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nocontactdiaries · 1 year

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I will never be good enough. I’ll never be thin enough. I’ll never be successful enough. I’ll never be good enough. I’ll never merit a proud-parent-Facebook-post. I’ll never be educated enough. I’ll never be pretty enough. I’ll never be clean enough. I’ll never be pleasing enough. I’ll never be good enough for my parents. And that’s okay. It’s okay. I spent over 20 years trying to be enough. Trying to find validation in empty husks of humans, And I was never enough- in any way. I’d break and bend myself, contorting to try fit- The standards were always too high, impossible to reach, Impossible to attain. And that’s okay. I am slowly loving myself enough, and that- that’s enough for me.

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talktoangel2 · 9 months

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what is Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is a form of mistreatment that involves the use of tactics to manipulate, control, and harm another person emotionally and psychologically. Unlike physical abuse, which involves physical harm, emotional abuse primarily targets an individual's feelings, self-esteem, and mental well-being. It often occurs within relationships where there is a power imbalance, such as intimate partnerships, familial relationships, friendships, or workplace dynamics.

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im-literally-just-a-girl · 9 months

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It’s been 7 months since I last saw you. It feels like a dream. Best dream I’ve ever had.

#dream #nocontact #missing #longdistance #breakup

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truelovescamrecovery · 2 years

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They call us things to get us to shut up at that moment. Or to be emotionally stirred in some way that causes us to do something that benefits them. - That is all they're ever thinking about. More than “confessions” by “projecting” the accusations are a tool. - A tool to get something they want and need. Just as everything else they say is… They catch onto the things that normal people think are bad, such as liars, cheaters, crazy, and drunks... Are they doing the things they hurl at us? Of course, they are!! They are sociopaths. However, they have done far, far, worse. But if they hurled those things at you as an accusation, you'd not take them to heart. Would you be affected if they yelled at you, “You're a murderer!, Rapist!, Embezzler!, Pedophile!, You're hiding five kids from three different men/women and I know it!…” Nope. And then what they need would not be achieved. They need you to shut up and/or do something that benefits them... That's why they're calling you things that you are. - There is absolutely nothing else they want. No matter what they say, this is the reason. Offended, hurt, crying…You're going to shut up, and then you're going to do something to prove to them that you're not that thing they called you. - This is normal on your part... This is what it's like under the spell of a sociopath. - What you do and how you feel is normal... But unless you can see past how you feel to what they're actually doing you might be there in hell for a very, very, very long time. Projection is carrying over unresolved emotional residue from one scenario or incident with one person or event to another unconnected person or event. Sociopaths are not capable of projection: to project because of an unresolved emotional upset: you would have to care. Sociopaths are not upset about anything they have done in the past. They have no unresolved emotional residue from incident to incident. * * * #gaslighting #narcissist #nocontact #divorce #sunday #saturday #cats #narcissisticabuseunwound #truelovescamrecovery #hoovering #croissant #travel #Spotify #paris #reframing #breakup #coffee #espresso #psychopath #cafe #bread #narcissism #books https://www.instagram.com/p/CjijNz-pSGf/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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jawnyyyjoestarr · 4 months

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9th day no contact I felt so depressed and exhausted today

#situationships #nocontact

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childofcoffee · 1 year

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Wild how quickly time passes...

It's already been 18 months since the last time I heard from birthdad. It's never going to be an easy thing that he chose to abandon our adoption constellation, but I know it says nothing about me.

However, him leaving has left holes in places I didn't expect, and emotional responses I can't always predict.

Anger Sadness Hurt Rejection

Relief

I can't listen to Breaking Benjamin anymore - he was the reason I started listening to them. Yet I still love learning about cars and watching The Grand Tour - our relationship (back in 2009-10) was why I started learning about cars and watching BBC's Top Gear.

His presence in my life has made me who I am today. I don't want to erase that, but I also don't want to forever think about what I went through with him.

So, yesterday I allowed myself to reminisce about everything. But today I put those memories back in their box in the corner.

#18months #openadoption #adoptionconstellation #birthdad #birthfather #abandonment #nocontact #ghosting

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rimdowidar · 1 year

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After #32-Days-of-No-Contact

Writing is my tool to heal my overwhelming thoughts, and it helps me to get all of my ideas so I can track myself whenever I'm repeating the same feelings and thoughts.

So, what do we have here now? Just documenting my healing journey. and why am I making this public? because why not.. also who would really check this blog anyway!

So, someone entered my life in June 2018, and after about a year of knowing each other, we were in a relationship. it was a bit on and off because how I was always fighting over his lifestyle, and how he used to be cold sometimes, but overall he was being nice to me and treated me well.

In September 2020, I started college it was my first time getting out of a very bad place in my life, and it was my first time to actually start what I really love and make an effort for (Filmmaking), at that time we were fighting a lot and I started to question "what if?" and started to be unsure of being in a committed relationship. so, we broke up.

In February 2023, on my birthday.. we met again. and after almost 10 days we got back together, after 42 days we broke up because I was super ready to settle down and have him for life, and he was not ready for that, I freaked him out lol and he said that "I don't want to be in a relationship right now."

It's been now 32 days since our last day together, and looking back at the beginning of it.. yeah I am doing much much better!

In the beginning, I received the most mixed signals I ever received in my life, it was like sometimes it's someone who is ADORING you and wanna marry you and sometimes he is someone who is sure of nothing and wants to explore more and can't stand being next to you, tbh? that gave me a hard time and lots lots of crying but unexpectedly after 30 days of grieving, crying, anger, and jealousy... all become better, I think I am doing better now and accepting the idea of him not being in my life.

What made me really move on?

1- Writingwritingwritingwriting!

It starts with an open note on my phone with the title: "To My Ex... Messages are not meant to be sent" - but it got sent hahaha. I wrote in from April 3rd to April 7th, not too many days right? well, I wrote 22 pages :) ... it got everything, missing him, wanting him back, jealousy, asking him back, a prestigious way of begging him to come back haha, talking about old messages, talking about us before me going to the college, Quotes (YES), Sad Song Lyrics (YES)... I wrote literally everything in those few days, then it felt like oh it's actually kind of hard work you gotta send it to him so I did and asked him not to reply to anything in it and he didn't thankfully, now I look back to that relationship and I feel super happy and super proud of saying everything, every little thing was on my mind to him, and I tried everything to make it work... SO I AM GOOD!

2- Modern Family

Yes, that show helped me a lot going through a hard time, I'm right now in the seventh season of it, and totally worth it.. stick always to that simple rule: If you are sad, go watch comedy.

3- Ali El Haggar

He is my favorite singer, and he is the one I love the most, and he was my first live concert to go to, and that artist got some really GREAT SONGS, my favorite at that time was: في قلب ��لليل

4- I got the closure I wanted

After him telling me that he doesn't want a relationship, we met after that a few times maybe four times or something, and I talked about it all, I was super expressive (thanks to my therapy sessions) I told him that he could be an avoidant and that he just fears the closeness and I suggested therapy, I suggested to make the relationship different to suit him more blah blah, and listened to him more and more till his words made sense to me.

5- Nagui

my 3-month-old kitten, Nagui was born on February 7 that's making us twins! I've always wanted a pet and my mother would keep refusing, when she knew we broke up she agreed that I can finally get a pet. I remember not leaving the house because of him, he is my baby and will always be.

6- Therapy

Well, If I am talking about therapy a couple of months ago I'd just say how it completely changed my whole life, but in this journey... welllllll it didn't do much, all it did was resist texting him back knowing that i have a session by the end of the week that would make me realize how bad this is, and would calm me down.

7- Friends

Well, my closest friend ironically let me down, he wasn't there for me through this journey which was really painful, it was a real loss, I lost someone I deeply love since 2019, someone I shared with him a lot that I couldn't imagine myself sharing that with anyone else, and I believe that loss could feel like death... it is serious and it is painful!

but another friend of mine came out of nowhere, and she did help me go through this.. so yeah life is unexpecting all the time.

It is getting better, and no matter how devasting this is, know and make sure that it will pass, and if didn't you will survive.

I might never lose the love for him, I might not find love again. but I am okay and I am doing better day by day.

I look at myself in this picture after daying of consistently crying, and I can see that I am doing better, and I never imagined that I would actually be better in just 30 days. miracles happen!

Later On...

#breakup #heartbroken #no contact #healing #healing journey #journaling #nocontact

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darkobssessions · 1 year

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I've stopped panicking that I have to make it otherwise I go back to that.

I'm not going back to that.

SAY IT WITH ME.

#abusechronicles #abusesurvivor #overcomingabuse #healingjourney #trauma #youdeservebetter #nocontact

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savemefromtoxic · 1 year

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🙅‍♂️ Nothing hurts a Narcissist more than going full ‘no contact’. They will expect you to peek at their social media, ask joint friends about them. They want to keep you attached. They crave your attention. Your devotion. When you go no contact, it is hard to withdraw yourself off the dopamine, you’ll be tempted to look, tempted to find out. But after a while, one day, one morning, over a drink, you’ll suddenly experience the peace your soul craves, and you’ll be ready to move on, and never look back. Rick dC @SaveMeFromToxic #narcissist #hurtanarcissist #nocontact #socialmedia #askfriends #attached #craveattention #devotion #withdrawl #dopamine #peace #cravepeace #soulpeace #moveon #dontlookback #rickdc https://www.instagram.com/p/Co6Ec-Go5tn/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#narcissist #hurtanarcissist #nocontact #socialmedia #askfriends #attached #craveattention #devotion #withdrawl #dopamine #peace #cravepeace #soulpeace #moveon #dontlookback #rickdc

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nocontactdiaries · 1 year

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Surfacing repressed memories feel like found pieces of a shattered mirror. I can’t see it all, but I can see the parts that made the most impact, and some of the pieces connect. It can take years overall to remember the full picture, if at all.

Today’s clicking pieces were on allergies. I found out a couple of years ago that I am deathly allergic to certain types of hair dye. I say “found out”, when I’ve been allergic to hair dye since my early teen years, but it was repressed and the reactions I had were dismissed as a teen, so I lost the memories to the fog.

It’s the anger that gets me. It’s the anger that I dyed my hair as a teen and was told I was “being dramatic”, that I was “just sensitive”, that it “wasn’t a big deal” when I had a reaction. I stopped dying my hair with those certain types of dye, and the problem went away. I started using different types, and it lasted less and stained more, but it didn’t hurt. I thought I was indeed just dramatic. That I was clearly unable to remember what I went through, as my own “proclivity for over-exaggeration” (thanks, mom) meant that I’d imagined the allergic reactions that made my skin bubble and blister, that made me so incredibly itchy, that made me so horribly uncomfortable. In time, I forgot the welts that would cover my arms, and the weeks my scalp spent recovering from the dye. Until I ended up in hospital.

The anger isn’t so much that I was gaslit into believing I was misremembering my own memories to the point where I forgot I was anaphylactic allergic to something (which is horrifying in its own right)- it’s that my mother knew, and she still had me use those same allergy-inducing dyes to colour her hair for her. She knew, and she made me dye her hair for years, well after I’d stopped colouring my own. It’s the memories of the welts that almost immediately formed along my arms where I’d accidentally touched, where I’d get perfect circles of allergies as the dye dripped onto my feet. It’s that she insisted I did it for her, when she could have others do it. It’s that she manipulated me and guilted me into touching something she knew I was horribly allergic to, for the sake of her appearance. It’s the anger that I experienced allergies with foods, that I was diagnosed with severe lactose intolerance, that I wasn’t a “picky eater” at all- just suffering from bad sensitivities, allergies and intolerances, and that my mother knew about the food, she knew about the dye- It’s that she goddamn knew, and she did not care.

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talktoangel2 · 11 months

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Emotionally Abusive Relationships: What to Look Out For

The cycle of Emotionally Abusive is a pattern that can occur in abusive relationships, where the abuse tends to follow a predictable cycle of phases. However, this phase is usually short-lived, and the cycle of abuse starts again with the tension-building phase.

It's important to note that not all Emotionally Abusive relationships follow this exact cycle, and some may have different patterns or variations. However, the cycle of abuse can be a useful framework for understanding the dynamics of abusive relationships and can help victims and their loved ones recognize the signs of abuse and seek help.

The four stages of Emotionally Abusive

There are different models and frameworks used to describe the stages of Emotionally Abusive, but one commonly used model is the "Four Stages of Abuse" model.

1. Tension-Building Stage: In this stage, the abuser becomes increasingly angry, critical, and controlling. The victim may try to avoid triggering the abuser's anger, but may feel like they are walking on eggshells. During the tension-building stage of Emotionally Abusive, “Online therapy” can provide support and assistance in reducing the impact of emotional abuse.

2. Acute Battering Stage: This stage marks the height of the abuse. The abuser may start off by using force or emotion, or perhaps even both. The victim could feel unable to stop the assault and trapped.

3. Honeymoon Stage: In this stage, the abuser may apologize, promise to change, and/or shower the victim with affection and attention. The victim may feel relieved that the abuse has ended and hopeful that things will get better.

4. Calm Stage: In this stage, the abuser may appear remorseful and may try to make amends for their behavior. The couple may appear serene and secure, leading the victim to feel that the abuse has stopped.

However, this calm stage is usually short-lived, and the cycle of abuse starts again with the tension-building stage.

It's important to note that not all abusive relationships follow this exact model or have four distinct stages. However, this model can be a useful framework for understanding the dynamics of abusive relationships and can help victims and their loved ones recognize the signs of abuse and seek help.

To read more:- https://www.talktoangel.com/

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cwtchtarot · 1 year

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How are they feeling? Love n good vibes always J 💚🙏 #pick #pickacard #pickapile #pickacardreading #tarotreading #tarotreader #soul #music #talent #nocontact #relationshipgoals #twinflame #twinflames #soulmate #soulmission #healing #energy #energyhealing #healer #lightworker #goodvibes #truth #spirituality #spirit #divine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #connected #feelings #thoughts (at Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoZpNVOs7K7/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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ikwerregirl · 1 year

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#newvideo on #Talk2Dot ➡️ #youtube #nocontact #domeaticviolence (at Paris, France) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn9k8hIofDA/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#newvideo #talk2dot #youtube #nocontact #domeaticviolence

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truelovescamrecovery · 1 year

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In the aftermath, we feel "broken"... Who you are is still there. Go through that box in the attic, in storage, in a closet, or a far corner of a downstairs cupboard... Your "life box"... That box stuffed with old yearbooks, report cards, degrees, awards, photos, journals, birthday cards, show tickets, and maybe a teddy bear. See who you were, what you wanted, and what friends felt about you within those memories. Happy Holidays to YOU!! * * * Recovery coaching sessions with Jennifer: https://www.truelovescam.com/chat/ * * * Read on the TLSR website: “8 Reasons to Suspect We're Dating a Sociopath” https://www.truelovescam.com/8-reasons-to-suspect-were-dating-a-sociopath/ * * * Podcast: Narcissistic Abuse Unwound Spotify link: "Am I a Sociopath Magnet?" https://open.spotify.com/episode/1WK8jc7K4ACCVDtdPOmcLA?si=v6C9OpVSQIuatTyJOa-JQQ * * * Book: Breaking Up With Evil: Amazon affiliate link: https://amzn.to/3j6w5sa * * * True Love Scam Recovery www.truelovescam.com Jennifer Smith Narcissistic Abuse Unwound ©️ Since 2014 * * * #selfcare #selflove #empathy #healing #breakup #divorce #sunday #monday #truelovescamrecovery #codependency #narcissisticabuseunwound #nocontact #Holidays #hoovering #memories #truth * * * https://www.instagram.com/p/CmUkijnPHnp/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#selfcare #selflove #empathy #healing #breakup #divorce #sunday #monday #truelovescamrecovery #codependency #narcissisticabuseunwound #nocontact #holidays #hoovering #memories #truth

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pokingholes-cptsdwarrior · 1 year

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Please share so my fellow warriors can find me!! I truly can't believe that this has happened as I haven't done anything to violate community guidelines. 😪😠☹️😤 Please follow me here at my back up account as my main account has been deactivated. @cptsdwarrior_pokingholes 🌟Click the link in my bio to Subscribe to my YouTube channel, follow me on my other Social Media, and sign up to my email list on my Website/Blog so you can always find me. @cptsdwarrior_pokingholes Sharing my healing journey to help you feel less alone. Wanda aka CPTSD Warrior ❤️ #cptsd #complexptsd #complextrauma #cptsdwarrior #cptsdsurvivor #nocontact #smearcampaign #flyingmonkeys #dysfunctionalfamilysystem #toxicfamily #narcissisticfamily #narcissisticmother https://www.instagram.com/p/CmGRoUJutWC/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#cptsd #complexptsd #complextrauma #cptsdwarrior #cptsdsurvivor #nocontact #smearcampaign #flyingmonkeys #dysfunctionalfamilysystem #toxicfamily #narcissisticfamily #narcissisticmother

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tarotbyempress · 1 year

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💫 Channeled Messages For Water Signs 💦 #pisces #scorpio #cancer 🔮follow me for more #tarotreadings + #horoscopes 💫 ✨Disclaimer: psychic readings are for entertainment purposes only. You have free will over your own choices. 💫 #blackgirltarot #witchtok #fyp #viraltiktok #trending #spiritualtok #witchesoftiktok #howdotheyfeel #predictions #horoscope #zodiacsigns #astrology #psychicreadings #nocontact #watersigns #astrologysigns (at United States) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmC7KuAJAIZ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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