#authority figures

[monachopsis-11]

#actually autistic #autistic experiences #invisible disability #autism #actuallyautistic #disability #disabled community #complex ptsd #physically disabled #physical disability #fibromyalgia #me/cfs #mild me/cfs #orthostatic intolerance #myalgic encephalomyelitis #chronic pain #authority figures #ableism #casual ableism #tw abuse

[patrickjanebrain]

Patrick Jane's Problems with Authority

On the show there are two specific situations you can expect Jane to get excited about. The first is when he comes across a performer or another con artist, someone who is also in the craft of fooling people. No matter how skilled or clumsy that person is, Patrick is always intrigued. He likes to view the competition. He always perks up when he smells a scam. It’s endearing. 

The second situation is when Jane encounters a petty tyrant available for him to take down. It doesn’t matter how small the throne they sit on, if they’re in any way unworthy, he views it as his honor to kick over that chair and laugh.

It’s not just once in a while. It’s every time. Every tyrant. Every politician, principal, CEO, security head, or society snob. They don’t have to get in Patrick’s way or insult him (or Lisbon) either, although if they do, he strikes like a mongoose. No mercy.

Patrick Jane hates authority. He really does. He especially hates unearned authority, blowhards, and tyrants, but he does not recognize any authority over himself at all. As he tells the sheriff in Red Alert (3x13): “I’m not below or above, I’m to the side.” He sees himself outside the hierarchy, an authority to himself and the only authority over himself. If he cooperates at all, it’s only because it’s in his best interest to do so. Sometimes, even when it is in his best interest, his impulse to be a pain in the ass wins out over practical concerns.

As far as Lisbon goes, she doesn’t control him, and his affection and care for her is the only reason he occasionally lets her put the brakes on him. Not because she’s his boss (she is, but he doesn’t acknowledge it), but because his messes get her in trouble, and he doesn’t want her to suffer. 

Outside of the people he interacts with regularly, Jane has three basic approaches to people. 

AUTHORITY FIGURES

Any person in authority, he automatically begins to try to poke at their achilles heel. He’ll make little mocking digs or outright humiliate them. He’ll question their leadership ability or just embrace his naughty side:

See that flourish? Jane artistically adds it after he paints the last letter in “SNYDER SUCKS"? That’s a fuck-you flourish. The vandalism is enough to get him the principal’s attention (which Jane needs to expose the fact that he’s been illegally surveilling minors in the bathrooms). The message is one of (Patrick’s usual) disdain. The flourish, though: that’s for every kid who’s had to deal with this self-righteous, hypocritical prick. He’s sticking it to the man, almost literally. 

He just loves to do this. It’s not work for him, it’s a privilege. 

REGULAR  PEOPLE

When Jane questions average people who are not authority figures and who have information to give, he’s sort of a neutral version of himself. He can still be bratty, but it’s not in any way malicious. Sometimes he has to stir people up to get an answer or idea, but there’s nothing personal in that. He doesn’t want to hurt them or help them. He’s just doing his job, and often that’s making trouble to cause a distraction or get someone to reveal something. 

Jane was trained from birth to view regular non-carny people as marks, and it’s still a habit. He doesn’t get involved, and he doesn’t feel guilty about how he interacts with them as long as he doesn’t really hurt them. 

THE VULNERABLE

This is the facet of Patrick Jane’s character that is the most interesting to me: his care and tenderness with people who are hurting or are weak in some way. I’ve read commentary online from people questioning whether Jane is a psychopath or a sociopath, but I don’t think that you can view how he interacts with children, injured or sick people, and anyone who is vulnerable and call him incapable of empathy. He’s capable of enormous empathy.  

He has a personal understanding of grief and pain, and when he sees it in others, he softens. He doesn’t hug people, but he will give them careful, useful advice. Occasionally he will do little favors, like a quick hypnotism to help them break a bad habit, or show them his real self and what he’s learned through suffering. 

Interestingly enough, he will change his approach when he sees someone get downgraded from authority figure to a vulnerable person. He does this with Bosco once he’s injured, and he also immediately drops his desire to toy with the coroner, Dr. Steiner, who has shown him outright disdain in the past (and present!). In The Red Mile (3x18), as soon as Jane comes to understand that Steiner is sick, he goes out of the way to give him what he knows he needs: a front row seat to an adventure, breaking the rules to catch the bad guy personally. He also gives Steiner the great gift of sitting with him and distracting him while he’s committing suicide, though it clearly costs him to see death come and take another person he’s grown to like. 

Jane takes pity on Lorelei Martins after he understands what Red John has done to her, even though she tried to hurt him and engineer Lisbon’s death. 

It’s easy to see Patrick Jane as cool or funny or even cruel, but the reality is that he has experienced a ton of loss and trauma and that’s permanently altered the way he relates to people and how he sees them. Ultimately, I think the reason that he has so many problems with authority is because his father was very abusive and controlling. Every petty tyrant Jane takes down is a proxy for his father and a win for his younger self. He is taking back control for all of the times he couldn’t when he was vulnerable and had no other options.

#tm #the mentalist #patrick jane #teresa lisbon #jisbon #Youtube #meta #my meta #authority figures #rebellion

[moonlit-positivity]

Affirmations for reclaiming your voice with authority figures:

• I am allowed to question authoritative logic

• I am allowed to disagree with an authority figure

• I am allowed to set boundaries with a person who holds authority over me

• I am not being "disrespectful" if I disagree with an authority figure

• Authority figures do not own me, do not control me, and cannot force me to do anything I do not want to do or against my will

• I have the right to refuse a command from an authority figure if I do not feel safe

• I have the right to control my own thoughts and opinions in the presence of authority

• authority figures do not have power over me

• I am allowed to take back my power and choose my own course of actions in the presence of authority

• I am allowed to say "no" to someone who has authority over me

• I am allowed to fair treatment in the presence of authority

• I will never let someone in authority strip me of my autonomy ever again

• I am allowed to refuse service and find a better fit if my doctor, therapist, psych, or any other authoritative professional does not make me feel safe

• I am allowed to reclaim my voice in the presence of authority

• Authority figures are humans just like everyone else. They are not gods. They do not have the right to abuse their authority and belittle me or make me feel smaller than them or make me feel unsafe in any way.

• I am allowed to speak up against authority figures that abuse their power.

#affirmations #self affirmations #boundaries #cptsd #recovery #trauma #positive affirmations #parent abuse #authority #authority figures #cops #therapy #therapy abuse #mental health #psychiatrists #doctor abuse #doctors #medical trauma #medical abuse #cluster b #bpd #did #toxic parents #setting boundaries #reclaiming energy #reclaim #healing #ptsd

[allthebestscreennamesaregone63]

Me: Men are ~trash~.

My mid-tier female boss two days later: I legit ignore my husband's input and refuse to buy anything in a generic brand uwu so if he wants generic he has to buy it and take it to his work uwu

Me: .... nevermind, all people in authority, (majority of them men, but including the #girlbosses) are TRASH

#men are trash #generic brand is not always bad fight me #mid tier boss #authority figures #post is canceled #authority figures are the garbage now #girlboss

[mxveewz]

just because I am "walking" and "talking" does not mean I am "awake"

#idk what to tag this #real life #i guess #memes and jokes #authority figures

[elliot-geltz]

Hey. Remember that post that was like,

"Respect' can mean treating someone like a person, or like an authority figure. And some people will say 'If you don't respect me, I won't respect you', but what they really mean is 'If you don't treat me like an authority figure, I won't treat you like a person"

I think the inverse is also true.

I think some people really cement so much of their identity in being an authority figure, that if you don't treat them like one, they *really* do feel like you're not treating them as a person, because you're undermining the thing that's central to their self-image.

And that's stupid.

If that's what's clicking in your head, like, sincerely, get help. That's not healthy. And no one owes you submission like the king of Siam just so you feel good about yourself.

#random thoughts #respect #authority figures #R #E #S #P #C #T

[that-butch-archivist]

"Dyke March 1994" by Morgan Gwenwald

source: The Wild Good: Lesbian Photographs & Writings on Love, edited by Beatrix Gates

#lesbian #lesbian literature #dyke #dyke literature #archived #thatbutcharchivist #dyke march #dyke march 1994 #lesbian history #lesbian photography #author: beatrix gates #photographer: morgan gwenwald #the wild good #year: 1996 #publisher: anchor books #publisher: doubleday dell publishing group inc. #butch #butch dyke #butch lesbian #why does it look alright while i'm editing and then hitting the finished button is like unleashing an entirely different monster #ai yai yai #i'll figure it out #asian lesbian

[adventures-in-poor-planning]

I was trying to understand the whole idea of "fear ecology", where presence of predators = a ton of behavioural and psychological changes in prey animals, even if they're not hunting (so for example, a non-hunting outdoor cat lowers foraging + reproductive success among mice) and it seemed extreme until the next day when I realized thats just me when my boss is in at work.

#-_- not proud of that one but its pretty funny #authority figures are my natural predator unforch #animal friends

[daydreamerwonderkid]

I can't deny that there's a part of me that's absolutely delighted that each time Bruce unjustly went after Jason, the Batkids responded in kind.

This isn't my ideal version of the Batfam, but it does warm my heart seeing Jason's siblings stand up for him.

#batfam #batfamily #gotham war #gotham war spoilers #bruce wayne #jason todd #tim drake #cassandra cain #duke thomas #stephanie brown #i know damian was siding with bruce until recently #but i dont blame him #he's young and all he's ever wanted is bruce's love and approval #and the only way he knows how to get it #is by not questioning his father/authority figure #honestly i feel for him #none of the batkids deserve this #dreamer queue

[free-panic-attacks]

Moms be like: I birthed you. I brought you in and I can take you out

Me: go ahead, take me out, I didn't ask to be born, anyways if you do kill me then you will go to jail for murder

Adults: ohhh looks who has a rebellious phase

Me: this aint a "rebellious phase" this is me realizing that I am treated like shit and that I see no reason to give you respect when you wouldn't even give me a second to talk

My 6th grade english and writing teacher: Kids should be seen and not heard. As a child you can do nothing

Me: oh hell nah you did not just say that to my face.

Why are older people like this

#respect is a two way road #older peole be like #well it only is when you want it #karen #its a one way toll road #okay boomer #justice for teens #bitch what do boomers think they are #they are old #we are the new generation #authority figures

[cbmagus49]

Hey guess what it's time for a big ol' Relativity screenshot edit sketchdump!!!!

#gravity falls #relativity falls #screenshot edit #mabel pines #dipper pines #stan pines #ford pines #candy chiu #pacifica northwest #aaaaa I'm so glad to finally get these out there ^^ #it was about time I got around to redrawing the scary-oke scene :D #technically I'd already posted that last roadside attraction pic #but I've polished it up since then to match the newer ones so I figured it was worth posting again #idk how the heck I hadn't done the author reveal shot with dipper yet #that's like the most obvious thing in the world #also hey relativity pacifica reveal I guess #I couldn't very well NOT have her be the one running against mabel for mayor now could I

[novelist-becca]

Collector here was definitely jealous of the tight, loving family dynamic Luz, King and Eda have.

Probably thinking “why can’t I have that?”

#I see everyone talk about the spin-off line (which I loved too) #but I was focused on Collector’s face #he wishes he had that bond (he deserves it) #unfortunately he has the worst people as authority/parental figures #Odalia Terra and Belos they all suck #the owl house #toh #owl house #toh spoilers #the owl house spoilers #eda clawthorne #luz noceda #king clawthorne #the collector

[yabakuboi]

"Are you going to break my heart?"

Eddie almost drives them off the road.

It's late, nearly 2 am, and the country road is narrow and winding, and this thing between them, fingers twinned above the gear shift, radio turned down low, Stevie Nicks singing to them softly, is new. Eddie wants to live in this moment forever, wants the smell of lake water and dying August heat to live in their clothes, wants the warmth of first kisses and whispered confessions to last in tingling sparks in their skin, the memory of touch to be permanent. It won't be, it'll all fade, but Eddie can visit it again, rewrite them into the cotton and the softness of Steve's mouth.

It's late, and this is new.

"It's okay if you do," Steve says, so quiet. He's holding on to Eddie's hand like he's dangling off a cliff. "I can handle it. I'd just like a heads up, so I can prepare."

Eddie almost feels guilty, basking in his joy when Steve was sinking into something else. He thinks, if he were a kid still, if he hadn't died, hadn't lost everything and managed to get it all back, he'd be angry. But he's not. He's not, and he did, and it's late and this is new—but it's not unfamiliar. The same, but more, an extra free scoop with whipped cream and sprinkles, a cherry on top.

"You trust me?" Eddie asks. He rubs his thumb along Steve's knuckles, feels the scars under his skin, little tears in someone so perfect.

"Of course," Steve croaks. Eddie can't look at him, because the road is dark and narrow and winding, and he has to get his boy home safe.

"And I trust you," Eddie says, brings Steve's hand up, presses a kiss like a seal to his skin. "And I love you, and you love me. I got you."

Steve's quiet for a long, long moment. Eddie can tell he's watching him, so he presses another kiss to Steve's hand, lets his lips linger on hard tendons and dark veins. Kisses in his promises to the place they're linked together.

When he speaks again, it's soft, and Eddie can hear the love, living and leaving in the air between Steve's teeth.

"Okay," he says, giving Eddie everything. "You got me."

#steddie #i was reading a wip fic from an author i love that looks like MCD but wasn't tagged MCD which is fine bcs of the set up #and i was trying to figure out if they were gonna hurt me too much or not #to prepare myself #so was leaving a comment to ask #and then i do what i always do and project my entire self on to steve harrington LMAO #anyways kisses love you mwah mwah mwah

[tearsofcalamity]

thimking…

boothill w a mechanic!reader who gives him back his sense of touch via some smart means I am not intelligent enough to describe myself lol, but with how long he’s gone without, it’s way too sensitive at first

he’s breathin all heavy, cheeks flushed and panting like a dog in heat while you run your hands along his body to check and make sure he’s not missing any sensation anywhere. total aphrodisiac effect

you notice he’s overstimulated and you’re about to suggest lowering it when he grabs your wrist and begs you to touch the nice lil implement between his legs you’d given him a while ago at his request…

#we’re pretending reader was like #still figuring out the touch implementation when they gave him his dick #but hoo boy #he’s been on my mind #he and wriothesley #so maybe? some stuff for them both? #boothill x reader #boothill hsr #not gonna add my lil author tag for right now cuz I might be doing a rebrand soon #sub boothill #n/sfw #forgot those tags sry </3

[morganbritton132]

No one tells you when you get a Big Serious Job™ how many fucking abbreviations you’ll be forced to learn.

#or how many abbreviations that you’ll come across that mean something different from what you’ve always known #I stopped reading a requisition to make this post because I read a sentence that was like #‘something something the COR and the contractor POC’ #and I stopped like ‘contractor person of color???’ before remembering Point of Contract #also no one at my job tells you what any of this stuff means. they’re just like Morgan can you take care of this DOA?’ #and I gotta sit there like Dead on Arrival??? before figuring out it’s a Delegation of Authority spreadsheet

[bigfatbreak]

So it's not Adrien who figures out the identity of Viceroy first the moment he sees all those white butterflies aka "fairies"? Or he understands and just doesn't do anything with it since Tom is not, like, ruining the city and/or hurting civilians?

Tom's a really good butterfly wielder. Although there's a concentration of them in the bakery,

there's glowing white butterflies all over Paris.

#replies #he's gotta keep an eye on his bbygirl after all #and also blackmail authority figures trying to get in his way of his investigations lol