#abusive parent

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I chased my abusive father on a pogo stick through an American suburb (he was also on a pogo stick) with malicious intent.

#dream #abuse tw #child abuse tw #abuse mention #abusive parent #parental abuse cw

[gur0beetl3]

Leaving my abusive household.

Hello, I try to not get too serious or talk about my private life too often, but today I've finally started up a gofundme to. Well. Get out of the abusive situation I live in. It's something I've thought long and hard about, and while I hate having to resort to this, all other options have failed me, and I'm desperate to leave so I can start actually living. Please, any and all help sharing this around will mean the world to me, as this situation has gotten dire, and I honestly cannot live in this house with my mother for another year.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post, I appreciate it, and I hope you have a wonderful day.

https://gofund.me/5c65ef49

#Beetle Chitter #gofundme #financial aid #donate if you can #crowdfunding #go fund me #gofundme link #fundraising #fundraiser #Aid Request #financial aid request #leaving home #abusive parent #please.

[neuroticboyfriend]

hey. you. your abuser's emotions are not your burden. it is not your fault if they feel angry/sad/disappointed. especially when you still up for yourself. any negative feelings they have towards your reaction to your abuse are their problem, and their own doing. you are not a bad person if you don't try to make them feel better.

#softspoonie #abuse #abusive parents #abusive father #abusive parent #abusive relationship #abusive relationships #abuse survival #abuse survivor #trauma survival #trauma survivor #trauma #mental health

[missingvibrance]

when you’re a child who grows up in an environment where your needs are constantly left unmet and you’re constantly told that outside the environment you’re currently in that there’s a scarier one waiting to eat you up and tear you alive, you grow into a bigger child who has to learn how to navigate a world you were never shaped for.

#traumatic childhood #bpd #cptsd #depression #anxiety #traumacore #ventcore #actuallymentallyill #actuallytraumatized #emotional abuse #verbal abuse #physical abuse #abusive parent #childhood neglect

[magicalcloudwitchsstuff]

Why do abusive parents turn housekeeping into a torture

I work in other people's houses and I love doing housekeeping in their house. Sometimes I'm bored and I'll just fold the laundry or sweep the floor. I never leave the sink full or dirty. I am not required to do this, I do it because I want to be nice to my boss and I find it genuinely relaxing. I know she'll be happy I took a couple chores off her shoulders and that I won't be criticized for it.

My own house is always clean and tidy when my relatives aren't around. When I'm left alone to do things and I know no one will criticize me I do it gleefully.

But when my mother's home I vacuum the floor and I get tense because I know that she'll come home and yell because I haven't done it. She admitted to hiding socks in remote corners of the house to prove I hadn't vacuumed and mopped the floor. But missing a corner in one room of the house doesn't mean I haven't cleaned the floor, and she's perfectly capable of recognizing a clean floor. I don't cook around her or do the dishes or mop because she'll just start hovering around me offering criticism but no advice. I tried several ways of doing the same chore. Nothing was ever enough, nothing was every right, there was always something lacking. Every time I do a chore all I can think about is how she's going to yell at me because the chore hasn't been done or it wasn't done right. I started recording myself doing chores to prove that I did them. She always complained I hadn't mopped the floor so I started mopping it right before she came home. Then she started turning into a purple faced monster because when I mopped the floor there was always "too much water" and if I hadn't mopped the floor "at least then times" then "it didn't count". Once I was 11 and I had been left alone at home for the entire day. I did every single chore except the laundry. She came home, looked at every single clean room, went straight to the balcony and said: why isn't the laundry done?

So it was never about the chores. It was always about finding a little excuse to terrorize me. It was always about seeing me cry in frustration after doing several time consuming chores and being accused of not doing it right or straight up not having done it. It was always about seeing me upset and taking her anger out on me.

#emotional abuse #abusive parent #abusive mother

[furiousgoldfish]

me while suffering: yeah but if someone was looking at me right now would they think I’m faking it?? Is this believable?

#is my pain believeable??? #trauma #child abuse #abusive parent #consequences of abuse #accused of faking #so you worry to not look like you might be #and you worry you're faking even if you're alone #and get no benefits from faking whatsoever #victim shaming

[iridescentmemoria]

#Nmom #narcissist mother #bpd mother #toxic mom #toxic parents #toxic family #mom trauma #abusive mother #abusive parent #trauma poetry #childhood trauma #cptsd #grey rock #grey rocking #narc abuse #bpd abuse #trauma #trauma bond #Nmom abuse #vent poetry #poetry #mom issues #trigger warning abuse #trigger warning childhood trauma #silent treatment #first poem #first poetry post #my poetry #depression #anxiety

[grace-lost-in-space]

Update/My Mom/*CW* Abuse

Hi you guys. I know it has been a long time since I have been on here. I have a lot of dm’s but there is no way I can get to every single one of them so I just want to do an update. Please know I am so thankful for every single person on here who has messaged or commented. Sometimes I think you guys are all I really have. This has been my platform to use my voice for so many years now.

-first of all I tagged @taylorswift because for the past 13 years she has unknowingly gotten me through the hardest times. There is zero chance she will ever see this but if she does, I want her to know she has helped me stay alive for the past 13 years. This life is so hard.

-my mom is still abusive. My therapist reported bruises on my neck from being choked. DCFS waited almost one week to come out and “look.” Then they said there were no bruises. I said that is because it had been almost a full week. The social worker said “if your mom choked you with enough force, you would still have bruises today.” She asked “why would you want to tell on your mom and lose all this nice stuff you have here (my apartment, my dog, my iPad that I use to communicate). I said because this is how my mom keeps me in this cycle. Then she said well if you’re saying your mom hurt you I have to ask her if she did it. Then I told her no that always makes my life get worse. So she told me then I would have to tell her I lied about the bruises or else she would talk to my mom. So I did. I told her nothing happened and then I said “but I really wish I could tell you the truth.”

-about 7 days later my mom blacked my eye and pushed me into the wall. I went to CB’s (the judge) house right after because she told me come straight there. She took pictures of my eye then. That was a Sunday. The next day I went to DCFS and the secretary took pictures of my eye with her phone. She told me to ask for another meeting with the social worker and ask if she can be there. So I did. The social worker waited one week to call me back and said no, no one else would be there for a meeting and she already closed my case. She said “you don’t have a mark on you” then I said yes I do come right now and you can see it. CB (judge) also took pictures. She said “No Grace I’m not wasting my time. And do you want to have to give up your dog and your apartment and live at a shelter which by the way has long waiting lists just because you’re mad at your mom?” So I hung up on her.

-Candy bar is really mad but she said we can try to get help for me in other ways without going through the state. Right now my biggest thing is money and having enough money to make it until January when I will be moving to a subsidized apartment. And my mom will have no access to me. I am on a waiting list for it.

-I feel so sad. Everything has been so bad. Nothing has changed except my mom is really really hurting me again.

-I need help getting completely free/away from her. If any of you know some ways to do that please tell me because I am scared and I am exhausted and the state is obviously never going to do anything. My mom has too much influence because she knows them.

-I am still really really sick and on disability so my money is a fixed income. I do not really have the option to go out and get a job. I have no savings. I have nothing.

-I just wish this was all one bad bad bad dream.

#cw abuse #abuse #abusive parent #ptsd #taylor swift #taylorlurking #taylorswiftnation #taylor swift nation #taylornation

[undertale-writing-times]

How would the bad sans’ react to an S/O who is being yelled at by emotionally abusive parents in front of them and the parent raises their hand like they are gonna smack their love? Sorry if it is a bit dark. Thank you for your time.

This one was a lot of fun to write! I also did it pretty fast which was nice :)

Nightmare: He could have felt the negative feelings coming off you even without being in the house. He never did like people who were abusive, it was just annoying to have to deal with... when he noticed what the parent was about to do, his tentacle shot out grabbing their wrist and tugs it back. He could hear the crack, but he didn't honestly care. "I wouldn't suggest doing that" he would say, then lead you out of the house. You're staying with him for the time being.

Killer: Normally he doesn't care if people got hurt, but you were his datemate, so he ran over and stopped your parents hand from hitting you, "Hey hey! Come on, maybe we don't do that sorta thing right now" he pulled out his blade as he said that, holding it in his other hand. He doesn't care that they're your parent, he will kill them if they try to hurt you.

Dusty: The second he saw the movement his body moved by itself. He summoned a bone and smacked your parents hand away with it, "Don't you dare fucking touch them" He spat with as much hate in his voice as he could. Pappy even went and moved his arms around you, even if you couldn't feel it. "Y/n, go outside, you're not staying with them" if your parent tried to talk back the glare Dusty gave them would make anyone's blood run cold. He's just so damn angry right now.

Axe: The yelling already made him on edge, and when he saw the movement, he reaches out grabbing your parents wrist, growling lowly. His eyeshine glowed bright with his anger and annoyance, his fingertips digging into their skin drawing blood. "Try it" he hisses. He lets their hand go, taking yours into his much gentler, and walked out with you. He couldn't believe that someone would try to hurt their own family.

Error: Honestly the second the yelling and shouting started they opened a portal, pushing you through it, then raised their middle finger at your parent, and left with you. They don't deal with shouting.

#Nightmare just breaking your parents arm #Damn #Abusive Parent #TW: Abusive #TW: Abuse #Abusive #Abuse #Bad Sanses #undertale alternate timeline #undertale alternate universe #undertale ask blog #undertale imagines #undertale au #undertale headcanons #Dreamtale #Dreamtale Nightmare #Nightmare Sans #Killer #Killer Sans #Killertale #Dusty #Dusttale #Dusttale Sans #Horrortale #Horrortale Sans #Error #Error Sans

[one-abuse-survivor]

Sometimes I can't stop thinking about the fact my abuser will never see what she did to me as abuse.

I just know that if I ever told her, to her face, "you've abused me and you're the reason I have C-PTSD", her reaction would be "you think that was abuse???" in her most hurt and disbelieving tone. She'd be outraged, and laugh at me, and tell me how selfish and ungrateful I am for acting like this. She'd ask what she did to deserve this, and probably tell me I've allowed others to brainwash me into hating her, even after every good thing she's done for me.

And I fucking hate it. I fucking hate that she ruined my life to the point I had to put myself back together through tears and more pain than I could bear, and she gets to go through life thinking she was a perfectly good mother who was just struggling, and whose actions were justified.

#Abuse #Abuse tw #Vent #O-a-s gets personal #Abusive mother tw #Abuse recovery #abuse vent #Abusive parent #Child abuse #Child abuse tw

[dkniade]

Warning: abusive parent, verbal abuse

Chalk pursued Gold, in that time inopportune; the eclipse is swallowed by the crimson moon

(Read from left to right)

Colour and Title Symbolism

#dusk fan art #comic #Genshin comic #Rhinedottir #albedo #albedo kreideprinz #Lumine #Traveler #verbal abuse #abusive parent #Genshin impact #artist on tumblr #genshin albedo #albedo fanart

[downy-roses]

I had to get good at dad jokes.

Because my father wasn’t good at being one.

#shitpost #joke #dad joke #child of divorce #divorce #abusive parent #abusive father #daddy issues

[toxicparentrants]

Navigating a relationship with your abusive parent after becoming an adult is hard. I was no contact, then low contact, now we are a little bit more in contact. It’s really hard to transition through different levels of contact. I wanna tell myself it’s okay no matter what, but she can’t even admit she did anything wrong much less abusive. She says I remember things differently or that they didn’t happen at all. I have to either make hard boundaries/cut her off/low contact relationships or be okay with the fact that she will never apologize or even admit anything was wrong. It’s really hard to navigate and figure it out. To anyone who’s navigating a relationship with their abusive parent as an adult, I see you. I feel alone like I’m the only one living this experience, but I know I can’t be alone.

#toxic parents #child abuse #mental health #emotional abuse #mental abuse #trauma #mental illness #abuse survivor #actuallyabused #domestic abuse #abusive mom #abusive parent #life after abuse

[neuroticboyfriend]

okay. i finally found something on parents love bombing that is not ableist against cluster B's or encouraging parents to love bomb. it's in the form of a comment on this reddit post from 6 years ago. here's the comment, from u/Glaucus92:

Lovebombing is part of the cycle of abuse. The cycle you'll usually find is this one:

Calm -> Tension building -> Incident -> Reconcilliation -> Calm

Lovebombing is part of the "Reconcilliation" part. After an incident, a victim will usually try to confront, give consequences to, or withdraw form the abuser. In order to keep the victim close, to keep power over them, an abuser may lovebomb their victim. It is not linked to a specifc role in an abisive dynamic. It is a technique used by abuser as a reaction to 'losing' a victim.

The abuser will (attempt to) be the person you always wanted them to be. That can be the parent that listens to you when you talk about your interest. It can be that they tell you how proud they are of you, how they've always been proud, etc. It can be that they buy you gifts or give you money. This behaviour isn't exclusive to abusive parents either; think of how an abusive spouse might organize a wonderful date or get an expensive gift for their victims.

The goal of the lovebombing is to give you a little taste of what you usually never get from them, be it attention, financial aid, praise, compliments, whatever. By giving you that tiny bit, they are basically pretending that they can be this nice, loving parent. The underlying unspoken message of course being that things could be like this, if only you tried harder, or weren't like x, or were more like y. Because without the realization that they are abusive, it doesn't make sense for them to purposefully hurt you and then be really nice to you.

Lovebombing insipres false hope that if only you could be better, the abuser wouldn't be abusive. It also helps wiht the gaslighting; when they do all these nice things for you in that moment, you might think that you over-exagerated the previous abuse. It's usually only when you look back and realise that all these 'nice' things only happened when you were upset with them or withdrew from them.

Since you asked for examples:

A parent who is usually very disinterested in your life suddenly makes a lot of effort to discuss you hobbies with you.

A parent might start to give you a lot of compliments all of a sudden, or tell stories about how they've told others about how amazing you are.

Parents might give you gifts for no reason. Stating that they just wanted to be nice, or just thought of you when they saw it.

They might start calling or visiting a lot, especially when they previously didn't. Saying things about how much they miss you.

Trying to harken back to 'the good old days'. Sending you pictures of happy childhood memories or recounting old stories.

It might be straight up bribery. A conflict happens, and after the intial blow up you are given cash/money to buy something nice or becasue they ust want to help.

A parent might try to smooth things over by taking you to a place or on a trip you wanted to go to.

I know some of these might sound like perfectly normal things, and they would be coming from non-abusive people. It becomes an abusive tactic when it happens more often than not (or in greater intesity) after a conflict has occured. It also almost always happens in lieu of an actual apology. By lovebombing instead of apologizing, the abuser doesn't have to take responisbility for their action. The unspoken agreement that governs this is that by accepting the gift/loveboming, the victim doesn't hold the abuser accountable.

#softspoonie #abusive parents #abusive parent #abusive father #abuse #emotional abuse #love bombing #lovebombing #abuse survivor #cycle of abuse #verbal abuse #psychological abuse #gaslighting #manipulation #mental health #trauma #trauma survivor #trauma survival #abuse survival #abusive relationship #abusive #abusiveness #mental abuse #trauma awareness #mental health awareness

[pawsome-queerantaine]

My dad in front of people: acts like a lovely guy who adores his children

My dad to his (adult) children when nobody is around: shows off his abusive ass

#delete later #abusive parent

[howifeltabouthim]

She had cried herself to sleep countless times as a child, promising to be better the next day in order to finally win her mother's love. That love had never come, but she had never stopped striving for it.

Anna Biller, from Bluebeard's Castle

#tragic #abusive parent #childhood trauma #domestic abuse #perfectionist #futile #unattainable #withholding #neglect #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #anna biller #bluebeard's castle #devastating #cry yourself to sleep