#system dating

[night-wyld-system]

Shoutout to singlets in relationships with systems!

Shout out to systems in relationships with singlets!

Shoutout to systems collectively dating their partner!

Shoutout to alters selectively dating their partner!

Shoutout to singlets dating one or a few alters!

Shoutout to singlets dating a system!

We see so much online about partner systems but not nearly as much about dating singlets as a system. It can be a bit of a mess at times, but as long as it's healthy it can be amazing! We absolutely love our partner and would do anything we could to see them smile! :D

Whether that relationship be platonic, romantic, queer platonic, sexual, non-sexual, or any flavor. You are valid af.

#dorian signoff #system stuff #positivity #plural #plurality #did #osdd #dissociative identity disorder #pro endo #endo safe #system dating

[misc-system-culture-is]

Large system dating a smaller system is “oh god please don’t try to memorize everything about us”

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#system culture is #large system culture is #system dating culture is #anon #plurality #actually plural #actuallyplural #plural system #pluralgang #system dating #large system

[midnight-soulless-system]

Going on a date with our sys partners today. Really excited. It's gonna be our first date!

Gonna go to an arcade and play a fuck ton of air hockey, and then we're going to go back to our house and cook some tacos.

#aroace #sys4sys #system dating #soulless speaks #i am so gay and so aroace its crazy #he's pan so I'll tag it as that ig #pansexual #bi aroace #actually aroace #aroace pride #yay :D #partnering aroace #hehehhehe #t4t #crip4crip #I'm so excited and we are so gay #oriented aroace #oriented aromantic asexual #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #because I am :D #sex-neutral #acespec #weee #aspec

[therainbowrollsystem]

6 physical ways to show affection in In-System Relationships!

Brought to you by Medic and Heavy, as well as some very helpful folks on Discord

#1: Partner Pillows

Have a pillow that's a similar size and shape to your partner's body type. Partner Pillows are a good way to cuddle with your sweetheart and have a better bodily connection with them.

#2: Transferring kisses

Try kissing the palm or the back of the body's hand and then pressing it against the body's face, similar to blowing kisses.

#3: Wearing sweaters

Wearing sweaters and clothes that are tight around the torso can give the feeling of a warm hug. It's even better if the sweater was bought as a gift.

#4: Mirror kisses

For deeper kisses, try using a little pocket/makeup mirror so you can see them when you kiss them, even if it's the body you're seeing. Alternatively, for fictives, you might be able to find a piece of merchandise of them (like a plush or poster) for you to kiss.

#5: Surprise them with things they like

For systems that don't overlap too much with consciousness and memories, try setting up a romantic gesture while your partner isn't in front so you can surprise them later (example: a basket of treats, or something they've wanted/needed to buy for a while).

#6: Sensory associations

Try having a sensory object (something with a particular scent, a fidget toy, a piece of cloth with a nice texture, ect.) and using it while you and your partner are being romantic, so you associate it with those experiences. It's nice to have a sensory association to remind you of your partner when you're upset.

#in system relationship #system dating #endo safe #pro endo #sysmeds dni #system #pluralgang #plural #plural system #actually plural

[tallymarksystem]

There can be a lot of complexities regarding dating and relationships when systems are involved. There can be a different post about that specifically, but it led to my current train of thought about an opinion I've seen bouncing around system spaces here and there.

I want to share my thoughts about people who are of the belief that different alters can't have relationships with different people, or that it doesn't make sense.

It is understood and established that different parts in a system can have different feelings about different situations and different people. For example, an alter who holds trauma memories regarding an abuser would most likely feel different about that person than an alter who doesn't have those memories.

It is also understood that different alters can have different preferences and opinions on things in general. This can be based on personal experience, it can be based on personality, or it can just be a general like or dislike that's not based on anything in particular. Different parts can feel differently about certain foods, certain music, etc.

So we know alters can have different feelings about different things, and these feelings can be separate and unrelated to the feelings of other parts in the same system. Why, then, could separate alters not experience attraction to separate people?

Example scenario: Alter A is attracted to Person 1 because of their caring nature. Alter B dislikes Person 1 because the way they show their care is similar to someone in the system's past who Alter A doesn't remember.

On the other hand, Alter B is attracted to Person 2 because they feel connected to them based on similar characteristics in personality. Alter A is indifferent towards Person 2 because they can't relate to them.

These separate emotions towards different people are very real. Assuming Person 1 and Person 2 both know about the other relationship and are open to it, what would be the reason for Alter A and Alter B not to have separate relationships?

As long as we acknowledge that different alters can have different feelings, it only makes sense to me that they can have different relationships with consenting parties.

#I would love to hear other systems' opinions on this subject /gen #did #did system #dissociative identity disorder #system #sysblr #system things #discussion #system dating #tally mark system #long post

[spirallingmoths]

I'm just curious. Also aspec systems in qprs, you can also fill this out, I just didn't know how to add that as another option

#🦇.txt #OSDD-1b #OSDD-1A #<- either or can respond to this #other specified dissociative disorder #DID #D.I.D #dissociative identity disorder #CDD system #sysblr #systemblr #system dating #?????????????????? #im so good at tags gillies #i was gonna say girlies but gillies works too #[📝]

[wearequantum]

Here is something that is so hard to achieve in just maladaptive daydreaming but really easy with a dissociative disorder (in my own experience):

When two alters in a system are dating or are otherwise really close, the feeling you get when you're both in the front, either hugging or snuggling or kissing or whatever, is unimaginable. You feel so completely...well, complete. I personally feel like warmth just envelopes me and I can sense my partner in every way: the way his lips feel on mine and how they taste, the feeling of his slightly coarse hair in my hands, the burning in my cheeks when I can see him staring at me.

Another giveaway is how sometimes, even when you're both really enjoying each other, one of us fades out of the front and you're suddenly left all alone again. I didn't decide for him to leave, I was really enjoying myself! But unlike daydreaming, it's not up to me; the dissociative barriers decide for me. That's a very important distinction.

Yet another glaring sign that I'm in fact actually a system and am definitely not "just daydreaming".

-🎸

#did system #actually did #actuallytraumagenic #system stuff #just system things #did memes #alter dating #system dating #headmate dating #i love my boyfriend sm ohmygod #quantum thoughts #🎸

[xenodelic]

Are there any terms out there for partner system? Just to be able to have a nice sounding word like "my ___" instead of "my partner system"

Especially would want a word that somehow indicates the complexity of "these two systems are, as collectives, partnered with each other, but individual members will each have their own individual relationship dynamics."

:P

#actuallyplural #plural pride #system stuff #plural system #multiple system #system dating

[asteroid-sysblog]

i love having partners that are also [DID] systems!! they understand what its like to have DID specifically and things that an ordinary singlet partner could never understand. our system partners are also ramcoa systems which makes them understand us more because, being a ramcoa system, an ordinary DID system couldnt really understand types of alters we have or experiences we’ve been through. i love having system partners :]

(we do have a singlet partner but he also has personality disorders and understands us in that way and he has other system partners so hes very good.)

#asteroid ☄️ #system partners #sys4sys #system dating #ramcoa system #did system #queer #bisexual #polyamorous

[xand3rsrants]

I love my partner so much, she's so pretty and sweet and I'm so lucky that they liked me back. I couldn't have found a better girlfriend and I'm literally the luckiest guy, I have won the lottery, I love her more then anything in the world

#did alter #system dating #love

[the-firefly-system1]

Wish me and Jasper didn't share a body. Makes me sad sometimes think about what would be like if he and I had separate bodies. Others knowing of our relationship seeing it as real relationship. Kissing him. Other stuff couples do. Cuddling while watching a movie. Sleeping same bed. Imagining driving in car with him, music blasting and singing along. Howling and barking together. Running through woods. Living in woods with no humans around. Sure can do some this in inner world but not the same. -Alex

#did system #did osdd #system vent #system dating #in system relationship #nonhuman alter

[silly-beetle-system]

How does one find a partner system when your socially anxious and are scared of joining discord servers because so many systems are so toxic, raaaaa how could this happen to meeee/ref

#partner system #system dating #endo safe #traumagenic system #vent

[our-inspire-verse]

That moment when you look innerworld at your two host-mates and just. Feel so so grateful to be able to have them... /romantic

#im literally so in love with them it hurts #kiba fronting #mitten #zim #depict mitten #zim fictive #in system relationship #syatem dating #system babbles #kiba #osdd #actually osdd #alter art #my alters #my art #headmates #osdd host #system stuff #system positivity #system dating #ghost #cat #wolf #irken

[artisticallygay]

How does dating someone in your own system work? /genq

Well...it's both hard and easy to explain? I think? I've never thought I'd ever have to explain actually, I've been staring at this ask for like a half-hour trying to get it into words sdhdfkhf

I mean it's basically like dating any other person, I guess? But it can get confusing at first glance because the relationship's all happening in one body. It can be hard to do "normal relationship" things but if you and the system have easy access to headspace it makes all that at least a bit easier, and some couples things can be modified to do outside of headspace

It honestly feels hard for me to explain but that's just because it feels...like a normal relationship for me. Though I'll admit, I felt really guilty about it for the longest time with my relationship with Klari and was in denial A LOT about my feelings in the first place because I felt guilty as the host since there can be power imbalances with that, but then Klari very quickly became the co-host so that possible power imbalance went away with that development, even though the guilt and denial still hung around for a while

It also helps that Klari and I are also in a relationship with @vu1ture-culture and @burning-faggot, our partner system and not just exclusively each other

As for the other relationship in my system, Patton and Janus, they uh, pretty much just formed married to each other and nobody questions it really sdhkjskfg

I hope that all explained it some? You're free to ask more specific questions if you like! I'm very bad when it comes to just generalized questions hjghjdkfh

#artsy speaks #artsy answers #anon #osddid #osdd system #osdd1b #system dating #osdd alter #osdd alters #ask #answer #text

[immemorial-marketeers]

feeling curious about something. alters who have a partner/partners in the system and a partner outside the system, or just multiple partners insys, would you consider yourself polyamorous or would you not? do you think it would be 'bad' in some way to consider either/both of these concepts polyamory? reasoning for your opinion?

wondering as an alter with a S/O outside the system but also multiple partners within it as well. i hesitate to call myself polyamorous strictly because of it, but i dont have bad feelings about anyone who does use the label for their system relationships and our S/O (also a system) said at one point he does consider what he has with us polyamory, so im wondering what other people's views are. -🌟

#osddid #did #system #osdd #alters #idk how to tag this lmao #system dating #?? #moonbow.txt

[system-dating-culture-is]

in-sys dating culture is "yeah eheh i have a boyfriend but you can't meet him hehe, he's uh... busy.. a lot, yeah!" to someone who doesnt know ur dating a headmate

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#submission #plural pride #plural things #plurality #system dating #system dating culture is #system stuff #endo safe #system positivity #pro endo #in system relationship