#queerplatonic partnership

[flip-flopping-frede]

What about a frayromantic and a cupioromantic story. The cupioromantic would be fine dating or getting into some sort of QPR or QPP with any of their friends, however at the same time the cupioro feels insecure about getting into a relationship, partnership, wavership, or any kind of QPR/QPP without experiencing any kind of romo attrac at all to their potential partner.

The frayromantic and the cupioromantic both come into eachother’s lives. The frayromantic initally experiences the involuntary primary romo attrac to the cupioro. However, as the frayro and cupioro form a bond (emotional and friendship) the frayro’s romo feelings for the cupioro fade. Frayro knows how Cupioro feels about a potential relationship, however Frayro is struggling to accept themself and their fading romantic attraction. Frayro is struggling to accept their frayromanticsm and how they cannot keep their romantic attraction.

Cupioro and Frayro connect over how it’s ok to want a romantic relationship without experiencing romantic attraction, and how both of them accepted that *if* they were in a QPP of some sort, neither of them would require their partner experience romo attrac towards them, which is an amatonormative and arophobic standard anyway.

I see so much stuff about “cupioros and lithros” but what about frayros. Lithros and frayros both experience involuntary, primary romantic attraction, and then it goes away. Frayros don’t deserve to be left out of the conversation.

#frayromantic #arospec #cupioromantic #arospec dating story #QPR #queerplatonic relationship #QPP #queerplatonic partnership #cupioro #wavership #arospec partnership #primary romantic attraction club #primary romantic attraction gang #frayromanticsm #cupioromanticsm #amatonormativity #internalized cupiorophobia #internalized frayrophobia #internalized amatonormativity #lithro #lithromantic #akoiro #akoiromantic #arospec pride

[tuberculosis-planets]

ok hear me out

queerplatonic partners

#qpp #queerplatonic #dear evan hansen #dear even hansen the musical #of course that would mean that this was true #which obviously its not #(tbh i kinda forgot the lore) #queerplatonic partnership

[grayloch]

Last day of Pride seems like a great time to share the art that is the icon over on my main :3 Part of my itching to color it’s me and my queerplatonic fiance @frigginconfused​

#icon #illustration #FrigginConfused #self #transgender #nonbinary #asexual #aromantic #queerplatonic partnership #so im pretty sure that ive mentioned being engaged but never name dropped my fiance outside of talking to twitch streamers #but frigs doesnt seem to have an issue with it so i guess im saying it outloud out here too now #artists on tumblr #loch draws

[morphinomenaljew]

As of yesterday it’s been 6 months since Sunshine Gallant and I started on our journey as a QPP and in that time I’ve told them the dark stuff, the eating me up inside at 3AM because some wounds never heal dark stuff. I’ve told them the good stuff. The toe curling, magical, peace that comes whenever I think of butter ring cookies or my limited edition Sailor Moon manga. We’ve shared secrets and stories and I’ve watched eyes that used to look at me with only the briefest hint of fondness grow warm and bright and full of mischief and a desire to share it with someone and I’ve felt the ground open up around me more times than I can count and through all of it, there they are, every single time, as constant and unshakable as a river stone or time or belly-aching laughter and the ground finds me again, solid and secure and safe

and I need you to know that it may have begun on a Saturday outside a cafe but I think we are built with the chance to last and I never feel more like myself than when you cradle my fragile body in your tree trunk arms and kiss my forehead with the same lips that I’ve learned to love letting read me for filth because the only way to do it well is to know a person truly, to be intimately familiar with their spirit and to see the light as well as the shadow.

It IS funny that our names make up such a pithy phrase as “Love and Light” but it’s funny in the same way that artists use lies to tell the truth. I charm away all urges to cringe with every deiseil circle I thumb into your hand clasped in mine and I love you in every laugh and every tear and every breath spent with the privilege that my neshama has to touch yours.

Happy Anniversary a Ghille Ghrìanach 💚

Thanks for being my Bee 🐝✨

#the sunshine boy and her deep drops of northern sapphire rains #on a [saturday] outside a cafe/ i watched it begin again #qpr #6 months #The love that is at me is on you #queerplatonic #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic partnership #a ghille ghrìanach ☀️ #you keep me green

[rocksandaces]

I love the word "partner"

Are we married? Are we dating? Are we running a small business together? Are we in the middle of an elaborate plan to kill an ancient godlike being?

You'll never know

#asexual #lgbtq #partnership #queerplatonic #qpr positivity

[lilyginnyblackv2]

Now that Buddy Daddies is finished, I’m gonna say it: SPOILERS!

Buddy Daddies really is for the aces, aros, queerplatonic partners, and platonic life partners out there. 

I know, 100%  that there are going to be some people out there that are going to say, “See! It really was just queerbait all along” or some who are going to bemoan the fact that there were no declarations of romantic love or kiss or whatever. I’m sure this part right here:

Miri: “Didn’t you slip out yesterday to go drinking with a girl again?” 

Caused some frowns and I do get it. Because of this, the queerbait and Kazuki and Rei are just friends dialogue will continue and follow the series around. But, this episode has made it clear that Kazuki and Rei love not only Miri, but each other as well.

They are a work partners (相棒 - aibou)

They are partners raising a child together. (相方 - aikata).

They’ve moved (I’m pretty sure their diner is in Okinawa for reasons I’ll get to in another post), they’ve opened a business together, one which has a part of Kazuki’s last name in it (来栖 - Kurusu is his last name, the 栖 (su) part of his name means “nest.”), and Rei’s words to his father: Miri, Kazuki, and I share a bond stronger than blood. 

They are a family. They love each other.

Of course, friends can be a part of a family. Friends can love each other, but there are also reasons why people who are in situations like co-parenting, queerplatonic relationships, platonic life partnerships, and etc. don’t refer to their bonds as friendships and the people they are co-parenting or in a partnership with as their friends, but as words that give some space for those grey areas in-between.

Friendships are strong, deep, and beautiful. Platonic love is love and is powerful.

But, there are definitely still different sets of expectations and boundaries that come with friendships vs. other relationship dynamics. 

Kazuki and Rei’s situation falls outside of the usual friendship expectations and boundaries and sits somewhere between that, family and partnership.

I know this topic has been talked to death about. But, I felt like I needed to write about and address it one final time since Buddy Daddies has come to an end (though, who knows about a potential Daughter Daddies!) Especially after Miri’s line to Kazuki. (I feel I could also go into open relationship dynamics, polyamorous relationships, and etc. but that feels like it would be derailing). 

Basically, I just wanted to get one final post out on this. I was very pleased with this ending episode. It made my heart so happy and warm, and I know I’ve said it before, but this series really speaks to me as someone who is aroace. Aroace characters and our relationship dynamics have basically no rep, so even if this series wasn’t intended to be written with a queerplatonic relationship dynamic in mind, they ended up writing a beautiful depiction of one that makes me and what I would want from a relationship of some kind, finally feel seen.

#Buddy Daddies #BD #Kazurei #Kazuki Kurusu #Rei Suwa #ace #aro #queer #queerplatonic #platonic life partnerships #Miri Unasaka #BD spoilers #Buddy Daddies spoilers #long post #image heavy post

[posycore]

neurotypical people watch community and think troy and abed are funny, gay people watch community and ship/think troy and abed would be cute together, neurodivergent gay people watch community and Know what they Are. 'aw i wish trobed was canon' well actually they are u just havent unlocked the Vision.

#like i genuinely view it as canon and i dont think im alone in that #and the main reason is: oh the lines between platonic and romantic are blurry? #oh they think and feel together in a way literally no one else gets? #oh they have moments that dont read as conventionally romantic but still seem way too intimate? #oh they actually never deny or shy away from their love for each other? oh its just the rest of the world that is confused? #are those really signs of not being canon or is that just true to how queer/queerplatonic/neurodivergent partnerships get perceived #esp in their time period lol #like maybe trobed isnt canon to someone watching the show from the rest of the study groups pov or the worlds pov #but if u watch from troy and abeds pov.. of course its canon i mean just look at them #community #trobed #abed nadir #troy barnes

[saffigon]

platonic partnerships and queerplatonic relationships don't have to be affectionate if you don't want them to be; long-term relationships don't have to be affectionate for them to be valid

#this isn't slander btw it's just taken me a lot longer to realize that i can indeed have platonic partnerships that aren't affectionate #aromantic #aro #arospec #aromanticism #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #asexual #ace #acespec #aspec #queerplatonic #qpr

[toads-n-moss]

june 5th is this year's first officially recognized aromantic visibility day, so of course i had to draw miles.

i hc him to be aromantic (demi to be more specific) :D. fun fact!! yellow flowers tend to symbolize friendship rather than love like most flowers do.

i hope you all have a happy and safe pride <3

[id in alt text]

#ace attorney #miles edgeworth #aromantic #aromantic pride #happy pride 🌈 #i love the idea of phoenix and miles being in a queerplatonic partnership #they make me feel all soft #and ooey gooey #like warm chocolate chip cookies #aro edgeworth for the win :3

[honeyandbloodpoetry]

The kind of love that stars have died for.

#spilled thoughts #poetry #spilled ink #poem #lgbt #writerscreed #twcpoetry #lgbtq #transmasc #trans #transfemme #t4t #t4t love #mlw t4t #t4t qpr #qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic partner #partnership #companion #my dearest

[acemdzsfan]

I think I might have just head cannoned literally all of my favorite characters as AroAce even before I realized I was on the A-spec.

They aren't allo until proven, and even then, they might still be A-spec -> Basically my thought process.

#like obviously Wei Wuxian and Lan Zhan are allo and romantically in love with each other #But I just kind of went: hmm #Maybe not?? Lan Zhan feels sooo demiromantic/sexual #Cale just reads as an AroAce character who made the biggest family #and Soukoku is just vibes of a queerplatonic partnership #I may have just been stumbling across AroAce characters on accident actually #Saiki is just AroAce #Zuko.... is Zuko. I think it's the vibes #and Jason Todd feels sooo asexual that learned to flirt really well despite not really caring about sex coded #also Malleus #and ruggie #and just about every twst character #oops #mdzs #the untamed #mo dao su zhi #bungou stray dogs #wei wuxian #dazai osamu #bsd dazai #bsd chuuya #soukoku #bsd #lcf cale #lcf alver #trash of the counts family #alberu crossman #tcf cale #cale henituse #avatar the last airbender

[shield-sheafson]

This is going to sound so stupid, but it drives me nuts when people describe "found family" as literally "I met this person two weeks ago and now he's my dad/son/brother." The relationship between deep platonic friends is very different from the relationship between traditional family members, and that's Not a bad thing. I know that for some people it's a way of conceptualizing a relationship as complete and ideal and impossible to sexualize, but to me that's underestimating friendship as a specific kind of relationship. I think some people have the mindset that "friend" means there's a possibility of friends-to-lovers at any moment, which would sully the perfect pure nonsexual relationship forever. First off, the potential for sexual attraction doesn't make a friendship less stable or valid, but secondly, friendship can be an end in itself. It's not "friend evolves into either lover or literal family member." A friendship can be perfect on its own. Someone can be your soulmate in neither of those ways, but in a third way (fourth, fifth, whatever. The human experience is vast). Somebody can be home in a way that doesn't have a name.

#I'm not even talking queerplatonic partnerships #I guess i could be #what i mean to say is that there are infinite possibilities for every relationship and trying to box them makes them smaller than they are #idk man im tired

[somanyclowns]

Did I mention she has a partner?

#it’s a queerplatonic partnership #background image not mine #clowncore #clown #clownblr #clown art #clownsona #my oc #my ocs

[inthecornerstone]

sherlock: “miss watson”

me: 🥺🥺

#joanlock #the queerplatonic partnership of my heart #sae watches elementary

[officialgleamstar]

(patting hardshine on the shoulder) you know what kid. i like you (queerplatonics them in a way only i enjoy)

#smth smth You can tell I love a ship between adults #when i make them queerplatonic in the sense that one of them has a strong platonic attachment and the other is madly romantically in love #and above all else they cherish their unique connection and so they meet in the middle with a relationship- #-that would make anyone elses head hurt #hardshine being friends with benefits but the benefits also include lifelong partnership and a deep unique understanding of one another .. #everything to me <3 #mine

[lilyginnyblackv2]

An Unexpected Comparison of Sorts - Buddy Daddies & Full House

I’ve seen some people make the comparison of Buddy Daddies to Full House (obviously, not for an exact plot match, of course). I’ve seen this pop up once or twice with both Japanese fans and English speaking fans. When you watch a scene like this one from Full House:

You can kinda see why. There are certainly some similarities, specifically in the idea of best friends being apart of each others families and Joey stating that no one’s ever done something like this for him. 

But the dynamics are a bit different. Joey makes it very clear that he came to help out, and within the family dynamic, Joey is always Joey. He’s a part of their family, but also still very clearly a close family friend. He’s never referred to as uncle or dad, because those roles are already filled by blood relations (Jesse and Danny, respectively). 

His role within the Tanner family house is also more along the lines of a babysitter. Danny is still clearly the father and has the most control over the house and authority, Jesse is the uncle and comes in second with authority (his bond with Michelle, the youngest, is the only one that veers more towards paternal instead of just strictly familial), and then there is Joey. He helps out, of course, but he has the least level of actual authority (though he is still meant to be respected).

And the above action from Danny, Jesse, and the girls towards Joey is super sweet, but is also clearly meant to be a way of showing appreciation for the help he has been providing. With Joey, Danny, and Jesse the lines are all made pretty clear on where their roles are and how they fit into the family. Danny’s immediate family is himself and his daughters still, while his extended family includes Jesse (and later his family) and then Joey. That doesn’t mean that Joey isn’t still very important to him, he is, but he does also still exist within more expected boundaries and expectations of friendship, even while being a part of the family. It’s still a very platonic friendship based love.

There is a level of progressiveness to this dynamic in Full House, even still today. There have also been other shows that have shown a level of co-parenting (like Sister, Sister), but even in those shows a parent-child bond is usually always pre-established and while some do include romance (like Sister, Sister, iirc) they still also fell into heteronormative depictions of families (a man and a woman getting together via co-parenting, etc.).

With Kazuki and Rei, we have Kazuki helping out Rei because he just had to. It was something instinctual with him, and it wasn’t to show thanks or appreciation. It was just something done from a pure want to care for someone:

Towards the end of the series, we also see the way the two will be splitting up housework and I’m sure that later extended towards discipline and other aspects of caring for Miri. Both of them are her papas, etc.

I know I said I wouldn’t write about these two again, lol. But I think comparing what we see depicted between Kazuki and Rei to other shows that have some element of blended family, co-parenting, and friends raising kids together, you can sense a bit of a difference between those situations and the one being depicted between Kazuki and Rei.

I don’t think that the series intentionally depicted Kazuki and Rei as a queerplatonic relationship. I think that was likely accidental. But I do think that they just wanted to depict a family that wasn’t bound by blood. And what we got was something that just ended up looking like a queerplatonic relationship or platonic life partners - a relationship dynamic that has been getting more and more popular in Japan in recent years (I’ll link to some articles below about that). 

With a show like Full House, yes, they are a family, but there are also clearly defined roles that all of the characters fit into. With Joey, the only non-blood or marriage related member, still fitting the best friend role. He was a member coming into an already pre-existing family. 

Buddy Daddies has Kazuki and Rei existing within less defined roles and in a grey space between, and building their own family together. It’s a bit different. More like a queerplatonic based love.

#Buddy Daddies #BD #Kazurei #Kazuki Kurusu #Rei Suwa #Full House #queerplatonic #platonic life partnerships #co-parenting #blended families #queer #long post #image heavy post #video #meta post #analysis #thought post #this really and truly is my last post on them #I think I've exhausted this topic and my thoughts on it #but I also wanted to further clarify some thoughts that I had from my previous post #and I think this comparison helps a lot with that