#system advice

[sysciety]

In terms of advice for newly discovered systems that I don't see often, especially ones who might not have access to professional support, is that you're going to get things wrong about your own system and that's ok. Even if it seems like it would have been obvious in hindsight. Even if it makes you feel stupid or embarrassed. Even if it just happens to occur to you otherwise one day. Don't be scared to make mistakes

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[lefluoritesys]

Can we just talk about how when you figure out you're a system, not only is it scary, but you feel like you have to be perfect? I'm sure we weren't the only ones feeling that way, and we should address it. I don't see any conversations about how when you find out you're a system, you feel like you have so many people in your head to help you, you have to be a functional human being, and not struggle with things like work, hygiene, relationships, taking care of yourself, etc. Cause how can it be that so many people were created to help out, and yet your life still- genuinely sucks in some ways??

I feel like that's such a big issue that isn't talked about a lot in the community and isn't taught to newly discovered systems. And it's such an important part of figuring your system out, this acceptance that even with your alters around, that doesn't make y'all perfect!! That doesn't make you functional, and it doesn't get rid of your issues, it just lands a tool! And tools need to be learned to use, like everything in your life. If you hand a toddler a fork and tell them to work with it, it doesn't matter that it always existed. The toddler has no idea how to use it, and they still gotta figure it out! And that process and the end result is different for everyone!

Y'all need to figure out what works for you, y'all. Especially those of you systems who discovered themselves recently or who are still figuring themselves out. Nothing is perfect, nobody is perfect, a system doesn't guarantee you a perfect life; it doesn't mean that just cause you have, say, alters in your system who formed to take care of the body, then your body will be awesome, amazing, you'll feel great physically, stop all self-destructive habits, etc.

Cut yourselves some slack. It's okay.

-host

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[rubys-delusions]

i feel like i hardly hear this around, but such an integral part of realizing you’re a system is that YOU yourself are an alter/part/etc. theres so much talk about trying to find other alters and dont get me wrong, thats really helpful for a lot of people and its helpful for me too! but its extremely difficult with little/no communication, but using whats right in front of you, yourself, as a reference point did SO much for me and helped me identify wayyyyy more patterns in my behavior or speech that weren’t mine. and even just recognizing that i was a part of myself- really helped a lot for i how i view myself within the system and my others with me.

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[valcksys]

as someone who used to obsess w/ like logging switches and knowing everything that was going on in the system all the time im telling you it’s not worth the stress and it’s okay to just like chill out like not knowing who’s fronting is fine, not knowing who fronted a certain day is fine, not knowing who’s co-con/co-front is fine. dw about logging every single little thing 👍

#made by phoenix #did system #osddid #traumagenic system #traumagenic #actually did #system advice #did advice #polyfrag system #did osdd

[pluralboards]

General reminder for all systems: unless you are ready for the consequences do not go looking through memories or searching for trauma ones.

But if you're like me you'll ignore the first paragraph, so here is some advice if you do go looking:

If you get headaches, nauseous, shakey, listen to your body. It means your brain thinks you aren't ready for the information.

Get ready a self care box (link is to an explanation how to make one and what they are).

Have a safety net, should things get really bad you may need to call a friend or family member and that's okay.

Remove harmful objects just incase.

Set up self care or a distraction, that way you'll have something practical to do if you uncover something particularly nasty.

I've said this before but listening to your body is key, if you feel ill or hungry STOP immidietly and look after your needs

Wait until you're with a therapist and/or consult one for advice before going memory diving.

Remember that I am not a therapist or medical professional- just a system who has gone memory diving at the worst times. These are just stuff that help us.

#text #system #did/osdd #system advice #plural #plural advice #advice tag #trauma

[oceania-memento]

what's the system origin for when you unknowingly create your system to cope with severe trauma? but your past the "designated age limit" to have DID but you fit all the criteria for DID except your system formed at the age of 13 due to getting hit by a Ford F150 and after that your forced to relive every traumatic event you've ever had which is A LOT so now you don't know what exactly caused it? but you think you created your system to cope with this instead

edit ; I found out our system is schizogenic

#endo safe #pro endo #endogenic #endogenic friendly #endogenic positivity #endo friendly #pluralgang #actually plural #plural community #plural system #plurality #plural questioning #system questions #system stuff #sysblr #did system #system advice #plural blog #plural gang #plural help #system help #plural positivity #plural pride #plural posting #plural problems #plural stuff #plural things #plural term #plural tag #system problems

[million-with-a-b]

Hey sysblr, has anyone experienced an alter regressing not in age, but in memory?

One of our alters (nameless for privacy sake) has been with us for five years. And suddenly he just doesn't remember anything about the system, or his time with us, or anything.

I'll be honest it's really stressful for him and the rest of us. Any advice?

#Ofc Google and reddit are NOT helpful I'm getting desperate bc he looks very unstable and torn. #I'd ask our gatekeeper but he's not showing himself so I can't talk to him god DAMN it #dissociative identity disorder #God idk what to tag #Actually did #Traumagenic system #system advice #?? #Endos dni #PLEASE I do not need endo misinformation this is serious lmao.... #did osdd #Did system #System #So sorry if I'm acting stressed or panicked it's because I am HAHA. Auhg. #🧡

[ugly6astard]

ok. quick question. if im a sys who has 'trauma' but doesnt wanna identify with said 'trauma' (because i don't think and will never think it was 'traumatic' enough to form a system, and suspect in the near future my diagnosis will be reevaluated) to call themself "endogenic" ??? or is that problematic from a medical perspective -ciel

(syscourse dni)

#system advice #system help #traumagenic system #endogenic system #question mark #syscourse dni

[anon-asking-for-advice]

Hi. We. Uhm. Need help. Specifically with a persecutor. We’re. Not the best at handling shit on our own. We make enough rash decisions without our friends telling us to force this persecutor into dormancy. So I thought we’d turn to Tumblr for. Advice and input. Before we do anything rash.

This sounds like a reddit post already. Eugh. Bear with us here, I beg of you.

Persecutor [P]

Ex-Host [Ex]

Therapist Alter [TA]

Motherly Alter [MA]

Caregiver [CG]

Protector [PRO]

[P] has been known for having violent thoughts, puppy guarding [Ex], and even going so far as to harm [TA] after he tried to separate [P] and [Ex].

[P]’s got multiple sources, one being [MA]’s source son and another being the old friend of a [CG].

We admittedly put [P] into dormancy once before, but he recently was triggered out. He was found in front by [MA] and was immediately coddled and protected. [P] apparently sobbed to her that he didn’t want to go back into dormancy. The two were eventually found by [CG].

[MA] was unintentionally/somehow switched out, leaving [CG] and [P] alone together. [P] continued to cry that he didn’t want to be taken away, referring to [CG] by his nickname that only close friends ever called him. [CG], understandably stressed, regressed to a younger state; a state in which he and [P] used to be friends at. [P] then also regressed, begging [CG] to not let anyone force him into dormancy, swearing he wouldn’t hurt anyone again, begging that the rest of us do anything except force him into dormancy.

[PRO] eventually found her way to front and forcefully separated [P] and [CG], threatening to “knock [CG] out and drag him out of front”. This didn’t bode well, as the minute she did, [P] went absolutely ballistic on her. [P] then immediately checked on [CG] before leaving front and getting away before anyone could do anything to him.

Our friends insist [MA] and [CG] were being manipulated and used through their attachments to [P]’s sources. To me, [P] sounded genuinely afraid, though.

I just. Fuck. I can’t fucking tell. I’m exhausted.

I don’t know what to do.

#this feels like an R/amitheasshole #and i wouldnt be upset if this was compared to such #sysblr #system advice #plural system #plurality #pluralgang #plural community #alter vent #forced dormancy #persecutor #persecutor alter #system persecutor #system help

[thetoytroupe]

One of our parts almost ALWAYS fronts whenever we're in loud, crowded, or otherwise overwhelming environments.

The problem? They're agoraphobic, and a symptom holder of many of our disorders which make us more vulnerable to public harassment.

We can't control switches. We've tried, it doesn't work. Until we're able to do that (if we ever even get there), what's something we can do in the meantime? Right now we're too scared to leave the house at all because it takes DAYS for us to recover from these switches.

#actually plural #osddid #plurality #system blogging #pdid #osdd #osdd-1 #did #agoraphobia #system help #system advice #traumagenic system

[sysciety]

I still deal with a lot of denial and I think one of the things that calms it down is the idea that regardless of whether or not I have a CDD whatever's going on with me is still worth treating

#something something the symptoms matter more than the label #system advice #i guess? #dissociative identity disorder #osdd 1 #cdd system #system stuff #actually dissociative #actually traumagenic

[lefluoritesys]

Question for systems: we recently met a baby (newly discovered) system who is going through a dilemma. Their gatekeeper also happens to be a persecutor, and they are acting very hostile towards their host. They are not letting anyone other than their host front, worsen their (host's) breakdowns, scare them (host), and make them (host) spiral. They have never fronted before, and, according to that system, they may be an introject of that system's trauma source, since they (gatekeeper) seem to have a vendetta against their current and previous host.

So asking all of you: what would you do or suggest in this situation?

-co-host & persecutor-caretaker

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[yourlocalabstraction]

Update on tap lore. Kinda wanna get this off my chest

So uh. Long story short. We maaaay be a system??? Ive been questioning it all month with the guidance of my friends. Tbh im really doubting this and im CERTAIN im just over exaggerating/making this all up but. By the way ive been acting everyone in that group is very certain we’re plural. So ive been just seeing what happens with time and. Even though it seems real at times, deep down i know im just gaslighting myself

as of recent weve been calling ourselves a systemn’t because not only is it comical, but it feels right because i really fuckin doubt im a genuine system

Also the name “.MIDIsystem” for us. If you were curious

I have no idea why i am sharing all this with my tumblr following. Maybe im just desperate for advice???? Or i just refuse to accept im attention seeking????? GrgrgrgrrarsraaaHHHHH

OH AND VERY OFF TOPIC BUT as i was typing this, i got the email saying the darrell pins have shipped! Wahoo!!!!!

Yeah. Merry crimmas eve tap nation :D

#psa #vent #system stuff #plural advice #system advice

[side-effect-alien]

I'm not exactly sure what kind of headmate I am...? Because I do have a source, but I'm not an actual character in the source if that makes sense?

Like for example, Leo is a fictive from 2012 TMNT. I split off of him so I still feel very connected to the same source and my identity is pretty much centered around it. I present myself as species from the source and etc. But I'm not any existing character from it

So I'm just not sure if I count as a fictive or not since I'm not really based on a character, but rather the world they live in

Sorry if this sounds silly I'm still new to this and am trying to learn

#I dunno if that would still count as being a fictive/introject.....? #I've heard of fuzztives. Maybe that's it..? #system stuff #sysblr #plural #plurality #multiplicity #headmate #alter #fictive #introject #system advice #new alter #new headmate #identity journey #dissociative system #dissociative disorder

[pluralcultureis]

Plural culture is how do you separate from source ☠️ h e l p?

-Fullmetal

Ah yikes, don't have advice for ya there buddy but maybe someone else might in the replies

#endos dni #osdd #pdid #did #did system #pdid system #osddid #actually did #traumagenic #actually dissociative #plural culture is #source trauma #source death #system advice

[ssaw2004]

Do any other systems feel really weird living with their “family”(I’m not sure how to phrase it but basically like your bodies family kinda thing??) because to us it feels like living with complete strangers sometimes if fronting is really blurry. But if it’s not we are always stuck in a weird place of “yeah that’s technically our family but also, not really? They also are 95% the reason we are a system” so a lot of us don’t know what or how to handle the relationship? If anyone has advice pleaseee give it /lh :)

#systems interact #system advice #polyfragmented #polyfrag system #system struggles #did stuff #sys stuff #endos dni