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jamesunderwater · 8 months

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Hi hello good evening, friendly reminder that identifying as asexual and/or aromantic does not mean the individual: has no sex drive; is never interested in romance; never desires romantic relationships; has never had and/or does not ever want to have sex; does not have fantasies nor masturbate; and so on..... but perhaps the most important reminder is: just because someone's relationship to sex and romance differs from societal expectations does not mean it is something to fix

thank you, carry on (:

#this is as much for me as anyone else btw #the self invalidation is real yall #asexual #acearo #aromantic #ace #aro #asexuality #aromanticism #acespec #arospec #charlie rants

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scholar-of-yemdresh · 14 days

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Hot take but the aggressive hardline separation of asexual and aromantic is actually EXTREMELY harmful to a lot of ace/aro people.

Angry rant under the cut

It's one to thing to go: "okay yes sometimes they go together but it's important to remember that for some people they can be different things and you can be one and not the other"

And go: "These are TOTALLY DIFFERENT 100 always separate there is no intersection EVER and if you DARE to be both then you have to piecemeal your identity to not uwu invalidate others(we do not care that we are invalidating you though lol) Don't you DARE ever experience them together you are CONFLATING"

It's like yall just want asexual to = alloromantic only and aromantic to = allosexual only.

You don't give a shit about aroaces, aces who aren't alloromantic but don't ID as aromantic or aros who aren't allosexual but don't ID as asexual.

The aspec community despises us. We get talked down to demanded to split our identities apart for your comfort. We can't exist in certain spaces because our presence there is a personal affront to allo-aspecs. Shout out to the alloaros that bitch about those disgusting aroaces just clogging up the aromantic tag ☺. Shout out to the alloaces who can still love and aren't totally heartless monsters 🥺.

Don't talk about ace shit in the aro tags, Don't talk about aro shit in the ace tags...what's that you're both? And can't neatly separate them and it brings you comfort to be able to discuss your whole orientation? SHUT THE FVCK UP YOU CONFLATING IGNORANT SHIT HEAD.

If you want to be in the aromantic community you have to leave your ace-ness at the door same for asexual community and disregarding your aromantism.

A personal example was an Aspec discord server I was in that had two media recs channels one for sex repulsed people and the other for romance repulsed. Now the issue came is that they didn't acknowledge someone could be both i.e both sex & romance repulsed/just looking for media that had neither sexual nor romantic content, what this lead too is that the romance free media channel was filled with graphic hookup erotica or sexually explicit songs and the sex free channel was just fade to black romance books 🙃...wonderful.

Or when polls/forms will ask you to pick your orientation but only things listed are het,gay,bi/pan yes even the ones made by aspecs, and what they actually mean is use the one that correlates to your romantic/sexual attraction...so fvck aroaces and non sam aces & aros?

And don't get me started on how you treat non sam aces & aros. You at least tolerate the self IDing aroaces, because they have the "curtesy" of separating themselves from the real proper aces & aros.(let's not question how many aroaces would prefer to just ID as just asexual or just aromantic but are forced into aroace identity because that would be "conflating" and they don't want to deal with the harassment).

"UwU don't say asexual when you actually mean aromantic" Some bitches don't use to SAM fvck off with allo-splaining my own sexuality to me.

It would be so much easier and save a lot of pain if yall just went : "asexual for some means no sexual attraction and it says nothing of your romantic attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally". And "aromantic for some means no romantic attraction and it says nothing of your sexual attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally" and "for some they are separated but others not so much as there isn't always a strict separation. Just be chill about it don't accuse people of being ignorant or conflating they know their identities better than you". But no ya chose violent aphobia instead.

But ultimately nobody cares because this shit is only harming the undesirable aces/aros the ones who are harmful stereotypes the ones that make you "look bad".

I know deep in my heart there are a lot of alloaces & alloaros that who would be happy if aroaces & non sam aces/aros didn't exist, there I said it. How can I not come to that conclusion when at every turn they shit on us. They talk about how the worst thing in the world is to be mistaken for one of us. That our representation is actively harmful.

A last parting spicy take it's either "asexulity and aromantism are full identities on their own and aren't modifiers" OR "actually neither asexual nor aromantic can stand on their own they need to be paired with another orientation and they actually are just modifiers" you can't have it both ways. 🤭

#asexual #aromanticism #aro #ace #non sam aro #aphobia #acephobia in the aro community #arophobia in the ace community #vent #i love how no matter what alloaces & alloaros can take a break from being aphobic to eachother and join forces where it really matters #being aphobic and hateful towards aroaces! I LOVE that aspec solidarity #the community also despises sex & romance repulsed aspecs but that's a rant for another day #also can we talk about how this has embolden full on allos to talk shit on aroaces??? excuse me???#when an allo bitch is talking down to you about how you're using asexual or aromantic wrong #bitch who the fvk are you? gtfo outta aspec spaces now interloper #aroace #non sam ace #I'm pissed so i might delete later lol #never forget the time on reddit i made a long post pleading with the community not to force the sam on all aces #and that non sam aces aren't ignorant or invalidating anyone and we should be shown grace and acceptance in the community #...only for an (allo?)ace to basically say it's my fault if people assume I'm alloace or accuse me of conflating if i ID as just ace #lol get bent #i just might start saying aces & alloaces/aros & alloaros #bc yall allo aspecs aren't the default ace/aro and it's time you learned that :)#you do not get to stomp over the “undesirables” and call it advocacy

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violottie · 19 days

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....ok, lets go over this one more motherfucking time....

"bi lesbians" and "mspec lesbians" are not a real thing

they're just self loathing (more than often white) bisexuals who would rather perpetuate lesbophobia, transphobia and biphobia rather than accepting their bisexuality

for fuck sake there is nothing wrong with being bisexual!!! there is nothing wrong with being attracted to men!!!! but yall will do ANYTHING and say ANYTHING to ensure you dont claim your bisexuality.

it is wrong to coopt an identity that has nothing to do with you just because you wanna be special and even more so because dont wanna grow up and heal your negative, bigotted and harmful mentality

(since you lot are so gung-ho about maintaining your harmful mindset, its no wonder you lot are also so fucking transphobic and transmisognistic too huh)

and while im here, "lesbian trans men" are not a thing either

for GODS SAKE men cannot be lesbians and lesbians are not EVER attracted to men. YES EVEN IF THE MAN IS TRANS. he's a fucking man!!!!!

THE MAN BEING TRANS DOESNT MAKE THEM ANY MORE OF A LESBIAN THAN A CIS MAN AND YET YOU IDIOTS WILL PRISS ABOUT ABOUT HOW NOBLE AND QUEER AND TRANS INCLUSIVE YOU ARE

youre not only being lesbophobic, YOU are invalidating that trans man's manhood by saying that BECAUSE he is trans, he can be a lesbian.

FUCKING THINK ABOUT THAT FOR TWO SECONDS YOI WORTHLESS NUMBSKULLS. AND YOU CALL US TERFS?!?!!! YOU ACCUSE US OF PEDALLING RADFEM IDEOLOGY?!?!!

god.... all this bullshit cropping up during lesbian visibility week makes we want blood istg. you lot piss me off. if i catch ANY OF YOU BELLENDS PUSHING THIS SHIT THIS WEEK I WILL CUT YOU DOWN MY FUCKING SELF

#lgbt #lesbian #lesbophobia #transphobia #biphobia #anti bi lesbian #anti mspec lesbian

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askmartyr · 3 months

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CURRENT ARC: arc 1//the beginning of the end

sparklecare martyr au is, as the name suggests, an au of sparklecare hospital. it mainly focuses on a 14yo wolf-rat hybrid named karko phonik doom, as they navigate their extremely religious household and find escapism through their friends on the internet. as of writing, it takes place in just the form of this blog, but there is a concrete storyline planned to take place.

this au will handle themes of trauma, specifically religious trauma, if the above summary didnt make that apparent.

more under cut...

extensive trigger list

religious trauma (extremist christianity, but on spinch)

bigotry (homophobia/transphobia/ableism/etc)

^ some characters will say slurs

grooming

victim blaming/dismissal/invalidation

abusive romantic relationships

abusive friendships

abusive parental figures

suicide/self harm

if you cannot handle any of that, do not engage with this au at all. it is your decision to read or not. you know your boundaries more than anybody else.

i dont want 13yos or younger engaging with this au either, sorry but i dont know if middle schoolers can handle this, plus yall annoying af </3

none of the official sparklecare/cometcare characters have any bearing on this au, nor will they appear on this blog, my ocs just so happen to live on spinch. karko being an emo rat and having the last name doom is canonically a coincidence, theyre basically a self insert so i wanted them to resemble my favorite comic character, but they have no real connection to nurse doom. some characters have heard of the hospital, but none of them have ever gone there.

universe information

the martyr au takes place in a small town in midalonowere named "southern eyesocket". its essentially the spinch equivalent of florida, theres rampant bigotry, creeps, and general danger for everyone that lives there. how fun! /s

southern eyesocket has a strong focus on organized religion, like a spinch version of christianity, which is also called christianity since i cant think of a creative name. all other religions should be assumed to go by their real life names too. the google definition of martyr is "a person who is killed because of their religious or other beliefs", hence the name.

clarifications

also, you are free to criticize this au. it is based on my trauma, like how sparklecare is based on kneebys trauma, but i do want to tell a good story so im always open to constructive, non-bigoted criticism. im fully aware im not immune to that, and if i couldnt handle that sorta thing then i wouldnt have made this blog in the first place.

list of characters that can be asked questions so far:

karko phonik doom

vivian inter sevcon

list of arcs will come later

main blog

@gothicwvlff

#cometcare au #sparklecare hospital #sparklecare martyr au

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miraculousalt · 2 years

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The way Marinette fans or jus general ml fans really will use feminist movements like #metoo or the uprising of female abuse victims speaking up against misogynistic prejudice they face an suffer under to explain why Marinette has every right to reject Chat Noir the way she does is all really great an progressive unril the very same people will 80% of the time then turn round an honest to God explain or even DEMAND that Marinette doesn NEED to stop hitting Adrien, tying him up or otherwise physically restrain or use him and doesn't NEED to ask for consent in anything including KISSING or other sexual activities (you people aren't even attempting to hold Marinette to somewhat of the same healthy standards you make sure Adrien never EVER gets to break, under no circumstances) - even when they are DEPICTED IN A LOVING Relationship - because "its nothing serious.", "she isn't actually hurting him", "he deserved it he annoyed her!" and "that's slapstick comedy, it's FUNNY" is outright one of the most disgusting double standards this fandom glorifies into all heavens.

The way people will show ZERO self-awareness of what they're doin and excusing here an that this is EXACTLY how our real society treats (domestic) violence against men by women would be almost hilarious hypocrisy to point out if it wasn actually as downright depressing as it truly is.

Don't bring feminist movements into the conversation regarding Chats behavior towards Ladybug when you straight up support the characterisation of Marinette Ladybug bein seemingly incapable of NOT physically violating her boyfriend/husband/partner who has suffered under excessive abuse for all his life the moment she sees him transformed (or evn worse as CIVILIANS). Because therefore his "protective suit" can be used to all max as justification as for why Marinette apparently isn being abusive or treatin him badly, including taking advantage of him and his non existent boundaries thanks to his abusive home and the established Ladynoir dynamic that sometimes hardly let's Chat be more than Ladybugs tool to use so she can look cool and strong.

Don't bring up feminist movements when yall think the appropriate way for Adrien to react when he made Marinette angry is submitting and cowering in fear bc you somehow have convinced yourself that boys and men (even the ones, or ESPECIALLY the ones, you are in a romantic relationship with) getting scared of you when you're in a bad mood is you being EMPOWERED instead of you actively refusing to stop being outright abusive.

Canon Marinette is a flawed person but in the end of the day that still remains in at least some sort of limitations to not cross every line, but FANON Marinette Ladybug? That's so fucking often a glorified domestic abuser yall romanticize in a relationship with an abuse victim. But sure. That's alright for you, cuz yall don't truly believe that women can be abusers of people they love once you LIKE them as "strong, empowered women". And men can't truly be abused by women bc they just "respectfully drink respect women juice" in each an every conflict they have cuz men NOT havin to follow a women's every dominatin lead or dare to even expect of HER to do better and stand accountable for her hurtful behavior n be TRUTHFUL is toxic for you people.

I feel so fucking sorry for every male domestic abuse victim of their female abuser, who had to endure their pain an suffering getting invalidated, spit on and even JUSTIFIED as a womans natural unproblematic right by this fandom bc yall are really out here not thinking twice about the horrible implications of making Marinette Ladybug "lovingly" physically assault Adrien Chat for girlboss points or shits n giggles at every turn. No matter how fucking unnecessarily violently executed or even entirely unwarranted in the first place. You just don't fucking care.

The way this fandom has Marinette physically and emotionally violate Adrien Chat however extreme and even unwarranted as she pleases and then you people have the nerve to romanticize that abusive shit by having Adrien be INTO THAT and LIKE IT in a loving relationship while he never once gets to defend himself - bc now that would glorify domestic abuse right? - is the most backwards and hypocritical "feminist" characterisation teh show has to offer but yall truly make it into glorified abuse bc "woman strooooong and in control, its PROGRESSIVE! 💅🏼He respects and admires her strength an authority, he doesn mind getting put in his place à bit rougher by her bc he supports her as the powerful woman leader she is 😌."

Even the Marinette fans who claim to feel for Adrien in his abuse (or even ADRIEN FANS) turn around and laugh at or completely write it off when Marinette gets characterized in Canon and ESPECIALLY in fanon to basically just violate, assault, humiliate, insult and dehumanizes her male love interest for her "empowerment". Because yall claim to be so feminist and progressive but it's so fucking obvious that you only care about how WOMEN can benefit the best from everything. You want revenge porn that's all.

Adrien, his abuse and male abuse victims of any kind are a mere afterthought for you (sometimes not even that) in the feminism you believe in and s4 made that so fucking clear. 95% of this "progressive" Fandom wouldn't hold a female abuser accountable for her actions, even if it were to save the male victims life, the moment the woman isn't a 1 dimensional, obvious monster. If a woman has ONE sympathetic emotion in her portrayal yall will excuse and justify her getting the male victim served to her obedient an perfect an pretty on a silver plate.

95% of the miraculous Fandom has lost their fucking right to claim they care about abuse victims, because no you fucking don't. Not when it's a man and the scenario is coincidentally layed out perfectly to have the woman benefit on every level from the man getting abused, neglected and taken advantage of to 17 hells. Then youll look for n max out every excuse an justification on every meta level available to belittle the disgusting treatment the men went through.

YOU don't give a FUCK about abuse victims and their life's and pain the moment they are male, and s4 has an still IS now in s5 having you publicly blog that into the open internet because THAT'S how little you truly think of male abuse victims. Miraculous is a girl power show, so you will not think twice about dehumanizing and victim blaming boys for woke and even TOXIC feminist points, cuz the last thing you would ever do is hold women girls to healthy standards too in their dynamics an relationships with men boys under a feminist narrative.

"Feminism" for you is an excuse and Marinette fans in s4 proofed that in every way possible.

#ladynoir critical #Ml salt #Ladynoir salt #Ml season 4 salt #Ml Fandom salt #Ml toxic feminism #Marinette fans couldn't care less about male abuse victims the moment they can benefit from it #Ml child abuse #Yall don't care about because Ladybug needs to be allowed to lovingly hit her future husband #Marinette salt #Just to be sure #Ml fanon salt #Stop romanticizing domestic abuse and violence just because it's a woman doing it #Are you even aware WHAT you are excusing and making into a progressive right for women in relationship??#Domestic abuse #That's what you are demanding to not be that big of a deal #Marinette fans are starting to turn into legit domestic abuse apologists for female abusers #And make it into progressive feminism #Do you have no shame of the harmful double standards you are supporting?

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doomsdayradio · 1 year

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I posted 8,612 times in 2022

That's 8,491 more posts than 2021!

846 posts created (10%)

7,766 posts reblogged (90%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

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@rozugold

@ghostly-tart

@hpdtsumiki

I tagged 8,592 of my posts in 2022

#reblog - 7,672 posts

#🧋 - 3,136 posts

#❓ - 1,311 posts

#stim tag - 1,178 posts

#words words words !! - 892 posts

#vent - 693 posts

#fav - 572 posts

#🧋🎵 - 486 posts

#music spin - 473 posts

#traumacore - 386 posts

Longest Tag: 137 characters

#last night i had a dream the earth split in half and the world was pretty much ending 🧍‍♂️🧍‍♂️🧍‍♂️ also smth smth the umbrella academy

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

its so bitterly funny to me that histrionic personality disorder, the disorder where the main thing is attention seeking behavior, gets so little attention/awareness surrounding it

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#4

do you ever wonder how many people who got sucked into narc abuse communities who were raised by "narcissistic" (abusive/toxic) parents actually have npd? npd is literally a trauma disorder 99% of the time, theres an extremely likely chance some of these people have npd but have been convinced they couldnt possibly because "if you think youre a narcissist, thats proof you arent." and obviously having npd/being a narcissist is a death sentence that means youre abusive /s. feels kinda anti-recovery ngl. 💀

177 notes - Posted July 20, 2022

#3

anyways i think we should be able to acknowledge the misogynistic roots of hysteria and how that relates to the history of histrionic personality disorder without completely discounting, dismissing, and invalidating people who actually have hpd and actually fucking struggle with the symptoms lmao

at the end of the day i literally still struggle with an intense need for attention and pretty much most, if not all, of the criteria for hpd 💀 this is my very real lived experience and struggle, claiming thats not real isnt fucking fair or right

have some fucking nuance, folks

200 notes - Posted August 13, 2022

#2

Parents will be like "You can't have DID your trauma wasn't that bad" my brother in christ you made the alters

297 notes - Posted March 11, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

btw happy diability pride month to people with personality disorders

happy disability pride month to people with ppd

happy disability pride month to people with szpd

happy disability pride month to people with stpd

happy disability pride month to people with aspd

happy disability pride month to people with bpd

happy disability pride month to people with hpd

happy disability pride month to people with npd

happy disability pride month to people with avpd

happy disability pride month to people with dpd

happy disability pride month to people with ocpd

happy disability pride month to people with pdnos

happy disability pride month to people with more than one personality disorder

ive seen a lot of people imply or out right say pds arent disabilities, and while some people with pds might not consider themselves disabled by it, its important to recognize and support those of us who do

so happy disbility pride month to yall <3

wether youre professionally dx or self dx, may your symptoms be manageable and the stigma burn o7

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ra-ra-rum-ma-ma · 2 years

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DID is not quirky, and it most certainly isn’t fun.

I’m not here to bash self-diagnosis.

What I am here to bash, though, is your tendency to portray this disorder as something that is controlled and that is playful and all rainbows. I don’t care how much hate I get for this, but the more I think on it the more I find myself realising that all of this is damaging and that your tendency to claim fictives on a whim, to exaggerate symptoms and not be honest about the ones you have got...

All of these are things that get back to mental health professionals and affect people like myself that are currently waiting for professional help and specialist care.

And before any of you claim I’m invalidating anyone - I’m not. I don’t care who has the disorder and who doesn’t. It’s none of my business.

The reason I am making this post is because my own Community Psychiatric Nurse gave me examples of yall’s bullshit as a reason why she’s hesitant in believing this disorder isn’t real.

I have been diagnosed with this disorder for five years. Five.

Stop it.

#dissociative identity disorder #DID #Traumagenic system

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michaelaftons · 5 years

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im just gonna rant in the tags bc im just. sick of being on every big s/elf sh/ipping blogs dni

#some minors rlly be out here putting things like 'if u age characters up to self ship dni' but then ship themselves with minors #like? yall really expect urself to drop ur f/o the minute u turn 18?#im an adult. not to be like 'theyre not real' bc so much as typing that makes me disgusted but #the characters dont age. you do. the whole world isnt black and white #in my head d/ib aged with me. ive had an ongoing and everchanging storyline going for years up in there #and it feels so shitty to see every goddamn blog on this hellsite invalidating that

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gh0st-patr0l · 3 years

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HOOOOO boy. So, Twitter found a new buzzword... and are calling out a bunch of youtubers/streamers as "industry plants".

Oh boy.

For those of you who somehow haven't heard, there's been a lot of drama online about a band called the Tramp Stamps, who have recently popped up trying to pose as a self-made, riot grrrl, punk-rock group. To make a long story short, people dug into everything and found out that they were actually put together and funded by a big label and are totally fake.

Which is fine, kinda funny, whatever. But the thing is, now a bunch of people who don't really know what they're talking about have found a word that sounds bad and can be used to talk shit about people, and it's getting thrown around like a fucking game of dodgeball.

So! Let's actually talk about this.

By definition, an "industry plant" is an artist of any kind who presents themselves as and pretends to be a 'homegrown', self-made creator, when in reality their career was started and funded by some bigger corporation.

What this an Industry Plant IS; The Tramp Stamps, who based their image and social media presence about being alt, garage-band punks, when in reality they're just a bunch of rich white girls backed by a label, wearing Dolls Kill and spewing gross, poser-ass garbage.

What an Industry Plant is NOT; An independent streamer who achieves a decent amount of success and signs on to a management group.

Because that's the thing- all this freaking out about "industry plants"? Is just folks doing research and finding out- gasp- a successful public personality and entertainer has a MANAGER??????

I don't know how to explain to yall that hiring someone to help you with your business and finances. Does not invalidate your career.

The difference between a "plant" and just,, a successful entertainer/artist is that a plant is selected, funded by, and has its image shaped by a brand, company, etc. If you only got funding and management after you're successful, you can't be a plant.

For example! Let's talk about a member of the MCYT community who has been Heavily accused in this spur of drama- Karl Jacobs.

Now, as far as I've seen, the main reason people seem to think he's a plant is that he works under a pretty big management agency, Night Media, and because he got his 'start' with Mr. Beast.

Really, I think this just shows that people don't really bother doing actual research into this stuff.

When Karl first started streaming, it wasn't under Karl Jacobs- and he didn't even stream minecraft. His first channel was "GamerBoyKarl", which he started in college, and he was primarily a Roblox streamer. Karl has talked about this period of his life several times- how he streamed every day, for hours, while working full time on a dual degree program. He's explained that after every stream he did, he would sit and watch back through the entire vod, taking notes to figure out what he did well and what he needed to improve on. He would come up with weird, crazy stunts to try to entertain and get more viewers, like snorting g-fuel when he got a sub or donation.

He did this for about four years and peaked at around 100 viewers.

Then, through a chance connection (I believe through his brother), he got a job offer at Mr. Beast. He quit school five weeks before his graduation and dropped his entire life to take the opportunity- and it was just as an editor. While editing there, again, he would take notes on the raw footage he was given to figure out patterns in the content, what jokes worked and what didn't, how much to talk or do, etc. so that when he finally got a chance to perform on camera, he could be as entertaining and efficient as possible.

And then he gradually became an on-camera personality, and then he met Dream and the others and started streaming again, and around that time he ended up signing on with Night Media, the same management group that Mr. Beast and Neeko are both signed under.

This, my friends, is not an industry plant.

Karl worked extremely hard to get to where he is, and his success is a mix of dedication and a few lucky breaks and connections. He isn't a put-together act, and he wasn't funded by some weird corporation to be a fucking MCYT streamer.

And that's my real problem with this- the fact that when you just accuse someone of being a plant because they have a manager, you're basically saying that they didn't do any work to get where they are. That they're fake, that they're a liar, and that they don't deserve the success that they have. It's really fucking insulting, especially when you're so blatantly wrong.

I went off on a bit of a tangent, but I guess my point here is- not everyone who has a manager is a corporate industry plant. Do research, actually learn what terms and words mean, and don't just throw around the twitter hot word of the day because it's fun to start shit.

Be smarter than that, folks. I know you can.

#dream smp #dsmp #karl jacobs #industry plants #tramp stamps #mr beast #twitch #mcyt #ghost.txt

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diamondcitydarlin · 2 years

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ok but i do not understand s*lki stans at all imagine being this excited about the 2nd season of a crap show just bc there will be more awkward forced chemistry couldnt be me tbh

Honestly at this point I guess I'm just glad someone other than MW is getting something out of this garbage, times are hard and if uh...this is what keeps your serotonin up let me not get in your way (though, maybe consider that other shows and media exist? that actually depict openly bisexual characters?). I do wish though that we didn't still go around and around in these attempts to morally justify every fictional thing we enjoy with real world ethics, because the worst of it for me are the olympian hurdles and stretches of logic that are done to try to explain to everyone else why they're not allowed to be creeped out by it, have issues with the way rumors of depictions of genderfluidity and bisexuality was funneled through the media mill in a very calculated way and this 'romance' was the pay off for that (as if this is supposed to be a fitting replacement for accurate representation of those things), the fact that Loki was basically unseated in his own namesake show by a character no one asked for and now has to be romantically tied to for some reason, etc etc etc. Like I wish it wasn't so difficult for us as fans in general to accept and acknowledge the flaws of a thing we like bc then we wouldn't have to invalidate each other for something that isn't real. Instead, we have at least a handful of posts popping up in the tags a few times every month, writing essays trying to justify a mediocre cishet yt man's lazy writing. That's gotta be the worst part of it for me, the overprotectiveness of this halfassed garbage written by someone who neither deserved the position nor gave a single shit about it at any point, someone who took his own self-insert yt male fantasy story and just search-and-replaced names to make a Marvel screenplay. This man does not deserve anyone's time and justifications, but at the end of the day that's what they're doing; justifying why this guy deserves to have gotten this position writing everything for Marvel now apparently while millions of talented people with different perspectives that would bring amazing ideas to the table are gridlocked out of the business entirely. Of course, this an ongoing, systemic issue with the MCU and not unique to this project, but the point stands.

But yeah I mean, if one is just enjoying themselves and can enjoy this show for what it is, more power to them I guess. Just wish it didn't have to involve blatantly ignoring valid arguments against it. Cause I mean like..."It's not selfcest or incest adjacent they're not the same person AT ALL ok she has blonde hair so" and then later "lol it would make sense for Loki to fall in love with himself tho haha funneee".

my brothers in christ, there is not enough depth or substance to this show to definitively conclude that it is not weird and that's because the writer didn't care if it was. he had an implausible fantasy powerplay love story to write, and he is under no obligation ever to justify himself in anything! it wasn't queer tho (for as much as yall keep squawking about bisexuality- see my argument that L*ki's line doesn't actually establish him as queer and S*lvie simply never is established as anything) so it's not 'weird' in the way capitalism cares about lol

#antisylki #dni if youre a stan wanting to debate this im not interested

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shinyphantomsalad · 3 years

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Back from hiatus + updates

Hey yall I'm back! I know the hiatus wasn't that long but I decided to cut it short from how long I previously had intended it to be because I finally came with terms with myself. I started to question my gender identity and my sexuality going from "am I lesbain" to "am I a trans guy" over and over and I have concluded that I am trans. There is no doubt about it. Ever since I was a child I always beloved I was a boy and I always thought I was one. I always viewed myself as a boy and I feel more than comfortable being referred to as a man. Previously in middle school I used to identify as a lesbain and I was outed in school which lead to me experiencing pretty harsh homophobia. Back then I thought I was just a butch lesbain so I dressed pretty masculine and for that I got called derogatory names, got pushed into girls locker rooms and some girl even tried to sexually assaulted in gym once. During the hiatus I started to ask myself am I really trans or am I just calling myself one because the word lesbain triggers me and by calling myself a straight man I'm just protecting myself. I ask my other trans friend who was 5 months on t about this and he said that no real lesbain has done this, if a real lesbain were to went through what I did she would still call herself a lesbain nonetheless. He also said that just because I used different lables in the past past doesn't mean I'm faking being something else right now. He helped me a lot along with other trans mutuals who also helped me come to my true trans self. Now that I'm finally back online i want to talk about something else. I realized that spreading an old very harmful ideology (truscum) was very wrong from me. Gotta be honest I mostly did it for nostalgia. During thr rough times in middle school I used kalvin garrah, flop accounts and lgbt discourse as my coping mechanism and considering I'm not not doing so good aswell right now I thought I could do the same thing to cope. I now realized that it was wrong and that I should find new ways to cope instead of arguing over who's more valid or not. So instead of making this a truscum/discourse blog I was thinking on remaking it into a trans journey art blog where I talk about my experiences and struggles as a trans guy. It would be a much better improved from my previous posts and it would be less problematic. I want to sincerely apologize to everyone that I have maybe hurt. I know that I mostly argued with terfs but I do realize that my introduction post has maybe invalidated some users. For that I am deeply sorry and I should have known better instead of forcing discourse in fandoms where people turn to for comfort. Those upset by my previous ignorant content don't have to forgive me if they don't wish so but for those who do please understand that I only did it out of ignorance and by blindness from nostalgia. I invite you to join on my new journey of positivity and trans acceptance. I want to move on from my truscum phase and finally mature as a trans person.

One more time, for all of those terfs who tried to convince me I was actually a lesbain and who misgendered me and called me a gi you are no longer welcomed here. I was a fool to think I can have civil debates with you people and possibly change your minds but all you guys do is purposely make fun of trans people by misgendering us and when we get angry you play the victim. Maybe if you guys just let trans women and trans femme people live their life freely from harrassment maybe you wouldn't have to whine about "mean" trans women calling you out on your transphobia. I'm so glad I had my trans friends to help me bring me back to my transness because I was literally about to start calling myself a lesbain (no offense lesbains) and maybe start listening to terf and radfen bs. Luckily I didn't fall to their trap.

Anyway if you have read through all of this thank you and have an awesome day 🏳️‍⚧️

#trans #transgender #ftm #mtf #truscum #tucute #trans discourse #trans guy #lgbt #lgbt discourse #terfs dni

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girldraki · 2 years

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ngl, ase discourdse is how we learned to curate our dash the hard way. we joined tumblr right before its peak began, and had were actually considering the label at the time. Then its started showing up, at first we did nothing because we were severely uneducated on most lgbt stuff, and later because we thought we were supposed to have multiple opininons on it and respect people even if we disagree.

As you can imagine, big mistake, not only was there frequent invalidation, but straight up hatred, which negative affected us. It actually began a spiral of psychological self harm where we would go to the tag to see what they said, even after realizing I was ace and didnt agree with them

eventually i decided to unfollow the most violent and upsetting ones, but it still hurt to see what the others reblogged so eventually i unfollowwed them too. I slowly purged them from my dash and learned to frequently searcg their blog before following.

the anti-mspc stuff has been really similar, so its caused a lot of those memories to resurface, as ive had to begin purging again, although im not that myself.

i gotta thank ya for being positive about it frequently, your blog has remained throught the years because of that, love yall(/parasocial)

(thank you for the search censors btw ^_^;)

honestly we had very similar experiences to you and it’s … basically why we stopped talking about ace disco?

like mod ided as ace by the time they started their first acc so we came down as inclus immediately but YEAH the whole… deeply unhealthy spiral of emotional self harm thing was a real issue, especially because ace disco was so fucking inescapable if you placed any importance on your aspec identity at all — like you put it in your bio or you tried to look in aspec related tags and you Would see it (we didn’t know about discord servers at the time.) , and also block didnt really work at that point and we constantly had Funnyman Squad on our dash

and. yeah we learned to block and unfollow and /search-ace /search-asexual and we also blocked j*hnny (lol) and our self harm tapered off now that we weren’t constantly stressed and… concurrent to this (1) the block started hiding people’s posts on your dash (2) people mostly shut up about asexuality? but anyway when the emspec stuff kicked in and we evaluated with a normal base stress level we were able to go ok yeah this is bad we’re not going to directly engage. so we haven’t lol and we have mostly been fine

#ask #anonymous #Sorry for getting heavy on you anon! we genuinely hadn’t thought about why we stopped the esh before we just knew we did #that being said i think we’re always gonna be a certain level of vocal about how bullshit exclusionism is because we’re just. Like That #long

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sleep-sounds-nice-rn · 3 years

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I mentioned my ed in front of one of my friends (I was talking about how I hated seventh grade since it was when my ed turned into actual eating disorder instead of just some disordered behaviors) and she went “omg how long did you go without eating for?” and she was genuinely concerned but like i’ve never been able to fast because of my family since they get really concerned if I dont eat breakfast or if I dont eat dinner with them, so instead I just restrict a lot at breakfast and lunch and in general have small meals. however this was just some free invalidation since now ofc my brain is like lol you don’t have real anorexia since you don’t fast- even though I would never think that about anyone else. it’s making me feel like shit so im gonna go ahead and say: no matter if you’re overweight, underweight, or normal weight, whether you binge super frequently or not a lot, whether you fast for multiple days or never, whether you exercise or not, whether you purge or not, whether you love or hate low cal, whether you bounce back and forth between recovery and relapse or if you’ve never tried recovery before, YOU ARE ALL VALID. EVERYONE WITH ANY EATING DISORDER IS EQUALLY WORTHY OF SELF LOVE AND CARE, AND EVERYONE DESERVES FOOD NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WEIGHT OR IF YOU BINGED YESTERDAY/EARLIER TODAY. DRINK SOME WATER, EAT SOMETHING IF YOU ARENT FEELING WELL, AND TRY YOUR BEST TO NOT BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF. I LOVE YALL AND PLEASE STAY SAFE.

#anorex #twed #ed challenge #anamia #eating disorer #anorexjc #ana #ed #anorexia #anorexik #4n40r3xi4 #4n4 #an0rexx #an0rex1c

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waporlock · 3 years

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So uhh. i feel like this has been stirring inside, poisoning my enjoyment of cr content, so i have to let this out. im sorry for joining in the ship wars, yall. so, i kinda rly want to enjoy Fjorester like most everyone else does? But the way Fjord has been acting in his feelings just. Feels... invalidating to Jester. Like he sees her as naive, as someone to protect, when, with due respect, I think Jester could be the most competent and self-sufficient member of their party. Like, how he actively tried to restrain her in the culmination of the Travelercon arc - when it was her commitment to Artagan, her actions, that redeemed him in the eyes of the Moonweaver. Or, how during the Blueberry Cupcake scene - where Jester was just brilliant, - Fjord still hesitated when she said it's alright (which I'm glad Jester pointed out - "don't you trust me, Fjord?"). It's like - yeah! Of course caring about your SO is important, but, like. At some point it seems like he doesn't trust her capabilities? Her judgement? And in trying to "protect" her, he infantilizes her. Like she's a child, when she's absolutely not. It wouldn't feel out of place to see him restraining her again - just like he implied during the confession. “For her own good”, yeah, sounds great, but. They're equals. But it often seems like Fjord doesn't seem them this way. In these actions, in these statements, it seems like he's okay with taking away Jester's agency.

Which perhaps wouldn't be a huge argument - after all, these are just the two biggest examples I can count off my head, and, while there are more, there must also be loads of examples of the opposite. But. The confession! Felt like the biggest offender? Asking if he can kiss her... and then doing so anyway, without receiving permission? And then just carrying on? And when the cast congratulated them, they were congratulating Travis, on overcoming his feelings about romancing someone in D&D. Which I found precious, from an ooc standpoint! Good for him! Join the nerd club, haha! But. How could a player, in this scenario, reject his character's feelings? It's almost like those scenarios where rejecting a hug, an advance, would be horrible bcs the peer pressure demands you to reciprocate. And the CR cast isn't infallible in this - they're also people, like, for example, Sam has voiced how Veth wouldn't return to her family because "he doesn't want to be the guy who leaves his characters" (from Talks, iirc). And while I can’t really use this as justification for their actions, or the lack thereof, bcs I don’t know them as people, it would be so easy to assume so in general. Social pressure can be real in many different ways, and it’s easy to see how it could be true this time as well. This disappoints me, and feels like a disservice for Jester's character, because, when it was clear that at least 3 of the party members have a crush on Jester... I felt it was so, so beautiful and wonderful how it was Jester's choice to act on her feelings! Not someone's elses - this isn't a dating sim, you guys, Jester is her own character, it's HER choice, HER agency. And in this confession scene Fjord took it away from her, and it. Just. I don't know. It feels icky in ways I can't really shake it off.

From one side, I'm holding out hope that Jester either revisits this issue, or affirms this ship by her own initiative. Jester deserves to make her own choices, on her own volition. Otherwise, idk, this legit feels awful. If there are any Fjorester shippers out there, please, I'm begging to be convinced. Otherwise this just feels sad and icky and disappointing :(

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littlebabycrybtch · 4 years

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tbh tumblr ‘activists’ and autism support on this website is just already such a fucking Joke like its a Travesty ive never been more disappointed with yall but beyond defending ‘cringe’ traits tbh we need to defend the more inconvenient symptoms too. the ones that are awkward, create conflict, require learning new things so you can stay vigilant and accommodate others, or require unlearning certain social responses as universally understood. like. im so fuckin tired of seeing you clowns make sarcastic shitposts and then when someone comes in with a response that takes it seriously you literally... have such little functioning braincells or sympathetic reasoning you dont take the Half of a second it would take to think abt responding like a normal human person that recognizes other humans around you. you gotta be condescending, you gotta fuck with them and confuse them more, you gotta be funny and entertain the masses and get those notes yes god. you HAVE to be that way in your mind, theres no other way, you cant imagine responding with a genuine solution to clear it up. bc nobody will like that. and bc its a contest. its always a contest. theyre not a person online talking to you, theyre an opportunity to clap back and be funnier for an audience that craves drama. so you exploit them for public mockery and KNOW how awful its going to be for that person, but how awesome it’ll be for you, so then you actually try to defend yourself even when you see the unnecessary harmful consequences.

“well they were rude! they should have asked for clarification!” okay when you bitches see an ‘i dont get it’ you do the same thing. you pull the exact same fuckin shit. if you get an ask about it begging you to answer privately, you post it with a reaction image. you give a “nobody tell them lol”, or an “its simple, [repeats absurd sarcastic statement again to be funny for nt ppl]”, or even a dismissive “keep scrolling then”, like. nah, its not about your huwt feewings by the mean ol abrasive autistics getting confused, theres flat out no way to win. if you get it you get it, if you dont fuck you. thats how it is. bc you arent educated and dont Want to be. you want your inside joke to be exclusive and you dont wanna Have to care abt autistic people ‘ruining’ it. truth is you probably just dont want autistic people talking to you at all because you dont want to have to put in the effort of developing accommodating communication skills. and thats not acceptable. the people you hurt by that get to call you the fuck out for that, to expect them not to is just dehumanizing and mindless. that mindset makes you selfish and immature. it makes your morals underdeveloped, it makes you lazy, it makes you brain rotted by ridding yourself of any visible humanity trying so hard to match that stupid fucking copied funnyman persona that doesnt mean shit in the real world. and it makes you a bad activist, if one at all.

its gross and its sad that these ppl claim activism when you literally. Just wanna be a clown. you wanna honk your lil clown shoes for your circus and pretend you’re a depthful good person underneath so you arent limited to the ‘funny’ people you find uncharming. you dont wanna attract just Any funnyman, you want the Fake Good Funny People, who will let you be gay and listen to weird indie music and support the people you feel comfy associating with, making You feel secure and free to do w/e you want, but only so long as they keep out the people you dont want to understand. thats not selflessly moralistic, its about your comfort, and other peoples comforts that will benefit you, its not ‘activism’, its not helping other unrelatable suffering groups feel that comfort. this shits a party to you. its abt collecting the people you simply Want around you, and dismissing anyone else at all costs, even when it means invalidating their struggles. you just want praise and relaxation. you want laffs and good noodle stars. its a pathetic display and you all need to get your ass beat in a parking lot by 5 autistics flapping against your bones until you become dust bc you dont get to disrespect the ppl your group tortured in abusive hospitals and murdered with eugenics, you just dont get to keep whining abt that. abt how hard it is for you to keep up. like. well. start with an ounce of effort even when its inconvenient for you, actually. start by condemning the r word the way you show you are capable of with other slurs, start by educating yourself on autism the way you show you are capable of with other groups, start by Not reblogging chains with obvious mockery of autism traits, start by not CREATING those chains. it is NOT asking too much of you to forsake a tiny bit of your sense of humor to support oppressed vulnerable groups you have power over. if you have a problem with that, again, you are not an activist, you’re basically a self trained entertainer. activism includes fighting ableism of all kinds.

#tw ableism/ / /

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fucknuggetmaguire · 4 years

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late night/early morning thoughts with yours truly (part 4?)

yall know what I think is kind of funny? and I might get hate for this but oh well i can just delete this is I need to. but I think its kind of funny how I question my identity like every day.

ok so some back story, over this quarantine I have discovered that I don't think I am cis (obviously look at my bio). but the scariest thing about it is that I am constantly terrified that I am just a "trans-trender" and that i "just came out for attention" or that I just think I'm non binary cause "its a trend". and I think its funny that i could be doing it for attention because its literally corona time so its not like there are many people who can give me attention (and I know the internet but I don't have a large following on any of my platforms so not really there either).

and the other part that terrifies me is that i don't think i have any dysphoria (this is where the hate is gonna come), or if i do its not a lot and I don't notice it. but I dont feel like I'm cis. and sometimes I want to bind but sometimes I don't. I don't feel like I'm cis but I'm so so scared to call my self any kind of trans for fear of getting hated on by so many other people in the lgbtq+ community, especially other trans folk.

I'm so worried all the time that my identity is invalid because I don't have all the "symptoms" of being trans. and sometines I feel better because some wonderful kind soul will say something that melts my fears away and I feel better for a while. it soothes me a little to feel that I fall under the non binary umbrella because there is now right way to be enby and just because my version of that is different than someone else's doesnt mean that mine isn't real or that mine is less valid than someone else's.

anyway thanks for reading my rant, also please don't hate on me.

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