#alter anger issues

[system-of-a-feather]

An important thing that I feel (at least in my experience) is often reinforced growing up in an abusive environment is that anger is only expressed and shown in one very loud and aggressive manner and that the only way it can exist and be expressed is in that very loud and aggressive manner when it is very much not the truth

Anger is not inherently an emotion that is unteathered, aggressive, or loud

Anger is not inherently anything beyond a feeling that stands to tell you that something is seen as unfair, unjust, or hurtful to you in some way or form. It can be hard to control, it can be very loud, it can be all consuming and it can be aggressive; but it can also be very very powerful and that in itself can be a good or bad thing depending on how well you can control and hone it

Growing up, either if you have been gaslit / emotionally abused / neglected to where only loud, uncontrollable anger was the only form / expression of anger that was acknowledge or if you were only exposed to forms of aggressive and loud anger and never exposed to any other versions, it can be easy to draw a false dichotomy between "hiding and silencing your anger" and "letting it free to go wild"

But both ends, more often than not, result in unhealthy and harmful results. Your anger is valid and still exists regardless of how or when it is expressed. It does not have to be loud, aggressive, and uncontrolled to be acknowledged and to be True Anger.

Learning to understand, listen, and communicate and compromise with your anger to get it to work WITH you rather than FOR you is a really important and fruitfull skill to develop as not only will it keep you from unintentionally hurting yourself and others in blinded fury, but you can also properly direct that powerful and intense anger into things that actually matter to you and build you and those around you up.

Anger doesn't have to be destructive to be anger. Anger can build the foundation for necessary change and be a mechanism of creation, but only when you are able to work with it rather than let it work you / work for you.

Make anger your friend and establish healthy communication with it, and it will take you far.

For the systems out there reading this, take it as an IFS approach or a literal system dynamics talk, it applies both ways.

#alter: xiv #anger #anger issues #trauma #ptsd #c-ptsd #system dynamics #on anger #actuallydid #dissociative identity disorder #emotional regulation

[violentdyke]

THIS BLOG IS 18+ ONLY.

About Me 💀

I am Ithe. They/It/He/She. Bodily 22. Persecutor alter and ex co-host. Previously dormant. Nonhuman, agender, and aromantic. I am averse to love.

This blog is my outlet. I am autistic, and psychotic. I have anger issues and volatile emotions. I often lack remorse, empathy, and compassion. I experience violent urges/fantasies and homicidal ideation. I am a suicide, abuse, and psych survivor. I am trying to become a better person.

I have no DNI. If I don't like you I will just block you.

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Something wicked this way comes.

#txt: transcribed #pinned #cluster b #psychotic #psychosis #paranoid #anger issues #bpd #npd #aspd #plural #persecutor #persecutor alter #system #agender #aromantic #homicidal #abuse survivor #ventblr #vent blog #mdni #minors dni #18+ only

[sm-002]

here's my SLSQ oc, alter! his pinterest is right over here. and go read @harlequinoccult's IF, SLAUGHTER☆SQUAD!!

#my art #oc: alter #slasher mcs #diversity win! the office intern chasing after you is transgender! #ALSO ALSO the song 'lawnmower man' by the kfc murder chicks & Voiddweller is his theme song btw. if you even care. #ok but fr tho #i haven't finalized his general *look* yet.. so 😔 here's this for now lol!! #as i said he works in a shitty office #he's trans + bi as hell #and he *totally* does not have any anger issues whatsoeverrr <3 #oh and if u saw the previous version of this #no u did not #slaughter squad #interactive fiction

[youredreamingofroo]

List 5 facts about a favorite sim of yours, and send this to simblrs whose sims you adore 🖤

thank you juney for this ask!!! I'm sorry for it being so late, been too lazy and wtv to answer it (and other asks) 🥲

Leo McNamara

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...Facts under the cut because it isn't a "list 5 facts" or some version of OC lore ask if I don't absolutely DUMP lore

1. Leo is Welsh with a sprinkle of Irish and Kyrgyz. His father is Welsh/Irish, and his mother is (also) Welsh/Kyrgyz- In terms of an accent, Leo has a mix of a Welsh and Irish accent, Welsh being moreso prominent. Leo changed his birth name just for ease of speech for others and doesn't really embrace his birth name which is Llŷr Mawr-rwyce-Kulov (First surname Welsh, second Kyrgyz - Mawr-rwyce is actually a very old Welsh surname and while it was insisted that his late ancestors change it to Maurice, they didn't falter and have kept it going, it seems Leo decided to break that stride however 🫡)- Leo has in fact legally changed his name and generally avoids telling people his birth name. Even though his first name was just chosen randomly, his last name is actually his father's mother's (so his grandma) maiden name (Her's was MacNamara, Leo went with a more... "modern"(?) spelling of the surname).

2. His hair is not naturally pink (duh), or should i say reddish-pink, whatever- anyways, he's naturally a strawberry blondie, and started actually dying his hair around 16 years old (his parents were pissed bc it was w/o permission), starting with a brown color and then didn't redye it for a couple years (17-20) and then for his 21st birthday, he got mega-drunk, made a stupid decision to dye his hair pink and has since stuck with pink, this continued decision stemmed from "just a stupid decision" to "I actually really love this color," this also was a sort of step out of his toxic masculinity that he struggled with for oh so long 🥲

3. To segway into this fact, i'm gonna stem off the last sentence from the prev fact- Leo grew up in a VERY toxic home, of which i won't go into detail to spare TWs and stuff 😪 and in that home, he was thrown into the swing of toxic masculinity and severe anger issues, his parents didn't gaf about his mental health or stability and never took him for therapy or anger management and was only financially able and mentally ready to start going to therapy around 19-20 years old. It was very effective for him, however his anger tends to seep through the cracks sometimes... (which MAY become evident later on in him and roo's little story)

4. Lots of hair talks it seems: Leo's hairstyle always changed, he never cared for his hair and was, surprisingly, fine with it being long (surprisingly just due to his Tox Masc), but his parents? Nope, they were reckless and would leave him with choppy haircuts and shitty buzzcuts, he would fight back but inevitably give up in these haircutting sessions. He still doesn't care about his hair length and lets it grow out, which you'll have seen in any Reo/Leo post :)

5. Leo is very awkward when it comes to flirting, he usually doesn't fumble his words but when it came to flirting, especially to Roo, it was like trying to speak while falling down a hill- In the early Reo posts (aka college days), you'll notice that Leo usually seems pretty... awkward or "uncomfortable"/anxious, which is true, he has a hard time throwing and receiving compliments, which if you paid attention to facial expressions, you'll notice that the Leo in Roo's dream is not awkward! Which was intentional, Roo imagined Leo to be very... not anxious and stutter-y, which of course isn't Leo's true character, but that's not to say Leo isn't a little bit poetic and a little romantic, he just has a hard time expressing it... :P

#gaahhhhh I love Leo. i... lowkey see a bit of myself in him in the anger issues department </3 #Him being Welsh and Irish+Kyrgyz was NOT an initial idea. I only recently decided he was gonna be welsh- #-when i was looking up names for Roo and Leo's duo #5th fact might end up being twisted and altered as i grow his character 🤔🤔 #Hiraeth : Leo #Hiraeth : Leo* #[ Hiraeth ] #oc facts #oc interview #my oc #yapping #circusjuney

[nightingaletrash]

Okay I think my first playthrough will be a Dark Urge Monk. I've still got to decide on the race and design, but I think I'll save that for launch day and play around in the CC until I like what I'm working with.

The Dark Urge just appeals to me so much, maybe its just where I'm at mentally or because of the characters I'm enjoying at this point in time, but the idea of someone wrestling with this inner darkness and the constant, draining battle against it... it'll either end with them finding people who help them control it and provide the support they need to keep it at bay OR it'll go pear-shaped and they'll be worse than ever :3

#bg3 #yes i am still thinking about Her #jinx literally altered my brain chemistry #like she's distinctly Not like the dark urge because she doesn’t have conflict over the things she does #she's Just Like That on her own. no dark impulses required just active choice #but its about the constant mental battle. the exhaustion the endlessness the never ending drain #and the way that it can actively ruin you and your relationships because you're constantly running on fumes #and the need to get it out so you can be free but you don’t know how to do that without making things Worse because no one ever taught you #believe it or not im actually in a pretty healthy mental space these days like im not in utter shambles #ive gotten good at recognising when things are getting bad and heading it off at the pass #but im still dealing with the fallout of years of trauma and mental illness so there's something strangely therapeutic #about exploring characters like jinx because while its not 1:1 my experience there's still kernels of me in there #depression. abandonment issues. paranoia. anger feeling trapped and unloveable #its all dialed up to 100 in jinx but theres bits and pieces of me in there and exploring that helps me come to terms with those pieces #oops this was supposed to be a bg3 post wasnt it lol

[iwillbreakyourfuckingskull]

im a silly (violent) little man just having goofy (murderous) ideas tihi :3

#tw violence #tw murder #did protector #cdd protector #protector alter #anger issues #angrycore #angercore #trauma survivor #abuse survivor #traumacore #levi.speaking #my.posts

[just-a-tiny-goldfish]

FINE ORELLIA WILL BE A FIGHTER INSTEAD OF A TACTICIAN THIS RUN 😩🤬

#it’s just that #she knows shes not the strongest it would make more sense for her to be a tactician #but but but #she’s got anger issues in retribution! #anger clouds judgement you get me???? #so she’s obvi not on her top game! #also the villain suit gives her a little ego(big ego🙄) so she doesn’t feel like she’s gotta ‘think’ as much #she’s not small and weak in her villain armor so obvi her thought process will alter #I love the idea of her getting pissed enough to punch someone without her armor on and then being like #I have made a mistake #that’s why I wish we could go from tactical to more physical

[malware-program]

Being a system is fun and all until the host and an alter have anger issues. They feed of each others angers and then they get put in the time out box

This is a call out post to Icarus (the host) and Akechi, calm the FUCK down /lh

- Akira

#dissociative identity disorder #did #system #fictive #naughty alters get put in the time out box #this is a call out post #anger issues

[eldritch-queern-magicat]

Just realized I have introjects of some of my family, mostly from my dad's side. One is in our inner mental ward because he oscillates between anger and self-loathing. And to be totally honest, I don't know how to handle his presence.

Turns out that when my cousin said that last thing to me about a year and a half ago, my actual introject of her screeched alongside me/whichever part was fronting at the time (I think we fused since then).

-Lilu 💎😺

#dissociative identity disorder #did system #did #alters #introjects #complicated family #family shit #personal shit #tw selfhate #anger issues

[causalitylinked]

STARTER CALL » @hhemeraa​​ — 𝕞𝕪𝕝𝕖𝕤 𝕚𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕖𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕪 𝕗𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕓𝕪 𝕒 𝕓𝕠𝕪 𝕨𝕙𝕠 𝕚𝕤𝕟'𝕥 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕖𝕖𝕞𝕤.

   At first, he’ll pause, allowing his astute eyes to study Myles, for something about him just seemed so familiar; in fact, Ryuto could’ve sworn he looked just like Adrianna, the socialite his parents were friends with... however, from what he recalled, the only son he really knew of was Jayson, so he couldn’t help being intrigued. Were they somehow related? Or was it just a coincidence they shared a resemblance?

    ...Either way, the moment their gaze met, he’s quick to force an affable enough smile along his lips to at least prevent Myles from figuring out he suspected anything. “Ah, my apologies for staring, sir. It’s just that I rarely get to see foreigners here, so I was merely curious to know where you were from,” Ryuto states in fluent English. Of course, he already guesses he was from America, but at the same time, he doesn’t tell him that.

     “If you have the time, could you please indulge me with a conversation? You see, I would very much appreciate the opportunity to practice more of my English around someone that looks so well-learned like you.”

#hhemeraa #█ ▓『 ✦ ⸂ •• THREAD — ⧼ o1: hhemeraa / ryuto and myles. ⧽ 』 #█ ▓『 ✦ ⸂ •• STARTER — ⧼ closed. ⧽ 』 #█ ▓『 ✦ ⸂ •• QUEUED — ⧼ because livi is a busy adult irl. ⧽ 』 #┕━ ❛ ❀. post tce2 »» ʀʏᴜᴛᴏ〡𝗶 𝗴𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗲 𝗶 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗱𝗱𝘆 𝗲𝘅𝗰𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗱𝗼𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿. #┕━ ❛ ❀. muse »» ʀʏᴜᴛᴏ ᴛꜱᴜᴋɪꜱʜɪᴍᴀ〡𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗶. #[ hopefully this is okay! and if not just let me know so i can alter it ] #[ ofc i could have thrown akira at you ] #[ because he canonically has ties with the underground/yakuza and has participated in illegal fighting matches ] #[ but i decided to give you someone who is a bit... nicer ] #[ because akira has anger issues and i feel like myles would not like him ] #[ due to the fact he's this very snarky aloof teenager who is INSANELY strong ] #[ therefore i held off on giving him (1) sassy lost child who would be very hard for him to kill ] #[ let alone get along with ]

[system-of-a-feather]

On Anger, Trauma and Recovery

I just got done piecing together a clearer image of an issue I've been struggling to paint a complete picture of and therapy had me talking about my relationship and shit with emotions and it got me thinking now about my relationship with my specific longest term and old favorite emotion - anger / annoyance and here is the thing about it.

Anger is not inherently evil, bad, or destructive. It's actually incredibly productive when handled right and it stems from a sense of self love / love and the knowledge that you or the thing you are angry for deserve better than what is being given; that something feels unfair and needs aren't being met and the feeling of anger is the driving force to right those wrongs. It is inherently a defensive and healing function and feeling, so it is incredibly important to not only accept and embrace your anger, but to hear it out entirely.

The issue with anger that then comes though is that often - when people are disordered or traumatized - a lot of the time this anger is un-honed, un-polished, directed openly, and handled with limited depth, internal personal understanding, and and insight to exactly what the anger is, where it is coming from, and why it is appearing the way it does. And that isn't to shun or say anyone is 'less than or bad' - anger is one of the most intense emotions for a lot of people and considering it is a back up response to feeling imposed upon, threatened, or taken advantage of it is very very easy to get caught up in a fight-flight that makes it hard to sit down and clearly listen to your anger. It's a hard skill to learn, and one I've been developing for a while.

But great strength, power, and maturity comes from being able to learn to not only hold, embrace, and take pride in your anger, but to also listen deeply to it, understand what it is trying to tell you, and polishing that anger into a blade to carve out the life you and those you care about deserve.

And so this might not apply to everyone because these are some notes from my own personal journey and effort in learning to understand how to listen to my anger better (and in this case, I mean literally MY anger, but it can apply to your local 'angry' part). I'm mainly sharing this cause I don't think I've seen any good posts or resources on a more structured way to approach anger that didn't sound like "uwu your anger is valid uwu" which I think turns off so many "angry" people / parts

Step 1: Learn to become aware and notice when and why you are angry; then learn to become okay with sitting with that anger and postponing the urge to do anything in the immediate response to it. Just sit with it and feel it, interact with it, think about it - but don't do anything to 'solve' the anger.

Tips: Try to find something that you can non-verbally and/or independently express through - music, art, venting to your pet, even exercise / martial arts if you can maintain connection with your anger. These sorts of things can help ease the urge to have to do something about it that tends to limit and end the "listening" portion and impedes in deeper understanding to it

Step 2: Once comfortable with sitting with anger, when you notice your anger, try to find a way to set some time aside to comfortably interact with yourself on the topic that makes you angry. Get some music that helps you think to yourself in a more open ended free flowing manner, lay down on a comfy bed, get some tea, set the vibes well and look the anger 'in the eyes' so to say and ask away.

Tips: Ask yourself why does [thing] make you mad? What is wrong with it? What do you feel like is unfair and needs to be changed? What need is being ignored / not met? Who / what is not being heard? What exactly is your anger upset about? Try to polish away the specific names and people of the immediate situation and try to understand the core fundamental needs of yourself. Is something about the situation making you feel not seen? Do you feel like your needs are going unnoticed? Do you feel like you are not being included? Do you not feel like you were given a fair chance? Why is this situation triggering such a feeling? Does this stem from a feeling in the past? Try to understand the deep connections threads that come together to make you feel this way.

Step 3: Once you get a feeling that you understand where this anger comes from (often in my experience it clicks with a but of an "ah, okay" feeling) resurvey your current situation. Compare your findings of what the meat of your anger is and what it wants changed to what your situation is. See then where you can best give your anger what it needs and what it wants to start to right the wrongs that it is feeling in a compassionate way to your anger / yourself. You may not be able to go to the extent that you wish, but the very least you can start to give your anger what it needs to be as intense and as aggressive.

Your anger doesn't deserve to have to be so loudly angry just to be heard.

Your anger should be able to show itself to you and for you to be able to hear it out and meet it's needs.

As a general skill of this is built anger doesn't leave and it doesn't become less present - because anger is important, anger is your friend and it's kept you alive and motivated you to love and stand up for yourself - but the built better relationship and ability to listen to said anger in a compassionate manner can become incredibly productive both in healing yourself and minimizing the damage of "anger issues", but also in fixing the environment around you that may be worsening your mental health and overall quality of life.

#alter: xiv #anger issues #anger #emotional regulation #healing #recovery #bpd #c-ptsd #ptsd #did #actuallydid #aspd #npd #ocpd #mental health #mental health recovery

[violentdyke]

I don't want to be evil. I don't want to be good. I just want to exist. I just want to be cared about.

#vent #txt: transcribed #persecutor alter #persecutor #anger issues #cluster b #cluster b personality disorder #violentdyke

[theskysungqueen]

i might be in the minority for this but. people saying that as a 14 year old they would have had a crush on zuko. i was 14 when i got really obsessed with the show and i crushed on aang. especially book 3 aang. aang in The Headband altered my brain chemistry. idk i like soft extroverted golden retriever boys who are fine w appearing more feminine and are gentle in nature, not angsty and volatile the way zuko is esp with his anger issues. and i think that's why i ship kataang not because "it's the canon ship ofc you do" but because katara herself is passionate and explosive and sometimes uptight, aang gets to balance that out with his bubbly, happy go lucky personality

#this is an OPINION #avatar the last airbender #atla #avatar #the last airbender #aang #katara #zuko #kataang

[karmaphone]

literally doing any sort of research into dissociative disorders is exhausting because a third of it's just describing the basics, a quarter is malicious misinformation or religious garnering, a third is It's Okay It Doesn't Mean You Have Multiple Personalities Haha, and the rest is incomprehensible

#like I'm trying to find out if this is dpdr did or osdd I don't need a general description of what dissociation is or what it can present as #I wanna know if what I'm experiencing falls into one category or the other or neither bc that's an option too #like I just wanna know man #is the memory loss due to long term lexapro use or is it dissociative amnesia? bc that's honestly where one of the biggest lines is drawn #between dpdr and did I mean. like if there's no amnesia it's probably dpdr but also I don't remember enough about my day to day to tell if I #have any sort of identity alteration #like I know I say I gained consciousness at 8 and anger feels like a whole separate thing that appears and disappears randomly and sometimes #controls the body if I'm dissociated enough but also other times I'm fine a completely normal person but then I'll look back on it later #like I said that? I did that?? that doesn't seem like me at all... but because of the memory issues I dunno! I dun fuckin no man and it's #fuckin with me!

[encodedkismet]

hey shout out to plurals with "frustrating" or "socially bad" traits.

plurals who seem indecisive, "hot and cold", disloyal, dishonest, etc. to others due to subtle switches, passive influence, being median, amnesia barriers, etc. between headmates with very different opinions, wants, and moods

plurals who have headmates with "scary" attributes/symptoms, like hallucinations, delusions, anger issues, hypersexuality, low/no empathy, selfishness, need for attention, etc. especially those afraid they're perpetuating the "evil alter" stereotype

plurals who never know who's fronting. especially those with memory barriers, those who struggle with feeling any sense(s) of personhood, and/or those who struggle to keep close bonds with people due to this

plurals who struggle with meltdowns, tantrums, outbursts, pathological demand avoidance, poor sense of social norms, and other tendencies/issues that make being social or just existing in public difficult

plurals with fluctuating sexualities and/or triggers that make it difficult to remain with a partner/partners (or to date in the first place)

plurals who infight in-system and have trouble making decisions without intense internal backlash

plurals who have trouble keeping self care (and may go out of the house dirty/disheveled) due to other mental illness or due to frequent fronters being unmotivated, forgetful, or having sensory issues or triggers that interfere with self care tasks

plurals whose "self defense" relies on people pleasing, avoiding stressors, getting overly defensive, or getting angrier than "reasonable"

i write a lot of this cause i need to hear it, and i figure others do too. you are loved, you are appreciated, you deserve to be a part of society, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be understood and given patience... you deserve to be able to create, love, heal, be respected, be treated like your own age, to lead, to have a voice, to feel safe.

#and even if none of that applies to you... you still deserve all that. i promise. #plural #plurality #endo safe #plural positivity #system #traumagenic

[iwillbreakyourfuckingskull]

When @firstnamelastname13948903 has a shitty opinion on social media

#yeah i have anger issues #but idk i think they should die actually (dont report me) #:))) #protector alter #cdd protector #did protector #did alter #cdd alter #tw death #tw death threats #anger issues #did memes #cdd memes #actuallycdd #actuallydid #actually cdd #actually did #levi.speaking #my.posts