#they dont THINK theyre being disrespectful

[rohirric-hunter]

Okay google, how to tell your coworkers who are talking about alzheimer's and dementia patients in an extremely disrespectful way that they need to shut the fuck up

#they dont THINK theyre being disrespectful #but they are #and ugh #i might go to my supervisor about it #describing their behavior as 'childish' is just awful #and while its fine to be scared of it. putting peoples struggles on blast to strangers they dont know #as examples of what you dont want to become #thats not okay #what is wrong with these people #theyre all just. so much more focused on how this effects them than anything else #obviously YOU are the person most negatively affected by your friend losing her memory #because youre the main character #shut the fuck up

[oflgtfol]

i think the whole discourse around whether or not cishet aro men are queer stems specifically from the idea of allo aros being hypersexual - and so the idea of an allo aro, specifically a straight aro man, draws to mind the idea of like, fuckboys, or sexist men who only view women as sex objects, etc. And that is likely why the idea of cishet aro men leaves such a bad taste in apparently so many peoples mouths

now, i’ve spoken before about how attraction =/= libido. i’ve mostly spoken about this in the context of being ace, where asexuals can still have a libido despite not experiencing sexual attraction. the confusion and conflation between attraction and behavior has been a huge source of frustration for me with regards to the popular idea of asexuality and how it has confused me on my path to figuring out my own sexual identity over the years

BUT. the idea holds true not only for aces who have high libidos - but also for allosexuals who have low libidos. the idea that to be allo aro is to immediately be some hypersexual fuckboy is just, so warped? just because you experience sexual attraction but not romantic attraction does not mean you immediately become some sexist pig who always needs your dick wet. like idk it’s just beyond fucking frustrating to see the way that people sexualize alloaros when they’re just - they’re just people. you would not assume what another person’s sex life or libido is if they were otherwise alloromantic allosexual, because your orientation describes the way you experience attraction, not your behavior and sex life, nor your libido. in the same way, being alloaro has literally nothing to do with what your actual libido is. so why are allo aros the exception? to try to divide the community and exclude them based on your assumption of their sex lives is just so fucked

#brot posts #aro tag #gonna get a bit TMI here. beware #i think im definitely acespec i dont know if im fully ace or not but im definitely acespec #and i dont care to define myself further than thst cuz its just gonna be frustrating for no reason #and the reason why i get so mad about the idea that aces inherently dont have sex #is that like - im acespec and i definitely have a libido of some kind #im still a virgin tho! like im not out here being some fuckboy #i just jerk off about it like jesus christ #like when you have this idea of alloaros in your head of being some hypersexual freaks with no boundaries and disrespectful of their #partners etc insert every fuckboy stereotype #its just - why are you assuming things about their sex lives and then deciding you dislike them based on your assumptions #1. how do you know theyre even having sex? all because theyre allosexual? #not all allosexuals have sex…? and not in a celibate way? #they could just jerk off about it and be perfectly content that way. same as me! #2. and even if they are having sex who give a shit? fwb exist you can easily have respectful consensual sex without romance #to assume otherwise is just…. #well dare i say it. its very sex negative. you have messed up ideas on sex if thats what you think

[puhpandas]

What's a FNAF theory you have (any piece of media) that has you like this?

🔪🔪🔪🙂🔫🔫🔫

that fnaf 4 is literally just a dream for Evan and is very straightforward and not hard to understand. evan is in a coma throughout nights 1-5 and relives the week up to his birthday but scarier before he dies (flatline in black void + medicine and iv line and flowers appearing on the table next to his bed during gameplay) and goes on to possess golden Freddy, which cassidy possesses later as well

apparently it's very hard to believe that fnaf 4 is as straightforward as it is and it makes no sense and is confusing and how are the animatronics called the nightmare animatronics real. guys let's make this game as confusing as possible with outlandish theories and then complain it's too hard to understand and doesnt fit into the story (it fully does.) this is why dittophobia ruined my life

#this might not seem that bad but ive seen sooo many people complain about fnaf 4 #and ENJOY dittophobia as an explanation #and also fully erase evan in saying that Michael is the player in fnaf 4 #pandas.txt #pandas talks #pandas asks #discourse #thoughts #me when people erase evan from the story as much as possible because michael being the protag of 4 games + bonus nights in some others #isnt enough apparently #its kinda disrespectful to my fave character so thats why i dont like it #i think these people remember when fnaf 4 first came out and flipped everything on its head #and still remember it that way #without thinking about how it fully makes sense now #but theyre still complaining about it

[maxellminidisc]

I hate people's like idk inherit disgust and mistrust of people with fetishes, especially pretty harmless ones rooted in partiallism, like say feet or armpits. Like as long as someone is respectful of your boundaries of not wanting to participate in their fetish and they're not being a pushy manipulative creep about it, the least you can do is spare them the cruel and unneeded humiliation, especially as a partner when someone is willing to open up about it during discussion on intimacy. Like idk sometimes it's sad seeing people just go "Ha! Point and laugh at the person into a body part that's not socially sexualized!"

#like i think the only reason foot fetishist get a bad rap is because theyre probably the most common #and so you have a higher likelihood of the occasional creep being really loud and unashamed about being disrespectful of peoples boundaries #but personally most people I've met with a thing for feet are chill and respect if you dont want to indulge them #and say when you do theyre very appreciative and kind about it #and no i dont think certain things should be considered fetishes or kinks but this is not about those things #that ARE genuinely harmful like age play and ilk of that kind...vile #personally i have a thing for noses that may or not be obvious lmao but if someone made fun of me for it I'd bite their face off....

[selfproclaimedunicorn]

Lord give me strength. Just had to (after sitting on it for a while) respond to a comment on my fic to tell someone I'm gonna be sympathetic to Alicent & have very different opinions on some of the characters (in the nicest & most diplomatic, "I am not addressing all of this" way possible) so they could make an informed decision on if they want to keep reading this absolute behemoth.

#personal #fic: sins of the father #'i hate Criston in every fic he is in' babe hasnt DONE anything in my fic #'luke is the only one who felt bad about what happened to Aemond' babe WHERE? #'yorick would be neutral in the war i think since you dont seem explicitly team black' #he would rhaenys to satan for a chance to kill daemon in cold blood #is team black so starved for nuanced fic #that they will ignore me not condemning alicent as an agent of the patriarchy/not writing nyra as a pop feminist #and sprinkling in Rhaenyra being so selfish & entitled she thinks she can own her boy cousin/play as ella's self insert in games #and being critical of corlys & viserys #JUST to have someone treat the velaryon siblings & aemma with respect & approach everyone with enough care to make them ACTUAL CHARACTERS? #bc i had kind of assumed i was pretty obviously green leaning with the whole #'fuck viserys & daemon. all my homiee hate viserys & daemon. i am going to disrespect them every time theyre here' #Lord #shame to see them go but they gotta know what they're getting in for later BEFORE we get there #bc i feel like if they can ignore it till its OBVIOUS (driftmark) then they'll have sunk too much time just to get slapped in the face with #'anyway stan alicent' #y'know?

[treesbian]

google do i have npd or am i genuinely just a better and smarter person than everyone around me

#talk tag #these bitches are INSANE. my godsister got offended that my halloween costume idea wasnt scary so it's disrespectful to her religion #which she literally can't define. girl choose a pantheon. what are u doing with these norse gods #PLUS acting like samhain is SOOO culturally relevant to you. what are you DOING #i dont think shes even celtic... whatever she can do what she wants. im not a cop #but EYE can think it's a little silly #sorry. im being a bitch im just a little mad and confused. #like how are u gonna go from drag queen frankenstein creature to the zulus would think its offensive if u said fgm is wrong #and the only anti-fgm zulu activists are those with a western education :/ #you are so. youre wrong youre stupid youre racist. what. #anyway. i love them i swear. but theyre genuinely dumb as rocks <3

[vantekoo]

have to rant/vague post ignore

#but why r u as a plus 30 yo a *insert rpf ship* supporter #just call yourself a shipper if u must #like the rest of us #embarrassing #like i already posted this on main but jikookers really think that jikook is an out couple or something #like they think they came out? or smth #the people claiming ’jungkook is literally gay’ in regards to the valid criticism of him perfoming at the world cup #im so sure those were jikookers actually #bc who are you to say that your fantasy as a fan is in any regard relevant to real world events #like actual matters that are about real peoples lives. like this is not an internet joke what the fuck #cringe as fuck how these people who are SO sure that jikook is real are like 30 year olds #i havent seen taekookers to the same extent like if theyre not like teens or younger they will admit that we dont know and probably never #will and like they are delusional just like me but also self aware #jikookers on tumblr are NOT self aware they live in an alternative reality for real #where jikook are an actual couple and they know this! they literally came out bc havent you seen gcf tokyo??? #like….girl #Being a jikooker apparently means being a supporter #while being a taekooker means being a shipper and is probably seen as disrespecting jungkook #for not accepting his relationship with jimin. I dont know how to tell you. theres as much ’proof’ of your lil ship as mine #and you dont know these guys! literally only know their personas and what they show us lol! or rather what hybe shows us #an ur 34. im sorry i cant get over it

[surrender-souls]

maybe i shouldve told someone other than the gossip besties that the art teacher when talking about her friends autistic kid and then promptly finding out im autistic and took offense with how she talked about them basically said ”not like that though”

#theres a difference between recognizing a persons need to be taken care of and completely disrespecting them. #she crossed that line. like i mentioned me being autistic and saying how low functioning isnt really used by us #and then she proceeded to explain how much this person cant do. i dont even know their name why would you tell #your whole art class that? its a total breach of privacy #i have never met them they had never given me permission to know that! i doubt they want you going around telling us that! #and she said it in a way that was definitely demeaning. i doubt she has this person as an actual person in her mind #and i dont think this was even a kid! like iirc theyre around our age! like fucking hell #this is one of many stupid bullshit things she has done that make me despise her. sad because art is my biggest passion #and to have a teacher who is a total… i dont know? would bigot fit? also her husband is a cop. #and she has a blue lives matter patch on her apron. i want to mention that half or more of our class were poc #shes also a huge harry potter fan. instant red flag she doesnt shut UP! about it. #she also said that in older art women were naked a lot because “their bodies were worshipped” #which is blatantly untrue and also confirms that she just. does not think of trans people. #which if she werent an hp fan i would take as just another stupid cis person moment but the deeper vibes are there #oh she also constantly points out how one of us always draws darker things while completely disregarding the reason she draws what she does #not all dark things are edgy im sure you know and talk to her enough to know the trauma she puts in this #i definitely have stuff on her that at the very least would get her in trouble. but i dont wanna go talking to departments #its hard for me i dont like talking to teachers and people i dont know… but maybe i could say something anonymously #my parents are fed up with her too for different reasons #i speak

[sacrificialmutt]

oh!

#┈ ✴ ﹙rambling﹚ #guess who got kicked from the groupchat bc ig i just dont make the fucking cut for their elite inner circle!!!! #meeeeee :33 i did :333 #happy april fools day to me! the biggest fucking fool #tonights big loser #not gonna get into details actually bc for once im sad and not mad and i need to take the time to relearn how to process that #ngl! doesnt feel good! #we ball i suppose #actually no i am kinda mad bc tell me why #this friend group thinks theyre so cute for all being so possessive over my bsf when SHES LITERALLY MY BSF ??? #they dont even live in this state like what! youve never met! #and im not possessive at all but it does rub me the wrong way when you try to call urself her bsf or exclude me from talking to her #like know ur place r u fucking serious?? #bestie lets it slide bc ohhh thats just how they are ohhh theyre joking ohhh i think its funny to watch them get jealous #i fucking dont! #its fucking disrespectful #bsf sending me screenshots from the game theyre all playing together #and i had no clue they were playing bc i was kicked from the gc and never received the call! #actually kinda so shady my bsf didnt say anything to me abt jt #like u send me a ss of the game ur playing ofc im gonna wanna play w yall but u didnt even ask #and my bsf who prides herself on the fact that she “tells me everything” didnt even think to #a) tell me i was kicked; b) tell me WHY i was kicked; or c) tell her friends i shouldnt be kicked ?? #like damn yall dont want me around so bad the least u could do is lmk #there was not a SOUND in the gc i was just kicked #liek ok thanks!

[alexiethepan]

Vent

#so at what point after asking my roommates not to bring the bigot back to the apartment #does it become too many times for me to ask and theyre just being disrespectful #because i thought we understood that i. dont. want. to be around homophobic/transphobic/misogynistic/ableist #like its not that hard #just dont have him over #hes been a piece of shit to everyone who lives here #i do not care if yall think hes funny #i do not care if you want to fuck him #he is not welcome here #we have queer trans disabled and poc here #we do not feel safe around him #i should not have to bring my goddamn keys into my room so that i know no one can unlock my door #i pay to live here #i just want to feel safe in the home i pay for #please just make him leave #block him on everything #why cant i just have a place i feel safe #i want him gone #i want to go to sleep without being afraid ill be hatecrimed #i have to work tomorrow im tired #i dont want to deal with this #alexie talks #rant #vent post

[wizardyke]

the worst shit ever as a trans person (deep hyperbole etc) is when you correct someone on yr pronouns and they hit you with "em" for the rest of the conversation. LIKE ?

#✂️ #imp its worse than being purposely thry #they themmed bc uts like thats not even out of the big 3 . you cant rven misgender me with your whole heart #you cannot be bothered to disrespect me in a way that doesnt give u deniable plausibility #and then theyd champion themselves as thee trans ally and say theyre learning so much #that whole griup was fun to talk to but im glad i dont really hang around them anymore . they werent particularly bad people #they just treated me as a little novelty who can do all their moral thinking for them ougrhdhdh

[livinahey]

Random astro obs bcs y not

Warning ⚠️ mentions of abuse and trauma

scorpio luminaries & luminaries aspect to pluto (especially harsh aspect) almost be always know when something/someone is gonna do no good to you. If they warn you ab something then just follow them. Bcs what they say is scarily often end up being true

Also, if from the first meet these natives STRONGLY dislike you even though you didnt do anything then yeah.... Youre the problem lol. No matter if youre everyone crush, everyone sweetheart, or whatever is that. Again, like I said before, they seems to always know when something/someone is not good

These natives can also scared of themselves bcs of this

I think we admire ppl who have our mars sign as their sun sign

Sag sun with water moon women makes the loyal partner 🥺🤧 be it business partner, in friendship, or as a lover. Don't leave them.

When you see mars square pluto native gets bad mood or even angry.... RUN

Bcs they can be so violent at that time and you dont want to see that

Same goes to cap moon 💀

Women with moon square bml (black moon lilith) always have the best glow ups ✨✨🤧 im so proud (and bit jealous lol) of you dear

Mercury in leo degrees (5, 17, 29) being sooooo charming. They be say "hi" only and you already weak(???) lol

Leo venus 🤝 cant go a day without boasting what they love, be it their hobbies, their job, their loved ones, their pet, or even the place where they live lol. So passionate

I'm not surprised if theyre the one that have many posts on their social media account

Ppl with big 6 at 6 degrees (virgo degree) can be seen as villain

Moon conjunct jupiter synastry: when the moon person getting humiliated/disrespect, the jupiter person be defending the moon person. Also, the moon person can have soft spot for the jupiter person

Natal aspects to sun i like are sun conjunct mars and sun-pluto any major aspects. The word "sexy" is literally made for them lol.

TW ABUSE

women with cap or cancer mars plsssss check again the man you choose to date or even marry. Bcs i often see these women end up experience being abused severely by their man in their relationship. Men often being intimidated by these women yet still wanna date them. These women do dating man that seems cool and amazing or even adorable person outside BUT UNFORTUNATELY it turns out that the man are the worst person ever. At worst case, the man's family dislike these women due to jealousy towards them. No matter how bad these women get treated by the man, the man's family will still defend the man and treated these women as if theyre the problem 💔

Also, these women can dealing with fucking crazy men that cannot accept being rejected by them atleast once in their life. Scary af

Gemini moon/mars are naturally funny without even trying ✋😭

Sag/pisces rising 🤝 always have ppl crushing over them and even become worshipping them

Libra rising are so beautiful and it seems unbelievable

Cancer rising and their terrible mood swing 🤕 yet still look like the most calm and unbothered person ever

Mercury-bml aspects culture is having what they say being questioned. And if they have sun-uranus aspects too then.... Good luck trying to understand them 🥴

Mercury-bml aspects is underrated funny placements imo. They be say questionable thing but idk i find it funny tho 😩

Scorpio rising and having traumatic experience/memories when they young that seems keep haunting them even until they become old :(

Also they often get disappointed by their family :( they can give all their family members a mountain of gold, being so kind to them to the point they forgetting their own needs and this scorpio rising still getting unappreciated & bad treatment. PLS APPRECIATE SCORPIO RISING IN UR LIFE !!❤‍🩹🫂 they are one of sincere people that often attracts evil eye that doesnt wanna see them being success

Whats with earth rising and having this disgusted/judging look 🥲

They can look at you normally and you will feel that theyre judging you even if they arent

Sag rising and leo rising 🤝 having beef with eachother

Same goes to taurus sun x gemini sun

Cap sun x virgo sun friendship be the weird yet funny pair

Every leo placement always have virgo placement in their life

They can have love-hate relationship with eachother tho lol.

And the same goes to every cap placement that always have aries placement in their life

You either love the opposite sex that has the same mars sign as you OR going "mehh" of them

Earth rising 🤝 secured financially. Maybe you never catched them worry ab not having money to save their life

Hey thank you for reading this so far!! I do these obs not bcs I wanna gain followers or what but bcs I found these things give me joy hehe ✌🏻 english isnt my first language so apologize for any grammar mistakes. be safe out there!! 🫂✨

#astrology #astro notes #astrology observations #astroblr #astrology placements #planets in astrology #scorpio #pluto astrology #mars astrology #sagittarius #water moon #black moon lilith #leo venus #synastry #moon conjunct jupiter #pisces rising #libra rising #uranus astrology #earth rising #gemini #capricorn #cancer #taurus #virgo #aries #natal chart

[aiteanngaelach]

ive been thinking about language a lot recently and doing a lot of studying of my irish grammar books and one thing that is always in the back of my mind no matter what is the grief over not being able to speak my own language, having to learn it in schools and at home, picking up a book in irish and feeling this unassailable choking frustration guilt and grief that i cant understand it at all. i can parse bits and pieces, stray words and phrases, but thats it. watching things on tg4 and not understanding a word and drowning in guilt over it. ive always felt this huge impenetrable wall in my mind separating me from from irish. and the prevailing attitude of most everyone i meet and talk to about irish is that yeah its sad that we got colonised and dont speak it anymore, but its dead and useless and redundant. the goverment puppets its corpse on roadsigns and documents and titles, paying lipservice to this unimaginable violence done to us as people that we cant speak our own language, but does nothing substantial that would actually help. is fearr gaeilge bhriste ná béarla cliste yeah but is there not a need for gaeilge cliste as well? this surrender to inability across the nation is such a disservice to the language and the people who speak it. im not talking about people not having perfect irish and still speaking it, of course not like i barely have any irish myself, im talking about the disrespect given to irish that it doesnt need to learnt and loved, only bastardized. my family have spoken english for a hundred years, irish for thousands of years before that, and even in that english, vestiges of irish have lingered in hiberno english form. irish hovers just out of reach for me, i surround myself with it through music poetry tv books, but i never am fully apart of it. and the thing is, something that im only just realising in recent years, is that (white) english people dont feel this! theyre not assaulted from a very young age by the knowledge this grief and inadequacy and the injustice done to their people. they dont even learn in schools about what they did to us! to every peoples across the world they colonized brutalised and exploited, every culture they massacred and did their very best to erase! they have the luxury of not caring! and thats incomprehensible to me, that people can live in this world free of the inherited grief of history, that they dont have to carry the weight of their families history on their shoulders, dont have to live with the fact that something intrinsic to them has been stolen! i have always felt like something was missing, and i cant even imagine living with a sense of wholeness, but for these colonisers that is their life! they dont have to face consequences for what theyve done to the world, they dont even have to remember! i wish i could speak irish, i wish i didnt have to know the ugly harsh syllables of this language. tá brón an domhain orm

#gaeilge #ireland #irish #colonisation #sorry this is really long and disorganised and incoherent #long post #im just so angry and frustrated and guilty all the time and it sucks!

[flowerflowerflo]

⋆° 𐙚 criticism ₊°⋆

𝟅𝟈 criticism

• the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes

𝟅𝟈 constructive criticism

• actionable, honest, clear, and beneficial feedback & advice

🩰𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICISM

simple answer? you don't.

you do not take criticism from anybody. nobody has the right to comment on you, your life and your actions because they aren't you, and nobody ever will be. they don't get a say.

say for example somebody has a problem with the way you dress or an interest you have. you think about it and get insecure or upset about it, and then you try to act differently. this is letting someone get to you all based on their opinions, their views, their life, their experience. not yours.

ml do not listen to a word anybody says about you. the way to deal with people if theyre trying to judge you, hurt you, mock you, ridicule you or anything else? you don't.

this is YOUR life, not theirs; everything we do is based off of what we've learnt, what we've been through, and so on. nothing gives them the right to judge you because they know nothing about you and they never will. you are the only one who really knows you and who will ever really know you, so the only one who has the right to judge you and comment on you is you.

🧸𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO DEAL WITH CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

despite the fact criticism & constructive criticism are two sides of the same coin, the two are very very different. unlike criticism, constructive criticism is something you should accept, acknowledge and actively encourage at every opportunity.

constructive criticism is very important to grow and learn as a person. even if external opinions are irrelevant, they can sometimes be helpful for personal growth and correcting mistakes and learning from them.

if you are somebody who gets offended very easily and find yourself in a position where you are being criticised, take a moment to puzzle out whether what they are saying is constructive or if its just them being shitty. if you can learn from it, its constructive. if it just hurts you, its not.

🐰𓂃 ࣪˖ HOW TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE

constructive criticism is often kinder and more of a suggestion than a judgement. it is often something you can change like fairly quick, like cleaning off your clothes or changing an answer in a test.

criticism is often phrased more harshly and isnt something you can change quickly, like your weight or personality etc.

all in all, dont take shit from anybody. listen and learn but an ounce of disrespect and you're gone. you're worth more than that babe 💓💖💞

#girlblogging #it girlism ୨𖹭୧ #wonyoungism #pink pilates princess #self care #it girl #self growth #thewizardliz #wonyoung motivation #self healing #self image #self improvement #self love #self concept #confidence #motivation #glow up era #that girl #it girl energy #law of assumption #loassumption #loa tumblr #loa blog #healing #mental health #mental health support #recovery #advice

[msperfect777]

big sister talks : chapter 1

1. being attached to someone means you lack self worth, self love, self value

have you ever liked someone or have been around someone who is hot and cold? one day they are nice and the next they treat you like trash? when theyre in a bad mood, it effects your mood too? it seems like however they feel, reflects your day? what about when they treat you bad and you notice it but you think about all their good qualities as an excuse to stick with them. you then get attached to them and try to find ways to make them feel better. seems to me you care more about how they feel than how you feel…

dont EVER disrespect yourself like that again. the moment someone shuts you down, you dip. do not chase, do not hold this person on a leash close to you. how dare you carry such low standards for yourself. you think bc this person is cute or nice sometimes or shows you the attention you crave that you have to make them change for you. no. you change. theres no way that you are so low that you allow and stick next to someone that disrespects you even the slightest. grow tf up and treat urself how you want to be treated. stand tf up and allow yourself to notice how amazing you are without this hot and cold person.

the reason you stick with them and try to change them is bc you think bc thats the first person who was ever nice to you, that you have to stay w them. hell no. the issue is that you have this person on a pedestal while you have yourself on the floor, looking up at the pedestal. BITCH U ARE THE PEDESTAL. stop allowing ppl to give you hot and cold attitudes bc thats embarrassing. i dont care about excuses… there is no excuse for disrespecting yourself like that.

recovery tips: you lack self worth and self love and you look at this person for a source of love and attention even when they treat u like shit. ive been there and it was hell. detach urself from this person immediately. they serve you nothing but shame. realize this is only happening bc thats what you allowed yourself to accept. you are not as low as you think. raise your standards and treat yourself with respect and show to others that thats how you will allow yourself to be treated: with respect and only that.

it will feel so bad at first when you detach from this person that you think you love but you will get used to it and you feel 20x better bc it makes u focus on yourself and only you. instead of wasting your time loving someone who doesnt love you the same way, you now will spend time loving someone who will treat you perfectly: aka yourself. dont get it twisted.

2. never go back to the ppl you left

nothing is more embarrassing then forgetting someone and after they give you one ounce of attention like one text message or something, you start thinking about allowing them back into your life…

YOU DONT NEED ANYONE. you think you do which is clearly false. how you gonna create space away from someone who treated you bad and then start sucking on them after they come back to you.

recovery tips: from now on, see yourself on top of the pedestal while others are looking up at you on the ground. not the other way around. treat yourself like royalty. dont ever chase someone youve worked so hard to stay away from. dont send no “hey” text or a smile in the hallway. dont tolerate no type of disrespect and never go back to those ways no matter what. remind yourself who the fuck you are. the motha fucking boss thats what.

i dont care if this person is your mother or a ex lover. no one should be treating you like trash and you should not suck up to them after they rush back into your arms. clearly they need you. u dont need them and you never did. remember that bitch.

3. never take other ppls words as final

someone insulted you and now their words are stuck in your head and youre hating urself for it. you see the insult as “final” or as the truth about you even though its not. im confused… are you here to please others and worry about the bullshit insecurities ppl project on you? or are you here to learn to love yourself and focus on urself and only urself?

ppl only talk shit for one or more of these 4 reasons:

they are jealous of you: there is something you have that they wish they had. this could be your ability to not give a fuck about what others think, or it could be the way you always get high marks at school, or the way you carry yourself, or the new shoes you bought the other day. im telling you right now, there will always be someone jealous of something you have even when u think u arent the type of person to make others jealous. grow the fuck up and realize you are not as low as you assume.

they are insecure in themselves and talking shit is only way they can feel better about themselves: there is literally nothing wrong with you, ppl just feel the need to be mean to others in order to cover up the fact that its them they hate, not you. most ppl also follow the crowd and are rude bc they think its “cool” or makes them feel better. why would a boss like you give a fuck about insecure losers?

when ppl go thro personal shit, its likely they are not in a good position to be nice w others but that doesnt mean u have to tolerate that. step away from ppl who treat u wrong but if its someone u care about who you know is going thro shit, support them and be there for them. make sure you are acknowledging the way they are treating you is wrong and make sure to let then know that you will be there for them, even if that means giving them space.

they have a crush on you… i know from personal experience that when someone has a crush on someone else and they dont want you to know, they will bully you and be rude so that you cant suspect anything. dont take rudeness seriously.

so when ppl talk shit, it most likely has nothing to do with you. dont take ppls insults seriously and as a final representation of yourself. im telling you no one goes to bed thinking about the insults they give you so why tf would u care? im being serious when i say no one cares about anyone to the point where they spend 24 hours insulting you and thinking bad about you. if they do, then thats an unhealthy obsession… yikes.. well it sounds like a them problem not a you problem.

recovery tips: let yourself remember that you are you. you are not going to grow up caring about ppls useless words or else you are a clown. dont be a clown and remind urself that you are the best person you know.

i notice that ppl can give you 100 compliments and one insult but you will focus and worry about that one insult. this is the ego’s desire for people pleasing and validation. stop and give yourself your own validation bc you get to decide how much you love yourself. treat yourself like you would treat a partner, a lover, a crush. take yourselves out on dates. do whatever you want to make yourself feel wanted bc waiting for others to do it is just wasting ur time when you can just do it yourself.

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my experience: i used to be the type of person who would suck up to ppl that treated me wrong bc i wanted their attention and validation. i think back on it now and realize i was just a little girl who needed love and i wonder how i didnt realize that the only person i needed love from was me and only me. its so much fun loving myself and not having to depend on others to do it and its so easy to get rid of ppl and let them go after they disrespect me. every time i think about it i feel so powerful. bc i dont allow any type of insults or rudeness to break me down. i deadass dont care who the person is or how close i am with them.. the second they treat me like trash, i will gladly leave. focus on building yourself up instead of being the one that allows you do be teared down.

© msperfect777

#self love #self care #self worth #self improvement #self healing

[b1mbodoll]

this is so insane.. first of all, i have an inbox that is completely full. im not purposely ignoring anyone it’s just hard to reply to every ask i receive. i’m not “gatekeeping” anything just bc i havent had time to reply. i literally posted at the beginning of the month that i’d be busy this month, and you’re a disgusting person for saying all of this.

if you were so curious and no one was responding, you can google it. that’s what i did, i didn’t go out of my way to make someone feel like shit because i felt entitled and rude.

pretending not to know my name when it’s pinned is so funny, like you’re seriously acting like this just bc you’re mad people are too busy to respond… again i’m sorry i didnt reply, it wasnt purposeful, but you’re so disrespectful and a terrible person for sending this.

next time you wanna act like a hardass come off fucking anon and say it with your chest. or are you too scared i’ll block you?

if you dont like me then block me or message me off anon so i can do it, weirdo. also thanks for bodyshaming! LOL ur a fucking weirdo ive never been more serious. fuck you, seriously.

i really dont give a fuck what you think about me and my anons 😭 hate to break it to you but you’re worse than me and my nonies!!!! theyre silly flirts but you’re just a weird, entitled coward. i can’t believe petnames and flirting make you this upset, it’s sad.

also “non valuable anons” … yeah ur odd! all of my nice anons mean so much to me. doesn’t matter how much they interact with me or whether or not they use an emoji -_- dont ever call my nonies “nonvaluable” just bc ur pressed over a color gradient.

it’s crazy that YOU of all people, are telling me to seek help. you came into my inbox bitching and being soso awful over something you couldve googled. i think ur the one that needs help, to be honest. bet it’ll be hard finding someone to help you fix that disgusting personality of yours.

#sorry for being rude but youre gross and weird and so rude #the fact that youre this upset over a COLOR GRADIENT…when you can google how to do it… #like i literally #googled it #use ur brain -_- rudeass