#it’s the eldest daughter syndrome

[audhd-nightwing]

okay lemme just-

dick grayson:

- eldest brother

- watched parents die, swore revenge on murderer

- raised as a child soldier from a young age (9 y/o)

- complicated relationship with (adoptive) father, lots of unresolved anger but still defends him

- believes he has a better understanding of his father than his younger brother does (has spent more time around him)

- copes with humor, bottles up emotions, feels he has to ‘be strong’ for his family, doesn’t talk about his own issues

- extremely loyal to those deemed ‘family’

- bi coded

- spent his childhood moving around constantly (traveling circus)

- seen as a playboy/flirty, uses it to get information

- had to raise his little brother / was basically a parent to him

- self-sacrificing as FUCK, total martyr complex

- constantly wears a fake persona and rarely shows his true self to others

dean winchester:

- eldest brother

- watched his mom die, swore revenge on the demon that killed her

- raised as a child soldier from a young age (4 y/o)

- complicated relationship with father, they have unresolved issues but he still defends him

- believes he understands his father better than his younger brother does (has spent more time around him)

- copes with humor, bottles up emotions, feels he has to ‘be strong’ for his family, doesn’t like talking about his own issues

- extremely loyal, values family above all else

- bi coded

- moved around his whole childhood

- seen as a playboy/flirty, uses it to get information

- had to raise his little brother, was more of a parent to him than their dad ever was

- self-sacrificing to a worrying degree, definite martyr complex

- constantly wears a fake persona and rarely shows his true self to others

#this is for the ppl who say jason is more like dean #he is not!! #GUYS PLSASE #it’s the eldest daughter syndrome #they are both bisexual fight me #dick grayson #dean winchester #dc comics #supernatural #dc #dcu #spn #bruce wayne #john winchester #character analysis #similarities #character study #tropes #character tropes

[femmelie]

the nurturer within me wants to gather nona up in my arms, and to braid her hair, and to sing little songs to her, to throw an amazing birthday party for her, and despite the fact that she’s basically indestructible, to shield her from every horrible thing ever.

#it’s the eldest daughter syndrome #would you believe it if i told you i’m the mom friend #nona the ninth #nona #tlt #the locked tomb trilogy #the locked tomb

[cloverstellar]

you are sibling coded

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#rose asks #ask game #anonymous #it’s the eldest daughter syndrome

[melmov]

I cast: curse of the eldest (can’t ask for help)

#dick grayson #nightwing #jason todd #red hood #dc #art #my art #digital art #fanart #dick has eldest daughter syndrome #cant ask for help or burden anyone but will always be there for everyone else #Jason sees right through him but he doesn’t know how to make someone feel comfortable with being open #ugh I have so many feels #I’m about to make dick and Damian art because me and my youngest siblings are closest and idk how to even talk to the others

[inkskinned]

it's hard to explain because inevitably you sound like an asshole, but some people are allowed to lose their temper, lose their mind - you're not, though.

when your friend never texts you first and misses your birthday and never makes an effort; you don't mind. you know she's struggling, and you want her to get the help that she deserves. you give her every excuse and every chance.

it shouldn't matter to you so much that people are always coming through for her. you want her to be happy, you love it for her. you love that her community rises up to the occasion. why does it bother you that when she snaps at someone, says horrible mean things - but two hours later, everyone is comforting her while she's crying. you know she's stressed. why do you kind of hate that she is welcomed back to her job, that her parents are endlessly wiring her money.

and you're - fuck, are you envious?

but when you don't text back, someone sits you down and says i know you're struggling, but you're being a bad friend. when you're too numb to show up for work, your boss just shakes his head. i'm sorry. i can't approve more time off. we have the company to protect. when you finally snap back at your family for making that shitty comment again, you're forced to apologize for being too sensitive.

god forbid you need something. people aren't used to you being the one asking. you're the giver like the book you hated; your pages all open and rumpled. you always have the answer, always have the solution. you are reliable, trustworthy. people like you don't struggle with things. you're supposed to be lifted by tragedy. you are given a maximum of 24 hours to grieve, and then you need to just behave at the party.

you can't read the giving tree without feeling like crying, and even that feels like it's too much emotion. like, nobody looks at you and assumes you're the tree; they'd name five other people before even considering you in the running. you're just there, never-asking.

your friend gets to say mean shit, that's just her personality. when you make a snide comment, you're just being petty. people laugh when your friend stands you up for another event; they say she's just like that. you were 5 minutes late to a meeting with friends and they were mad about it for the rest of the evening. your friend sets everything on fire; everyone applauds her through the ashes. you so much as light a candle: and suddenly now you're an arsonist.

you don't want your friend to suffer, though. the thing is that you just wish that the empathy and kindness your friend gets - you wish you had that option, that everyone offered you grace and money and a gentle reception.

the other day you were fighting down the bad urge; the void call, the end note. you tried-anyway. you went to the family event, tried laughing at the right moments. nodded and smiled and all of it. one of your siblings threw a fit, but she's allowed to, so everyone just rolled their eyes about it. you took 3 whole minutes to stand outside when you got overwhelmed. you literally set a timer about it.

in the morning you woke up to a text from your parents: you were a complete disgrace last night. idk what your attitude problem is, but you really need to fix it.

#writeblr #eldest daughter syndrome #tbh

[reanimatedgh0ul]

this is their dynamic in a nutshell when you rlly think abt it actually

#jazz is so much more repressed than danny bc of her eldest daughter syndrome/parentification i will die on this hill #danny phantom #robi rambles

[waokevale]

Raph did eventually stop abusing this power. Eventually.

12 years later and Splinter still has yet to lift this privilege.

#rottmnt #rottmnt fanart #save rise of the tmnt #save rottmnt #rottmnt raph #rottmnt splinter #lou jitsu #rise raph #rise splinter #rise fanart #rottmnt comic #digital art #shenanigans #you can not convince me splinter has not done that in the past #i mean someone had to ground these kids #eldest daughter syndrome

[pain-is-my-game]

Parents really do traumatize you and then force you to reparent yourself instead of being a capable human being who can contribute to society like a normal person. Sorry I can't get a well paying job right now I'm trying to learn coping mechanisms.

#i will never care if you reblog #vent #tw vent #cw vent #parentification #toxic parents #emotional trauma #trauma #childhood trauma #trauma coping #childhood emotional neglect #eldest daughter syndrome #eldest daughter #parentified child #childhood neglect #thoughts to throw into the void

[kermit-coded]

god. the way kristen's parents lit up when she asked if she could go to church with them again makes me feel sick. the way they instantly softened and became so much more open and engaged. thinking about the cold way my mother treated me when she found out i told my friend i didn't think i believed in god anymore in high school in contrast with the way she treats me when i go to church with her and my little sister. the way the illusion was broken as soon as bucky wanted to look at the shards. what if i threw up!!

#banner day with eldest daughter syndrome/religious trauma havers #soda speaks #d20 #fh #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #d20 fhjy #dimension 20 fhjy #fantasy high spoilers #fantasy high junior year #d20 fantasy high #fantasy high #kristen applebees #bucky applebees #mac applebees #donna applebees

[punkeropercyjackson]

"It's cringe to make older sibling characters also parental figures to their younger ones,they're not like that irl!"Tell me you're not an eldest sibling without telling me you're not an eldest sibling

#i don't even mean parentification i did this to myself because birth parents are shit step one died and tons of younger friends are the same #so i stepped up for them and my bio younger sibs.this is the same as 'in///cest is normal' because y'all always make us child abusers w/ it #ENOUGH you know NOTHING so SILENCE ONLY CHILD!!!!!!!!! #siblings tag #eldest daughter syndrome #the batkids #nico percy and hazel #todosiblings #kurosaki siblings #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #cassandra cain #duke thomas #damian wayne #percy jackson #nico di angelo #hazel levesque #dabi #fuyumi todoroki #natsuo todoroki #todoroki shouto #ichigo kurosaki #karin kurosaki #yuzu kurosaki #batfam #pjo #bnha geekery #bleach #summerposting

[sonicspeeddemon]

The only 48 year old man to suffer from eldest daughter syndrome

#one piece #charlotte katakuri #katakuri one piece #eldest daughter #eldest daughter syndrome

[frogaroundandfindout]

Ik people say there’s a lot of Parentification going on in dick and Bruce’s relationship because Dick took care of Damian while Bruce was gone, but I want to read a fic where the Parentification follows the textbook definition

“when a child is regularly expected to provide emotional or practical support for a parent, instead of receiving that support themselves”

AND I want the bat siblings to all fucking realize it and be like yo it’s actually weird that we all jokingly call our older brother mom because of how much he takes care of Bruce and us????? Like that’s weird right???

#dick grayson #richard grayson #nightwing #Batman #Bruce Wayne #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome

[imtiredthatsalligot]

F Scott Fitzgerald, Tender is the Night/ New Titans #55/ I.B. Vyache Conversations over Sanguinacchio/ Tales of the Teen Titans #50/ Unknown/ Grayson #9/ Fleabag Episode 2.6/ Outsiders #8/ Hera Lindsay Bird, Mirror Traps/ Robin and Batman #3/The Amazing Devil, Farewell Wanderlust/ Batman Year 3/ Natalie Wee, Our Bodies and Other Fine Machines/ Preludes to the Wedding Nightwing vs Hush  

#I'm having thoughts #this has been in my drafts forever #dick grayson #nightwing #bruce wayne #batman #bruce you gave the poor boy eldest daughter syndrome

[apollos-boyfriend]

fandoms that mischaracterize characters are bad but there is NOTHING worse than fandoms where most of the characters don’t actually have a “canon” characterization. i can’t even pull a “he would not fucking say that” because there’s literally so little to base him off of but by GOD in my heart of hearts i know he would not fucking say that

#icarus speaks #yea this is about creepypasta #eldest daughter syndrome jack……. eldest daughter syndrome jack save me…..

[canthandlethishit]

tim: the longest lasting, most stable relationship I’ve ever had is with depression

jason: mine’s spite

dick: I meant like romantic relationships but go on

#just a 2am type of conversation about love and shit turned group therapy #idk whats dick’s longest most stable ‘relationship’ is like grief? winning. great hair. guilt #eldest daughter syndrome #tim drake #jason todd #dick grayson #red robin #red hood #nightwing #incorrect quotes #dc incorrect quotes #batfam incorrect quotes

[too-much-tma-stuff]

Finally Getting Help (pt 13)

Masterpost

Danny was holding Jason’s hand so tight he felt like his fingers were creaking but Jason wasn’t about to say anything. They were waiting in the doctor's office for Danny’s first ultrasound and Jason was accompanying him as promised, if Danny needed to squeeze his hand that was what Danny needed to do then so be it, it was better the bolting, which it looked like he was considering. Leslie didn’t usually make people wait long but when she had an emergency she had an emergency, it didn’t matter that Bruce funded her clinic, and was sitting awkwardly in one corner, they could wait.

It had been decided that as Danny’s guardian and maybe boyfriend? Bruce and Jason would be the ones to go in with him, with Danny’s agreement of course. Jazz and Dick had both wanted to come too but they didn’t want to crowd the room or overwhelm Danny so it was decided they would stay close by but not come In. Just then they were waiting together at a cafe across the road in case they were needed.

“Alright, I’m sorry to keep you both waiting but you know how Gotham is,” Leslie said a little grim-faced and still stripping off bloody gloves as she walked into their room and tossed them into the trash can. “So, Danny right,” Danny nodded. “Will you come with me into a private room for your examination?” She asked, because of course she did, the phrasing too was carefully worded to not put him on the spot so if Danny was feeling at all threatened or uncomfortable about Jason and Bruce being there he wouldn’t be blamed for following her. 

“You don’t have to,” She added quickly when Danny looked panicked and clung to Jason so tight Jason couldn’t help wincing. “We can move forward with the appointment if them being here makes you more comfortable?” 

Danny nodded quickly so she nodded as well and sat down at her desk, opening a file on her computer. “So, you’re here for an ultrasound right?” She glanced over and Danny nodded again, he seemed to be feeling really shy, Jason had never seen him so nervous, Bruce looked worried. “But it says here you haven’t had a check up in years so would you mind if we do a general exam first? I would like to make sure that You are healthy before we move on to the babies.”

“Yes that’s fine, but you know I’m not fully human right?” Danny asked, she paused for barely a moment. 

“I was told you had some differences,” she confirmed gingerly. “What should I expect?”

“Well, my heart rate is naturally slower than it used to be, and my body temperature is lower. Like I get to ‘healthy human’ temperatures when I have a bad fever. I don’t know what else has changed, honestly. I’ve been avoiding the doctor ever since my accident because I knew how my parents would react,” he said sounding tired and resigned.

“Well then we’ll take today as a paceline and monitor changes. If you’re feeling well today?” She suggested, she probably would have liked to get a baseline before Danny was pregnant but obviously that was impossible. 

“Ya that’s fine, my heartrate is probably a bit fast because I’m nervous but I’m probably healthier then I’ve been in a while. I haven’t been getting into fights and I’ve been eating regularly after all!”

“Alright. I understand but there’s no need to be nervous. This is a safe environment, I won’t do anything that’s not medically necessary.”

“I know, if Bruce and Jason didn’t speak so highly of you I wouldn’t be here. They don’t seem to see eye to eye on much so if they both trust and like you you must be good,” Danny said with a little smile though he was still tense and pale. That anxiety wasn’t going anywhere fast. In the corner Brace gave a sort of strangled cough that had Jason glaring at him even though he didn’t really know what it meant.

“Alright, then let’s get started,” She said before she started Danny’s check-up, all of the normal things a doctor would do if a bit more thorough. Checking eyes, mouth, ears, heart and lungs, and reflexes, circulation and blood pressure. His heartbeat was slow and his blood pressure was low but Danny thought that was probably normal for him? She gave an unconvinced hum. “We’ll have weekly check ups and check it again then. If it’s sustained and doesn’t affect you then we can say it’s normal for you.” She agreed. 

“Alright, well based on the information you’ve told me I think we’ve established a baseline and you’re healthy. Are you ready for your ultrasound?” She asked and Danny took a deep breath, Jason, still standing next to Danny, squeezed his hand gently.

“Ya, as ready as I’ll ever be,” Danny agreed. 

“Thank you, just lay back and pull up your shirt please,” Dr. Leslie requested and Danny did as she’d asked as she pulled up the little monitor and set things up. In the background Bruce shifted so he could see the screen better. “There won’t be much to see,” Leslie warned, shooting Bruce a look as she applied the ultrasound gel. “It’s still too early.”

She put on a fresh pair of gloves and grabbed the wand, “Alright, let's have a look.” She said, pressing it carefully against Danny’s stomach. 

Danny had let go of Jason’s hand while he lay down but now he grabbed around for Jason again, without looking away from the screen now showing inside his abdomen. Jason stepped closer and grabbed Danny’s hand, looking at his face rather than anything else, monitoring for signs the trepidation there might be getting to be too much. He knew Danny was nervous, but they didn’t want this to progress into a panic attack. 

“There they are. Oh! Two, twins. You’re further along than I expected, 10 weeks by the looks of it?” She asked glancing at Danny who nodded. 

“Ya, I’ve only been carrying them for 6 but they’re test tube babies,” he confirmed, his eyes fixed on the screen. 

“Ah,” She sounded, nodding her understanding. “The little round things below their hearts are odd. Do they have two hearts? No, those ones aren’t beating…”

“Those are their cores,” Danny murmured before it seemed to hit him and he looked at Jason, his eyes wide with panic. “Oh my god I AM actually pregnant, it’s not just the cores, I’m pregnant, oh my god I’m pregnant,” he was starting to hyperventilate. 

Dr. Leslie pulled back and Danny practically threw himself into Jason’s arm who held him tight as Danny hid against his chest and trembled. “Do you want us to call Jazz?” Jason offered softly as he held Danny and let him cry.

“No don’t go,” Danny hiccuped against Jason’s chest. 

“I’ll call Jazz,” Bruce added, of course. He would want to help, he did care, but he never had any actual idea how to help. The emotionally unavailable bastard. 

“Do you want me to leave?” Dr. Leslie asked gently. “I would like to have a better look at the twins to check on their development but if you need time I can come back later, or even another day.”

“Just-just give me a minute, please,” Danny sniffled as Jason rubbed his back.

“Of course. I know this is overwhelming,” Leslie said gently. 

Jazz barged into the room and immediately hugged Danny a well, sandwiched safely between her and Jason. “Scruff him, it’ll help,” she told Jason, who nodded and squeezed the back of Danny’s neck. 

He shuddered and then started to relax between the two of them, basically letting the two taller, and trusted, people hold him up. His sobs turned into sniffles and then a few deep breaths. “Okay, okay I think I’m ready. I want to know that they’re okay too. I know their cores are developing well but if they have human bodies, we need to make sure those are healthy too right?” 

“Right. Do you want me to stay, or do you want Bruce to come back in?” Jazz asked gently. 

“No, you and Jason stay please,” Danny said softly. He had thought it was right for Bruce to come in as his guardian, but it was Jazz who had really been looking after him for years. “There’s not much to see right now, just little blobs. We’ll tell him how it goes.”

Danny took another breath and then squirmed out of both of their arms and went to lay back on the table, pulling up his shirt again. Jason stood next to the examination table, taking Danny’s hand again, Jazz went and sat on the table by Danny’s head and stroked his hair while Dr. Leslie applied fresh jelly to his stomach since it had been worn off during his panic attack. Jason might have to change his shirt after this.

“Alright, let’s have another look shall we?” She said with a warm smile as she pressed the wand against his stomach again. She found the babies again fairly easily. “They seem to be sticking pretty close together,” She said with a little smile. “They’re active little things! It’s far too early to tell anything else about them but from what you’ve told me they seem to be on track and developing properly,” She said, pulling back and offering Danny a cloth to clean the gel off his stomach.

“Do you mind if we call Bruce back in? As your guardian I’d like him to be here for you treatment plan?” She asked.

“Sure, makes sense,” Danny agreed with a nod. 

She nodded back and looked at Jazz, who nodded as well and ducked out to get Bruce. “While we’re mostly alone I want to know, do you know all your options Danny? You know you don’t have to carry them. They’re just embryos right now, not even conscious. Your health and safety comes first,” Dr. Leslie told him gently. She knew Jason was firmly pro-choice.

“No, I know,” Danny said with a little smile and a nod, looking down at his stomach and gently caressing it. “I know I don’t Have to do this. But I do want them. I’m already attached to them, you know?” He said looking up at her, worried that she would judge him. He hoped he was making the right choice, that he wasn’t ruining his life at 16 or something. Fuck he could be on that trashy tv show! 

“I understand,” She assured, no hint of judgment on her face. Of course not, if she could treat rogues without judgment she sure as hell wasn’t going to judge a teen parent. She glanced up as the door opened again and Bruce and Jazz entered. “Right,” Leslie said, sitting down at her computer and starting to type. “You’re still a little malnourished so I’d like to get you taking prenatal vitamins immediately,” she said, glancing up to see Danny nod. “With your unique condition I’d like to see you more often than usual, weekly visits would be best for now. Once we’re sure you and the babies are okay we can go down to every other week.”

“I don’t think we need to do that,” Danny said, shifting nervously. “I mean you say the human side is looking good, and my ghost doctor says they’re developing well on that side, if slower than usual. I don’t need to come in every week,” He said looking hopeful. 

She hesitated for a moment, organizing her thoughts and considering his words. “Even so, there’s clearly some bleed over that makes it hard to tell how healthy you are. I would feel better if you came weekly, at least for the first month so we can establish a true baseline.” 

“Alright,” Danny said, drooping again, looking back at Bruce. “Can you make the appointment? I want to go home.”

“Sure Danny,” Bruce agreed, pulling out his planner to check their schedule. 

“I’ll take you back to the manor,” Jason assured, using his grip on Danny’s hand to help him up. 

“I’ll go back to the cafe with Dick, we were having a good conversation, I wouldn’t mind continuing it,” She said, giving Danny a smile. “Unless you want me to come?”

“No, that’s alright. Have fun Jazz,” Danny said, leaning against Jason and letting him usher Danny out of the clinic. Jazz waved as she crossed to the cafe where Dick was waiting, looking worried till he noticed them, then he smiled and waved. Jazz waved back and jogged across, about to tell Dick all about the twins no doubt. 

Jason led Danny to his bike, and got on first, pulling Danny onto the seat behind him. Danny wrapped his arms around Jason and pressed against his back, half hiding from the world. Jason didn’t try to talk to him, he needed time to process. He would talk when he was ready to.

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#dc x dp #danny phantom #jason todd #fanfiction #trans!danny #trans pregnancy #teen pregnancy #dead on main #bruce wayne #jazz fenton #dick grayson #eldest daughter syndrome #that's what Dick and Jazz are called as a ship right? #finally getting help AU #Danny is pregnant #tw dysphoria