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datingadviceonreddit · 2 hours ago
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Like the title says, does anyone notice their tone change without realizing it? Also, when someone is talking to you, can you sometimes tell they might be interested?Just something rattling around in my head. I am 25 M if that helps. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 3 hours ago
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I (28/M) just had a date with an awesome girl (25/F). She was just my type, and not only was she super intelligent but fun and easy to talk to. I met her on the street the other day, sparked up a conversation, and got her number.We met up for drinks and sat there for 2.5 hour conversing non-stop. She had mentioned at one point though she had just gotten out of a relationship 2 months ago.The conversation was going fantastic, lots in common, great topics were being discussed and maybe even one of the best dates I've ever been on. At one point I straight up said "Honestly, I never know how dates are going to go but you are actually really fun to talk to and very intelligent". She responded back with enthusiasm "Thanks! So are you! Youre a lot of fun and youre very emotionally mature". But then she did a complete 180 and said "I think we should pack this up though".I was slightly confused and asked "Pack up? As in end the date?" She said yes and proceeded to tell me that I was her first date since her breakup and because I met her on the street she was willing to give a man with that much confidence a chance. She said that she wanted to take things slow. I told her I completely understand and its whatever she is comfortable with. As we stood up and packed things up I did proceed to kiss we which she reciprocated and we made out. We walked for a bit but before we parted ways I straight up said "Look Im not entirely sure how to proceed here but Id like to see you again so Im going to text you". She said "Thats cool with me".Im slightly confused by this. I dont think I gave off needy or pushy-relationship vibes but it just seemed super abrupt how she ended it. Like one minute she was very into the date and then a complete 180. I think I'll message her in a couple dates trying to set up date number 2 but I wont be surprised if she rejects me. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 5 hours ago
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Im 19 and Ive never been asked out before. I know it’s probably a dumb thing to worry about so much but it’s really negatively affecting my self esteem. Its probably the biggest thing that makes me feel worse about myself. Its bothered me since middle school. Most of my friends and almost everyone I went to school with are either in relationships or get asked out pretty often and im the only one that never has, it makes me feel like theres something wrong with me. Some of my friends even get randomly approached and asked out in public. Ive never been flirted with before either. I hate listening to everyone around me talk about having someone be attracted to them and not being able to relate. I see so many posts from people talking about getting flirted with and it sounds so nice. I want to know what it’s like to feel wanted so bad. Is it normal to not have anyone show interest in you at this age? Am I doing something wrong? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 6 hours ago
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I’ve been going on my usual night walks and for some reason I’ll listen to my favourite bands, but they just start to remind me of when I first starting talking to my ex and stuff.It’s too listen to them now and not get chocked up, I was 18 back then and I’m 21 now, but holy shit does it hit me like a truck.Just thinking about how young I was and how she was my first everything and how I truly felt in love and everything was a new experience.I miss the mundane shit and how like our lived evolved together and how every month or season I can place a memory too, now if you look at my previous post our relationship was toxic as shit but I have such a hard time moving on.My ex was really beautiful appearance wise, I’m afraid I won’t see someone that beautiful again, like it sucks to say but it scares me that I won’t.Not that I’m looking for a relationship now but it’s like I’m not sure how I feel.I remember when covid first got bad and the lockdowns first started, I Couldn’t see her because her reservation was in lock down, when we finally decided we wanted to see each other I went fishing with her family, we went into the woods and made out and it was great.When we left, I had to hide in the trunk of their van, my ex laid beside me and I had her in my arms, it was pitch black outsideThe song drift away by doobie grey was on and thinking about makes me misty eyed because I’m my 21 years of life as short as it may be, it’s the best experience of my lifeThe girl that I’ve been hardcore crushing on and have talked too, I just found out has been dating someone elseThanks for reading my tedtalk via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 6 hours ago
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Will you still be open to date when you are looking for something serious? I said no to this guy I've been seeing for months. He said I'm over thinking and that he is dissappointed when i said we should end this. He also said he wants to continue seeing me and see how it goes but at the moment nothing serious. I'm just trying to guard my heart as i think I'm starting to fall for him. I told him that and he said not to worry. Like what is that supposed to mean? I know this must be the thousand post about this but please enlighten me reddit :( via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 7 hours ago
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I think maybe it’s because he’s a jerk. But maybe it’s because I give really good head. He said those were the best he ever received. Am I overthinking this? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 8 hours ago
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I am trying to write this best i can so please forgive if there is any mistake:Since casual dating is quite common now , how would girls react if a guy says to them that ,he doesn't want to rush sex , and wants to ensure that your attraction is based on actual attraction from character vs just looks and feeling horny??? Would you consider that as a rejection? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 8 hours ago
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2 years apart a girl rejected me. After 2 years she's tries to comeback with me as I have changed and improved a lot. Should I allow or shouldn't? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 8 hours ago
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Some unsolicited advice from a 25F. After seeing a romantic interest’s living situation for the first time, I always either like them more or less. I think the way people care for their homes says a lot about how they care for other aspects of their life. When I am at someone’s place for the first time and it’s clean, has real furniture, and shows effort in decor, maybe a plant or 2, I am floored (are my standards just that low? Maybe..). Their place doesn’t have to be big, or expensively furnished, it’s fine if they have roommates, etc. For me it’s not about money, but I like knowing I’m associating with a person who takes care of themselves and isn’t searching for somebody to do that for them. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 11 hours ago
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It doesnt matter you can get rejected no matter how tall you are, and for the right person it wont matter. Im 190 (around 6 2 in freedom units) and just yesterday a girl told me i was too short for her cause she was almost my height wearing heels. Dont get me wrong it still sucks getting rejected for a thing you cant change but its also kinda funny to me. Figured i share it here to cheer some people up. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 11 hours ago
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Im 22, Virgin and I have always been really bad at talking to girls, i just dont know what to talk with them about. Ive been on tinder for some time and when ever i do get a match i cant keep the conversation interesting.. How do I get better at this girl thing, because i really want a relationship soon. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 12 hours ago
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Intro:Hello Redditors! :) I've been reading this sub for quite some time now and decided to share my recent Tinder experience with you. I would really love to hear your honest opinion on everything that follows. But first, let's start off with a few words..About me:I'm a 26-year-old German guy with Russian roots based in Berlin. Moved here from South Germany three years ago to start my first job in Tech. Throughout the years, I found a handful of very close male and female friends and a lot of acquaintances to spend my free time with. To make things short: I enjoy life here in Berlin and I am proud to be part of this wonderful city.However, there's this little problem which really starts to bother me: Despite being a positive, communicative and fairly attractive guy (by far no model though), I struggle to get into a meaning relationship in this city. To be honest, I don't think there's a particular reason for that. I've met a lot of girls at social events, had flings here and there, but nothing ever lasted. Berliners might know what I'm talking about.. Since Corona made it nearly impossible to meet new people IRL, pretty much every single I know signed up at Tinder, Bumble, Hinge etc. So did I.Tinder Profile:As a quite tall and athletic guy (1.93m (6'4), 95kg (210 lbs), 13% BF) I initially thought it wouldn't be too hard to set up an appealing profile and get dates from Tinder. Since one of my friends is a semi-professional photographer, I asked him to take some pictures at serveral locations with different outfits. The results were great: All pictures were rated 8.0-8.9 at Photofeeler (n=50). Additionally, friends of mine took some pictures at various occasions in summer. Overall, I think I come across as a fun guy with an active lifestyle. :) No lowkey flex, no fancy locations, no shirtless pics etc. Finally, I set up my profile in September 2020, added a selection of pictures, a thoughtful short bio and started swiping. Shortly later, I purchased the Tinder Plus package. One thing in advance: I won't post my profile here for privacy reasons.Experience in Berlin (6 months):After the initial "noob boost" I've got a fairly good amount of likes and a few matches. So no reason for me to complain about Tinder! However, I felt like the girls I've matched with were less attractive in terms of looks than the girls I've met the traditional way. Nevertheless, I've set up dates with four girls the very first weeks and had some nice conversations. But again, I didn't feel overly attracted to them and so the dates went nowhere. Since I didn't feel like experiencing the same thing over and over again, I started to aim at the above-average profiles (Let's say 7+/10) which I was definitely attracted to. At this point, Tinder got really exhausting, if you know what I mean.. No matches for days and days, one-line responses, flaking etc. Pretty much everything that's reported on this sub. Superlikes didn't work for me at all. It's hard to give you figures here, but I guess I had a right-swipe-to-match-rate of approx. 0.5-1%. In six months I've managed to meet up with two girls who were quite attractive (one of them was Russian, haha). Both times we had a good date, but unfortunately things went nowhere again :(From my perspective, Tinder in Berlin is a huge waste of time. Sure, I was able to get dates, but it felt like a ridiculous hard process to get there. Despite being the largest dating platform by far, Tinder has a bad reputation in Germany when it comes to finding a meaningful relationship. And in my personal opinion, this is excatly how a lot of people act on there from the very start (at least in Berlin). The average profile quality (pictures, bio, overall vibe) makes it hard to believe that people actually want to meet someone off that platform. I know that attraction is highly subjective, but I felt like after a while no more "Oh Wow"-profiles showed up any more.In April 2021, Tinder offered the passport feature for free, which led to a very high amount of +9000km profiles in Berlin and made the overall experience even more annoying. Since I am of Russian origin, I decided to "escape" to my parents' old hometown St. Petersburg for this period. Last time I visited the city is eight years ago.Preparations:Actually, I didn't change my profile that much.. I simply translated my bio to Russian and added that I'm new in town ("moved here from Berlin") and would love to meet someone who shows me around. I am fluent in German, English and Russian, which I indicated by using flag emojis. Finally, I switched off the display of my actual distance, set my location to SPB and started swiping.Experience in St. Petersburg, RUS (5 days):This is where things really start to get emotional :D It's probably no news to you that Russian women are considered the most beautiful in the world. Jesus.. Tinder over there feels like swiping through an endless stream of models. I tend to say that a 7+/10 is pretty much the norm in St. Petersburg. I caught myself swiping right for several minutes. Soon after I started, the matches rolled in! To give you an impression of what happend the next few days, I attached a screenshot below:https://imgur.com/a/DHMBFC0[ Inbox after 5 days (left) and 15 days (right) ]More than 250 (!) matches in five days. Out of which 23 messaged me first (Update: 495/51 after 15 days). And as I stated before, all the girls are way above average. I'm not kidding, some of them look like Victoria's Secret models :D. They messaged not only the standard "привет" but also very kind and thoughtful openers. A lot of superlikes were successful. During that short experiment, my right-swipe-to-match-rate went up to approx. 10-15%. Matches just didn't stop rolling in. Is this heaven?What suprised me most is the fairly high quality of Tinder profiles in general. Of course, there are also bad ones, but in most cases, the photos are very appealing, the bios are filled out and Instagram is connected as well. Especially the bios are so much different than what I've seen in Berlin: Many introduce themselves quite openly, state their goals in life and what they value in a potential partner. Again, it's hard to generalize, but to me everything seemed much more focused on finding meaningful connections. "Looking for the one", "I believe in love" etc. is something you read quite often. Many also point out explicitly that they prefer meeting over endless texting.In summary, the whole experience blew my mind. How could this even be possible?Aftermath:Well to be honest.. after the initial ego boost, it really started to get addictive and to affect my well-being. FOMO hit me really hard and made me feel miserable. I felt like going to St. Petersburg asap and take advantage of all that. But I guess this is no surprise considering the sheer amount of hot girls who wanted to meet up. The next days, I spent a lot of time brooding about my recent experiences..Questions:Why is there, at least for me, such a tremendous difference in success when using Tinder in Berlin vs. St. Petersburg? What would you say are the main reasons for that? I'm really curious..Are there any expats who have experienced something similar in Russia?Do local Russians have an opinion on all that? What is Tinder like for you guys?Thank you very much for reading! :) Vielen Dank! Спасибо вам всем!tl;dr:Fairly handsome dude with Russian roots used Tinder in Berlin for half a year with little to no success. Switched location to St. Petersburg (Russia) for 5 days and got more than 250 matches with girls who look like models. Why?! via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 12 hours ago
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A little information, Im a brown guy born/raised in a white neighbourhood and have been "brainwashed" to think white girls are the "holy grail" and I always said to others and myself "i just prefer white girls, that's just my preference...blah blah blah" but I couldn't truly understand why im not attracted to any other race...until I asked myself this question.(ofcourse i will use myself as an example, but change the example to cater to you and your area)So here it is:Forget about money/news stories/time it takes....If you were able to just "move and start a new life" in Nigeria,Iran,India,or Japan..WOULD YOU STILL BE LOOKING FOR A WHITE WOMAN?Chances are..NO, no you wouldn't, what you would do is find the prettiest Nigerian,Iranian,Indian or Japanese woman...you wouldn't be looking for White girls, you might down right even forget they even exist....Conclusion:So I personally don't think anyone has a "preference" , I think we are just going for what's available.So hopefully this breaks you free of that "preference prison" and opens up your mind. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 13 hours ago
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So I've (F35) been talking to this guy (M38) I met online dating for a few weeks, we chat everyday and he calls me most, we were supposed to meet a week and a half ago but he got a contract that sent him to Europe for work 2 weeks. No problem we keep talking eventhough were in opposite timezones he wishes me gn when its his morning and we talk during his lunch. He asks me what I want him to bring back as a souvenir, I say candy lol. Well I wake up to his morning message saying he was thinking about me and bought me a present. Sends me a pic.. He bought me a $2000 Christian Dior purse! I'm so thrown, I've been very independent my whole life and never have received a gift like this. The most expensive thing my ex of 13yrs bought me was a $150 perfume I really wanted.I bring up that its too much and I want to take things slow. He says I deserve it and that life changes, so get used to it, get use to someone spoiling you. He says he's smitten by me and I make him really happy. Should this be a red flag? Guys is this weird? My friends say soak it up, its the karma I deserve and I'm just so confused by such a grand gesture. I have had a knack for fuckboys and men that need help, is this what normal guys wooing a women do? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 13 hours ago
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On this subreddit, I always see people claiming that men are much more visual and shallow than women. I don’t think this is particularly true.90% of the people that called me ugly to my face were women. I have never been walking down the street and a group of guys walk by and one gestures to me and laugh at me. I have literally had guys I didn’t know walk up to me and call me ugly while I was minding my own business. Women have done all of these things to me. Unprovoked, without me even making so much as prolonged eye contact with them, and they decided to shit on me for being ugly and black.I’ve also never met a woman so desperate that they’ll date a person they’re not attracted to. I seen tons of men come on this subreddit and other dating subs and say this exact thing.Men are nowhere near as shallow as people say we are. via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 14 hours ago
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The guy I’m dating is awesome but I HATE the way he kisses. It grosses me out so much cause he sticks his tongue in my mouth and I feel like he wants to eat my face, I feel no passion just disgust. I am attracted to him in every way just not kissing. I’m literally always pulling myself away when he tries to kiss me lmao. Should I just stop dating him because of this? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 14 hours ago
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Let's say a woman has done everything in her power to "up" her attractiveness level - fitness, diet, style, light makeup, etc.Is there anything ELSE she can do to attract quality men in social settings, dating apps, etc?There seems to be TONS of advice towards men in terms of physical AND personality, education, seduction, etc... I'm looking for advice for women that DOESN'T just involve appearence, but also involves personality, charm, seduction, etc.Basically what advice would you give to women (not just me specifically but women in general) on how to attract and keep a guy who might have other options? via /r/dating_advice
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datingadviceonreddit · 14 hours ago
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As a person who has been unable to attract anyone, and seeing the path it takes to get there, the bar is definitely not 'low'.Have a disciplined personality -Comedic yet serious, brave, vulnerable, and spontaneous yet planning. -Flirtacious and unyieldingly confident (if not from accomplishments, future accomplisments). -Knowledgable and 'kind', but not harmless. -Enjoys a wide variety of hobbies, some social. -Mysterious and 'interesting', passionate. -Take no offense to rejection. -Socially adept and mature, yet childish enough to have fun at random timesBe stable -Ambitious -Skilled in at least one subject -Car, solo place -Stable job or heading towards one. -Balance of risk-taking and conservative.Be Attractive -Fit (not necessarily buff, healthy) -Good sense of style/wardrobe. -That whole personality stuff.This is the baseline, no matter what anyone says. If you're just working on too many of those, your relationship will most likely fail, if you happen to get one. Some are lifelong journeys, or based on factors outside your control until much later in age. A good amount can be worked on though. The younger you begin this process, the better you are off.As a poor 20yo college student, and have done unfortunately little in his time outside of college, I have a lot to do (Played too much league during hs). I'm not asking for advice for myself, as I'm working towards these things. But I hate hearing about how you just being kind and not creepy is brought up as an actual point. Even if you do really believe that, most of your subconsciousness doesn't.Some people naturally have these, others attain them early. Others lose and gain them over time. Admittedly, many people do attain most of this. But it is more than it seems.Note: Does not apply for one night stands, or maybe even first dates. I do nor have much experience, but this is what people tell me to do; what they mean by 'work on yourself'. via /r/dating_advice
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xvannychan87x · 16 hours ago
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all these guys want a gamer girl gf but never try. make an effort. if you want a gamer girl, you gotta earn her. start stuffing your organs into the game and BECOME the game she plays! be cryptic and confusing, proclaim yourself dead! eat those who stand between you two! show dominance over others by bleeding onto their sneakers without experiencing any pain! us gamer girls love that shit!!!
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