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stonebutchwritings · 1 month

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begging my fellow transmisogyny-exempt lesbians to please get rid of transmisogynistic people from your circles that are not open to learning.

yes, for that minor transmisogynistic microaggression they refuse to back down on.

yes, even because they "just" believe in "afab socialization" but "still accept trans women".

yes, even if they just keep talking about "sex-based oppression" but "also believe in gender-based oppression".

yes, even that popular blogger you really like.

yes, even if that means losing a LOT of popular bloggers/mutuals/friends you like

yes, even if they're "just neutral" on transmisogyny. (all tme people already are participating in transmisogyny)

yes, even if you're told being anti-transmisogyny is inherently harmful to the kink/transmasc/lesbian/female/whatever community (newsflash: transfems exist in almost every marginalized community, and the ones they aren't in, they are oppressed by).

yes, even the ones who aren't terfs.

yes, even the other trans people who are transmisogynists.

yes, even if they "just believe they (as other women or other trans ppl) don't oppress transfems" and "still recognize interpersonal harm between x community and transfem communities"

yes, even if they "have transfem friends who agree" with them

yes, even if what they're saying they're hurting transfems for is generally a noble cause (anti-pedophilia, anti-sexual-abuse, anti-republican, etc.) but they're only ever taking offense to transfems who are/are perceived as offenders

yes, even if the transfem they're being transmisogynistic to is someone who you don't like or is even a bad person in general

transfem-inclusive spaces do not happen overnight because we all share a post about how much we support and love them and think really hard about hypothetical scenarios in which we stand our ground. they happen when we intentionally work to call in, call out, and deplatform transmisogyny in our communities.

(and when you start sharing and donating to their survival funds. yes, the one you just scrolled past.)

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#text #mine #transfems feel free to correct me on any aspect of this i’m speaking to my own community but obv want to communicate your needs accurately #lesbian #butch/femme #butch4femme #femme4butch #trans #lesbiansafe #also anyone can rb even if i disagree with you on other stuff for this but still do not interact with any other posts....

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viiisenyas · 16 days

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It confuses me that ppl in the hotd fandom say that Laenor loved Jace Luke and Joffrey. Did he tho? cuz... he was out drinking with his buddies and there was only one scene where he was actually being a dad to them. Fr, the only time he stepped in as a dad was when he named Joffrey and that was it.

I think it's a little more nuanced than that, Anon. But if I'm being entirely honest, (if a bit controversial) those children were not his obligation yet when he tried to step in, Rhaenyra kept him at arm's length until it was convenient to her.

Episode 6:

"You don't think to consult me before you name my child?" "He's our child, is he not?" "Only one of us is bleeding." "I deserve some say in the affairs of my own family." "You haven't seemed so interest in our affairs of late."

"I deserve some say in the affairs of my own family."

I find this interesting in particular. Upon a rewatch, I paid attention to Laenor's facial expressions and his tone of voice. Now it could be me, it could be a misinterpretation, but he seemed a bit exasperated if not desperate, almost pleading with Rhaenyra. Given that 10 years has been glossed over, we were robbed of seeing their actual dynamic. But what I can see is that he is attempting to assert his place as her husband, and Rhaenyra just waved him off with the following line of dialogue.

Keep in mind his facial expression deflating after she wanders out of frame. I genuinely do think that he was trying, but again, she kept him at arm's length. And of course this sets up later in the episode when he returns to Rhaenyra's room a bit drunk with Ser Qarl.

Notice how he seems more happy to go back to war?

"After all this time, this is just what I need. A little adventure. A good honest battle to enliven my blood again... A few months maybe - to be back at sea."

I don't know about you, but no man that has been in a happy marriage (hell, even a man who has a close bond with his supposed kids) would want to return to a fucking war unless he has no other choice. The way he says "to be back at sea," was almost in yearning.

At that point, he was more than happy to leave King's Landing because Rhaenyra made it abundantly clear that he's of no use to her.

And she continues to make snide remarks with regards to Ser Harwin's little outburst that brought even more negative attention to their family.

"Are you mad? Do you know what's happened while you've been guzzling all the ale in Flea Bottom - gods know what besides?"

If you watch his expression, it can be read as "What are you talking about," or it can be read as "Excuse me?" Pick your poison. (I don't know about you, but I read that as a homophobic microaggression.)

Now moving on to my point above.

"Dark rumours are hunting us, Laenor. They nip at our heels. Questions about our sons' parentage. Vile, disgusting insinuations." "Insinuations, are they?" "They are our sons! Yours and mine. And their true father will not abandon them now to go carousing through the Narrow Sea waggling his sword, and winking at his sailors."

Notice how she finally flips it around? Now, those boys are suddenly Laenor's responsibility. And as you can see with his sarcastic reply, he has no mind to listen to it. And I don't have to point out the second microaggression against his homosexuality.

Now Laenor says this, with conviction.

"I am a knight and a warrior. And I have played my part here. Faithfully, for ten years."

Which really drives home the point that he was trying to be a dutiful husband. He was trying to be a dutiful father. But then, Rhaenyra throws his efforts back into his face.

"You are owed nothing! For ten years you have indulged yourself at court, bought the finest horses, drunk the rarest of wines, fucked the lustiest boys. This was our agreement. I have not begrudged you."

Except she just did. Four times. in the literally same episode. Laenor did what any lord living at court would have done even if they weren't in the clusterfuck situation that he was sucked into.

Now, Laenor is completely done, and it's obvious that he wants no part in it.

"You do not desert your post when the storm lashes." "The wise sailor flees the storm as it gathers." "Very well, then I command you... as your Princess and heir to the throne, you are commanded to remain in King's Landing and at my side."

I'm certain that he was well aware of the rumours swimming about regarding Rhaenyra's actions and of course, I genuinely think he did his best to cover for both himself AND her after the first two Strong kids were born - otherwise he wouldn't be looking for an out in this specific scene. He probably would have left long ago.

TL;DR. I think Laenor did care about those kids, but Rhaenyra alienated him from actually being in their lives until shit hit the fan for her.

#laenor velaryon #rhaenyra critical #hbo house of the dragon #anonymous #answered

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idiealotdontworry · 1 year

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i know it's hard to recognize it as such when you feel so unheard and alone. but this keeps happening and i feel the need to say something about it: it's a microaggression when people say things like "there's so little aro representation, there's only aroace rep". Like you're not counting aroace people as "really aro" because we are also ace.

i think, maybe, we can point out the fact that aro ppl are often left behind (a thing i feel the effects of, because i am in fact aro!) without pretending that aroace people are not also aro. If you can't relate to aroace people's experiences of aroness, that's fine and understandable. but you do not need to put it on a pedestal lower than "true aro representation", because it's not any less true or real or important than anything else.

like, i'm aroace. the aro is right there, and it's incredibly important to me. and i don't think aroace people should have to feel the need to hide our aceness to discuss our aroness (OR vis versa, which happens often as well and is just as frustrating!! but that particular issue is talked about quite a lot, so i'm not discussing it here).

there's a huge problem on every front of the aspec community, where aroace people are either forcibly assigned as one or the other, or told inadvertently that one should be more important to us than the other... all while being told that we have so much already and it's not fair for us to take up so much space. it's really exhausting.

none of this is to say that it's bad to point out when you aren't feeling seen. i talk about and reblog posts talking about aro erasure often, because i directly feel the effects of it, and it's incredibly important to talk about. but i also feel so isolated from these discussions sometimes, like aroace experiences of aroness are not as valuable. i think it's entirely possible to lift up the voices of alloaro, non-SAM aro, and every other aro person who isn't ace, without treating aceness as antithetical to aroness.

i understand why this happens. largely, it's a reaction to the overwhelming assumption that aro people are always inherently ace. that assumption is wrong and harmful. but it's not harmful because of ace people, it's harmful because aro people are being ignored and assigned a label that doesn't fit. (it happens to bi people as well, being assumed as either gay or lesbian depending on the circumstances, and the issue is not that gays and lesbians exist. it's that someone is being prescribed a label instead of being allowed to describe themselves.)

to be quite frank, in recent years, i've seen a lot of aroace people say things like, "yeah i'm aroace, but my aroness is way more important to me." and i myself have felt an incredible push to suppress my being ace when in aro spaces. i have even been told by fellow aro people that i do not understand aro struggles, quote, "because you are also ace". That has got to stop.

the relative visibility ace people have gained in recent years (which is still not a lot! most people i know IRL still barely know any ace people or even know what being ace is unless they're my long-time friends!) is something we fought extremely hard for, despite the hardships we knew it would bring. it's high time aro people get that same visibility and recognition. but working for that recognition by putting other people down only hurts everyone in the aspec community.

and truly, i need people to understand that it's not just a case of being upset when things aren't about ace people. things are allowed to not be about ace people. i wish things could just be about aro people sometimes also. i am also incredibly frustrated by the lack of aro visibility outside of aro spaces, and my being ace doesn't make that any less hurtful! i just also think things can be about aro people, without being about ace people, without the implication that being ace is somehow the lesser option, or something overdone. people just exist. and aroace people deserve the space to discuss aro erasure as well, because it affects us just as deeply.

#aspec #aroace #aromantic #asexuality #aro #ace #if i get shit for this im just logging off im exhausted w people today

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shoezuki · 3 years

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i still think its crazy that ppl call techno a lesbophobe bc of 'was hitler a lesbian' that was the tamest shit. these ppl would not survive in the wild. anyways while im here im gonna plant my conspiracy theory: twitter was definitely looking for something to hate him for. if dream did all of that shit and more it wld be all 'educate dont cancel😔😔' 'dream has matured since then' but with techno its . lets violate his boundaries and send him death threats obviously this isn't an overreaction and we r 100% in the right

literally the fact that the ONLY ‘lesbophobic’ thing he apparently done is That One Tweet just shows that down to its core calling him a lesbophobe and saying he hates lesbians for that shit is just like. its so obviously DUMB. we literally have more clips and photos of him saying Good Things bout lesbians and gay ppl. those things r jus one off clips too, so why is the one ‘bad’ thing so potent????? like the fuck shouldnt it technically cancel out.

and honest to god yea w ur example of dream (sorry to drag u in this bitch lmao) but truly other ccs have done arguably worse or equal things. only difference is they apologized, even when it wasnt needed and WAS such an over exaggeration like now.

it fucking sucks cuz like. rationally jus a year or two ago it was common that feeling hurt or angry about things Wasnt an over exaggeration. like the whole ‘sjws are special snowflakes’ bullshit and how ‘sensitive’ people are being used against anyone who felt hurt by systematic oppression, discussions of microaggressions and critical thoughts of the normalization of bigotry. but now within mcyttwt they really jus took that ‘you arent too sensitive your feelings matter’ and made it into this shit where truly taking things of little to no real concern or Impact, and just..... equating it to genuine bigotry.

its very much ‘we’re right and not overexaggerating and if you say so youre a bigot’ and it is like yall sound so much like communities based in hatred like terfs

#anon #SORRY THIS GOT LONG I BEEN WRITINGT FIC N IT TRANSFERRED TO HERE I GUESS #like ofc. well i was gon say they arent spreading transphobic/bigotted ideas but. well.#but like it sounds a Lot like such bullshit #twitter beef #techno drama

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lychens · 2 years

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you screenshotted their post... to make fun of them. and you seem to think that only one of you can be right here when that's obviously not the case. what are you gaining by trying to prove that this person's generational trauma means nothing because... you think so? grow up.

lol ur doing a really good job at misconstruing the situation

-it wasn’t screenshotted to make fun of them, I was just giving an example on how ppls self projection can cloud their judgement. not to mention I specifically cropped out their username?

-im absolutely right and I’m not backing down in saying that calling a baby healthy isn’t a fucking microaggression. you can add as many layers to that as you want but that, as a base statement, is not worth throwing a whole ass fit over

-im not trying to prove anything I just have an opinion and I’m sticking to it. It’s only so far out of proportion bc of the over the top replies I’ve been getting from YOU all

-nobody said that and it sucks that that person went thru that but it’s really not a fair blanket statement to apply to the situation. you can’t just take your own life experience and decide that that’s how it is for everyone. there’s nuance to everything here

#replies

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jayflrt · 2 years

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oh no! i hope you're alright! i really don't understand why some people go out of their way to be racist sometimes,, i've had a couple of bad encounters although i live in a heavily asian dominated (particularly indian) part of my city... like 2 years ago, when i was 13, some racist white literally followed my mom and i from one store to another (across the street) and he kept circling us while in the store too,, it was all over a parking spot too T_T

i’m okay now that i’m safely at home !! 😭 thank you for checking in on me anon :’) 💗 i’ve dealt with microaggressions before but i’ve never been attacked so directly like that 😭 he waited until the ppl around us left and for a whole HOUR kept stomping his foot at me to get me to leave and then went “you disgust me, get the fuck out of here” and then proceeded to slut shame me for wearing shorts (it’s just rlly hot today??) i was like ?? 😭 i tried to put my airpods in to tune him out but he kept going </3 like i was just sitting there doing my work and minding my business so i was so confused .. i didn’t take any of it to heart but i was scared bc he was getting aggressive

i live in a predominantly white area but honestly even if it’s predominantly poc, we’re still in america (or if you’re from another predominantly white country) where the majority is white :// so it happens anywhere but i’m glad you and your mom are safe angel 😭😭 that sounds so terrifying and he followed you both in the store and parking lot ??? it enrages me that people have zero respect and boundaries :( but i hope you’re okay from that incident !! 💞

#💌 : jayflrt love notes #anon

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mariaiscrafting · 3 years

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okay but your post on dream making mexican jokes to quackity has awaken smth in me. quackity puts up with so many microaggressions from the community, and his friends too sometimes. and quackity takes it as jokes and lighthearted, but idk....wilbur + fans making fun of his english pronounciation? dream's 'drugs and tacos' joke? imitating quackity and putting on a thick mexican accent that he doesn't even have?? like... i swear he put the mexican dream but to rest bc of how much yt ppl were doing

I am so exhausted from running myself in circles thinking about this issue and this ask, so I’m gonna stop aiming for creating a perfect response and simply respond freely, uglily, and messily, as I would naturally.

When I criticize CCs or mcyt stans for being problematic, I’m always selfish. I almost never do it to defend those CCs, except for very, very few times, which usually have to do with the CCs being minors and me being protective of minors. Otherwise, when I criticize CCs or mcyt stans for being problematic, it comes from a deep place of hurt within me. When I first started that discourse on the fetishization and pathologization of DNF, it wasn’t for DNF’s sake; it was because it fucking hurt, as a queer person, to see. When I got pissed off about the Fundy jokes, it could give two shits about Fundy himself; it was because it fucking hurt to hear, as a woman. When I went off about Niki’s writing getting ignored, it wasn’t to defend Niki, because she doesn’t need my random defense; it was because of me, it was to address the hurt I felt.

With all that being said, when I criticize CCs for their treatment of Quackity’s being Mexican or speaking Spanish, it isn’t because I truly care about Quackity. It might sound cold, but I like to distance myself from CCs because I know they are just entertainers and that they will never be my friends or anything. As much as I gush about CCs and care about them and am in awe of their talent and energy and creations, I don’t endeavor to protect them as I would a friend or my sisters. When I speak about the anti-Latinx racism I’ve witnessed that’s been targeted at Quackity, I speak from my own hurt, my own anger and frustration.

Microaggressions are naturally going to be a part of being a minority in a community or career field, of course. I didn’t really expect everyone to be normal about a Mexican creator among mostly white, American or European men. I didn’t expect them to never make offhand remarks or exhibit weird patterns of treatment that can be summarized to be microaggressions. That doesn’t make me any less disappointed or frustrated by the times they do.

For me, what’s really important is context and a basis of either ignorance or hatred, for something to be deemed a truly racist microaggression. The reason I didn’t rant about Wilbur in that post was because Wilbur literally does that with everyone; he makes fun of the ways Niki says words, Phil, Fundy, even Tommy. Him making fun of the way Quackity says some words is insensitive of Spanish being Quackity’s first language, yes, but was it really, like, a microaggression formed from ignorance or hatred? Debatable, but in my opinion, not really.

Now then. Dream. Let me first say that I am biased; I already don’t like Dream, so that might unfairly cloud my judgement of Dream’s actions. But the main video that pissed me off a couple months ago was a stream where Quackity has this bit where he’s “running from the cops” because of drug dealing, and Dream is chasing him, George, and Sapnap. I’ve seen people in the comments section and on Twitter subsequently excuse Dream for buying into the stereotypes Quackity sets up - making remarks about smelling like drugs and tacos, for example - with the fact that Quackity was the one who started the bit in the first place. This just... is not okay. I don’t know how else to say it. I’ve talked about how black comedy functions, about why it’s usually more fitting and less offensive for people of a certain identity to make jokes about their own experiences, here. But to expand on that, I’d like to say that the reason Quackity making jokes about Mexicans smoking weed and drug dealing and being from the barrio and eating tacos isn’t offensive goes beyond Quackity simply being Mexican himself; it’s because he is essentially subverting those stereotypes by portraying them in a ridiculous, satirical manner himself. I don’t know if this makes sense to anyone but me, lol, but basically: if you take a stereotype that would typically be used by white people, and you portray in a clearly comedic manner, you make it seem ridiculous. In that way, you aren’t really making a dig at Mexicans themselves; the people you’re ridiculing, offending, etc., are the people who believe and create those stereotypes. You’re turning the stereotype on its head, using it as a tool to make racists look stupid. The thing is, if you yourself are Mexican, there is little room for questioning whether or not that’s what you’re trying to do because you are Mexican; you’re probably not trying to make Mexicans seem dumb or criminal or gross because you are Mexican, why the fuck would you put down your own identity? But when a white man then takes that joke - what was supposed to be a satirical bit - and feeds into it, playing the part of a police officer deriding that criminal, drug-smoking, taco-eating Mexican for all those things... the butt of the joke is now the Mexican. It is no longer the white man, but the oppressed group. And that. Is. Fucking. Racist.

Whatever, anyways, I’ve gotten myself way too riled up. There are other instances of MCYTs doing sketchy, racist shit in relation to Quackity, and there are other times Dream has done that kinda shit, but I just don’t have the energy or will to go into every single instance at this time. The thing I ranted about in my original post about this was about a totally different instance, where Dream asked if Quackity was “casting a spell on him” when he started cursing him out in Spanish, which reminded me so much of my own experiences with speaking Spanish around non-Spanish speakers - basically my many East Asian friends in high school. I could unpack the colonial, Westernized, Christian views that influence these kinds of jokes, or I could unpack the treatment of Spanish speakers as Other and Odd, Spanish words constantly warped out of their original meaning, in white America...... orrrrr I could do literally anything else.

So I’m gonna go do literally anything else.

#asks #racism #dream critical #/neg #discourse #dreamwastaken #dream #mcyt #quackity #whatever just a reminder to blacklist my discourse or neg tags if you dont want to see these kinda things from me #Anonymous

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agoddamn · 2 years

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ppl really cite that one jocasta line ("if it's not in the archives it doesn't exist!") as introconvertible evidence that the Jedi suppress learning/knowledge as if the very next scene isn't Obi-Wan talking to yoda and a classroom of kids about how to discover knowledge, meaning that jocasta's snippy response is not the pinnacle of good behavior

and you know what, let jocasta nu be a bitch for thirty seconds! being a bitch is legal! a woman can be bitchy in one conversation without that being sufficient evidence for genocide!

bitch rights!

2096 notes • Posted 2021-03-28 09:43:51 GMT

I think its crazy that people point to Luke going to rescue Leia and Han from Vader, against the advise of Yoda and Obi-Wan, as the point that proves that Luke "fundamentally understands something the Jedi don't." Their whole point was that he was going into a situation blind, based on a vision that could or not be true, and he was ill prepared to face the foe responsible. Talk about attachment, rather than healthy connection. And the result? Leia escapes on her own. Luke rushes in. Bye bye hand

Yeah, Luke gets absolutely fucked when he dashes in on Bespin. I can't exactly see that as an example of love saving the day. I've heard the argument that Luke saved them by distracting Vader, but I think that's a little...thin.

2261 notes • Posted 2021-05-24 15:37:31 GMT

I love relationships where the two people just mercilessly, RELENTLESSLY drag one another but they are so often tragically misunderstood as bullying/harassment.

Like, you can tell that more recent iterations of Star Trek have backed off on this aspect of Spock and McCoy for fear of looking racist--and to be fair, 1967 did not have the greatest awareness of microaggressions. But McCoy wasn't calling Spock a hobgoblin because he thinks Vulcans are lesser, he's doing so because Spock just called him a witch!

The shit they say to each other is wildly out of touch with reality when you actually stop and listen to it. Spock calls him a witch doctor making potions and shaking rattles and implies that he regularly kills patients.

Their insults should be updated for the modern day but c'mon, let these guys drag each other with the most absolutely unreal accusations.

2406 notes • Posted 2021-04-17 01:20:31 GMT

-taps mic- the whole MC going "no pain medication, I don't want to cloud my mind" trope is both ableist and shockingly popular for how plainly ableist it is

(protip: if you're at the point where you're being advised to take pain medication by people who don't want to give you pain medication then your mind is most certainly already clouded by pain)

20395 notes • Posted 2021-05-14 04:44:00 GMT

I still want to write the fic where an outsider has all these preconceptions about what the Force is and then goes into a room with a bunch of Jedi who are tearing into each other like bitchy old academics.

"Ooh, look at Master Structuralist over here with his ever-so-deep 'everything is attachment actually' reading"

"I don't want to hear that from someone who calls every new opinion 'new depths of their relationship with the Force'"

"The Jedi Order is a social construct--"

"Could you stuff the po-mo and pick up a book once in a while? These aren't new ideas! You are not a pioneer because you asked one question!"

"I think you could all benefit on more reflection on how our rooting in the Force is actually deeply sexual--"

"If I have to hear one more word about lightsabers being penis envy you are going to be one with the Force immediately."

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nolabballgirl · 3 years

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Can you share how you'd grade druck, s5 and 6, wtfock s4 and Skam fr s5, 6 and 7 in the categories of effort and execution? Here's mine: Druck s5, Effort: A/ Execution: A, S6, Effort: A*/ Execution: B-; Wtfock S4, Effort: E/ Execution: U; Skam fr S5, Effort: B Execution: D, S6 Effort: B, Execution: C-, S7: Effort: D (downgraded for their failure to put up a convincing argument (thru the script/show) as to why Tiff, of all ppl, had to be the lead. Very unearned ) Execution: C

hi, Anon! thanks for your ask! ooooh ranking all the new/non s1-4 seasons?! so one threshold question is that i’m not exactly sure how you are defining “effort” but i presume it’s a combination of choice of main/themes for the season? and then writing/acting/etc. would fall under the “execution” category. generally, i vibe with your rankings, but i do feel like the letter rankings can feel a bit arbitrary without explanation so i’ve included a few more notes below:

Tier 1: (druck new gen deserves its own tier)

druck s5 (A/A): it helped going into this season with no expectations, but such a breath of fresh air. loved the introduction of the cashqueens (instas as an interesting foil to them); dissociation/mental health storyline hit all the right notes; and spiderwitz 💖

druck s6 (A/B+): i really loved this season; so many great themes (racism, dyscalculia; microaggressions; immigrant kid struggles!) fatou! 💖; a fully fleshed out love interest in kieu my 💖; non-white interracial wlw couple; sure, i would have altered some writing decisions in the back half of the season, but overall i quite enjoyed it.

Tier 2: (skam france is one of the most frustrating remakes to watch because the acting is generally good and the characters have so much potential, but they inevitably end up screwing it up in some way)

skamfr s5 (B/C-): important themes like disability and parental abuse waylaid by dramatics and multiple! cheating storylines; and of course, alexia deserved better.

skamfr s6 (B/C): i have such a soft spot for lola and her journey through grief and addiction, but the writers really put her through the ringer and the season devolved into dramatics and trauma porn. but bonus points for the intro of maya, sekou, and la mif.

skamfr s7 (D/C-): i agree with your take on tiff here - the choice of main (a bully) and her lack of earned redemption arc really doomed the season for me, and adding the racist tropes on top of it, well, not a fan. but bonus points for la mif playing a bigger role this season; max’s gender change in court storyline; and cute kids.

Tier 3: (wtfock were they thinking?!)

wtfock s4 (F/F): i still don’t understand how this season was greenlit nor do i think there was any real growth for the main by the end of the season; what was the takeaway message for the audience?; too much drone; do i need to say more?

#druck #skam france #skam rankings #anon #answered asks

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normal-thoughts-official · 3 years

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i'm not trans but i want to write trans magnus, what are ig the dos and don'ts? (only if you dont mind <3)

i don't mind! happy to reply to those. altho i'll be real, there's a lot of stuff, so it's a bit hard, which is why i'd say that my first tip is to have a sensitivity reader (even better if it's multiple). i even offer to do that, more trans magnus content is what i want! so i'd tell you to consider that

i'm going to make a list, but i ask you that first of all, you try to understand the reasons why i'm saying what i'm saying (i'm trying to outline them as clearly as possible) instead of just taking it as a checklist of what you're supposed to write or not. the most important thing is that you understand why certain things are/can be harmful, and approach them accordingly. there is rarely ever going to be a rule like "EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU DO THIS THAT'S TRANSPHOBIC". it depends a lot on the story and how you do it

(sidenote: of course there are things that ARE always transphobic, like using men in dresses as the butt of a joke. but that's not the case for most things, and I hope this kind of very obviously transphobic trope is already understood to not be a good thing doiajdsoija)

other than that, i think the first things that come to mind are the following (i'll try to have more do's than don't's cuz i feel like giving you a path to follow is more helpful than paths NOT to):

DO research about transphobic tropes in media and make sure you understand why they are harmful. that's a great way to avoid the most glaringly obvious Bad Takes™

DO try to understand your character's identity as much as you can. are they a trans man/woman? are they nonbinary? if they are nonbinary, what do they identify with? you don't have to have a fully fleshed out identity, but at least know whether they lean more towards neutral, fluid, multiple gendered, outside of the gender binary, etc. if you want a culturally specific gender, KNOW WHICH ONE. have details. and do your research on that. i don't recommend doing that if you don't know exactly what you're talking about

DO try to incorporate the character being trans into your understanding of their backstory. did they have help from their community? what was that like? how did that influence other parts of their story? when did they realize and when did they come out? being trans is going to have an impact on a person's story, so the more you know about that, the more you can build a character that feels real, not a cis person with "trans" slapped on their forehead

however, DON'T have their entire backstory and life be about them being trans. that's not how it works with anyone. you want to understand how being trans intersects with their life, not reduce everything about them to being trans. your goal here should be to incorporate the aspects that are related to that person being trans and the ones that are not into one thing that feels cohesive, because that how it works

DO wait until it's pertinent to mention the fact that your character is trans. it's kind of *sigh* when the fic starts like "Magnus Bane (who is trans) was buying groceries". that feels like what i just mentioned in the last don't: everything revolves around him being trans. you don't want that. if it only comes up halfway through the fic, then it only comes up halfway through the fic. i actually think that's kinda rad because it really normalizes a character being trans, but it all depends on what the rest of the story is like

DO approach their transness like any other element in the story. if it's a light-hearted story, you don't have to approach their transness from an angsty perspective. that doesn't even necessarily mean u can't approach transphobia as a topic, but it's just weird when the whole fic is happy and upbeat and then suddenly there's an on-screen transphobic microaggression and the person is very sad, and then back to upbeat. if you really want to broach this topic on your light-hearted fic, you can do it in ways such as "*flops down on the couch* god, i'm exhausted. some asshat tried to pick up a fight with me today" you know? again, i'm not saying "don't talk about X or Y subject", you just don't want the tone to be completely different from the rest of your story. it feels not only like his transness is out of place (which alienates the reader) but also like just... bad writing, i guess you don't have to take that as an absolute rule, just... as with anything else you're writing, make sure that it fits the story you're telling. if it's gonna have a different tone when u mention something, know why and how you want to do it

DON'T feel obligated to approach every aspect of their identity/backstory/everything they face as a trans person. it's good that you, the author, know it, so you can even know what is or isn't important to mention. but you don't have to give the reader a whole exposé on his transness. approach what's relevant

DO include them making jokes, puns about being trans, having other trans friends, etc. it just feels more real and we do all that all the time. it's just unrealistic for a trans person to hear the word "transparent" and not crack a joke (with people they feel safe with, of course)

when you do mention them being trans, please DON'T treat it like a big deal. when the whole narrative stops so you can mention that a character is trans, it just feels like their transness is a spectacle for a cis reader. similarly, if the reader can tell that their reaction is supposed to be like "*gasp!*" it just feels like trans people aren't supposed to be seen as normal. i'm talking specifically about how the narrative treats it here, not necessarily what happens in the story. you could have a scene where the character comes out, for example, and then of course this is going to be a big deal for them. but there's that, and then there is "magnus bane put on his binder. that's right, hE IS TRANS!". a trope i wouldn't call harmful but that i particularly hate and turns me immediatelly off any story, particularly, is the thing where the character is like "I put on my binder, getting ready for school. I am trans, and anyone who has a problem with it can fight me". no one thinks about how they are trans every time they do anything that's related to their transition. that'd be exhausting. you don't brush your teeth and are like "that's right. MY TEETH NEED CLEANING! i want to avoid caries, because i am human and that might happen"

DO try to think of every element of how they express their transness in relation to that character. you don't have to outline the reasons in the story (that'd be exhausting) but don't just go "well, magnus is trans, therefore he wears a binder and a packer, wants surgery, and [list of Transmasculine Traits™]". WOULD magnus want a binder? WOULD he want a packer? remember that those things are all choices, not a checklist that determine whether or not you're trans. each trans person is an individual, and thus each trans person's relationship with their transness and how they express it is different. so treat your character as such

DON'T make him being trans something that is only used for sad things!!!!!! again, i'm not saying "you can't approach transphobia", but if him being trans only comes up when it's to bring Bad Things His Way, it just feels like being trans = bad for you. know what i mean? try to mention it in neutral or positive ways more than you do in negative ways. a few things that i think are positive: you get to choose your own name, you get to rethink every bit of how you want to express yourself instead of just following a script, you get a lot of friends who Get It, you have the jokes about all the guys named Skylar, the flag is cute, transitioning feels so good! every new thing is a discovery. coming out as trans and transitioning is very liberating, it feels like you are so much more real. sex feels a lot less like a scripted ordeal when you have a completely different relationship with your body, i feel like trans ppl naturally communicate a lot more about sex and explore a lot more of different ways to touch their bodies even when they don't necessarily have genital dysphoria. the puns and jokes are also a nice bonus. the slang is so fucking funny. you learn a lot about your body and hormones and the such just from having friends who hormonize and looked up every detail. as for neutral things, just being like "magnus put on his binder" is a neutral thing. it's just a part of his life! when you only remember that a character is trans because they are going through violence, it just makes people scared of being trans

and i guess those are the most important pointers? just, don't make trans identity a whump thing and remember that not every trans person is the same, build that character just like you do any other. if anyone wants to add more stuff, feel free to! i have a tendency to forget to mention or explain certain things (like "don't make trans ppl the butt of a joke") because to me they are obvious and i forget that they aren't obvious outside of trans circles. i have very few cis friends (that's something that makes a difference too) so ya know. diajsda

another tip i think can be helpful is, if you're uncertain whether or not something sounds natural, try to imagine that instead of talking about a trans character, you're talking about a person who wants to be a mechanic. when you're building a character who wants to be a mechanic, that can be part of a super angsty backstory about how they lost their parents in a car crash due to a car malfuction... or not. it can have relevance to a certain point of the story, or not. it can fit naturally into this part, or it can feel like you just really want the reader to know that the person wants to be a mechanic. it can be integral to the plot, or it can be just another thing about that character. you know? that sounds kinda lame, but i think it's a good way to try to think about what you're writing without all the pre-conceptions and pressure not to Fuck Up Your Representation. idk, something to try out and consider whether or not works for you

if you have any questions, let me know! and ask other trans ppl about their perspectives too, i'm just one person. if you want a sensitivity reader, i'd really be super happy to help :) just DM me, or whatever you feel more comfortable with

#ask #anonymous #societal issues #idk how to tag this lol #sh #trans magnus bane #long post

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ruthlesslistener · 3 years

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hey, its the NB anon from those vessel pronoun discourse asks. i felt like i should apologize. it was never my intention to be inconsiderate towards other NB ppl in the HK fandom. its not like i dont understand where theyre coming from; i /do/ also feel wary and uncomfortable when i see fics or posts that use gendered pronouns for the vessels. i just... try to have a live and let live approach when it comes to those things, bc i dont know the full context behind some ppl's decisions. (1/2)

(2/2) for example, a friend of mine told me about a hc where Ghost decides to identify as a girl and asks to be referred to as she/her out of admiration for Hornet, and i thought it was a sweet idea. not to mention, there could always be younger fans who are projecting themselves on the characters; i dont think theyre doing it out of malice, just enjoying the game in their own way. i do kind of resent it, but i just block and avoid them bc it doesnt affect much in the end. y'know?

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Hey, it’s fine! I understand that perfectly. Like I said before, when I first joined the fandom I used to hc that Hollow used he/they pronouns because they wanted to align themselves with their father, but I stopped because even if my interpretation of that did not align with how we view gender, and was aligned to how wyrms and gods view gender, I realized that it made actual nb people in fandom uncomfortable, so I stopped. I also understand that we live in a society where gendering things is the norm, so younger fans might default to binary pronouns bc they don’t know any better, but gently reinforcing the concept of genderless pronouns to them is still better than just letting them go and watching as they get defensive when people tell them it’s uncomfortable. Fandom is an experience that you are supposed to curate to your own needs, yes, but it’s also a social experience period, and I feel like you really have to be aware of your impact on it, regardless of what your intentions are. Transphobia and the like isn’t always rooted in malice, after all- sometimes its rooted in ignorance, and that’s how you get microaggressions, like assigning binary genders to characters that don’t have a gender. We’re all susceptible to that, regardless of if we’re trans or not- it’s really up to listening to the majority of fans who feel represented by that and showing them respect that is the major key, here. After all, it’s not like the characters themselves give a shit about being gendered- they aren’t real- but it can be really insulting and infuriating to people who see aspects of themselves in the characters being disrespected, esp. if it’s something that they already have to deal with irl. There’s no need to bring it into fictional spaces that can function as escapes from reality, especially if the fiction itself doesn’t have transphobia and treats being genderless as the default/doesn’t place emphasis on gender at all.

#anon #reply #i don't got any personal beef with you anon #it's just that i've seen a lot of people gender them and then get really upset when people are rightfully upset by that #so i'm rather tired of the whole deal myself #hollow knight #hk

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mousemilf · 3 years

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grrrr my brother gets free tanning at his gym but he wont take me as a guest!!!!!!!!! he always has such a dark tan all year and im really jealous... like srsly ur sister comes all the way from texas n u wont let her tan w u... so childish.. i refuse 2 repeat last summers look i literally need to get tanned asap. do u think it would b too weird to sunbathe in like a pasture off the trail at clear creek? i dont think anyone would stumble upon me and if they did i would have the upper hand bcs the unexpectedness of it. i do not want to lay out at my apartment pool bcs i can live without my neighbors knowing how hairy i am i dont want to get microaggressed abt being gnc af u kno lol... ive never seen anyone sunbathe at a hiking trail but maybe ppl do and they just lay down behind the shrubs and tall grass and u dont see them........ maybe i shall try it when i get home. my mom said shed take me to tan at the gym where shes a personal trainer but their hours are too weird and theres so much i have to do while im here....... maybe i can get a couple sessions in there b4 i go and then lay out in a pasture at home later.

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writingwithcolor · 4 years

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I’ve looked here for a lot of help but there’s one thing I’m still stuck on. So I’m an African American woman but I feel like I can’t write ppl of my same color. I want to really and I’m honestly inspired by other African American writers who craft magical worlds while still keeping to the trueness of what it means to be black in this world. Is there a way I can get more comfortable with writing characters of my color without feeling like I’m shaming the entire black community?

Writing Authentic Black Characters (as a Black writer)

You won’t be shaming the Black community! There’s no one true way to be Black, live Black, or write a Black character. Release the pressure that you need to hit some “Blackness checkpoints” in order to write an acceptable story. That’s how you unintentionally limit Black people as having to conform to certain cultural rules or stereotypes.

Write from your true, authentic place.

As long as you’re describing your character and aren’t unleashing unchecked anti-Black racism into the story (Stuff like relying on stereotypes or exalting a character for being “not like the other Black girls”) I trust you, as a fellow Black writer, to spin an amazing tale that others will want to read, Black or no.

Getting more comfortable as a writer of color:

Journal

I recommend you journal, if you don’t already.

Topics for inspiration:

Your day

A funny event

experience over the upcoming holiday season

a moment when you felt something deeply emotional.

your perspectives and experience on;

hair care

skin color

Microaggressions

self love and acceptance.

Now that is an authentic Black voice – yours. Start to get comfortable with accepting that. Your voice, and the perspectives you’ll bring, is good enough. There will be people who relate.

Read Diverse Stories

Read more stories with Black people and other PoC. Fiction, non-fiction, blog posts and online threads (like reddit Black ppl groups) These tales won’t all read the same because they’re different stories with different people.

Let’s abandon the notion that white people are the “default” and thus an easy character.

You’re the protagonist in your own life, aren’t you? So you’ve already got the experience.

Talk to others

It might help to connect with other Black writers and/or other People of Color. You can certainly bring up your insecurities if you find a group you’re comfortable in. You’re not the only writer who feels these doubts. You may find some good advice.

Maya Angelou even struggled with self-doubts and impostor syndrome.

“Each time I write a book, every time I face that yellow pad, the challenge is so great. I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody and they’re going to find me out.”

― Maya Angelou