#npd information

[narckaveh]

thanks YouTube for promoting this fucking garbage

btw if you see this ad, report it, block it, whatever. I can’t believe they’re pushing this bullshit.

#Jesus Christ #NPD #NPD vent #NPD problems #actually NPD #narcissist #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissistic abuse #npd positivity #npd information #npd culture is #npd stigma #npd myths #npd feels

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[crabussy]

I LOVE AND APPRECIATE MY FRIENDS WITH NPD 👊👊👊👊👊👊💥💥💥 OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#npd #narcassistic personality disorder #one of my best friends has npd and he gets SO MUCH SHIT CONSTANTLY #I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be #yeah. it’s one of the coolest guys I know and I hate how much misinformation narcissism is subject to #I'd recommend researching the disorder and asking your npd loved ones how you can help them manage their disorder!! #god warning it is so hard to find information on npd that isn’t ‘my EVIL narcissist friend and how I isolated and hurt them #as punishment for their disorder!!’ #Id suggest asking people who have npd about their experiences #seriously. god I believed the stigma before I got a friend with npd and it’s so so wrong #yeah. unfollow me right fucking now if you believe that narcassists are inherently abusive and evil and unable to have good relationships #STOP DEMONISING DISORDERS

[front-ill]

Demoting a term for abuse that is characterized by why someone does something versus what one does in regards to abuse removes the responsibility of the person at hand for being abusive, and instead moves the blame on something other than the person. Which is why narcissistic abuse as a concept is harmful. While you can have terms that demote the specific TYPE of abuse, example being sexual abuse, you can't put it on a term where it isn't a type of abuse. You can't call someone a narcissistic individual AND believe that narcissism (in an ableist sense) are both real because YOU remove the blame onto a term where that term describes certain actions and symptoms of a mental disorder.

Oh, and if you believe that narcissism and NPD aren't the same, you're not sneaky when you claim that narcissistic abuse holds NPD tendencies and symptoms (example being entitlement or being hurt from criticism). Even if you do it subtly.

#disabled #disability #npd #narcissistic #narcissism #narc #narcs #pwnpd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd traits #narc abuse truthers dni #awareness #information

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

questioning npd culture is needing so badly to be special that any time I’m not, I panic and involuntarily make myself physically ill.

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#i noticed i think youre signing off the wing differently than the other anon so i just wanna #inform you in case youre a different person that sign off is taken ^^ sorry if im mistaken though #npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

[mischiefmanifold]

Hi anyway PDA, as it is currently understood, is a behavioral profile that closely resembles conduct and behavior disorders like conduct disorder (CD), ODD, NPD, and ASPD.

If you identify as PDA I suggest looking into those disorders

#information originally found from a trusted source on TikTok #and then confirmed via personal research #pda #pathological demand avoidance #extreme demand avoidance #autism #oppositional defiant disorder #odd #conduct disorder #antisocial personality disorder #aspd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd

[moonlit-positivity]

Lets talk about emotional regulation on a deeper level

Here is a wildly controversial truth: your emotional responses actually make a lot of sense considering what you've been through in your life.

The way you react to stress- the way you shut down, isolate, deny, avoid, daydream, escape, use addictions, and/or self harm? Or the way you lash out, get revenge, get violent, manipulate & gaslight, and project your emotions onto others? Or the way you fawn, people please, shut down emotionally, prioritize others before yourself, and freeze? These responses are born out of pure survival. Every last one of them. At some point these responses were there so you could survive an environment that was trying to kill you. If you don't think that's accurate, then consider that your body & mind felt threatened enough to give you these responses in the first place. It actually makes a lot of sense that your reactions to high stress is to revert to what saved you as a child.

Here's the thing though, what saved you as a child is no longer serving you the same purpose now as an adult.

If you're entering new relationships and friendships as an adult under the same mindset of, "these people are trying to kill me," then here's what's going to happen: your partner, friend, etc is going to inevitably make a mistake that is going to trigger you into that primal, neolithic state of survival. And you are going to unconsciously react in the same ways that saved you as a child. But the difference is that, the person next to you isn't actually trying to kill you. They're just making an honest to goodness mistake and now you're going at them like they're evil incarnate. Or, you're withdrawing and hurting yourself and probably gonna ghost them now because you're too scared to communicate what it is that's bothering you. Or, you're going to pretend like you didn't see it and shut yourself down emotionally and just hope that it works out, until one day you're gonna snap and all that pent up anger is gonna explode out of you like Mount Vesuvius on firey steroids.

This is why it's so important to learn how to do the following things:

1. Spend some time reaffirming that what you went through as a kid was absolutely not normal, under any circumstances. That shit was batshit insane and it shouldn't have happened to you. You really need to dig deep and reaffirm that no, most of the world isn't actively trying to kill you, attack you, or make you suffer. What you went through was truly an isolated incident of pure fuckery. And yeah, it sucks but people will inevitably hurt you again. Learning about boundaries can help with this. But the sooner you realize that most people around you are genuinely not trying to hurt you, the better your life is going to get. Trauma therapy can be a great place to unload these kinds of things.

2. Spend some time processing how your parents'/ abuser's reactions, overreactions, abuse, neglect, gaslighting & projections, etc made you feel. This is important. And yeah it hurts like fuck, but this is important because once you actually allow yourself to feel & process the pain and suffering they did to you, your body starts to shift out of survival and you start to understand exactly how your own emotional responses feel for you & others around you. It gives you a deeper sense of understanding. And yes, this works for low empathy disorders like NPD too. If you were abused as a kid then it literally doesn't matter what your diagnosis is. The fact that your childhood robbed you of safe & secure connection, attunement, regulation, trust, and autonomy, is actually 100% the entire reason why your symptoms exist. And it sucks that the current mental health field does not acknowledge this. You can't pour from a cup that has been empty since the day you were born. You need to turn that attention inward and start unpacking all that shit.

3. Find ways to foster empathy and compassion for yourself with gentle parenting. Your childhood guidance is missing. You need to go back and essentially re-raise yourself. This is the hard & laborious work of inner child healing, emotional regulation, DBT, attachment theory healing, learning how to communicate, etc. imo this is what therapy should be about tbh.

4. Find safe ways to be vulnerable in peace. Restoring your own sense of control over who you allow into your life and what you allow them to do to you, is one great way to gain the safety you need to do this kind of work with. But the one hard inevitable truth of this world is that you are actually going to have to learn how to be vulnerable. You are going to have to learn how to foster grace and compassion for yourself enough to be seen on a deeper level. Again, I'd suggest trauma therapy.

I'd say this is one helluva controversial take, because most spaces will tell you things like, "your reactions are the problem." And well, yeah okay fine. You got a point. But how do you actually do the work in a healthy and safer manner that gets you actually motivated to self inspect and change your ways? This is how you do that. Recognize what you went through was pure survival, so you can foster a better sense of compassion for yourself. Finding a good trauma therapist can help with this. By doing this your body automatically gains the regulation needed to process the fact that yeah, okay, there actually is a different way to do things. Everything else comes naturally over time. And I do mean time. This isn't something you can do once and then call it good. You're gonna be doing this for the rest of your life.

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Hope this helps

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#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #boundaries #trauma awareness #trauma informed #npd #bpd #emotional regulation #survival #fight flight #fight flight freeze fawn #gentle parenting #communication #relationships #child abuse #recovering from abuse #emotional work #growth #advice #life advice #interpersonal relationships #self compassion #abusive parenting

[flashy-mf]

Goddamn this is such a good resource

Y’all need to check this out, especially if you’re questioning narcissism, have a narcissist in your life, or are diagnosed and don’t yet understand what it means.

Credit to @san1tas for supplying this in a resource dump and @empath-abuse-awareness who has this reblogged as their pinned post this is great stuff <3

#flashy ✨ info #cluster b #actually cluster b #actually npd #npd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b safe #information #resources

[eclaire-went-bam]

helppp first i catch my mom watching ableist "narc abuse" videos and now i see her watching ableist fear mongering bpd videos like is she targetting me ....

#tw ableism #npd #bpd #cluster b #she's branching out guys .... #bros targetting the two things i'm stuck with ain't no way #i remember she'd always highkey bully me when i was younger for not liking tiktok #because of how easy misinformation can be spread and how key details of information will be left out in short form content #And Yeah I Was Right. #i sincerely hopei wasn't the cause of this bcs a few years ago when i was questioning bpd i ordered some cluster b help book #but i didnt have a card at the time so i was like “heyyy don't mind this butnliiike... ^^” #or idk maybe she forgor abt it LMAO

[cluster-b-culture-is]

cluster b culture is basically becoming an amateur psychologist

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#cluster b culture is #cluster b #npd #aspd #bpd #hpd #Mod Reef #anonymous #YEAH #we HAVE to #because if we don't #then how are we supposed to prove our humanity to others? to OURSELVES? #how else are we supposed to find accurate information on our own disorders in order to make informed decisions about our own lives? #we can't trust the people who are ACTUALLY supposed to help us and so we're forced to help ourselves instead

[narckaveh]

heyy! asking a question to ALL NARCISSISTS!

any reblogs adding of your experience is helpful!

#npd #npd problems #npd tag #actually npd #narcissist #narcissistic #narcisstic personality disorder #npd mood #npd information #npd safe #npd positivity #npd things

[imgoingtomakeproblemsonpurpose]

So I’ve run into a discussion about what could be counted as neurodivergent and if Cluster Bs (NPD, ASPD, HPD and BPD u know the jizz)

Ofcoures you start this kinda discussions with : “But what is Neurodivergence? (ND)”

Most common answer would be: “Brain build different from ‘’norm’’”.

And with that I would say: “Well then we could count Cluster Bs are ND, cuz there are studies on differences in brain”

(I’m not a brain scientist, I don’t actually know the validity of those studies)

A bunch of others say: “No, cuz the difference is Cluster B (this one was specifically talking about BPD and NPD is emotion-based therefore it don’t count”.

(No sources given, and I couldn’t really find anything substantial myself)

I take the last statement with a grain of salt, but I don’t wanna dismiss it entirely, cuz I simply don’t know it for sure.

Hoping other people have more insight on this.

#idk how to tag this #npd #aspd #hpd #bpd #cluster b #cluster b safe #I’m researching and I need more information #did i write this right? #help? #neurodivergent

[gloriousmonsters]

hi hello just saw everything everywhere all at once and i am experiencing the temporary euphoria of remembering that in a fragmented and chaotic universe we must search for wonder make our own meaning and most importantly be kind

#anyway i'm also exhausted and i'm going to bed #i had to stop my therapist from saying my mom had 'narcissistic tendencies' when i was describing some shit she did in the past today #and be like 'um actually i have '''narcissistic tendencies''' so could we please Not' #obviously she was not initially buying it when she asked 'why did you think that' but I did outline the things that had resonated with me #why i self dxed and how it was a hugely important tool for making sense of the way my brain worked #and therefore figuring out how to effectively try and improve #and touched on the 'it sucks that people are forming clubs to call everyone they don't like a narcissist' and #'if you say someone with a PD doesn't do (x) good behavior you're basically saying a PD is a life sentence and not just information #about how your mind/personality tends to work' greatest hits #and she did seem to agree with a lot of what I said #and seemed to understand when I said I just straight up didn't want to talk about my parents being mentally ill #because what mattered to me was how they chose to act #and not what may or may not be a contributing factor #and ultimately she said she appreciated that I'd spoken up and we could look into dx stuff for npd if I wanted #(which I don't know if I do want! but I feel like it's a positive-ish thing for her to bring up) #so overall it was scary and exhausting but I was pretty happy with how I handled it #and it had me already thinking a lot of Big Stuff about self-improvement and sense of self #and learning to find hope and not just stew in misery or stagnate in 'this is the way things are' #and then the movie hit and it was just the perfect movie to watch today #genuinely a masterpiece god tier acting and effects never a dull moment #and listen i just need everyone to try and be kind to yourself and others ok we need it #believe that you can be okay and you are okay and spend a little time with something or someone you love

[xxstrawberrybunxx]

shout out to aromantic ppl with aspd and aro ppl who’s aspd effects the way they experience attraction. also shout out to aplatonics with aspd and loveless and nonamorous ppl with aspd. i give all of you fist bumps. 

#eee #for the record both my pds effect my attraction #especially my npd #its tiring to always be the thing that people compare to monsters #being aromantic and cluster b #and i especially feel for ppl with aspd here #not an informative post just a bit annoyed

[bathroomtrapped]

What if they didnt fight cary and convinced him to return for saw 3... Then, would the scenario "jigsaw kidnaps larrys family" become real? Then, then, would it be more awesome than his coming back in saw 3d? I guess the answers yes. I'll forever hate Larry's treachery.

if it went according to plan, allison is kidnapped again and lawrence takes the role of lynn where he cares for john (iirc). either way, yeah theyre involved again. not sure abt diana tho?

okay so, sorry to be That Guy. but lawrence as an apprentice makes the most sense for his character and the saw universe and im going to use this random ask to voice my opinion so thank you for using my ask box as a saw google lol

A LOT more under the cut

i DO with we got to see that version because it would mean more lawrence screentime and i genuinely do not dislike any saw content. idc how shitty saw x is, it could undo everything and shit all over it but i would NOT care. any content means an avenue to explore saw further

thats one of the main reasons the apprentice reveal was so good, in my opinion. before i get to why its great for lawrence, i want to point out why it works SO well for the other aspects. amanda is johns pseudo-daughter, he LOVED her like a father. we see it at the end of saw iii. no matter what he says, john does not forgive people. he punishes jill for losing their child but at the end of iii, we see him genuinely look at amanda with love and forgiveness. and yet? he never trusted her enough to tell her about lawrence. this random fucking guy who didnt even WIN, is the golden child. trusted with his wife!

as for mark, he is the definition of jigsaws philosophy. he may have jostled his victims around but he had the strongest will to live out of anyone and never relished in hurting them (crying after kidnapping paul + killing seth). another reason i like 3D is that he cant even look at jills corpse. his "game over" wasnt victorious. not like johns always is. YET he is not trusted. hes been there since before amanda, followed his rules, lived his philosophy and he was shafted again. i think the reveal does a lot of good for the apprentice-john dynamic for everyone involved.

secondly, JOHNS TESTS DONT WORK. CANONICALLY. they do not!! amanda says it herself. jigsaw traps make people worse, and not just bc thats a logical response to trauma. working for john amplifies everyones worst traits. amanda became a killer, mark grew to find some sort of enjoyment in killing (at the very least, it made him dependent on it for power and a sense of identity after the loss of his sister)

lawrences test was designed to show him what john said he was missing: empathy. he has none! he lies and doesnt care, he cant understand other peoples points of view, and he prioritizes his own whims and wants over everyone. CONSISTENTLY. so what happens when his tests presents him with the very definition of his heart and moral core, then asks him to kill him? he gets fucking worse!

lawrence is a narcissist. as in the personality disorder. he has low empathy (this is canonically the reason for his test!! not just "he cheated" or "he ignored john", he does these things for that reason) and god. just look at the symptoms, its like they made every scene an example of them on purpose. the idea that his game would be a wake up call and cause him to reflect and adjust his behaviors is just insane to me! within the canon logic of the story, and when taking into account his clear personality disorder... its the most logical choice (source: i have it and also i have eyes. SIDE SIDE note, my real source is that hes a clear parallel to john and john was evaluated for NPD in his psychiatric files in the saw game. so theres that) i think this has a lot to do with people not understanding low empathy. they cant understand why he would betray adam and join jigsaw

trauma wont change that overnight. getting fixed by john for 2 years without seeing the sun certainly wont help either

lawrence as an apprentice is the most logical progression of his character. he does what he wants and what he has to, at the expense of others. hes isolated from his wife and child. he cant understand other peoples prespective. he has an issue with guilt or feeling empathy for people, including those suffering like john. this wont change bc he experienced his first shred of empathy after MURDERING someone he got to know for 6 hours. low empathy =/= no empathy. thats like saying dude bros who do shrooms and experience empathy for the first time in their life are changed people. they arent lol

also the contrast between his game over vs marks 5 minutes earlier is SO important for their characters. theres so much good shit in that movie. take out the corny lines and jill mistreatment, and u have a lot to work with! so yes i do think that itd be more awesome. i love saw 3D and what it did for his character. im not sure how saw iii hostage lawrence wouldve expanded on his character, but id rather go with saw 3D bc im confident they didnt butcher his character. im glad that a beloved protagonist is a complete narc, and hes still beloved! im never giving that up

#apologies if this sounded rude or targeted? ive been looking for an excuse to voice this #i hope this makes sense. i didnt want to elaborate TOO hard on npd lawrence bc its already so long #but it genuinely informs soooo much of his character #i mean #ffs #tapp has to sit there and tell him #CRIME IS IN UR NEIGHBORHOOD. WELL OFF DOCTORS AND DENTISTS ARE NOT ABOUT IT. UR NOT ABOVE IT #THE SEWER LINES RUN UNDER THIS NEIGHBORHOOD TOO!!! NO MATTER HOW CLEAN U LOOK #THERES ALWAYS POTENTIAL FOR DIRT UNDER THE SURFACE #anyways #sorry this is all over the place im high as shit and just ranted off the top of my head #im sure ill make a real post abt npd lawrence + saw 3D + npd mark another time #larry.txt

[gundamlfrith-remade]

i need to lobotomize myself and/or pull my brain out of my skull actually

#i fucking hate jealousy i hate having npd i hate this shit #missing information