Hello, I need some advice on what to say or do with a person who is saying that they will do dangerous things to themselves. They're a friend, and we're not from the same country, but, I really do believe that I shouldn't be standing them or dreading talking to them, I feel like I am taking the role of a therapist when I really don't want to.
I really do think that you can say everything, but, it's just words on a screen for them and the effect lessens, I've said things to them that could be really uplifting and I feel as if they aren't very impacted by them or as if it didn't help, at all.
I don't know what to do, I don't think staying in this kind of friendship is healthy for either of us.
My previous therapist even told me to stop being friends with them.
Thanks in advance.
Hey there,
I think that you have done a really great job in trying to help this friend. But as your therapist said, it’s not helpful for you to stay in the friendship with them as it’s not good for yourself and there is only so much you can do for your friend when they live in a different country to you.
One thing you could try to say to this friend may look something like this..
“I know your really struggling right now but I am finding it difficult to support you fully when I live so far away from you. Have you ever thought about seeking help from a counsellor either on the phone or on web counselling. Maybe they will be better able to support and help you right now, more than I can..”
By saying something like this you are acknowledging that they are struggling but that there is little that you can do (without telling them that this friendship is becoming unhealthy for you) and you are directing them to other support that they can seek out if they are wanting to.
You have to keep in mind though that whether they access that professional support is completely up to them. You cannot force someone to get help if they do not want it. But at least you will have known that you have replaced yourself with other more suitable support for them if that makes sense?
I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!
I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!
Take care,
Lauren
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If Amity & Willow had stayed friends, they definitely would have ended up in one of those homoerotic codependent teen girl friendships
You're correct and I think about this all the time. It would not have been romantically compatible at all but they still would have been obsessed and clingy with each other and gotten so overwhelmingly jealous if they felt like they were being replaced. Amity would literally want Hunter dead.
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People who says swk and mk friendship isn't healthy like are you blind did we watch the same show I mean sure swk have Communication problems but he's trying to fix FOR MK you know because he CARE about him just because he needs to work on his issues doesn't mak him toxic to be around and mk is patient with swk not because he have to but because he knows that swk is trying so hard and swk is soft on mk in training and other stuff he doesn't want to push him too hard he want him to grow in his own pace and don't forget how mk felt comfortable venting to him in season 4 about the past villains he fought their relationship is far from unhealthy
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[Thar be spoilers]
That bit where Thistle/Sissle decided that he liked Laios and Laios has great monster advice so he was gonna *keep him*.
Like boy, young elf, I am aware that you were either purchased or stolen at a young age, and the whole pesudo-adoption into the royal family/being a slave held by the royal family and put into a job as entertainment that clearly didn't suit you until you were old enough to be a court mage as a status symbol/flex on Delgal's dad's part that most certainly fucked you up six ways to Sunday before a demon started eating holes in yer memory/soul...
But you can't just keep people. They aren't ...pets. That's not a good way to make friends.
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Every time I see manga Dazai's neck I think of this thing a boy said to me in elementary school that roughly translates to: "You have such a pretty neck, so delicate, so easy to strangle"
Which is a weird thought to have about real people but thankfully Dazai is not and let's be real he would probably appreciate it.
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I think Nico would be scared of Will. Not in AHHH!!! MEAN AND DANGEROUS PERSON COMING TO KILL ME!! way, but because he is so nice. Will would make him a cup of tea when he was tired, apologize after he got mad and yelled, walk him places, and ask before hugging him, all that stuff. Nico would care for Will too, but something about it would leave him on edge.
The thing is, Nico is used to being hated, and people only interacting with him because they want something. He's used to the bare minimum. So with all that overwhelming love coming from Will... he goes to hide out with Reyna in camp Jupiter for a while.
Maybe he would stay for a day or two until she figured out what was wrong and talked some sense into him. Cue the teary reunion and confessions with Will and booking an extra therapy session with Dionysus.
After that, Nico would still be scared of Will's love. But little by little, he would be getting better.
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