#living for myself

[selfhealingmoments]

#Social media #true #keep going #keep moving forward #don't take it personally #don't take it too seriously #living in the present #living for myself #new life #new beginnings #new me #new day #new you #reminder #life lessons #life

[classycookiexo]

Fr lol

#womanhood #living for myself #fuck a pickme bitch #life

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[jude-us]

I’m not exaggerating when I say this post changed my life. Seeing this as a terrified self hating 17 year old was like finding a fresh water lake in the middle of the Sahara.

#I’ve repeated just live to myself on so many bad days #thank you op #transgender #trans #trans awareness

[whatkindofnameisella]

can you believe that we have fanfiction. that we have websites dedicated to fanfiction. that there is a place that you can go and read tens, hundreds, thousands and thousands of pieces of writing that strangers have made. people who are not "writers". people who come home at the end of the day and have feelings and say, i am going to put that into words. i am going to share those words. short, long, sweet, sad, horny, funny, wonderful words. we are all just human and we all love to make and remake and share that with others. can you believe that.

#ao3 #archive of our own #fanfiction #sometimes i can't even believe how much i myself have written. like i think i am not a writer. i am not doing enough. i do not write enough #and i look back and i have 34 (34!!) works on ao3 and reams of unpublished work on my computer and so long left to live. so i think #we will be okay. #writing

[sunglassesmish]

no judgements at all here. i was thinking about the possibility of moving out and wanted to know what age other people did

#i don’t know a lot of what i want in the future but i do know i want to at least get my driver’s license and have my own place #hopefully in the next few years after university #in my family it’s typical to get married and then move out but i’m not sure if i ever will so i want to at least live by myself

[lovelenivy]

mouse bites™

#anybody do this yet? #house md #hate crimes md #house md game #mouse bites #gregory house #hilson #james wilson #lisa cuddy #robert chase #allison cameron #eric foreman #house md meme #he needs mouse bites to live #shoutout to whoever made the house game generator thing #this took me way too long #house #dr house #also if you notice house's clothes kinda changing colors when he holds the mouse bite serum #its because i had to recolor it myself #i couldn't get the shades of gray to be exact #oh well #i also drew the nosebleed lmao #every house episode ever #generic house episode #editing this to say #this is not an original meme at all #I just ds-ified it tbh #ive seen some people not know it but i recommend you look it up #or like iykyk i guess

[senorboombastic]

Album Review: The Chisel - What A Fucking Nightmare

Words: Ben Forrester It feels like we’re in a period where UK punk bands are hitting harder than everyone else. When The Chisel unleashed their blistering debut at the back end of 2021, the underground scene sat up and collectively agreed it was a fucking rager. In a world where authenticity can be hard to find, it’s genuinely refreshing when a bunch of lads from down south turn up and tell it…

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#Album Review #Birthday cake for breakfast #Bloodsucker #Chubby and the Gang #Cry Your Eyes Out #Enough Said #Jonah Falco #La Vida Es Un Mus #Living For Myself #Pure Noise Records #Retaliation #The Chisel #What A Fucking Nightmare

[kindnessisstillhere]

Living for ourselves

It's easy to not want to die,

Easy to find the last will to survive,

Not that it ever feels so,

Nor that most of us notice managing it,

That's how easy wanting to survive can be.

It's not so easy to reach that ledge,

But nor is it anybody's wishes.

It's a herding, pushing, poking:

It's a sharp word, a criticism, a blockade:

It's two forces pushing together around you:

And we find ourselves greeting death.

To face life after that is hard,

So we say it's for a friend:

For our family, our pets, our job:

For a dream, an artwork, a goal:

Because greeting death means forgetting ourself.

I greeted death long ago,

Said I had my shield to live,

But it's some I still know.

I turn my head and see her now;

Sat atop that ladder,

Cabin bed and shelves of decades gone,

This room echoing my history,

As I echo myself, not greeting death,

But the girl who met death that day,

And the colourful tool still with me.

Then I didn't survive for family,

Didn't stay for the friends I'd see,

Or the thought of leaving school.

I greeted death and remembered the pen;

It's seldom been down since then.

I live for myself now: for Her, for Em, for Me:

For the pages I've filled, and paintings done,

For the things sewn together, memories won.

But once I lived for a pen and diary and poem,

Then for friends I'd stopped talking much to,

Then for my closest friends and pets,

Then to spite people who hurt me,

Then because what else could I do?

Living can have so many reasons,

It's hard to live, harder still to let go,

But reaching the day of living for ourself?

That's worth every step of the journey,

Difficult though it remains.

#poetry #poem #suicide #suicidal thoughts #implied suicide attempt #surviving #reasons for living #living for myself #living for ourselves #carrying on

[thevastnessof]

obsessed with villains who you just KNOW are aware deep down in their heart that they've done something unforgivable, but the only way to never admit that or face the guilt is to keep doing it over and over again until they don't feel guilty about that first time anymore

#sky speaks #i am contemplating walter white and phillip wittebane #if i never admit it even to myself #then i can go on living like this forever #phillip says as he kills his brother again #as walter white orders the death of another person 'for his family' #and sure they do LIKE the power #but i just knowww it burns sometimes

[a-dumb-sarcastic-bisexual]

Like the majority of society I’m obsessed with Nimona

And I rewatched it a million times and one thing always sticks out to me 

There are moments when Ambrosius is surrounded by light like a little protective bubble 

That keeps him away from the man he loves more than anything 

#nimona #nimona 2023 #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister boldheart #ballister x ambrosius #goldenheart #he always looks so small in these scenes #like the light is going to swallow him whole #it almost looks like a little kid wearing his parents clothes #like he’ll never live up to the expectations society has placed on him #this man is so lonely for the whole movie #poor baby had to figure out everything by himself #he looks so tired in the second picture #the thing that kills me is in the last scene he tries to leave the bubble #but Bal shoved him back in #bubba looks ethereal throughout the whole movie #this movie man #it kills me slowly #I love it so much #I’m gonna go cry myself to sleep now #people from the rise fandom know I only post angst when I’m sleep deprived

[selfhealingmoments]

#be happy #living for myself #living well #one day at a time #self love #loving life #loving #love yourself #good life #new living #living unapologetically #live for today #mental health #self reflection #be yourself #self improvement #new life #letting go #self help #inspirational quotes #new beginnings #positivity #mental growth #manifesting #inspiration #inspiring #inspiring quotes

[vizthedatum]

I think the whole point of everything - including everything that we hate about ourselves and our materialism - is to figure out how to get closer to ourselves.

So like, even if you’re an awful abusive person or you’re incredibly wealthy or you’re a poor closeted kid somewhere or you’re just a regular person or whatever… it’s just all about wading through all the noise and getting in touch with what you want your experience in this life to be. I don’t care if it sounds corny or if you have obligations in your life.

Your primary obligation SHOULD BE to yourself and your journey. And if that encompasses materialism, other people, etc. then so be it. And if what it all encompasses changes and evolves - then that’s cool too.

No one is saying you gotta live an ascetic lifestyle to be spiritual (although I think a lot of us will end up that way when our souls are ready to leave this plane - BUT THAT IS A DIFFERENT SPIRITUAL DISCUSSION FOR ANOTHER TIME).

#be selfish #spiritual #spiritual knowledge #healing #trauma #neurodivergence #love #queer #self love #prose #realizations #living for myself #I think if I do this I can truly love and receive

[dailymanners]

Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

#manners #politeness #courtesy #good manners #etiquette #I'm so sorry I really tried to make this one shorter I really did #I trimmed the fat as much as I could but this was as short as I could bring myself to make it #Where I live most people will just shove into your personal space without saying anything #or just stare at you until you get the hint and move #and I hate it so much #Especially because I am both neurodivergent and have PTSD so I really hate people staring at me and/or shoving in my personal space

[rustchild]

desperately craving weird surrealist arthurania. Knights with no faces wandering through the mists. Seams between Christian and pre-Christian Britain gaping like open wounds. Beafts and visions. Maybe a monk. Maybe the monk is gay

#This post brought to you by remembering that The Green Knight exists #and longing to live in the alternate universe where it launched a whole genre of high quality queer indie arthurania retellings #craving themes of guilt honor repression wildness etc etc #bonus points if it includes critique of the whole divine right of kings English empire imaginary that can accompany Arthur retellings #I would write it myself but alas! I have no brain #Mine

[2allofthethingsivelovedbefore]

Entry 1?

I think that every new season in your life is marked by taking a risk or doing something that you’ve never done before. When you were a kid, you had to go to school for the first time and that was a big change for you at the time, some of us even cried.

Now that we’re older the stakes are higher. We’re actually at an age where we have something to lose and no one is forcing us or telling us what to do and we don’t know what’s expected of us by default bc there is no default picture of adulthood outside of trying to be financially stable I guess (really long run on sentence there I’m sure lol). Because of that change is spooky, scary even.

But it’s a natural part of life that must occur.

Without it we never grow, we never progress, we never get better, we never have new experiences. Everyday doesn’t need to be extraordinary, but everyday should not be the exact same mundane thing back to back.

For me, this means trying to get a new job. I’ve been working at the same job since high school with the exception of the on campus job I had in uni. Every summer, I’ve always gone back to that job because I knew it like the back of my hand, it’s comfortable. But now that I’ve finished uni I’ve realized that I don’t have to go back to that job. I can actually do something in my field before I go to law school. And this isn’t really about pay because I have to admit that my state’s minimum wage is great compared to the federal minimum wage and there’s nothing wrong with that job, it’s not fun but it’s decent work. It’s about needing to move on. It’s about wanting to create the life I want for myself. Life is full of choices, you can choose to be sad and stagnant or you can choose change and have the possibility of a life you love.

Life is about taking risks. We will all live and die. Wouldn’t it be better to go feeling content with what you’ve done with your time here? When we’re young like this, we have a lot less responsibilities, i.e kids, spouses, mortgages, so we have less to lose by taking a gamble. That doesn’t mean pull a Trish at every job from Austin and Ally but it does mean you should consider your happiness your wants, your desires, your future, and make a good attempt at aligning yourself with what you want your life to be alongside the actual hard work. And those things don’t have to be what everyone else is doing, you don’t need to compare your life to everyone else’s. Do what you want to do. Do what you think will make you happy. In every part of your life you should chase long term joy, something that brings you peace, something that you can look back and be grateful you did.

#college #coming of age #life in your 20s #girl blogger #growing up #young poets #young adult #tumblr diary #living for myself #digital diary