What should I do if I consistently have negative thoughts or criticisms toward others, and I really want to change that?
1. Self-compassion
First of all, please forgive yourself. Many view themselves negatively upon recognizing their own critical thoughts. However, your desire to improve indicates that deep within, you possess kindness and love. Your mind has just developed certain habitual thought patterns, but these patterns can be altered.
2. Identify the Root Causes
Negative thought patterns can stem from various causes. Perhaps someone has projected their malicious thoughts and emotions, such as jealousy, onto you. Consequently, this negative energy might attract similar thoughts to your mind. You might also feel a sense of inadequacy, leading to negative emotions that generate unhealthy thoughts. Past experiences, such as traumas and excessive criticism during childhood, could also create deep-seated patterns. You can identify the root causes by paying attention to your triggers. What scenarios and individuals evoke the most negativity? What aspects of them irritate you? What exact emotions and thoughts go through your head? Delving into these triggers can help you trace back to the root of the issue.
3. Embrace and Release
After you have dug out the root causes, experience the emotions that come from them. It may be useful to find meanings in them to facilitate your recovery. Afterward, tell yourself that you have grown from this experience, and you are ready to forgive anyone involved, let it go, and move on.
4. Affirmative Practice
Regularly practicing positive affirmations, such as "I am safe and loved now," is beneficial. Such practices strengthen positive thought processes.
Best of luck on your journey toward self-healing and achieving mental serenity!
Entering stage-left like a disco dancer with a score to settle, this tiny ‘soft robot’ makes a determined effort to cross the floor. All the more impressive as people keep sticking knives into its limbs. This quadruped robot is made from a self-healing material – an elastomer that repairs after the cuts, combined with wavy light sensors capable of detecting stress and damage then feeding the information back to a controlling computer. In this particular model, after every cut the robot adjusts its movement – it’s gait – to compensate for its injuries. Researchers believe this new generation of flexible electronics gains a form of awareness or 'damage intelligence' – they’re not only resilient to damage but can adapt to it. Similar robots may be suited to working inside or alongside the body, monitoring stresses and strains on and off the dance floor.
Written by John Ankers
Video by Hedan Bai, Young Seong Kim & Robert F. Shepherd (edited)
Sibley School of Mechanical and Aerospace Engineering, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY, USA
Video originally published with a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)
Published in Science Advances, December 2022
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What is your go to emotion in the heat of an emotional discussion? Anger is an extremely powerful and very detrimental emotion. Moreso to ourselves than the loved ones we throw it at.
Resentments from past events have tremendous power over our words and actions in our present moments...
Past harsh emotional situations include unresolved injustices Dig deep within your mind. Ask yourself all the whats and hows to isolate the one key point which you identify as your own action/inaction you can own yourself without dismissing it and blaming it on someone else.
Fear leads to the dark recesses of our minds,
Fear leads to our anger, Anger leads to us hating and
Hating your fellow man leads to our own suffering.
What are the fears in our minds?
What was YOUR emotion at that time? What caused you to bury and hide it? That action and resulting emotion "maybe" the root.
When someone experiences abuse, it can have a lasting impact on their mental and emotional well-being. It is not uncommon for people who have been abused to develop maladaptive coping mechanisms or behaviors that perpetuate the cycle of abuse. This can include becoming an abuser themselves in the future.
Abuse can take many forms, such as physical, emotional, sexual, or financial. It can occur in any type of relationship, including familial, romantic, or professional. Survivors of abuse may struggle with feelings of powerlessness, low self-esteem, and difficulty trusting others. These can contribute to a cycle of abuse, as they may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms to feel a sense of control or to numb their pain.
Furthermore, it is important to note that not all survivors of abuse become abusers themselves. With the right support and resources, it is possible to break the cycle of abuse and heal from the trauma. It starts with recognizing the patterns of abuse and seeking help to address any underlying issues.
If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, it is important to seek professional help and support. This can include therapy, counseling, or support groups. No one deserves to be abused, and everyone deserves to live a life free from fear and harm.
I was certain I had a hex on on my neck,
But to my self-narrative I performed a spellcheck
That which you seek to sedate
Makes you an eager bait
To your inner child, rock her awake
Her pained slumber, you must break
The seesaw didn’t go nowhere
She can play freely, with a flare for self-care
When folk insist that you shrink to be small,
Let them crawl, and with they own self, they can brawl
No more matching energy—infinity and beyond
Your self-monologue is your WAND
May your mind’s tongue cast
An abundance of bliss unparalleled and vast
I am now letting go of perfectionism at my own pace. Up until now, I was pressuring myself to overcome it. Defining how that’s supposed to look subconsciously set a sense of urgency internally. This was another way my desire for perfectionism was manifesting.
A few days ago, I spent a whole day just wanting to sleep, listened to music, read, cried, and released the tension that had built up…