justmyhumanexperience

[justmyhumanexperience]

"A person raised off love & a person raised off survival sees the world differently." - unknown

#survival #trauma survivor #love #childhood #childhoodabuse #emotions #mentalhealth #feelings #quotes

[justmyhumanexperience]

Calling out "Narcissists" Trend

The other day I read a post by a page I follow on facebook. In the post he talked about a trend that seems to get more and more popular by the day. It's about hunting "narcissists". Now I understand that these types of people are problematic in todays society and that we all need to be vigilant in regards to who we let into our lives to protect ourselves and the people around us but this type of behavior isn't okay. These groups are attacking people solely based on someone showing even the slightest bit of narcissistic tendencies and then provoking them to prove their point based on those reactions. It's absolutely abhorrent and needs to stop. In acting out this type of behavior you've become the very thing you're supposedly trying to seek out, a monster. Now this is a tough pill for some people to swallow but it's a fact, we are all capable having some narcissistic tendencies, it's normal and healthy. These type of tendencies only become unhealthy when someone has an abundance of them and doesn't take accountability for their actions and wreaks havoc on their own lives and everyone in it. This is why narcissism exists on a spectrum and running around labeling someone this term just based on one interaction you've had with them is disgusting. It's become a huge problem in society where a lot of people tend to take one moment out of someone's life and use that to define their entire life. Now, in saying this I'm not telling anyone who has suffered from narcissistic abuse not to speak their truth. In fact, I encourage more people to speak out about their experiences but to just keep in mind that, yes you've been through something horrible but don't use that experience to feel justified in labeling someone a narcissist. What you might not know is that other mental health conditions have overlapping symptoms with NPD and it would greatly increase a set back in someone's life if you saw them display one of these symptoms and then mislabeled them and then they get hated on for simply existing. This is even more troubling because victims of narcissistic abuse tend to display similar characteristics as someone with NPD because they are experiencing that trauma over and over again until they are able to heal. Simple things from a situation that traumatized them could trigger them into acting out in a way they normally wouldn't. Not a lot of people understand that when you are with a narcissist for a long time it changes you. You grow to adapt to not wanting to trigger them but you're also suppressing so much of yourself at the same time. You lose yourself in your people pleasing but you also lash out at people when something reminds you of an event from your trauma. This is why it's important to be vigilant about who you let into your life while also being receptive to someone else's possible struggles. As the old saying goes, Never judge a book by its cover.

#mentalhealth #emotions #trauma #narcissistic trauma #narcissistic traits #narcissists #cptsd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #autisumspectrumdisorder #narcissistic #narcisisstictendencies #abuse #abusers #survivors #labels #mentalhealthconditions #reaction #NPD #Feelings #trauma response #mental illness #complex ptsd #struggles #triggers #trends #popular #awareness

[justmyhumanexperience]

"I didn't grow up with hopes and dreams. I grew up assuming I'd never make it to this age. And now that I'm here, I don't know what the hell to do." - Paige Ryan

#hopes #dreams #quotes #feelings #childhood abuse #trauma #emotions #mentalhealth #trauma survivor #childhood trauma #abuse survivor

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I do this thing where I justify cutting off people. Friends are hard for me to be open with because I feel in the midst of my pain I'll hurt someone. I feel like the closer I get to someone the more insecure I get about my place in their life. Am I being too much? Did I say something in the wrong tone?Did I articulate my feelings well? Does this person even care about me like I do them? Maybe they're pretending to care. My head swirls with so many thoughts. I find it hard to think rationally. So, I distance myself in order to stay in my safe bubble. If I don't get close, no one can hurt me.

#trauma #trauma response #distance #cuttingoffpeople #friends #therapy #self reflection #feelings #safe #pain #emotions #scared #epiphanies #fear #mentalhealth #mental illness #self isolation #isolation #overthinking #narcissistic trauma #narcissisticabusesurvivor #raised by narcissists #deep thoughts

[justmyhumanexperience]

I've been finding a lot of amazing artwork lately.

Here are some pieces by amarniaa_draws

#ghosts #books #mushrooms #pumpkins #cute #spooky #art #drawings #amazingart #designs #cats #skulls #horror #food

[justmyhumanexperience]

You hate yourself so loudly. You hate yourself at the top of your lungs. Your loathing for yourself permeates your speech. “Sorry I’m just rambling.” “Don’t worry about it.” “Just ignore me.” “Sorry if I’m annoying you.” “Sorry I don’t make sense.” “Sorry about that.” Sorry, sorry, sorry. You act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. As if the punching bag is you. If you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you. You clapped your hands over your ears and shut your eyes and balled yourself up so that you’d never have to experience people’s loathing for you. And it meant you never heard their love. You drowned it out. You screamed your hatred over it. And you never got to hear it. 

[justmyhumanexperience]

Some amazing pieces of art by @irenhorrors

#art #talent #occult #macabre #horrorart #mythology #hp lovecraft #edgar allan poe #mermaids #wendigo #cthulhu #blood #death #horror

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Beautiful cover work from a comic called "The Two Sides Of Persephone" that I stumbled upon. It's by the artist Alexandria huntington.

#persephone #hades #death #life #spring #winter #digitial art #art #comics #coverart #talent #Alexandriahuntington

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Recently, I learned about toxic empathy. It's such a strange thing because it's an oxymoron but it's a very real thing in the world of psychology. Basically, if you hang on too tightly to someone and over empathize with them you can end up taking on more than you should in regards to someone's situation. It comes at the cost of you losing yourself. Now, it's not a terrible thing to be an empathetic person but you have to set healthy limits in which you empathize with the person you are dealing with.

#feelings #emotions #change #selfcare #mentalhealth #healing #toxic #toxicempathy #lettinggo #damage #psychology #boundaries #communication #emotional health #therapy

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I think one of the saddest things in society today is the fact that not a lot of people are capable of a civil conversation with someone if they don't fully agree with them. Respect is vital in order to make change in the world.

#quotes #change #feelings #emotions #society #civility #civilization #respect #people #understanding #middle ground

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It's unfortunate just how prevalent in society these thoughts are. Constant positivity is a set up for failure. Ignoring your own emotions when something bad happens sets an unhealthy precedent that emotions that aren't positive are shameful to have. You're a human being biologically wired to feel things. Nothing shameful in having these negative emotions and sadly due to the stigma around mental health help a lot of people suffer in silence.

Toxic positivity

Phrases you tell yourself or others say to you.

Phrases you can counter those thoughts.

#quotes #feelings #emotions #selfcare #mentalhealth #healing #anger #sadness #toxic #toxic positivity

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It's amazing how much you start to learn about yourself once you look at where you came from. I'm so thankful to have made it out of the place I grew up in. I have some things I need to unlearn but things are clearer by the day.

#quotes #feelings #emotions #change #growth #mentalhealth #selfcare #healing #understanding

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#depth #connection #genuinity #quotes #real #authentic #friendship #relationship #trueconnections #humanity

[justmyhumanexperience]

I used to think that ignoring my problems would somehow help me as I tried to fix myself but eventually I learned that accepting the bad in the good is also apart of life. It's a bad day, not a bad life. Some days will be worse than others on my journey to self healing but nothing is ever set in stone.

(If anyone knows the artist of this image, please lmk so I can add credit, I tried to find it but can't, thank you 😊)

#quotes #feelings #emotions #change #growth #trauma #selflove #selfcare #mentalhealth #stability #healing #therapy

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Amazing artwork from @ kryptickim_tattoo on IG. If you like this piece you should give them a follow! They're incredibly talented :)

#kryptickimmy #tattoos #tattoo #bats #bat #moon #flowers #art #designs #spiders #spider #drawings #amazing designs

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#quotes #feelings #change #emotions #love #conditionallove #abuse #trauma

[justmyhumanexperience]

#quotes #feelings #selflove #change #emotions #childhood neglect #trauma #healing #innerchild #selfworth