#social pressures

[femmilingus]

Do I Belong To You?

I was socialised as a girl; that soft, meek thing who unleashed sin on the world. Soft in body, soft in mind. I was raised to pander, placate, please. When introduced to strangers, I was taught to smile – even though they had done nothing to earn it. This set a dangerous precedent. Just as strangers were bestowed access to my facial expressions, they would perceive access to my body. Long before…

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#anxiety #gender equality #healing #intersectional feminism #mental health #nonbinary #POC #queer #self care #self love #social pressures #therapy #trauma

[astraltrickster]

ngl I'm not a fan of how the very necessary discussion of how autistic girls (and many poc for that matter, not that we usually remember this) often end up masking hard due to the pressure to "be ladylike" or "not be too angry" and therefore end up being seen as "very polite" and "mature for your age" and so on and so forth is morphing into being less about how social pressures may impact how autism presents and more about saying "so there's Girl Autism and there's Boy Autism and Girl Autism makes you nice and polite and pleasant but Boy Autism makes you gross and annoying and rude and offputting and no it's not ableist at all to say that being overly excitable or trying to get a turn to talk when you don't know when your turn is or struggling with arbitrary rules is rude and annoying because Girl Autism exists uwu"

#disability #actually autistic #serious tag #internet culture #especially because these are FAR from being hard and fast rules #i had Boy Autism despite being raised fully expected to be a girl #and no i do not find it remotely affirming to be called all the horrible things they said i was But In An Affirming Way This Time #knowing more of the different ways that different combinations of autistic traits and social pressures can present #is good for preventing people from slipping through the cracks #we don't need to be breaking open NEW cracks by assigning certain presentations to certain genders

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[stuckinapril]

I love Tumblr because nothing matters here truly. There are no influencers. Having followers doesn’t mean anything. It’s just a site where people post their sporadic thoughts and rb pretty pictures. Anyone who thinks any of this matters is woefully missing the point

#I joined tumblr for the aesthetics and now I’m here bc it’s the most low pressure social media to be on #Instagram is ppl’s highlight reel but Tumblr is where u see their pure thoughts unobstructed and I adore that #It’s very nice to have people to relate to and is def the main appeal to me but I don’t think there’s much more to it than that genuinely #Monetization on tumblr isn’t a thing and probably won’t be so it feels stupid to put more stake than necessary in it. Like you’re in the #Trenches over tumblr of all things. Embarrassing #I know chronically online people exist bc I have seen them in my or somebody else’s inbox but imagine waking up at 70 one day and the #Realization hitting u like a freight time that u wasted all ur time thinking tumblr. TUMBLR. This dying website. Has enough weight for u to #be sending anon hate or reviewing ppl’s blogs like they’re some kind of product. Brother this is licherally tumblr #I choose to laugh at this behavior than take it seriously bc absolutely no one is driving me crazy on my OWN blog. On tumblr dot com. #I refuse #I will do whatever I want forever etc

[nova-rpv]

a bunch of doodles to make up for my wips 👍

and dont forget your daily clicks!!

#i think ill take a break from social media in general so uhh goodbye?? #its just that my following feels so undeserved. i want to fall in love w making art again without the pressure of an audience #hope yall are bearing better than me <3<33<3 #sth #sonic fanart #sonic #sonic the hedgehog #shadow the hedgehog #sonic the werehog #sonadow #nov.aart #nov.oodles

[positivelyadhd]

i have been reading through the diary I kept from ages 14-17 and realising how helpful it can be to keep a record of how you're feeling at different moments.

not only is it helpful to write down and process how your feeling and give yourself time to truly think about it, it's nice to have something to look back on. to not just remember how you felt about a certain situation but to actually have yourself from that time tell you.

and also, from an adhd perspective, it's really lovely to have reminders of things I'd almost entirely forgotten. it's easy to think that your life right now isn't interesting, but in 5 years time? to know what songs you were listening to or book you were reading or even that Thing that you were so worried about but now you can't even remember the details. it's nice to have a physical reminder that time passes and things really can get better.

#i think part of whats makes it so special to me is that (like it is for a lot of people) those ages where so *much* #and i was so stuck in my head and socially anxious and i feel like those years of school rly shaped who i am now ect #but id kind of forgotten? its become a blur emotions over time and its nice to see it clearer #but also how i changed? and to read into it and see what i did or didn't write #im also a big fan of the inner child and doing things for your younger self and its a lovely gift to have her speaking to me directly #also if you want to journal i highly recommend doing it in a normal notebook rather than a pre planned one #it gives you the freedom for it to be whatever you want with none of the pressure #recovery #tips

[black-rose-writings]

My mom, after spending an extended weekend with my dad's old college classmates and their families: It's so weird that all of these very weird, intelligent and structured men who got their masters in engineering in the late 1980s have sons that are all autistic and daughters who all have mood disorders.

Me: Yeah, very weird. Why could that be?

#autism #depression #something tells me the daughters are also autistic #I mean I know I am #our brothers just got diagnosed in elementary school and got help and accomodations #while we were labeled gifted and got no help at all #just more responsibilities and pressure #until we burned out at the ripe old age of 16 #and were now feeling as failures and disappointments to our parents on top of everything else #while also being the first generation to grow up with social media #idk that may just be me

[hadesoftheladies]

making fun of girls and women because they are virgins is coercive, btw :)

#radblr #making fun of women and girls for being virgins is social pressure #you are literally pressuring them to have sex in a place or time where they do not want to

[canisalbus]

To me, Machete kind of has the energy of a secondary villain/coldhearted side character in someone else's story that a lot of fans latch onto, moreso than the protagonist. Question is, would he be the villain in anyone's story?

Why, thank you! I'm actually glad to hear he gives off that vibe. I don't think he set out to become a villain but a lot of people certainly view him as one.

#in the 16th century canon he starts out as an introverted but sincerely well meaning guy that never quite manages to find his social niche #he was a sensitive kid and when subjected to enough pressure #his insecurity fearfulness and powerlessness mutate into distrust resentment aggression suffocating repression and self-restraint #I don't think he's a bad person in fact he consistently tries very hard to do the right thing #do his job properly avoid letting people down and get through life with a sense of dignity #but he is supposed to come across kind of cold impersonable and difficult to be around if you don't know him personally (and very few do) #people can sense there's something wrong with him and are put off by it #Vatican is a nest of vipers and as the stakes rise he retreats deeper into his coldblooded untouchable work persona #he has no choice but to start lying scheming blackmailing and eliminating his enemies #in order to maintain his position keep Vasco safe their relationship under wraps and his own head above water #essentially playing by the same rules everyone else in the holy see has been playing with for centuries #eventually he loses his spot as the secretary of state and is manipulated/forced to take on a role in the roman inquisition #and if people were sort of iffy about him before being the authority overseeing trials torture excommunications and executions doesn't help #and since he has so few allies and such an infamous reputation he's an easy target for scapegoating whenever necessary #towards the end it dawns on him that he's become the kind of twisted cruel corrupt person he used to fear and despise #and the guilt moral injury and abject self-loathing had largely sapped him of his will to live by the time the final assassin gets him #answered #anonymous #Machete #Vaschete lore #he thought his dream of priesthood would make him a better person more worthy of admiration safety and love but he climbed too high #and got roped up in the dangerous games that take place under god's nose and slowly got strangled to death

[sleepsucks]

#01.02.23 #3251 #negativity #SORRY. SORRY #pressure to participate in the big popular social media art challenges is bullshit ! don't feel bad about it !!! #real do as i say not as i do moment bc well it's february 1st tomorrow again and. idk yet if i'll manage to go for it and all but #yknow. #ma

[apoetsworld]

Minutes. Seconds. After watching the Barbie Movie.

Sirius: IM A BARBIE GIRL, IN A BARBIE WORRRLDD

James: LIFE IN PLASTIC, ITS FANTASTIC

Pete: YOU CAN BRUSH MY HAIR

Remus: UNDRESS ME EVERYWHEREE

Sirius, James, Peter and Remus: IMAGINATION, LIFE IS YOUR CREATION

#and yes i did watch the barbie movie #it was great and had amazing social commentary on how women feel pressured to be some glamorized version of themselves #however #i also full well believe that the marauders would understand that message while also enjoying the movie to its full extent #that being #the soundtrack of the credits #incorrect marauders quotes #incorrect harry potter quotes #incorrect hp quotes #james potter #marauders #wolfstar #harry potter #remus lupin #hp marauders #marauders era #the marauders era #the marauders #regulus arcturus black #remus john lupin #james fleamont potter #sirius lupin #sirius orion black #remus x sirius #sirius x remus #james potter fluff #moony padfoot and prongs #moony and padfoot #prongs and padfoot #moony wormtail padfoot and prongs

[charl3ss]

To be clear, this is not me trying to be a bitch nor am I pointing fingers, but I just think that the cognitive dissonance required to say “wow it’s so sad that young girls these days are asking for face creams and anti-aging materials for Christmas 💔 we’re failing our daughters” and then immediately go “actually wearing a full face of makeup is empowering and a feminist choice because I’m a woman making the choice ☺️” while refusing to admit—or care—that as a class our actions do affect other women/don’t exist in an echo chamber is alarming, to say the least.

#to be clear I UNDERSTAND the societal pressures okay I get it #and I’m not attacking anyone #I’m just saying what I’ve seen on social media and in real life #betsey rambles #feminism

[em0-opossum]

no but can you imagine being frank iero right now. he can literally do anything and suddenly a stampede of mcr5 truthers are knocking down his door reciting their encyclopedic knowledge of every thing he has ever said and done leading to this moment and why it means mcr5 is happening. he probably doesn't even remember any of that shit. this becomes 1,000x funnier if mcr5 is actually happening because gerard would be like "frank c'mon not again we promised to keep it secret" and frank is over here like "motherfucker I'm not even TRYING"

#this works for any member of mcr technically but frank is the only one who's really active on social media so all the pressure is on him #i mean mikey too but i think he's more of a #dad life #had such a great time at this venue! #type of person whereas frank is. well he's something. #but idk I rarely use social media #frank iero #gerard way #mcr #mcr5 #my chemical romance

[pianokantzart]

I don't think we talk often enough about Princess "Commissioned A Giant Golden Statue Of Her And Luigi Dancing Together" Daisy and Princess "Has A Giant Topiary Of Mario's Face In The Center Of Her Garden" Peach smugly side-eying each other while being equally incapable of clearly expressing their feelings to their respective crush

#The ''doesn't want to pressure him due to their difference in social status'' princess and the ''she's waaaay out my league'' plumber #Everybody in the Mario universe is a disaster at romance #mareach #luaisy #mario headcanons

[puppyeared]

some sort of creature

#i finally figured out how to adjust brush pressure sensitivity so im trying to get a feel for it to see if i like it #theyre very shy.. burrows into the ground to escape social interactions which honestly i wish i could do too #now that i think about it i have a soft spot for shy characters but like not in a uwaaahhh >m< way. like they become the most sopping wet #creature alive if u ask them to make a phone call. they will look at u so betrayed if u asked them to talk to the mcdonalds cashier etc etc #i havent read chainsaw man but i feel like im describing kobeni based on what ive seen of her and i have to agree #moles are also like this because ummm. because they live in the dirt and dont talk to anyone and have shitty eye sight like me #my art #myart #doodles #sona #fursona #mulch #fur #furry art