#they never communicated that with me

[monokumis]

Communication is so important in relationships. I know I’ve struggled with it before in the past because I was made to feel like I was making things up or getting ignored. But if you tell me you value communication, I expect you to actually listen to me when I communicate with you. Do not play the victim, do not say I am unfairly judging you, if there is an issue I will come to you and say it. I wouldn’t be doing this if I didn’t think you could improve and become a better person. I poured my all into you and loved you so much, what a shame that you never cared half as much as I did and hated me for even trying. I’m doing the responsible thing of realizing enough is enough and that I need to let you go, even if it hurts. I refuse to stay in an abusive relationship with someone who can’t communicate why they hate me. As much as I hate what you did to me, I also realized my own self worth. I shouldn’t let others walk all over me just so they won’t leave, so they’ll like me. My life has so much more value than that. I went into this relationship hating myself, but I’m leaving it now full of love for both myself and the people in my life who want and appreciate my love. I’m so grateful to them, and I’m grateful to you for showing me how much other people love me. I’d wish you the best in life, but you already had it.

#Vent #I usually don’t vent online because I don’t want it to seem like I’m talking bad about another person because I hate doing that #But I really did need to get this off my chest. I was hurt horribly by a group of people who I thought I could trust and love #But they never wanted my love #they never communicated that with me #so I stayed #But I now know I was never appreciated #I’m going to move on and find something better for myself #I already have so many people who love me and want the best for me #and I am eternally grateful to them #I refuse to be someone who never changes because I am afraid of change #if I am the problem #I will work on improving myself #I just hope you can do the same for yourself

[its-tickety-boo]

These two idiots kill me because what Crowley is hearing from Aziraphale is, “I am able to look past your demonic nature because I love you so much, but if there was a way, I would change that part of you” and what Crowley wants to hear is, “I look at all of you and I love all of you”

Meanwhile Aziraphale’s actually saying, “I love every version of you that I’ve known, but I miss the smile you had when I met you and I would give anything to bring that joy back”

#communication? these bitches never heard of it #they’re so tragic and for what #good omens #ineffable husbands #aziraphale #anthony j crowley #crowley #good omens season two #good omens s2 #good omens season 2 #miscommunication #ineffable idiots #ineffable divorce #I’ve seen so many variations of this post and they all destroy me

[shivunin]

Because I have just seen this specific thing for the second time, I would like to say:

If I reblog your art, I do not expect you to reblog (or share!) my fic in return

If I comment on your fic, I do not expect you to comment on (or read!) mine in return

My enjoyment of anyone's work does not come with strings or expectations

My friendship is not a bill that you will have to pay later

That's it!

#the fucking obsession with fandom becoming ~content creation~ has got to stop. this is not a business. #i don't like it when someone acts like i owe them because they complimented my work #and i will never do that to someone else #kindness has to be freely given or it isn't kindness; it's manipulation #this just. makes me feel super gross and it upsets me that it's happened twice #and that both people explicitly stated in their profiles that this is an expectation they have of fandom #you can't form a community by force. that's not how it works. #anyways. rant over. i just want it to be known that i'm not expecting anything from anyone lol #if i talk to you or hang out it's because i want to. i don't want anything from you except you know #kindness and companionship or w/e #bleargh. gonna go play a game or something. #dixeram

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

multishipping

#wintersberg #mithan #winterfield #lethan #sorry lethan community #i made like 3 AUs and drew them for like a month straight and then never did again #i have no one to talk to about it im sorry 😭😭 #the ship i draw depends on how much i think about it #heraxic makes me want to draw wintersberg so now im drawing them alot.... #i ship ethan with everyone #sorry i just like it when he is loved #ethan is my barbie and all the other characters r kens #i switch them out every now and then but ethan is always the constant

[inkskinned]

100,000 dollars is not a lot of money.

it is also a lot more money than i will ever have. my student loans make up half of that - they're coming back, i'm told, like we all bounced back recently. the other day while paying for gas to go to work, i overdrew my account without knowing it.

i sat in the car and looked at the charge and tried to do the math. where the fuck is the money even going? i don't live extravagantly. i live in a hole in the ground, in an apartment the size of a sneeze; covered in ants. yes, i wanted to live close to a population center. maybe that's my fault. i've downloaded the apps and i've spoken to the experts and i've cut back on excess. i can't help the pharmacy bills or the medical debt.

i have a good, well-paying job. when i googled it to see if i was getting a fair salary, i found out i'd be making "upper middle class" money. which doesn't make sense - is "upper middle class" now just "able to afford a one-bedroom without a roommate". when i was younger, upper-middle meant a nice big house and a backyard and vacations and not flinching about eating at a resturant.

i was talking to my friend who is a realtor. he said 100,000 dollars is extremely cheap for housing. he's not wrong. 100,000 dollars would change my life. 100,000 dollars also won't really buy you anything. it could get you out of debt, potentially, if you were lucky and had a certain amount of scholarships to tack onto your degree. you could pay off the car and then have enough left over for "spending" money. how fucking amazing. one vacation, maybe two if you're thrifty. and then - like magic - the money would evaporate into nothing. people would sigh and tell you see, you should have put it into savings! like "upper middle class" people can't afford to value "actually living" over squirrelling wealth. you should spend your life only in scarcity. like that is what made the rich people all their real "actually a lot of money".

100,000 dollars would literally set me free. it also would just set me back to "earning normally" instead of paying down debt into infinity. god, do you know how many of us just want that? that our first thought is we could stop scrambling and just be free of debt if we won the lottery? that we don't even necessarily need to stop working - we just wouldn't have to worry about failing or falling?

and. at the same time. 100,000 dollars is next to fucking nothing.

#writeblr #me paying my taxes this year: #haha good to know im literally doing more for my community out of my tiny apartment #than most corporations will do in their entire scope! :) these motherfuckers will NEVER pay taxes!!! #bc they lobby others to be sure we CHOKE :) !!! #i hope this is clear like. this isn't someone being like ''haha if i got 100k it wouldn't be a big deal'' #it's more like. the gap between corporations and the ppl WORKING in those corporations #has become HORRIFIC. 100k to the company i work for is like. pocket change to them. #and it is LIFE CHANGING for me. #they could cut me a check for 100k tomorrow and not even budge their margin of error

[cemeterything]

#🐉 #this is what i love about being involved in community spaces for fiction though tbh #everyone has different personalized interpretations of the source material and some of them align with my own or make me go 'oh huh i never #thought of that but yeah i can see it' while some of them just dont compute at all and make me wonder if we saw the same thing #which of course. we didnt. or rather we saw the same objective source material but we *saw* it completely differently through the lens of #our own experiences and worldview. #its so cool #however i will sometimes be a hypocritical little hater about it

[reasonsforhope]

You don't need to believe that people as a whole are good or well-intentioned to be an optimist about fixing climate change.

A lot of the time, it's enough to trust in this: people hate being screwed over. And even more than that, they hate feeling screwed over.

Climate change is actively screwing over almost every single person on this planet, whether they know it or not. We just need to keep making sure that people do know that they're getting screwed over, along with all their loved ones, and who's doing it.

Spite and righteous anger will honestly do a lot of the rest.

#hope #good news #hope posting #climate change #climate optimism #life #not news #advice #me #human nature #like. obviously this is imho. but also I'm genuinely convinced that I'm right #spite and anger are powerful motivators #there are scientists who argue that anger's whole evolutionary purpose #is to keep us from being screwed over #because that's so vital to our survival #and what's more vital to our survival than a liveable planet??? #channel your anger into action #do not let anyone tell you that optimism or being an activist or being part of a healthy community means never being angry #that is so so untrue #and if you find a way to channel your anger and pain and grief to do GOOD in the world #to help people #then that will also do a lot to stop your emotions from eating you up inside #hopepunk #anger #spite #optimism #hopeposting #humanity

[future-crab]

It's been said before, it will be said again, but it's still worth saying: the fact that art centering on straight romance is allowed to just be bad, but art with queer romance in it always has to be indicative of A Serious Problem With the Way We Tell Queer Stories makes being a queer person making queer art deeply stressful

#just saw smthing about red white and royal blue #and like i never watched/read that one so maybe everything ppl say about it is true #and i never watched heartbreaker or love simon so maybe those ones are also genuinely a sign of a serious problem #but idk. the fact that this happens every damn time makes me think that maybe queer stories are being held to different standards #and it's exhausting writing stuff while having a chorus of voices in the back of my head saying i'm misrepresenting my own identities and #making the whole community look bad by writing mediorcre romance #and knowing that even though i'm neither straight nor a girl there WILL be ppl calling me a straight girl fetishizing queer relationships #lgbt #queer community #writer stuff #idk what else to tag this #asexual #bisexual #nonbinary #venttag

[sanguineships]

seeing canon x canon art with your f/o in it and it’s really really cute and well done but it makes you so jealous you want to turn radioactive

#i really love the women he is shipped with i do. i do not hate them and i never could nor do i hate the ships themselves i’m just so jealou #when it’s him shipped with men i actually like seeing it cus i’m super insecure about being a gay guy in love w him lol #i just imagine him with my oc so much it makes me OooOiOioiOuiOiOuuoio #UGH. #UGH. UGH. UGH. UGH. YUGH. UGHHH. UGH. #self shipping #self ship #f/o community #self ship community #f/o #shipping #fictional other #selfship

[mew-sanctuary]

So about a year ago, I started this Mewtwo style study, drawing some of the babytwos from members of the amazing commewnity, as well as some other characters from artists I greatly enjoy. Kappa, as a kangaskhan fusion, has natural motherly instincts and attracts children.

I tried to keep the proportions and shapes as accurate as possible to study as many designs and details as possible.

Featuring in approximately left to right order:

Pigment from @xxtc-96xx

Marshmallow from @polteashop

Copper from @absolutedream-art

Nana from @dxzziie

Momo from @loupy-mongoose

Chilli from @penumbramewtwos

Twotwo from @whatifmw

Blu from @mewtwoandme

Dot from @oddestoddish

Novus from @mew-dump

Oddy from @phlurrii

Red from @pokemon-ash-aus

Pip from @blues-sues

Contrast from @paradoxiusblack

Mizuki from @secret-mewtwo

Matcha from @inaris-pokemon-world

Bingo from @askvekpa

#my art #I worked on this off and on for over a year #I never had a layout planned I just started drawing one character at a time #thank you tc for having so many useful pose references #it’s also a way to say thank you to all the amazing artists here. #commewnity #I think I’m figuring out my mewtwo style #but the variety of shapes and designs is amazing #though hands are still difficult #thank you all for letting me be part of this community #kappa mewtwo #Zed mew #Eevee #mewtwo #mew #tandamaus #togepi #sinistea #babytwos! #I was hoping to have this ready for Mother’s Day last year. #that obviously didn’t happen. #so happy Valentine’s Day

[p4nishers]

i just cant get over how desperate abed was in geothermal escapism. like the way he was practically begging for troy to understand. he never did that before. he wasn't ever desperate like THIS. not even once. he needed troy to understand that this wasn't his fault, that it wasn't intentional, that it wasn't manipulation. he never had to explain the way his brain worked to troy before. but this was different. troy was LEAVING him and he literally saw lava and had to kill his "real" self and be a clone bc he genuinely could not have let troy go otherwise. that whole ep is just screaming how troy is the most important person in abed's life and he cannot live without him unless he's not himself. and he knew that. and troy almost stayed bc that's how important abed is to him. god. just. GOD.

#the 'i dont want it to be there either i SWEAR' kills me. he SWEARS. he never said that to troy before bc he always KNEW but he SWEARS he #doesn't want it to be there and doesn't want to trap troy against his will and he SWEARS guys he SWEARS!!!! #also the way he SAYS hes crazy. like there's no doubt about it. and like he needs to say it to troy. what the FUCKKK #trobed #abed nadir #troy barnes #nbc community

[shywhumpauthor]

A Whumper with fire powers branding their Whumpee not just with their name or initials, but their handprints.

Two palms scarred against either side of Whumpee’s neck, fingers wrapping around their throat in a collar that can never be removed. Hands on their sides, just below their broken ribs, a touch that will never relent. Fingers wrapped around their wrists in shackles that won’t be unlocked. A handprint against their face, cupping their cheek that had already suffered so many punches. The small of their back. A single hand just between their shoulder blades. Dragging down their thighs.

Just. Branded handprints.

#this was what I dreamed about last night and I’m sad I woke up #if I do write that demon story (though I’m thinking more about it—I don’t really want to tie it in with religion #but like how else would I be able to have a demon set up? so maybe I’ll change the ideas a little bit. or I could just never give backstory #on anything and it won’t be a problem lmao) I’m definitely going to include this #whump #whumpblr #whump community #whump writing #its me coal #coal wrote something #whumpee #whumper #whump prompt #whump prompts #whump trope #whump tropes #whump ideas #whump idea #whump cw #whump inspo #whump inspiration #whump concept #demon whumper #villain whumper #pet whump #pet whumpee #whump dream #writing prompts #writing prompt

[redysetdare]

I'm an "AroAce Stereotype" I'm Romance averse/Repulsed> I'm Sex repulsed I'm non-partnering I hate the idea of marriage in all forms I don't want a QPR at all I'm loveless I'm someone who gets uncomfortable at sexual talk and sex jokes I'm someone who often has innuendos or sexual concept fly over my head. I'm someone who can't tell when someone is flirting with me I'm someone who can't pick up on romantic or sexual tension I'm someone who finds "shipping" to be annoying I'm someone who says "They just seem like friends to me" I'm someone who believed that attraction could be turned on or off I'm someone who can't make sense of romance at all and cant figure out what makes it different from every other relationship. I'm someone who thinks romance is stupid and sex is gross and I don't understand the big deal everyone makes about it I'm someone who never was upset to find out I was AroAce but rather relieved as I have a genuine fear of being stuck in a romantic relationship that i do not want. In all cases I am not an AroAce who can be considered "normal" by the standards of allo society.

I'm not just a stereotype for you to shit on. I'm not the reason aphobes are aphobic I'm not a problem that you need to erase and refute to be accepted by allos. I'm not an experience that you and ignore as "not really how aspec people are" just because You are not part of it. Stop leaving us behind. Stop throwing us under the bus. We deserve support too. We deserve to not be demonized and shunned because we're an "stereotype". We are not the problem. We are not a problem to be fixed. start fighting aphobes on their logic instead of trying to make up for our existence.

#text #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #mostly talking abt aroace experience because thats me #but this can go for other aspec identities too #aphobia #im just tired of other aspec people agreeing with the oppressors that certain experiences are wrong #and promising that THEY aren't like that THEY are normal and shouldn't be ridiculed #but never do anything to protect the rest of us from ridicule #because really they just want to protect their experience they dont care about the wider community #and it's frustrating #because we should all be supporting each other because thats how things get better #if we tell aphobes there are exceptions then suddenly all aspec people can become an exception #because they dont care about us being socially acceptable aspecs they care about us not being aspec period #they dont want us to exist because then they have to question their world view and that dont like doing that #so they'll play nice with the ones they can pretend are normal before they decide that you're not good enough either

[bugbuoyx]

One manifestation of anti-transmasculinity I see again and again, primarily in discussions about the existence/denial of anti-transmasculinity is the treatment of transmascs in the same way cis men treat feminists as hysterical women and rad/feminists treat men as ignorant beasts. Of course these really just echo each other in that the other is deemed lesser but it's really in the wording.

You do not, can not ever understand misogyny, you are just ignorant sluts vieing for attention, what happened to you wasn't that bad, you're exaggerating, it was just a joke, it doesn't matter, you deserved it, you're being dramatic, who cares, who cares, who cares. Just shut up already.

#transandrophobia #transphobia #anti-transmasculinity #almost all of these examples have double meanings #its a joke echoes the obvious but it also echoes about rape jokes irt men such as the classic prison soap #or how the rape of men in general is treated as a joke/deserved #of course r/a/d feminism is fucking horribly pervasive throughout tumblr/the queer community its. exhausting #it makes me just want to stop and never talk to other queer folks again how did it get like this? #tldr stop and question why you think someones opinion *of their own experiences* are worth less than your opinion

[5qui99l3draws]

cringe is dead, I made a fursona

#ocs #I guess? #fursona #sure. #listen I've been a vocal ally of the furry community for a good while now #the only reason I haven't posted a fursona sooner is that I never liked my attempts at drawing one #this still isn't anything special like I deffo did not go the sparkledog route #it's just me as a rat #but that's a comfortable and accurate enough representation of myself so ig it works #anyway. little break from the commissions today #I'm trying to get more comfortable just posting doodles without obsessing over details

[demonsandpieohmy]

Of all the conspiracy theories, jackles tapes, misha’s nda, the one thing that I will NEVER get over is this:

HE WAS THROWN THE WRONG FUCKING WAY. Unless they made Jensen bounce off the wall like a ping pong ball, there is no goddamn way this scene was not edited to death.

gif by @sunglassesmish

#yes I know the fandom covered this three years ago but I have never been satisfied #the cw is guilty of hate crimes against the queer community (me) #supernatural #destiel #spn #jensen ackles #misha collins #castiel #dean winchester #lilly rants