#positive attention

[furiousgoldfish]

abused kids getting positive attention for the first time:

Don't know what's happening right now. Complete confusion.

if I ignore this for long enough it will go away

I will not fall for this

I don't know with what intention this is being done but I don't trust it and I will defy it

aggression and hostility

it's too late for this I needed attention years ago, take it back where it came from

attention I've heard of this. never seen it in person

what the hell do I do. how do I react. What is EXPECTED OF ME

someone is interested in giving attention to me? what does this mean?

I'm going to take this in and then I need to forget it ever happened because this is the only time I will get attention ever. I need to remember how this feels for forever.

This is probably a mistake, and this person is just doing this by accident. I just need to wait until they figure out I'm not worthy any of their attention.

I need to take this attention. I can't have it stop. I will do anything to keep this going. Please don't get bored of me. I will change anything to not be boring.

My entire life is now focusing on this moment right here and how do I have more of it.

What if it's my fault when this person stops liking me? What if I say the wrong thing and they hate me? What do I do to not chase this away?

I will go out of my way to do things that will ensure I get more attention. No matter what it is.

I can't go back to my old life, being neglected and ignored and feeling like I don't exist. I now know how attention feels, I can't lose this.

If I lose this attention I will go absolutely rabid.

I felt like a person today. I wonder if I'll ever feel this again.

This person who gave me attention must be special, nobody else has ever seen anything good in me. I'm going to latch onto them like I've never latched to anything ever before.

Is it possible I could be special to this person? That I'm not all bad? That I could be good as long as I keep doing whatever got me here?

I don't think I can repay this attention. I don't know how to make it up. It meant the world to me. I want to do anything to make it worth it.

I'm scared if I keep getting this attention I will bond to this person, and then they'll be able to do anything to me. I'm scared I'll become attached and then they'll get sick of me and abandon me. I don't feel safe receiving more because it puts me in a dangerous position. I should end this but I can't.

#neglect #child abuse #emotional abandonment #positive attention #vulnerability to predators #hijacked instincts #not knowing how to deal with attention #fearing attention #fearing bonding #craving attention but also fearing what will happen once you lose it #abuse #abusive parents #aftermath of child abuse #neglect symptoms #emotional abandonment symptoms

[quotecollector14]

Having someone express care for or attraction toward us can be enormously triggering when we've been conditioned to believe we're not worthy of positive attention--or that "positive" attention is just a setup to take advantage of us. Easy does it. Slow things down inside.

--Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle

#Glenn Patrick Doyle #care #attraction #trigger #positive attention #take advantage #unworthy #slow

[ichverdurstehier]

i crave validation and positive attention

#give me attention #Positive attention #attention seeking #pay attention to me 🥺 #i want attention

[captainpirateface]

#positive attention #positive quotes #positive quote #positive vibe #positive vibes #positivity #inspiring quotes #quoteoftheday #relatable quotes #poems and quotes #quotes #captainpirateface #bipolardepression #chemicalimbalance #wtf #CaptainPirateFaceLovesYou #captain pirateface #sights and sounds of tumblr #we have such sights to show you #sights and sounds #scary sights #beautiful sights #lake erie #Sturgeon Point #buffalo new york #buffalo #lol memes #sorry lol #lololol

[aq2003]

the way hamlet acts in act 5 scene 1 juuuust clicked to me. like my impression was "smh my head he is so toxic, he did NOT love ophelia as much as laertes did, what is wrong with him" but actually i think the thing that sets him off isn't just laertes' display of grief, it's also how everyone takes it seriously. everyone treats ophelia's funeral like a funeral and is sympathetic to laertes and understanding of his desire to jump in a grave with her etc but these same people around hamlet expected him to celebrate his uncle's coronation and move on from his father's death at the same time. in that moment hamlet sees laertes as similar to the actor narrating priam's death in act 2 scene 2 and it makes him SO mad (and he regrets it later in act 5 scene 2 which is after he realizes laertes' emotions are as real as his own. probably why he calls him "brother" as well)

#i think he did care for ophelia but certainly not 40k times the amount laertes did sorry bro i dont believe that #hamlet #all my hamlet thoughts revolve around how hamlet is perceived by the people around him and how that affects him #hamlet living his life like someone on a stage and the ppl around him being his audience that isn't really paying attention #and like. ophelia being in this EXACT same position but so much worse. bc she's a woman in the 17th century

[birdmomblogs]

as soon as i saw @carrotsnake’s post (go like it!!), i had to draw this as fast as i could ❤️

#we do not pay attention to the yiga’s leg wraps changing positions between panels #🌀 🌀 🌀 you do not care how rough the art is 🌀 🌀 🌀 #🌀ohhowwwooooo #glory to master kohga #tears of the kingdom #totk #totk spoilers #as in enemy spoilers i guess? #totk link #yiga clan #totk yiga #yiga blademaster #totk art #totk meme #legend of zelda #loz #loz art #birdmom doodles

[allthebestscreennamesaregone63]

Ok, so my blog is for ME, yadda yadda blah blah

But consider:

I crave positive attention.

#mine #my blog #i need validation #positive attention #girl help im making another shitpost

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

christ sometimes I just wanna. steal a time machine & go back & sit down next to my 9-year-old self and just like. let them pull out their pokemon card binder & gush about their holographic gyarados or whatever. I'd just smile & ask questions about motherfukcing bulbasaur & tell my kid self that I thought they were a neat person, & someday they'd find other people who thought so too.

like i'm a grown adult who honestly finds most kids stuff boring, but. damn if i could go back & hang out with my baby self & listen to them ramble...just so they knew someone was listening. i would in a heartbeat. thinking about u kid

#wouldn't roll my eyes or check my phone or get bored or nothing #I'd just listen to that little dork & smile & encourage them & let them explain how their favorite gameboy games worked #i was the kind of kid my adult self would find annoying & uninteresting but like #most of the actual adults in my childhood felt that way too. including my dang parents. #and ya know sometimes they showed it. a lot of times without realizing it. and that messes a kid up #if you don't make an effort kids WILL recognize your disinterest and lack of attention. #kids deserve to have caregivers who show interest and engagement #even when it's over stuff that adults find boring. especially then maybe #your kid doesn't have to be fun or interesting or easy or well behaved to deserve positive attention #they deserve positive attention because they are YOUR KID #if love is unconditional then DISPLAYS of LOVE and AFFECTION must also be unconditional #not something that must be earned #telling your kid that you love them is not enough. that is step one out of like a thousand #if you just tell your kid you love them but you don't demonstrate affection and interest and patience and warmth and etcetera #your kid isn't gonna feel loved! I Love You will just become a trite phrase that they regard with mistrust! #bitch you gotta FOLLOW THROUGH

[proneterror204]

When Pariah Dark was alive he was a kyptonian warlord. In kryptonian history it is known that in medieval kypton there was a king so mad with power that he burned all the temples, declared war on the gods, and seduced a young chronomancer to bend time in his favor. It is recorded that the kryptonian god of death, dan-el, struck him down for his crimes and arrogance and threw his soul into the unknown to suffer eternal undeath.

#dpxdc #dp x dc #danny phantom #dc x dp #dcxdp #dp x dc prompt #pariah dark #pariah x clockwork #danny is the kryptonian god of death #blame clockwork and his bullshit #danny has no idea #but he likes the positive attention #pariah dark was a kryptonian warlord #time travel bullshit #danny uses this to hit on supergirl or powergirl or wondergirl

[lorephobic]

“the class commentary in saltburn was shit” WHAT CLASS COMMENTARY???? NOT EVERY MOVIE WITH RICH PEOPLE HAS TO OR SHOULD HAVE CLASS COMMENTARY. EMERALD FENNELL KNOWS VERY WELL THAT SHE IS NOT THE RIGHT DIRECTOR FOR A MOVIE ABOUT CLASS COMMENTARY WHICH IS WHY SHE DID NOT WRITE A MOVIE ABOUT CLASS COMMENTARY.

#saltburn posting #saltburn #begging everyone who is complaining about the ‘message’ of saltburn to watch ANY interview with emerald #when you see her attention to detail and hear the way she talks about these characters #you will understand that this is a movie about obsession #and the cattons being rich heightens this for sure and pushes oliver into an uncomfortable position #in the exact same way that it pushes farleigh into an uncomfortable position #they will grant you help as long as you don’t ask for it #desires are messy and ugly so it’s better to just not have them #these ideas are absolutely a result of the catton’s wealth and status #but as far as the plot goes #their wealth is just a narrative tool to push these ideas about beauty and obsession #watch the cufflinks scene again and really think about it #think about venetia and what she wanted and farleigh and what he wanted #and all of the desires that are left unspoken at saltburn #and the desire to BE DESIRED #think about all of this and try to tell me that this is a movie about material gain

[hellmandraws]

Not gonna lie, I'm super excited about the upcoming One Piece live action series! It's out Aug 31 on Netflix. I actually think it's gonna be good! 🤞🤞🤞

#reminder that the strike has NOT called for a boycott from viewers! #we want to show that we want more of this show and that Netflix has to pay their writers properly if they want to keep profiting from it #don't forget: the continuation of a popular show is a bargaining chip for the writers #one piece #one piece live action #monkey d. luffy #roronoa zoro #nami #usopp #sanji #when I first heard about the LA years ago I thought they were crazy #manga live actions are never good and OP is basically unfilmable #but when the strawhat cast was revealed I sat up straight and started paying attention #they were all spot on! absolutely unheard of in a live action! #and everything I've seen and heard about it since has just seemed so promising #early reviews are starting to come out and they're all positive #guys I think they did it #I think... Netflix actually made a good live action adaptation?? #and of OP of all thing?!?! #(I won't be able to watch it until Sunday though so I'm gonna have to stay off the internet completely to avoid spoilers! TAT)

[unitedstates0fdakota]

Reddit gets a lot of shit (and rightfully so) but going on the disco elysium subreddit and looking at HarryKim stuff has been the funniest shit like

Oh and this fuckin post

Shoutout to the Reddit HarryKim truthers love u guys

#disco elysium #harrykim #replying to someone with a picture of ur ship kissing is hysterical #counterpoint: Yaoi #Reddit usually hates ships #so it was fun to see those posts actually getting a lot of positive attention #also makes it hysterical when people come in and argue #have you played disco elysium? was such a takedown #ramblings #my bad yall

[smt-stupid]

50 shades of attention

#me #i need it #the attention #50 shades of it #50 shades of attention #borderline #bpd #bpd thoughts #positive attention #negative attention #things my cat thinks #cat #spacetool

[fella-lovin-fella]

hey if you ever feel like you're faking your pain/mental illness/any symptoms, or if you feel like no one understands or believes you. i do. i believe you. i love you and i hope you do what you can to take care of yourself <3

#i spent so so much of my life in pain or sick #and being told i was faking it #or being dramatic #or just acting out for attention #and it's crushing #but being around people who genuinely care about me #and them BELIEVING me #it's such a foreign feeling #but it's life saving #i believe you #thank you for believing me #mental health #mental health awareness #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #chronically ill #mental health positivity #positivity #not mlm #dantes talking again

[captainpirateface]

#captainpirateface #bipolardepression #chemicalimbalance #wtf #poetry #poems #poem #poetrycommunity #poetryofinstagram #sighthsandsoundsofinstagram #CaptainPirateFaceLovesYou #captain pirateface #I love you #positive attention #positive #I'm here #I'm here for you #poetry of tumblr #my poetry #new poets society #original poets on tumblr #poetry community #poetry blog #poets corner #poets of tumblr #poets on tumblr #poetsandwriters #tumblr poets #spilled poetry

[shimmershy]

Buttercups and Golden Flowers

#i drew this mostly because i noticed that a lot of people mistake buttercups and golden flowers as being the same thing. #so i wanted to try drawing them like. distinctly different in the same image. #it's not a big thing but i do think the fact that they're different has some significance. or at least like. symbolic meaning. #my art #undertale #chara #chara dreemurr #safeutdr #something about the fact that they both look similar at least in color but one of them is poisonous. #the way golden flowers are clearly a positive symbol throughout the game and clearly heavily associated with Chara. #contrasted with the very negative connotations buttercups have. with asgore getting sick and chara using them in their plan. #you never see buttercups in the game. which makes it even easier to mistake the two. because we've only seen one kind of #golden/yellow flower. who's to say 'golden flowers' aren't just referring to buttercups? well. #why would there be golden flower tea if they were poisonous? why would chara want to see the golden flowers from their village if they're #the same kind of flower? they clearly have buttercups in the underground. #it feels almost intentional the way golden flowers are so easily mistaken for buttercups. or at least that the difference is so subtle. #it goes well with the way they're associated so strongly with chara who's also a very subtle yet important part of the narrative. #from a surface-level perspective the flowers that took their life and the one's they actually like/are important to them are the same thing #but when you pay closer attention to the narrative you can see the different symbolic meanings. #well. uhh I've thought about it too much don't mind me. #see i think about it from the perspective of chara being super adamant about them being two different flowers #and frustrated when anybody gets it wrong. because clearly. CLEARLY they're not the same. #'STOP confusing buttercups and golden flowers. i literally used buttercups to kill myself do you think i would still like them after that?' #'do you think i want to be associated with them? they're not the same!!' #<number one golden flower enjoyer number one buttercup hater. #i need a badge that says 'i have strong opinions about chara dreemurr because i kin them. i apologize for the wall of text' at this rate.