#labels matter

[i-platypus]

I'm begging you all again to remember:

Not all Aros are Ace

Not all Aces are Aro

You can not, and should not, use "aroace" as a catch-all, short-handed term for ace-spec or aro-spec identities

Our nuances are just as important as yours. Please respect them.

#asexual #aromantic #arospec #ace spec #words mean things #labels matter #psa #why don't we get drunk and queue

[nerdygaymormon]

#Emmaus LGBT1 Ministry #labels matter #queerstake #elder giraud-carrier

[rudyhale]

Pride Month 2022 fest style lineup playlist

Stand with Pride. Out and proud artists who keep up the fight. Theme: Celebrate who you are. Who you love.

Labels matter.

Headliners:

TROYE SIVAN

GREYSON CHANCE

ISAAC DUNBAR

Hayley Kiyoko

Tove Lo

OMAR APOLLO

And LIL NAS X

#pride #gay pride #music #pop #troye sivan #greyson chance #isaac dunbar #hayley kiyoko #tove lo #omar apollo #lil nas x #lesbian #gay #biseuxal #transgender #queer #labels matter #Spotify

[livingwellnessblog]

Don’t make THIS mistake if you are using the Law Of Assumption

LABELS MATTER!

I recently peeked into a rather toxic subreddit, which truthfully subreddits tend to be, (I invite you to join the group forums that i am creating on this website, just navigate to the coaching tab, hoover, and fidn the “groups” tab at the bottom…. I promise to keep the groups toxinfree!)

But let’s get back to what caught my eye…Please be ALERT to wrong information!

The MOST  fatal mistake (out of MANY) is what I will cover here.

Do. NOT. Label somebody, somebody SPECIAL, that you are spending your time manifesting, into your life, ANY of these things:

AN EX

A STRANGER

A NARCISSIST

TOXIC

Or ANYTHING else that you don’t, in fact, want to spend the rest of your life with.

Labels MANIFEST!

If your label is “my ex” that’s exactly what they will continue to be.

Do you want a relationship?

Marriage?

Tell me, what is YOUR label of them, and of yourself, if it is MARRIAGE that you want?

Are you calling them toxic in every converation? Are you SURE you want that person in your life? If you do, you better stop talking about them that way, have some boundaries regarding their treatment of you and STOP “telling it like it is.” Call them wonderful, because isn’t that what you want?

What is your end?

Clearly define your end, do not be ambivalent. KNOW with CLARITY what you WANT.

Neville Goddard is clear, go to the end, and if your label is “my ex” then that is the end you are living from.

You are living from the end of broken up.

How hard is THAT to manifest a relationship  from? It is like shoveling snow in a snowstorm!

Command your speech.

Your thoughts and your speech matter, this label is an indication that your inner and outer talk is in a state of “broken up”. Your speech is God, as it states in the Bible, “In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word WAS God” Your word is God.

What is your aim in life? Make sure that your speech conforms to that and only that.

Imagine that you are manifesting w bouquet of roses, so you are imagining the scent of roses and burying your face into a lovely bouquet, inhaling deeply, but in the very next breath you go on social media to type out how “it isn’t working” because as soon as you opened your eyes again there were no roses? It is like people have no resilience, and if there is no instant gratification you just give up! Why? You are thought to command your speech, and yet you don’t?

The problem is not your “method” your problem is your speech

So are you doing this:?  

Are you  doing SATS and affirmations, but you keep visiting the “manifesting” communities, writing out your failures again and again…. And again…. And again…

Everytime you talk about your difficult situation, you relabel yourself as someone who constantly struggles. If you are used to venting, this will be hard for you kno doubt. You think that you NEED to vent, and to “talk it over” with your friends. YOu think that you need to ask reddit for advice, and to type out your struggles several times, but the truth is that you never “need” to vent. You only need to become a “manifesting warrior” and stop believing in the opposite of what you want.

Guess what you are manifesting? You are manifesting your problems.  To continue to be your problems. You are not manifesting a solution.

The good news is that you can see that it works, because you are successfully manifesting your problems to continue.

Define your labels

If you want to be successful, re-label yourself from failure, or  victim, and get clear on what your label should be. Are you a success?

Are you together with them? Decide now to re-label this. Don’t use the word ex anymore. OR if you are dealing with a THIRD PARTY, Never call them a third party, that is now their EX.

Call them what you want them to be, call yourself what  you want yourself to be. Your speech MATTERS.

#neville goddard #labels matter #ex #toxic relationship #narcissist #law of assumption

[angryaromantics]

I get the hesitancy to claim a label when you're not completely sure of it yourself. This is especially prevalent in the aro and ace communities because how do you prove a negative? Maybe you will meet someone in twenty years and feel that proverbial spark. But here's the truth: it doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter if it's a phase!! You are living in this body, in this moment, in this label right now. Who you are now matters just as much as who you might be.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #labels are here to serve you and help you to connect to people like you and that matters even if your identity Is transitional #koko thinkin thots

[winterf4iryy]

fuck all of you who decide to stay neutral. fuck all of you who decide to stay silent. fuck all of you who are not educating yourself about what is happening right now. fuck every celebrity that posted a notes app screenshot of empty words. fuck bbc and nbc and joe biden and the u.s and britain and nearly every western country and media outlet. fuck israel and zionists and privileged white liberals turning a blind eye. fuck all of you. israel bombed a hospital and hundreds if not thousands are dead and a father had to carry the PIECES of his sons in plastic bags because they were blown to bits. a resting place for journalists has now turned into a morgue. every day people are being killed and it’s being DOCUMENTED and you still wanna be silent and neutral and say this doesn’t involve you. your lack of humanity is vile and horrid and i hope you never know one moment of happiness the rest of your life.

#genuinely have lost all of my respect for a LOT of people in the past week #speak the fuck up #use your voice #it doesnt matter if 1 or 100 people see it #IT MATTERS #Repost videos of people in Gaza and what they’re documenting #journalists are on Instagram updating constantly #RESHARE IT #my ig is grnbrviv and ive reposted from accounts of those in gaza #sbeih.jpg has a pinned post labelled Gaza Awareness of people updating in real time #shame on you if you aren’t disturbed by the literally genocide going on at this very moment #palestine #free palestine #gaza

[mothcpu]

happy valentine's day!

#ULTRAKILL #V2 #mirage #DECT #v2 ultrakill #mirage ultrakill #been sick as a dog recently so I'm surprised I was able to get this finished. yuri prevails #honestly don't think either of them bother with sexuality labels but I do think theyre both some variation of arospec #at the end of the day what matters is that m cares about v2 more deeply than she'll ever admit and v2 is completely devoted to her

[inkskinned]

you wanted to be a good friend, because you loved your friends, but the truth was that everyone else somehow had a pamphlet on being normal that you never received. most of the time you learn by trial-and-error. you are terrified of the next big mistake you make, because it seems like the rules are completely arbitrary.

you've learned to keep the prickly parts of your personality in a stormcloud under your bed - as if they're a second version of you; one that will make your friends hate you. it feels feral, burning, ugly.

instead, you have assembled habits based on the statistical likelihood of pleasing others. you're a good listener, which is to say - if you do speak up, you might end up saying the wrong thing and scaring off someone, but people tend to like someone-who-listens. or you've got no true desires or goals, because people like it when you're passive, mutable. you're "not easy to fluster" which is to say - your emotions are fundamentally uninteresting to others around you; so you've learned to control them to a degree that you can no longer really feel them happening.

you have long suspected something is wrong with you, but most of the time, googling doesn't help. you are so-used to helping-yourself, alone and with no handbook. the reek of your real self feels more like a horrible joke - you wake up, and, despite all your preparations, suddenly the whole house is full of smoke. the real you is someone waiting to ruin your other-life, the one where you're normal and happy. the real-self is unpredictable, angry.

your real self snarls when people infantilize the whole situation. because if you were really suffering, everyone seems to think you'd be completely unable to cope. but you already learned the rules, so you do know how to cope, and you have fucking been coping. it's not black-and-white. it's not that you are healed during the other times - it's just that you're able to fucking try. and honestly, whenever you show symptoms, it's a really fucking bad sign.

because the symptoms you have are ugly and unmanageable for others. your symptoms aren't waifish white girl things. they're annoying and complicated. they will be the subject of so many pretentious instagram reels. if they cared about you, they'd just show up on time. you care, a lot, so deeply it burns you. you like to picture a world where the comments read if they loved you, they'd never need glasses to see. but since that's a rule you've seen repeated - "one must never be late or you are a bad friend" - you constantly worry about being late and leave agonizingly early. there are no words for how you feel when you're still late; no matter how hard you were trying.

so you have to make up for it. you have to make up for that little horrible real you that you keep locked in a cabinet. you are bad at answering emails so every project you make has to be perfect. you are weird and sensitive so you have to learn to be funny and interesting. you are an inconvenience to others, so you become as smooth as possible, buffing out all the rough parts.

all this. all this. so people can pass their hands over you and just tell you just the once -how good you are. you're a good friend. you're loveable.

#spilled ink #woke up at 530 to write this lmafo #me in a cold sweat: #how do i be normal #edit in the tags: #hey so i've seen y'all talk about like ... wondering if ur ''allowed'' to relate #like if this is about X specific diagnosis #and when i first posted it i really almost labelled it ''please don't assume this is about a specific condition'' #because as an artist i am often walking this line of discussing a symptom or discussing my conditions etc #and sometimes yes ! i do want to talk about an experience that is specific to who i am and my condition #but sometimes the effort of the post is about the EXPERIENCE rather than the diagnosis #because yes i am not neurotypical and as a result that influences my work but it is ALSO true that there are many reasons #why someone might experience this particular vague horrible feeling that you are... almost being CHASED by what you ''really'' are. #that you're outrunning your symptoms... that you're not really normal you're just sort of a mockery of a person #.... that's a really isolating and horrible way to feel no matter why you are feeling it. and the nature of this PARTICULAR post is that #it is inherently talking ABOUT that sense of isolation & of feeling not-deserving & of minimizing your own experiences to make urself #palatable for society in a way that others find easy-to-deal-with.... #this post is about a certain experience such that my impression is there's a higher likelihood that those who relate #would have more difficulty thinking they ''deserve'' to relate - that it doesn't REALLY belong to them #bc often we are the kind of people who are SO used to being alienated and set aside and ''different'' that we AUTOMATICALLY assume #that things are not ''for'' us... they never have been why would it start now #we are the kinds of people to be ... ''too normal for X diagnosis but too symptomatic to be normal'' #[or as this post points out... so good at ''coping''/masking/hiding it that we essentially conform to whatever shape we're poured into] #but i have witnessed others already say in the tags ''thought this was about me but it's about X so it can't be'' #and im like ... of course it was about you. #art is not a resource that is diminished by greater appreciation . #you reflect in whatever mirror fits your frame. not just the ones in your bedroom. not just the ones i specifically give you. #there will be - and often are - times that i will talk about my specific conditions... but if you're reading this #regardless of why you're here... we are here together. holding hands through space and time. and i love you for carrying it #and i know you're exhausted. i am too. but i understand. and i see you.

[c0l0re]

I love you trans people, I love you transsexuals, I love you FTMs, I love you MTFs, I love you trannies, I love you transgenders, I love you trans men, I love you trans women, I love you nonbinary people, I love you genderfluid people, I love you multigender people, I love you people with no gender at all, I love you genderqueer people, happy trans day of visibility to each and every one of you, I hope you have an amazing day and are safe and happy and proud of who you are <3333

#trans #transgender #ftm #mtf #transsexual #nonbinary #enby #genderfluid #multigender #genderqueer #trans man #trans woman #trans positivity #trans day of visibility #colore speaks #love yall so much <33333 #no matter what labels or terminology you use for yourself you are loved and appreciated and are valid as hell #happy tdov from this bigender and genderqueer boychick <3

[hel1anthus-annuus]

Love this bitch for having multiple gender filters on. He’s transmasc, he’s a woman who’s a man, she’s nothing at all

#i love the idea of writing mizu as effectively nonbinary because of the constant isolation and alienation she feels #identifying with womanhood in a sort of secondary manner— a samurai first and a woman second #explores womanhood through mizu lol #no matter what. shes trans in some way #though i hesitate applying that label #if only because i dont think mizu would identify as trans in any instance; i’m sure mizu thinks he just IS #stuck between womanhood (something she doesn’t really care about) and manhood (a mask for her to put on to fulfill his goals) #and yet transmasc interpretations of mizu UTTERLY FASCINATE ME #AUGH! woman who is a man (this is both a transmasc and nonbinary filter) #thinking back to mizu binding. i wonder how he felt #that scene can have so many gender filters #pain— applicable to both a woman binding to avoid misogyny and a trans man binding to avoid misogyny and dysphoria #i think no matter how you see mizu; he’s dysphoric in that scene #i could go on #blue eye samurai

[privateolives]

This is probably because I grew up watching 24/7 animal planet, but what finally made the allo/aplatonic thing click for me were the nature's of big cats.

Lions are powerful, regal creatures who are uniquely adapted to pack life. They need these connections to live a healthy life; A lonely lion is a miserable creature indeed.

Jaguars are solitary, beautiful creatures who live happily solitary. They prowl their lush world with self-sufficient majesty. A jaguar is not lonely without a pack. In fact, forcing jaguars to share space with others they do not enjoy is just as damaging as forcing a lion to live alone.

A lion may choose to head out on it's own for the most part, but in the end must return to the pack to thrive. A jaguar can choose to trust and enjoy the company of others, but they never feel the need to form a pack.

Is a jaguar selfish for this? A psychopath, a narcissist or any other such horrid assumptions? Is it a less moral creature than a lion, who seeks others like it to thrive?

Is a lion pathetic, or needy, or selfish for wanting community? For requiring contact with others like they require water? For their inherent need to string complicated webs of relationships that may seem silly or dramatic to others?

Of course not. These are ridiculous questions to even ask.

They are simply lions and jaguars.

In fact, is a jaguar that chooses to spend time with you not as magical as a lion's love? For a creature that needs no bond to thrive to still enjoy your presence enough to share it a time? Is a lion who can prowl the night alone not impressive in its strength and resilience? Is it not awe-inspiring in its ability to conquer a life it was never wired for and reign still?

Are they not both beautiful and awe-inspiring in their own ways, without being wrong?

Alloplatonics. Aplatonics. Are we not both special and beautiful in both our bonds and self-confident happiness equal, in each our ways? Is there not unique beauty in lifelong bonded packs and magical encounters that need no perpetuity to carry life forward?

Are we not but lions and jaguars? Neither wrong, neither selfish, but just different and beautiful creatures in each our ways?

That's how I've come to see it, anyway.

#lgbt #aspec #lgbtqa+ #asexual #aromantic #aroace #loveless #aplatonic #alloplatonic #animals #I woke up at like 3 in themmorning to write this so I apologise for weird wording #I'm not awake enough to go hunting for the videos but if you want to see more about the equal majesty and difference in cats bonding #I suggest looking up Kevin Richardson's work with lions and panthers #I love animals. I hope I didn’t come off as degrading to anyone by using them as comparison #I can assure you the association only carries the deepest respect from me. #anyway all the aro discourse floating about made me think of this issue again #and how explaining allo/a-platonic needs has been a difficult task in the past #you're all valid no matter your labels or shapes or spots or manes #remember that when an orientation you don't understand comes to the lgbtable your job isn't to test them #it's to make room

[nyancrimew]

can I ask how being a bi lesbian (or. however you specifically describe it works) works? is it like. lesbian romantic but bisexual, or the other way around, or...? i don't know if that's a respectful way to ask ;-; i'm just. not very knowledgeable on this.

personally im just mostly homoromantic but bisexual and just have a strong sapphic lean in general and also labels are made up and i get to be silly with them if i want to

#the same label can mean something else to anyone else #which is true of all labels #no matter how clearly you wanna define ur boxes #so why not break the boxes a bit yknow

[columboscreens]

#columbo #season 2 #double shock #mrs peck ysee im literally neurodivergent and a minor #columbo very competently weaponizes his dysfunction. he doesn't make it up. it's not An Act. he simply leverages whats already there #hes tried labeling. closet organizers. shelving drawers devices etc etc forever and ever and it doesnt matter. he is just entropy incarnate #and he's made peace with it. and so has his wife who presumably accepts bringing order to his lack thereof

[hel7l7]

I don't understand anything that happened between us

#this-series #vent art #venting #mixed media #nothing even really happened #but at the same time #idk #s #nothing real happened at least #not like i wanted to #but we had conversations that were too vulnerable to label as just nothing #so #now idk #but it's over so it doesn't matter anyway

[lbhslefttiddie]

youve heard of sex flowers get ready for the flower that makes you into a celestial shoujo herione complete with particle effects you cannot turn the fuck off and creates a wifebeam so powerful it can incapacitate and maim and keeps making you burst into tears and fall on your ass which makes the wifebeam More Powerful and you also cannot turn this off either. and is also still, sort of, a sex flower

from one of my favorite fanfictions, Celestial Afterglow by elanor_pam, a fic that defies description in the best possible way

#arts #shen qingqiu #svsss #listen im not saying that ive spent a cumulative half a year reading this fic and then trying to make an arts for it #and then getting frustrated and stopping because i couldn't figure out how to make sqq shimmery enough #but like. im not NOT saying that #this is the FOURTH time ive started something for this bitch it haunts my fucking dreams and yet the opalescent glittery sqq evades me #perhaps you o unlearned fool look at this and say hmm that's too many colour layers and glowy effects but oh how wrong you are #if it doesnt make you literally fall over yourself at how otherworldly and radiant he is then there is room for improvement yet #perhaps you look at this and you think Wow!!! this gives me literally NO ideas what this fic is about #well Let Me Tell You. i have no fucking idea how to summarize this fic #its not often the tags in a fic give me pause but i saw this and as i read the tags i was increasingly just like What #but i have no idea how to describe it. the tags arent NOT accurate but i was SO unprepared for what happened in like an extremely pos way #if i were tagging this i think i would give it the no archive warnings apply label if that matters to you #the author seemed they wanted to leaned towards over caution rather than risk missing anything re tags because This Is A Weird Fic #but oh my fucking god #i am gripping you by the shoulders i cannot stress enough how charming it is #brilliant characterization especially with airplane in the first scene #and also so much fucking funnier than i thought possible for the general setting summary tags and buildup #its just. ough. its good

[kirbylord]

i feel like i won’t be able to put this correctly but i love the difference between how azi and crowley express their love and how beelzebub and gabriel express it. like beez and gabriel love each other but they never kiss because they’re not humans, they’re ethereal/occult beings who don’t express love in human terms. and their love isn’t explicitly romantic or queerplatonic or platonic but it doesn’t matter the label except that they’re in love.

but with crowley and azi, they’ve lived among humans for 6000 years, and they like earth and humanity, they enjoy eating human food and drinking and they enjoy human music and dancing and books, and i think overtime they’ve become connected with the human experience. so, when crowley comes to terms that he loves azi and needs to express it, his first instinct is to express how humans do—by kissing him.

it doesn’t mean they’re suddenly explicitly romantic, just that they’re expressly in love, and crowley in his desperation needs to show aziraphale those feelings before it’s too late. but unfortunately, he’s always too late.

#i still like to think their relationship is not strictly romantic #they probably wouldn’t label it anyway #but in my heart of hearts i do love the idea of them being in a queerplatonic relationship #and they express however they see fit without any human expectations #they love each other in their own way and that’s all that matters #crowley #aziraphale #good omens #good omens 2 #good omens 2 spoilers #good omens spoilers #ineffable husbands #ineffable divorce #beelzebub #gabriel