#narcissistic abuse survivor

[doomsdayradio]

actually the rate at which pwNPD are completely dehumanized at every turn is literally sickening. think of any basic human function or desire and i bet you there's a "narc abuse" poster out there who's made it out to be awful and abusive and evil just because a narcissist did it. there are literal articles out there detailing how to manipulate us into crashing and yet we're gaslighted by half the fucking population saying we're the abusive ones because of a personality disorder most of us developed due to being abused ourselves.

#words words words !! #❓ #ableism #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #actually npd #actually narcissistic #narc abuse #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse survivor

[nothing0fnothing]

Survivors of domestic violence: narcissistic abuse is real.

Survivors of childhood violence: narcissistic abuse is real.

Survivors of emotional and psychological abuse: narcissistic abuse is real.

Loved ones of survivors: narcissistic abuse is real.

Therapists specialising in abuse recovery: narcissistic abuse is real.

Experts in abnormal psychology: narcissistic abuse is real.

People with CTPSD: narcissistic abuse is real.

Psychologists studying the effect of long term abuse on the brain: narcissistic abuse is real.

People with diagnosed cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.

Disabled people who are more likely to be abused than abled people: narcissistic abuse is real.

The therapy prescribed to people diagnosed with cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.

Self identified "narcissists" on tumblr: nuh-uh.

#narcissistic abuse #narcissisticgaslighting #narcissism is not npd #narcissistic abuse is not real #narcissistic abuse is real #abnormal psychology #narcissistic abuse awareness #narcissistic abuse survivor #cpstd #narcissistic abuse recovery #abuse recovery

[greenevergreens]

Narcissistic abuse is real, and don't let ANYONE try to convince you that the hell you went through didn't happen and no matter what DO NOT let ANYONE convince you that YOU are in the wrong for talking about the abuse you endured and giving that abuse the appropriate name of narcissistic abuse.

#narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse survivor #narcissistic abuse is real #narcissistic abuse is no joke #narcissism #npd #narcissists die #narcissists are abusers #narc abuse #narc abuse is real #abuse survivior #abuse #tw abuse #emotional abuse #child abusers #narcissists fuck off #narcs fuck off #psychological abuse #mental abuse

[vizthedatum]

I will not excuse abuse or disregard for my feelings/boundaries.

I will not enable my insecure attachment to a person who consistently exhibits this behavior.

I understand that maintaining insecure attachments is not the same as maintaining a relationship.

I will not settle for the veil of safety.

I want real safety.

I want real relationships.

#healing #trauma #neurodivergence #self love #queer #codependent no more #narcissistic abuse recovery #narcissistic trauma #narcissistic parents #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse survivor #prose #codependency #codependency is an addiction #ptsd #c-ptsd #complex trauma #attachments #insecure attachment #secure attachment #no more enabling #love #relationships

[marzivcr]

"I have to go, I'm a big girl now."

The first time I saw this episode I sobbed. Sobbed for my inner child who should have been allowed to grow and explore on her own. Sobbed for teenage me who was called a monster by her own mom. Sobbed for the adult me that is no contact with Dad first, then Mom because she took his side, she chose an abusive husband over her own child. She chose to decay, not grow or thrive or live and took it personally when her child would do those things like she should. Bluey is a wonderful show.

#inner child healing #abuse mention #narcissistic abuse recovery #narcissistic abuse survivor #no contact #bluey #personal

[cupboard-of-npd]

Bored so heres a half-assed list on how narc abuse truthers/'empaths' are more like the narcs they present than actual narcissists

They cannot take critique and often react in an aggressive manner when someone points out their flaws

In arguments they often resort to bullying tactics and insult the person they are fighting

If they cannot make a valid argument they will insult and block you

They are bigoted

They like to say they are helping (by spreading misinfo) but this is entirely false

They do not have empathy for people struggling

They go back on their word and twist it many times to make it seem like they are always in the right

They change the meaning of already existing words to make them fit their narrative

They wish death on people who are struggling

This is off the top of my head, feel free to add on

#narc abuse isn't real #narcissistic abuse #cptsd #ptsd #narcissistic abuse survivor #narcissistic parents #npd safe #garlic breath #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd #actually mentally ill #actually neurodivergent #mental illness #neurodivergent

[mischiefmanifold]

banning people from using healthline and psychology today and whatever other fucking pop psychology websites are out there until you all take a statistics class and figure out how to read actual research

#anecdotes don't count either btw #so fucking done #npd #aspd #cluster b #hpd #bpd #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse survivor #npd abuse #narcissism #narcissism awareness #npd awareness

[nikkeisimmer]

#narcissistic abuse survivor #non-sims

[accidentalslayer]

BLOOD SUCKER

Fame-fucker

Bleeding me dry like a goddamn vampire.

#olivia rodrigo #vampire #olivia rodrigo vampire #a whole mood #my summer theme song #theme song #mood #narcissistic abuse survivor #this has to be about narc abuse #this song has been getting me through it

[doomsdayradio]

its not even about wether or not you can seperate the word narcissist and the disorder npd (you cant but lets pretend) its about the fact that if someone has an abusive connotation on the word narcissist by default whenever they hear "narcissistic personality disorder" theyre going to have an abusive connotation on that as well wether they consciously realize it or not

#words words words !! #❓ #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #actually npd #actually narcissistic #cluster b #and for you ableist fucks in the back -> #narc abuse #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse survivor

[nothing0fnothing]

Daily reminder that "narcissistic abuse" does not mean "abused by a person who has NPD"

You can have NPD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have BPD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have ASPD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have Histrionic PD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have autism and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have a schizophrenia and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have bipolar disorder and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have depression and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have generalised anxiety disorder and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have ADHD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have dyslexia and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have tourettes syndrome and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have PTSD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can be a drug or alcohol addict and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have an eating disorder and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have OCD and chose to narcissistically abuse someone.

You can have no disorder at all and choose to narcissistically abuse someone.

Because narcissism is not a mental disorder, narcissistically abusing someone is not a symptom of a disorder it's a choice, and fucking anyone can chose to narcissistically abuse another person.

#narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse is real #narcissistic abuse awareness #narcissistic abuse survivor #surviving narcissism #narcissism is not npd #narcissistic abuse is not an ableist term. #abuse is abuse #abuse survivor support #abuse awareness

[greenevergreens]

What happened to you isn't your fault, but how you deal and cope with it is your responsibility.

It doesn't matter what you went through, how bad it was, how long it lasted, how badly it messed you up, if you were born with the mental illness(es) you have or they were caused by trauma, you DO NOT get to use that as an excuse to hurt others.

Grow up, mature, and deal with your shit.

#narcs fuck off #narcissistic abuse survivor #narcissistic abuse #narcissism #narcissists are abusers #bpd #trauma doesn't excuse being abusive #abuse #mental illness #mental health #emotional health #therapy #boundaries #mental health support #coping #what happened to you isn't your fault #but how you cope and react is your responsibility #narcissistic abuse is real #emotional abuse #toxic behavior #toxic #toxic people #toxic family #toxic parents #narcissistic abuse is no joke #narcissistic abuse victim #victim of narcissistic abuse

[vizthedatum]

I know I can knock out all my work tasks today. Intellectually, I KNOW. I am getting stronger every day.

But I just put in a request to get disability services from my employer again.

I need to cover my bases.

I hate that anything programming or statistical (essentially my whole job) causes trauma freezes.

I hate that my ex/spouse's lawyer (and my ex/spouse) lied to my lawyer about how we were both responsible for our own health insurance.

I feel like this needs to be reiterated: my able-bodied, autistic, queer spouse kicked out (and threatened, abused, yelled at, made life hell-ish) their disabled, autistic, chronically ill, queer partner (me) out of the home that I paid for (rent, utilities, apt insurance, health insurance, food, etc.) (yes, they contributed money to those things but I did most of the emotional and financial labor of it all). They promised to put me on their health insurance but didn't. They cheated me out of so much. They put me in complete disarray not just for that period of time but for months and months and months. I bet they were hoping I'd just kill myself. They thought I was, you know. That's why they were going to take my medication away but their mom told them not to.

As I told my therapist and psychiatrist several times, I would have absolutely killed myself (if they didn't kill me first somehow) if I didn't leave. I would have done it while telling them I loved them so much. That's how bad the narcissistic abuse was.

I know I've been grieving in all sorts of ways. And I do believe that they need help. They absolutely do. I wish the best for them, and I truly don't want them to die.

But they made my life miserable, and I am trying my best to get my own sense of justice and peace the best way I know how.

I could have (and my friends think I should have) done worse. (aka press charges)

I wasn't even going to file the PFA. I wasn't even going to do anything. I was just going to do what I've always done and start over.

They left me in shambles while they and their ex and their friends all think I'm the "real abuser" and laugh at me. Their lawyer thinks I'm being vindictive and punitive.

They're laughing at a chronically disabled (I pee blood when I'm stressed y'all... amongst other things), autistic, trans person of color who grew up as an immigrant and poor (sometimes middle-class) child in the country who suffered horrific childhood and other partner abuse. My ex/spouse knew all of that. They knew I'd been raped and assaulted and abused.

Do you realize that? Do you know how fucked up that is?

They're laughing while my ex/spouse makes ~150k/yr and has the LUXURY of not going to doctor/dentist/therapy/whatever appointments because they're way more abled than I am....

They wouldn't even be making that much if I didn't emotionally and financially support us while they quit their job to do extra training and education to get that job.

I guess I'm just good enough to be used and tossed away.

They're laughing while my ex/spouse hires a more expensive lawyer just to bully me into not getting enough spousal support and other asset costs, while I'm financially trying to rebuild.

And I am trying my best to live my life now. I grieve and cry every single day. You don't see it in my social media pictures, but I do. My heart and brain are full of love, life, and curiosity... but I am still grieving hardcore. And I will be for a very long time.

Most narcissistic abuse survivors grieve for... years.

#journaling #narcissistic abuse awareness #narcissistic abuse survivor #domestic violence #legal proceedings #divorce #divorce from a narcissist #grieving #healing #disability #autism #ptsd #working while ptsd what a concept

[marzivcr]

If one more person tells me I shouldn't be angry about being abused for years or post about it or implies that I need to "stay kind" about DECADES OF ABUSE? WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK /GOT/ ME ABUSED, HUH? SURELY NOT HAVING MY EMPATHY AND FORGIVENESS WEAPONIZED AGAINST ME, RIGHT???!!! 🤨

I'm posting about it a lot BECAUSE THE REPRESSED MEMORIES FROM SHUTTING UP ABOUT THE ABUSE FOR 30 YRS CAME CRASHING DOWN AND BROUGHT ME TO MY KNEES AND I WOULD LIKE TO TALK ABOUT THAT SO IT DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN!!!!! LET SURVIVORS BE MAD!!!! LET DISABLED PEOPLE BE MAD!!!!!!!!!

#personal #narcissistic abuse survivor #narcissistic abuse #righteous anger #survivor #vent post #tw abuse #abuse mention

[xqueerneurosisx]

Hey I have a question for my mentally ill siblings with PDs. What other word do you want Narcissistic Abuse to be called? Can we just get a proposal please???

I’m gonna just say this the only way I know how okay? “Just call it abuse,” doesn’t help survivors. The word abuse is literally already right there! They already are calling it so! It’s called N. Abuse!! C’mon!

“Narcissistic,” is what the white coats call the pattern that’s made up of more than one abuse. So example: physical, mental, AND financial abuse can make up N. Abuse. So, what do y’all wanna call that pattern? What’s the different word? Us survivors only need one here. And y’all have made it clear Narcissistic harmful, so what’s the word that won’t do that?

#abuse #narcissistic abuse #dni if you believe in narcissistic abuse #npd #personality disorders #mental health discourse #narcissistic abuse survivor

[socially-awkward-hippie]

Real💯

#being me #bereal #free spirit #hippie #fuck fake friends #fuck fake people #love my life #narcissistic abuse survivor