#borderlinepersonalitydisorder

[angelwithborderline]

It's hard when you realize you're always alone.

#bpd #anxiety #shameless #depression #dying #alone #depressed #drugs #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #Borderline #sv #sadness #suicidethoughts #anxious #broken #crying #cutting #selfharm #Mentalhealth #Selfhate #emotions #Empty #lonely #blades #heartbreak #love #Problems #silence #depressiv #tw self destructive behavior

[ech288]

What’s the point of trying anymore? When you know that no one cares.

#sorry for being depressing #emo as hell #depressing post #3am thoughts #depressing shit #emo #dead inside #depressed #suicide #mood disorder #kill my self #death #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #borderline personality disorder #self harm #adhd #kill myself #self harrrm

[jakkosdiary]

it's happening again..

#self h@rm #tw ana diary #ed no sheeran #3d blog #tw disordered eating #3dtwt #actually bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd problems #bpd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #crying #feeling alone #alone with my thoughts #i wanna be weightless #voices in my head #voices

[c0ldh34rt]

*in the voice of old Gregg* ive got The Funk

#bpd #actually borderline #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #cptsd #c ptsd #complex post traumatic stress disorder #trauma #mental illness #personal #mine #bpd problems

[mysticmoon02]

ACCEPTANCE IF YOU HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER:

What is acceptance? ACCEPTANCE means acknowledging reality for what it is, in the present moment.

It is not the same as agreeing, or approving, or understanding -just acknowledging the truth.

Why does acceptance matter?

When we are not able to practice acceptance, we spend enormous amounts of time and energy wishing things were different.

Even if we're right, and things should be different, refusing to accept reality does not do anything to change it.

Why is acceptance so hard?

We often jump to the conclusion that if we accept something...

•we are giving our permission or approval for it to continue.

•we have to like it

•we are giving up on trying to change it.

Because of the splitting symptom of BPD, these objections may feel particularly strong for you!

Why should someone practice acceptance?

When we practice acceptance, we free up our time and emotional energy for things that we have control over.

Once we accept something as it is, we can act more effectively.

How can I practice acceptance? (1/4)

Acceptance is very simple but it is not easy!

Step one is to notice that you are refusing to accept reality in the first place. If your thoughts are stuck on a loop, or you are thinking about how things "should" be, that's a good clue.

How can I practice acceptance? (2/4)

Once you have noticed that you are fighting reality, gently call yourself out: "I have been spending three days wishing they would text back."

Remind yourself about the reality of the situation: "I cannot control someone else's behavior."

How can I practice acceptance? (3/4)

Try any of the following statements:

• "I do not have to like this to acknowledge that it is reality.'

•"I may feel grief or anger when I accept this, but refusing to accept only prolongs my pain."

•"I do not have to understand in order to accept."

•"life is worth living when it includes pain."

How can I practice acceptance? (4/4)

Allow yourself to experience any emotions that may come up. If at all possible, sit with your emotions until they lessen (if you need to use a crisis kit to self soothe that is OK too!).

Imagine yourself successfully coping with reality in the future.

A final note:

Acceptance is not usually a one time practice. It is something you may have to practice over and over about the same situation. That is OK! It doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. All it takes is practice acceptance is the willingness to do it again.

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[reframingyou]

Why isn't adultery one of the factors leading to BPD diagnoses since almost everyone i've ever known that suffered from it also were serial cheaters?

We had an amazing time interviewing our brilliant speaker Josef @theantisocialborderline ! He is a survivor of pervasive childhood adversity that took the shape of three personality disorders alongside several other “psychological anomalies”. Having recovered from BPD, actively treating ASPD and OCPD, and overcoming the effects of four untreated cluster b relationships, he is here to share insight of his journey regarding treatment, dispelling stigma surrounding Cluster B and debunking abhorrent phenomena such as narcissistic abuse. Ultimately, he seeks to reach out to others, creating a network of restoration that negate the harmful effects of misinformation being spewed by the very institution that should be helping people afflicted with personality disorders, the American Psychological Association.

Register for our free webinar with her!! https://chat.whatsapp.com/GAh3J8LS5zIKk41ynHriEv  or visit us at https://www.reframing-you.com/josef-sociopath    Let the healing begin!

#mentalhealth #aspd #sociopath #clusterbpersonalitydisorder #antisocial #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #antisocialpersonalitydisorder

[katieolney]

Borderline Personality Disorder:

👿 ~!NOT A TREND!~ 🙅🏻‍♀️To all the people who claim to be borderline without a diagnosis, it’s not cute. It’s not edgy. Bpd has fucking DESTROYED me and my life…The fucking RAGE I feel for no damn reason all the time that controls me and makes me say and do horrible, stupid things is a omnipresent nightmare.I can’t even count how many times people have called me crazy. Do you know how many times…

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#abandonment issues #Borderlinepersonalitydisorder #Bpd #codependency #life lessons #mental illness #Mentalillness #motivational #selfcare

[healingrotten]

I would blow my brains out

Just for you

#lil peep #actuallybpd #borderline personality disorder #bpd #borderlinepersonality #borderlinepersonalitydisorder

[perfectlybroken93]

Also the feels.

#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #borderlinepersonality #bpd #mentalhealth #mentalillness

[angelwithborderline]

It's a kind of tired, that sleep can't fix.

#borderline #bpd #depressiv #borderline personality disorder #sv #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #razorblade #depression #drugs #depressed #sad #sadness #ptsd #broken #suizidgedanken #suicidethoughts #crying #cutting #social anxiety #trauma #Tired #mental health #depressive #alone #anxiety #lonely #quotes #self h@rm #cry #tw self destructive behavior

[ech288]

You try and try to keep postive but nothing seems to work. All the negative keeps overcoming you. The more and more of the missery that overcomes you closing you in with darkness. All you see is darkness, all you see is the pain and hurt you feel. All you want is it to all go away but nothing you do works. You wonder if you should let darkness overcome.

#sorry for being depressing #emo as hell #depressing post #emo #3am thoughts #depressing shit #dead inside #depressed #mood disorder #suicide #kill my self #death #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #borderline personality disorder #self harm #kill myself #self harrrm

[apologiesnevermore]

What did you think I meant when I said I felt like I was going to miss out on something incredible? I wanted to understand your soul, I wanted to know you. I wanted you to want to know me, know MY soul. I wanted a passion so fiery it could consume us, for you to ache for me as I ache for you. I wanted you to crave me, not my body. I feel as though I am nothing to you, a thought passing through your mind on occasion. Whereas you have taken up residence in mine, made yourself at home in the corners of my brain where my love for you lives. 

When you said you felt connected to me as well, how did you mean that? I felt a pull toward you, I needed to know you, to be near you, to be with you. You say you’re not looking for love, but if you found it, would you deny it? Or am I not someone you could love? I see your magnificent caramel brown eyes when I close mine. Your lips, addicting. I could kiss you for hours. 

I’ve always been good at beginnings. The thrill of the hunt, the intoxicating infatuation is my happy place. The sweetness of it, so sweet it’s almost sticky. The hope. Now crushed. You’re not looking for love. Have you closed yourself off? Or am I not someone you could love?

No longer at the beginning, I am drowning. I dove in head first to the possibilities. I saw what could be, I saw a love so incredible. I love quickly, deeply, passionately. I love those who do not love me. Once they know me I wish they didn’t. I’m too much, too intense, too forward. I care too much, I think too much, I talk too much. I give it all away until there’s nothing left of me. 

#poetry #BPD #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #sad #sad poetry #heartbreak #heartbrokenpoetry #sadgirl #BPD poetry #borderlinepoetry #rejection #original #originalpoetry

[whiskeylullabi]

I don't even know why I bother anymore. I waste my breath on my stupid insecurities. I waste my breath on trying to talk about anything that's bothering me to anyone. At the end of the day none of it matters to anyone except me. I just need to stop. I need to make it all stop.

#i hate myself #selfhate #i dont matter #my feelings dont matter #feelings are bullshit #no one cares #depression #anxiety #bpd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder

[mysticmoon02]

Splitting in borderline personality disorder

What is splitting?

To simply put it, splitting is a psychological defense mechanism for a person with BPD.

“Splitting” means seeing a person either as all good (“they are the best partner/friend ever!”) or all bad (“do they even like me/know me at all?! I am so upset I feel like ending this”). The switch from idealization to devaluation.

Splitting allows a person with BPD to tolerate extremely difficult feelings (e.g. rejection, perceived abandonment).

What causes splitting?

Splitting occurs when something happens that triggers a person with BPD. This trigger can seem small or harmless to the average person but usually refers back to previous trauma where the person felt extremely lonely, rejected or abandoned.

People with BPD tend to respond in emotional extremes, any small or negative thing (change in tone of voice,body language or even just taking long to respond to a text/not responding) causes feelings of insecurity and discomfort which can lead to Splitting as a way to emotionally protect themselves from re- experiencing trauma.

Examples of splitting

*you are either “perfect” or “evil”

*something “always” or “never “goes right

*you are “always” or “never” here for me

As people with BPD may even split on themselves and either think they are the worst person ever characterized by extreme self hatred, or they feel they are the most amazing/ intelligent person characterized by the BPD “god complex.”

Symptoms of splitting

Note: a person with BPD often experiences emotional dysregulation, which means they are not able to manage their emotions like someone without BPD. Therefore, when a person with BPD splits they usually act in a way that falls outside of a “normal” response. Please be understanding.

*feelings of disappointment or betrayal

*feeling unloved, insecure, rejected, or abandoned

* becoming angry or withdrawn/isolating themselves by not responding to messages, answering very shortly or uncharacteristically or being argumentative

*they may even become very angry at themselves

*engaging in impulsive/ dangerous activities to manage extreme feelings of anger or sadness

How to help a loved one who is splitting

*don’t become angry, defensive, or ignore them. This will cause the person to split even more. The best thing to do is to recognize when they are splitting and to stay calm.

*setting boundaries are important BUT so is validating and reassuring the person with BPD that you are not abandoning them or rejecting them and letting them know that you still care about them.

*once you reassured them, it is a good idea to suggest that they take some time to calm down before discussing what might upset them.

*through clear and constant communication, you can really help the person with BPD regulate their emotions.

Please note this about splitting!

Splitting is in no way a choice! We do not split to Manipulate or seek attention.

People with BPD experience intense and overwhelming emotions and struggle to intergrate good and bad feeling because they are so big to us.

Splitting is a subconscious mechanism that allows people with BPD to deal with emotions that are contradictory.

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[theborderlinepersonalitydiary]

why is it when i’m mad it’s a problem for everyone? i can’t be entitled to my own feelings without it effecting everyone else’s around me?

apparently i’m being selfish for being upset.

#borderline thoughts #borderline personality problems #borderline rage #actuallyborderline #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #i’ll get over it just give me a minute #fuck #feelings #borderline feels #cheer me up #don’t break me down

[katieolney]

🎭"Tough Pill to Swallow"💊

Man from my nightmareHaunting me in my sleepYou’re selfishness is unfairYour presence makes me weep You are everything I wantYet you are nothing at allThe definition of bluntHere only to make me fall You are never there for meYou only take take and takeI can’t stand you’re vanityHow do I get this spell to break? You are my fears and goalsYou are my reason for lifeYet the reason for all these…

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#abusiverelationship #addiction #anxiety #Borderlinepersonalitydisorder #Bpd #bullying #codependency #Depression #grief #poem #poetry #Ptsd #selfcare #toxic relationships