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stellaluna33 · 3 days

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The way the phrase "Pick-Me Girl" has set us back DECADES, I'm not even kidding... Like, REALLY? We're deciding that if a "girl" doesn't conform enough to what "normal girls" do or like, the explanation is that she's doing it (or faking it, even!) to impress GUYS??? Wow, ok.

#Pick me girl #I cannot express how much I DESPISE this term #🙃#Tangentially related but did you know that pre-sex-scandal Oscar Wilde was popularly suspected #Of faking being 'not like other guys' to IMPRESS WOMEN?#Turns out he couldn't care less about impressing women! 🤪

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cynicalprude · 4 days

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PSA TO ALL THE PICK ME'S OUT THERE

Fuck you, I don't even feel sorry for you.

#feminism #misoginy #radical feminist safe #i hate men #radical feminists do interact #pick me girl #pearl davis

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dreamingawayyour1ife · 8 days

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there are other more important things in life

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pollswithnogoals · 2 months

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#my polls #polls #random polls #tumblr polls #a poll a day #vote #voting #dailyprompt #please vote #ghost #hunting #ipad #pick me girl #spoiled #would you rather #who would

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oasisr · 6 months

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When men neg you by putting down your talents, run. Things will not get better.

Even if you aren't good at something and are just a beginner, he should not be mocking you or bullying you for that.

I'm not a great singer or painter, but I enjoy singing and painting sometimes. My ex would mock me and tell me that he wanted to marry someone who could actually sing.

I gave him another chance after he hurt my feelings. He was good for a couple of weeks, and then went right back to mocking me and putting me down.

Just run. You are beautiful even if you aren't good at everything you try. You don't need someone to put you down and try to harm your self-worth.

You are worthy of someone who will treat you like you are a special and beautiful woman. Because you are.

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miasmultifandomdump · 6 months

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It annoys me how so much of modern discourse around female characters is, to be frank, misogyny repackaged as being progressive.

If a woman's strengths and interests are associated with being feminine, such as cooking or enjoying nice clothes or being kind and compassionate, the entire fandom jumps on her as stereotypical or weak. It's seen as cool to bash on "women's work", never mind that your average misogynist has been doing it for decades, hell, centuries, and the jobs that are mocked as women's work are actually pretty essential to humans surviving and thriving.

And then, of course, if a woman shows the slightest hint of nonconformity, the entire fandom jumps on her because "oh!! she's trying to be not like other girls!! she wants male attention so bad!!" It doesn't matter how she is to the other girls in her life, if she wears combat boots and listens to punk instead of Taylor Swift, she clearly hates every other woman ever according to certain parts of fandom. It couldn't be that she's neurodivergent or LGBT or hell, even just a tomboy, she has to hate every other girl on the planet. /sarcasm

AND JUST TO CLARIFY. These tropes can genuinely be negatively done. The traditionally feminine girl can be a weak character and the tomboy girl can be an ass. But when you're calling a girl a "pick me" just because she doesn't live up to your idea of what a woman should look like or what you think feminism is... congratulations. You've simply repackaged sexism and called it woke. And lots of girls who see this crap online are going to suffer for it but hey, it was never actually about them, so who cares, right? /sarcasm

Anyway, to all the girls reading this post, you go ahead and be who you want. Be a princess or a president or a pop singer or a punk rocker or hell, all of the above. You're not a "pick me" you're not a "handmaiden" you're not trying too hard to be "not like other girls". You are fine. Don't let pseudo-woke nonsense get to you. It's just white noise.

#and to all of you guys who are maybe younger just know. youll learn to drown it out #you might still roll your eyes and if you have anxiety like me you might still have bad days but. it gets better #you are worth so much more than worrying about people who refuse to give you good faith and their stupid judgements of you #fandom critique #feminism #female characters #strong female characters #pick me girl #pick me #handmaiden #nlog #not like other girls #all queued up with nowhere to go

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hadesoftheladies · 1 month

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i see your “did he pick you?” and raise you “he is comfortable watching violent porn and gore of women like you being brutally raped and beaten so him picking you would be less like pride and prejudice and more like ordering the meat he wanted from the butcher shop”

#radblr #feminism #pick me girl

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classycookiexo · 3 months

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#pick me girl #honestly

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theereina · 3 months

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The "Pick Me" archetype in women involves more than just the need for validation and acceptance from men. Let's talk about it!

They can want validation, acceptance, and attention from other women as well.

#pick me girl #pick me behavior

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wrathsofgrapes · 6 months

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Concours de Femmes: Our Dirty Secret

There's a particular facet of womanhood and girlhood that I find to be barely talked about, usually only briefly mentioned in feminist discourse - the competition between women, and beauty standards as a means to even be accepted by other women. I feel like "the competition" (as I will now be referring to it) takes up such a large space within women's lives, and I would argue even more so than the approval and acceptance of men, such a large space that we have barely known alternatives, or what the lack of the competition could look like.

Mainstream feminist discourse often centers around the general idea that "women do not do [xyz] to please men!" - often referring to makeup, cosmetic surgery, and other aesthetic rituals. In reality, in many instances, it genuinely is partially for men, but I will argue that it is mostly for the approval of other women. Women want other women to be jealous of them. Women are in a constant competition to be the most desirable, the most fuckable, and on top of it all, we are in a competition to see who can pretend as though we are not even aware of the mere existence of the competition, who can convince other women that they are the most -effortlessly- desirable and fuckable. Because if you fit a certain beauty standard that traditionally fits what is called the "male gaze", then you also fit in with other women that are in the same place in "the competition" as you.

Mainstream feminist discourse too often focuses on what we, feminists, can do about men, when we, women, are just as wounded by our patriarchal matrix and heteronormative delusions. It is rarely discussed that women will go through lengths of extreme aesthetic alterations (nose jobs, BBLs, lip injections, and whatever else is popular right now) not only to fit the male gaze and feel that euphoric rush of male approval, but also to be accepted by groups of women, to fit into the "pretty" group, for other women to perceive you as competitor. Because ironically, it happens quite often where the more you are seen as competition, the more the competition want to be friends with you. Society loves a group of pretty women. Think of the Kardashians, the Real Housewives, the appeal of sorority culture, and think about how reality shows about groups of pretty women are often solely based around the competition between each other. Because the truth is, we (as a whole) have been conditioned to find entertainment in a "catfight", we're all perverts, eyes and ears glued to the objectified gaggle of women claiming to be "best friends" as they jump through hoops to see who can be the most successful in fame, desirability, money, and often intellect as well. We secretly want them to fail; we have been trained to secretly want our own friends to fail as well.

In terms of desirability, I will speak on personal experience when I say that in adolescence into young adulthood, most girls do not actually want to have sex, especially not with the partners that they usually "choose" in adolescence (I use the term choose very loosely. I actually think young girls often get tricked into thinking they have full control in their choices). No, rather, they would like to be desirable, fuckable. Not only that, but they would especially like to tell their friends about how desirable they are via tales of sexual and romantic (mostly sexual) exploits with boys. Sexual gossip is a very important bonding factor in friendships between girls and young women, and I will argue that for some it is one of the largest reasons why many will partake in our current zeitgeist's soulless digitalized hookup culture.

In high school, I was fascinated and intrigued to hear about the sexual adventures of my girl friends, not only because I had none, but also because none of these stories were positive. They made me sick to my stomach. Stories of boys who refused protection, stories of boys who coerced girls into anal sex, stories of dry, painful penetration, stories of boys getting girls too drunk or stoned to consent. And the girls? Too often did they tell me these stories with a proud smile on their face, thinking that it was funny, not a big deal. I think when you're young you thirst for experience whether it is good or bad. You want stories. You want to be interesting. You're definitely more interesting than your prudish and awkward friend (me). They liked it when I freaked out about these stories. They would reassure me that it wasn't a big deal, as if they were telling me that I will experience it one day, because they think every girl does, and that's just how it is. They liked feeling older, more mature and more experienced than me. They liked when I pried them about their sexual experiences in detail. I only pried because I wondered if they'd get to a point where they really heard themselves, and the words they were saying to me. I don't think anyone's really having any great sex in high school, and everyone was trying to convince everyone else that they were having great sex.

I feel for these girls. I feel for my sixteen year old self that secretly envied these girls. I acted shocked to them as they told me of these traumatic events with a smile on their faces, having read Germaine Greer and De Beauvoir, trying to explain to them why they deserve to be treated better, and how male validation is not worth it. They simply thought I was a silly virgin who did not understand. I secretly wished to have just not thought about these things. Back then I thought things would be so much easier, simpler, if I just let myself be treated that way. I would feel more loved. I would feel closer to my friends. I'd have some really "fun" stories to tell. I felt alienated from my friends because I couldn't relate. Back then I convinced people around me that I was not so lonely. That I didn't see a point in relationships, that I was too busy to bother with them (busy with what?? Algebra 1? Who was I fooling...). That I wasn't so interested in sex. I wanted to act like I was above sex and love (or what high schoolers thought love was). I even identified as asexual and later, gay, for some of this time because I felt so alienated from the adolescent rehearsal of heterosexual sex and love.

But that doesn't mean that I was above an interest in boys - especially platonically. I think I have noticed (as well as perpetrated) women and girls not only competing for sexual and romantic desirability in the eyes of men, but also platonic desirability (which in reality is often just hidden sexual desire because straight men and women often cannot fathom of pure platonic relationships between each other). An example of this is women having a complex, often encouraged by men, that they are "one of the boys". Women saying things like "I just get along better with guys", feeling a sort of competition to see who can have the most male friends. Women can be guilty of valuing men and male friendships over women, just as men can. Men often don't view women as -full people-, and maybe, just maybe, many women subconsciously feel this way too.

Don't get me wrong, I am definitely still trying to shake out of being entrapped within the competition. I think we all are, especially recently. But it's hard when one is surrounded solely by people who are perpetuating the competition further, when one is trapped. I get that. This post is definitely not to bash other women and girls for perpetuating the competition in any way. I was and probably always will be entrapped in the competition in one way or another. We women are all traumatized, brainwashed to romanticize that trauma, and brainwashed to compete in who has more of it, because -trauma makes you interesting-. I think it's getting better, I really do, but that might also be my experience from the people I choose to surround myself with and love. Sometimes I find myself talking with a girl who I would not normally talk to, and find myself back in high school again, prudish as she is beaming with tragedy.

I think when women live in more privileged societies in terms of gender equality (I mean as in, women who are not forced into marriages, are able to access education, etc.), internalized misogyny is just as important of an issue to address as the everyday misogynies of men. It is too often that men pit women against each other, especially explicitly, and women will agree and be complicit to it. It starts with recognizing the misogynies. It starts with analyzing why you -really hate that girl you have never talked to-. It starts with recognizing the difference in how you act around men versus around women.

Simply saying empty phrases like "girl power!" and "women need to stick together!" means nothing when we merely have an illusion of power and unity in groups of women, because due to internalized misogyny and the competition, what should be a "safe space" is filled with re-enforcers of our own oppression. Women often don't even feel safe in groups of other women, because within every woman is a little misogynist speaking in our ear. It starts with the slow and painful killing of that prick, who has been with you since you learned to speak, and has controlled your speech ever since.

#feminist critique #feminism #divine feminine #intersectional feminism #misandry #radical feminism #radical feminist community #gender critical #male violence #pick me girl #misogny #my opinion #judith butler #andrea dworkin #germaine greer #simone de beauvoir #girlhood #womanhood #feminine rage

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annamack · 3 months

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Hey y’all ✌🏻❤️

#ted lasso #wally darling #taylor swift #star wars #across the spiderverse #mature woman #obey me shall we date #billie eilish #blond girl #girlblogging #daddy's good girl #pretty girls #mature lady #fortnite #call of duty #hook me up #pick me ass bitch #pick me girl

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anakintwinkletoes · 2 years

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✨ Christian Homeschooled Kid Aesthetic™ ✨

#homeschool #homeschooled kid #christian kid #growing up christian #growing up homeschooled #nostalgia #christian kid nostalgia #adventures in odyssey #andy griffith #chickfila #awana #abeka books #veggie tales #little house on the prairie #weird kid #pick me girl #not like other girls #evangelical aesthetic #only the real ones know

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aviamos · 23 days

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Some of us fans used to give Lute the pick-me-girl hcs when it's said she's loyal to her misogynistic leader, but seems like none of em have come true in the show, so I'm dumping some doodles of it fno

#hazbin hotel #hazbin exterminators #artists of tumblr #artists on tumblr #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin hotel lute #fanart #doodle #headcanon #hazbin art #hazbin fanart #lute #pick me girl #hazbin exorcists

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coffeeskulls · 7 months

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I feel so bad for "pick me" women.

Like, isn't that exhausting?

All the men you defend would walk right past you if you were in trouble or brush you off. Meaning you are doing double the workload.

Girl, they don't need defending, they don't even call out their male peers for assaulting or mocking of women.

#radfem #blessed to be lesbian #pick me girl #female separatism #misogyny

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iamdarthbader · 8 months

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Isn’t it something how the 2000’s were dominated by expectations for women to be beautiful and fashionable and feminine and thin and wear pink etc that over the course of the 2010’s we rebelled more and more against that to allow women to be something other than that prescribed image. Eventually it became almost shameful for women to present in a feminine way because that wasn’t feminist. Then the concept of internalized misogyny was introduced and it became feminist to be feminine while not being feminine enough or not loving femininity enough makes you a “pick me girl”. So we’ve ended up right back where we were with how women are expected to be but this time it’s packaged back to us as feminism.

Something something mainstream culture gets ahold of a feminist idea and turns it into a new expectation for how women should be instead of liberating women something something

#something something #time is a flat circle #feminism #pick me girl #pick me behavior #not like other girls #ramblings #ok to like comment reblog

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etheral-moon · 19 days

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Ladies and gentlemen, THE pick me. Should I explain or is it obvious? But I actually had sm fun hating on her with the all the girls. This girl is a bitch.

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