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i think its so funny that alumni from schools like harvard and columbia that were there during the protests in the 60s-80s are expressing support for students currently protesting against the genocide in palestine, and random zionists that were NOT at these protests in the 60s-80s have the never ending audacity to tell these alumni "well thats different, what you protested was good and what they're protesting is bad." as if protesters against the vietnam war and apartheid south africa were not also demonized, arrested, brutalized, and even killed for their activism. history only remembers them fondly after the damage has already been done.

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People have a problem with “hairy, man-hating lesbians” yet no one seems to have a problem with hairy, woman-hating straight guys, why is this

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Girlhood Is Surveillance

In the imaginations of most men, oppressive policing is done by a military force or officers of a district. Men are deployed, with weapons and uniform, to enforce the will of the state. They use violent means (or the threat of violence) to intimidate. Certain words are banned by the government and uttering them risks being locked up, done away with, killed.

Yet, the most powerful, pervasive, and far-reaching form of surveillance is the reality for most girls.

Oppressed groups typically go through more surveillance than the oppressing class. They are viewed with more suspicion, afforded less allowances, and must work harder to prove themselves worthy of basic rights. The government is aggressively involved. They mandate what schools can teach, what media houses can publish, what public speakers can say.

For girls, surveillance starts before they can walk. This kind of surveillance is an extension of the surveillance her mother endures from her peers. She is dressed appropriately in pink, in bonnets, in frills and baby bows. By the time she is five, she is policed by her closest relatives. She may or may not be allowed to run shirtless like her brothers. Especially when her uncles are there. She must not wear nail polish or she must play with makeup. She must wear tutus and dresses.

This also happens to boys, but in a much different way. The reason I describe girlhood specifically as surveillance is because in a patriarchal, pornified world, the boy's body is neutral, that is, not provocative. Not insulting.

The female body, on the other hand, is semiotically significant. It is a symbol of sex, of desire, of lust (at least as a man experiences it) and thus is wicked, crude, and crass. The girl is surveilled because on the streets, in the home, by anyone who looks at her, who she is is interpreted to be provocative. In other words, her femaleness, naked or evident, is hate speech. Or impolite language. Language that polite society cannot be seen to be having. Her shoulders, knees, hands, thighs, breasts, are pornography.

This is just a fraction of the surveillance of girlhood.

As she grows up, she learns there are ways she must sit, things she must not know, things she must not say, and things she must wear. Her mother (and sometimes father) are the chief police on these things. They watch her, check her before going out, frisk her to make sure the skirt is not rising above her knees, the hijab is in place, etcetera.

On the streets, the girl learns, that she is also being watched by others. Men whistle at her as she walks to primary school. She learns how easy it is to be shamed as a girl. By teachers, strangers on the road, girls in school, boys at the playground. For having hairy legs, a crooked (normal) nose, a bare face, a face that isn't bare, too much height, too big boobs, too small boobs, thin lips or full lips, a flat butt, a butt that shows, etcetera.

She censors her womanhood when it comes. For if her brothers or father see her blood in the toilet, that is her body once again being provocative. Perhaps she becomes aware as a teenager, of the inequality and injustice. If she speaks out, she will be met with a host of police ready to put a stop to it. Her best friend will say, "Some women like looking beautiful. It is not a crime to want to be beautiful. You are judging me." Her mother will say, "Girls libidos don't matter. Sex is not for girls to enjoy, but for men." Her father will say, "Don't worry your pretty little head about things you don't understand." They will all dismiss, all shame, all hush her. They will call her ungrateful, a lesbian (which means social outcast, unnatural, inhuman, wrong), a radical, or a child throwing a tantrum. All of which are threats, whether or not they recognize them as such.

This policing system does not need the use of officers or the military much because the narrative is in society's consciousness. The people will police deviants themselves after the government tells them what the deviants look like and gives them the stakes of noncompliance. This kind of surveillance is also older than the government, if not as old as it is. It's oldness makes it that much more difficult to notice and resist.

The people who love you become the police. They will snitch on you to their peers if you do not conform. Your mother will tell your aunts and grandmother. Your father will joke about you with your brothers. Your sister will tell on you to the popular girls. And these are not the worst kind. Most girls, like every other animal, every other human being, will go the route with the most ease and the best chance at survival.

They will conform. They will cross their legs. Do their hair according to their age. Paint or not paint their nails. Wear the hijab. Wear skirts that go over the knee. Wear the pink. Curl their hair. Smear the lipstick, eyeliner, mascara. Put the powder and glitter on themselves. Wear the heels and stockings. Kiss the boy, etcetera.

And now, because they've been told how closely they're being watched, for their looks, whether their clothes are appropriate or not, whether their mothers are happy or not, whether their brothers feel threatened or disgusted by their pads or their tomboyishness or not, whether they are excelling too much in sports or academia or too little, whether they are smart or not, whether they are fat or not, whether they are acceptable or provocative or not . . . it becomes of paramount importance that they surveil themselves. Because they are in a hypervigilant state. They are in survival mode.

Girls are their own self-police. Harsh on every angle and feature. Because they have been told that people pay special attention to them everywhere they go. And to some degree, this is true. Everyone is easily insulted by femaleness, because femaleness is provocative. Please note, not femininity, femaleness. Femininity is camouflage because it signals conformity. Agreeing with the narrative that insists that the female body is the symbol for sex or motherhood. That the female body is pornography. The women that flaunt their bodies and say, "I am sexy and want you to know it!" are conforming. The women that hide their bodies and duck their heads to show meekness toward their God are conforming. None of them challenge the assertion that the female body is by-default provocative, an invitation to sex, shameful.

Now, surveillance has expanded. You see girls tilting their heads in one direction on their cameras because they believe this is their best side. They all have makeup or makeup filters. That thin their faces and enlarge their eyes. That make their lips a little fuller. They gag themselves and retch up nutrients and food in order to keep themselves safe. Obsessed with beauty and meekness because it is their livelihood. What secures them in society.

And yet . . . does it? Little girls are killed for a little hair showing from beneath their headscarf. Young women are murdered by the men whose advances were rejected. Toddlers are whistled at by grown men on the street. Teenage girls are the sex symbol of the generations in TV shows, movies, music videos. Mothers starve their girls, physically and emotionally abuse their girls, to keep them compliant. Girls have burn marks, scars, wounds from conformity. They have blistered feet and bra lines burned into their ribcage.

The government is not inactive, either. It does not punish femicides. It mandates forced birth. It regulates population by regulating the human female, rather than the male that has been left to run amock. Who starts these pregnancies and is responsible for any statistic for violence in the general population. It ensures that women need men to survive the economy. It ensures that women are successfully sold and bought for the economy. The pimps need their money, after all. And the president needs the pimps. The oligarchs need their workers, too. Workers need mothers to create them and wives to sustain them. Girlhood is the governments business.

A girl will blame herself for how her boyfriend treats her, for being raped. She will then, instead of looking at the world, at the perpetrator, will police herself and other girls around her even more aggressively. Violently.

Surveillance is most powerful when privacy is destroyed and the person made into a data point to be exploited. Girls do not have privacy, for their private parts are taboo discussions in public life. They are offensive discourse and so must be suppressed and regulated.

Girlhood is living under the most extreme and powerful form of surveillance, where everyone is the girl-police, including the girl herself.

#radblr #girlhood #radical feminism #reblog #anniversary reblog

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That white boy is NOT attractive

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Y’know it’s great people (esp. women) are becoming more critical of the transgender community and the misogynistic, pseudo-scientific bullshit they spew… that being said if you think that every single trans man experiences dysphoria solely because of what it means to be female in our society, and that every trans person can just “opt out” of this feeling by embracing their sex and that their dysphoria will eventually dissolve into thin air somehow… Just know that I don’t agree and you might want to do some more research lol

#fr #gender dysphoria is a serious condition

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you know, i'd be more willing to consider your point of view if you didn't champion a diaperfur pedophile as your mouthpiece. yeah. it's extremely difficult to take you seriously when you try to change my mind with wall of text comics feat. a pedophile's 8-year-old-girlsona.

#this is me with every queer theorist like im not about to hear you out lol #but also every other transwoman #you endorse alok and hunter and andrea and contra and jesse #you have lost all fucking moral and intellectual credibility #bro you consider judith butler savant please go read an actual book #queer theory #lgbt #twaw

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being an unapologetic misandrist is so freeing I love that I no longer waste energy gaslighting myself into thinking men deserve anything from me. now I get to post stuff like "under my regime all xys would be rounded up & sent to uninhabited islands that used to be penal colonies/gulags in soviet era siberia, armed with nothing but basic items required to start their own community (seeds, fire making tools, etc) & we can take bets on how long it'll take for them to eradicate themselves like their evolutionary equals (the chimpanzees) do when there are no females around". and all the other based women press the heart button & tell me I should be the supreme leader under the NWO or pitch it as a reality show

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men will say some shit like: haha if we were alone i'd rape you and no one would ever believe you

then when ur rightfully like ??????

theyre like LOOOOL CALM DOWNNN ITS A JOKEEEEEE RELAX LIBERALS ITS CALLED DARK HUMOR

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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The switch from the Paris Hilton era of beauty standards to the kardashian era of beauty standards gave me whiplash. It’s so fucked up that the expectations for women’s bodies change like clothing trends, but men have literally always had the same beauty standards basically. When I was 13, women were supposed to be stick thin and have no hips, and two years later we were supposed to be “slim thick” and it literally changes like every ten years. It’s an impossible game - if you were super hot in 2006, then it was physiologically impossibly for you to be super hot in 2016 because it required different fucking bone structure. All men are ever required to do to meet current beauty standards is be kinda tall (but wasn’t Tom cruise the “sexiest man alive” at one point?) and be in shape. Always. That’s it. A man who was considered hot a thousand years ago would still be hot! But women are supposed to radically change ourselves every decade, if we want to be beautiful. Fuck that.

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“If u don’t support women wanting to be trad wife SAHMs with 9 children if that’s what they truly want then u aren’t a real feminist” ok guess I’m not a feminist then! I will never fucking endorse that actually!

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good luck, babe! - chappell roan

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On the left we have the lyrics from Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines. On the right we have rape survivors participating in Project Unbreakable, showing the various things that were said to them by their rapist.

From the Mouths of Rapists: The Lyrics to Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines

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I'm in awe of how we ran historical revisionism on the civil rights movement so bad that people truly believe it was quiet self-sacrifcial non-disruptive christ-like activism that forced progress and not — like — the incredible economic pressure of boycotts and outbreaks of illegal civil disobedience

Yapping to the choir but eughhh it burns me up girl effective protests have to be loud and inconvenient for change to happen because silent cries die in the dark that's the entire pointtt

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white people stop comparing any of your issues to black people's challenge. i can't take it anymore. i know people who have died from police brutality. my father was falsely imprisoned and almost killed in prison for being black; the navy told my grandmother he died, meanwhile they're torturing him in solitary confinement. the only black male in his battalion and it was all over being accused of stealing a pen. i've been frisked for weapons and drugs during routine traffic stops and i don't pass a paper bag test. our oppression and the violence we experience is not a game or a joke