moon would no longer apply to them. Therefore we have to apply Rootpath Purifier's effect before Blood Moon's effect no matter what.

#mtg #rootpath purifier #blood moon #timestamps #dependency

[yandere-vent]

i’m going to collapse in on myself without you here

#yandere #yandere suggestion #text #obsessive #longing #dependency #rane is dumb and stupid

[saramisuu]

#tiktok #feminism #sexism #masculinity #benevolent #benevolentsexism #control #dependency #sexuality #men #women #gender #gender roles

[gr0ssly0bs3ss3d]

please dont leave ... please.. I can't LIVE without you!!

#irl yandere #real yandere #irl yan community #irl yandere community #bpd love #borderline #obsession #actually obsessed #actually traumatized #abandonment #abandonment issues #actually dpd #dependency #community service is not hot #text #lovecore #soumates #true love #mlm yandere #wlw yandere #schizoposting #be whooo you areee

[conscious-love]

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and love people. The right people — the ones who really belong in your life — will come to you, and stay.

Will Smith

#Will Smith #struggle love #the chase #emotionally unavailable #emotional unavailability #clinging #clingy #neediness #dependency #scarcity #authenticity #alignment #compatibility #incompatibility #relationship #love #breakup #heartbreak #moving on #recovery #healing #letting go #detachment #independent #quotes

[mikavstheworldd]

Realizing that my words have impact is the only thing that has made me realize that i am real and what i say and how i act can actually make a difference to someone and their emotions. it was so hard to grasp at first but it is so important to understand that words make an entire difference to someone. nothing on this planet has ever made me feel more real than knowing i made an impact on someone’s life. stranger or not, i love you and you are real and you are beautiful.

#quotes #philosophy #i love love #love #real life #emotions #love each and every one of you #love each other #dependency #dead poets society #social commentary #relatable #real love #realism #reality of life