Apapun yang hilang akan diganti atau terganti seperti tetap memenuhi keseimbangan hidup (?)
Tapi hari ini lagi ga ngomongin masalah keseimbagan hidup, cuma lagi pengen ngomongin masalah ganti mengganti. Kenapa begitu? Jadi dulu belum ngerti kalo misal mengganti sesuatu perlu dipikir ga tinggal ngeganti, setidaknya ga semuanya.
Kalo orang yang berhalangan berpuasa bisa diganti dengan puasanya, atau bisa juga membayar fidyah. Kita yang mau belajar jadi anak berbakti, saudara berbakti, tetangga berbakti, atau muslim yang taat tau kan kalo kita dikelilingi oleh orang-orang yang ga semuanya sama kayak kita. Ga sama umurnya, ga sama kondisinya, ga sama kesempatannya.
Coba ditanya ibu dan bapak apakah sudah melunasi hutang puasanya yang barangkali ada yang belum dibayarkan, atau nenek dan kakek, atau istri sendiri?
Menggantinya bagaimana? ya yuk sama-sama belajar, barangkali ada orang di sekeliling kita yang belum paham dan kebetulan kamu paham tentang hal itu, bisa dikasih tau atau menyarankan tanya langsung ke yang lebih paham, biar mantap hehe
Fidyah juga ada aturannya ga cuma bayar aja, kita belajar siapa sasarannya, berapa yang harus dikeluarkan, kalo bingung? main-main ke lembaga penyalur, InsyaAllah mereka lebih paham dan semoga amanah dalam membantu teman-teman. Ya itu, karena ga semua sama kayak kita. Ada yang di lingkungannya tidak ada sasaran yang pas untuk penyaluran fidyah atau bingung udah pas belum ya sasarannya. Bisa disarankan untuk ke lembaga penyalur.
Padahal kita cuma ngasih tau aja, semoga Allah kasih nilai kebaikan buat kita.
reminder that other people's dysphoria, whether they have it or don't have it, is none of your business!
reminder that everyone's dysphoria manifests differently! so no, Kyle, you can't pick out "trenders" based upon what they wear. clothing doesn't have a gender, anyone can wear whatever they want, and yes that includes trans people. if cis men can wear skirts and makeup, so can trans men.
reminder that you're not a doctor, you don't have a PhD, and you're not the trans person in question! so you don't get to diagnose them from your laptop or phone. you're a teenager on the internet, not a professional.
reminder other people's lives, their medical needs, and their diagnoses are none of your fucking business, unless they make it your business. and even then: it's not your job to comment on their business and tell them whether they're "valid" or not.
not everyone has to be privy to your deepest pain and strife.
and i don't mean that you shouldn't share when you're hurting, or that you shouldn't share whatever hardship you're going through, but you absolutely do not have to. some things are just your own. you don't have to explain your pain to anyone. please take care of yourself first and foremost and don't feel like anyone else has to know why you're upset.
right now, like many others during the pandemic, i'm absolutely Going Through It, and a lot of my life has been changed and impacted. i'm not in the best moods all the time, and what i'm comfortable with, and what i can manage financially, mentally, and emotionally has changed significantly. sometimes, i feel like i have to apologise to people for what i can't do, but hey i absolutely do not have to tell anyone about the struggles i'm going through. i can simply say, "i can't do that right now" and leave it at that. it's fine.
do what you can at your own pace and don't feel bad for what's not possible for you right now. for everyone struggling or on their own paths of recovery, know that i'm out here super proud of you. you are doing your best.
I always end up forgetting about the simple things that makes life much more bearable and simple.
Nothing can stop me from buying a tiny little plant and take care of it. Nothing can stop me from taking cute pictures of flowers or animals or the sky. Nothing can stop me from surrounding myself with bright colors and art. Nothing can stop me from being happy except me.
I am the one who’s holding me back. I must remember I am the one deciding for my own fate. I can be happy too. I just need to allow myself to be it.
Narrated By 'Alqama : While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power."
youre alright. youre okay. youre allowed to hurt. youre allowed to take time to heal. youre allowed to talk about those feelings. that does not make you weak. you are so, so strong, but healing takes time. and thats okay. it’s okay to be wounded, to be vulnerable, to cry. don’t battle your poor heart, it’s seen enough war already
Ramadhan Day 3. Udah masuk puasa hari ketiga nih. Jangan kasih kendor pokoknya. Berat ya emang. Jam tidur berantakan, ngantuk, tapi harus tetep kerja, harus tetep belajar, harus tetep menunaikan segala kewajiban dan tanggung jawab.
Tapi itu semua bukan sesuatu yang sia-sia gitu aja kok kalau kita ikhlas ngerjain karenaNya. Semuanya bakal ada balasannya. Akan ada ganjaran pahalanya, insya allah.
Sempetin sedikiiit aja dari waktu sibukmu, untuk ngobrol sama Sang Pemberi Rezeki. Deketin dia disaat sedang sempit, maupun disaat sedang lapang. Jangan pas lagi sempitnya doang dideketin, pas lagi seneng kadang suka lupa😢
Once I actually get this blog fixed (don't look at the theme or pages pls) I'm adding Steve Rogers to my muses bc I've played him for years. And I'm putting this up as a reminder to write out my headcanon for his relationship with Howard and how it affects his relationship with Tony.