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melmov · 1 month

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I cast: curse of the eldest (can’t ask for help)

#dick grayson #nightwing #jason todd #red hood #dc #art #my art #digital art #fanart #dick has eldest daughter syndrome #cant ask for help or burden anyone but will always be there for everyone else #Jason sees right through him but he doesn’t know how to make someone feel comfortable with being open #ugh I have so many feels #I’m about to make dick and Damian art because me and my youngest siblings are closest and idk how to even talk to the others

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imtiredthatsalligot · 6 months

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F Scott Fitzgerald, Tender is the Night/ New Titans #55/ I.B. Vyache Conversations over Sanguinacchio/ Tales of the Teen Titans #50/ Unknown/ Grayson #9/ Fleabag Episode 2.6/ Outsiders #8/ Hera Lindsay Bird, Mirror Traps/ Robin and Batman #3/The Amazing Devil, Farewell Wanderlust/ Batman Year 3/ Natalie Wee, Our Bodies and Other Fine Machines/ Preludes to the Wedding Nightwing vs Hush

#I'm having thoughts #this has been in my drafts forever #dick grayson #nightwing #bruce wayne #batman #bruce you gave the poor boy eldest daughter syndrome

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frogaroundandfindout · 18 days

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Ik people say there’s a lot of Parentification going on in dick and Bruce’s relationship because Dick took care of Damian while Bruce was gone, but I want to read a fic where the Parentification follows the textbook definition

“when a child is regularly expected to provide emotional or practical support for a parent, instead of receiving that support themselves”

AND I want the bat siblings to all fucking realize it and be like yo it’s actually weird that we all jokingly call our older brother mom because of how much he takes care of Bruce and us????? Like that’s weird right???

#dick grayson #richard grayson #nightwing #Batman #Bruce Wayne #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome

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tarucore · 5 months

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screenshotting this one bc I can acknowledge that I’ve got shipper goggles on and op isn’t about that life which is fair but

I feel like batfam fans misunderstand the term parentification a lot and conflate it with Dick filling a parental role for his siblings, which might be part of the “oldest daughter syndrome” that’s so often pinned on him but that isn’t what parentification actually means

If I say that Dick Grayson was parentified, then that isn’t referring to him taking care of his siblings, it refers to the way Bruce treated him. As someone capable of taking care of his emotional needs and not as the child in need of care in the relationship

Parentification is a term that’s been around for decades, and while having to care for younger siblings might be a part of the definition, it focuses mostly on the role reversal of the parent-child dynamic. I’m not going to get into the psychology of it but being parentified has very little to do with if he actually acted as a parent for his siblings and everything to do with if he acted as a parent for Bruce

This is honestly why I prefer the term spouseification, which is less ambiguous than the term parentification and I feel accurately describes their “equal” relationship and the type of emotional abuse that Dick went through

Also from what I’ve read, Dick doesn’t act as a parental figure for any of his siblings except for Damian. While he might have given extra emotional support to Tim due to Bruce being Bruce, Dick still fits solidly into an older brother role. I’m not even going to touch on Dick’s relationship with Jason which is too weak to even be considered fraternal never mind parental

#cw abuse #cw emotional abuse #dick grayson analysis #dickie bird #idk why I went off like this but parentification really has nothing to do with the siblings #like that’s not the psychological term #eldest daughter syndrome is mostly a pop psychology thing #it might be a real phenomenon that is heavily influenced by parentification but they aren’t synonyms #I’m hesitantly tagging this #brudick #just because I mentioned I ship them and want to do anyone that blocks that tag the courtesy of ignoring me #bruce wayne #and another thing!!!! i don’t consider dick’s relationship with damian negatively at all #it was extreme circumstances as comic books often are and they have a very healthy parent/child relationship from what i’ve seen #*

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shellem15 · 7 months

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Thinking about the Dawnfather. A god of light, a god of harvest, a god of the sun itself. Good but not nice, kind but not soft. Life-giving but also scorching. Protective, warm, and kind, but also stern, harsh, and abrasive. His light can foster growth, can protect and guide, but it can also scorch and burn. The sun is warm and nurturing but don’t stare at it too long, child, it’ll blind you.

Was he always so hard? Did he always hide his face with the harsh light of the sun? Or was there a time when he smiled and laughed, let others see him as he truly was?

Thinking about the Schism. Was the Dawnfather close to the Betrayer Gods before they turned? He must have been, Asmodeus wouldn’t be so hung up on him if he wasn’t. Speaking of Asmodeus, he was once a being of light, like the Dawnfather and the Everlight are now. Were they closer than the others? When the Gods came to Exandria, did they come from the same place or were they scattered, a ragtag group of survivors fleeing from predators seeking to devour them? And if the latter is true, did these three beings of light come from the same place? Siblings, born from the same stuff, forever tied to one another?

If this was the case, then, what was their relationship before the Schism? Did they call each other “Brother” and “Sister”? Did they hold each other when they were scared, dry each other’s tears, laugh and joke and tease and fight and make up because they were siblings and they’d always be together, and they loved each other with every fiber of their being and they only had each other. When Predathos came, when it devoured two of their newfound siblings, did the Dawnfather hold them both and promise them that everything was going to be okay because he was their brother and he was going to protect them, all of them. The gods, mortals, the world itself, they would not be devoured, they would not be destroyed, because he was there and would fight until his very last breath to keep them safe.

Wondering then, was that the moment when Asmodeus truly grew to hate their creations? Seeing his brother and sister and siblings risk their lives just to protect some mewling mortal wretches when they could just leave it all behind and start somewhere new. Was that the moment when he realized that mortals had done something to them, changed them when they were not supposed to change. Why else would they risk being devoured by Predathos, why else would they suffer through war with the Primordials? Why else would they choose them over him!? Was this the moment when he decided to conspire with the Primordials and the other Betrayer Gods? To destroy this world and the mortals on it so they could finally leave. And they would leave, of course, because the Dawnfather was his brother and the Everlight was his sister and the Gods were a family, and at the end of the day, they would always be together, and once the corrupting influence of those mortals was gone, they would surely all see reason.

And when the Dawnfather discovered this betrayal, when all the Prime Deities did, he must have been furious. How could they!? His kin, his brother, who had always been by his side through everything, how could they turn around and destroy their creations, their children. And so he and the other Primes took up arms and fought against their own family to protect this world they had created, and their children who inhabited it. Those battles must have been brutal, bonds of comradery broken, kin clashing against kin, screaming curses as they tore each other apart.

During those final battles of the Schism, when the Dawnfather clashed against Asmodeus, did they scream at each other in rage? A twisted reflection of previous squabbles, different because this time it was real, this time there is no forgiveness, no making up. When the Dawnfather knocked Asmodeus down, crushed his throat under his foot and banished him to the Hells, was he yelling when he disowned him? Or was he quiet when he did it, his voice going into a low growl, deadly calm as he told him that he was not his brother anymore. And moments previously, when the Dawnfather could have easily killed him, did he look into Asmodeus’s eyes and see his brother? Scared and hurt by his hands, hands that once held him and swore to protect him. In that moment, did the Dawnfather realize he couldn’t kill him? Because that was his brother and despite everything, he still loved him, and hurting him brought him more grief and pain than he could ever imagine. So instead, he banished him, locked him and all the other Betrayers away because he and the other Primes couldn’t bring themselves to kill their family, but they also couldn’t let them free.

Was this when the Dawnfather obscured his face? Hardened his heart because otherwise he would break, and he cannot break, because the other gods need him to be strong, because Exandria needs him to be strong. And so he stayed strong, despite the grief, despite the guilt, despite the pain of heartbreak, of hurting the ones he loved to protect the ones he loved. And this hardening must have continued, running himself ragged during Calamity, beating back Tharizdun, protecting Ioun after she almost died, sheltering the Everlight after Asmodeus once again betrayed her, stabbed her in the back and left her broken and weak when all she wanted was to do was get her brother back, to save him from his own wrath. Failure after failure after failure to protect those he cared about, to protect his siblings and mortals and Exandria itself. The guilt of his failures must be overwhelming, and these are his failures: Predathos devoured his siblings under his watch, his siblings betrayed them under his watch, Calamity ravaged Exandria under his watch, and even now, the threat of Predathos has once again returned under his watch.

No wonder he is so harsh now, so controlling now: because every time he has failed in his vigilance the world has suffered for it. He can’t fail again; he can’t lose any more siblings. And so, he continues hardening his heart, continues fighting, because the sun must always rise again in the morning, no matter what.

#did i make my first post a 1000+ word essay about the dawnfather? yes #did i write this instead of doing my work? also yes #would i do it again? absolutely #i have so many thoughts about the gods of exandria #i want to shake them in a jar and examine them under a microscope #it is my foremost belief that pelor has eldest daughter syndrome #like surface pressure from encanto is literally the perfect pelor song tell me im wrong #he is so stressed. all the time #like pelor IS a dick. absolutely #he has definitely done some fucked up shit #but he's not malicious or evil. hes doing what he thinks will protect everyone #he is in desperate need of a nap. a hug. and a therapist #this definitely delves into headcanon territory but i dont care #critical role #cr spoilers #cr meta #cr headcanons #dawnfather #everlight #cr asmodeus #pelor the dawnfather #cr sarenrae #cr gods #shelley's overdramatic character analysis

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undertheredhood · 6 months

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bruce after gotham war: why don't my children talk to me?

dick who is so done with him: it's the way you act! it's the way you act!

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punkeropercyjackson · 26 days

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I have the reverse of the Cain Instinct.My siblings can do no wrong in my eyes even when they're being huge dickbags and when people are mean to them my reaction is to yell at them to get off their asses or hit them.The Nightwing Instinct?Idk

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galaxymagitech · 1 month

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“You have to understand that I know. You’re right. You’re right to hit me. You’re right to say all of that…it was my burden to keep, my blame to take, my lie to tell. Not yours. I’m the oldest. I carried that. So you didn’t have to.”

Dick no—

#this run is so messed up #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #batman #dick grayson #tim drake #jason todd #dc comics #dcu #dc #batfamily #batfam

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wondertwinsenthusiast · 6 months

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When I said I want Dick to pick Damian up and run for the hills after Gotham war I did NOT think the other 666 batkids would be included in this. Oh well, fuck. How did he even tell Babs? "Congrats you're a mom"?

#gotham war #batfam #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrom #dick grayson #damian wayne #bruce wayne is a dumbass #batkids

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archeronlochan · 9 months

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you know what we don’t talk about enough?

dick grayson’s anger issues

#it’s just not mentioned very often in fanwork and it’s kinda key to his characterization imo #Jason is always the “angry one” but dick’s just better at controlling/hiding it #he has the calm scary anger and Jason is the loud one #fucking eldest daughter syndrome at its finest #dick grayson #batfam #dc comics #batkids #nightwing #dc robin #robin #angry!dick grayson #dick grayson characterization

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celestial-ringleader · 1 year

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“. . .I still feel like I’ve got a circus tent on my back. . .this is like a ballgown made of kevlar!”

I’ve been thinking way too much about Dick as Batman............ @ronnyraygun

#ive been forced into a role i didnt want bc i dont want to be like my adoptive dad but also #no one else is gonna do it so i guess i gotta #dick grayson #nightwing #richard grayson #dc fanart #listen ive been staring at all those batman variant covers that have religous symbolism #and the muse just possessed me #not rlly eldest daughter syndrome but more like #this was such a good era for him #i blame ron for kicking me in the ass to do it instead of sitting on it forever #dick has such an atlas complex bc of his survivor's guilt and i love him for it <3

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puddingcatbeans · 5 months

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dick grayson is the guy at the cafe ugly sobbing and then his phone alarm goes off and he stops crying and gets back to work. he schedules his crying sessions, is what i am saying

#dick grayson #dc comics #batfam #beanstalks #i don't think tim would do this because #the only time he would be seen crying in public would be when #he is weaponizing his tears. against other billionaire men mayhaps #he just disappears off the face of earth when he has a mental breakdown #like cool people do #meanwhile dick is constantly Going Through It but he has like #dependents. u know. eldest daughter syndrome #spare just enough time to smack the hormones into submission etc

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goodoldfashionedengineer · 13 days

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#batfam #batfamily #dc #dc polls #dc poll #poll #dick grayson #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #batkids #batsiblings #these are the two I have seen most often #yes there is an entire tag about dick having eldest daughter syndrome #but tim is also eldest child coded in my opinion #I know a lot of oldest children who played the therapist in the family and thus relate to tim a lot #polls #dc comics #batman

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melloollem · 14 days

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Richard Grayson was decoded by Nothing New-Taylor swift.

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I'm too lazy to work on it now.

#dc comics #batfamily #richard grayson #dick grayson headcanon #dick grayson #Richard Grayson headcanon #dick grayson robin #dc robin #taylor swift #taylor songs #decoden #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #dick Grayson though #the first child #nightwing #nightwing headcanon #batboys #nothing new #Spotify

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thecruellestmonth · 2 months

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This one fic author wrote a super sugary sweet little vignette about Dick and Jason being all huggy, and her author's note said she wanted to pour out her own warm and fuzzy feelings for her baby sister like Dick did for Jason in the fic...

And now a couple years later after the date she posted that, I see her Nightwing blog cross my path and she's just dripping venom with anti-Jason posts... I guess baby sister fucked up lol. 🫣

#My own baby sister is a casual Batman fan and she casts herself as Jason and I'm the goody two-shoes Dick.#I mean unlike Dick I actually do have eldest daughter syndrome.#But yeah I do not relate to Jason that much at all. He's gotta be the Batman character most different from myself in nature.#I feel like stanning him has helped me see things from my sister's perspective better.#I still thirst for vengeance against her but I'm actively suppressing it.#I should be the official writer for Nightwing.

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celaenaeiln · 1 year

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Damian accidentally lets his smuggled snake loose on the plane

Air hostess: *screaming because there’s a snake on her head*

Other hosts and hostesses: *screaming to calm each other down*

Damian: *Trying to coax his snake Claudius back to him*

Kate: *drunk out of her mind and flirting with a brunette*

Bruce: *screaming at his kids for letting this happen*

Stephanie and Jason: *the first who helped Damian smuggle it on in the first place and the second who accidentally unzipped the carry-on both screaming back at Bruce that they’re innocent and Bruce only likes to blame them for everything and-*

Tim: *abandoning stealthiness to overtly dump boxes of peanut packets into his duffel bag for Kon who doesn’t get to experience the joys of flying*

Cass: *power posing in the bathroom and snapping Lady Shiva*

Duke: *decides that this would be the optimal time to check the safety measures forcefully*

Passengers: *screaming their heads off because there’s a snake on the plane*

Dick: *completely passed out*

60 mins later the snake is confiscated and the plane is doing an emergency landing

Dick: *waking up* oh we’re here already? That was a nice flight

Bruce: ……

Damian: ……

Jason: ……

Cass: …..

Tim: …….

Duke: …….

Passengers: ……

Flight attendants: …….

Kate: *slurred* hmmm?? Oh niiiccee hot date time

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