#just asshole things

[just-antithings]

I saw someone give a negative review of the source material for something I like which is whatever but what really gets under my skin is that they randomly decided to Include in their review that the creator (gasp) likes “weird nsfw” (op didn’t even specify what they meant by that ) and that’s one of their complaints for some reason???? what the fuck are you doing…criticise the source material all you want but leave the creators porn preferences out of it you fucking creep

Ugh yeah seriously

#mod erin #ask #just anti things #just asshole things

[traumatizedjaguar]

If someone doesn't let you explain yourself during a misunderstanding, get away from that person and cut them out of your life for good. That's super toxic of them to do.

#my text #actuallymentallyill #actuallyabused #actuallytraumatized #toxic friends #toxic relationships #toxic people #fake people #just asshole things #quotes #understanding #bpd #you deserve the world #you deserve love #you deserve it #you deserve better #you deserve to be happy #life quotes

[bluesunshine21]

Steve: So, what do you think?

Sam: I wasn’t listening but I strongly disagree with Barnes.

Steve:

Steve: He’s not even here.

#avengers #marvel #mcu #incorrect marvel quotes #mcu fandom #quotes #funny texts #bucky barnes #am i the asshole #just asshole things #sambucky #sam wilson #bird man #bucky x y/n #bucky x reader

[thatstolenpayal]

"tujhe lagta hai tera ____ aisa kabhi kar sakta hai???"

"toh ab tu duniya aur anjaan logon pe trust karegi but merepe nahi??"

"tujhe mujhpe bharosa nahi hai?"

"nahi matlab isse main itna disappoint ho gaya hu na, mujhe kuch samajh nahi raha kya karu, mera dimag kharab ho raha hai, main kuch ulta seedha kar dunga"

"tune mujhse baat karna band kiya toh main suicide kar lunga"

"I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE" "YOU CAN'T DO THIS TO ME"

"MUJHSE HANDLE NAHI HORA MAIN SHAYAD MAR JAAUNGA"

"please mujhse baat kar, main chaar din se khaana bhi nahi kha paaya hu"

"maine room me khudko band kar liya hai, mere papa office se ghar aa gaye mere liye"

"tu ye bilkul accha nahi karri"

manipulation <3

madarchod bhosdike terepe kaala jaadu kar rahi hu, maut ke liye tadpega tu par wo bhi nahi dungi, jaahil jaat gawaar saale dekh tu bas ab kuch naseeb nahi hoga tereko

#desiblr #desi aesthetic #random rants #desi shit posting #desi stuff #love #desi tumblr #just asshole things #my rants #old bollywood #experience #manipulation

[fandom-hoarder]

Looking for something in my marked for laters and getting pretty angry about the deleted fics and fics now hidden in collections. I know a lot of the deleted fics were by z, and that's upsetting but I at least know why. But the ones hidden in collections. Those are very likely OTHER PEOPLE'S FICS. GIVE THEM BACK.

#how to ao3 #reader problems #just asshole things

[tobias-oliver]

Sucks to be the douche who ghosted me on the day we were supposed to hook up. I wiped my asshole with a ✨️scented✨️ wipe for you 🖕

#just asshole things #hornyposting #ghosted #comedy #funny #gen z memes

[baby-bun76]

BRO SOME GUY ASKED ME TO SEND A PIC OF ME AFTER LIKING ALL MY STUFF AND FLIRTING WITH ME AND THEN HE BLOCKED ME WHAT THE FUUUCKK

#like wtf #just asshole things

[just-antithings]

Just asshole things: describing an actress as "putrid" and "vile" and claiming she should be blacklisted for *checks notes* starring in a film the OP personally didn't care for

#mod erin #ask #image #just anti things #just asshole things

[onedirectionweirdo]

i want a sleep schedule, but the said sleep schedule doesn't seem to need me, wtf am i supposed to do ?

sleep ?!

#sleep #sleep deprivation #sleep schedule #just asshole things

[azulcadente]

Os cara fofocando e zoando o fato deu ter raspado minhas sobrancelhas como se eu não fosse perceber kkkkkkk gente vcs se juntarem em uma roda não é muito discreto viu

#brasil #desabafo #anotações #funny #boring #normies #burros #wtf #just asshole things #lol #weird people #notes #alt girl

[daddyscandyshop]

#meme #teenagers #just asshole things

[lola-23s-blog]

Some people just can't shut up🙄

#talk shit get hit #living hell #just asshole things

[vanillanarcisist]

Recuerdo que dijiste que me ibas a alejar en cuanto me enamorara; te alejaste tú y ni siquiera me diste la oportunidad de sentir mi amor por ti.

¿Cómo sabías que me había enamorado?

Podrías decirme porfavor

#artists on tumblr #original art #poemas #poets on tumblr #mentiras #just asshole things #i am not in love #i love him

[bryan-damage]

Convincing someone to sacrifice everything for a cause takes a great deal of manipulation, of course, but there are ways to get your target to do most of the work for you.

Let me give you an example, using myself in the role of the person who will be manipulated.

I don't care for tipping. It's a thing that has become increasingly common in America. In real life, of course, I do tip despite the fact that I don't like it because I understand that servers often count on those tips because employers will pay them less than minimum wage because legally they can get away with it. I also realize that screwing a server out of a tip just hurts them, it doesn't fix any problems. But let's pretend that I'm tired of tipping and I've reached a level of frustration with it that I'm willing to disregard the facts.

I get together with a group of friends once a week for lunch and we all pay for ourselves and leave our own tips. One day, I decide not to tip, because of the PRINCIPLE of the thing. I've decided I'm going to TAKE A STAND, and I refuse to play ball and tip.

One of my friends notices and says something. I explain that I don't believe in tipping. They tell me what I already know, that the server is often getting paid on the basis that most of her money comes from tips.

Now, here's the key moment:

I decide to make a VERY BIG DEAL out of it. I get worked up and start showing signs of anger as I explain that tipping is bullshit, I say "Only IDIOTS tip" (childish name-calling), I say things like "WHO DO I TIP IF I'M AGAINST EXPLOITATION OF WORKERS, GUYS?" (sarcasm, mockery) and I make claims like "Tipping is literally fascism!" (gross exaggeration).

And now I'm locked in. My blood pressure is up and everyone is staring and there's no turning back. This is now a core part of my identity and the very act of tipping is something I will consider a personal affront.

Of course my friends are aghast, they don't know where this is coming from and they don't understand why their attempts to reason with me just cause me to get even more intense. I don't end up leaving a tip and everyone leaves quieter than usual.

See, what I've done is made a jackass of myself in public, and now my PRIDE is on the line. Now I couldn't change my mind even if I wanted to. Hell, even if I really needed to, even if it was a situation of life and death, I might not be able to.

At this point, in order to change my mind I have to summon up the strength, willpower and courage to admit I was wrong and apologize and act differently in the future, and those are qualities that I don't have.

So the next weekend comes, and once again I refuse to tip, and once again someone says something so I lose my shit and throw and even bigger fit about it in public. Third week, nobody says anything but only half of my friends show up; everyone else seems to have something else going on.

If someone points out that the reason everyone is gone because of my asshole behavior, I immediately start playing the role of victim. "Am I ALLOWED to say something against tipping or will people just call me an asshole?!" I loudly and angrily lament, displaying my imagined martyrdom for all to see.

Or maybe I say something like "IF THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH MY BEHAVIOR, THAT'S THEIR OWN FAULT FOR BEING TOO SENSITIVE," as a means of making my behavior (the choices I've personally decided to make) someone else's problem because god forbid I learn self-control. (Calling others "too sensitive" is a common thing abusers will say to justify their actions, as it passes the burden to my victims. Some may recognize this strategy as "victim-blaming".)

I get online and make (or reblog) anti-tipping memes that portray people like me and Mr. Pink from Reservoir Dogs as either victims of a society that doesn't care, or as brave heroes who had the courage to stand up and fight the massive injustice that is tipping.

My behavior gets worse. Now I lose my shit on complete strangers in public if I see someone else leave a tip. I might even go to restaurants and steal tips, "Just to teach them a lesson." The very word "tip" sends me into a blind, incoherent rage, I can't even watch Archer anymore.

I need to control everyone, see? I accuse tippers of being fascists but I'm the one trying to control everyone.

I am no longer even capable of seeing reason. I am no longer capable of having a calm discussion on the topic. There's no evidence that could possibly exist that will change my mind. I will always have an argument to justify my behavior. I am immovable, and I think that this makes me strong and courageous, when in reality, I am motivated by weakness, the fear of recognizing my foolishness controls me.

And the thing is, I know that my refusal to tip isn't going to make tipping culture vanish. My endless screeds on social media about how bad tipping is results in strangers explaining, once again, that I'm not really helping anyone or anything, I'm just hurting the servers and making my friends uncomfortable. But I just respond to these with the exact same arguments I've been using, followed up by more sarcasm, mockery, aggression, anger, and so forth.

(Naturally, I'm not doing anything to actually exact any real change to tipping culture. That takes effort, and I'm far more interested in the self-righteous feeling of superiority that being super-preachy gives me.)

On the hypothetical extreme end of things, even if a server is marched out in front of me, and their boss, a man wielding a gun, points it at them and says "Tip or I'm going to murder this server!", I'm still going to hold back. I might even watch the server get murdered, right in front of me, and blame everyone except myself and maybe the guy holding the gun (he has a gun so he's scary, I'm not courageous enough to stand up to him on behalf of someone else).

Yes, this type of stupid, stubborn PRIDE really is this powerful. This is the nature of human psychology, unless I were to become self-aware enough to recognize my behavior for the robotic, emotional knee-jerk reaction that it is and swallow my pride. It's literally so hard to do this at this point, though, that I will probably never have the strength. I have doomed myself to die on this hill. I will learn to live without my friends, and will probably quietly resent them for not being on my side for the rest of my life.

And all of this could have been avoided if I'd refrained from acting like a massive asshole right from the start. (Also I should have thought things through a whole lot more.)

And if someone in my life were to successfully get me worked up on any issue to the extent that I make a massive ass of myself over it, they could get me to do anything at all and I will commit completely.

#just asshole things #am i the asshole #jackass #manipulation #advertising #mind control #mind conditioning #self control #culture #psychology #mental health #coping #pride #pridefulness #stubborn #arrogance #emotional abuse #psychological abuse #conditioning #punk rock #save yourself

[wait-no-why]

My friend said he wanted a singular pancake.

#just asshole things #I think I’m funny #he will not

[just-antithings]

Fictional characters are to antis what "the unborn" are to pro-lifers.

Fictional characters, like the fetus, are the epitome of everything good the anti/pro-lifers wants to demonstrate on their crusade. They're uncomplicated. They're abstract. They are exactly what the arguer thinks they are in that moment. They will never disagree with the arguer and never make demands of their own.

Pro-lifers rarely help born people, and in fact gleefully call for the deaths of born people, because born people make demands, and have their own free wills, and sometimes make mistakes. The unborn will always be a perfect being, a tragedy, a what could have been; "what if the baby you aborted could have cured cancer?"

Antis rarely care for real people, and in fact often gleefully abuse them for disagreeing with their stances, because real people make demands, have their own free wills, and sometimes make mistakes. Fictional characters will always be perfect, and a tragedy, and a what-if; "what if the fictional character knew you shipped them with a literal child?"

Fictional characters are a way for antis to "care" about abuse/rape without actually confronting the reality that abuse survivors, as with anyone else, are messy people who have flaws and don't agree on any one issue. Just as fetuses are a way for pro-lifers to control the abortion debate with an image that is solely about shallow, unearned pathos, and never about the beings that currently occupy this world.

Both are the weak attempts of a person who likes the IDEA of doing/being good, but not the actual work that goes into making the world a better place. You can see it in how they react to anyone who disagrees with them with unrestrained vitriol and hatred. It isn't about "protecting life" or "protecting abuse/rape victims", but about being SEEN as someone who wants to protect life or protect rape/abuse victims.

Sorry for the long ask but I had this thought a while ago and wanted to share it.

Oh yeah they’re very similar mindsets

#mod erin #ask #just anti things #just asshole things #abortion mention #rape mention #abuse mention #cancer mention #death wishes mention