#negging

[sometiktoksarevalid]

#cc #negging

[oasisr]

When men neg you by putting down your talents, run. Things will not get better.

Even if you aren't good at something and are just a beginner, he should not be mocking you or bullying you for that.

I'm not a great singer or painter, but I enjoy singing and painting sometimes. My ex would mock me and tell me that he wanted to marry someone who could actually sing.

I gave him another chance after he hurt my feelings. He was good for a couple of weeks, and then went right back to mocking me and putting me down.

Just run. You are beautiful even if you aren't good at everything you try. You don't need someone to put you down and try to harm your self-worth.

You are worthy of someone who will treat you like you are a special and beautiful woman. Because you are.

#fds #female dating strategy #pick me #pick me girl #dating #dating advice #Christian woman #Christian dating #courtship #stay strong #narcissistic abuse #verbal abuse #manipulation #neg #negging #men #moids #scrotes #Christian man #courting #pro tip #relationships #ex boyfriend #ex #exes #artist #art #singing #painting #singer

[3eanuts]

December 30, 1955 — see The Complete Peanuts 1955-1958

#peanuts #comics #humor #existentialism #charlie brown #violet #negging #backhanded compliment #nice guy syndrome #friendzone #mediocrity

[mfred]

Some sales guy emailed me at work with "Hi mfred! Can you tell me who at your library manages web content?"

It's me. I'm the "Web Librarian". It's my job title. So this guy knew enough to get my (feminine-sounding, hard to spell) name right but not my job title?

I think I'm getting negged by a cold call.

#true story #negging #if my name wasnt feminine would he have asked for the person in charge? #work life balance

[aroaceconfessions]

So I just found out about "negging" and why did anyone think that'd be a good idea of getting a partner? Like seriously I need someone to explain this to me.

This whole environment of getting a romantic/sexual partner is the most mental gymnastics I've ever seen. Just how hard is it to be genuinely kind and compassionate to someone you like? Why do you have to automatically resort to manipulation tactics ffs

#manipulation #emotional manipulation #negging #toxic relationships #toxic people #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose

[highandwatchinganjme]

Just realized Denji and Mahito have pretty much the same relationship with their body and in-universe reaction to said relationship. That being repulsion and awe at their capabilities to deal with injury and damage.

So I’m just thinking that any crossover au fanfic or art would be missing out not having their interactions focus around this. With Mahito quickly honing in on this parallel and exploiting it to taunt and get under Denji’s skin.

Which could be extremely effective if Pochita is a curse in the shared universe, alternatively devil and curse are analogous. With Denji being a person given life by a curse possessing his body as opposed to a person who is possessed and caging a curse. So Denji is very self conscious and weak to attacks from that angle. Never corruption arc level, but definitely fucking with him as any good Chainsaw-Man fanfic must.

Either way, it could be this whole rivalry/relationship core to their interactions. Would make crossovers just that much better.

Suffice to say any Denji/Mahito smut must have negging at its core as it includes Mahito, but so many possibilities!

#jjk #chainsaw man #fanfic #writing tips #mahito #denji #negging #crossover #Mahito/Denji #Mahito x Denji #mmmmm Yaoi #is Mahito a trans alegory? #smut #curse pochita #curse-hybrid Denji #pochita is a kenjaku? #Denji = Geto #jujutsu kaisen

[elfwreck]

Anon again! I know you are probably busy and have other things to do (Haha..unlike me) I have no friends other than you. But the time It takes you to respond can be very hurtful sometimes. Honestly we haven’t really been talking recently, and I kind of considered blocking you, you know.

Can we honestly E-date? You always make me laugh, you literally make me a better person. I really enjoy every moment we spend together. My time has no value unless it is spent with you. I want to be your soulmate, I don’t think you ever realize how amazing you are sometimes. I love you, please date me. You seem so uninterested and it hecking kills me. I want to remove you but I care too much, I’m begging you to either love me or never contact me again. It hurts so much to say this because I need you by my side but I can’t handle the pain.

I suspect you are lying. I also suspect that you have (other) friends.

You are not my friend, or you would not be sending me an anon ask on Tumblr. I don't like anon asks. I occasionally turn them off. Having them on is a kind of experiment. People who are my friends, have other ways to contact me, and they use them.

If we haven't been talking recently (...Am I supposed to believe we have talked in the past?) that's because you haven't contacted me on a platform where I'm willing to chat. If you want to talk with me, why didn't you send a direct message?

You "considered blocking me" because I don't reply quickly? BUT YOU WANT TO BE MY SOULMATE? WTF? (Hey fandom folks; this is gaslighting - claiming there's a past relationship that doesn't exist, trying to make me feel guilty for anon's pain.) If I "seem uninterested" maybe that's because you're a stranger. There are over seven billion people on the planet that I'm not interested in.

"Love me or never contact me again?" How about I never contact you again, since, as noted, I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE. I mean. Maybe you are one of the people I used to chat with (...on another platform) and kind of drifted away. In which case... feel free to contact me there. Or here. With a name.

Honey, there is a good chance you are younger than my children. (How old am I? Let's go with, "the first video game I played was Pong. The first video game I enjoyed was Adventure on the Atari 2600.")

Hey folks... this is a fishing expedition. This is throwing around declarations of devotion mixed in with whining about pain mixed in with vague threats about "I'll leave if you don't acknowledge me."

Note how there is no mention whatsoever of *what* they supposedly like about me (other than "I make them laugh" - everyone wants to believe they're the one who can make people laugh), no mention of how long we've supposedly known each other, and no hint of their interests, personality, gender...

...All of which might have a chance of being effective, if it weren't anonymous. Maybe this was composed by an AI bot. Maybe this is That Asshole I argued with six months ago. Maybe this is someone trying to troll me, hoping to get some kind of "oh noes, please don't leave me! I don't want anyone to be in pain because I ignored them!" Maybe - not much chance, but maybe - this is someone who is sincere, shy, and tangled in their emotions. In which case: This is NOT the way to get respect, love, and support from the object of your affections.

I, however, have plenty of experience with "I will be so hurt if you won't [do the thing]." In which case, I look over the requirement for Doing The Thing, and decide if that's something I'm willing to do.

Do The Thing here seems to be... e-date this stranger? LOVE this stranger, or never contact them again? WTF? Be by their side?

Hey anon - how do you feel about the idea of being second spouse? Because I'm already very attached to the one I've got.

Overall, this is less emotionally compelling than the authors who say "Comments give me life! Please comment!"

#negging #is this yandere? this looks yandere-ish #gaslighting #anon asks

[shownomarcy]

My favorite part about Phantom of the Opera is when the Phantom makes a big loud entrance at a party and then proceeds to loudly neg his ex in a song in front of everyone.

#phantom of the opera #funny #random #musicals #musical theatre #masquerade #you can't tell me i'm wrong though #negging

[miiju86]

Patriarchic social engineering & propaganda. It's literally everywhere; an omnipresent influence - sometimes subtle, sometimes open and brutal. But it's always there. Constant conditioning and reinforcement of the wanted social class hierarchy. Keep your eyes open and always ask yourself - are these really my thoughts and feelings I'm getting from this.... or is it something else?

#androcentrism #androcracy #patriarchy #systemic misogyny #negging #social conditioning #social engineering #patriarchial propaganda #women are a class #male vs female socialization #female socialization #womens oppression #gender stereotypes #gender essentialism #abolish gender #sexism

[angeloftheodd]

🧨 Gauko Responds to Negging 🧨

Bibilian: Why don’t you turn back into your usual cute self?

Gauko: *breathes fire on him* 🔥 🔥 🔥

Dino Girl Gauko (2019) 🦖

Episode 7: Gauko’s Long Day ☠️

#dino girl gauko #gauko #naoko watanabe #anime #dinosaur #anime aesthetic #netflix #anime lover #negging #feminism #anime girl #otaku #otaku girl #otaku life #neg #anime freak #hormones #geek #geek girl #geek culture #dinosaurs #streaming #what im watching #bibilian

[thelastsaiyanprincess]

this is what i mean by negging btw

#negging #we do not condone emotional manipulation in ANY form on this blog 🤚🏽 #move around!

[artemisia-black]

To answer the anon who asked about negging (I accidentally deleted the ask).

While I'm not positioning myself as a font of wisdom, this is my experience dealing with some awful people.

Anyone who has had no meaningful contact with you but makes a disparaging comment, is often doing so for two main reasons. And by meaningful contact, I mean conversations on multiple occasions.

They are projecting something onto you - something about you triggers something in them or reminds them of someone/ a situation.

They want you to feel shame/guilt, and they can either use that to make you want to win their good opinion or manipulate you somehow. In the case of negging, this may take the form of backhanded compliments 'you are clever for a pretty woman,' or 'you are so brave to wear that.'

This is, of course, caveated with the context of the situation, but if you have just met someone and have had minimal polite conversation/interaction with them and they say something that seems to be designed to hurt/wound, be cautious with this person. Especially in a dating situation as there is an entire industry of pickup artist coaches, who train men to try and damage someone's self-esteem to make them more susceptible to 'seduction.' Also, try not to take these comments personally and see them as a power-play coming from a very insecure place.

Another caveat is that this is different to constructive feedback, which will never be a personal attack and will always offer a solution or be delivered in a caring way.

#artemisia gives advice #dating #negging

[oasisr]

I felt this voice inside me telling me that he wasn't the one for me. And, he kept negging me and referencing sexist podcasts about how men want to be with younger women who are more fertile (I'm a 29 year-old old cancer survivor with fertility issues).

I just feel like he doesn't think before he speaks at all. He also told me that he's a different person at work when he's working with other vulgar young men. And, he confessed to me that he sexually assaulted someone at work a few years ago.

This was supposed to be a good Christian man who talked about marriage and starting a family with me. But, he's been acting like a pick-up artist lately. And, I'm just done.

#toxic #narcissistic #narcissism #abuse #abusive relationship #neg #negging #Christian woman #tradfem #Christian #Christian man #verbal abuse #manipulation #breakup #christian #bible #christian woman

[solianapaeris]

One thing I cannot stand is men negging. It’s such a regressive and stunted trait and it’s always in the guise of getting attention from women who would otherwise not give them the time of day. They simply want attention or a reaction. They’re of the mind that any attention is better than none, so they try to harass, humiliate, or use tired and old PUA tactics that are manipulative simply because they are lame and don’t know how to properly address or approach women, or communicate properly. I always ignore/block them because you won’t get any feminine energy from me. I save that for men who are deserving of it 💕

#personal #quotes #negging #men #self awareness #manipulation #pick up artist #lame #stunted #regressive #growth #healing

[katruna]

#negging

[calipsan]

“You’re not the hottest girl in here, but you’re definitely in the top ten.” —Lasher

#lasher #mayfair witches #Anne rice #negging